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| 0:00 | My girlfriend 28 female delayed my offer 32 male of an exclusive relationship in order to have sex | 我女朋友28个女的为了做爱 耽误了我32个男的约会 |
| 0:09 | with her ex during our talking stage. | 和她的前夫 在我们的谈话舞台上。 |
| 0:12 | And I assume you broke up, right? | 我猜你分手了 对吧? |
| 0:14 | I don't know. | 师曰. |
| 0:14 | I don't | 我没有 |
| 0:15 | really like the sound of that title and I feel like I know what I would do in this situation, | 我真的很喜欢那个标题的声音 我觉得我知道在这种情况下我会怎么做 |
| 0:19 | but let's read it because maybe we don't have all the context. | 但让我们读读它,因为也许我们没有所有的背景。 |
| 0:22 | Here's my story. | 这是我的故事。 |
| 0:23 | I hope I can get | 我希望我可以得到 |
| 0:24 | some advice from experienced people here. | 一些来自经验丰富的人的建议 |
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| 1 | My girlfriend 28 female delayed my offer 32 male of an exclusive relationship in order to have sex | 我女朋友28个女的为了做爱 耽误了我32个男的约会 |
| 2 | with her ex during our talking stage. | 和她的前夫 在我们的谈话舞台上。 |
| 3 | And I assume you broke up, right? | 我猜你分手了 对吧? |
| 4 | I don't know. | 师曰. |
| 5 | I don't | 我没有 |
| 6 | really like the sound of that title and I feel like I know what I would do in this situation, | 我真的很喜欢那个标题的声音 我觉得我知道在这种情况下我会怎么做 |
| 7 | but let's read it because maybe we don't have all the context. | 但让我们读读它,因为也许我们没有所有的背景。 |
| 8 | Here's my story. | 这是我的故事。 |
| 9 | I hope I can get | 我希望我可以得到 |
| 10 | some advice from experienced people here. | 一些来自经验丰富的人的建议 |
| 11 | Thanks. | 谢谢 |
| 12 | Experienced. | 经验丰富. |
| 13 | Get to the right place, low key. | 去对的地方,低键。 |
| 14 | Anyway, I have been talking for a while with a girl 28 female since July 15th, 2025. | 总之,我从2025年7月15日起就和一个女的28人谈了一段时间. |
| 15 | We had hung | 我们挂了 |
| 16 | out for four to five dates before I made relationship offer August 7th, 2025. | 2025年8月7日 我交了四到五个约会 |
| 17 | We also | 我们也 |
| 18 | did a- holy stutter. | 做了一个... 神圣的结巴。 |
| 19 | We also decided to go for a day trip on August 9th, 2025. | 我们还决定在2025年8月9日进行一天的旅行. |
| 20 | On August 7th, 2025, | 2025年8月7日 (中文(简体) ). |
| 21 | I had offered her an official relationship, but she has delayed an answer for the reason of | 我给了她一个正式关系 但她推迟了答案 |
| 22 | mentality preparation. | 心理准备。 |
| 23 | What is that exactly? | 这到底是什么? |
| 24 | Mentality preparation. | 心理准备。 |
| 25 | Sounds like a made up thing. | 听起来像是编造出来的 |
| 26 | She had accepted my offer and became my girlfriend a week later. | 她接受了我的提议 一周后成为我女朋友 |
| 27 | Oh, okay. | 哦,还好。 |
| 28 | I thought it was like a | 我以为这就像一个 |
| 29 | whole month or she made him wait like months and months, but a week. | 要不然她让他等好几个月,但一个星期 |
| 30 | I don't know. | 师曰. |
| 31 | I guess, yeah, | 我想,是的,因为... |
| 32 | some people need to become like mentally in the right head space to get into a relationship, | 有些人需要像精神上一样 在正确的头部空间 进入一个关系, |
| 33 | but I feel like if you're already going on dates and you've been on four to five dates, | 但我觉得如果你已经去约会 而且你已经四到五个约会, |
| 34 | like, aren't you already in like the head space and ready to be in a relationship? | 喜欢,你是不是已经 像头部空间 并准备好在关系? |
| 35 | I don't know. | 师曰. |
| 36 | I think it's a little bit odd. | 我觉得有点奇怪 |
| 37 | Like people that go on dates without the intention of making a | 喜欢的人去约会 无意制造 |
| 38 | relationship official, especially that many dates. | 关系官方,尤其是很多日期。 |
| 39 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 40 | One or two dates. | 枣一两. |
| 41 | Yeah. | 对 |
| 42 | Maybe you just want | 也许你只是想 |
| 43 | to like hook up or something, but this is like multiple dates. | 喜欢勾搭什么的, 但这是像多个日期。 |
| 44 | So you clearly like the person, | 所以,你显然喜欢的人, |
| 45 | right? | 对吧? |
| 46 | But four months later, I found out that she had run to her ex on the night of August 8th, | 但四个月后 我发现她在8月8日晚上 和前女友跑了 |
| 47 | for final sex. | 最后的性爱。 |
| 48 | I knew this because I ran through her phone text. | 我知道是因为我翻了她的手机短信 |
| 49 | Yeah, I know showing that. | 是的,我知道显示这一点。 |
| 50 | So yeah. | 对啊 |
| 51 | Yeah. | 对 |
| 52 | Don't do that. | 别这样 |
| 53 | Don't go through people's phones. | 不要通过人们的电话。 |
| 54 | If they don't want to share | 如果他们不想分享 |
| 55 | something with you, I really understand the urge to like find out and know, but I think eventually | 我非常理解你 想知道真相的冲动 但我想最终 |
| 56 | you will find out what kind of person they are and find out like, yeah, maybe they do keep a | 你会发现他们是什么样的人 并发现喜欢,是的,也许他们确实保持 |
| 57 | lot of stuff from you and then you can decide to be with them or not be with them. | 有很多你的东西 然后你可以决定和他们在一起 或不与他们在一起。 |
| 58 | I think going | 我觉得去 |
| 59 | through someone's like private messages and private stuff is never really the right thing to do, | 通过某人的像私人信息 和私人的东西 从来没有真正正确的事情做, |
| 60 | but I do understand the urge. | 但我明白你的冲动 |
| 61 | I do understand it and I don't necessarily blame you. | 我理解,我不一定怪你 |
| 62 | Showing | 显示 |
| 63 | that she was worried about getting pregnant on that day after sex with her ex and she did call | 她担心她和前妻做爱后 有一天怀孕 她确实打电话 |
| 64 | me to pick her up that night, but I cannot get there since I was too far. | 我那晚去接她,但因为我走得太远,我到不了那里 |
| 65 | The call was made to | 电话是打给 |
| 66 | me half an hour before she had sex with her ex. | 在她和她前男友做爱前半个小时 |
| 67 | The following day, August 8th, 2025, I asked her | 次日,2025年8月8日,我问她 |
| 68 | what happened yesterday, but she told me nothing as it was business stuff only. | 昨天发生的事 但她什么都没告诉我 因为那只是生意 |
| 69 | She still joins me | 她还和我在一起 |
| 70 | on a day trip, has fun and hug each other like nothing happened before. | 在一天的旅行, 玩得开心和拥抱对方 就像以前什么也没有发生过。 |
| 71 | When I confronted her | 当我面对她时 |
| 72 | about that, she said she was forced to have sex. | 关于这一点,她说她被迫做爱。 |
| 73 | She said she did not know how to react, but was | 她说她不知道该怎么反应,但是... |
| 74 | unable to resist and that her ex did not ejaculate in her. | 无法抗拒,而且她的前妻没有射中她。 |
| 75 | She admits that she has had sex and lied | 她承认自己有性爱和谎言 |
| 76 | to me about what happened on that day, August 8th. | 关于那天8月8日的事 |
| 77 | Update, she has also lied to her parents that she | 最新消息,她还对父母撒谎说 |
| 78 | is going out to see her friend getting in an accident in the middle of the night. | 去看她朋友半夜出车祸 |
| 79 | She apologized | 她已经道歉了 |
| 80 | to me for the bad feeling, but she said she did nothing wrong and we were only in the talking | 但她说她没做错事 我们只是在聊天 |
| 81 | stage and had no official relationship just yet and that made her no fault. | 并且还没有正式的关系 这使得她没有错。 |
| 82 | Yeah, I don't like this. | 是啊,我不喜欢这样。 |
| 83 | I really don't like this. | 我真的不喜欢这样 |
| 84 | Yeah, I understand officially you weren't together and officially | 是啊,我正式理解 你们不在一起和正式 |
| 85 | shouldn't do anything wrong, but like morally, you're interested in someone and you're talking | 不应该做错什么, 但像道德上,你感兴趣 某人,你在说话 |
| 86 | with them and you're in the talking stage because you want to date them and then doing something | 和他们在一起,你进入谈话阶段 因为你想和他们约会 然后做点什么 |
| 87 | like this right before you do date them. | 在你约会之前就像这样 |
| 88 | It just feels like really disingenuous and like fake, | 它只是感觉像 真的不诚实, 像假, |
| 89 | like it's just kind of gross. | 就像只是有点恶心 |
| 90 | I don't like this type of behavior. | 我不喜欢这样的行为 |
| 91 | However, I still feel hurt and | 不过,我还是觉得很伤心 |
| 92 | cannot forget about it since we have been in love for about six months. | 我们不能忘记这一点,因为我们相爱了大约六个月。 |
| 93 | Love. | 爱 |
| 94 | The pain of such a story | 这种故事的痛苦 |
| 95 | really eats me from the inside. | 真的从里面吃了我。 |
| 96 | I really don't know what to do since I still had so much feeling | 我真的不知道该怎么办 因为我仍然有这么多的感觉 |
| 97 | for her at the time. | 为她当时。 |
| 98 | More details. | 更多细节。 |
| 99 | During our dating time, she did post some pictures of us | 在我们约会期间 她确实贴了一些我们的照片 |
| 100 | on social media as I required, but later I found out that the pictures were not public to her ex. | 但后来我发现这些照片对她的前任并不公开。 |
| 101 | Her ex was restricted from viewing our pictures together as she's still in love with her ex. | 她前夫在看我们的照片时被限制 因为她还爱着前夫 |
| 102 | She's still in love with her ex and she was kind of leading you on, lying to you, | 她仍然爱着她的前妻 她有点引导你 骗你 |
| 103 | maybe keeping you as a second option, maybe in hopes to getting back with her ex or doing | 也许让你成为第二个选择 也许是为了找回她的前男友 或者做 |
| 104 | something with her ex, whether it was just sex or something more emotional or deeper, but she was | 和她前男友在一起的 不管是性还是情感更深的 |
| 105 | leading you along and you were the second choice. | 带领你前进,你是第二个选择。 |
| 106 | This is what it's starting to sound like. | 这就是它开始 听起来像。 |
| 107 | I asked | 我问 |
| 108 | her about this too, but she said it was because she did not want her ex to interrupt our relationship. | 她也说了这个 但她说是因为 她不想让前男友打断我们的关系 |
| 109 | I could see that if he's like crazy or psycho, but if it's like that, why don't you just block him? | 我可以看出来,如果他像疯子或精神病, 但如果是这样,你为什么不阻止他? |
| 110 | If he's like someone that would interrupt a relationship, interrupting your life, | 如果他是那种会打断关系 打断你生活的人 |
| 111 | then why not just block this person and cut them out of your life? | 那为什么不阻止这个人 把他们从你的生活里砍下来? |
| 112 | Every time I confronted her | 每次我和她对质 |
| 113 | about this, she said it just happened at the time we were not in an official relationship. | 关于这一点,她说它刚刚发生的时候 我们没有正式的关系。 |
| 114 | Yeah, can't really argue with that, but morally it's wrong. | 是啊,不能真的争论 这一点,但道德上是错误的。 |
| 115 | Update one. | 更新一个。 |
| 116 | Everything about her is | 关于她的一切 |
| 117 | now discovered by the time we have moved in together by two months. | 两个月前我们一起搬进来的时候发现的 |
| 118 | Besides the story of | 除了这个故事 |
| 119 | her ex, there was a time she had feelings for a married man who had a pregnant wife. | 她的前夫,她曾经对一个已婚男人有感情 她有一个怀孕的妻子。 |
| 120 | She also confessed this on chatchipity chatbot. | 她还在聊天室聊天机器人上承认了这一点. |
| 121 | Yeah, I know I violated her privacy. | 是的,我知道我侵犯了她的隐私。 |
| 122 | Yeah, | 对 |
| 123 | reading the chatchipity's freaking talks, bro, that is crazy violation. | 读闲聊的废话,兄弟, 这是疯狂的违反。 |
| 124 | People be saying everything | 大家都在说一切 |
| 125 | to chat. | 来聊天 |
| 126 | I don't know, maybe someday that stuff will get out. | 我不知道,也许有一天 东西会出来。 |
| 127 | Just be careful what you say. | 说话小心点 |
| 128 | She did get drunk once at the company farewell party and she was 50% unconsciously taken by him | 她的确在公司告别派对上喝醉过一次 她被他半无意识地带走了 |
| 129 | at the hotel for a night. | 在酒店过一晚 |
| 130 | She was also being R-worded by this married man. | 她也是被这个已婚男人用R字写的 |
| 131 | It was luckily | 幸运的是 |
| 132 | that when he tried to put it in her, she woke up to stop him after the foreplay, but she admitted | 当他试图把它放在她, 她醒来阻止他 在前戏之后, 但她承认 |
| 133 | on GBT that she felt it was that man doing sexual things to her. | 在GBT上,她觉得那是 男人做性的事情给她。 |
| 134 | When I confronted her about this, | 当我面对她的时候, |
| 135 | she said that she was drunk and she could not get out of the situation. | 她说她喝醉了,无法摆脱困境。 |
| 136 | No one picked her home | 没人选她回家 |
| 137 | that night. | 当晚 |
| 138 | I do feel bad for her and I feel like no one should ever be put in that situation where | 我确实为她感到难过,我觉得任何人都不应该被置于这样的境地 |
| 139 | they're being taken advantage of just because they are intoxicated. | 他们被利用 只是因为他们醉了。 |
| 140 | I guess in situations like | 我想在这样的情况下 |
| 141 | this, it's like people should know how to act and not take advantage of people that are drunk, but | 这就像人们应该知道如何行动 而不是利用那些喝醉了的人 |
| 142 | unfortunately in the world, a lot of people do. | 不幸的是,在世界上,很多人这样做。 |
| 143 | So I guess it's just best to be safe. | 所以我想最好还是安全一点 |
| 144 | Maybe if you | 也许如果你 |
| 145 | know no one's going to be able to pick you up, don't drink so you can drive yourself home. | 没人会来接你 别喝酒 这样你就能开车回家 |
| 146 | If | 若为 |
| 147 | you know you don't have anywhere to stay, maybe try to arrange something before, especially if | 你知道你无处可去 可能尝试安排一些事情之前,特别是如果 |
| 148 | you want to drink. | 你想喝酒吗? |
| 149 | I'm not saying this is anyone's fault. | 我不是说这是任何人的错 |
| 150 | I'm just saying like for next time to avoid | 我只是说下次要避免 |
| 151 | like situations like this and it would really suck. | 像这样的情况 会很糟的 |
| 152 | We don't really have the context if she | 我们没有真正的背景 如果她 |
| 153 | did have a ride, but they just didn't end up showing up. | 但他们最终没有出现 |
| 154 | In that case, you need to cut that | 那样的话,你就得剪了 |
| 155 | friend or that person out for, you know, leaving you pretty much high and dry. | 朋友或那个人,你知道, 让你相当高和干燥。 |
| 156 | I understand that | 我理解你的话 |
| 157 | she gaslighted me a lot concerning her behavior before. | 她给我吹了很多关于她以前的行为。 |
| 158 | She promised me she will change for good | 她答应我要永远改变 |
| 159 | and for our future. | 为了我们的未来 |
| 160 | Since we are living together now, I am planning to leave her soon. | 既然我们现在住在一起 我打算马上离开她 |
| 161 | I cannot | 我不会 |
| 162 | live with trauma and insomnia as I have true feelings for her. | 因为我对她有真实的感情 |
| 163 | Yeah, this is a heavy story | 是啊,这是一个沉重的故事 |
| 164 | and you guys are like older too. | 你们也老了 |
| 165 | You're in your late 20s and early 30s. | 尔时世尊于后二十早三十. |
| 166 | Let's read some of the | 让我们读一些 |
| 167 | comments. | 评论。 |
| 168 | First comment. | 初评. |
| 169 | Run, run, run. | 运行,运行,运行。 |
| 170 | Someone commented below that. | 有人在下面评论。 |
| 171 | I wish we could post | 我希望我们能张贴 |
| 172 | gifts in this sub. | 礼物在这个潜水艇。 |
| 173 | I would post a gif of a pilot ejecting from a crashing plane. | 我会贴一个飞行员从坠机中弹出 |
| 174 | Let me count the | 我数数 |
| 175 | days of fuckedness. | 日子他妈的。 |
| 176 | I don't think I've seen that word before. | 我想我以前没见过这个词 |
| 177 | Someone used a word like that. | 有人用这样的词。 |
| 178 | Interesting. | 有意思,这很有趣 |
| 179 | Maybe I'll start using that. | 也许我会开始使用它。 |
| 180 | Maybe I will. | 也许我会。 |
| 181 | You offered an exclusive relationship and | 你提供了独家关系 |
| 182 | she said he has delayed an answer for the reason of mental preparation. | 她说他因为心理准备而推迟回答 |
| 183 | WTF does that mean other | WTF意味着其他 |
| 184 | than the now obvious fact that it means she wants to fuck her ex one more time? | 比现在的明显事实 意味着她想再干一次她的前男友? |
| 185 | Yeah, in hindsight, | 是啊,在事后看来, |
| 186 | that's what it was. | 就是这样 |
| 187 | But if it was really mental preparation, I guess I don't really see anything | 但是如果真的是心理准备, 我想我没有看到什么 |
| 188 | wrong with that. | 错了 |
| 189 | If you mentally needed just a week or more to prepare yourself so you can be | 如果你精神上需要一个星期或更长时间来准备 |
| 190 | fully committed and fully like ready to be in a relationship, nothing wrong with that. | 完全承诺和完全 准备在一个关系, 没有错。 |
| 191 | But if | 不过如果 |
| 192 | you're doing that just so you can go hook up with someone, get out of here, bro. | 你这样做只是为了 你可以去勾搭某人, 离开这里,兄弟。 |
| 193 | She said she was | 她说她是 |
| 194 | forced to have sex. | 被迫做爱。 |
| 195 | She said she did not know how to react but was unable to resist. | 她说,她不知道如何作出反应,但无法抵抗。 |
| 196 | WTF这样做 | |
| 197 | mean? | 怎么说? |
| 198 | Was she forced? | 她是被迫的吗? |
| 199 | Couldn't she resist? | 她不能抗拒吗? |
| 200 | Or does she mean she was swept off her feet in a moment of | 或者她的意思是 她被扫走她的脚 在一瞬间 |
| 201 | passion? | 热情? |
| 202 | Or is she claiming she was sexually assaulted? | 还是说她被性侵犯了? |
| 203 | It sounds like she's blaming her | 听起来像是在责怪她 |
| 204 | for having sex with her ex otherwise she would have claimed she did nothing wrong because you | 因为和她做爱 否则她会声称自己没有做错什么 因为你 |
| 205 | were still in the talking stage. | 还在聊天 |
| 206 | Her ex did not ejaculate into her but she was worried about | 她的前夫没有射中她 但她很担心 |
| 207 | pregnancy. | 怀孕。 怀孕吗? |
| 208 | Yeah, I was also confused about that. | 是啊,我也对此感到困惑。 |
| 209 | I was like, hold on. | 我当时想,坚持住。 |
| 210 | She lied about her big night | 她谎称她大晚上的事 |
| 211 | with her ex but doesn't think she did anything wrong. | 和她前夫在一起 但并不认为她做错了什么 |
| 212 | Yeah, that is like that is actually one | 是啊,这就像实际上是一个 |
| 213 | thing. | 东西。 |
| 214 | Like people that lie and then don't see what they did wrong in the liar, why them lying | 像说谎的人一样,他们不知道自己在说谎者身上做了些什么,他们为什么说谎? |
| 215 | keeping the truth was wrong. | 保持真相是错误的。 |
| 216 | It's like, like are we listening to the same thing? | 就像我们在听一样吗? |
| 217 | Like what do you | 喜欢什么你 |
| 218 | mean? | 怎么说? |
| 219 | Yeah, big, big, big red flag. | 是啊,大,大,大红旗。 |
| 220 | If someone lies and they don't see that that is wrong, bro, | 如果有人撒谎 他们不认为那是错误的,兄弟, |
| 221 | just run. | 刚刚运行。 |
| 222 | Just run. | 刚运行。 |
| 223 | You can't really reason or talk or like ever feel safe and like comfortable | 你无法真正理性,说话或喜欢 永远感到安全,喜欢舒适 |
| 224 | in a relationship like that where you're not sure if they're lying to you because they just have | 在这样的关系中,你不确定 他们是不是在骗你,因为他们只是有 |
| 225 | no guilt and they have no consciousness about it. | 没有罪恶感,他们对此毫无意识。 |
| 226 | She did post some pictures of us on social media | 她确实在社交媒体上贴了一些我们的照片 |
| 227 | as I required but later I found out that pictures were not public to her ex. | 照我的要求 但后来我发现 照片不公开给她的前妻 |
| 228 | In my mind, requiring | 在我的脑海里,要求 |
| 229 | someone to post pictures is effed up but her not making them public to her ex was diabolical. | 她不向前妻公开是邪恶的 |
| 230 | Yeah, I agree with that. | 是的,我同意这一点。 |
| 231 | I don't think you should make someone post like ever like me specifically. | 我认为你不应该让一个像像我这样的人出面 |
| 232 | I never post any of my relationships. | 我从来没有张贴 我的任何关系。 |
| 233 | Never do, never have because I just feel like it's unnecessary | 从来没有,从来没有 因为我觉得这是不必要的 |
| 234 | and also people see you have like something good going on in your life. | 人们也看到你有 喜欢的东西在你的生活。 |
| 235 | I feel like they'll like | 我觉得他们会喜欢 |
| 236 | stones at you and stuff or like do something. | 石头砸你的东西 或喜欢做一些事情。 |
| 237 | So it's like best to just keep private and stuff | 所以最好还是保密 |
| 238 | in my opinion. | 在我看来 |
| 239 | So I think requiring someone to post is like you should just let them decide. | 所以,我认为要求某人张贴 就像你应该让他们决定。 |
| 240 | You | 你们 |
| 241 | can ask, oh, would you mind posting me? | 可以问,哦,你介意张贴我吗? |
| 242 | And if they say no, just respect that. | 如果他们拒绝,就尊重这一点。 |
| 243 | Nothing wrong. | 没什么 |
| 244 | But if you want to post them, maybe ask if they're comfortable being posted and if they are, | 但如果你想张贴他们, 也许问他们是否愿意被张贴,如果他们是, |
| 245 | go ahead. | 说吧 |
| 246 | And if you both are comfortable posting, even better. | 如果你们都愿意上岗的话 更好 |
| 247 | But yeah, definitely not making that | 但是,是的,绝对不做 |
| 248 | public to her ex, bro. | 公开给她的前妻,兄弟。 |
| 249 | She knew exactly what she was doing. | 她知道自己在做什么 她知道自己在做什么 她知道自己在做什么 |
| 250 | I bet you this probably wasn't the first | 我打赌这可能不是第一次 |
| 251 | time either. | 时间要么。 |
| 252 | That's like some calculated like manipulation right there. | 这就像一些计算 像操纵就在那里。 |
| 253 | As an outsider to | 作为局外人 |
| 254 | this situation, it seems obvious that this relationship is poisoned from the start with | 很明显 这种关系从一开始就是被毒害的 |
| 255 | her indecision. | 她没有决心 |
| 256 | She lied and manipulated you and she's good at it except for covering her tracks. | 她骗你 操纵你 她除了掩盖她的行踪以外都很擅长 |
| 257 | Water break. | 断水. |
| 258 | Yeah, I agree with most of that. | 是的,我同意大多数。 |
| 259 | So someone else commented mental preparation | 所以别人评论了心理准备 |
| 260 | equals sex with ex. | 和前男友一样 |
| 261 | Yeah, in hindsight, yeah. | 是啊,在事后看来,是的。 |
| 262 | Yeah, no, I get the two of you technically weren't | 是啊,不,我知道你们两个 技术上不是 |
| 263 | in a relationship, but you did ask the day before she had sex. | 在交往中,但你确实问 她发生性关系的前一天。 |
| 264 | Yep. | 对 |
| 265 | And she turned him down for | 她拒绝了他 |
| 266 | mental preparation. | 心理准备。 |
| 267 | Not only that, but if she did nothing wrong, why hide it from you? | 不仅如此 如果她没做错事 为什么要瞒着你? |
| 268 | Why did she | 为什么她 |
| 269 | not tell you? | 没告诉你? |
| 270 | I will never understand why people do this. | 我永远无法理解为什么人们这样做。 |
| 271 | And most of them, when caught, give the | 当他们被抓住时 多数人会说 |
| 272 | same excuse your girl gave. | 和你女儿的借口一样 |
| 273 | My question to you, OP, did you go through her texts because you had a | 我问你,OP,你有没有读过她的短信 因为你有一个 |
| 274 | hunch that something wasn't right? | 预感有些不对劲? |
| 275 | OP responded, yes. | 业务方案答复,是的。 |
| 276 | The point is whenever I ask her what happened | 重点是每当我问她发生了什么事 |
| 277 | that night since I am so worried for her safety, she always tells me things so vague, illogical, | 那晚我担心她的安全 她总是对我说些模糊,不合逻辑的事 |
| 278 | and mysterious. | 和神秘的。 |
| 279 | Likely she did business stuff with her ex. | 可能她和她前夫做过生意 |
| 280 | She returned him something. | 她还给他一些东西 |
| 281 | She also has | 她也有过 |
| 282 | lied to her parents that night for going out to visit her friend getting accident OMG. | 那晚骗了她的父母 说要去看她的朋友 出事了 OMG |
| 283 | That's why | 这就是为什么 |
| 284 | I asked if she honestly felt she did nothing wrong, she wouldn't have lied to just about everyone. | 我问她是否真的觉得她没有做错什么 她不会对每个人撒谎 |
| 285 | I don't know why she felt the need for closure with her ex, but it's not cool in my opinion. | 我不知道她为什么觉得需要和她的前妻分手 但我觉得这不酷 |
| 286 | And as I said before, you two technically weren't together, but it's almost as if she freaked out | 正如我之前说过的 你们俩在技术上并没在一起 但几乎就像她吓坏了一样 |
| 287 | when you asked her to be exclusively your girlfriend, then ran to him to get it one last time. | 当你要求她完全是你的女朋友, 然后跑到他那里得到它最后一次。 |
| 288 | Bro, why not just be with your ex at this point? | 哥,你现在为什么不跟你前妻在一起? |
| 289 | Like you guys clearly still have a relationship, | 就像你们显然还有一段感情 |
| 290 | why not just be with him? | 为什么不和他在一起? |
| 291 | Why string like bring someone else into this and like string them along | 为什么弦像带别人进来 并喜欢串在一起 |
| 292 | for months and then lie to them and then all this stuff like, I never understand stuff like this. | 几个月后,然后骗他们, 然后所有这些东西像, 我从来没有理解这样的东西。 |
| 293 | Then she waited a few days to make it look like she had been giving it great though. | 然后她等了好几天 才让事情看起来很精彩 |
| 294 | I'm tripping, | 我在绊倒, |
| 295 | bro. | 哥们 |
| 296 | Giving a great thought. | 给一个伟大的想法。 |
| 297 | It's completely up to you whether to forgive and forget, but this to | 这完全取决于你是否 原谅和忘记,但这个 |
| 298 | me would be cheating and with the lies on top of all of it, I'd be questioning everything. | 我将作弊, 和谎言 在所有这一切之上, 我会质疑一切。 |
| 299 | I feel | 我感觉 |
| 300 | like after your trust is broken like this and you pretty much started the relationship off with a | 就像你的信任被打破了一样 你几乎开始的关系 |
| 301 | lie, even before the relationship started, there was just lies, lies, lies, lies, lies. | 谎言,甚至在关系开始之前,就只有谎言,谎言,谎言,谎言. |
| 302 | So yeah. | 对啊 |
| 303 | Yeah, I don't think I would be able to get over something like this, especially when | 是啊,我不认为我会 能够克服这样的事情,特别是当 |
| 304 | I feel like I can never trust them again because they lied about essentially cheating. | 我觉得我再也不能相信他们了 因为他们骗了我 |
| 305 | Like honestly, | 说实话 |
| 306 | like, yeah, I know it's kind of like a stretch, but like someone asked you to be exclusive. | 喜欢,是的,我知道这有点像一个伸展, 但就像有人让你独占。 |
| 307 | You | 你们 |
| 308 | said, no, just you go fuck your ex. | 说,不,只是你去他妈的你的前男友。 |
| 309 | Like, like, this is just so like so bad. | 喜欢,喜欢,这是 只是这样糟糕。 |
| 310 | Like it's because | 就像因为 |
| 311 | she's lying to you. | 她在骗你 |
| 312 | Get away from this 403. | 离这403远一点 |
| 313 | I believe it is 304. | 我想是304号 |
| 314 | Good sir. | 师曰. |
| 315 | Severe tradition. | 严重的传统。 |
| 316 | But yeah, I understand. | 但是,是的,我明白了。 |
| 317 | I believe you mean 304. | 我相信你是说304 |
| 318 | Yeah. | 对 |
| 319 | Someone else commented that already. | 别人已经这么说了。 |
| 320 | That's funny. | 这很有趣。 |
| 321 | Someone else commented, brother, you know what happened. | 别人说,兄弟,你知道发生了什么。 |
| 322 | You know, | 你知道吗, |
| 323 | it's all technicalities. | 这是所有技术。 |
| 324 | You know, she was seeing if the ex wanted her back. | 你知道,她正在看 是否前任想要她回来。 |
| 325 | I didn't think like | 我没想到 |
| 326 | that, that, that far, but I thought she just went back to him just to get like one more, | 那,那,那么远, 但我想她只是去 他只是得到像一个, |
| 327 | one more hookup and like one more like night of pleasure, I guess you could say. | 再来一次 再来一次 像快乐之夜 |
| 328 | But maybe it was | 但也许 |
| 329 | like, maybe her ex broke up with her and her ex doesn't want to be with her, but he would still | 也许她前夫和她分手了 她前夫不想和她在一起 但他还是会 |
| 330 | F her. | 给她 |
| 331 | So she went, try to get him back, see if he would change his mind. | 所以她去,试着让他回来, 看看他会不会改变主意。 |
| 332 | And maybe she felt like | 也许她觉得 |
| 333 | sex would do that. | 性爱会做到这一点。 |
| 334 | And then it didn't. | 然则不然. |
| 335 | So then she was like, oh, maybe she gave it a couple days to | 然后她就想,哦, 也许她给了它几天 |
| 336 | see if he would change his mind and he didn't. | 看看他会不会改变主意 而他没有。 |
| 337 | So she's like, well, I guess I'll go with this guy. | 所以,她喜欢,嗯, 我想我会去这家伙。 |
| 338 | Yeah, I could, I could see that. | 是的,我可以,我可以看到这一点。 |
| 339 | He didn't mind sleeping with her, but didn't want that full time. | 他不介意跟她上床,但不希望有那么长时间 |
| 340 | OP, are you saying that this girl said that her ex partner essayed her as an excuse because you | OP,你是说,这个女孩说 她的前伴侣论文她作为一个借口 因为你 |
| 341 | caught her in a lie? | 骗了她? |
| 342 | If this is the case, run, do not look back and block her everywhere. | 如果是这样的话,快逃,不要回头看,把她堵在任何地方. |
| 343 | Yeah. | 对 |
| 344 | I didn't really think of this part either, but a lie about like essay and like stuff, like | 我也没有真正想到这个部分, 但谎言像散文之类的东西, |
| 345 | really serious stuff where I can have real victims and then they just like lie about it just to get | 非常严肃的事情,我可以有真正的受害者 然后他们只是喜欢谎言 它只是为了得到 |
| 346 | out of like trouble or guilt or lie. | 像是麻烦、内疚或谎言 |
| 347 | It's just run, run this person. | 它只是运行,运行这个人。 |
| 348 | People like this have like | 这样的人喜欢 |
| 349 | no morals. | 没有道德 |
| 350 | Yes. | 对 |
| 351 | She has disclosed everything that happened that day to chat GBT as she was | 她透露了那天发生的一切 和GBT聊天 |
| 352 | worried to get pregnant with her ex, but she had lied to me from the first place that she was not | 担心和她的前妻怀孕 但她从一开始就骗我说她不是 |
| 353 | in a relationship with anyone or such X for many years. | 与任何人或这样的X关系多年。 |
| 354 | The funny thing is she even said that she | 有趣的是,她甚至说她 |
| 355 | did not have sex for almost eight years. | 几乎有八年没做爱了 |
| 356 | Someone else commented. | 另有人评论. |
| 357 | This is the last comment I'll read. | 这是我最后要读的评论。 |
| 358 | This one was interesting though. | 不过这个很有趣 |
| 359 | I was in a similar spot. | 我当时在类似的地方 |
| 360 | She was seeing me. | 她看见我了。 |
| 361 | I offered to be | 我答应了 |
| 362 | in a relationship. | 在一个关系。 |
| 363 | She did give me some time. | 她确实给了我一些时间。 |
| 364 | I had some furniture her roommate wanted and the | 我有一些家具 她的室友想要和 |
| 365 | day I delivered it, caught her talking to her ex in the parking lot. | 就在我送来的那天 发现她在停车场和她前夫说话 |
| 366 | She looked like she just had | 她看起来像她刚刚 |
| 367 | sex. | 性爱。 |
| 368 | I didn't say anything, just delivered the furniture and did a stage left. | 我什么也没说,只是送家具 并做了一个舞台。 |
| 369 | Guess that means | 我猜那意味着 |
| 370 | he walked away. | 他离开了。 |
| 371 | Stupidly weeks later, my little head decided to ignore that and we ended up being | 几周后,我的小脑袋不理会了 我们最后成了 |
| 372 | in a relationship. | 在一个关系。 |
| 373 | A year later, she cheated on me. | 一年后,她欺骗了我。 |
| 374 | When someone shows you who they are, believe them. | 当有人告诉你 他们是谁,相信他们。 |
| 375 | Yeah, I feel like if you've known a person for a while and you've been going on dates and | 是的,我觉得如果你已经认识一个人 一段时间,你一直在约会和 |
| 376 | all this stuff, you both seem like, you know, you want to start dating and you kind of get that vibe | 所有这些东西,你们似乎, 你知道,你想开始约会, 你得到那种气氛 |
| 377 | and then you ask them and they say, give me some time. | 然后你问他们 他们说 给我点时间 |
| 378 | It could be they are genuine and they just | 也许他们是真的,他们只是 |
| 379 | need some time. | 需要一些时间。 |
| 380 | Maybe need some time to sort something out or something. | 也许需要一些时间 解决什么的。 |
| 381 | But if they do | 但是,如果他们这样做 |
| 382 | something like this and you clearly see it, I mean, you can't always see it all the time, right? | 像这样的东西,你清楚地看到它, 我的意思是,你不能总是看到它的所有的时间,对不对? |
| 383 | You're not always going to be in the right place at the right time to see her cheat or whatever, | 你不会总是在正确的地点 在正确的时间看到她的欺骗或什么的, |
| 384 | or not cheat, but have sex with her ex before getting into a relationship with you. | 或不是作弊,但在与你建立关系之前 和她前妻发生性关系。 |
| 385 | You can't | 你不能这样 |
| 386 | be there to see that, but if you do, then you should count yourself lucky and take that as a | 在那里看到,但如果你这样做, 那么你应该算自己幸运 并把它当作一个 |
| 387 | divine revelation, like some sort of hint that we're not going to date this person. | 神圣的启示, 像某种暗示 我们不会与这个人约会。 |
| 388 | That was a good story. | 这是一个很好的故事。 |
| 389 | Let me know what you guys liked about that story and your favorite part. | 告诉我你们喜欢什么 故事和你们最喜欢的部分。 |
| 390 | There's no update, unfortunately, but he did say he's going to end things with her, | 不幸的是,没有最新消息 但他确实说过要和她结束这一切 |
| 391 | so I think we could all assume what that means. | 所以,我想我们可以都 假设这意味着什么。 |
| 392 | It means he's going to end things with her. | 这意味着他会和她结束一切 |
| 393 | Second story. | 第二说法. |
| 394 | I was emotionally cheated on. | 我被感情欺骗了 |
| 395 | Okay, quick question. | 好吧,快速的问题。 |
| 396 | What do you think is worse? | 你觉得更糟糕的是什么呢? |
| 397 | Emotional cheating or physical cheating? | 情感欺骗还是身体欺骗? |
| 398 | What do you think is worse? | 你觉得更糟糕的是什么呢? |
| 399 | Do you think you could | 你觉得你可以 |
| 400 | get over like any of them? | 像他们一样过来吗? |
| 401 | Can you get over physical cheating or emotional cheating or | 你能克服身体上的欺骗或情感上的欺骗吗? |
| 402 | none? | 没有? |
| 403 | Both of them are complete deal breakers, zero, no chance. | 两人都是完全交易断路器,零,没有机会. |
| 404 | Or is one like not as important | 或者是没有那么重要 |
| 405 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}你在哪里能渡过难关? | |
| 406 | Let me know because I'm actually curious. | 让我知道 因为我其实好奇。 |
| 407 | I wish I could | 我希望我能这样 |
| 408 | put polls in the comments because I would put a poll. | 把民意调查放到评论中 因为我会把民意调查。 |
| 409 | I was emotionally cheated on. | 我被感情欺骗了 |
| 410 | My five-year relationship has been over for about six months now, | 我的五年关系已经过去了大约六个月了, |
| 411 | though we've broken up three times total. | 虽然我们已经分手三次了 |
| 412 | I've had a hard time processing it because of this | 因为这个,我很难处理 |
| 413 | complex situation with her ex I'm going to describe. | 她前女友的情况很复杂 我要描述一下 |
| 414 | After talking to a lot of my friends | 跟我很多朋友谈过之后 |
| 415 | and therapist, I've been told that I was emotionally cheated on. | 治疗师,我被告知我被感情欺骗了 |
| 416 | To start, my ex and I got together in | 首先,我和前妻一起来 |
| 417 | May 2020. | 2020年5月报. |
| 418 | Previously, she had dated someone who was going away for college and that's essentially | 之前,她约会过一个人 谁要去大学 基本上 |
| 419 | why they broke up. | 他们为什么分手? |
| 420 | Yeah, that's the thing about like life and dating is just genuinely so | 是啊,这就是什么 像生活和约会只是真正的所以 |
| 421 | complicated, dude, because breaking up with for things like this, like moving away and like there | 复杂,伙计,因为分手 事情像这样, 像搬走,像那里 |
| 422 | wasn't any problem. | 没有问题 |
| 423 | I could like understand how your partner could kind of feel uneasy because | 我能理解你的搭档 怎么会觉得不舒服 因为... |
| 424 | you didn't end things like necessarily like badly. | 你没有结束 事情必然像糟糕。 |
| 425 | It was just like some sort of external factor. | 这就像某种外部因素。 |
| 426 | So | 这么说 |
| 427 | I can understand how that can make your partner uneasy. | 我能理解这怎么能让你的搭档不安 |
| 428 | But I think in situations like this, | 但我想在这样的情况下 |
| 429 | it's really important to like reassure your partner and show them not just through words, | 让你的搭档安心 不只是通过言语来表现 |
| 430 | but also actions that this person is the past and you don't want them. | 还有这个人已经是过去了 你却不想要 |
| 431 | And although it didn't end | 虽然没有结束 |
| 432 | on bad terms, it still ended and you moved on from it. | 以恶劣的条件,它仍然结束, 你继续从它。 |
| 433 | And if you haven't, then you shouldn't be in | 如果你没有,那么你不应该加入 |
| 434 | a relationship and you should just try to maybe work it out with them and do long distance or | 你该试着和他们合作 长途跋涉 |
| 435 | something. | 东西。 |
| 436 | 然后COVID击中。 | |
| 437 | This person they were dating before suddenly crept back into their life | 这个人在他们约会之前 突然回到他们的生活 |
| 438 | and my partner, now ex, it's just hard to tell the story, calling them my ex, just kind of expected | 和我的搭档,现在的前, 它只是很难讲的故事, 把他们称为我的前, 只是那种期待 |
| 439 | me to accept it. | 我接受这一点。 |
| 440 | They quickly became best friends. | 他们很快成为了最好的朋友. |
| 441 | They started by hanging out with their mutual | 他们开始和彼此在一起 |
| 442 | friends and would have late nights, et cetera. | 朋友和会有 深夜,等等。 |
| 443 | I wasn't too worried about this as there were others | 我不太担心这个 因为还有其他人 |
| 444 | there. | 这里 |
| 445 | I was definitely expressing that I was uncomfortable though and would try to express that, | 我肯定地表示,我很不舒服 虽然,并且会试图表达, |
| 446 | but I would be shut down by my partner saying I'm jealous or something like that. | 但我会被我的搭档关闭 说我嫉妒什么的。 |
| 447 | I think a situation like this would make anyone uncomfortable, whether you're the girlfriend or | 我认为这样的情况会让任何人不舒服, 不管你是女朋友还是 |
| 448 | boyfriend, any situation like doesn't matter. | 男朋友,任何情况都无所谓 |
| 449 | Anyone would be uncomfortable with this. | 任何人都会不高兴的 |
| 450 | And if | 如果 |
| 451 | you're not, do you even like the person? | 你不喜欢他吗? |
| 452 | Come on, bro. | 来吧,兄弟。 |
| 453 | Anyways, anyone would be uncomfortable | 总之,任何人都会不舒服 |
| 454 | because someone from their past that they had a really strong, intimate, both physical and mental | 因为他们过去的某个人 他们有一个真正的强壮,亲密的, 身心 |
| 455 | and emotional connection with comes back into her life. | 和情感联系 回到她的生活。 |
| 456 | Instead of like saying, no, I have a partner. | 而不是说,不,我有搭档。 |
| 457 | I don't feel comfortable with this. | 我不觉得舒服。 |
| 458 | We had a connection. | 我们有一个联系。 |
| 459 | So I don't want to like make myself | 所以我不想让自己 |
| 460 | like available as friends to this person, but instead they welcome them back as like best friends. | 喜欢作为朋友 这个人,但他们欢迎 他们回来 像最好的朋友。 |
| 461 | I can understand how you can be uncomfortable. | 我能理解你怎么会不舒服 |
| 462 | If your partner is not able to like understand | 如果你的搭档不喜欢理解 |
| 463 | your discomfort and try to like work it with you, maybe find a compromise, understand how | 你心烦意乱 试着和你合作 也许能找到一个折衷方案 理解 |
| 464 | you're feeling and instead just cause you jealous and start saying stuff like, oh, you're jealous. | 你的感觉,而只是让你嫉妒 并开始说的东西,如,哦,你嫉妒。 |
| 465 | You're insecure that you're this, you're that. | 你是没有安全感的,你是这样的。 |
| 466 | I don't know. | 师曰. |
| 467 | I don't know, but I don't think | 我不知道,但我觉得 |
| 468 | that's a relationship worth being in, in my opinion. | 在我看来,这是一种值得存在的关系。 |
| 469 | If you say you're uncomfortable with | 如果你说你不舒服 |
| 470 | something, especially something like this, and then they just immediately start attacking you. | 诸如此类的东西 然后他们立刻开始攻击你 |
| 471 | I don't think it's worth it. | 不思议无量. |
| 472 | You're going to go through so much overthinking, so much pain, | 你会经历太多的思考 太多的痛苦 |
| 473 | so much like confusion and all this stuff that it's just going to wear you down so much to the | 就像是迷惑和这些东西 它会把你磨成这样 |
| 474 | point where you're going to be numb and then not even want to be with them. | 你会麻木,甚至不想跟他们在一起 |
| 475 | So yeah. | 对啊 |
| 476 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}闪电前进 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}这位好朋友有了新搭档 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}我认为他只是从 | |
| 477 | my girlfriend. | 我的女朋友,我爱她 |
| 478 | She would still make playlists about my girlfriend, make sad tweets, et cetera. | 她仍然会制作我女朋友的播放列表, 做悲伤的微博等等。 |
| 479 | She very clearly still liked my girlfriend. | 她显然还是喜欢我女朋友 |
| 480 | I even found one day in like 2023, a note from 2020 | 我甚至在2023年的一天里 找到一张2020年的纸条 |
| 481 | from her calling her her soulmate. | 从她叫她的灵魂伴侣。 |
| 482 | When I found this, I started crying and my girlfriend said it | 当我发现这个,我开始哭 我女朋友说 |
| 483 | was just in a friend way. | 只是一个朋友的方式。 |
| 484 | Oh. | 瓳 |
| 485 | So her ex called her her soulmate when they were friends and it was | 所以,她的前男友称她的灵魂伴侣 当他们的朋友,这是 |
| 486 | just in a friend way. | 在一个朋友的方式。 |
| 487 | I don't know. | 师曰. |
| 488 | Soulmate is kind of like used like in a romantic sense, | 灵魂就像在浪漫的意义上一样 |
| 489 | like your soulmate, the person you're meant to be with your whole life. | 就像你的灵魂伴侣, 你注定要与你的一生。 |
| 490 | Not really in a friend way, | 不太像朋友那样 |
| 491 | right? | 对吧? |
| 492 | COVID restrictions died down. | COVID的限制被取消。 |
| 493 | So she was back at college, but every winter and summer break, | 所以她回到了大学, 但每个冬天和暑假, |
| 494 | she would hang out excessively with my partner. | 她会和我的搭档过不去 |
| 495 | This is when I really started to get anxious | 这时候我开始很焦虑了 |
| 496 | about her because it would be full days and they would spend the night as well. | 关于她,因为这将是 一整天,他们也会过夜。 |
| 497 | My time with my girlfriend got cut significantly when the ex would come to town. | 我和女朋友在一起的时间被大大缩短了 当前女友来镇上的时候 |
| 498 | Flash forward to | 闪光到 |
| 499 | May 2023, the ex graduated from college and moved back home. | 2023年5月,前身大学毕业后搬回家乡. |
| 500 | This is when my relationship | 这时候我的关系 |
| 501 | went downhill fast. | 下坡很快, |
| 502 | My partner and then ex were constantly together and it became a problem quickly. | 我的搭档和前男友经常在一起 很快就成了问题 |
| 503 | Anytime me and my girlfriend would hang out, she would want to invite her ex as well. | 每当我和我女朋友出去时 她也想邀请她的前任 |
| 504 | Let's just keep reading. | 我们继续读吧 |
| 505 | There were very little boundaries. | 边界很小。 |
| 506 | She would spend the night multiple | 她会多过一夜 |
| 507 | times a week, et cetera. | 每周的乘数,等等。 |
| 508 | It's like she had a second girlfriend. | 她好像有了第二个女朋友 |
| 509 | This time, at least I was | 这一次,至少我是 |
| 510 | included and we would hang out as three, but it was really weird for me. | 包括了我们三个人一起玩 但对我来说很奇怪 |
| 511 | Then I started asking | 然后我开始问 |
| 512 | my partner to come over more and give me the effort she was giving her ex. | 我的搭档会多过来 给她前男友的努力 |
| 513 | My partner kept | 我的搭档留下了 |
| 514 | saying she couldn't drive to my house closer than her ex's, making excuses not to come, | 说她不能开车去我家 比她前妻更近 找借口不来 |
| 515 | but would put the effort in for someone else. | 却会为别人而努力 |
| 516 | Soon after this, I got broken up with the first | 不久后,我和第一个分手了 |
| 517 | time around. | 时间左右。 |
| 518 | Listen, bro, or girl, if someone is showing you that they don't value you and they | 听着,兄弟,或女孩, 如果有人告诉你 他们不重视你,他们 |
| 519 | don't prioritize you and your time, they don't even need to put you at the top of their list. | 不要把你和你的时间放在优先位置 他们甚至不需要把你放在他们名单的首位 |
| 520 | But if they're prioritizing a friend like this that has made you uncomfortable and that is their ex | 但是如果他们把这样的朋友放在优先位置 让你不舒服 那就是他们的前女友 |
| 521 | and they show that they care about them more than you, and even though they say with their words | 他们比你们更关心他们,即使他们用自己的语言说: |
| 522 | that, oh, they're not interested in them, they love you and all this, you should just look at | 他们对他们不感兴趣 他们爱你,你应该看看 |
| 523 | the actions too and then decide for yourself. | 然后自己决定 |
| 524 | Because this clearly looks like she's willing | 因为很明显她愿意 |
| 525 | to put the effort in for someone else, but not for you. | 为了别人而努力 但不是为了你 |
| 526 | And that someone else isn't just anyone. | 而别人不仅仅是任何人。 |
| 527 | It's not like it's her mom or dad or her brother or something. | 这不像是她妈妈或者爸爸或者她哥哥什么的 |
| 528 | It's her ex. | 这是她的前妻。 |
| 529 | May 2024. | 2024年5月 (中文(简体) ). |
| 530 | My girlfriend | 我女朋友,我爱人 |
| 531 | reached back out again and we got back together. | 我们又重新联系了起来 |
| 532 | I quickly noticed that while I was gone, her best | 我很快注意到我离开的时候 她是最好的 |
| 533 | friend moved into my spot quickly. | 朋友走进我的地方很快。 |
| 534 | She was her plus one everywhere, spent the night at her house | 到处都是她加的,晚上在她家过夜 |
| 535 | all the time. | 所有的时间。 |
| 536 | My partner even said they were together 24-7. | 我的搭档甚至说他们24 -7在一起 |
| 537 | I got broken up with because my | 我和他分手是因为... |
| 538 | girlfriend needed to be alone and they were together all the time. | 女朋友需要独自一人 他们一直在一起 |
| 539 | Spilled water on my face. | 泼水在我的脸上。 |
| 540 | Okay, get back into it. | 好吧,回到它来。 |
| 541 | This time was different though. | 这次不一样了 |
| 542 | The ex was always | 前任总是 |
| 543 | sad the few times I would be around after we got back together. | 伤心的几回,我会在身边 当我们重新在一起。 |
| 544 | I could tell she had hope of them | 我看得出来她有希望 |
| 545 | getting back together and it was very weird. | 重聚后感觉很怪异 |
| 546 | This time I wasn't really included. | 这次我并没有真正被包括在内。 |
| 547 | I had to beg my | 我不得不请求我 |
| 548 | partner to invite me somewhere because her default would be to bring her ex. | 搭档邀请我到别的地方 因为她的默认是把她的前夫带来 |
| 549 | I started having the | 我开始有 |
| 550 | same issues with her, always being with her ex and spending more time with her than with me. | 总是和她前女友在一起 花更多的时间陪她 而不是陪我 |
| 551 | I started asking for more, meaning at least being a priority over her ex. | 我开始要求更多的, 意味着至少是一个优先 比她的前任。 |
| 552 | I feel like that's pretty | 我觉得好漂亮 |
| 553 | fair thing to ask in this situation. | 在这样的情况下,应该问一个问题 |
| 554 | Given that you guys got back together, I feel like that should | 鉴于你们复合了 我觉得应该这样 |
| 555 | have been like a condition of you getting back together. | 就像你们重聚一样 |
| 556 | Like maybe prioritize me more because | 喜欢也许更优先我 因为 |
| 557 | last time you weren't and we broke up. | 上次你不是,我们分手了 |
| 558 | She quickly started saying that she's trying and she'll never | 她很快开始说,她正在尝试,她永远不会 |
| 559 | be enough for me. | 对我来说足够了 |
| 560 | She just needs to put the effort in that she's putting into ex into you, her current | 她只是需要把努力 投入到前,她现在 |
| 561 | partner. | 搭档 |
| 562 | That's really all you're asking. | 这就是你要求的 |
| 563 | A couple weeks before the actual breakup, I was at her | 在实际分手前的几个星期,我跟她在一起 |
| 564 | sister's grad party and had a full-blown panic attack when I left because I realized it would | 姐姐的毕业派对,我离开时 惊慌失措,因为我意识到 |
| 565 | forever be me, her, and the ex. | 永远是我,她,和前。 |
| 566 | If the ex liked her so bad, why didn't she fight to stay together | 如果前妻这么喜欢她 为什么她不争吵在一起 |
| 567 | when she went off to college? | 她上大学的时候? |
| 568 | If you want someone, you would do it. | 如果你想要一个人,你会做到这一点。 |
| 569 | It was like my girlfriend had | 就像我女朋友曾经有过 |
| 570 | another girlfriend as she came to absolutely everything. | 另一个女朋友,她来到了绝对的一切。 |
| 571 | I was sitting at the party seeing my | 我坐在派对上看到我的 |
| 572 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}女朋友的兄弟姐妹和他们的男朋友 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}想着 他们不用分享 | |
| 573 | girlfriends with someone else. | 女朋友与别人。 |
| 574 | You deserve better. | 你应该得到更好的。 |
| 575 | Anyway, when I said goodbye to everyone, | 总之,当我跟大家说再见时, |
| 576 | I hyperventilated in the car and cried for a good two hours. | 我在车里喘气 哭了两个小时 |
| 577 | The next day, my girlfriend texted me | 第二天,我女朋友发短信给我 |
| 578 | that she thinks we should break up because she doesn't know what to do. | 她认为我们应该分手 因为她不知道该怎么做 |
| 579 | This wasn't the final | 这不是最后决定 |
| 580 | reason why we broke up, but it just goes to show how unwilling she was to set boundaries and how | 我们分手的原因 只是为了说明她有多不愿意设定界限 |
| 581 | much less I meant than the ex ultimately. | 我比前夫更没有意思 |
| 582 | She reached out again this past summer and fully | 她今年夏天又联系了大家 |
| 583 | She was a new person who did a lot of work on herself. | 她是一个新人 她对自己做了很多工作 |
| 584 | I was very upfront that I couldn't do | 我非常前卫,我不能做 |
| 585 | the ex thing. | 刚才的事 |
| 586 | She said herself that she stopped talking to the ex when she reached out to me. | 她自言自语说她联系我时 不再和前男友说话了 |
| 587 | This only lasted a few weeks as she slowly kept trying to negotiate to have the best friends | 这只持续了几个星期, 她慢慢地试图谈判 拥有最好的朋友 |
| 588 | slash ex in her life and then one day just fully said she wants the ex in her life. | 然后有一天她完全说她想要前妻 |
| 589 | I told her I | 我告诉她 |
| 590 | couldn't handle it and it was very much an understanding that I would walk away if she | 无法承受,我非常理解 如果她走开 |
| 591 | and she was okay with me walking away. | 她也同意我走开 |
| 592 | That's why we broke up. | 故曰分手. |
| 593 | So did I get emotionally cheated on? | 我被感情欺骗了吗? |
| 594 | I'm having a hard time coping with this knowing I put up with all of this for over four years. | 4年多来我一直忍受这一切 很难应付 |
| 595 | It's hard to just feel calm in a relationship when somebody is showing someone else the effort you | 当有人向别人展示你的努力时 感情很难平静 |
| 596 | want and you have to share them. | 你要分享他们。 |
| 597 | Not only that, but that somebody else likes your girlfriend. | 不仅如此 还有别人喜欢你的女朋友 |
| 598 | I still miss her honestly. | 我还是很想念她 |
| 599 | It feels like shit. | 感觉糟透了 |
| 600 | I mean, you were together with her for four years, | 我是说 你和她在一起四年了 |
| 601 | I could understand not being completely over them and still missing them. | 我无法完全理解他们, |
| 602 | Let's read some | 我们来读读 |
| 603 | of the comments. | 意见。 |
| 604 | The chosen lady said not only were you emotionally cheated on, you also most | 被选中的女士说,你不仅在感情上被欺骗了,你也是最 |
| 605 | likely were physically cheated on too. | 很可能是身体被欺骗了 |
| 606 | She manipulated you time and time again for her | 她为她一再操纵你 |
| 607 | own benefit and you let her play with your emotions and mental well-being. | 你让她玩你的情绪和精神安康 |
| 608 | I suggest you | 我建议你 |
| 609 | start therapy regarding this and self-reflect on your boundaries instead of hers because you | 开始治疗 并自我反思你的界限 而不是她的 因为你 |
| 610 | her into your life again and again, knowing it would hurt you. | 她一次又一次地进入你的生活,知道这会伤害你。 |
| 611 | OP, don't make the same mistake | 别犯同样的错误 |
| 612 | again and please learn to stand up for yourself and never repeat, never allow anyone to walk all | 永远不要让任何人走完 |
| 613 | over you again like she did. | 再一次像她那样在你身上 |
| 614 | That is really good advice. | 这是非常好的建议。 |
| 615 | OP responded, I appreciate that directness. | OP答复说,我赞赏这种直接性。 |
| 616 | Yeah, I started therapy after the first breakup and it helped a lot. | 是啊,我开始治疗 在第一次分手后 它帮助了很多。 |
| 617 | It's the reason I was able | 这就是我之所以能够 |
| 618 | to walk away from her. | 离开她 |
| 619 | This last time she disrespected me with the whole X thing. | 这最后一次她不尊重我 关于整个X的事情。 |
| 620 | I'm | и琌 |
| 621 | six months and going to make sure I'm solid for the next person and more importantly myself if | 6个月,并且会确保 我坚固的下一个人, 更重要的是我自己如果 |
| 622 | my boundaries are crossed again. | 我的边界再次跨越。 |
| 623 | Thank you for taking the time to reply to the post. | 感谢您花时间回复该帖子. |
| 624 | It helps | 有帮助的 |
| 625 | a lot to have perspectives. | 有很多东西可以看 |
| 626 | Someone else replied, you were absolutely in a toxic situation. | 有人回答说 你绝对是有毒的 |
| 627 | | |
| 628 | clearly prioritized someone else's emotional needs over yours for years. | 很明显你多年来 把别人的情感需求放在优先位置 |
| 629 | That's the definition of | 这就是定义 |
| 630 | emotional betrayal. | 感情上的背叛 |
| 631 | Walking away was the right move. | 离开是正确的举动。 |
| 632 | Yeah, man, being in a situation like this, | 是啊,男人, 在这样的情况, |
| 633 | I know you love someone and you're so connected, but you also need to understand where your self | 我知道你爱一个人,你是如此连接, 但你也需要理解在哪里 你自己的 |
| 634 | worth is and being able to choose what's best for you. | 价值是能够选择对你最好的 |
| 635 | If someone is constantly showing you | 如果有人不断向你展示 |
| 636 | that they don't prioritize you and they prioritize another person, doesn't matter who it is. | 他们不优先考虑你 而且他们优先考虑另一个人, 这不重要是谁。 |
| 637 | I guess, | 我想是的,你觉得呢? |
| 638 | yeah, it does matter who it is. | 是啊,它确实重要是谁。 |
| 639 | I guess if it's their parents, it's okay and stuff like that. | 我想如果这是他们的父母, 这是好的和类似的东西。 |
| 640 | But if someone is showing they prioritize their X over you time and time and time again, | 但是如果有人显示他们的X 时不时地排在你前面 |
| 641 | don't go back with them. | 别和他们一起回去 |
| 642 | Guido commented, she physically cheated as well as emotionally. | 圭多评论道,她身体和情感都作弊. |
| 643 | I | 一、导 言 |
| 644 | promise you, you tolerated way too much disrespect. | 答应你,你太宽容了 |
| 645 | Be glad you are done. | 很高兴你结束了。 |
| 646 | You dodged a lifetime of | 你躲过了一辈子 |
| 647 | stress and heartache. | 压力和心痛。 |
| 648 | There's someone out there for you and it's definitely not her. | 外面有人找你 绝对不是她 |
| 649 | Yeah, I'm | 对,我... |
| 650 | thinking maybe, maybe the, maybe she felt really guilty every time she physically cheated because | 也许,也许,也许, 也许她觉得 真正的内疚 每次她身体欺骗,因为 |
| 651 | like emotional cheating is kind of harder to like, like make concrete, but physical cheating, | 像感情上的欺骗是种 很难喜欢, 像制造具体,但身体上的欺骗, |
| 652 | it physically happens and you can feel it and it happens in the moment. | 它发生身体上,你可以感觉到 它和它发生的时刻。 |
| 653 | So maybe every time she | 所以也许每次她 |
| 654 | felt guilty and that's why she broke up. | 觉得内疚 所以她才分手了 |
| 655 | She's like, oh, I'm like, I don't know what to do. | 她喜欢,哦,我喜欢, 我不知道该怎么办。 |
| 656 | I | 一、导 言 |
| 657 | can't do it. | 不能做到这一点。 |
| 658 | That's a possibility, though I am just like speculating. | 有可能,虽然我就像在猜测 |
| 659 | But then again, it's like, | 但后来,它就像, |
| 660 | why would, why would she not just get back together with her X after they broke up? | 为什么,为什么她不 刚刚和她的X 分手后? |
| 661 | Like I'm just so | 就像我这样 |
| 662 | confused about that. | 对这个感到困惑。 |
| 663 | Why, maybe she was back together and then didn't work out and then she | 为什么,也许她回到了一起 然后没有工作,然后她 |
| 664 | wanted to go back to her other X and then she realized she wanted her other X. | 她想回到其他的X,然后她意识到她想要其他的X. |
| 665 | So then she | 所以,她现在 |
| 666 | broke up again and then got back with the X. | 再度分手,后与X重归于好. |
| 667 | It's like, choose a side, bro, for real. | 这就像,选择一边,兄弟,真的。 |
| 668 | Yeah, | 对 |
| 669 | most people are saying you're probably a physically cheated on. | 大多数人都说你可能是 身体上的欺骗。 |
| 670 | You were definitely | 你绝对是 |
| 671 | emotionally cheated on. | 感情上出轨了 |
| 672 | We don't know about the physical stuff, but both are equally as bad. | 我们不知道物理的东西, 但两者同样糟糕。 |
| 673 | In my opinion, I guess I'll answer the question too. | 在我看来 我也会回答这个问题的 |
| 674 | Physical or mental or emotional, sorry, | 身体或精神或情感,对不起, |
| 675 | the same, the same, both of them done, bro, done forever. | 同样的,同样的,他们两个都做了,兄弟,永远做了。 |
| 676 | I don't know. | 师曰. |
| 677 | It's situation like this | 事情是这样的 |
| 678 | is really, really sad and really hard because I know like feelings could like cloud your judgment | 真的很,真的很伤心,真的很辛苦 因为我知道,感觉会 蒙蔽你的判断 |
| 679 | so much, but I think like it's kind of hard to get out of that situation, but she let you get out | 但是我觉得很难摆脱这种局面 但她让你出去了 |
| 680 | of that situation three times. | - 3次了 - 对 3次了 |
| 681 | The first time you should have just really stood back about a whole | 第一次你应该只是 真正退后一个整体 |
| 682 | perspective of the situation. | 对形势的看法。 |
| 683 | Maybe talk to someone or like anything or like understand, | 也许和某人说话 或喜欢什么 或喜欢理解, |
| 684 | like talk to a friend, ask Reddit after the first breakup. | 就像跟朋友聊天一样 第一次分手后问Reddit |
| 685 | Like a lot of people can give good advice | 很多人都会给你好的建议 |
| 686 | and help, especially when you're like in such a fog and like you're only seeing like what's in | 帮助,特别是当你像 在这样的雾中, 像你只是看到什么 |
| 687 | front of you. | 在你们前面。 |
| 688 | You need an outside perspective. | 你需要一个外部视角。 |
| 689 | This is my first ever Reddit story reading video | 这是我第一次读Reddit的故事 |
| 690 | on this channel. | 在这个频道。 |
| 691 | I think my plan is to post every Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday. | 我认为我的计划是每周二、周四和周六发布。 |
| 692 | And I mean, if | 我是说,如果 |
| 693 | people want more videos, then just let me know and I'll make more videos during the week. | 人们想要更多的视频,然后告诉我 我会在一周里做更多的视频。 |
| 694 | And | 还有 |
| 695 | I'm thinking video length around 30 minutes. | 我想视频长度在30分钟左右 |
| 696 | Let me know if you guys want longer. | 如果你们需要时间就告诉我 |
| 697 | Just let me know | 只要告诉我 |
| 698 | in the comments or if you want shorter videos, let me know as well. | 若您想要更短的视频, |
| 699 | And also if you have stories, | 如果你有故事的话 |
| 700 | you can send me an email. | 你可以发邮件给我 |
| 701 | My email will be in my YouTube channel bio. | 我的电子邮件将在我的YouTube频道生物。 |
| 702 | That's all for today, guys. | 今天就到此为止,伙计们 |
| 703 | I'll see you guys in the next video. | 下段录像见 |
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