她终于离开了那个不懂感恩的男朋友
字幕摘录
| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:00 | My husband told me he's filing for divorce today. | 我丈夫说他今天要离婚 |
| 0:04 | So today we're going to be reading three stories from the r slash | 今天我们要读三个故事 |
| 0:07 | relationship subreddit. | 关系潜移。 |
| 0:09 | I with my boyfriend for two and a half years, unsure if I should stay with him | 我和男朋友在一起两年半 不确定要不要陪他 |
| 0:13 | given housewife expectations and feeling disrespected. | 给家庭主妇带来期望,感到不尊重。 |
| 0:17 | And my husband goes cycling way too much, leaving me his wife alone. | 我丈夫骑自行车太过火了 留下他妻子一人 |
| 0:20 | How could I help him understand he's losing me? | 我怎么能帮助他理解他正在失去我? |
| 0:24 | OK, first story, my husband told me he's filing for divorce today. | 好吧,第一个故事,我丈夫告诉我 他今天提出离婚。 |
| 0:27 | My husband, 34 male, told me 32 female that he's fed up and going to file for divorce. | 我的丈夫,34个男性,告诉我 32个女性,他已经厌倦了,准备提出离婚。 |
| 0:33 | We've been married for one year together for four years. | 我们结婚一年 在一起四年。 |
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| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | My husband told me he's filing for divorce today. | 我丈夫说他今天要离婚 |
| 2 | So today we're going to be reading three stories from the r slash | 今天我们要读三个故事 |
| 3 | relationship subreddit. | 关系潜移。 |
| 4 | I with my boyfriend for two and a half years, unsure if I should stay with him | 我和男朋友在一起两年半 不确定要不要陪他 |
| 5 | given housewife expectations and feeling disrespected. | 给家庭主妇带来期望,感到不尊重。 |
| 6 | And my husband goes cycling way too much, leaving me his wife alone. | 我丈夫骑自行车太过火了 留下他妻子一人 |
| 7 | How could I help him understand he's losing me? | 我怎么能帮助他理解他正在失去我? |
| 8 | OK, first story, my husband told me he's filing for divorce today. | 好吧,第一个故事,我丈夫告诉我 他今天提出离婚。 |
| 9 | My husband, 34 male, told me 32 female that he's fed up and going to file for divorce. | 我的丈夫,34个男性,告诉我 32个女性,他已经厌倦了,准备提出离婚。 |
| 10 | We've been married for one year together for four years. | 我们结婚一年 在一起四年。 |
| 11 | He's very angry and I feel depleted and numb. | 他非常生气,我感到疲惫和麻木。 |
| 12 | Backstory, my husband suffers from a type of OCD called relationship OCD, | 背书 我丈夫患有一种叫"关系"的OCD |
| 13 | otherwise known as retroactive jealousy. | 也被称为追溯性嫉妒。 |
| 14 | It is where he fixates on my past sexual relationships, particularly on one person, | 在那里,他确定 我过去的性关系, 特别是一个人, |
| 15 | a person who I have not spoken to in almost eight years. | 一个我几乎八年没说话的人 |
| 16 | He can get triggered anytime, anywhere. | 他随时随地都能被触发 |
| 17 | We could be watching TV and a character will have the same name | 我们可以看电视 一个角色也会有同名的 |
| 18 | and he will get triggered. | 他就会被触发 |
| 19 | Last weekend, we were at a concert celebrating | 上周末,我们在音乐会庆祝 |
| 20 | our one year wedding anniversary, and someone came on stage | 我们结婚一周年 有人登台 |
| 21 | wearing a jersey that is from the same sport this person used to play. | 穿一件球衣 和他以前一样 |
| 22 | He wanted to leave the concert immediately. | 他想马上离开音乐会 |
| 23 | We ended up fighting and our anniversary was ruined. | 我们最后吵架了 结婚纪念日也毁了 |
| 24 | Anytime he is triggered, his energy completely shifts | 只要他被触发,他的能量就会完全改变 |
| 25 | from warm, goofy and loving to ice cold and bothered. | 从温暖、愚蠢和爱到冰冷和烦恼 |
| 26 | And he shuts me out. | 他把我关在外面了 |
| 27 | It is a very sad, confusing, frustrating | 这是一个非常悲伤,令人困惑,令人沮丧 |
| 28 | and isolating experience for me and for him. | 并隔离我和他的经验。 |
| 29 | It's mental turmoil. | 这是精神动荡。 |
| 30 | Pretty much every single fight we have had in our relationship | 几乎每一次 我们曾经有过的战斗 在我们的关系中 |
| 31 | has stemmed from his retroactive jealousy. | 是因为他的妒忌 |
| 32 | Other than that, we've been extremely happy. | 除此之外,我们一直非常快乐。 |
| 33 | Unfortunately, every time he gets triggered, it chips away at my happiness. | 不幸的是,每当他被触发时, 它会破坏我的幸福。 |
| 34 | I walk on eggshells and feel anxiety sometimes | 我走在蛋壳上 有时感到焦虑 |
| 35 | because I never know when he will get triggered next. | 因为我不知道他什么时候会被触发 |
| 36 | I thought he might get better with time slash after marriage | 我以为他结婚后会好起来的 |
| 37 | because he would finally see that I want him and only him forever. | 因为他最终会看到我想要他 并且永远只有他 |
| 38 | I was wrong. | 我错了 |
| 39 | Ever since he was triggered on our anniversary last weekend and we fought, | 自从他上周我们结婚纪念日时被触发 我们吵架以来 |
| 40 | things have never been worse. | 事情从来没有更糟。 |
| 41 | Something feels different about this time. | 这次感觉不一样 |
| 42 | Like I finally realized this isn't going away or I've hit my breaking point. | 就像我终于意识到这不会消失 或者我已经到了突破点 |
| 43 | We've been cordial to each other all week and sleeping in the same bed, but no sex. | 我们整个星期都对彼此友好 睡在同一张床上 但没做爱 |
| 44 | Yesterday, he asked me if I'm ready to go back to being loving again. | 昨天,他问我,我是否准备好 重新回到爱。 |
| 45 | I told him my concerns and how he needs to seek support slash medication | 我告诉他我的担心 和他需要如何寻求支持 斜药 |
| 46 | for this RJ retroactive jealousy. | 对于这个RJ追溯性嫉妒。 |
| 47 | I also thanked him for giving me space, which literally just meant | 我也感谢他给我空间 这其实就是说 |
| 48 | not initiating sex. | 没有开始性交。 |
| 49 | And he got an attitude and said, yeah, well, I was upset, too. | 他有种态度,说,是的,嗯,我也很不高兴。 |
| 50 | Honestly, I didn't know that this was a thing that existed. | 老实说,我不知道这是存在的东西。 |
| 51 | But speaking from personal experience, I do get jealous. | 但从个人经验来看,我确实嫉妒。 |
| 52 | I guess if I hear any of my past partners talk about one of their exes | 我猜如果我听到我的过去搭档 谈到他们的前男友 |
| 53 | or one of like some something like that. | 或某种类似的东西。 |
| 54 | So it's like at the same time, I want to know because I want to learn about the past | 所以这就像同时, 我想知道 因为我想学习过去 |
| 55 | and I want to know. | 我还想知道 |
| 56 | But at the same time, I don't want to know | 但与此同时,我不想知道 |
| 57 | because I know it's going to upset me no matter what. | 因为我知道不管怎样 这都会让我心烦意乱 |
| 58 | But I don't think I have this where I randomly get upset | 但我不认为我有这个 在那里我随机不安 |
| 59 | when they're not talking about it. | 当他们不谈论它。 |
| 60 | Or if I see something, I don't care. | 或者,如果我看到什么, 我不在乎。 |
| 61 | Damn. | 该死 |
| 62 | Only in the moment when I hear it, then I'm like, bruh. | 只有在我听到它的时候,然后我像,伙计。 |
| 63 | Like I want to hear it and I don't want to hear it conflicting. | 譬如欲闻而无相. |
| 64 | It felt clear to me in this moment that he wasn't really listening to me. | 此时此刻,我觉得很明确,他并没有真正听我说话. |
| 65 | And to be fair, I sometimes have a difficult time seeing things | 公平地说,我有时很难看东西 |
| 66 | from his side as well. | 从他身边也。 |
| 67 | Sometimes his aggressive approach and victim mindset in conversation | 有时候他说话时的冲动态度和受害者心态 |
| 68 | makes me automatically defensive. | 让我自动防御。 |
| 69 | He ended up storming out of the room and slept in the guest room | 最后他冲出房间睡在客房 |
| 70 | where he always sleeps when he's upset or for his everyday naps. | 他总是睡着 当他生气或每天睡觉。 |
| 71 | And he's been slamming every door he walks through ever since. | 从那以后他一直把每扇门都砸了 |
| 72 | At this point, there is so much tension that I told him | 此时此刻,我对他说了这么多的紧张 |
| 73 | I will move his things from the master bedroom to the guest room | 我把他的东西从主卧室搬到客房 |
| 74 | so that we can both have space to process what we're feeling. | 这样我们就可以有空间 处理我们的感觉。 |
| 75 | He left for the day to go golfing. | 他去打高尔夫了 |
| 76 | A new hobby he picked up that he has trashed for the last four years. | 他最近四年来一直在玩弄他的新爱好 |
| 77 | While he was away, I moved his stuff. | 趁他不在的时候 我把他的东西搬走了 |
| 78 | I did not move it to upset him. | 我移动它不是为了让他生气 |
| 79 | I truly feel broken and anxious when I'm around him now | 我现在在他身边 我真的觉得很伤心很焦虑 |
| 80 | and just need a little space to process everything. | 只需要一点空间来处理一切 |
| 81 | He came home from golf and was livid. | 他从高尔夫球场回来,被活捉了 |
| 82 | He said he wasn't interested in being roommates and this was no way to live. | 他说自己对室友没兴趣 这可不是生活方式 |
| 83 | I told him again that I needed space to process everything. | 我再次告诉他,我需要空间来处理一切。 |
| 84 | And he said rudely, you've had enough space. | 他粗鲁地说,你有足够的空间。 |
| 85 | You've had a week of space instead of moving my belongings all day. | 你有一个星期的空间 而不是移动我的财物一整天。 |
| 86 | You could have you could have instead come up with a way to communicate. | 你可以想出一种沟通的方法 |
| 87 | I told him I did try to communicate with him yesterday and he got upset. | 我告诉他我昨天确实试着和他沟通 但他很不高兴 |
| 88 | I told him that the way he is currently speaking to me | 我告诉他他现在跟我说话的方式 |
| 89 | with an aggressive tone to which he replied, because I'm angry, this is ridiculous. | 他回答说,因为我很生气,这太荒谬了。 |
| 90 | I won't be married to someone who can't resolve simple issues. | 我不会嫁给一个不能解决简单问题的人 |
| 91 | I won't have kids with that person. | 我不会有孩子与那个人。 |
| 92 | I'm filing for divorce. | 我要申请离婚 |
| 93 | I do understand that communication is extremely important, | 我理解沟通极为重要 |
| 94 | but the way he's communicating is through shouting anger | 但他的沟通方式是通过大喊愤怒 |
| 95 | and being dramatic and complaining. | 充满戏剧性和抱怨性 |
| 96 | Communication should be done when both people are preferably calm, | 双方最好冷静下来 才能沟通 |
| 97 | level headed and able to actually talk to one another, | 平头和能够 真正交谈, |
| 98 | because when you're both angry and heated, there's going to be no communication happening. | 因为当你既生气又热, 不会有沟通发生。 |
| 99 | It's just going to be yelling, yelling or that you're not going to be able | 它只是要去大喊大叫 或者你将无法 |
| 100 | to understand the other person. | 来理解另一个人 |
| 101 | I responded that I don't want a divorce. | 我回答说我不想离婚 |
| 102 | All I'm asking for is a little space for us to work through this. | 我只要求给我们一点空间 来渡过难关 |
| 103 | I don't remember what he responded, but he didn't care that I said that. | 我不记得他回应了什么 但他不在乎我这么说 |
| 104 | And I think again, he just repeated that he was filing for divorce. | 我再说一遍,他只是重复说 他申请离婚。 |
| 105 | After he said that, he left the house. | 说完之后,他离开了房子。 |
| 106 | The crazy part is I still don't feel much. | 疯狂的部分是,我仍然没有多少感觉。 |
| 107 | I don't feel angry or sad, just numb. | 我不觉得愤怒或悲伤, 只是麻木。 |
| 108 | Perhaps I'm over it, or it could be some kind of coping mechanism to protect myself. | 或许我受够了 也可能是某种自我保护的应对机制 |
| 109 | I've never spoken to his friends or family about his retroactive jealousy | 我从来没有和他的朋友或家人说过 他的追溯性嫉妒 |
| 110 | because I love him and didn't want them to think negatively about him. | 因为我爱他 不想让他们对他产生消极的印象 |
| 111 | I think it's finally time I open up to my mother about it. | 我终于该向母亲敞开心扉了 |
| 112 | I feel very alone. | 我觉得很孤独 |
| 113 | I do think that's a really good idea. | 我觉得这是个好主意 |
| 114 | And if you don't want to bring your family or anyone into it, | 如果你不想把家人或任何人牵扯进来 |
| 115 | you can always speak to a therapist or some sort of professional and get professional help. | 您可以随时与治疗师或某种专业人士交谈并获得专业帮助。 |
| 116 | That's always a good option. | 这总是个好选择 |
| 117 | I'm not sure what to do or where to go from here. | 我不知道该做什么 也不知道该去哪里 |
| 118 | I've never been more in love with anyone in my life. | 我这辈子从没爱过任何人 |
| 119 | He was caring, made me laugh, bought me flowers, supported me | 他关心我 逗我笑 买花 支持我 |
| 120 | when I was laid off from my job, et cetera. | 当我被解雇的时候,我的工作,等等。 |
| 121 | But I am just not sure I can be in this relationship anymore. | 但我不能确定我还能继续这种关系 |
| 122 | Now with how he's acting, not taking accountability, being rude to me. | 现在,他的行为, 不承担责任,对我粗鲁。 |
| 123 | And instead of giving me the space I need, threatening to divorce me instead. | 而不是给我需要的空间 威胁要和我离婚 |
| 124 | Reddit, it would help to hear from you an outside perspective on this. | Reddit 能从你那里听到关于这件事的外在观点 |
| 125 | I am too in it to think clearly at the moment. | 目前我无法清楚思考。 |
| 126 | Even if no one responds, it felt nice to be able to type this out. | 即使没有人回应,也可以打字出来。 |
| 127 | TLDR husband has retroactive jealousy that causes most of our fights | TLDR的丈夫有追溯性嫉妒 导致我们大部分的争斗 |
| 128 | after a bad trigger on our anniversary. | 在我们结婚纪念日发生意外之后 |
| 129 | He's now threatening divorce because I asked for space, | 他现在威胁要离婚 因为我要求空间 |
| 130 | claiming I am incapable of solving issues. | 说我无法解决问题 |
| 131 | I feel numb and don't know if this relationship is salvageable. | 我觉得麻木了 不知道这段感情是不是可以挽救的 |
| 132 | Let's read some of the comments. | 我们来读读一些评论吧 |
| 133 | You can't resolve this problem because it's not your problem to resolve. | 你不能解决这个问题 因为这不是你的问题解决。 |
| 134 | He needs to sort his shit out. | 他需要解决他的狗屎。 |
| 135 | Seeing a person wearing a sports team merch shouldn't cause this much | 看到一个戴着运动队的人 不应该造成这么多 |
| 136 | conflict in any relationship. | 任何关系中的冲突。 |
| 137 | You can't build your life around avoiding his triggers. | 你不能把生活建立在逃避他的触发器上 |
| 138 | That's true. | 没错 |
| 139 | I understand it's like a medical condition, but he also needs to work on that | 我知道这就像一个病态, 但他也需要工作 |
| 140 | and get past that and find ways to cope with this condition | 并克服这些 并找到应对这种情况的方法 |
| 141 | because it's unfair to your partner when they haven't done anything | 因为这对你搭档不公平 当他们什么也没做 |
| 142 | that you just get randomly triggered and cause these terrible fights. | 你只是随机触发 并造成这些可怕的战斗。 |
| 143 | It's unfair to them. | 这对他们不公平 |
| 144 | He's doing you a favor by filing. | 他通过申请来帮你 |
| 145 | You should not have married this man. | 你不应该嫁给这个人 |
| 146 | He ain't going to file, but OP should follow through. | 他不会归档的,但OP应该跟进。 |
| 147 | A lot of people are saying that the divorce is a gift. | 很多人都说离婚是礼物 |
| 148 | Like you should follow through even if he doesn't. | 就像你应该跟着他,即使他不这样做。 |
| 149 | To be clear, retroactive jealousy is something he's choosing to not treat. | 说清楚,追溯性嫉妒是他选择不治疗的东西. |
| 150 | It's something that therapy can really help him with. | 治疗能帮助他 |
| 151 | So he's choosing to treat you like that. | 所以他选择这样对待你 |
| 152 | Why do you want to continue to deal with this? | 你为什么要继续处理这件事? |
| 153 | Hard agree. | 很难认同。 |
| 154 | Even if we take the husband's diagnosis at face value, | 即使我们把丈夫的诊断 以面值, |
| 155 | he's making his mental health disorder her problem to manage. | 他让他的心理健康障碍 她的问题管理。 |
| 156 | Mental health struggles are real. | 心理健康斗争是真实存在的. |
| 157 | And even if the person who struggles is not at fault for their disorder, | 即使挣扎的人没有错 他们的混乱, |
| 158 | it is their responsibility to manage their own mental health in a healthy way. | 他们有责任以健康的方式管理自己的精神健康。 |
| 159 | It's abdication of his responsibility to manage his own mental health | 这是放弃管理自己心理健康的责任 |
| 160 | for him to make his shit her problem. | 为了让他的狗屎 她的问题。 |
| 161 | That was my first thought, too. | 这也是我的第一个想法。 |
| 162 | Most mental health conditions can be managed nowadays. | 大多数精神健康条件现在都可以管理。 |
| 163 | There are many tools such as medication and therapy. | 药物和治疗等工具很多。 |
| 164 | He's choosing not to hear OP at all. | 他选择完全不听行动。 |
| 165 | He's not showing her he wants to improve their relationship. | 他没有告诉她 他想改善他们的关系 |
| 166 | I personally couldn't live like this. | 我个人不能这样生活 |
| 167 | OP should hop on the opportunity to divorce. | OP应该抓住离婚的机会。 |
| 168 | And she's still so young. | 她还那么年轻 |
| 169 | Genuinely, if he refuses therapy or meds, there's nothing else to do but file. | 老实说,如果他拒绝治疗或药物,除了档案,别无他法. |
| 170 | OK, yeah, this sounds like it's a mental health condition, | 好吧,是的,这听起来像 一个精神健康状况, |
| 171 | but like a lot of mental health conditions, it's treatable or manageable. | 但和很多精神疾病一样,是可治疗的或可管理的. |
| 172 | But he's not doing that. | 但他没有这样做。 |
| 173 | He's not trying to manage it or he's not trying to be better for his wife. | 他没有试图管理它 或者他没有试图为他的妻子更好。 |
| 174 | Instead, he's making it her problem | 相反,他却在制造她的问题 |
| 175 | when he should try his best if he truly loved his wife to seek help with this. | 如果他真的爱他妻子 寻求帮助的话 |
| 176 | So I would first try to work it out with him, get him the care he needs | 所以我首先想和他商量一下 给他需要的照顾 |
| 177 | so that he can manage his mental health condition. | 以便他能够管理自己的心理健康状况。 |
| 178 | And if he doesn't want to and he doesn't want to put any effort, | 如果他不想和不想付出任何努力, |
| 179 | then you can consider divorcing. | 然后你可以考虑离婚。 |
| 180 | But it's always important to give someone a chance. | 但给别人一个机会总是很重要的. |
| 181 | Give him a chance. | 给他一个机会。 |
| 182 | Update, I am blown away at the amount of support this post has gotten. | 最新消息,我被吹走 得到的支持量 这个帖子得到了。 |
| 183 | Thank you to everyone who has responded and to the mod of this post | 感谢各位回应, |
| 184 | for giving me a great book recommendation. | 谢谢你给我一个很棒的书推荐 |
| 185 | As many of you guessed, threat of divorce was not real. | 你们很多人猜到 离婚威胁不是真的 |
| 186 | For the first time in four years, I truly put my foot down | 四年来我第一次真正放下脚 |
| 187 | and told my husband that I will no longer put up with this treatment. | 对我的丈夫说 我不会再忍受这种治疗了 |
| 188 | I told him that if he continues to choose not to seek help | 我告诉他,如果他继续选择不寻求帮助 |
| 189 | and instead continue to hurt me, then I'm not staying. | 反而继续伤害我,然后我不会留下 |
| 190 | And he knows I mean it. | 他知道我是认真的 |
| 191 | I told him I love him, but I love me and my mental health more. | 我告诉他我爱他 但我更爱我和心理健康 |
| 192 | Since this long conversation, he has set up an immediate plan, daily plan. | 自从这段漫长的对话之后,他制定了即时计划,每日计划. |
| 193 | Morning reflection slash meditation, medicine slash vitamins, | 早间反射斜射冥想 药物斜射维生素 |
| 194 | fluoxetine magnesium omega three workout weekly plan. | 氟氧酸镁 omega三个周计划. |
| 195 | Meet with therapist slash start ERP. | 与治疗师见面 刀锋启动ERP。 |
| 196 | First session is scheduled for this weekend. | 第一届会议定于本周末举行。 |
| 197 | Read 50 pages of self-help books. | 阅读50页自助图书. |
| 198 | The Art of Letting Go, The Happiness Trap, Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy, | "让走的艺术" "幸福的陷阱" "克服逆向的嫉妒" |
| 199 | Brain Lock, Overcoming OCD. | 大脑锁,克服OCD。 |
| 200 | I told him that I support him, but that he needs to do deep reflection | 我告诉他我支持他 但他需要深思熟虑 |
| 201 | and work on himself before we can start rebuilding our relationship. | 在开始重建我们的关系之前先努力 |
| 202 | I plan on leaving town this week to spend some time with my mother | 我打算这周离开镇子 和我妈一起过一段时间 |
| 203 | and we'll be working on an exit plan to have just in case that day comes. | 并且我们将会制定一个退出计划 以防那天来临 |
| 204 | I have found a lot of strength and growth within myself throughout this process, | 在整个过程中,我发现我体内有很多力量和成长 |
| 205 | and I'm very proud of myself. | 我为自己感到骄傲 |
| 206 | I can't describe how it felt going from feeling so isolated | 我无法形容这种孤立的感觉 |
| 207 | and alone to feeling like I have a community who supports me through this post. | 孤独地感觉我有一个社区 通过这个职位支持我。 |
| 208 | So if you're scrolling and see someone who needs help, | 所以,如果你在滚动 看到有人谁需要帮助, |
| 209 | just know that your comment can make a big difference. | 只要知道你的评论会有很大的影响 |
| 210 | Wow. | 珃 |
| 211 | Round of applause, round of applause. | 掌声 掌声 |
| 212 | This is this was very mature, a very good ending. | 这是非常成熟的, 一个非常好的结局。 |
| 213 | She's trying to fix it with her husband | 她想和丈夫一起解决 |
| 214 | instead of just completely leaving, which is good. | 而不是完全离开,这是很好的。 |
| 215 | She should have done this a lot sooner, but it's better late than never. | 她应该早点做,但总比永远迟到好 |
| 216 | He has given a plan of things he wants to do. | 他给了他想要做的事的计划 |
| 217 | If he falls through with it, I have no doubt they can recover. | 如果他失败了,我确信他们能康复 |
| 218 | I hope he follows through and changes because they are in love. | 我希望他能坚持下去,改变,因为他们相爱。 |
| 219 | You have to also put yourself first sometimes like she is. | 你有时还得像她一样把自己放在第一位 |
| 220 | So she says, if you can change and show me you're different, then I'll stay with you. | 所以她说,如果你可以改变, 并显示你不同, 然后我会和你在一起。 |
| 221 | But if you can't, then I'm going to choose myself, | 但是如果你不能,那么我会选择自己, |
| 222 | which I think is a completely fair thing to do. | 我认为这样做是完全公平的。 |
| 223 | So good for her, really. | 对她真好,真的 |
| 224 | I, female 22, with my boyfriend, male 25, for two and a half years. | 我,女性22, 和我男朋友,男性25, 两年半。 |
| 225 | Unsure if I should stay with him, given housewife expectations and feeling disrespected. | 我不确定我是否应该和他在一起, 给家庭主妇的期望, 感到不尊重。 |
| 226 | This is the situation I am in. | 这就是我的处境。 |
| 227 | My boyfriend, 25, male and I, 22, female, have been together for two and a half years. | 我的男朋友,25岁,男性和我,22岁,女性, 已经在一起两年半了。 |
| 228 | I have my own place and pay my own rent. | 我有自己的房子 自己付房租 |
| 229 | And I wanted to continue living there to maintain my independence. | 我想继续在那里生活 以保持我的独立性。 |
| 230 | However, he insisted that I move in with him because of his job conditions. | 然而,他坚持说,由于他的工作条件,我必须与他住在一起。 |
| 231 | He has to travel all the time. | 他必须经常旅行 |
| 232 | And he does not want to drive back and forth every weekend to see me. | 他不想每个周末都开车来见我 |
| 233 | So he suggested me to be a housewife so I can follow him everywhere. | 所以他建议我做个家庭主妇 这样我就可以到处跟着他 |
| 234 | Now, here's the problem. | 现在,问题就在这里。 |
| 235 | The other day, he texted me and complained that I never show my gratitude towards him | 那天他给我发了短信 抱怨我从未向他表示感谢 |
| 236 | for paying rent at his place for both of us. | 为了我们两人在他家付房租 |
| 237 | Mind you, even while staying with him, I still do more for him. | 提醒你,即使留在他身边, 我仍然为他做更多。 |
| 238 | I work, I cook, take care of him and give him massages. | 我工作,我做饭,照顾他 给他按摩。 |
| 239 | All the while still paying rent in my own place and pretty much pay for other expenses with him. | 这段时间我还是付房租 和他一起支付其他费用 |
| 240 | What hurts me is in the past, I financially supported us. | 伤害我的是过去, 我资助我们。 |
| 241 | Paying for rent, we once lived together, food, clothes, shoes, | 付房租,我们曾经住在一起, 食物,衣服,鞋子, |
| 242 | and even his investments business when he was unemployed. | 甚至他失业时的投资业务 |
| 243 | He has never acknowledged these contributions, but I didn't expect a thank you either | 他从未承认过这些贡献 但我也没想到会谢谢你 |
| 244 | because I just thought that's what people do when they love each other. | 因为我只是觉得人们爱对方时会这么做 |
| 245 | But now he made me feel like a leech because he complains about paying rent for both of us. | 但是现在他让我觉得自己像个水仙 因为他抱怨我们付房租 |
| 246 | Despite everything I do, I don't feel the need to express my gratitude for him | 尽管我做了很多事,我并不觉得有必要对他表示感激 |
| 247 | because I never lived here like a princess. | 因为我从来没有像公主一样住在这里 |
| 248 | He was the one who wanted me to move in. | 是他让我搬进来的 |
| 249 | I apologized to him last night about this issue. | 我昨晚就此事向他道歉了 |
| 250 | I did feel bad for not showing gratitude, but part of me is unhappy that I buried my feelings. | 我对没表示感激感到难过 但我有一部分不高兴 我埋葬了自己的感情 |
| 251 | I'm not sure if this is a sign I should reconsider this relationship. | 我不确定这是否是一个征兆 我应该重新考虑这种关系。 |
| 252 | I think the fact that he can't acknowledge what you have done for him in the past, | 我认为他无法承认你过去为他所做的一切 |
| 253 | supporting you guys financially with rent, food, clothing and all that stuff, | 用房租、食物、衣服和那些东西资助你们 |
| 254 | and also supporting his business ventures as well. | 也支持他的事业 |
| 255 | And he can't acknowledge what you have done in the past and show gratitude for that. | 他不能承认你过去的所作所为 并对此表示感谢。 |
| 256 | But then he expects that in return when all he's doing is paying rent | 但是,他期望作为回报 当他所做的只是支付租金 |
| 257 | and then you're both kind of paying stuff together. | 然后你们俩一起付钱 |
| 258 | And then you're still paying rent on your own place. | 然后你仍然在自己的地方支付租金. |
| 259 | Like you don't need to live with him and you don't need him to survive. | 就像你不需要和他住在一起 你不需要他来生存 |
| 260 | He just wants you there because you love him, you're going there. | 他只是希望你在那里 因为你爱他,你会去那里。 |
| 261 | And now he expects like gratitude, even though you cook and you clean it | 现在,他期望像感谢, 即使你做饭,你清理它 |
| 262 | and you still work and do all this stuff. | 你还在做这些事 |
| 263 | This just sounds like someone that can't do like any self-reflection or critical thinking | 这听起来就像一个不能做 喜欢任何自我反省或批判性思维的人 |
| 264 | and see that, wow, this person loves me. | 看,哇,这个人爱我。 |
| 265 | They have done all this for me. | 他们为我做了这一切。 |
| 266 | So now, you know, I love her too. | 所以,现在,你知道,我也爱她。 |
| 267 | So I'm going to do this and not expect like big shows of gratitude and all this stuff | 所以我要做到这一点,不要期待 像大展示的感激和所有这些东西 |
| 268 | like on their knees saying thank you. | 就像跪着说谢谢 |
| 269 | It's like it's a relationship and a partnership. | 似是关系与伴侣. |
| 270 | You're supposed to both contribute equally by the sounds of it. | 听起来你们应该都一样 |
| 271 | Hope he has been contributing more than the husband. | 希望他的贡献超过丈夫 |
| 272 | I want a relationship where I feel respected, valued and independent. | 我想要一种我感到受尊重、受重视和独立的关系。 |
| 273 | I'm unsure if staying with him is the right choice, given his housewife expectations | 我不确定和他住在一起是不是合适的选择 考虑到他的家庭主妇的期望 |
| 274 | and lack of acknowledgement for my efforts. | 我的努力得不到承认 |
| 275 | TLDR female 22 with male 25 for two and a half years. | TLDR女性22人与男性25人共2年半. |
| 276 | I pay rent on my own place, but he insisted I move in with him. | 我自付房租 但他坚持要我搬去住 |
| 277 | He wants me to be a housewife. | 他要我当家庭主妇 |
| 278 | I do more for him than he realizes and he never acknowledges my contributions | 我为他做的比他意识到的多 他从来不承认我的贡献 |
| 279 | while complaining about paying for both of us. | 却抱怨要付我们俩的钱 |
| 280 | Unsure if I should stay or move on. | 不确定我是否应该留下来或继续前进。 |
| 281 | Oh, he wants you to be a housewife who also pays for things. | 哦,他想让你做一个家庭主妇 并且支付的东西。 |
| 282 | I want to eat junk all day and not get fat. | 我整天都想吃垃圾,不要变胖 |
| 283 | But I know we can't have it both ways. | 但我知道我们不能同时拥有它 |
| 284 | Not sure he knows that. | 不知道他知道这一点。 |
| 285 | It sounds like he's taking advantage of your labor and your money. | 听起来他在利用你的劳动力和钱 |
| 286 | No wonder you feel disrespected. | 难怪你觉得不尊重 |
| 287 | He wants the perks without the responsibility. | 他想得到好处而不承担责任。 |
| 288 | He's entitled and selfish. | 他有权而且自私 |
| 289 | Opie deserves someone who appreciates her. | Opie值得有人欣赏她 |
| 290 | Opie sounds like a really nice, kind person that's willing to give a lot. | Opie听起来是个好人 愿意付出很多 |
| 291 | But her boyfriend or husband or whatever sounds like fucking not, not a good guy, dude. | 但她的男朋友或丈夫 或任何听起来像他妈的不是,不是一个好人,伙计。 |
| 292 | He just sounds like someone that will just take advantage, take advantage, take advantage. | 他听起来就像一个会占便宜的人 |
| 293 | And then when finally his girlfriend breaks up, he'll be like, I gave her everything. | 然后当他女朋友分手时 他就会说 我给了她一切 |
| 294 | What? | 你说什么? |
| 295 | Bro, what are you talking about, man? | 兄弟,你在说什么? |
| 296 | Come on, be so for real, dude. | 来吧,真的,伙计。 |
| 297 | You are in a relationship where you do not feel respected or valued. | 你们的关系并不受到尊重或重视。 |
| 298 | If that is what you want in a relationship, then you know what to do. | 如果这是你想要的关系, 那你知道该怎么做。 |
| 299 | You gave up your own place to be your boyfriend's mother and gave up your independence. | 你放弃了自己的位置成为你男朋友的母亲,放弃了独立. |
| 300 | You deserve better. | 你应该得到更好的。 |
| 301 | Take it from someone old enough to be your grandmother. | 把它从一个年纪够大的人 做你的祖母。 |
| 302 | Run. | 运行。 |
| 303 | You were a teenager when you started this relationship and have no experience in knowing | 你开始这段恋情时还十几岁 没有经验知道 |
| 304 | that this man is not what you need. | 这个人不是你需要的 |
| 305 | He wants control. | 他想控制局面 |
| 306 | And the first way to do that is to make you unemployed and financially dependent on him. | 第一种方法就是让你失业 并在经济上依赖他 |
| 307 | He will slowly take away your confidence with his opinions on how you do things. | 他会慢慢地剥夺你的信心 他对你做事方式的看法 |
| 308 | They're never quite right. | 他们永远不对劲 |
| 309 | He will remind you how lucky you are to have him. | 他会提醒你有他有多幸运 |
| 310 | And when you look around, you will see that you have nobody else because he has isolated you. | 当你环顾四周时 你会发现你没有别人了 因为他把你孤立了 |
| 311 | This is a time of your life where you are supposed to try on other people to see if you fit together. | 这是你生命中的一个时刻,你应该尝试 其他人看你是否合体。 |
| 312 | You have your entire 20s to grow, mature and become the woman you are meant to be. | 你有你的全部20岁 成长,成熟 并成为你注定要成为的女人。 |
| 313 | But it won't happen if you stay with him. | 但如果你和他在一起就不会发生 |
| 314 | I think that commenter really nailed it on the head. | 我觉得那个评论家真的把它钉在头上了. |
| 315 | This is not the type of relationship you want to be in. | 这不是你想加入的那种关系 |
| 316 | Based on what he's done so far, it's just going to get worse and worse and worse. | 以他至今所行之事为据,正渐渐愈. |
| 317 | He's going to isolate you, isolate you from your friends, your family. | 他会把你和朋友,你的家人隔离开 |
| 318 | You're probably going to have to quit your job so you can be a full-time housewife. | 你可能要辞掉工作 才能当全职的家庭主妇 |
| 319 | And then he's never going to be grateful. | 然后他永远不会感激。 |
| 320 | You're going to feel so like dependent on him because you don't have anything of your own anymore. | 你会觉得如此依赖他 因为你已经没有自己的东西了 |
| 321 | So before that's too late, I would just end it. | 所以在为时已晚之前 我会结束这一切 |
| 322 | It doesn't seem like this is really a relationship worth it. | 这似乎不是一种真正的 关系值得。 |
| 323 | I know it's so easy to say, oh, they should end it, they should end it, they should end it. | 我知道这很容易说, 哦,他们应该结束它, 他们应该结束它,他们应该结束它。 |
| 324 | But you're not in that situation. | 但你不是那样的 |
| 325 | So it's really hard to just end something. | 所以很难结束这一切 |
| 326 | So talk with your friends, talk with your family, get support from them, get their opinions as well. | 所以和你的朋友谈谈,和你的家人谈谈,得到他们的支持,也得到他们的意见. |
| 327 | And yeah, but obviously, you know the situation best. | 是的,但很明显,你最了解情况 |
| 328 | Everyone else could give their own outside opinion, but you know the situation best. | 其他人可以给出自己的外部意见,但你最了解情况。 |
| 329 | And hopefully, you can make the right decision for yourself. | 希望你能自己做出正确的决定 |
| 330 | So we have an update. | 所以,我们有一个更新。 |
| 331 | Hello again. | 又见面了 |
| 332 | First of all, thank you all so much for your advice. | 首先 非常感谢你们的建议 |
| 333 | And I'm sorry for not replying earlier. | 很抱歉没有早点回复 |
| 334 | I was honestly a mess trying to figure out my next step. | 老实说,我一团糟 试图找出我的下一步。 |
| 335 | I decided to have a real talk with him to see where his attitude actually was. | 我决定和他好好谈谈 看看他的态度到底在哪里 |
| 336 | If he showed sincerity, maybe we tried one more time. | 如果他表现出诚意 也许我们再试一次 |
| 337 | If not, well, you know, I agree with that. | 如果不是,你知道, 我同意这一点。 |
| 338 | That's actually, that's actually really mature. | 实际上,这是非常成熟的。 |
| 339 | Instead of just completely ending it and going, you know, try to talk, | 而不是完全结束它 并去,你知道,尝试说话, |
| 340 | try to understand where they're coming from, because maybe there's something you don't know. | 试着理解他们来自哪里 因为也许有些事情你不知道 |
| 341 | And at least you gave it one more shot. | 至少你再试一次 |
| 342 | At least you tried one more time, you know. | 至少你再试一次,你知道的。 |
| 343 | So then you really know. | 这么说你真的知道了 |
| 344 | If you try one more time and you see what they really are, then it's easier to walk away. | 如果你再试一次,看到它们的真实面目,那么走开就更容易了. |
| 345 | If they show sincerity, they take responsibility, they see their problem, | 如果他们表现出诚意,他们承担责任, 他们看到自己的问题, |
| 346 | and they see how they're at fault, then, you know, that's something you can work with. | 他们看到他们的错, 然后,你知道,这是你可以工作的东西。 |
| 347 | But if not, if they're defensive, they blame you, they argue, then move on. | 但是如果没有,如果他们是防守的, 他们责备你,他们争论,然后继续前进。 |
| 348 | Instead of listening, he immediately got defensive and blew up at me | 他不听话,就立刻防守,朝我开枪 |
| 349 | for not caring about his feelings and treating him badly. | 因为不关心他的感情 对他不好 |
| 350 | And in that moment, I got my answer. | 在那一刻,我得到了我的答案。 |
| 351 | I didn't argue, I didn't explain. | 我没有争吵,也没有解释 |
| 352 | I stayed quiet, packed a few things I had left at his place and walked out. | 我保持安静,收拾了一些东西 我留在他的地方,走了出去。 |
| 353 | I blocked him on everything. | 我什么都挡住了他 |
| 354 | And honestly, I haven't felt this relieved in so long. | 老实说,我好久没觉得这么轻松了 |
| 355 | I know I made the right choice and a huge part of that clarity came from all of you. | 我知道我做出了正确的选择,你们都做出了相当大一部分的澄清。 |
| 356 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
| 357 | TLDR, I ended things with my boyfriend. | TLDR,我结束了我男朋友的事情。 |
| 358 | Another happy ending. | 另一个快乐的结局。 |
| 359 | My husband, 63 male, goes cycling way too much, leaving me, his 60 female wife, alone. | 我丈夫,63男,骑车太过分了 留下了我,他的60个妻子,独自一人 |
| 360 | How could I help him understand he's losing me? | 我怎么能帮助他理解他正在失去我? |
| 361 | Probably communication. | 可能是沟通 |
| 362 | Couples counseling? | 夫妻咨询? |
| 363 | Good people. | 善众生. |
| 364 | I need some help. | 我需要帮助。 |
| 365 | My husband, 63 male, and I, 60 female, have been happily married 30 plus years. | 我的丈夫,63个男性,我,60个女性, 已经幸福地结婚30多年。 |
| 366 | Five or so years ago, he started cycling. | 五多年前,他开始骑自行车. |
| 367 | He loved it and I was happy he found something he enjoyed and was good for him, | 他喜欢它,我很高兴 他找到了他喜欢的东西 对他有好处, |
| 368 | although I felt he was spending too much money on bikes, tools, supplies, rides and races, and weekend trips. | 虽然我觉得他花太多钱 在自行车,工具,用品, 骑车和比赛, 周末旅行。 |
| 369 | The last few years have been bad with the time he spends riding. | 过去几年他骑马的时间不好 |
| 370 | It's getting unbearable for me. | 我越来越受不了了 |
| 371 | He's gone all the time. | 他总是走的 |
| 372 | Is he cheating? | 他在作弊吗? |
| 373 | Question mark. | 问标. |
| 374 | He takes two cycling classes a week at the gym. | 他每周在体育馆上两个自行车课. |
| 375 | He rides there when he's not taking classes and he's out on the road or a path four to six days a week | 他不上课就坐车 每周四到六天在路上或路上 |
| 376 | for about four to six or seven hours. | 大约四到六到七小时 |
| 377 | Dude, how does this guy find that much time, bro? | 伙计,这家伙怎么找到这么多时间,兄弟? |
| 378 | Does he not work? | 他不工作吗? |
| 379 | That's insane. | 这是疯了。 |
| 380 | How does he have time? | 他怎么会有时间? |
| 381 | For work, wife, and cycling. | 工作,妻子,骑自行车。 |
| 382 | Obviously, the wife is getting the least of that time by the sounds of it. | 显然,妻子得到的 时间最少的时间 以它的声音。 |
| 383 | And for sleep. | 而为睡眠. |
| 384 | And sleep, shit. | 睡觉,狗屎。 |
| 385 | Four to six or seven hours at a time, coming home after 10 at night on weeknights. | 每次4到6到7小时,晚上10点后回家. |
| 386 | Oh, and works a full-time job on top of this. | 哦,并且做一个全职的工作 在这一点之上。 |
| 387 | Last month, we went to Florida for three days to visit my family. | 上个月,我们去了佛罗里达州 探亲三天。 |
| 388 | And of course, he had to rent a bike and ride. | 当然,他不得不租自行车和骑车。 |
| 389 | In the last five months, he's left me alone to ride on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day, | 在过去五个月里,他让我独自一人 在圣诞夜或圣诞节上骑马, |
| 390 | Easter, and Mother's Day. | 复活节和母亲节 |
| 391 | He probably went riding on Valentine's Day, too. | 他可能在情人节上骑马 |
| 392 | I don't remember that. | 我不记得了 |
| 393 | As I post this, he's in Chile, Coss, Ohio on a weekend ride and visit with friends. | 我发信时,他在智利,哥斯,俄亥俄 周末搭车和朋友一起参观 |
| 394 | This is not a communication issue, as I have joked, talked, complained, yelled, and cried, | 这不是一个沟通问题, 正如我开玩笑,说话,抱怨,大喊,哭, |
| 395 | and cried all many, many times. | 并哭过多次,多次。 |
| 396 | I love my husband dearly and don't want a divorce, but I can't take being alone anymore. | 我非常爱我丈夫 不想离婚 但我不能再独自一人了 |
| 397 | I'd rather be separated and alone than married and alone. | 宁独离而独离,宁独离而独离. |
| 398 | But if I leave him, I feel I'd be letting our kids and grandkids down. | 但是如果我离开他,我觉得我会让我们的孩子和孙子失望。 |
| 399 | I'm so lost and don't know what to do. | 我迷路了 不知该做什么 |
| 400 | Nothing I do or say makes a difference to him. | 我做什么或说什么都对他有影响 |
| 401 | Honestly, if you say you want a divorce and go through with it, I feel like that would make a difference to him. | 老实说,如果你说你想离婚 并经历它, 我觉得这会对他有所帮助。 |
| 402 | I'm hoping a few people are willing to comment so I can show him this and maybe we can both learn something, | 我希望有些人愿意发表评论 这样我就能给他看 也许我们可以学点什么 |
| 403 | or I can gain some insight. | 或者我可以得到一些见解。 |
| 404 | Thanks ahead for your helpful comments. | 感谢大家的有益评论。 |
| 405 | My husband rides his bike and leaves me, his wife, alone way too much and I have no idea what to do. | 我丈夫骑着自行车 离开我,他的妻子, 孤独太过分了, 我不知道该怎么办。 |
| 406 | Can you please offer some advice? | 你能提供一些建议吗? |
| 407 | Well, by the sounds of it, you don't have any kids at home since you have grandkids, | 听起来你家里没有孩子 自从你有了孙子以后 |
| 408 | so I guess that is one positive. | 所以我想,这是一个积极的。 |
| 409 | You don't have kids you need to think about or worry about since they're all grown up and have their own family. | 你没有孩子,你需要思考或担心 因为他们都长大了,有自己的家庭。 |
| 410 | I would definitely say couples counseling though, because you've been married for many, many years. | 我当然会说夫妻咨询 因为你们已经结婚很多年了 |
| 411 | I would say like at least like 30 years or something. | 我至少要说30年什么的 |
| 412 | So after that long, I think if you've never got a couple's counseling and you've never like dealt with something like this, | 所以过了这么久,我想如果你从来没有 得到一对夫妇的咨询 而且你从来没有喜欢处理这样的事情, |
| 413 | that's a good starting point. | 这是一个很好的起点。 |
| 414 | Let's read some of the comments. | 我们来读读一些评论吧 |
| 415 | I'd sit down and talk about this and focus entirely on you and what you need. | 我会坐下来谈谈这件事 并且把注意力全放在你身上 以及你需要什么 |
| 416 | Do not say the words you are cycling too much or it will become an argument about whether he is cycling too much. | 不要说出你骑太多的词 否则他是不是骑太多了 |
| 417 | Instead, say I need to spend more time with you or I need to know that you'll be physically present on holidays and vacations | 相反,说我要花更多的时间 与你或我需要知道,你会 身体在节日和假期 |
| 418 | and ask him how he's going to make that happen. | 问如何是法身. |
| 419 | Honestly, a solution is moving to a cold, cold country because you can't cycle in the winter. | 老实说,一个解决方案是转移到一个寒冷的国家,因为冬天你不能循环. |
| 420 | Move to Canada or like northern United States. | 迁居加拿大或类似美国北部. |
| 421 | These are also great conversations to have with a couple's counselor who can help mediate the conversation. | 与一对夫妇的辅导员交谈, |
| 422 | How does he respond when you brought it up to him seriously that you feel lonely and that you guys are barely spending time together? | 当你严肃地告诉他,你感到孤独,你们几乎不在一起的时候,他有什么反应? |
| 423 | He might be better for a couple of days or a week, but that's it. | 他可能好几天或一个星期,但就是这样。 |
| 424 | I love him so much, but he's always been selfish and self-centered, always about him and what he wants. | 我非常爱他,但他总是自私和自我中心,总是关心他和他想要什么. |
| 425 | I don't see any changes ahead. | 前面没有变化 |
| 426 | I've been dealing with this for years now, but leaving me every holiday is a new height. | 我处理这件事已经好几年了 但每次放假都是个新的高度 |
| 427 | Honestly, sounds like this is just a progression of what he's always been like. | 老实说,这听起来只是 他一直以来的进化。 |
| 428 | Only now he doesn't care to even pretend anymore. | 只是现在他不想再装了 |
| 429 | Sounds like it's almost straying into some sort of compulsion or addiction territory. | 听起来它几乎迷失到 某种强制或瘾境。 |
| 430 | Leaving you on holidays is pretty ridiculous. | 离开你度假是相当荒谬的。 |
| 431 | It is. | 没错 |
| 432 | Are you ready to give him an ultimatum? | 你准备好给他最后通牒了吗? |
| 433 | If you do this, you have to be prepared to follow through. | 如果你这样做,你必须做好后续的准备。 |
| 434 | When someone is deep into addiction slash obsession, getting more of it is all that matters. | 当某人深深沉迷于瘾君子的痴迷中时, 获得更多的迷恋才是最重要的。 |
| 435 | If you don't want to divorce him, maybe you can start living your life as if you were single. | 如果你不想和他离婚, 也许你可以开始你的生活 就像你是单身。 |
| 436 | Not in a cheating way or anything, but going out and doing stuff for yourself. | 不是在作弊的方式什么的, 而是出去 做一些为自己的东西。 |
| 437 | Hang out with friends or family you like to hang out with. | 和你喜欢和朋友或家人一起玩 |
| 438 | Plan some excursions with them. | 计划和他们一起旅行 |
| 439 | Learn how to live a happy life on your own accord. | 学如何是自在乐生. |
| 440 | It may be hard at first, but you can make your life fulfilling. | 一开始可能很难 但你可以让你的生活满足 |
| 441 | I think this is the best answer. | 我认为这是最好的答案。 |
| 442 | And if you end up separating, you won't feel like you're starting from square one | 如果你最后分手了 你就不会觉得你从头开始 |
| 443 | because you have already built up a circle outside of him. | 因为你已经在他外面筑了一个圈子 |
| 444 | Hopefully, maybe look into book clubs in your area. | 希望,也许看看 在你的地区读书俱乐部。 |
| 445 | That's a nice easy way to meet some new people. | 认识新人很方便 |
| 446 | Also, there are fantastic tour companies that cater for solo travel. | 而且,还有一些很棒的旅游公司 迎合独行旅行。 |
| 447 | Yeah, I think that's the best advice. | 是的,我认为这是最好的建议。 |
| 448 | Start branching out and doing stuff outside of him. | 开始分枝 做他之外的东西。 |
| 449 | Go find a new hobby. | 去寻找一个新的爱好。 |
| 450 | Meet new people. | 见新人. |
| 451 | Join a book club. | 加入读书社. |
| 452 | Join a hiking club or a pickleball club. | 加入徒步俱乐部或泡菜俱乐部. |
| 453 | Go spend time with your family. | 去和家人相处 |
| 454 | Go see your children, your grant, your grandchildren. | 去看看你的孩子,你的赠款,你的孙子 |
| 455 | You know, spend time with people close to you because as you get older, | 你知道,花时间与你身边的人 因为当你长大了, |
| 456 | the one thing that matters is like human connection. | 唯一重要的就是人类的联系 |
| 457 | And of course, you want to be the most connected to the person that you're married to, | 当然,你想成为最 与你结婚的人, |
| 458 | like your partner. | 就像你的搭档 |
| 459 | That's the person you number one want connection to. | 这就是你第一想联系的人 |
| 460 | But if they don't want connection to you and you've been like that for years | 但如果他们不想和你联系 你就一直这样 |
| 461 | and they have shown that they've just gotten worse, | 他们已经证明 他们刚刚变得更糟, |
| 462 | then just start forming connections with other important people in your life. | 然后开始和你生活中其他重要人物建立联系 |
| 463 | Obviously not cheating because you're still married. | 显然不是因为你结婚了才作弊的 |
| 464 | Connections with your children, your grandchildren, friends, | 与你的孩子,你的孙子,朋友, |
| 465 | maybe childhood friends, you know, catch up with new people. | 也许童年的朋友, 你知道,赶上新人。 |
| 466 | Make sure to like and subscribe guys. | 确保喜欢和订阅的家伙。 |
| 467 | Let me know in the comments any opinions on these stories | 在评论中告诉我对这些故事有什么看法 |
| 468 | and I'll see you guys in the next video. | 下段录像见 |
| 469 | Bye-bye. | 再见 |
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