男朋友在中国给她转钱，她身边却有两个男人
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| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:00 | She came clean after 10 years. | 十年后她就干净了 |
| 0:03 | I got cheated on and it's a crazy story. | 我被骗了 这故事很疯狂 |
| 0:06 | I found out my wife has been living a double life | 我发现我太太过着双重生活 |
| 0:09 | through her old iPad. | 通过她的旧iPad。 |
| 0:11 | My wife's affair broke something in me | 我老婆的外遇让我心碎 |
| 0:13 | that still hasn't healed. | 还没痊愈 |
| 0:15 | 19 female, I cheated on my boyfriend again. | 19个女人,我又背叛了男朋友 |
| 0:18 | Welcome back to new video everyone. | 欢迎大家回到新录影带 |
| 0:20 | Today we're gonna be reading stories | 今天我们要读故事 |
| 0:22 | from r slash cheating stories. | 从斜线欺骗故事。 |
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| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | She came clean after 10 years. | 十年后她就干净了 |
| 2 | I got cheated on and it's a crazy story. | 我被骗了 这故事很疯狂 |
| 3 | I found out my wife has been living a double life | 我发现我太太过着双重生活 |
| 4 | through her old iPad. | 通过她的旧iPad。 |
| 5 | My wife's affair broke something in me | 我老婆的外遇让我心碎 |
| 6 | that still hasn't healed. | 还没痊愈 |
| 7 | 19 female, I cheated on my boyfriend again. | 19个女人,我又背叛了男朋友 |
| 8 | Welcome back to new video everyone. | 欢迎大家回到新录影带 |
| 9 | Today we're gonna be reading stories | 今天我们要读故事 |
| 10 | from r slash cheating stories. | 从斜线欺骗故事。 |
| 11 | If there's one thing I really genuinely hate, | 如果有一件事我真的非常讨厌 |
| 12 | it's cheaters and cheating. | 这是骗子和骗子。 |
| 13 | So I think all of these are from the victims, | 所以,我认为所有这些 是从受害者, |
| 14 | the person getting cheated on. | 被骗的人。 |
| 15 | Let's get started though. | 让我们开始吧。 |
| 16 | She came clean after 10 years. | 十年后她就干净了 |
| 17 | 10 years. | 十年时间 |
| 18 | Fuck dude. | 他妈的家伙。 |
| 19 | Imagine living a lie for 10 years. | 想象一下 活了十年的谎言 |
| 20 | That's essentially what you were living. | 这基本上是你当时的生活。 |
| 21 | You were thinking your relationship was so good, | 你以为你的关系这么好 |
| 22 | so bliss, so perfect, | 如此幸福,如此完美, |
| 23 | but she cheated 10 years ago. | 但她10年前作弊了 |
| 24 | Oh man, what a betrayal. | 哦,伙计,多么背叛。 |
| 25 | She not only betrayed you by cheating, | 她不仅通过欺骗背叛了你, |
| 26 | but she betrayed you by keeping the truth from you | 但她背叛了你 瞒着你真相 |
| 27 | for 10 years. | 10年来。 |
| 28 | For 10 years of our marriage, | 我们结婚十年了 |
| 29 | I had to live with the suspicion | 我不得不忍受这种怀疑 |
| 30 | that she had cheated on me before we got married. | 她骗了我 在我们结婚之前。 |
| 31 | Oh, so he had a suspicion | 哦,所以他有一个怀疑 |
| 32 | and he lived with that for 10 years | 他和那个生活了十年 |
| 33 | and I'm sure he asked | 我肯定他问 |
| 34 | and she said, no, I never did, never did for 10 years. | 她说,不,我从来没有,从来没有 十年。 |
| 35 | Oh my gosh, that is heartbreaking. | 哦,我的上帝,这是令人心碎的。 |
| 36 | We've argued about the situation since then | 我们从那时起就一直争吵着 |
| 37 | and it would come up at least once a year | 并且每年至少出现一次 |
| 38 | until finally this year she came clean | 直到今年她终于脱身了 |
| 39 | and told me everything I had ever suspected is true. | 并告诉我 我曾经怀疑的一切是真实的。 |
| 40 | Sucks to say that even though it was long ago, | 很难说,尽管那是很久以前, |
| 41 | it still feels fresh as I sit here | 我坐在这里感觉还是新鲜的 |
| 42 | thinking that my marriage started off as a lie. | 认为我的婚姻是谎言 |
| 43 | She had multiple opportunities to come clean, | 她有很多机会可以坦白 |
| 44 | especially before starting a family | 特别是在组建家庭之前 |
| 45 | and yet she chose to come clean this year | 但她选择了今年的清白 |
| 46 | and she didn't just come clearing out of the blue | 她不光是突然冒出来 |
| 47 | or because she felt bad. | 或者因为她觉得不好 |
| 48 | You asked her every year for 10 years | 你每年都问她十年 |
| 49 | and after 10 years, that's when she came clean. | 10年之后,她终于洗清罪名 |
| 50 | What you did was not nice. | 你所做的不好吗? |
| 51 | She admitted it happened multiple times with a co-worker | 她承认跟同事发生了很多次 |
| 52 | during a time our relationship was rocky | 那时候我们的关系很不稳定 |
| 53 | and she still kept in contact with the guy | 她仍然和那个家伙保持联系 |
| 54 | for four years into our marriage. | 我们结婚四年了 |
| 55 | Like, really? | 像,真的吗? |
| 56 | This is worse, this is worse than I thought. | 这比我想象的还要糟 |
| 57 | Not only was it a co-worker, | 不仅是同事 |
| 58 | she probably continued to work with him | 她可能继续跟他合作 |
| 59 | after you got married. | 在你结婚后 |
| 60 | She was staying in contact with him | 她一直和他保持联系 |
| 61 | for four years after your marriage | 结婚四年后 |
| 62 | and most likely he broke off contact, not her. | 他很可能断绝了联系 不是她 |
| 63 | Wow. | 珃 |
| 64 | She says those four years were respectful conversations | 她说这4年的谈话很尊重人 |
| 65 | but how respectful is it really | 但它是多么的敬重 |
| 66 | when you had sex with the guy you cheated on me with | 当你和你欺骗我的男人做爱时 |
| 67 | and still talk to him behind my back? | 还背着我跟他说话? |
| 68 | Yeah, she's just trying to downplay the severity. | 是啊,她只是想降低 严重性。 |
| 69 | Sorry, sub, sorry for the rant but it's like WTF. | 对不起,潜艇,对不起,但这就像WTF。 |
| 70 | We've been separated for five months since then | 从那以后我们分开五个月了 |
| 71 | but it still hurts. | 但还是很疼 |
| 72 | Update, kids are definitely mine. | 最新消息 孩子们绝对是我的 |
| 73 | There's no denying that. | 不可否认 |
| 74 | They look like just like me | 他们长得跟我一样 |
| 75 | so I won't ever question that. | 所以我永远不会质疑这一点。 |
| 76 | Let's read some comments, dude. | 让我们看看一些评论,伙计。 |
| 77 | This is crazy. | 这太疯狂了 |
| 78 | It may have happened years ago | 可能发生在几年前 |
| 79 | but finding out now is a fresh wound. | 但发现现在是个新伤口 |
| 80 | If she didn't respect you then or now, she will never. | 如果她当时或现在不尊重你, 她永远不会。 |
| 81 | This, tell the AP's wife. | 这个,告诉AP的妻子。 |
| 82 | Another person commented, | 另一个人评论说, |
| 83 | from this information the affair continued | 从这一信息来看,此事仍在继续 |
| 84 | after you got married. | 在你结婚后 |
| 85 | Yeah, even if it wasn't physical | 对,即使不是身体上的 |
| 86 | it was definitely still emotional | 肯定还是很激动 |
| 87 | because you don't just stay in contact | 因为你不只是保持联络 |
| 88 | with someone for four years | 和一个人在一起四年 |
| 89 | and just be respectful. | 尊重一点 |
| 90 | No. | 没有 |
| 91 | As long as she was in contact with her AP | 只要她与她的AP接触 |
| 92 | even if they weren't being physical | 即使他们不是身体上的 |
| 93 | they continued to have an emotional affair. | 他们继续有感情上的外遇 |
| 94 | Exactly. | 没错 |
| 95 | I hope that they are getting counseling | 我希望他们能得到咨询 |
| 96 | and have spoken with a lawyer. | 和律师谈过了 |
| 97 | You should read Tracy Scroent, | 你应该读特蕾西·斯克伦特 |
| 98 | leave a cheater, gain a life. | 留下一个骗子,获得一个生活。 |
| 99 | Do you know if her AP is also married | 你知道她是否也结婚了 |
| 100 | and if she is trying to reconcile with you? | 如果她是想和你和解吗? |
| 101 | Someone else commented, | 别人评论, |
| 102 | DNA test the kids, | DNA测试孩子们, |
| 103 | lawyer up, she lied for 10 years. | 她骗了10年 |
| 104 | How would you expect her to change? | 你怎么指望她改变? |
| 105 | Update me. | 更新我。 |
| 106 | I know he said, | 我知道他说, |
| 107 | oh, the kids are definitely mine and stuff | 哦,孩子们绝对是我的东西 |
| 108 | but it doesn't hurt to do a DNA test. | 但做DNA测试并不痛 |
| 109 | I feel like that peace of mind | 感觉就像平静的心灵 |
| 110 | being 100% certain they're your kids | 百分百确定他们是你的孩子 |
| 111 | is worth the DNA test. | 这是值得的DNA测试。 |
| 112 | Even though they look like your kids and everything | 虽然他们看起来像你的孩子和一切 |
| 113 | would be something that was never a lie | 永远不是谎言 |
| 114 | that your kids were your kids. | 你的孩子们是你的孩子。 |
| 115 | Why did she come clean now? | 为什么她现在要坦白? |
| 116 | Did you or was it her that wanted to separate? | 是你还是她想分开的? |
| 117 | Most cheaters cheat again. | 大部分骗子又作弊了 |
| 118 | It's the same that she wasted so much of your time. | 她浪费了你这么多时间 |
| 119 | I guess she came clean | 我想她已经洗干净了 |
| 120 | because I decided to separate before knowing all this. | 因为我在知道这一切之前就决定分开 |
| 121 | We got into a bad argument | 我们吵架了 |
| 122 | and I was over everything. | 我一切都结束了 |
| 123 | After a week of separation, | 离别一周后 |
| 124 | we had a combo where I told her | 我们有一个组合,我告诉她 |
| 125 | I'm done living in resentment and doubts. | 我不再生活在怨恨和怀疑之中了 |
| 126 | It's uncomfortable. | 这很不舒服。 |
| 127 | We had a situation prior to this | 这件事之前我们有状况 |
| 128 | where I saw she was still talking to him | 我看见她还在跟他说话 |
| 129 | through another app she had locked. | 通过另一个她锁的应用程序。 |
| 130 | When I confronted her about it, | 当我和她对质时 |
| 131 | she tried to deny communication with him | 她试图拒绝与他联系 |
| 132 | but once I showed her the pics I had, | 但一旦我给她看了我的照片 |
| 133 | she stormed off. | 她冲走了 |
| 134 | Wow. | 珃 |
| 135 | During our discussion after separation, | 在我们分居后的讨论期间, |
| 136 | I told her she never even apologized for that | 我告诉她她从没为此道歉过 |
| 137 | or incidents like that | 或者那样的事件 |
| 138 | and she came clean. | 然后她就当真了 |
| 139 | Get a lawyer paternity test | 找律师做父亲测试 |
| 140 | and go through your financials | 和通过你的财务 |
| 141 | to make sure she wasn't spending joint money on the affair. | 以确保她没有花 共同的钱在外遇。 |
| 142 | Then just end it. | 那就结束吧 |
| 143 | She's completely untrustworthy | 她完全不值得信赖 |
| 144 | and she doesn't seem to care about how much she hurt you. | 她似乎不在乎她伤害了你多少 |
| 145 | Build a new life | 创造新生活 |
| 146 | and use parenting apps for child communications | 并使用育儿应用程序进行儿童沟通 |
| 147 | and then block her from everything else. | 然后阻止她进入其他一切 |
| 148 | I wouldn't even want to hear her voice again | 我甚至不想再听到她的声音 |
| 149 | and now she's free to be cheating piece of garbage | 现在她可以自由 作弊一块垃圾 |
| 150 | and ruin somebody else's life. | 毁了别人的生活 |
| 151 | She was cheating all along. | 她一直在欺骗。 |
| 152 | It's hard to accept that the person you put your trust into | 很难接受你信任的人 |
| 153 | could deceive you like this. | 可以欺骗你这样。 |
| 154 | She was cheating elites those four years. | 那四年她欺骗了精英 |
| 155 | God knows what else happened after that. | 天知道之后会发生什么事 |
| 156 | You don't know. | 汝不识. |
| 157 | A leopard doesn't change their spots. | 豹子不会改变它们的斑点. |
| 158 | DNA test, man. | DNA测试,男人。 |
| 159 | It's a tough pill to swallow. | 坚固丸吞下. |
| 160 | Man, I do agree, at least for those four years, | 伙计 我同意 至少这四年 |
| 161 | even if literally nothing physical happened, | 即使物理上什么都没有发生 |
| 162 | which I honestly, I would bet money | 老实说 我赌钱 |
| 163 | that a lot of physical stuff happened in those four years, | 那四年里发生了很多物理事件 |
| 164 | it's still emotional cheating | 还是感情上的作弊 |
| 165 | because she was in contact for four years with that person. | 因为她和那个人接触了四年 |
| 166 | You know? | 你知道吗? |
| 167 | I do agree with the DNA test. | 我同意DNA测试 |
| 168 | Better just to have that peace of mind, | 最好是保持平静 |
| 169 | even though they look like your kids, | 即使他们看起来像你的孩子, |
| 170 | just have that peace of mind. | 保持冷静 |
| 171 | Not to throw salt in the wound, | 别把盐扔进伤口里 |
| 172 | but you stated you have a family | 但你说你有个家庭 |
| 173 | and that she stayed in contact with him | 她和他保持联系 |
| 174 | for four years after you were married. | 在你结婚四年后 |
| 175 | Are you sure it was only communications? | 你确定只是通信吗? |
| 176 | Did she provide proof of that | 她有没有证明 |
| 177 | and any questions about paternity? | 还有关于父亲的问题吗? |
| 178 | Also, it seems to be more than four years | 而且,似乎已经超过四年了 |
| 179 | if you found evidence of them still being in touch. | 如果你发现了他们还在联系的证据 |
| 180 | She's clearly a dishonest person, | 她显然是一个不诚实的人, |
| 181 | so you should treat everything out of her mouth | 所以,你应该 治疗一切从她的嘴 |
| 182 | at least suspicious, | 至少可疑, |
| 183 | especially if she's only giving you the version | 特别是如果她给你的版本 |
| 184 | making her look least guilty. | 让她看起来罪最轻 |
| 185 | Yeah, that is true. | 是的,这是真的。 |
| 186 | He did mention that he did see | 他确实提到他看到了 |
| 187 | she was still in contact with him on an app recently | 她最近还在一个应用程序上和他联系 |
| 188 | and then they separated like recently. | 然后他们像最近一样分开了 |
| 189 | So honestly, it's probably for the 10 years, dude, literally. | 老实说,这大概是 10年,伙计,字面上。 |
| 190 | This is sad. | 这是可悲的。 |
| 191 | Honestly, for 10 years, | 老实说,十年 |
| 192 | if someone cheated on you for 10 years, | 如果有人骗了你十年 |
| 193 | you shouldn't even give them a second thought. | 你甚至不应该给他们一个第二个想法。 |
| 194 | Just go. | 刚走。 |
| 195 | Think about your kids. | 想想你的孩子们 |
| 196 | Try to sort something out | 试着解决一下 |
| 197 | depending on how old they are. | 这要看他们多大了 |
| 198 | Only communicate with her for the kids. | 只为孩子们和她交流 |
| 199 | I don't think you could be with this person | 我想你不可能和这个人在一起 |
| 200 | that lied to you for 10 years | 骗了你十年 |
| 201 | and then said that they're not in contact with the AP | 然后说他们和AP没有联系 |
| 202 | when they still are 10 years later. | 当他们仍然 10年后。 |
| 203 | It's crazy. | 太疯狂了 |
| 204 | Really selfish. | 真的很自私,这太自私了 |
| 205 | Next story. | 下一个故事。 |
| 206 | I got cheated on and it's a crazy story. | 我被骗了 这故事很疯狂 |
| 207 | First of all, my ex had her grad party | 首先,我前妻有她的毕业派对 |
| 208 | about two years ago. | 大约两年前 |
| 209 | I wasn't there. | 我不在场。 |
| 210 | The graduates didn't want any outsiders, | 毕业生不想要任何外人, |
| 211 | but it didn't bother me. | 但这并不困扰我。 |
| 212 | So let me explain. | 让我解释一下 |
| 213 | LOL. | 乐。 |
| 214 | So my ex and I broke up a couple of weeks ago | 我和前妻几周前分手了 |
| 215 | and yes, it bothered me, | 是的,它困扰我, |
| 216 | but she moved on quick | 不过她走得很快 |
| 217 | and I've seen her with multiple guys already. | 我见过她和多个男人在一起 |
| 218 | But two years ago, | 但两年前 |
| 219 | I got a phone call from my ex | 我接到我前夫的电话 |
| 220 | and she said she cheated on me | 她说她骗了我 |
| 221 | and she was crying | 她哭了起来 |
| 222 | and she said that one of the guys there kissed her | 她说有个男人亲了她 |
| 223 | because they were talking around the campfire | 因为他们在营火周围聊天 |
| 224 | and she brought her camper down there too. | 她把她的露营车也带到那里 |
| 225 | But she told me the guy was going through a breakup | 但她告诉我那家伙正在经历分手 |
| 226 | and she was trying to calm him down | 她想让他冷静下来 |
| 227 | and he reached out and kissed her. | 他伸手亲吻了她 |
| 228 | So I thought, oh, that ain't so bad. | 所以我想,哦,这不是那么糟糕。 |
| 229 | But I was still pissed. | 但我还是很生气 |
| 230 | Bro, I understand like that, | 兄弟,我这样理解 |
| 231 | but your girlfriend shouldn't be like, | 但你的女朋友不应该像, |
| 232 | in my opinion, shouldn't be trying to comfort | 在我看来,不应该试图安慰 |
| 233 | someone that just broke up with their girl. | 刚和女儿分手的人 |
| 234 | Like, yeah, you can comfort him, | 喜欢,是的,你可以安慰他, |
| 235 | but there still has to be some sort of boundary | 但还是有某种界限 |
| 236 | because she's in a relationship. | 因为她的关系。 |
| 237 | Like there still has to be some sort of boundary, | 就像还有某种界限一样 |
| 238 | especially if a guy tries to come in for a kiss and kiss, | 尤其是如果有人想进来亲吻 |
| 239 | immediately back way runoff, | 紧接着径流 |
| 240 | then that guy just doesn't matter | 那那个人就无所谓了 |
| 241 | because he just crossed the boundary. | 因为他刚越过边界 |
| 242 | He knows she's in a relationship | 他知道她有关系 |
| 243 | and he tried to kiss her | 他想亲她 |
| 244 | because he got broken up within his, | 因为他在内心中被打破了 |
| 245 | he's heartbroken | 他很伤心 |
| 246 | and now he thinks he can make someone else cheat | 现在他认为他可以让别人作弊 |
| 247 | to make himself feel better. | 让自己感觉好点 |
| 248 | Extremely selfish person. | 极度自私的人。 |
| 249 | If I was the girlfriend, | 如果我是那个女朋友 |
| 250 | I would cut this guy off. | 我会切断他。 |
| 251 | I would cut him off completely | 我会完全切断他 |
| 252 | if it was my friend and they try to do that. | 如果这是我的朋友 他们试图做到这一点。 |
| 253 | But I have a feeling that isn't the full story | 但我有种感觉,这不是完整的故事 |
| 254 | or the truth. | 或者说真相 |
| 255 | I feel like there's a lot more there. | 我觉得那里还有很多 |
| 256 | But I got back together with her | 但我和她重归于好 |
| 257 | and throughout the whole relationship, | 在整个关系中, |
| 258 | she was going behind my back | 她背着我走 |
| 259 | and flirting with guys | 和男人调情 |
| 260 | that I didn't even know about until a week ago. | 一周前我才知道这件事 |
| 261 | But that's not the whole story. | 但这不是整个故事。 |
| 262 | That's another thing. | 这是另一回事。 |
| 263 | You shouldn't make someone else's relationship problem | 你不应该让别人的感情出问题 |
| 264 | your problem. | 你的问题。 |
| 265 | If someone else breaks up and they have all this, | 如果有人分手了 他们拥有这一切 |
| 266 | even if you're friends, | 即使你们是朋友 |
| 267 | yeah, it's okay. | 是啊,没关系。 |
| 268 | Be a good friend, be there for them. | 做个好朋友,陪着他们 |
| 269 | You shouldn't let someone else's relationship | 你不应该让别人的关系 |
| 270 | impact yours or affect yours. | 影响你的或影响你的。 |
| 271 | If you think that going out | 如果你觉得会出事 |
| 272 | and helping your friend in their relationship | 和帮助你的朋友 在他们的关系 |
| 273 | or if they broke up and stuff | 或者,如果他们分手之类的 |
| 274 | is going to negatively affect your relationship, | 将会对你们的关系产生负面影响 |
| 275 | I don't think you should do that | 我不觉得你应该这么做 |
| 276 | because your primary focus should be | 因为你的首要重点应该是 |
| 277 | on your partner and your relationship | 关于你的伴侣和关系 |
| 278 | and trying to keep that strong | 并试图保持这个强力 |
| 279 | and put that as the top priority, | 并将此作为头等大事, |
| 280 | not your friend's relationship | 不是你的朋友的关系 |
| 281 | or trying to solve your friend's problem and stuff. | 或者试图解决你朋友的问题 |
| 282 | Your partner should be | 你的搭档应该是 |
| 283 | the most important person to you. | 对你最重要的人 |
| 284 | And if they're not, | 如果他们不是, |
| 285 | then why are you together? | 那你们为什么在一起? |
| 286 | If they're not, | 如果他们不是, |
| 287 | I feel like you just don't see them | 我感觉你根本没看见他们 |
| 288 | as someone that you would be with long term | 作为你将会长期陪伴的人 |
| 289 | because if you do truly see someone | 因为如果你真的看到了一个人 |
| 290 | as like a life partner | 像个生活伴侣 |
| 291 | that you could spend your life with them, | 你可以和他们共度一生 |
| 292 | then you'd be able to make sacrifices | 这样你就能做出牺牲了 |
| 293 | and willing to sacrifice things for them. | 愿意为他们牺牲一切 |
| 294 | But if you don't, then obviously you wouldn't, you know. | 但是如果你不这样做,那么很明显你不会,你知道的。 |
| 295 | I was talking to my ex's close friend, | 我和前夫的密友说话 |
| 296 | but I don't think she's friends with her anymore. | 但我觉得她不再是朋友了 |
| 297 | But she told me that at her grad party, | 但她告诉我 在她的研究生派对上 |
| 298 | she brought this guy named Dylan into her camper | 她把一个叫迪伦的人带到她的露营车里 |
| 299 | and she locked the door | 她把门锁上了 |
| 300 | and the graduates knew she had a boyfriend | 毕业生知道她有个男朋友 |
| 301 | and she was sleeping with him in there. | 她和他在那里睡觉。 |
| 302 | So the graduates tried breaking in | 毕业生想闯进来 |
| 303 | and they caught them | 他们抓住了他们 |
| 304 | when they opened the window. | 当他们打开窗户的时候。 |
| 305 | So they stopped | 所以他们停下来了 |
| 306 | and she apparently punched | 她显然打了一拳 |
| 307 | one of the people trying to break in. | 有人想闯进来 |
| 308 | They were completely naked | 他们完全裸体 |
| 309 | and her friend said | 她的朋友说 |
| 310 | she's known to do this to her boyfriends | 她知道这样对她男朋友 |
| 311 | because she had cheated in her past. | 因为她过去是作弊的 |
| 312 | But I didn't know anything about this | 但我对此一无所知 |
| 313 | because she always played the victim card | 因为她总是打受害者卡 |
| 314 | and thought everything was fine. | 觉得一切都很好 |
| 315 | I have nothing to worry about. | 我没什么好担心的 |
| 316 | And everyone that has been close to me | 和我亲近的每一个人 |
| 317 | has said the same thing, | 也说过同样的话, |
| 318 | but I brought it up to her | 但是,我把它给她 |
| 319 | and she just got pissed off | 她刚刚生气了 |
| 320 | and said, believe what you want. | 并说,相信你想要的。 |
| 321 | She never really gave me a straight answer. | 她从来没有真正给我一个直的答案。 |
| 322 | So yeah, I'm pissed, | 所以,是的,我气疯了, |
| 323 | but I'm glad I'm out of that shit. | 但我很高兴我从那狗屎。 |
| 324 | Honestly, this guy does not seem very pissed, dude. | 老实说,这家伙看起来不是很生气,伙计。 |
| 325 | If I knew like my girlfriend was, | 如果我知道我的女朋友一样, |
| 326 | or my ex was essentially cheating on me | 或者我前夫根本上是在欺骗我 |
| 327 | the entire relationship and I found out after, | 整个关系和我发现后, |
| 328 | yeah, it's the past. | 是啊,这是过去。 |
| 329 | So I'm not going to really let it affect me too much. | 所以我不会真的让它影响我太多。 |
| 330 | I would still be pissed, dude. | 我仍然会生气,伙计。 |
| 331 | I would like, I would be really upset. | 我想,我会非常难过。 |
| 332 | I'd be like, what the, | 我会像,什么, |
| 333 | I wasted two years of my life, dude, | 我浪费了我的两年生命,伙计, |
| 334 | on this terrible person. | 这可怕的人。 |
| 335 | I would be really upset, man. | 我会很不高兴的,伙计。 |
| 336 | I genuinely. | 我是认真的 |
| 337 | Let's read some of the comments. | 我们来读读一些评论吧 |
| 338 | She was cheating all along. | 她一直在欺骗。 |
| 339 | Of course she moved on quickly. | 当然,她走得很快。 |
| 340 | She had replacements lined up | 她有替补排队 |
| 341 | Some people are like that. | 有些人就是这样 |
| 342 | Life is harsh. | 人生严酷. |
| 343 | Sounds like someone with BPD. | 听起来像是有BPD的人 |
| 344 | Yep. | 对 |
| 345 | She has never been faithful. | 她从来都不忠心 |
| 346 | Be glad you learned before you got married. | 很高兴你还没结婚就知道了 |
| 347 | But he still dated her for like two years. | 但他还是和她约会了两年 |
| 348 | So I guess the only positive he got out of that is, | 所以我想他唯一能肯定的就是... |
| 349 | you know, make sure you know the person well | 你知道,确保你很了解这个人 |
| 350 | before you like commit into an actual relationship. | 之前,你喜欢承诺 一个真正的关系。 |
| 351 | And once you're in there, | 一旦你进去了 |
| 352 | maybe watch out for signs like, | 也许要注意标志,比如, |
| 353 | because I'm sure there were signs like | 因为我相信有象 |
| 354 | she was either very touchy or flirty with men | 她不是很敏感就是很调情 |
| 355 | or like like that attention or like sought attention. | 或者喜欢那样的注意 或者喜欢寻求注意。 |
| 356 | And I'm not saying just those actions make you a cheater, | 我不是说那些行为 让你成为一个骗子, |
| 357 | but I don't know. | 不过我不知道 |
| 358 | It's I don't know. | 是无我知. |
| 359 | If a cheater wants to cheat, they'll cheat. | 如果一个作弊者想要作弊,他们会作弊. |
| 360 | Even if you're watching them, | 即使你看着他们 |
| 361 | you're checking their phone. | 你在检查他们的电话 |
| 362 | If a cheater wants to cheat, they'll just find a way. | 如果作弊者想作弊,他们就会找到办法. |
| 363 | The most you do is just hope you | 你最擅长的就是希望你 |
| 364 | find out sooner rather than later. | 早点知道 |
| 365 | Next story. | 下一个故事。 |
| 366 | I found out my wife has been living a double life | 我发现我太太过着双重生活 |
| 367 | through her old iPad. | 通过她的旧iPad。 |
| 368 | I, 34 male, have been married to my wife, | 我,34男,已经嫁给了我的妻子, |
| 369 | Sarah, 32 female, for about five years. | 莎拉,32名女性,约5年。 |
| 370 | We always had what I thought was a very solid, | 我们总是有我 认为是一个非常坚实的, |
| 371 | stable relationship. | 稳定的关系。 |
| 372 | No big fights. | 无大争斗. |
| 373 | No suspicious behavior. | 没有可疑的行为。 |
| 374 | Just a quiet life together. | 只是一个安静的生活在一起。 |
| 375 | We live in the suburbs, work normal jobs, | 我们住在郊区,做正常的工作, |
| 376 | and mostly just spend our evenings watching Netflix or cooking. | 晚上主要看Netflix或做饭 |
| 377 | I honestly thought we were the boring but happy couple. | 我真心觉得我们是无聊但快乐的一对 |
| 378 | Everything changed three days ago. | 三天前一切都变了 |
| 379 | Sarah left her old iPad at home | 莎拉把旧的iPad留在家里 |
| 380 | when she went to visit her sister for the weekend. | 她周末去看她妹妹的时候 |
| 381 | I went to grab it because I needed to check a shared calendar, | 我去拿了,因为我需要检查一个共享日历, |
| 382 | but the device was unlocked and sitting on the kitchen island. | 但装置被解锁 并坐在厨房岛上。 |
| 383 | I wasn't snooping. | 我没有偷窥。 |
| 384 | I swear. | 我发誓 |
| 385 | Honestly, that's one thing I notice a lot. | 老实说,这就是我经常注意到的一件事。 |
| 386 | People are like, I wasn't snooping. | 人们都喜欢,我没有偷窥。 |
| 387 | I wasn't trying to look. | 我没想看 |
| 388 | I wasn't... | 我没有... |
| 389 | If you're dating, they shouldn't have anything to hide. | 如果你在约会 他们不该隐瞒什么 |
| 390 | Yeah, I understand. | 是的,我明白了,我明白了。 \ N |
| 391 | It's a vision of privacy if you check without asking them. | 这是隐私的愿景 如果你检查而不问他们。 |
| 392 | But if you're ever curious, you can just ask your partner, | 但如果你好奇的话 你可以问问你的搭档 |
| 393 | oh, can I check your messages? | 我能检查一下你的留言吗? |
| 394 | Can I check this, that? | 我能检查一下吗? |
| 395 | And if they get super, super crazy defensive, | 如果他们得到超级,超级疯狂的防御, |
| 396 | then I guess that's kind of your answer. | 那我猜这就是你的答案 |
| 397 | You don't really need to check. | 你不需要检查。 |
| 398 | But obviously, if they have nothing to hide, | 但很明显 如果他们没什么可隐瞒的 |
| 399 | it's like, okay, go for it. | 这就像,好吧,去。 |
| 400 | Like, if someone asks me, oh, can I check this? | 如果有人问我 我能检查一下吗? |
| 401 | Take it. | 拿着 |
| 402 | Go. | 开始吧 |
| 403 | If you have something to hide, | 如果你有什么要隐瞒的 |
| 404 | yeah, you're going to be more like, oh, why? | 是啊,你会更喜欢, 哦,为什么? |
| 405 | Defensive and stuff. | 防御和东西。 |
| 406 | But you can tell a lot just by asking. | 但你只要问问就能分辨出很多 |
| 407 | So a lot of times, you don't even need to check their phone. | 所以很多时候,你甚至不需要检查他们的手机。 |
| 408 | You can just ask, oh, can you give me your phone and unlock it? | 你可以问,哦,你能把手机给我,打开它吗? |
| 409 | I want to check. | 我想检查一下。 |
| 410 | And if they're super defensive, it's not a guarantee. | 而且如果他们是超级防守的,那也不是保证. |
| 411 | But you know, that's a pretty... | 但是,你知道, 这是一个漂亮的... |
| 412 | You kind of assume stuff from there. | 你有点假设 从那里的东西。 |
| 413 | I just wanted to see if we had any plans for next week. | 我只是想看看我们下周是否有计划 |
| 414 | But then a notification popped up. | 但后来突然有通知 |
| 415 | 那是一个叫马克的iMessage | |
| 416 | The preview just said, I miss you so much. | 预览说,我好想你 |
| 417 | Can't wait for next weekend. | 下个周末不能等了 |
| 418 | No, I love you. | 不 我爱你 |
| 419 | That's crazy. | 这太疯狂了 |
| 420 | My heart dropped immediately. | 我的心立刻坠落。 |
| 421 | Oh my gosh. | 天呐 |
| 422 | Just imagine that feeling of seeing this text message come up. | 想象一下看到这个短信出现的感觉 |
| 423 | Not only your heart drop, | 不仅你的心跳下降 |
| 424 | it would feel like your whole chest just sinks completely in like a black hole. | 它会感觉你的整个胸口 完全沉入一个黑洞。 |
| 425 | Yeah, I know that feeling. | 是的,我知道这种感觉。 |
| 426 | I shouldn't have kept reading, but I couldn't stop myself. | 我不应该一直念,但我无法阻止自己。 |
| 427 | I don't think anyone could stop themselves. | 我觉得没有人能阻止自己 |
| 428 | I started scrolling through the messages and it wasn't just a casual fling. | 我开始在留言中滚动 不仅仅是随意的挥舞 |
| 429 | This has been going on for at least two years. | 这已经持续了至少两年。 |
| 430 | Bro, why even be with someone | 哥,为什么还要和别人在一起? |
| 431 | if you obviously want to be with someone else? | 如果你显然想和别人在一起? |
| 432 | What's the point? | 有什么意义? |
| 433 | What's the point of cheating for two years? | 两年作弊有什么意义? |
| 434 | Just go be with that other person. | 去和另一个人在一起吧 |
| 435 | Deadass, dude. | 死屁股,伙计。 |
| 436 | What? | 你说什么? |
| 437 | I don't understand this. | 我不明白这一点。 |
| 438 | If you love your partner or not even love them, | 如果你爱你的伙伴,甚至不爱他们, |
| 439 | but just want to be with them, | 但只是想和他们在一起, |
| 440 | it doesn't have to be like that strong. | 没必要这么强壮 |
| 441 | You just like them, want to be with them, then be with them. | 你只是喜欢他们, 想与他们在一起, 然后与他们在一起。 |
| 442 | Be loyal, be honest, be everything. | 忠诚,诚实,做一切。 |
| 443 | If you want to be with someone else, then go be with someone else. | 如果你想和别人在一起 那就去和别人在一起吧 |
| 444 | And if you want to be with multiple people, | 如果你想和多人在一起的话 |
| 445 | then either find someone that's polyamorous | 要么找到一个多摩擦的人 |
| 446 | or just don't officially date anyone | 或者不要正式约会任何人 |
| 447 | and just have like multiple situationships. | 而只是有像多种情况船。 |
| 448 | You don't need to like hurt someone | 你不需要喜欢伤害别人 |
| 449 | and have an official relationship if you can't. | 和正式的关系 如果你不能。 |
| 450 | They have entire conversations about their real lives together. | 他们有关于他们真实生活的全部谈话 在一起。 |
| 451 | Things they can't do because of the situation. | 事情他们不能做 因为情况。 |
| 452 | Mark isn't a coworker or a random guy from an app. | 马克不是同事 也不是应用软件的随机人 |
| 453 | He's someone she met through her old hobby group. | 他是她通过她的旧爱好团体认识的一个人. |
| 454 | What hurts the most isn't even the physical aspect, | 最疼的不是身体上的问题 |
| 455 | though that's devastating. | 虽然这是毁灭性的。 |
| 456 | It's the level of planning. | 这是规划的水平。 |
| 457 | She has a whole other persona. | 她有另一个人 |
| 458 | She talks to him about things she never tells me. | 她跟他谈她从没跟我说过的事 |
| 459 | Her fears, her career ambitions, even her favorite movies. | 她的恐惧 事业野心 甚至她最喜欢的电影 |
| 460 | Okay, pause. | 好吧,暂停。 |
| 461 | Why don't you talk to your partner about normal stuff like that? | 为什么你不跟你的搭档说说普通的事? |
| 462 | Her fears, ambitions, movies. | 她的恐惧,野心,电影。 |
| 463 | Why? | 为什么? |
| 464 | I'm not blaming you, I'm not saying anything, | 我没有责怪你, 我什么也没说, |
| 465 | but it's really important for people to be able to talk about everything | 但人们必须能谈论一切 |
| 466 | and anything if they're in a relationship | 和任何东西 如果他们在关系 |
| 467 | and be able to be like feel comfortable | 并能够像感觉舒适 |
| 468 | that they can tell their partner anything. | 他们可以告诉自己的伙伴什么。 |
| 469 | And if they can't get that | 如果他们拿不到的话 |
| 470 | and they can't feel comfortable or safe telling their partner this stuff, | 他们不能感到舒适 或安全 告诉他们的伙伴这些东西, |
| 471 | then I guess they can go tell their friends and other people. | 我想他们可以去告诉朋友和其他人 |
| 472 | But sometimes people go and tell it to another person | 但有时候人们去告诉别人 |
| 473 | of the opposite gender or whoever they're attracted to. | 或者是他们喜欢的人 |
| 474 | And it turns into an emotional affair and eventually physical. | 它变成了感情上的外遇,并最终变成身体上的外遇. |
| 475 | So it is important to be able to communicate well with your partner | 因此,重要的是要能够 与你的伴侣良好的沟通 |
| 476 | and like satisfy them, not just physically, but emotionally. | 并喜欢满足他们, 不只是身体上, 和情感上。 |
| 477 | It's like she's been sharing her actual soul with this stranger | 好像她一直和这个陌生人分享真实的灵魂 |
| 478 | while giving me the leftover version of herself. | 并给我自己剩下的版本。 |
| 479 | I feel like I've been living with a stranger for years. | 我觉得我和陌生人住了很多年了 |
| 480 | I look through the photos, too, | 我也看过照片了 |
| 481 | and seeing them together in places I thought we had visited alone, | 看到他们在一起的地方 我以为我们单独拜访过, |
| 482 | it's nauseating. | 它的恶心。 |
| 483 | I'm sitting here in our living room looking at our wedding photos. | 我坐在我们的客厅里 看我们的婚礼照片 |
| 484 | Oh, they're married. | 他们结婚了 |
| 485 | Oh, yeah, they're married. | 是的,他们结婚了 |
| 486 | Fuck. | 他妈的。 |
| 487 | With our wedding photos on the wall, | 墙上挂着结婚照 |
| 488 | and I feel like the entire last decade of my life has been a lie. | 我觉得我生命的最后十年都是谎言 |
| 489 | I don't even know who I am anymore or how I missed the signs. | 我甚至不知道我是谁 也不知道我怎么错过了标志 |
| 490 | I'm waiting for her to come home. | 我在等她回来 |
| 491 | And I don't know if I should confront her immediately | 我不知道我是否应该马上和她对质 |
| 492 | or wait until I have everything documented. | 或者等我把一切记录下来 |
| 493 | I'm a mess. | 我一团糟。 |
| 494 | I'll be honest, in situations like these, | 老实说,在这种情况下 |
| 495 | it's really hard to understand both perspectives. | 很难理解两种观点 |
| 496 | Obviously, someone cheating and lying. | 显然,有人欺骗和撒谎。 |
| 497 | Immediately wrong. | 立即错了 |
| 498 | They are in the wrong 100%. | 他们完全错了 |
| 499 | But if the person, the person that got cheated on, | 但是如果那个人 被欺骗的人 |
| 500 | such a good partner, so attentive, so everything, | 这样的好伙伴,如此关注, 所以一切, |
| 501 | and that person cheats, | 那个人作弊, |
| 502 | then that person is just a terrible, terrible person. | 那那个人只是个可怕的人 |
| 503 | But if the partner is not a good partner, | 但如果搭档不是好搭档 |
| 504 | constantly neglects them, doesn't give them attention, | 总是忽略他们,不给他们注意, |
| 505 | doesn't do anything, is just never there, | 不做任何事情, 只是从来没有, |
| 506 | and doesn't really bond with them emotionally or anything, | 也没有真正与他们的感情或任何东西, |
| 507 | then if they go out and do that, which they shouldn't, | 如果他们出去做不该做的事 |
| 508 | then that's kind of like, I guess, a cause or a reason. | 那样就好像,我猜,一个原因或一个原因。 |
| 509 | That's why it's really important to be self-aware in your relationship. | 所以在感情中要自我认识才是真正重要的. |
| 510 | Talk openly. | 直说吧 |
| 511 | When the sun did not rise in the people of the Thebes. | 当日不升提婆众. |
| 512 | Am I fulfilling you emotionally, mentally, and everything? | 我满足你的情感、精神和一切吗? |
| 513 | Are you getting what you need out of this relationship? | 你从这段感情中得到你需要的东西了吗? |
| 514 | How can I be a better partner for you? | 我怎么能成为你更好的搭档? |
| 515 | Just literally just talk about it. | 只是说说而已 |
| 516 | Actively try to always be better for your partner. | 积极努力永远为搭档好. |
| 517 | And I feel like a lot of situations like these wouldn't happen. | 我觉得这样的情况不会发生 |
| 518 | But cheaters, never the answer. | 但骗子,从来没有答案。 |
| 519 | Terrible, man. | 糟糕,伙计。 |
| 520 | Terrible, terrible. | 可怕的,可怕的,可怕的。 |
| 521 | Let's read some comments. | 让我们看看一些评论。 |
| 522 | Don't confront her. | 别和她对质 |
| 523 | Document everything you found. | 记录你发现的一切 |
| 524 | Speak to a divorce attorney. | 跟离婚律师说话 |
| 525 | You need to know your options. | 你要知道自己的选择 |
| 526 | Speaking to her is the last step. | 跟她说话是最后一步 |
| 527 | She has been gone for a long time anyway. | 她已经走了很久了 |
| 528 | The damage is done. | 损害已成. |
| 529 | It's possible she left the iPad out on purpose. | 可能是她故意把iPad漏掉的 |
| 530 | Easier to let you read than explain herself. | 让你读书比解释自己容易 |
| 531 | Speak to divorce attorney first. | 先跟离婚律师说 |
| 532 | Yeah, speak to divorce attorney. | 对 跟离婚律师说话 |
| 533 | You're going to have to get divorced. | 你必须离婚 |
| 534 | If someone has cheated on you, even if you try to forgive them. | 如果有人欺骗了你 即使你试图原谅他们 |
| 535 | In some cases, yeah, depending on the severity. | 在某些情况下,是的,取决于严重程度。 |
| 536 | But this is a long, long, long amount of time cheating. | 但这是很长很长的时间欺骗。 |
| 537 | Years and years, like two years with this person. | 年复一年 和这个人在一起两年 |
| 538 | But you've been married for like how many years? | 但你已经结婚了多少年了? |
| 539 | So you don't know if there's been other people in the past and stuff. | 所以你不知道过去有没有其他人 |
| 540 | So this is really an intense level of infidelity and cheating. | 因此,这真的是 强烈的不忠和欺骗。 |
| 541 | And I don't think that this is something you would even want to heal. | 我不认为这是你甚至想要治愈的东西。 |
| 542 | It doesn't sound like it's worth it. | 声闻不值. |
| 543 | So a lot of people are saying wait until everything gets documented. | 所以很多人都说 等到一切被记录下来 |
| 544 | Until you have all the information and everything gather evidence. | 直到你得到所有的信息和一切 收集证据。 |
| 545 | And then you can confront her. | 然后,你可以面对她。 |
| 546 | Once you're all set up, everything's set up. | 一旦布置完一切如来. |
| 547 | You have your plan, where you're going to go, what you're going to do. | 你有你的计划, 你要去的地方, 你做什么。 |
| 548 | Your attorney, everything. | 你的律师,一切。 |
| 549 | Don't give her time to plan anything. | 别让她有时间计划任何事 |
| 550 | Someone else commented, a marriage cannot come back from this. | 别人评论说 婚姻不能从此复活 |
| 551 | It's too intentional and too long-term. | 过于有意而长. |
| 552 | Yeah, if it was a different, like some cases, some scenarios. | 是啊,如果它是一个不同的, 像一些案例,一些情景。 |
| 553 | Maybe it just happened once or something not severe, maybe. | 也许它只是发生了一次 或者一些不严重的事情,也许。 |
| 554 | But this so long, it's so intentional and so planned out and so like deep emotionally | 但这么长时间,它是如此的有意 和如此计划 如此深厚的情感 |
| 555 | that I don't think you can come back from this. | 我想你不会回来的 |
| 556 | Do not confront. | 不要对峙。 |
| 557 | First, retain a good divorce attorney and get his advice. | 首先,请个好离婚律师 听取他的意见 |
| 558 | Even if you don't plan to file right away, gather all the proof you have. | 即使你不打算马上提交, 收集你所有的证明。 |
| 559 | Cheating is way worse than snooping. | 欺骗比偷窥还糟糕 |
| 560 | So stop worrying about that. | 所以别担心了 |
| 561 | Yeah, cheating is way worse than snooping. | 是啊 作弊比偷窥还糟糕 |
| 562 | So just go through her stuff and show it to your attorney. | 你看看她的东西 交给你的律师 |
| 563 | Once you have all your ducks in a row and are ready to file, | 一旦你把所有的鸭子排成一排 准备提交, |
| 564 | sit her down and tell her you know. | 请她坐下,告诉她你知道的。 |
| 565 | Not, I know about your affair, just I know. | 不,我知道你的外遇, 只是我知道。 |
| 566 | I like that. | 我喜欢 |
| 567 | Make it like a kind of like a intense setting, maybe at night. | 让它像一种像一个激烈的场景, 也许在晚上。 |
| 568 | Sitting down on the couch, ask her to sit and then just say like, I know. | 坐在沙发上,叫她坐下 然后说,我知道。 |
| 569 | She'll be like, oh, well, wait, I know. | 她会像,哦,好吧,等待,我知道。 |
| 570 | Oh, what do you mean, I know. | 哦,你是什么意思,我知道,我说。 |
| 571 | And then slowly she starts to panic and like, wait, wait, does he know that I'm a cheater? | 然后她慢慢地开始惊慌失措 然后,等等,他知道我是个骗子吗? |
| 572 | Does he know about the affair, does he know? | 他知道这件事吗? |
| 573 | Get her sweating a little bit so then, I don't know, I guess just be petty. | 让她流点汗,然后,我不知道,我猜只是小事而已。 |
| 574 | You don't have to though. | 你不必这样 |
| 575 | First, you see what she says. | 首先,你看她说什么。 |
| 576 | Don't accept the inevitable false ignorance. | 不要接受不可避免的虚假无知. |
| 577 | What are you talking about? | 你在说什么? |
| 578 | Just be stoic and patient and coldly calm. | 保持冷静和耐心 |
| 579 | If she continues denial, ask how long? | 如果她继续否认,问多久? |
| 580 | Oh, dude, this guy sounds experienced. | 哦,伙计,这家伙听起来经验丰富。 |
| 581 | This guy sounds experienced. | 这家伙听起来很有经验。 |
| 582 | Of course, you already know how long. | 当然,你已经知道多久。 |
| 583 | You already know a lot of things. | 你已经知道很多事情了 |
| 584 | Pretend you don't even know a single detail, | 假装你连一个细节都不知道 |
| 585 | but just want to know if she will be honest with you. | 只是想知道她是否会对你诚实 |
| 586 | I like that. | 我喜欢 |
| 587 | Testing her honesty, seeing how much she'll share. | 测试她的诚实, 看她会分享多少。 |
| 588 | Maybe you'll find something new or maybe you'll just see she's constantly lying. | 也许你会找到新的东西 或者你会看到她一直在撒谎 |
| 589 | That will be your best chance of getting an admission | 这是你得到录取的最佳机会 |
| 590 | somewhere in the neighborhood of the truth about the extent of the affair. | 在附近某处 真相关于此事的程度。 |
| 591 | Whatever your reaction, I recommend you stay calm and cold and do not accept. | 不管你有什么反应 我建议你保持冷静和冷漠 不接受 |
| 592 | I cannot think of any conditions under which I would not recommend you divorce her. | 我无法想象任何条件 我不会建议你和她离婚 |
| 593 | Whatever her reaction may be, it's your call. | 不管她有什么反应,都由你决定 |
| 594 | But I think your marriage has been over for a long time. | 但我认为你的婚姻已经结束了很久了 |
| 595 | You just didn't know it. | 你只是不知道这一点。 |
| 596 | So sorry, man, but you really should dump the cheater. | 对不起,伙计,但你真的应该 抛弃骗子。 |
| 597 | I agree. | и種 |
| 598 | All of this, but I would be going full burn it to the ground with her and him in the middle. | 所有这一切, 但我会去全烧到地上 和她和他在中间。 |
| 599 | Don't just stop with one attorney. | 别只用一个律师 |
| 600 | Talk to all of the best divorce lawyers in the area and then some. | 跟当地最好的离婚律师谈谈 然后找一些 |
| 601 | Once they talk to you, they can't even engage with her is my understanding. | 一旦他们和你说话, 他们甚至不能接触她是我的理解。 |
| 602 | Yeah, I've heard that too. | 我也听说了 |
| 603 | I think it depends on the lawyer and also depends on the state. | 我觉得这取决于律师 也取决于国家 |
| 604 | Then find out who he works for. | 那就查查他为谁工作 |
| 605 | Find out how you can share with his job, HR and hers as well. | 找出你如何与他的工作,HR和她分享。 |
| 606 | Ask if these are the type of people they employ. | 问这些人是否属于他们雇用的人。 |
| 607 | Yeah, low key, like really revenge and all this. | 是啊,低密钥, 像真正的复仇和这一切。 |
| 608 | But honestly, if someone cheated on me for this long and did all this stuff, | 但说实话 如果有人骗了我这么久 做了这些事 |
| 609 | I would feel like maybe let's get them fired. | 我觉得也许我们应该让他们被解雇。 |
| 610 | I'm here to tell you right now, we don't care. | 我是来告诉你的 我们不在乎 |
| 611 | We don't care. | 我们不在乎。 |
| 612 | Maybe let's do this because it's like they obviously didn't respect you for such a long time. | 也许我们这样做是因为 他们显然这么长时间不尊重你 |
| 613 | So it's not like you're really getting them fired. | 所以,这不是你真的 让他们解雇。 |
| 614 | You're just calling their work or emailing their work and saying, | 你只是打电话给他们的工作 或电子邮件 他们的工作和说, |
| 615 | yeah, these people you have, they're cheaters. | 是啊,这些你的人, 他们是骗子。 |
| 616 | They're not good people. | 他们不是好人 |
| 617 | They're this, that, especially if they work in the same company. | 他们就是这个 特别是在同一个公司工作的时候 |
| 618 | Screenshots of everything, texts, photos, receipts, | 所有东西的截图 短信 照片 收据 |
| 619 | multiple manila envelopes with copies of all of it. | 多个马尼拉信封 上面有所有的信封 |
| 620 | Schedule a courier to drop them all off at the same time. | 安排一个快递员同时送货 |
| 621 | Her family, his family, low key, he's cooking. | 她的家人,他的家人, 低键,他在做饭。 |
| 622 | Yeah, boy. | 对,孩子。 |
| 623 | Best when she is off on a long weekend with him. | 她和他共度长周末最好 |
| 624 | Timing is essential. | 时机至关重要。 |
| 625 | Social media needs to happen at the same time too. | 社交媒体也需要同时出现. |
| 626 | Share a long post about it all explaining you have proof. | 分享一篇长篇报道 解释你是否有证据 |
| 627 | Block her from all posts. | 把她封起来 |
| 628 | If you have some extra money, see if you can hire an escort to catfish's ass too. | 如果你有多余的钱 看能不能雇个护卫去抓小鱼 |
| 629 | Cheating on her, gather the proof, burn their relationship to the ground, | 欺骗她 收集证据 烧掉他们与地面的关系 |
| 630 | just like she did yours. | 就像她做你的一样。 |
| 631 | I think the last thing is a little much like hiring an escort and stuff. | 我想最后的事情是有点像 雇用护卫之类的东西。 |
| 632 | That's a little much. | 这是一点点。 |
| 633 | But the sending proof, you're just informing people close to her, | 但是,发送的证据, 你只是通知人们接近她, |
| 634 | like her work or her family, what kind of person she is. | 喜欢她的工作或她的家人, 她是什么人。 |
| 635 | So that I don't see is like super crazy. | 所以,我不认为是像超级疯狂。 |
| 636 | You're just informing them. | 你只是告诉他们。 |
| 637 | But hiring like an escort and doing that extra stuff is a little much. | 但雇用一个护卫 做那些额外的事情有点多。 |
| 638 | It's a little much. | 略说. |
| 639 | Someone else replied, why even go through all this melodrama? | 别人回答说,为什么还要翻这些旋律? |
| 640 | Once OP is ready to file, he should just plan to have her served at work | 一旦OP准备提交, 他应该只是计划让她工作 |
| 641 | and never say a thing about it to her. | 永远不要跟她说任何事 |
| 642 | Once she gets served with divorce papers, she'll know exactly what he knows. | 一旦她得到离婚文件 她就会知道他知道什么 |
| 643 | Any other details that he would get from confronting her are irrelevant. | 他面对她时会得到的任何其他细节都无关紧要. |
| 644 | She's already his ex-wife, so who cares about their fictional sob story, | 她已经是他前妻了,所以谁在乎 他们虚构的悲伤故事, |
| 645 | but not being seen in the marriage, et cetera. | 但却没有在婚姻中被看到,等等。 |
| 646 | I would either have that reaction of, oh, let me be super petty and like | 我要么有这样的反应, 哦,让我是超级小 喜欢 |
| 647 | get them fired or tell their family. | 让他们被解雇或告诉家人。 |
| 648 | Or I would just have the reaction of, I don't care. | 或者我会有我的反应, 我不在乎。 |
| 649 | Think about this person one more second. | 再考虑一下这个人 |
| 650 | Just, I don't care to talk about them ever again. | 我只是不想再谈论他们了 |
| 651 | I would disappear from their life like this. | 我就会从他们的生活中消失 |
| 652 | I would never contact them again. | 我不会再联系他们了 |
| 653 | It'd all be through a lawyer, get divorced. | 都会通过律师离婚的 |
| 654 | But they would never hear from me, see me or anything ever again | 但是他们再也不会听到我的消息 见到我或者别的什么 |
| 655 | because they don't deserve that. | 因为他们不该这样 |
| 656 | They don't deserve to hear me or see me or anything. | 他们不值得听到我 或看到我什么。 |
| 657 | I would just completely erase them from my life entirely. | 我会完全抹去他们的生命 |
| 658 | Yeah, but a lot of people in the comments are saying, yeah, I get a lawyer. | 是的,但很多人在评论 说,是的,我有律师。 |
| 659 | You need to divorce her. | 你得和她离婚了,她不会离婚的 |
| 660 | A lot of people are saying, is she really at her sister's house? | 很多人都在说 她真的在她姐姐家吗? |
| 661 | Probably not. | 也许不是。 |
| 662 | You already know she's cheating. | 你已经知道她在作弊了 |
| 663 | So it doesn't really matter if she is or isn't. | 所以她是不是真的无所谓了 |
| 664 | She's already cheated for so many years. | 她已经骗了这么多年了 |
| 665 | It's like, it doesn't matter anymore. | 这就像,它已经不重要了。 |
| 666 | So the best you can do is control what you can control. | 所以,你所能做的就是控制你所能控制的东西。 |
| 667 | That's what you do. | 这就是你的工作。 |
| 668 | So get a lawyer, plan what your next plan steps are and everything. | 所以找个律师来 规划下个计划步骤和一切 |
| 669 | And then leave her in the dust. | 然后把她丢在尘土里 |
| 670 | Next story. | 下一个故事。 |
| 671 | My wife's affair broke something in me that still hasn't healed. | 我妻子的外遇 打破了我体内的东西 还没有治愈。 |
| 672 | Hi, I'm Justin, 35 male. | 嗨,我是贾斯汀,35个男性。 |
| 673 | I've been struggling with my wife's affair for a long time | 我和我老婆的外遇 已经挣扎了很久了 |
| 674 | and I decided to write about it here | 我决定在这里写 |
| 675 | because carrying it alone has become exhausting. | 因为独自携带它 已经很累人了。 |
| 676 | My wife and I got married in 2022 after we had our son. | 我妻子和我于2022年结婚 在我们生下儿子之后 |
| 677 | We were just a normal family learning together how to be good parents | 我们只是一个正常的家庭 学习如何做好父母 |
| 678 | and provide the best life we could to our child. | 给我们的孩子提供最好的生活 |
| 679 | Things started to change after our son was born. | 我们的儿子出生后 事情开始改变 |
| 680 | My wife became much less interested in intimacy. | 我妻子对亲密关系的兴趣要小得多 |
| 681 | Before pregnancy, we had a healthy and active sex life. | 在怀孕前,我们有一个健康和活跃的性生活。 |
| 682 | But afterward, intimacy became less frequent. | 但之后,亲密关系变得不那么频繁. |
| 683 | Sometimes only once a month and occasionally not at all for two months. | 有时每个月只有一次,有时两个月内根本没有. |
| 684 | I told myself it was normal. | 我告诉自己这是正常的。 |
| 685 | I assumed it was part of the postpartum adjustment | 我想这是产后调整的一部分 |
| 686 | and we were also being careful | 我们也很小心 |
| 687 | because we weren't ready for a second child financially. | 因为我们没有准备好 一个第二个孩子的经济。 |
| 688 | As a mother, my wife has always been amazing. | 身为母亲,我的妻子一直很神奇. |
| 689 | She's responsible, loving and always puts our son first. | 她有责任心 爱人 总是把儿子放在首位 |
| 690 | But as a husband, there were times where I felt ignored. | 但作为一个丈夫,我有时觉得被忽略。 |
| 691 | Sometimes I felt like my opinions didn't matter. | 有时候我觉得我的意见不重要 |
| 692 | She was the stronger personality in our relationship | 她是我们关系中最强的个性 |
| 693 | and I trusted her completely. | 我完全信任她 我完全信任她 我完全信任她 |
| 694 | Then in 2025, everything changed. | 后来在2025年,一切都变了. |
| 695 | One day I received a message from a dummy account | 有一天我收到一个假账号的消息 |
| 696 | claiming that my wife was having an affair with one of her coworkers. | 声称我妻子和她的一个同事有染 |
| 697 | That same night, I asked her about it. | 同一天晚上,我问她这件事。 |
| 698 | She told me it was probably just a misunderstanding | 她告诉我可能只是误会 |
| 699 | because she had become close friends with a male coworker | 因为她和一位男同事成了亲密的朋友 |
| 700 | and they worked on the same team. | 他们在同一支队伍工作 |
| 701 | I wanted to believe her, so I let it go. | 我想相信她 所以我就放弃了 |
| 702 | But the doubt stayed in my mind. | 但疑虑留在我脑海里 |
| 703 | A few nights later, while she was asleep, I checked her phone. | 几晚后,当她睡着了,我检查她的电话。 |
| 704 | We never usually check each other's phones | 我们从不检查对方的手机 |
| 705 | because trust had never been an issue. | 因为信任从来不是一个问题。 |
| 706 | What I found was the worst moment of my life. | 我发现的是我生命中最糟糕的时刻 |
| 707 | There were messages, photos and conversations | 有留言、照片和谈话 |
| 708 | that clearly showed they were involved with each other. | 这显然表明他们彼此之间有牵连。 |
| 709 | They talked and acted like a couple | 他们说话和表现像一对夫妇 |
| 710 | in the early stage of a relationship. | 在关系早期。 |
| 711 | That night, I didn't know what to feel. | 那天晚上,我不知道该有什么感觉。 |
| 712 | I was angry, heartbroken, confused and terrified, | 我愤怒,心碎,困惑和恐惧, |
| 713 | all at the same time. | 都在同一时间。 |
| 714 | My hands were shaking. | 我的手在颤抖。 |
| 715 | My mind was racing with questions. | 我脑子里有问题 |
| 716 | Surprisingly, I managed to keep it together. | 令人惊讶的是,我设法保持了它在一起。 |
| 717 | The next day, I acted as if I knew nothing. | 第二天 我表现得好像什么都不知道 |
| 718 | I wanted to wait for the right moment to confront her. | 我想等合适的时机和她对质 |
| 719 | That evening, I finally did. | 当晚,我终于做到了。 |
| 720 | I asked her questions, but she denied everything. | 我问了她问题 但她否认了一切 |
| 721 | Every answer was a lie. | 每一个答案都是谎言。 |
| 722 | Then I started telling her exactly what I had seen on her phone. | 然后我开始告诉她 我在她手机上看到的一切 |
| 723 | That's when she broke down crying and admitted everything. | 这时她哭了下来,承认了一切. |
| 724 | Why do they always cry? | 为什么他们总是哭? |
| 725 | You are not the victim and you are the one that cheated. | 你不是受害者 而你是那个作弊的人 |
| 726 | Why are you crying? | 你为什么哭? |
| 727 | Is it to get sympathy? | 是为了得到同情吗? |
| 728 | Is it to this? | 是这个吗? |
| 729 | Come on. | 来吧。 |
| 730 | What hurt even more was learning that it hadn't been a short mistake | 更令人痛心的是,知道这不是一个短暂的错误 |
| 731 | or a brief emotional lapse. | 或短暂的情绪失常。 |
| 732 | She told me that the affair had been going on for almost two years. | 她告诉我 这件事情已经持续了将近两年 |
| 733 | Two fucking years. | 两年他妈的。 |
| 734 | OMG. | 欧玛。 |
| 735 | For almost two years, I had no idea what was happening behind my back. | 近两年来,我不知道背后发生了什么 |
| 736 | During that time, all I could think about was our family. | 在那段时间里,我所能想到的就是我们的家庭. |
| 737 | I was focused on finishing the house we were building, | 我专注于完成我们建造的房子, |
| 738 | making sure they had a comfortable place to sleep, | 确保他们有一个舒适的睡觉场所, |
| 739 | and providing everything our family needed. | 并提供我们家庭所需要的一切 |
| 740 | I worked as hard as I could to earn money and give them a better life. | 我尽力挣钱给他们更好的生活 |
| 741 | While I was sacrificing my time, energy, and peace of mind | 当我牺牲我的时间,精力, 和平静的心灵 |
| 742 | to build a future for us, | 为我们建立一个未来, |
| 743 | she was building a relationship with someone else. | 她和别人建立了关系 |
| 744 | That realization shattered me. | 那种意识让我心碎 |
| 745 | Even today, it's one of the hardest parts for me to accept. | 即使在今天,它也是我最难以接受的部分之一. |
| 746 | I gave everything I had for my family | 我为我的家人付出了一切 |
| 747 | because I genuinely believed we were working toward the same future. | 因为我真心相信我们在为同一个未来而努力 |
| 748 | Finding out what was happening during those years | 查查这几年发生了什么 |
| 749 | made me question everything I thought I knew about my marriage. | 让我质疑我对婚姻所了解的一切 |
| 750 | The first thing that came to my mind after her confession wasn't myself, | 在她忏悔后我想到的第一件事 不是我 |
| 751 | it was our son, | 那是我们的儿子, |
| 752 | and an innocent child who had no idea what was happening to his family. | 和一个无辜的孩子 他不知道他的家人发生了什么 |
| 753 | The following week was one of the hardest periods of my life. | 接下来的一周是我一生中最艰难的时期之一. |
| 754 | We barely spoke and the atmosphere inside our home was painfully awkward. | 我们几乎没说话 家里的气氛很尴尬 |
| 755 | Eventually, we sat down and talked about what needed to happen | 最终,我们坐下来谈 需要发生什么 |
| 756 | if we were going to save our marriage and rebuild trust. | 如果我们要挽救婚姻 重建信任 |
| 757 | She was cheating for so long, two years, and you want to rebuild trust? | 她欺骗了这么久,两年, 你想重建信任? |
| 758 | You can hear yourself writing this, | 你可以听到你自己写这个, |
| 759 | that it hurt you so, so deeply and hurt you, | 它伤害你如此,如此深深,伤害你, |
| 760 | like it's something you feel like you can't get over. | 就像你觉得自己无法克服一样 |
| 761 | So wouldn't it just be better to end stuff there and move on? | 所以,是不是只是更好 结束的东西在那里和前进? |
| 762 | Like for your son, | 就像你儿子一样 |
| 763 | because your son will definitely notice the tension in the marriage, | 因为你儿子肯定会注意到婚姻的紧张 |
| 764 | all this stuff. | 所有这些东西。 |
| 765 | You think she's actually going to be able to like leave her affair partner behind? | 你觉得她真的会喜欢 离开她的外遇伴侣? |
| 766 | You think she's going to be able to end that after she's been | 你觉得她能结束这一切吗? |
| 767 | essentially in a relationship with him for two years? | 基本上和他交往了两年? |
| 768 | She might promise you all these things and do all these things in the short term, | 她可能答应你所有这些事情 并在短期内做所有这些事情, |
| 769 | but in the long term, she'll probably go right back to him. | 但从长远来看,她可能会回到他身边 |
| 770 | And then what? | 然后怎样? |
| 771 | Are you going to give her another chance? | 你要再给她一次机会吗? |
| 772 | She left the company where she worked. | 她离开了她工作的公司。 |
| 773 | She started updating me about where she was, | 她开始告诉我她在哪里 |
| 774 | who she was with, and what she was doing. | 她和谁在一起, 她在做什么。 |
| 775 | Over time, things began to look normal again from the outside, | 随着时间的流逝, 事情开始变得正常 从外部, |
| 776 | but I learned that forgiveness and healing aren't that simple. | 但我知道宽恕和治愈不是那么简单 |
| 777 | Before the end of 2025, my mental health had reached its lowest point. | 2025年底前,我的心理健康达到了最低点. |
| 778 | I struggled to sleep. | 我挣扎着睡觉。 |
| 779 | I struggled to work. | 我挣扎着工作。 |
| 780 | I constantly questioned myself and wondered what was wrong with me. | 我不断质疑自己 并想知道我怎么了 |
| 781 | I kept asking myself why it happened. | 我一直问自己为什么会这样 |
| 782 | I gave everything I had to my family. | 我把我的一切都给了我的家人。 |
| 783 | They were always my highest priority. | 他们总是我最优先的。 |
| 784 | Even when I had nothing left for myself, I made sure they had what they needed. | 即使我一无所有 我也确保他们有他们需要的东西 |
| 785 | So why wasn't that enough? | 那为什么还不够呢? |
| 786 | That question played over and over in my mind. | 这个问题在我脑海中反复出现 |
| 787 | I know I'm not a perfect husband. | 我知道我不是一个完美的丈夫。 |
| 788 | I have flaws and shortcomings like anyone else, | 我和别人一样有缺点和缺点 |
| 789 | but no one deserves to be betrayed because they aren't perfect. | 但是没有人应该被背叛,因为他们不是完美的。 |
| 790 | As time passed, our family slowly improved. | 随着时间的流逝,我们的家庭慢慢改善。 |
| 791 | My wife made genuine efforts to regain my trust and reassure me. | 我妻子为恢复我的信任和安抚我做出了真诚的努力。 |
| 792 | Some days we are happy. | 有时候我们很快乐 |
| 793 | Some days it feels like we are finally moving forward. | 有些时候,感觉我们终于向前迈进了。 |
| 794 | But there are still days when the sadness comes back. | 但悲哀还存在着 |
| 795 | There are moments when the memories hit me all over again. | 回忆再次重现 |
| 796 | The questions return. | 问讯归来. |
| 797 | The fears return. | 恐惧归来。 |
| 798 | Sometimes I'm afraid to give my whole heart again | 有时我又不敢全心全意 |
| 799 | because I worry that I'll just end up getting hurt the same way. | 因为我担心我最终会同样受伤 |
| 800 | We're still together. | 我们还在一起。 |
| 801 | Our family is still intact. | 我们的家庭仍然完好无损。 |
| 802 | There are also moments when the anger becomes overwhelming. | 也有一些时刻,愤怒变得压倒一切. |
| 803 | Sometimes when my thoughts get the best of me, | 有时候,当我的思想得到最好的我, |
| 804 | I imagine getting back at the other man in the worst ways possible. | 我想用最坏的方式对付另一个人 |
| 805 | The betrayal, the lies, the damage done to my family | 背叛,谎言,伤害我的家人 |
| 806 | can still trigger a level of anger that is difficult to describe. | 仍然可以引发一种难以描述的愤怒。 |
| 807 | But those thoughts never leave my head. | 但是那些想法永远不会离开我的脑袋。 |
| 808 | Over time, I've realized that no amount of revenge would heal what happened to me. | 随着时间的推移,我意识到,任何报复都无法治愈我身上发生的事情. |
| 809 | It wouldn't erase the memories, bring back the trust that was broken, | 它不会抹去记忆 带回被打破的信任 |
| 810 | or give me back the person I was before all of this. | 或者还给我之前的那个人 |
| 811 | It wouldn't make me sleep better at night | 晚上睡不着觉 |
| 812 | or stop the questions that still run through my mind. | 或者停止那些仍在我脑海中的问题 |
| 813 | So as much as the anger is sometimes there, I keep asking myself, | 所以,尽管愤怒有时 在那里,我一直问自己, |
| 814 | what would revenge really accomplish? | 复仇会有什么结果? |
| 815 | The truth is, it wouldn't heal this wound. | 事实是,它不会治愈这个伤口。 |
| 816 | It would only create new ones. | 它只会创造新的。 |
| 817 | Maybe that's one of the hardest parts of all this. | 也许这是其中最难的部分之一。 |
| 818 | Not just dealing with the betrayal, but learning to carry the pain | 不只是对付背叛 而是学会承受痛苦 |
| 819 | without letting it turn me into someone I don't want to be. | 而不让我变成我不想成为的人 |
| 820 | But something inside me feels different now. | 但我内心有种感觉 |
| 821 | Sometimes I feel like I don't even recognize myself anymore. | 有时候我觉得我连我自己都认不出了 |
| 822 | I don't know what emotions I'm supposed to feel. | 我不知道我该感受什么情绪 |
| 823 | I don't know whether I'm healed or just surviving. | 我不知道我是否痊愈了 或者只是活了下来 |
| 824 | Some days it's easier to stay quiet | 有些时候,安静比较容易 |
| 825 | because I honestly don't know how to explain what's going on inside my head. | 因为我真的不知道该怎么解释 我脑子里发生了什么 |
| 826 | I'm sharing the story because I don't know what the next chapter of my life will look like. | 我分享这个故事是因为我不知道接下来的一章会是什么样子. |
| 827 | I just know that sometimes it's incredibly lonely carrying all of this. | 我只是知道有时候 背着这些东西会非常孤独 |
| 828 | How do you trust again after your partner cheats? | 在你的搭档出轨之后 你怎么再信任他? |
| 829 | I think that it really depends on your ability to forgive, first of all, | 我认为这真的取决于你 原谅的能力,首先, |
| 830 | and also the severity of the infidelity. | 还有不忠行为的严重性。 |
| 831 | Because yes, cheating is cheating. | 因为是的 作弊就是作弊 |
| 832 | No question about that. | 毫无疑问。 |
| 833 | But there are also severities to cheating and also length. | 但也存在欺骗的断层和长度. |
| 834 | How long did they cheat for? | 他们骗了多久? |
| 835 | How deceptive were the lies? | 谎言有多欺骗? |
| 836 | And also the severity. | 以及严重性 |
| 837 | What did they do? | 他们做了什么? |
| 838 | Was it emotional? | 是感情上的吗? |
| 839 | Was it physical? | 是身体上的吗? |
| 840 | Was it both? | 都这样吗? |
| 841 | Was it one-time thing? | 是一次性的吗? |
| 842 | Was it multiple times? | 是多次吗? |
| 843 | Was it with multiple people? | 和多人在一起吗? |
| 844 | There's a lot of factors that would affect this. | 影响这一点的因素很多. |
| 845 | But in this situation, I don't think it's possible to be able to trust again. | 但在这种情况下,我认为不可能再次信任. |
| 846 | At least not fully. | 至少还不完全。 |
| 847 | I do believe that. | 我相信这一点。 |
| 848 | Now let's read some of the comments. | 现在让我们来读读一些评论。 |
| 849 | Unfortunately, I did the opposite when I accidentally discovered my ex-wife was cheating. | 不幸的是,当我意外发现前妻在作弊时,我做了相反的事情. |
| 850 | I made up my mind in two hours I was going to divorce her. | 我两个小时后就决定和她离婚了 |
| 851 | I controlled the narrative and knew the answers to the questions I was going to ask her. | 我控制了叙事 并且知道我要问她的问题的答案 |
| 852 | Checkmate. | 将军 |
| 853 | We cohabitated for four months until I moved in with my best friend. | 我们同居了四个月 直到我和我最好的朋友住在一起 |
| 854 | She wanted to reconcile but I wasn't going to live a life looking her in the face every day | 她想和解 但我不会每天面对她 |
| 855 | being reminded of her cheating. | 被提醒她作弊。 |
| 856 | Who wants to be tortured that way? | 谁想被这样折磨? |
| 857 | My life is great today. | 我的生活是伟大的今天。 |
| 858 | Hers, not so much. | 她的,没有太多。 |
| 859 | Think about what I just shared with you. | 想想我刚刚跟你分享的 |
| 860 | You are punishing yourself. | 你在惩罚自己 |
| 861 | I have a lot of empathy for you. | 我对你有很多同情心 |
| 862 | Best wishes. | 祝你们好意 |
| 863 | You were right. | 你说得对。 |
| 864 | I don't know how long you were married but sometimes people drift apart with time. | 我不知道你结婚多久了 但有时候人们会随时间而分道扬镳 |
| 865 | Does not justify cheating but it explains it. | 作弊不合理,但它解释了这一点。 |
| 866 | And here they married in 2022 and the affair started in at least 2023 or maybe even earlier. | 在这里,他们结婚 在2022年, 婚外情开始 至少2023年 或者更早。 |
| 867 | She didn't marry him because she was in love with him. | 她没有嫁给他,因为她爱上了他. |
| 868 | She married him to get married so she will cheat again when the dust settles. | 她嫁给他是为了结婚 所以当尘埃落定时 她会再次作弊 |
| 869 | Someone else commented, how old is your son? | 有人评论你儿子多大了? |
| 870 | I would say go for a DNA test but if you're not willing to walk, | 我会说去进行DNA测试 但如果你不愿意走路 |
| 871 | I wouldn't open that can of worms. | 我不会打开那罐虫。 |
| 872 | Yeah, like what actual consequences did she face? | 是啊,像什么实际后果 她面临? |
| 873 | She quit her job and shared her location. | 她辞去了工作,分享了位置. |
| 874 | Big deal. | 大事不轻. |
| 875 | After fucking a coworker for two years. | 干过两年同事 |
| 876 | Yeah. | 对 |
| 877 | Did she confess to family and friends? | 她向家人和朋友坦白了吗? |
| 878 | Sign a post-nup. | 签署婚后协议。 |
| 879 | Offer hall passes. | 提供大厅通行证。 |
| 880 | Complete a polygraph. | 完成测谎 |
| 881 | Full written confession. | 满文忏悔. |
| 882 | Seems bad. | 看起来很糟。 |
| 883 | Yeah, I definitely think if your wife really wants to, you know, so that she's sorry and stuff, | 是的,我肯定认为 如果你的妻子真的想,你知道的, 所以她很抱歉之类的, |
| 884 | she should tell all her friends and family and with you there. | 她应该告诉所有的朋友和家人 和你在那里。 |
| 885 | See what she's actually telling them. | 看看她到底在告诉他们什么 |
| 886 | I think that's like kind of only fair because if the only consequence of cheating for two years is, | 我觉得这很公平 因为如果两年来欺骗的唯一后果是 |
| 887 | okay, now I have to tell you where I am, which I mean most couples share their location anyway, | 好吧,现在我必须告诉你 我在哪里, 我的意思是大多数夫妇 分享他们的位置反正, |
| 888 | and quit her job where her cheating ass co-worker is, like someone else commented, | 并辞去她的工作 在那里她作弊的屁股同事, 像别人评论, |
| 889 | I don't understand what's the point of dreaming about getting revenge on that fair partner | 我不明白做梦有什么意义 要报复那个公平的搭档 |
| 890 | while rewarding the person who is actually responsible, your wife. | 并奖励实际负责的人,你的妻子。 |
| 891 | That makes no sense. | 这没有道理。 |
| 892 | That's true. | 没错 |
| 893 | Your wife had a responsibility and a duty to be loyal to you. | 你妻子有责任对你忠诚 |
| 894 | AP没有. | |
| 895 | The AP doesn't know you. | AP不认识你。 |
| 896 | He doesn't owe you anything. | 他不欠你任何东西。 |
| 897 | It's your wife that owes loyalty, honesty, and love to you. | 是你妻子欠你的忠诚、诚实和爱 |
| 898 | Your wife is the guilty party and forgiving her for this is simply rewarding her. | 你的妻子是有罪的 原谅她 只是奖励她 |
| 899 | I bet my two cents that her affair never ended and never will. | 我敢打赌,我的两分钱 她的外遇从来没有结束,永远不会。 |
| 900 | I was in a serious relationship and things like that do not just end overnight. | 我当时关系很认真 这种事不会一夜之间结束 |
| 901 | The child you two have now only has a 50% chance of being yours. | 你们两个的孩子现在只有50%的机会成为你的了 |
| 902 | You should get a DNA test for your child, take control of your life, and divorce her. | 你应该为你的孩子做DNA测试 控制你的生活 然后和她离婚 |
| 903 | In fact, your post shows that she does not even seem to care about | 事实上,你的文章显示 她似乎根本不关心 |
| 904 | or be doing anything for reconciliation. | 或为和解做任何事情。 |
| 905 | Your family is intact as you claim. | 你的家人和你所说的一样完整 |
| 906 | That is just an illusion. | 这只是一个幻觉。 |
| 907 | Your family has not existed for many years. | 你的家庭已经不存在多年了 |
| 908 | Your lying, cheating wife is simply playing a role so that you calm down, | 你说谎,欺骗的妻子 只是扮演一个角色 这样你冷静下来, |
| 909 | accept everything, and go back to being her doormat. | 接受一切, 回到她的门垫。 |
| 910 | Someone else commented, the AP is just a guy looking for easy sex. | 有人评论说,AP只是一个男人 寻找轻松的性。 |
| 911 | The OP's wife is the real hoe here. | 总统夫人是这里真正的猎鞋 |
| 912 | She is this selfish, narcissistic piece of shit. | 她是个自私自恋的混蛋 |
| 913 | She put one random guy's orgasm above her husband, her child. | 她把一个人的高潮 放在她的丈夫,她的孩子之上。 |
| 914 | She deserves all the contempt that OP could give her. | 她应该受到OP可能对她的一切蔑视。 |
| 915 | She has a solid relationship with OP. | 她与OP有着牢固的关系. |
| 916 | This is not a one night thing while she was drunk. | 她喝醉的时候 这不是一夜情 |
| 917 | She had two husbands though. | 她有两个丈夫 |
| 918 | 40% of their marriage she spent cheating. | 他们40%的婚姻 她花在欺骗。 |
| 919 | 40% of their marriage she had another solid relationship. | 他们40%的婚姻 她有另一个牢固的关系。 |
| 920 | Their marriage is an intact family that OP thinks he has never even existed. | 他们的婚姻是完好无损的家庭,OP认为他从未存在过. |
| 921 | It's all a big lie and the foundation of this family, this marriage, are a house of cards. | 这一切都是大谎言,这个家庭的基础,这个婚姻,是一个纸牌屋. |
| 922 | He could not even be sure if the child they have is his. | 他甚至不能确定他们的孩子是不是他的。 |
| 923 | I think it's pretty clear what OP needs to do here and that is divorce his wife, | 我认为很清楚 OP需要在这里做什么 那就是和他的妻子离婚 |
| 924 | talk to an attorney, get a DNA test, tell her family and friends what kind of person she is. | 跟她的家人和朋友说她是什么人 |
| 925 | I think that's something that you should just always do. | 我觉得这是你应该做的 |
| 926 | But reconciliation, I do not think so. | 但和解,我不这么认为。 |
| 927 | Last story. | 最后一个故事。 |
| 928 | 19 female, I cheated on my boyfriend again. | 19个女人,我又背叛了男朋友 |
| 929 | Those who have read my previous posts probably already know me, | 那些读过我之前的文章的人可能已经了解我了 |
| 930 | but I'll briefly give you some background anyway. | 但我还是会简单告诉你一些背景 |
| 931 | I'm an international student who came to Canada from China this February. | 我是今年2月从中国来到加拿大的国际学生. |
| 932 | I have a boyfriend in China, but we've never slept together. | 我有一个男朋友在中国, 但我们从来没有睡觉。 |
| 933 | However, he still sends me money every month to pay for rent and tuition. | 然而,他仍然每月寄钱给我,以支付房租和学费. |
| 934 | After arriving in Canada, I don't know if it was because I was too lonely | 到了加拿大,我不知道是不是因为我太寂寞了 |
| 935 | or because I really like white men, but I quickly couldn't resist opening my legs | 或者因为我真的很喜欢白人 但我很快无法抗拒我的腿 |
| 936 | and letting others have sex with me. | 让别人和我做爱 |
| 937 | So far I've had sex with 25 different men, maybe 24 I can't remember. | 到目前为止,我和25个不同的男人发生了性关系, 也许24个我不记得了。 |
| 938 | Whoa, what the fuck? | 哇,什么他妈的? |
| 939 | Dude, that's crazy. | 伙计,这太疯狂了。 |
| 940 | It hasn't even been like a year. | 它甚至还没有像一年。 |
| 941 | It's been like a semester or two semesters and 25 men, maybe 24. | 这就像一个学期或两个学期 和25个男人,也许24。 |
| 942 | Oh my, dude, I'm actually in shock. | 哦,伙计,我其实很震惊。 |
| 943 | This is crazy. | 这太疯狂了 |
| 944 | A while ago, I was seriously ill and my boyfriend in China stayed up all night | 刚才我病得很重,我在中国的男朋友整晚没睡 |
| 945 | texting me, taking care of me from our distant hometown. | 发短信给我,照顾我 从遥远的家乡。 |
| 946 | I felt very guilty at the time. | 当时我觉得很内疚 |
| 947 | So for a while, I really wanted to rein myself in and stop being such a slut. | 所以有一段时间,我真的想 控制自己 并停止这样一个荡妇。 |
| 948 | What the fuck? | 什么他妈的? |
| 949 | But it didn't last long. | 但时间不长. |
| 950 | My sex drive got stronger and stronger. | 我的性欲越来越强壮 |
| 951 | I was constantly incredibly wet and horny, really wanting to be fucked again. | 我总是非常的湿和欲火焚身, 真的想再次性交。 |
| 952 | Bro, this has got to be satire, dude. | 兄弟,这一定是讽刺,伙计。 |
| 953 | What? | 你说什么? |
| 954 | This is crazy. | 这太疯狂了 |
| 955 | Okay, first comment. | 好吧,第一评论。 |
| 956 | I hope when he finds he shames you by telling everyone you know in China | 希望他发现你丢脸的时候 告诉在中国认识的人 |
| 957 | and no one wants anything to do with you. | 没有人想和你有任何关系 |
| 958 | You're a terrible person. | 你是个可怕的人。 |
| 959 | Yeah, you are. | 对,你就是 |
| 960 | OP replied, so I won't let him know. | OP回答,所以我不会让他知道。 |
| 961 | Yo, what, bro? | 哟,什么,兄弟? |
| 962 | Why is this comment section so weird, dude? | 为什么这个评论部分这么奇怪? |
| 963 | Bro, people are encouraging this shit. | 兄弟,人们鼓励这种狗屎。 |
| 964 | What the fuck? | 什么他妈的? |
| 965 | Someone's like, that's hot. | 有人喜欢,这是热的。 |
| 966 | I guess they're better than your boyfriend, right? | 我猜他们比你男朋友好,对不对? |
| 967 | And they're like, oh, could I DM you and talk about it? | 他们喜欢,哦,我可以马克 你和谈论它? |
| 968 | What? | 你说什么? |
| 969 | Someone else said no better time to explore that during college. | 别人说 在大学期间没有更好的时间去探索了 |
| 970 | Just be safe about it. | 小心点 |
| 971 | Bro, 25 different people. | 兄弟,25个人 |
| 972 | First of all, the odds that you have an STD after 25 people, pretty high. | 首先,25人之后你患上性病的几率很高 |
| 973 | And then all OP says is thanks. | 然后,所有OP说 感谢。 |
| 974 | What is wrong with people, dude? | 人怎么了,伙计? |
| 975 | What? | 你说什么? |
| 976 | No way, dude. | 不会吧,伙计。 |
| 977 | What the fuck? | 什么他妈的? |
| 978 | I don't know. | 师曰. |
| 979 | I don't know what is going on here, dude. | 我不知道这是怎么回事,伙计。 |
| 980 | But this comment section was weird and crazy. | 但这个评论部分是怪异和疯狂的. |
| 981 | Why were people not mad about this? | 为什么人们不生气呢? |
| 982 | This is crazy. | 这太疯狂了 |
| 983 | She is 100% wrong. | 她完全错了 |
| 984 | Break up with your boyfriend. | 跟你的男朋友分手了 分手了 |
| 985 | She's just using, I guess, for money and tuition. | 她只是用钱和学费 |
| 986 | I hope he finds out about this. | 我希望他知道这件事 |
| 987 | This is actually terrible. | 这其实是可怕的。 |
| 988 | 25 people. | 25个人。 |
| 989 | This is really... | 这真是... |
| 990 | I'm kind of lost for words. | 我有点迷路了 |
| 991 | I don't really have anything else to say. | 我没什么可说的 |
| 992 | Bye, guys. | 再见,伙计们。 |
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