【全英 Vlog 4】let's get comfortab
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| P1 | 【全英 Vlog 4】let's get comfortab | 28:49 |
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P1 · 【全英 Vlog 4】let's get comfortable with embarrassment｜ 让我们从尴尬中解脱出来｜语料积累 ｜ 听力练习 p01 let's get comfortable with embarrassment 双语 (P1)
【全英 Vlog 4】let's get comfortable with embarrassment｜ 让我们从尴尬中解脱出来｜语料积累 ｜ 听力练习 p01 let's get comfortable with embarrassment 双语 (P1)
发布于 2026-09-14 · 时长 28:49字幕摘录
| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:00 | If I choose to laugh, I take my power back. | 如果我选择笑, 我收回我的力量。 |
| 0:04 | How comfortable you are with embarrassment | 你有多自在 尴尬 |
| 0:07 | is how comfortable you are with yourself. | 你对自己有多自在 |
| 0:09 | You can't really be the butt of the joke | 你不可能是开玩笑的 |
| 0:12 | if you're also laughing too. | 如果你也在笑的话 |
| 0:14 | We are so focused on how we are coming across. | 我们如此专注于如何应对。 |
| 0:17 | Don't you think everybody else is doing that too? | 难道你不认为其他人也这样做吗? |
| 0:26 | Hi, everybody. | 大家好,你们好 |
| 0:28 | I am so excited to be sitting here with you this morning. | 今天早上坐在你这我太兴奋了 |
| 0:33 | I've had a little bit of a late start to my morning | 我早上开始有点晚 |
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| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | If I choose to laugh, I take my power back. | 如果我选择笑, 我收回我的力量。 |
| 2 | How comfortable you are with embarrassment | 你有多自在 尴尬 |
| 3 | is how comfortable you are with yourself. | 你对自己有多自在 |
| 4 | You can't really be the butt of the joke | 你不可能是开玩笑的 |
| 5 | if you're also laughing too. | 如果你也在笑的话 |
| 6 | We are so focused on how we are coming across. | 我们如此专注于如何应对。 |
| 7 | Don't you think everybody else is doing that too? | 难道你不认为其他人也这样做吗? |
| 8 | Hi, everybody. | 大家好,你们好 |
| 9 | I am so excited to be sitting here with you this morning. | 今天早上坐在你这我太兴奋了 |
| 10 | I've had a little bit of a late start to my morning | 我早上开始有点晚 |
| 11 | and it feels good to finally just get to sit down, relax, | 终于能坐下来放松了 |
| 12 | make this arrangement with you. | 与你做出这个安排。 |
| 13 | Yes, best way to start the day. | 是的,最好的开始方式是今天。 |
| 14 | I also have been getting over a cold the past few weeks, | 过去几周我也感冒了 |
| 15 | but then I got over it and I was fine, | 但后来我克服了它,我很好, |
| 16 | but now my sinuses are bothering me again. | 但是现在我的鼻涕又让我烦恼了 |
| 17 | My voice has been very nasally the past few days, | 过去几天我的声音很恶心 |
| 18 | so I'm sorry if you can hear my stuffiness. | 所以,我很抱歉,如果你能听到我的脏话。 |
| 19 | Hopefully it doesn't bother you too much. | 希望你不会太烦恼 |
| 20 | It's bothering me a little bit though. | 有点困扰我 |
| 21 | Mm, so I wanted to chat with you today | 嗯,今天我想跟你谈谈 |
| 22 | about something that I have been facing a lot recently, | 关于我最近面对的事情 |
| 23 | which is what made me think about it, embarrassment. | 这让我觉得尴尬 |
| 24 | It's something that we all feel. | 我们都有这种感觉 |
| 25 | It really plays into humility | 真的很谦虚 |
| 26 | and tests how serious we take ourselves. | 测试我们对自己有多认真 |
| 27 | Going through humbling experiences | 经历痛苦的经历 |
| 28 | can either help you take yourself a lot less seriously | 要么帮你自己 少当真一点 |
| 29 | or maybe it can do the opposite | 也可能是相反的 |
| 30 | and you're just haunted | 你只是闹鬼 |
| 31 | by all the embarrassing things you've done | 你做了那么多令人尴尬的事 |
| 32 | and you just overthink | 你只是过度思考 |
| 33 | how maybe you come across to other people. | 你怎么会遇到别人? |
| 34 | So I think that it can be used for good | 所以我觉得它可以永远使用 |
| 35 | or maybe not so good. | 或者也许不是那么好。 |
| 36 | Embarrassment is not a pleasurable feeling. | 尴尬不是令人愉快的感觉。 |
| 37 | I don't think any of us enjoy feeling embarrassed. | 我觉得我们谁都不会觉得尴尬 |
| 38 | My face just gets so red when I get embarrassed | 当我感到尴尬时 我的脸会红的 |
| 39 | and sometimes I'll start getting embarrassed | 有时我会开始尴尬 |
| 40 | and my face will get red | 我的脸会红的 |
| 41 | and then I'll think about how red my face is getting | 然后我会想,我的脸有多红 |
| 42 | and then it will just keep getting more and more red | 然后会越来越红 |
| 43 | and then I'm on this spiral of just feeling humiliated | 然后我就陷入了被羞辱的境地 |
| 44 | and thinking about how others are perceiving me. | 想想别人怎么看待我 |
| 45 | Oh, it just, it's a mess. | 哦,只是,这是一团糟。 |
| 46 | And no matter how cool you think you are, | 不管你觉得自己有多酷 |
| 47 | I know that you felt the same way. | 我知道你也是这么想的 |
| 48 | I know you've been embarrassed. | 我知道你一直很尴尬。 |
| 49 | I know everyone has been embarrassed. | 我知道大家都很尴尬 |
| 50 | Yeah, that's why I wanted to chat about it. | 是啊,这就是为什么我想谈这件事。 |
| 51 | I feel like it's a very universal feeling and emotion. | 我觉得这是一种非常普遍的感受和情感. |
| 52 | It's a very self-focused emotion. | 这是一种很注重自我的情感. |
| 53 | We don't realize that not everybody is gonna perceive | 我们不知道不是每个人都会觉得 |
| 54 | whatever we're embarrassed about | 无论我们感到羞愧 |
| 55 | in the same way that we're perceiving it. | 就像我们所看到的一样 |
| 56 | We have some snapdragons, which are such a pretty color. | 我们有一些快龙, 这是这么漂亮的颜色。 |
| 57 | These are gorgeous. | 这些真漂亮。 |
| 58 | 我之前没有和Snapdragons达成协议, | |
| 59 | so I'm really excited. | 所以我真的很兴奋。 |
| 60 | 然后,我们有一些ranunculus在这里。 | |
| 61 | They're kind of falling apart. | 他们都快崩溃了 |
| 62 | Whoa, what is going on? | 哇,这是怎么回事? |
| 63 | He loves me, he loves me not. | 他爱我,他不爱我。 |
| 64 | Let me just have some greens to throw in there if need be. | 如果需要的话,让我来点绿色的 |
| 65 | Let's see what we can do today. | 今当观之. |
| 66 | How comfortable you are with embarrassment | 你有多自在 尴尬 |
| 67 | is how comfortable you are with yourself in my eyes. | 你在我的眼中是多么的自在 |
| 68 | However I can move past embarrassment | 不过,我可以摆脱尴尬 |
| 69 | and sort of make peace with it | 并与之和解 |
| 70 | measures how present I'm being or how confident I am. | 衡量我有多现身 或有多自信 |
| 71 | And like I said, we've all been tested with embarrassment. | 正如我所说,我们都受到了尴尬的考验。 |
| 72 | I know just how exhausting it is to try and look at yourself | 我知道试想看看自己有多累 |
| 73 | through the perspective of somebody else, | 从别人的角度看, |
| 74 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}就像猜猜大家都在想你一样 | |
| 75 | or how they might be perceiving you | 或者他们如何看待你 |
| 76 | or whatever you're doing or whatever mistake you made. | 或者不管你在做什么 或者你犯了什么错误 |
| 77 | I came to a realization over the course of many, many years | 多年来我终于意识到 |
| 78 | where I finally was just like, | 我终于想, |
| 79 | what if I didn't care about this? | 如果我不在乎这个呢? |
| 80 | What if I realized that it's not my business | 如果我意识到这不关我的事 |
| 81 | how other people see me? | 别人怎么看我的? |
| 82 | It's my business how I view myself. | 我对自己的看法是关我的事 |
| 83 | Do I like myself? | 我喜欢自己吗? |
| 84 | Let's start there. | 从那里开始 |
| 85 | Do I respect myself? | 我尊重自己吗? |
| 86 | Becoming stable with yourself | 自己变得稳定 |
| 87 | means something different for everybody. | 意思是每个人都不一样 |
| 88 | But realizing how much of an issue I had with embarrassment | 但意识到我有多尴尬 |
| 89 | and how I was constantly so paranoid | 我总是如此偏执 |
| 90 | about how other people were viewing me | 关于别人怎么看我的 |
| 91 | or how I might be perceived | 或如何看待我 |
| 92 | showed me that I wasn't very comfortable with myself. | 让我觉得自己不太舒服 |
| 93 | I didn't feel stable in who I was. | 我不觉得稳定 我是谁。 |
| 94 | I was relying on everybody else to tell me who I was. | 我靠别人告诉我我是谁 |
| 95 | I realized, okay, I don't actually have control | 我意识到,好吧,我真的没有控制 |
| 96 | over other people's opinions. | 而不是别人的意见。 |
| 97 | Of course it feels good to get praise and admiration | 当然,得到赞美和钦佩感觉很好 |
| 98 | but I actually don't have control over that. | 但我实际上不能控制它。 |
| 99 | And I actually don't have control | 而我实际上没有控制 |
| 100 | over how anybody perceives me. | 关于别人对我的看法 |
| 101 | Why don't I take all of this effort that I'm putting in | 我何不接受所有的努力呢? |
| 102 | to trying to get in the head of others | 试图进入别人的脑袋 |
| 103 | to see how I might be coming across into how I see myself? | 看看我是怎么走到自己的样子的? |
| 104 | Everybody does things that are embarrassing. | 每个人都做一些尴尬的事 |
| 105 | We're just talking about how to handle that embarrassment. | 我们只是在谈论如何应对这种尴尬。 |
| 106 | Embarrassment is inevitable. | 尴尬是不可避免的。 |
| 107 | That's gonna happen to all of us. | 这会发生在我们所有人身上。 |
| 108 | How do you recover from that? | 如何从中恢复? |
| 109 | And I was not good at recovering from it | 我也不擅长从中恢复过来 |
| 110 | because I didn't feel solid enough in who I was | 因为我对自己的身份感觉不够扎实 |
| 111 | to be like, okay, you know what, that's okay. | 就像,好吧,你知道吗, 没关系。 |
| 112 | Let's have a little laugh with everybody else | 我们和大家一起笑一笑 |
| 113 | about this thing that I did and move on. | 关于这件事情,我做了,然后继续前进。 |
| 114 | I couldn't do that. | 我不能这样做。 |
| 115 | I have a video about self-acceptance | 我有一个视频 关于自我接受 |
| 116 | that I think really goes into this. | 我认为真的 进入这个。 |
| 117 | It's more about neutral acceptance. | 更多是关于中立的接受. |
| 118 | Embarrassment has to do with becoming | 羞愧与成为 |
| 119 | as neutral as possible. | 尽量中立 |
| 120 | I think if we hate ourselves through the embarrassment, | 如果我们因为尴尬而恨自己 |
| 121 | that's just gonna feel terrible | 感觉会很糟的 |
| 122 | and you're just never gonna forget | 你永远忘不了 |
| 123 | about the thing that you did that was so embarrassing. | 你做的事太丢脸了 |
| 124 | But then having this other approach | 但后来有了另一种方法 |
| 125 | of loving everything you do | 爱你所做的一切 |
| 126 | and having to be amazing at everything all the time, | 并且每件事物都要是惊人的, |
| 127 | those two extremes, that's not really gonna work out either | 那两个极端 也行不通的 |
| 128 | because like I said, | 因为就像我说的, |
| 129 | embarrassment, mistakes, imperfection is inevitable. | 尴尬、错误、不完美是不可避免的。 |
| 130 | So sometimes maybe you don't love everything that you do, | 所以,有时也许你不爱 你所做的一切, |
| 131 | but it's about having that grounding | 但这是关于有 地面 |
| 132 | and that acceptance in your perfections | 和接受在你的完美 |
| 133 | and in yourself as a whole. | 和整个你自己。 |
| 134 | And that's where I feel like the true self-love | 在那里,我感觉 像真正的自我爱 |
| 135 | and self-confidence comes in. | 自信就会降临 |
| 136 | But like I said, we've talked about that before. | 但正如我所说 我们以前说过的 |
| 137 | I'm just saying here, getting over embarrassment | 我只是说,在这里, 得到超过尴尬 |
| 138 | requires a bit of a neutral accepting perspective | 需要一个中性接受视角 |
| 139 | of you know what, what I just did is a little humiliating. | 你知道吗,我刚刚做的有点丢人 |
| 140 | Maybe I don't wanna be perceived this way, | 也许我不想被这样看待 |
| 141 | but what can I do about it now? | 但我现在能怎么办呢? |
| 142 | It's already happened. | 已经发生了 |
| 143 | I need to move forward | 我要继续前进 |
| 144 | and make peace with the fact that I did it. | 并和事实,我做到了。 |
| 145 | Stability and how you feel about yourself is very vital | 稳定和你对自己的感觉非常重要 |
| 146 | to not letting embarrassment bog you down so hard. | 不要让尴尬让你这么辛苦。 |
| 147 | And it looks different for everybody. | 每个人看起来都不一样 |
| 148 | I'm not sure exactly what it is that you feel | 我不确定你到底觉得什么 |
| 149 | you need to work on in order to feel a bit more peaceful | 你需要继续工作 才能更平静一点 |
| 150 | with yourself or what you need to talk through | 与你自己或你需要谈 通过 |
| 151 | or work through. | 或工作通过。 |
| 152 | But I know that moving in that direction | 但我知道朝着这个方向前进 |
| 153 | of trying to accept yourself as a whole | 试图接受整个你 |
| 154 | and find a bit more grace and forgiveness for yourself. | 给自己多点恩惠和宽恕 |
| 155 | It's a different journey for everybody. | 对大家都不同 |
| 156 | It means different things. | 意谓不同. |
| 157 | But I know that once I saw, wow, this is exhausting | 但我知道,一旦我看到, 哇,这是累死了 |
| 158 | to always care about what people are thinking about me. | 总是关心别人在想我 |
| 159 | And I realized that I actually could put that energy | 我意识到我实际上可以把能量 |
| 160 | into accepting myself and focusing on the things | 接受自己 专注于事物 |
| 161 | that made me feel good. | 这让我感觉很好。 |
| 162 | Moving towards the things that I cared about | 走向我关心的东西 |
| 163 | and surrounding myself with people | 和周围我的人 |
| 164 | that I felt accepted and happy around. | 我感到接受和快乐周围。 |
| 165 | Why do I feel like I am such a loser right now | 为什么我现在觉得自己是个失败者 |
| 166 | after doing this embarrassing thing? | 做了这些尴尬的事? |
| 167 | Oh, okay, that's showing me maybe where I need | 哦,好吧,这告诉我 也许我需要的地方 |
| 168 | to step up a little bit in my self-acceptance game. | 在我的自我接受游戏中 提高一点 |
| 169 | Instead of wasting all this energy on, | 而不是浪费这些能量, |
| 170 | oh my God, that was so embarrassing. | 哦,我的上帝,这太尴尬了。 |
| 171 | I'm so stupid, I'm so stupid. | 愚痴无常. |
| 172 | Instead of wasting all the energy on kicking yourself | 不要把精力浪费在踢自己身上 |
| 173 | and looking back on that embarrassing thing, | 回首那件尴尬的事 |
| 174 | shifting it to, all right, I clearly feel | 转到,好吧,我显然觉得 |
| 175 | like I'm lacking something here. | 就像我在这里缺少的东西。 |
| 176 | How can I help myself find peace in this area? | 我怎样才能在这个地区找到和平? |
| 177 | Because I can't undo the embarrassing thing that I did, | 因为我无法挽回我所做的令人尴尬的事 |
| 178 | but how can I help myself not feel this level of lack again? | 但是,我怎么能帮助自己 不再感到这种程度的缺乏? |
| 179 | Where can I kind of boost my confidence? | 我哪里能增强我的信心? |
| 180 | What can I work on? | 我还能做什么? |
| 181 | What activities can I do? | 我能做什么活动? |
| 182 | Who can I surround myself with? | 我能和谁在一起? |
| 183 | Who can I learn from? | 我能向谁学习? |
| 184 | What practices can I do that will bring me some peace | 我有什么办法能给我带来一些和平 |
| 185 | every day so that I don't feel like my whole world | 每天都让我感觉不像我的世界 |
| 186 | is upside down when I embarrass myself a little bit? | 当我有点尴尬的时候是颠倒的? |
| 187 | Why are we taking ourselves so seriously? | 我们为什么这么认真? |
| 188 | Why? | 为什么? |
| 189 | Tell me why. | 告诉我为什么。 |
| 190 | I'm sorry. | 对不起 |
| 191 | In my opinion, maybe some people won't like this. | 在我看来,也许有些人不会喜欢这样。 |
| 192 | I think we all take ourselves way too seriously. | 我想我们都太认真了 |
| 193 | And I think it's because we think that everybody else | 我认为是因为我们认为其他人 |
| 194 | cares so much about how we're coming across, | 这么关心我们怎么过去 |
| 195 | but really, everybody's just focused on themselves. | 但实际上,每个人都只是专注于自己。 |
| 196 | And when they're focused on you, | 而当他们专注于你, |
| 197 | it's because they don't feel good about themselves. | 因为他们对自己不好 |
| 198 | It's all about them. | 这是所有关于他们。 |
| 199 | When people are hating on you and how you're coming across, | 当人们恨你 和你如何通过, |
| 200 | it's just a projection of what they feel like | 这只是他们感觉的投影 |
| 201 | they are also lacking or what they want more of, you know? | 他们也缺少 或者他们想要更多的,你知道吗? |
| 202 | Think about it. | 考虑一下 |
| 203 | The reason that we are so embarrassed | 我们这么尴尬的原因 |
| 204 | when we do something embarrassing | 当我们做一些尴尬的事 |
| 205 | is because we are so focused on how we are coming across. | 因为我们如此专注于我们如何应对。 |
| 206 | Don't you think everybody else is doing that too? | 难道你不认为其他人也这样做吗? |
| 207 | And it's just funny. | 而且这很有趣。 |
| 208 | It makes me feel a bit better | 这让我感觉好一点 |
| 209 | when I'm so caught up in my head of what I'm doing | 当我沉浸在思绪之中时 |
| 210 | and how I'm doing this and how I look to other people | 以及我如何做到这一点, 我如何看别人 |
| 211 | and why did I say that stupid joke | 我为什么要说那愚蠢的笑话 |
| 212 | and just all these things. | 这一切 |
| 213 | I'm like, they're doing the same thing. | 我很喜欢,他们做的同样的事情。 |
| 214 | And if they're trying to make you feel bad | 如果他们想让你难过的话 |
| 215 | for whatever you did, | 无论你做了什么 |
| 216 | then they are probably more embarrassed with themselves | 那他们可能更尴尬了 |
| 217 | than you are in that moment. | 比你的那一刻。 |
| 218 | Like, if you do something kind of silly | 喜欢,如果你做 某种愚蠢的事情 |
| 219 | or you're cringing at yourself, | 或者你正在自责, |
| 220 | but you try to recover, you try to move on, | 但你试图恢复, 你试图前进, |
| 221 | you try to bring some joy to the next moment | 你试着给下一个时刻带来快乐 |
| 222 | or do something else or move forward | 或做别的事或前进 |
| 223 | and you do something embarrassing | 你做一些尴尬的事 |
| 224 | that's not hurting anybody | 这不会伤害任何人的 |
| 225 | and someone tries to get you down about it | 有人试图让你失望 |
| 226 | and someone tries to point out what you did | 有人试图指出 你做了什么 |
| 227 | and oh, you're so embarrassing, you're so silly. | 哦,你是如此尴尬,你是如此愚蠢。 |
| 228 | They are embarrassed of themselves. | 他们很尴尬 |
| 229 | There is no reason why somebody would try to make a person | 没有理由有人想造人 |
| 230 | who is not causing any harm, | 他不会伤害任何人, |
| 231 | who's trying to just move on from the situation. | 试图摆脱困境 |
| 232 | There's no reason why somebody should be trying | 没有理由有人来尝试 |
| 233 | to make them more embarrassed | 让他们更尴尬 |
| 234 | and bully them or point out what they did. | 欺负他们,或指出他们的行为。 |
| 235 | That was so embarrassing. | 太尴尬了 |
| 236 | Unless they're feeling a bit down on themselves, | 除非他们觉得自己有点低落, |
| 237 | they feel like they need to be lifted up | 他们觉得自己需要升起 |
| 238 | and be like, oh wow, ha ha, | 和像,哦哇,哈哈, |
| 239 | at least I'm not that embarrassing. | 至少我没有那么尴尬 |
| 240 | They're doing it to try to make themselves feel better. | 他们这样做是为了让自己感觉好点. |
| 241 | That's what I'm saying is like, | 我就是这个意思 |
| 242 | everybody is just taking themselves too seriously | 大家都太认真了 |
| 243 | in one way or another. | 以某种方式。 |
| 244 | Maybe it's from doing something embarrassing | 可能是因为做一些尴尬的事 |
| 245 | and over analyzing it and feeling insecure | 分析它,感觉不安全, |
| 246 | or people are being rude and judgmental unnecessarily | 或人们变得无礼和无谓的判断 |
| 247 | and trying to act like they're so above you. | 并试图表现得像 他们是如此高于你。 |
| 248 | They're taking themselves so seriously. | 他们很认真的对待自己 |
| 249 | Everybody is hyper focused on what they're doing, | 每个人的注意力都集中在他们在做什么, |
| 250 | what they're saying. | 他们说什么。 |
| 251 | We actually don't have any control | 我们实际上没有任何控制 |
| 252 | over how other people perceive us. | 对于别人如何看待我们 |
| 253 | So why don't we learn to just laugh at ourselves a little bit? | 不如我们学着笑自己一点? |
| 254 | Like I said, it's inevitable | 我说过,这是不可避免的 |
| 255 | and that kind of just brings me peace of, oh my gosh, | 那种只是给我带来平静, 哦,我的天哪, |
| 256 | okay, people are always gonna see me in a certain way. | 好吧,人们总是会 以某种方式看到我。 |
| 257 | Whatever I'm doing, there's always gonna be an opinion. | 无论我做什么 总会有意见的 |
| 258 | There's always gonna be a perspective. | 总会有观点的 |
| 259 | I can't control that. | 我不能控制这一点。 |
| 260 | So why don't I just learn to laugh at myself? | 那我为什么不学着笑自己呢? |
| 261 | Learning to laugh at myself was the best thing I ever did. | 学会嘲笑自己是我做过的最好的事 |
| 262 | I truly cannot tell you how much peace and happiness | 我真的不能告诉你 多么和平和幸福 |
| 263 | not taking myself so seriously has brought me. | 别把我当回事了 带给我的 |
| 264 | It's not easy. | 岂不易哉. |
| 265 | Of course, if we do something | 当然,如果我们做一些事情 |
| 266 | that maybe we wouldn't want others to witness, | 也许我们不想让别人见证 |
| 267 | it can be hard to just recover from that | 很难从中恢复过来 |
| 268 | and laugh at ourselves and move on. | 并嘲笑自己,继续前进。 |
| 269 | It's so attractive when people | 人总是这么迷人 |
| 270 | don't take themselves so seriously. | 别把自己当回事 |
| 271 | And you can tell. | 你可以看出来 |
| 272 | You can tell when people are not so self-absorbed | 你可以看到,当人们不是那么自负 |
| 273 | and aware and afraid of what other people are gonna say. | 并意识到和害怕 别人会说什么。 |
| 274 | You can feel that kind of carefree, relaxing freedom | 你能感觉到那种放松的自由 |
| 275 | about people who have decided that, you know what? | 关于那些决定的人,你知道吗? |
| 276 | Life is embarrassing. | 人生难堪. |
| 277 | I'm gonna laugh at myself when something funny happens. | 我会笑自己 当一些有趣的事情发生。 |
| 278 | Deciding to laugh at yourself instead of hate yourself | 决定嘲笑自己而不是恨自己 |
| 279 | sometimes a bit more relieving | 有时更放松 |
| 280 | than beating yourself up about something. | 而不是因为什么而自责 |
| 281 | I wanna be around the people | 我想在人们身边 |
| 282 | who don't take themselves so seriously. | 他们不会这么认真的 |
| 283 | I wanna be like that. | 我想这样 |
| 284 | Not taking yourself so seriously creates an illusion | 别太认真了 制造幻觉 |
| 285 | that maybe you don't do embarrassing things. | 也许你不会做尴尬的事 |
| 286 | Yes, embarrassing things might happen, | 是的,尴尬的事情可能会发生, |
| 287 | but the way that you recover from it and handle it | 但你从中恢复和处理的方法 |
| 288 | cuts you loose from all that excessive negativity. | 让你摆脱那些过度的消极情绪 |
| 289 | If somebody isn't taking themselves so seriously | 如果有人不这么认真 |
| 290 | and life happens and something that maybe | 和生命发生的事情,也许 |
| 291 | would be embarrassing to a lot of people happens to them, | 会让很多人感到尴尬 |
| 292 | if they're able to just move forward | 如果他们能继续前进 |
| 293 | and laugh at themselves and move on to the next situation, | 然后嘲笑自己,然后走向下一个局面, |
| 294 | then there's really nothing to be embarrassed about. | 那就没什么好尴尬的了 |
| 295 | You decide what there is to be embarrassed about. | 由你来决定有什么好尴尬的 |
| 296 | If you do something embarrassing | 如果你做了一些尴尬的事 |
| 297 | and you start making it a big deal and thinking about it | 你开始做一个大事情 并思考它 |
| 298 | you're just digging a deeper and deeper hole for yourself | 你只是在为自己挖一个更深的洞 |
| 299 | to climb out of and for other people to look at you | 让别人看着你 |
| 300 | and be like, oh, wow, she's really struggling. | 就像,哦,哇, 她真的很挣扎。 |
| 301 | That's really embarrassing. | 真尴尬 |
| 302 | Or you have the choice to laugh a little, | 或者你可以选择笑一下 |
| 303 | to not take it so seriously, | 不要这么认真 |
| 304 | to focus on the next moment ahead, brush it off. | 专注于未来的时刻, 刷掉它。 |
| 305 | Don't try to hide it and oh, you know, | 不要试图隐藏它,哦,你知道, |
| 306 | you don't have to hide whatever you did, | 你不必隐瞒你做了什么 |
| 307 | but moving past it with grace is a lot more powerful | 但是,通过它 优雅 更强大的 |
| 308 | if I did something embarrassing | 如果我做了一些尴尬的事 |
| 309 | than everybody was thinking that | 比每个人都认为 |
| 310 | and I had to be thinking about it. | 我不得不考虑它。 |
| 311 | But no, if I choose to laugh, I take my power back | 但是,不,如果我选择笑, 我收回我的力量 |
| 312 | and I get to move on freely and peacefully. | 而我可以自由和平地继续前进 |
| 313 | And if somebody else wants to have an issue | 如果别人想出问题 |
| 314 | with what I did that's so embarrassing, that's on them. | 我做的事太丢脸了,这要怪他们 |
| 315 | I'm not gonna carry that weight. | 我不会背负这个重量。 |
| 316 | I would rather laugh and have a good time. | 我宁愿笑着玩 |
| 317 | We can't always control the situation, | 我们不能总是控制局面 |
| 318 | but we can always control how we move forward | 但我们总能控制我们前进的方向 |
| 319 | and how we choose to perceive it. | 以及我们如何看待它。 |
| 320 | Let your recovery time be fast. | 让你的康复时间快点 |
| 321 | Let it be. | 随其所由. |
| 322 | For example, I'm gonna be vague here, but I did something. | 比如,我在这里会很模糊,但我做了一些事情。 |
| 323 | I was talking to somebody who in my head, | 我和脑子里的人说话 |
| 324 | I wanted them to take me quite seriously. | 我希望他们认真对待我 |
| 325 | I wanted to come across as somebody | 我想当一个人 |
| 326 | who really knew what they were talking about. | 他们真的知道他们在说什么。 |
| 327 | I was having a serious discussion with somebody | 我和某个人讨论得很认真 |
| 328 | and I spilled something on myself all over my crotch | 我把东西洒在裤子上 |
| 329 | and I was wearing something that you could just, | 我穿着一些你能穿的 |
| 330 | it was very obvious that I had spilled this thing | 很明显我把这东西洒了 |
| 331 | and I was having this important discussion. | 和我有这个重要的讨论。 |
| 332 | I don't think that it was that embarrassing | 我不觉得这么尴尬 |
| 333 | to the person I was talking to, | 和我说话的人, |
| 334 | but it was in my eyes really humiliating. | 但我眼中却很丢脸 |
| 335 | Of course, yes, it's not a big deal, | 当然了,没什么大不了的 |
| 336 | but it's something that I knew | 但这是我知道的东西 |
| 337 | that I would be thinking about later. | 我以后会考虑的 |
| 338 | Why did I do that? | 我为什么要这么做? |
| 339 | And I immediately found myself disappointed when it happened. | 我立刻发现自己失望 当它发生。 |
| 340 | Oh God, why did I do that? | 哦,上帝,为什么我这样做? |
| 341 | I realized, I feel like we have a split second | 我意识到,我觉得我们有一分秒 |
| 342 | to turn it around and be like, | 把它转过来,就像, |
| 343 | okay, am I going to hate myself for this | 好,我会恨我自己吗? |
| 344 | or am I going to laugh here? | 还是我要在这里笑? |
| 345 | Am I going to recover or am I going to sit in it? | 我要康复还是坐进去? |
| 346 | What am I going to do? | 我该怎么办? |
| 347 | So I took that moment to recover fast | 所以我趁机迅速恢复 |
| 348 | and I said, you know what, we're going to laugh here. | 我说,你知道, 我们要在这里笑。 |
| 349 | We're going to bring the light to the situation and move on. | 我们要把光明带入局势,继续前进. |
| 350 | I was like, oh my gosh, he can't believe I did that. | 我当时想,哦,我的天哪, 他不敢相信我这样做。 |
| 351 | Like laughing about it, doing what I could. | 就像在笑 尽我所能 |
| 352 | Let's clean it up a little bit. | 略举清净. |
| 353 | Okay, let's go, let's move on. | 好了,我们走,我们继续前进。 |
| 354 | You don't need to necessarily brush this thing off | 你不必把这东西刷掉 |
| 355 | and pretend it never happened, | 假装没发生过 |
| 356 | but allowing yourself to be lighthearted about it | 却让自己轻心 |
| 357 | and to giggle about it | 并嘲笑着它 |
| 358 | and to just sort of be graceful with yourself, love yourself. | 并只是有点优雅 与你自己,爱自己。 |
| 359 | Oh, you did that silly thing. | 哦,你做了那个愚蠢的事情。 |
| 360 | Okay, what next? | 好吧,接下来呢? |
| 361 | That is the sign of somebody who respects themselves. | 这是尊重自己的人的标志。 |
| 362 | They're not going to burden themselves | 他们不会自负的 |
| 363 | with how embarrassing this was. | 这太尴尬了 |
| 364 | No, let's laugh, let's have a good time and move to the next. | 不,我们笑吧,我们玩得开心点 然后搬去下一个 |
| 365 | How fast you're able to come back from it | 你能从它回来的速度有多快 |
| 366 | shows how comfortable you are with yourself | 显示你对自己有多舒服 |
| 367 | and how you don't take yourself so seriously. | 还有你如何不把自己当回事 |
| 368 | And that's an admirable trait. | 这是令人钦佩的特质。 |
| 369 | Then we can be happy | 这样我们就能快乐了 |
| 370 | that the embarrassing thing happened, right? | 尴尬的事情发生了,对不对? |
| 371 | Because wow, look how great you recovered from it. | 因为哇,看看你从它恢复了多好。 |
| 372 | You didn't let it stop you. | 你没有让它阻止你。 |
| 373 | You let it add to the situation. | 你让它增加了情况。 |
| 374 | In my instance, I let it add to the rapport | 就我而言,我让它增加关系 |
| 375 | I was building with this person and oh, ha ha. | 我和这个人一起建的 |
| 376 | And I don't know how that person perceived that. | 我不知道那个人是怎么看待的 |
| 377 | They probably aren't even thinking about it. | 他们可能根本没想过 |
| 378 | They probably don't even remember that it happened | 他们可能都不记得发生的事了 |
| 379 | because I was able to recover from it | 因为我能从中恢复过来 |
| 380 | and move forward in a graceful manner. | 以优雅的方式前进 |
| 381 | And that graceful way of going about it | 如此优雅的行事方式 |
| 382 | was just realizing I'm gonna laugh. | 只是意识到我会笑。 |
| 383 | I'm not gonna take myself so seriously. | 我不会这么认真的 |
| 384 | It's not a big deal. | 非大义也. |
| 385 | I'm going to bring my focus | 我要把注意力集中起来 |
| 386 | that really wants to go here | 那真的很想去这里 |
| 387 | on the embarrassing thing that I did | 我做了一件尴尬的事 |
| 388 | and focus onto the next part of the conversation | 并专注于对话的下一部分 |
| 389 | or the next thing that I can bring up | 或接下来的事 我可以提起 |
| 390 | or maybe bring it back to what I was saying. | 或者把它带回我说的话。 |
| 391 | Let's just move forward. | 我们继续前进吧 |
| 392 | Try not to dwell. | 尽量不要停留。 |
| 393 | I think the dwelling is where the misery comes from. | 我认为住所就是苦难的源头 |
| 394 | If we all dwelled in every embarrassing thing that happened, | 如果我们都住在每件尴尬的事里 |
| 395 | we would all be depressed and humiliated 24 seven. | 我们都会沮丧和羞辱247。 |
| 396 | I can't speak for the severity | 我无法形容如此严重 |
| 397 | of whatever embarrassing thing is coming to your mind. | 不管你想的是什么尴尬的事 |
| 398 | But I think no matter what the embarrassing thing is, | 但我觉得不管什么尴尬的事 |
| 399 | we can't really change what happened. | 我们无法改变所发生的一切 |
| 400 | That's why it's embarrassing | 难为情 |
| 401 | is you can't go back and do anything differently. | 你不能回去做别的事 |
| 402 | This thing happened. | 这件事情发生了 |
| 403 | It's causing embarrassment. | 这造成了尴尬。 |
| 404 | We don't have control over what is now in the past. | 我们无法控制现在的过去 |
| 405 | We do have control over what happens now. | 我们确实可以控制现在发生的一切。 |
| 406 | Why not gracefully move towards that | 何不优雅地走向 |
| 407 | with the attitude of this happened. | 以这种态度发生。 |
| 408 | Let's laugh about it. | 师笑曰. |
| 409 | Or maybe you have to go in another room and cry about it. | 或者你必须去另一个房间 哭着说 |
| 410 | I don't know. | 师曰. |
| 411 | Whatever you have to do to move on from this | 无论你必须做什么才能继续 |
| 412 | and go to the next moment. | 并进入下一个时刻。 |
| 413 | Just remember when your mind is threatening | 记住,当你的思想受到威胁 |
| 414 | to dwell in this thing that you could be using that | 住在这个东西 你可以使用 |
| 415 | to move forward from this thing | 继续前进 |
| 416 | that you really don't like that happened. | 你真的不喜欢发生这种事 |
| 417 | Try to bring that focus to the things that you do want | 试着把焦点引向你想要的东西 |
| 418 | and for the way that you want the interaction | 为了你想要互动的方式 |
| 419 | or the conversation to move forward. | 或者继续谈话 |
| 420 | Try to bring the focus to that | 试着把焦点引向 |
| 421 | instead of dwelling in the thing that you don't like | 而不是住在你不喜欢的东西 |
| 422 | or the thing that you hate that happened | 或者你讨厌发生的事情 |
| 423 | that you wish you could take back. | 你希望你能够收回。 |
| 424 | Dwelling there is just gonna create more of that | 住在那里会创造更多 |
| 425 | and just make that embarrassment more prominent. | 并且只是使这种尴尬更加突出。 |
| 426 | And it's just, you don't need that. | 只是,你不需要那个 |
| 427 | This kind of goes back to what we were saying, | 这种想法可以追溯到我们刚才所说的 |
| 428 | but a situation is as serious as you make it. | 但情况很严重 |
| 429 | If you want it to be a big deal, hyper-focus on it. | 如果你想成为一件大事,就把注意力放在上面。 |
| 430 | Dwell on it. | 盖之. |
| 431 | If you don't want it to be a big deal, | 如果你不想成为一件大事 |
| 432 | look forward. | 展望未来。 |
| 433 | Bring that attention to the moment in front of you. | 提醒大家注意眼前的时刻 |
| 434 | I know that it might not feel like it | 我知道它可能不喜欢它 |
| 435 | because of other people's reactions | 因为别人的反应 |
| 436 | or like we said earlier, | 或者像我们刚才说过的那样 |
| 437 | how people are trying to make you feel so embarrassed. | 人们试图让你感到如此尴尬。 |
| 438 | You actually have control over how serious the situation is. | 你实际上控制了局势的严重性。 |
| 439 | Oh wow, I'm actually really happy | 哦,哇,我真的很开心 |
| 440 | with how this is turning out, guys. | 情况如何 伙计们 |
| 441 | Ooh, this actually might be one of my favorites yet, okay? | 哦,这实际上可能是 我最喜欢的之一,好吗? |
| 442 | I'm really in a process of my life | 我真的在我的生活中一个过程 |
| 443 | where I am trying to shed my victim mentality | 在那里我试图 释放我的受害人心态 |
| 444 | because once you decide that you're a victim to this life, | 因为一旦你决定 你是这个生活的受害者, |
| 445 | everything is your worst enemy. | 一切都是你最大的敌人 |
| 446 | And I think embarrassment is one of those things | 我觉得尴尬是其中之一 |
| 447 | where you feel as though other people's reactions | 感觉就像别人的反应 |
| 448 | and response to you is what should control your dignity | 对你的回应就是控制你的尊严 |
| 449 | and how you feel about yourself. | 以及你对自己的感觉 |
| 450 | But at the end of the day, | 但到头来, |
| 451 | you are the one torturing yourself | 你才是折磨自己的人 |
| 452 | with that memory of that thing that was so embarrassing | 带着那件令人尴尬的东西的记忆 |
| 453 | and beating yourself up over it | 并痛打自己为它 |
| 454 | or feeling less because of it. | 或因为它而感觉更少。 |
| 455 | And it's so much easier to blame it | 更难怪 |
| 456 | on the world around us, right? | 在我们周围的世界,对不对? |
| 457 | Because then it feels like something out of our control | 因为那感觉就像我们控制不了的东西 |
| 458 | and we can't do anything about it. | 我们对此无能为力。 |
| 459 | But it is possible to get to a point | 但说到一点是可能的 |
| 460 | where you don't have to be the victim | 在你不必成为受害者的地方 |
| 461 | to other people's opinions or what they think about you | 别人的意见或他们对你的看法 |
| 462 | or how they might be perceiving you. | 或者他们怎么看待你 |
| 463 | And I think a big part of that | 我认为其中很大一部分 |
| 464 | is what we talked about in the beginning of this video, | 是我们在这段视频的开头所说的, |
| 465 | realizing that it is, | 意识到这是, |
| 466 | and what I talked about in my acceptance video | 和我在接受录影带里谈到的 |
| 467 | of realizing that everybody is thinking about themselves | 认识到每个人都在思考自己 |
| 468 | all the time and everybody is projecting | 一直以来 每个人都在投射 |
| 469 | their own insecurities onto you. | 他们对你的不安全感 |
| 470 | That has been a very liberating thing for me | 这对我来说是件很解放的事 |
| 471 | to realize that why would I waste my time | 我为什么要浪费时间 |
| 472 | caring so much about other people's opinions of me | 这么关心别人对我的看法 |
| 473 | when I know that it actually doesn't really | 当我知道它实际上不是真的 |
| 474 | have anything to do with me. | 跟我有关 |
| 475 | It more so has to do with themselves. | 更须自在. |
| 476 | Second of all, if I could choose to laugh | 其次,如果我可以选择笑 |
| 477 | and feel silly and happy and not carry all this weight | 并感到愚蠢和快乐 而不携带所有这些重量 |
| 478 | of taking myself so seriously, | 对我这么认真, |
| 479 | why wouldn't I choose that? | 为什么我不能选择呢? |
| 480 | Why wouldn't I choose to let that baggage go | 为什么我不能把行李放走? |
| 481 | and realize that I can't control | 并意识到我不能控制 |
| 482 | how others are gonna perceive me? | 别人怎么看待我? |
| 483 | All I can control is my own perception | 我只能控制我自己的感觉 |
| 484 | and feelings in this life. | 和这生活中的感受 |
| 485 | So why wouldn't I choose to just let go and feel lighter? | 我为什么不放过自己 觉得轻松呢? |
| 486 | I don't have to be dwelling on these things. | 我不必去调查这些事情 |
| 487 | I don't have to make this such a serious situation | 我没必要把事情搞得这么严重 |
| 488 | if I don't want to. | 如果我不想的话 |
| 489 | Realizing that really changed the game for me. | 意识到这真的改变了我的游戏。 |
| 490 | I know it's a lot easier said than done. | 我知道说起来比做起来容易多了 |
| 491 | I promise you making that cutoff | 我答应你做那个截断 |
| 492 | and making that mental switch and that decision | 并让精神转变和决定 |
| 493 | to bring that focus towards how you wanna move forward | 把注意力放在如何前进 |
| 494 | and how you can find a bit of peace and laughter about it | 和如何找到 一点点平静和笑它 |
| 495 | is much more enjoyable than the weight and the exhaustion | 比起体重和疲劳 更令人愉快 |
| 496 | of caring so much about how others are gonna perceive you. | 关心别人会怎么看待你 |
| 497 | And the good news is the things that we think | 好消息是我们认为 |
| 498 | are so memorable and so embarrassing | 难忘又尴尬 |
| 499 | and oh my gosh, people are probably thinking about this | 哦,我的天哪,人们可能 考虑这个 |
| 500 | years and years and years later. | 年年岁月后. |
| 501 | No, they're not because they have their own set | 不,他们不是因为他们有自己的套装 |
| 502 | of embarrassing things. | 尴尬的事情。 |
| 503 | Maybe somebody remembers it. | 也许有人记得 |
| 504 | Actually, oh my God, I'm thinking about. | 实际上,我的上帝,我在想。 |
| 505 | Just for you guys, I'm trying to tell you a secret story. | 给你们讲个秘密故事 |
| 506 | I can think of something that I did | 我能想出我做过的事 |
| 507 | that was really, really embarrassing. | 这真的很,真的很尴尬。 |
| 508 | And I did it in a group of boys | 我在一群男孩中做了这个 |
| 509 | and one of them was my boyfriend | 其中一个是我男朋友 |
| 510 | and we were in a group. | 我们组成一个团体。 |
| 511 | We were just sitting there and I was really shy. | 我们只是坐在那里,我真的很害羞。 |
| 512 | I just didn't really talk that much to these boys | 我只是没跟这些孩子说太多话 |
| 513 | and I was sitting with them and I was already so aware | 我坐在他们身边,我已经知道 |
| 514 | of all of my actions. | 我所有的行动。 |
| 515 | I wasn't saying that much. | 我没有说太多。 |
| 516 | I wasn't really participating too much. | 我并不怎么参与 |
| 517 | And then in a moment of silence, | 然后在沉默的时刻, |
| 518 | can't believe I'm telling the internet the story right now, | 真不敢相信我现在在跟互联网讲这个故事 |
| 519 | in a moment of silence, I farted. | 默默片刻,我放屁。 |
| 520 | Yep, I did. | 没错,我做到了。 |
| 521 | And I got so red and embarrassed | 我又红又尴尬 |
| 522 | that I ran to the other room | 我跑到另一个房间 |
| 523 | and put my head in the corner of the wall | 把头放在墙角 |
| 524 | and I was like, oh my God, I can't believe I did that. | 我简直不敢相信我做到了 |
| 525 | I can't believe I did that. | 我简直不敢相信我这样做。 |
| 526 | And I was so, I'm tearing up thinking about it | 我心里想着 |
| 527 | because it's funny. | 因为这很有趣。 |
| 528 | I'm not about to cry from sadness. | 我不会因为悲伤而哭 |
| 529 | It's just so hilarious. | 这太好笑了 |
| 530 | And I was laughing, but I was also just freaking out. | 我在笑 但我也吓坏了 |
| 531 | Yeah, that was a hard thing to come back from. | 是啊,这是很难回来的事情。 |
| 532 | But over the years, I just realized that like, | 但多年来,我刚意识到... |
| 533 | okay, yeah, those boys probably do remember that situation. | 好吧,是的,那些男孩 可能确实记得这种情况。 |
| 534 | But at the same time, I can't burden myself | 但与此同时,我无法负担自己 |
| 535 | with the weight of this forever. | 永远的重担 |
| 536 | I have to laugh about it. | 我得笑着说 |
| 537 | They were laughing about it in the other room. | 他们在另一个房间里笑着说 |
| 538 | I need to laugh about it too, so that I can move on. | 我也得笑一下,这样我才能继续 |
| 539 | If anything, it was more embarrassing to run away | 如果有的话,逃跑更尴尬 |
| 540 | and feel so embarrassed, like where I think | 觉得很尴尬 就像我想的那样 |
| 541 | if I was able to just sit there and get a little red | 如果我能坐在那里 得到一点红色 |
| 542 | and be like, oh my God, guys, | 像,哦,我的上帝,伙计们, |
| 543 | that's actually really embarrassing. | 这真的很尴尬。 |
| 544 | Ha ha, I can't believe I did that. | 哈哈,我不敢相信我这样做。 |
| 545 | What's next, because we were like playing a board game. | 接下来是什么,因为我们就像玩棋盘游戏。 |
| 546 | Laugh and move forward, laugh and move forward. | 笑且向前,笑且向前. |
| 547 | That's what I have been trying to do more recently | 我最近一直想这么做 |
| 548 | in my life, and it has been freeing me | 在我的生活, 它一直在释放我 |
| 549 | of just the humiliation that I've felt about things | 我对事物感到羞耻 |
| 550 | in my past and that situation. | 在我的过去和那种情况下 |
| 551 | That was probably what, like six years ago, five years ago? | 大概是六年前,五年前吧? |
| 552 | I think it was like five years ago. | 我想这就像五年前。 |
| 553 | And oh man, I still get embarrassed to this day | 哦,天啊,我今天还是很尴尬 |
| 554 | thinking about it, but it's not as memorable | 想想看,但这并不令人难忘 |
| 555 | to those boys as it is to me, is what I'm trying to say. | 对那些男孩来说,对我来说,这就是我想说的。 |
| 556 | They have their own list of things | 他们有自己的清单 |
| 557 | that were so embarrassing to them. | 让他们很尴尬 |
| 558 | That's not gonna just come to their head all the time. | 这可不是他们总想着的 |
| 559 | Or for me, when I think of embarrassing things | 或者对我来说,当我想到尴尬的事情 |
| 560 | that I've done, that's where my mind will go. | 我已经做了,这就是我的头脑会去。 |
| 561 | But for them, they're reflecting on other things. | 但是对他们来说,他们在反省其他的事情。 |
| 562 | People have their own set of embarrassing things | 人们有他们自己的一套尴尬的东西 |
| 563 | that they're not gonna remember yours. | 他们不会记得你的 |
| 564 | And if they do, it's not gonna be the same way | 如果是这样,那就不一样了 |
| 565 | that you're remembering it. | 你还记得它。 |
| 566 | That's the good news. | 这是好消息。 |
| 567 | It really isn't as serious to others as it is to us. | 它真的不是那么严肃 对别人,它是对我们。 |
| 568 | And if it is, that's their problem. | 如果是这样,那就是他们的问题。 |
| 569 | It actually is very relieving to think about | 考虑一下其实很轻松 |
| 570 | how obsessed everybody is with themselves | 每个人多么迷恋自己 |
| 571 | because it takes that weight off of, oh my God, yeah, | 因为它会减掉体重, 哦,我的上帝,是的, |
| 572 | people aren't viewing me in the way | 人们不会看我的方式 |
| 573 | that I'm viewing myself. | 我看着自己。 |
| 574 | And I don't have control over how they view me. | 我无法控制他们对我的看法 |
| 575 | I only have control over how I view myself. | 我只能控制自己的看法 |
| 576 | Am I gonna have that be a miserable process | 我会有一个悲惨的过程 |
| 577 | that is gonna exhaust me forever? | 那会让我永远疲劳吗? |
| 578 | Or am I gonna have it be a fun, peaceful process? | 还是我要去有一个有趣的,和平的过程? |
| 579 | And just a warning, other people might not like the fact | 警告一下,其他人可能不喜欢这个事实 |
| 580 | that you are so comfortable with yourself | 你对你自己这么自在 |
| 581 | and that you can just move on from embarrassing things. | 并且你可以从尴尬的事情继续前进。 |
| 582 | I know I said this a little bit, but just, you know, | 我知道我说了些话 但... |
| 583 | get ready for maybe some people trying | 准备好迎接某些人 |
| 584 | to make you feel more embarrassed about that thing | 让你觉得更尴尬的东西 |
| 585 | because they see maybe that you're not so fazed by it | 因为他们觉得你没有被它迷住了 |
| 586 | and that you can just laugh about it. | 你可以笑着说 |
| 587 | They want you to feel not as good | 他们要你感觉不好 |
| 588 | so they can feel better about themselves. | 这样他们就能感觉好点了 |
| 589 | And just don't listen. | 别听 |
| 590 | Figure out what makes you feel happy. | 想想是什么让你高兴了 |
| 591 | That's what we're always talking about, isn't it? | 这就是我们一直在谈论的,不是吗? |
| 592 | But like, what would bring you peace in the situation? | 但是,什么会给你带来 和平的情况? |
| 593 | Think about that. | 考虑一下 |
| 594 | Would it bring you peace to continue to dwell on this thing | 它会给你带来和平 继续停留在这件事情上 |
| 595 | or is that giving you more anxiety, | 还是让你更加焦虑? |
| 596 | even bringing more attention to it in the first place? | 甚至引起更多的关注 首先? |
| 597 | Or can you take the slightly unnatural, | 或者你可以拿一些不自然的, |
| 598 | I know it's not really always natural | 我知道这并不总是自然的 |
| 599 | to just laugh at ourselves, but it becomes easier, I promise. | 只是嘲笑我们自己, 但变得更容易,我保证。 |
| 600 | The more that you commit | 你犯的越多 |
| 601 | to just not taking yourself so seriously, | 只是不要把自己这么认真, |
| 602 | the easier it becomes. | 变得越容易。 |
| 603 | And I promise that thing that you did | 我答应你 |
| 604 | that's so embarrassing that you're dwelling over, | 这太尴尬了,你住在这里, |
| 605 | it's as serious as you want it to be. | 和你想的一样严重 |
| 606 | You can free yourself from it. | 能自解脱. |
| 607 | You can move on. | 你可以继续前进。 |
| 608 | You can bring all that focus to the next moment | 你可以把注意力带到下一个时刻 |
| 609 | and maybe use that as a lesson | 并也许用它作为教训 |
| 610 | as to how you want to move forward. | 至于你想怎样前进 |
| 611 | Maybe it's showing you | 也许它会告诉你 |
| 612 | that you need to build up that confidence a little bit. | 你需要建立 信心一点点。 |
| 613 | You need to feel a bit more stable in yourself | 你需要感觉更稳定一点 |
| 614 | so that you can laugh at yourself. | 以自笑语. |
| 615 | Or maybe it's showing you | 也许它会告诉你 |
| 616 | that you don't wanna be around a certain group of people. | 你不想和某个群体在一起 |
| 617 | One of my friends, ex-boyfriends, | 我的一个朋友,前男友, |
| 618 | he used to be so unhappy with himself | 他以前很不高兴 |
| 619 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}他会非常清醒 | |
| 620 | of what would be embarrassing to other people | 对别人来说会很尴尬的 |
| 621 | just so he could point it out, | 只是为了让他指出来 |
| 622 | just so that he can make that person | 为了让那个人 |
| 623 | feel really bad about themselves. | 对自己感到很不好 |
| 624 | And watch out for those people, they exist. | 当心那些人,他们存在。 |
| 625 | And I found that being in environments like that | 我发现在这样的环境中 |
| 626 | with those types of people who are just waiting | 与那些类型的人 等待 |
| 627 | for something kind of embarrassing to happen to you | 让你感到尴尬 |
| 628 | so that they can make you feel worse about it, | 这样他们会让你觉得更糟糕, |
| 629 | I learned that I cannot handle that. | 我得知我无法应付 |
| 630 | While I'm trying to feel good about myself, | 当我试着对自己好的时候 |
| 631 | I don't wanna be in environments like that. | 我不想在这样的环境中。 |
| 632 | So maybe this embarrassing thing can actually be used | 所以,也许这个尴尬的东西 可以实际使用 |
| 633 | as a tool to show us what do we need? | 作为显示我们需要什么的工具? |
| 634 | What do we need to feel a bit more peaceful | 我们需要什么 感觉更平静一点 |
| 635 | when these things happen? | 当这些事情发生时? |
| 636 | Because like I said, they are inevitable | 因为就像我说的,他们是不可避免的 |
| 637 | no matter how good you feel about yourself. | 不管你对自己有多好 |
| 638 | Life happens, you're gonna spill that drink on yourself. | 生命会发生的,你会洒 饮料自己。 |
| 639 | Maybe you'll fart in front of your boyfriend and his friends. | 也许你会在你男朋友和朋友面前放屁 |
| 640 | Maybe you will stutter in a speech you're giving. | 也许你在演讲时会口吃 |
| 641 | Maybe you will trip in front of your whole school. | 也许你会在你整个学校前绊倒 |
| 642 | I don't know, there are tons of things | 我不知道,有很多东西 |
| 643 | that could constantly be happening, | 这可能会不断发生, |
| 644 | but all we can really control is how we recover from them | 但我们能真正控制的是 我们如何从他们那里恢复 |
| 645 | and how we choose to move forward. | 以及我们如何选择前进。 |
| 646 | And I have found it to be a lot more enjoyable and peaceful | 我发现它更有趣 更和平 |
| 647 | when I'm able to just laugh at myself. | 当我能够只笑自己。 |
| 648 | You can't really be the butt of the joke | 你不可能是开玩笑的 |
| 649 | if you're also laughing too. | 如果你也在笑的话 |
| 650 | What I really want you guys to realize | 我真的希望你们意识到 |
| 651 | is that we have more power than we think. | 我们的力量比想象的要大 |
| 652 | We don't have to be a victim to other people's opinions | 我们不必成为别人意见的受害者 |
| 653 | and embarrassing, not so great things happening to us. | 和尴尬,不是 伟大的事情发生在我们身上。 |
| 654 | We can take our power back, we can laugh at it too. | 我们可以夺回我们的力量, 我们可以笑它。 |
| 655 | We can give ourselves enough grace to just move forward | 我们可以给自己足够的恩典 仅仅向前 |
| 656 | and we don't have to be a victim to these situations. | 我们不必成为这种情况的受害者。 |
| 657 | People are always gonna have something to say, | 人们总会有话要说, |
| 658 | but what do you have to say about yourself? | 但你对自己有什么看法? |
| 659 | Anyway, I think I am done with this arrangement. | 总之,我想我已经 与这个安排。 |
| 660 | If we're able to use these embarrassing things | 如果我们能用这些尴尬的东西 |
| 661 | as a lesson of humility and realize | 作为谦卑的教训 并意识到 |
| 662 | that we can't take ourselves so seriously | 我们不能这么认真对待自己 |
| 663 | or we will constantly be the victim to life | 否则我们就永远成为生命的受害者 |
| 664 | and its embarrassing moments, | 和尴尬的时刻, |
| 665 | let's take it as an opportunity | 让我们把它当作一个机会 |
| 666 | to humble ourselves a little bit | 谦卑一点 |
| 667 | and realize that everybody goes through these things | 并意识到每个人都会经历这些事情 |
| 668 | and we don't have to be so miserable about it | 我们不必这么难过 |
| 669 | or hyper-focus on it. | 或者把注意力集中在它上。 |
| 670 | We can let it go and free ourselves from that. | 我们可以放过它,并让自己摆脱它。 |
| 671 | And I wish us all luck moving through | 祝我们一切顺利 |
| 672 | our more embarrassing, tough moments. | 我们更尴尬,更艰难的时刻。 |
| 673 | And I know that you guys get it | 我知道你们知道 |
| 674 | and I am grateful that I'm not alone in these things | 我很感激我并不孤单 |
| 675 | or these embarrassing moments either. | 或者是这些尴尬的时刻 |
| 676 | Yeah, guys, I am gonna show you my final arrangement here. | 是的,伙计们,我要告诉你 我的最后安排在这里。 |
| 677 | Thank you so much for watching | 谢谢你的观看 |
| 678 | and for starting my morning with me here. | 和开始我的早晨在这里。 |
| 679 | There's nothing that I love more | 我最爱的莫过于 |
| 680 | than chatting with you guys and doing this. | 而不是和你们聊天和做这件事 |
| 681 | So thank you for joining me. | 所以,谢谢你加入我。 |
| 682 | It means the world to me. | 这对我来说意味着世界 |
| 683 | I love you so much. | 我爱你这么多。 |
| 684 | So proud of you. | 真为你骄傲 |
| 685 | And remember, we are on this journey together. | 记住,我们一起踏上了这个旅程。 |
| 686 | Have an amazing rest of your morning, day, evening, | 祝你早晨、白天、晚上的休息愉快 |
| 687 | and I will see you very soon. | 我会很快见到你。 |
| 688 | Bye. | 再见。 |
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P2 · 【全英 Vlog 4】let's get comfortable with embarrassment｜ 让我们从尴尬中解脱出来｜语料积累 ｜ 听力练习 p02 let's get comfortable with embarrassment (P2)
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| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:00 | If I choose to laugh, I take my power back. | 如果我选择笑, 我收回我的力量。 |
| 0:04 | How comfortable you are with embarrassment | 你有多自在 尴尬 |
| 0:07 | is how comfortable you are with yourself. | 你对自己有多自在 |
| 0:09 | You can't really be the butt of the joke | 你不可能是开玩笑的 |
| 0:12 | if you're also laughing too. | 如果你也在笑的话 |
| 0:14 | We are so focused on how we are coming across. | 我们如此专注于如何应对。 |
| 0:17 | Don't you think everybody else is doing that too? | 难道你不认为其他人也这样做吗? |
| 0:26 | Hi, everybody. | 大家好,你们好 |
| 0:28 | I am so excited to be sitting here with you this morning. | 今天早上坐在你这我太兴奋了 |
| 0:33 | I've had a little bit of a late start to my morning | 我早上开始有点晚 |
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| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
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| 1 | If I choose to laugh, I take my power back. | 如果我选择笑, 我收回我的力量。 |
| 2 | How comfortable you are with embarrassment | 你有多自在 尴尬 |
| 3 | is how comfortable you are with yourself. | 你对自己有多自在 |
| 4 | You can't really be the butt of the joke | 你不可能是开玩笑的 |
| 5 | if you're also laughing too. | 如果你也在笑的话 |
| 6 | We are so focused on how we are coming across. | 我们如此专注于如何应对。 |
| 7 | Don't you think everybody else is doing that too? | 难道你不认为其他人也这样做吗? |
| 8 | Hi, everybody. | 大家好,你们好 |
| 9 | I am so excited to be sitting here with you this morning. | 今天早上坐在你这我太兴奋了 |
| 10 | I've had a little bit of a late start to my morning | 我早上开始有点晚 |
| 11 | and it feels good to finally just get to sit down, relax, | 终于能坐下来放松了 |
| 12 | make this arrangement with you. | 与你做出这个安排。 |
| 13 | Yes, best way to start the day. | 是的,最好的开始方式是今天。 |
| 14 | I also have been getting over a cold the past few weeks, | 过去几周我也感冒了 |
| 15 | but then I got over it and I was fine, | 但后来我克服了它,我很好, |
| 16 | but now my sinuses are bothering me again. | 但是现在我的鼻涕又让我烦恼了 |
| 17 | My voice has been very nasally the past few days, | 过去几天我的声音很恶心 |
| 18 | so I'm sorry if you can hear my stuffiness. | 所以,我很抱歉,如果你能听到我的脏话。 |
| 19 | Hopefully it doesn't bother you too much. | 希望你不会太烦恼 |
| 20 | It's bothering me a little bit though. | 有点困扰我 |
| 21 | Hmm. | 是吗? |
| 22 | So I wanted to chat with you today | 我今天想跟你谈谈 |
| 23 | about something that I had been facing a lot recently, | 关于我最近面对的事情 |
| 24 | which is what made me think about it, embarrassment. | 这让我觉得尴尬 |
| 25 | It's something that we all feel. | 我们都有这种感觉 |
| 26 | It really plays into humility | 真的很谦虚 |
| 27 | and tests how serious we take ourselves. | 测试我们对自己有多认真 |
| 28 | Going through humbling experiences | 经历痛苦的经历 |
| 29 | can either help you take yourself a lot less seriously | 要么帮你自己 少当真一点 |
| 30 | or maybe it can do the opposite | 也可能是相反的 |
| 31 | and you're just haunted | 你只是闹鬼 |
| 32 | by all the embarrassing things you've done | 你做了那么多令人尴尬的事 |
| 33 | and you just overthink | 你只是过度思考 |
| 34 | how maybe you come across to other people. | 你怎么会遇到别人? |
| 35 | So I think that it can be used for good | 所以我觉得它可以永远使用 |
| 36 | or maybe not so good. | 或者也许不是那么好。 |
| 37 | Embarrassment is not a pleasurable feeling. | 尴尬不是令人愉快的感觉。 |
| 38 | I don't think any of us enjoy feeling embarrassed. | 我觉得我们谁都不会觉得尴尬 |
| 39 | My face just gets so red when I get embarrassed | 当我感到尴尬时 我的脸会红的 |
| 40 | and sometimes I'll start getting embarrassed | 有时我会开始尴尬 |
| 41 | and my face will get red | 我的脸会红的 |
| 42 | and then I'll think about how red my face is getting | 然后我会想,我的脸有多红 |
| 43 | and then it will just keep getting more and more red | 然后会越来越红 |
| 44 | and then I'm on this spiral of just feeling humiliated | 然后我就陷入了被羞辱的境地 |
| 45 | and thinking about how others are perceiving me. | 想想别人怎么看待我 |
| 46 | Oh, it just, it's a mess. | 哦,只是,这是一团糟。 |
| 47 | And no matter how cool you think you are, | 不管你觉得自己有多酷 |
| 48 | I know that you felt the same way. | 我知道你也是这么想的 |
| 49 | I know you've been embarrassed. | 我知道你一直很尴尬。 |
| 50 | I know everyone has been embarrassed. | 我知道大家都很尴尬 |
| 51 | Yeah, that's why I wanted to chat about it. | 是啊,这就是为什么我想谈这件事。 |
| 52 | I feel like it's a very universal feeling and emotion. | 我觉得这是一种非常普遍的感受和情感. |
| 53 | It's a very self-focused emotion. | 这是一种很注重自我的情感. |
| 54 | We don't realize that not everybody is gonna perceive | 我们不知道不是每个人都会觉得 |
| 55 | whatever we're embarrassed about | 无论我们感到羞愧 |
| 56 | in the same way that we're perceiving it. | 就像我们所看到的一样 |
| 57 | We have some snapdragons, which are such a pretty color. | 我们有一些快龙, 这是这么漂亮的颜色。 |
| 58 | These are gorgeous. | 这些真漂亮。 |
| 59 | 我之前没有和Snapdragons达成协议, | |
| 60 | so I'm really excited. | 所以我真的很兴奋。 |
| 61 | 然后,我们有一些ranunculus在这里。 | |
| 62 | They're kind of falling apart. | 他们都快崩溃了 |
| 63 | Whoa, what is going on? | 哇,这是怎么回事? |
| 64 | He loves me, he loves me not. | 他爱我,他不爱我。 |
| 65 | Let me just have some greens to throw in there if need be. | 如果需要的话,让我来点绿色的 |
| 66 | Let's see what we can do today. | 今当观之. |
| 67 | How comfortable you are with embarrassment | 你有多自在 尴尬 |
| 68 | is how comfortable you are with yourself in my eyes. | 你在我的眼中是多么的自在 |
| 69 | However I can move past embarrassment | 不过,我可以摆脱尴尬 |
| 70 | and sort of make peace with it | 并与之和解 |
| 71 | measures how present I'm being or how confident I am. | 衡量我有多现身 或有多自信 |
| 72 | And like I said, we've all been tested with embarrassment. | 正如我所说,我们都受到了尴尬的考验。 |
| 73 | I know just how exhausting it is to try and look at yourself | 我知道试想看看自己有多累 |
| 74 | through the perspective of somebody else, | 从别人的角度看, |
| 75 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}就像猜猜大家都在想你一样 | |
| 76 | or how they might be perceiving you | 或者他们如何看待你 |
| 77 | or whatever you're doing or whatever mistake you made. | 或者不管你在做什么 或者你犯了什么错误 |
| 78 | I came to a realization over the course of many, many years | 多年来我终于意识到 |
| 79 | where I finally was just like, | 我终于想, |
| 80 | what if I didn't care about this? | 如果我不在乎这个呢? |
| 81 | What if I realized that it's not my business | 如果我意识到这不关我的事 |
| 82 | how other people see me? | 别人怎么看我的? |
| 83 | It's my business how I view myself. | 我对自己的看法是关我的事 |
| 84 | Do I like myself? | 我喜欢自己吗? |
| 85 | Let's start there. | 从那里开始 |
| 86 | Do I respect myself? | 我尊重自己吗? |
| 87 | Becoming stable with yourself | 自己变得稳定 |
| 88 | means something different for everybody. | 意思是每个人都不一样 |
| 89 | But realizing how much of an issue I had with embarrassment | 但意识到我有多尴尬 |
| 90 | and how I was constantly so paranoid | 我总是如此偏执 |
| 91 | about how other people were viewing me | 关于别人怎么看我的 |
| 92 | or how I might be perceived | 或如何看待我 |
| 93 | showed me that I wasn't very comfortable with myself. | 让我觉得自己不太舒服 |
| 94 | I didn't feel stable in who I was. | 我不觉得稳定 我是谁。 |
| 95 | I was relying on everybody else to tell me who I was. | 我靠别人告诉我我是谁 |
| 96 | I realized, okay, I don't actually have control | 我意识到,好吧,我真的没有控制 |
| 97 | over other people's opinions. | 而不是别人的意见。 |
| 98 | Of course, it feels good to get praise and admiration, | 当然,这感觉很好 得到赞美和钦佩, |
| 99 | but I actually don't have control over that. | 但我实际上不能控制它。 |
| 100 | And I actually don't have control | 而我实际上没有控制 |
| 101 | over how anybody perceives me. | 关于别人对我的看法 |
| 102 | Why don't I take all of this effort that I'm putting in | 我何不接受所有的努力呢? |
| 103 | to trying to get in the head of others | 试图进入别人的脑袋 |
| 104 | to see how I might be coming across into how I see myself? | 看看我是怎么走到自己的样子的? |
| 105 | Everybody does things that are embarrassing. | 每个人都做一些尴尬的事 |
| 106 | We're just talking about how to handle that embarrassment. | 我们只是在谈论如何应对这种尴尬。 |
| 107 | Embarrassment is inevitable. | 尴尬是不可避免的。 |
| 108 | That's gonna happen to all of us. | 这会发生在我们所有人身上。 |
| 109 | How do you recover from that? | 如何从中恢复? |
| 110 | And I was not good at recovering from it | 我也不擅长从中恢复过来 |
| 111 | because I didn't feel solid enough in who I was | 因为我对自己的身份感觉不够扎实 |
| 112 | to be like, okay, you know what? | 就像,好吧,你知道吗? |
| 113 | That's okay. | 没关系 |
| 114 | Let's have a little laugh with everybody else | 我们和大家一起笑一笑 |
| 115 | about this thing that I did and move on. | 关于这件事情,我做了,然后继续前进。 |
| 116 | I couldn't do that. | 我不能这样做。 |
| 117 | I have a video about self-acceptance | 我有一个视频 关于自我接受 |
| 118 | that I think really goes into this. | 我认为真的 进入这个。 |
| 119 | It's more about neutral acceptance. | 更多是关于中立的接受. |
| 120 | Embarrassment has to do with becoming | 羞愧与成为 |
| 121 | as neutral as possible. | 尽量中立 |
| 122 | I think if we hate ourselves through the embarrassment, | 如果我们因为尴尬而恨自己 |
| 123 | that's just gonna feel terrible | 感觉会很糟的 |
| 124 | and you're just never gonna forget about the thing | 你永远也不会忘记这件事 |
| 125 | that you did that was so embarrassing. | 你这样做太尴尬了 |
| 126 | But then having this other approach | 但后来有了另一种方法 |
| 127 | of loving everything you do | 爱你所做的一切 |
| 128 | and having to be amazing at everything all the time, | 并且每件事物都要是惊人的, |
| 129 | those two extremes, that's not really gonna work out either | 那两个极端 也行不通的 |
| 130 | because like I said, | 因为就像我说的, |
| 131 | embarrassment, mistakes, imperfection is inevitable. | 尴尬、错误、不完美是不可避免的。 |
| 132 | So sometimes maybe you don't love everything that you do, | 所以,有时也许你不爱 你所做的一切, |
| 133 | but it's about having that grounding | 但这是关于有 地面 |
| 134 | and that acceptance in your perfections | 和接受在你的完美 |
| 135 | and in yourself as a whole. | 和整个你自己。 |
| 136 | And that's where I feel like the true self-love | 在那里,我感觉 像真正的自我爱 |
| 137 | and self-confidence comes in. | 自信就会降临 |
| 138 | But like I said, we've talked about that before. | 但正如我所说 我们以前说过的 |
| 139 | I'm just saying here, getting over embarrassment | 我只是说,在这里, 得到超过尴尬 |
| 140 | requires a bit of a neutral accepting perspective | 需要一个中性接受视角 |
| 141 | of you know what? | 你知道吗? |
| 142 | What I just did is a little humiliating. | 我只是有点丢脸 |
| 143 | Maybe I don't wanna be perceived this way, | 也许我不想被这样看待 |
| 144 | but what can I do about it now? | 但我现在能怎么办呢? |
| 145 | It's already happened. | 已经发生了 |
| 146 | I need to move forward and make peace | 我要继续前进,求和 |
| 147 | with the fact that I did it. | 和事实,我做到了。 |
| 148 | Stability and how you feel about yourself is very vital | 稳定和你对自己的感觉非常重要 |
| 149 | to not letting embarrassment bog you down so hard. | 不要让尴尬让你这么辛苦。 |
| 150 | And it looks different for everybody. | 每个人看起来都不一样 |
| 151 | I'm not sure exactly what it is that you feel | 我不确定你到底觉得什么 |
| 152 | you need to work on in order to feel a bit more peaceful | 你需要继续工作 才能更平静一点 |
| 153 | with yourself or what you need to talk through | 与你自己或你需要谈 通过 |
| 154 | or work through. | 或工作通过。 |
| 155 | But I know that moving in that direction | 但我知道朝着这个方向前进 |
| 156 | of trying to accept yourself as a whole | 试图接受整个你 |
| 157 | and find a bit more grace and forgiveness for yourself, | 找到更多的恩惠和宽恕自己, |
| 158 | it's a different journey for everybody. | 这对每个人都是不同的旅程。 |
| 159 | It means different things. | 意谓不同. |
| 160 | But I know that once I saw, wow, this is exhausting | 但我知道,一旦我看到, 哇,这是累死了 |
| 161 | to always care about what people are thinking about me. | 总是关心别人在想我 |
| 162 | And I realized that I actually could put that energy | 我意识到我实际上可以把能量 |
| 163 | into accepting myself and focusing on the things | 接受自己 专注于事物 |
| 164 | that made me feel good. | 这让我感觉很好。 |
| 165 | Moving towards the things that I cared about | 走向我关心的东西 |
| 166 | and surrounding myself with people | 和周围我的人 |
| 167 | that I felt accepted and happy around. | 我感到接受和快乐周围。 |
| 168 | Why do I feel like I am such a loser right now | 为什么我现在觉得自己是个失败者 |
| 169 | after doing this embarrassing thing? | 做了这些尴尬的事? |
| 170 | Oh, okay, that's showing me maybe where I need | 哦,好吧,这告诉我 也许我需要的地方 |
| 171 | to step up a little bit in my self-acceptance game. | 在我的自我接受游戏中 提高一点 |
| 172 | Instead of wasting all this energy on, | 而不是浪费这些能量, |
| 173 | oh my God, that was so embarrassing. | 哦,我的上帝,这太尴尬了。 |
| 174 | I'm so stupid, I'm so stupid. | 愚痴无常. |
| 175 | Instead of wasting all the energy on kicking yourself | 不要把精力浪费在踢自己身上 |
| 176 | and looking back on that embarrassing thing, | 回首那件尴尬的事 |
| 177 | shifting it to, all right, | 转到,好吧, |
| 178 | I clearly feel like I'm lacking something here. | 我显然觉得自己缺少什么 |
| 179 | How can I help myself find peace in this area? | 我怎样才能在这个地区找到和平? |
| 180 | Because I can't undo the embarrassing thing that I did, | 因为我无法挽回我所做的令人尴尬的事 |
| 181 | but how can I help myself not feel this level of lack again? | 但是,我怎么能帮助自己 不再感到这种程度的缺乏? |
| 182 | Where can I kind of boost my confidence? | 我哪里能增强我的信心? |
| 183 | What can I work on? | 我还能做什么? |
| 184 | What activities can I do? | 我能做什么活动? |
| 185 | Who can I surround myself with? | 我能和谁在一起? |
| 186 | Who can I learn from? | 我能向谁学习? |
| 187 | What practices can I do that will bring me | 我该怎么做才能带给我 |
| 188 | some peace every day so that I don't feel | 每天有些平静 这样我就不会觉得 |
| 189 | like my whole world is upside down | 就像我的世界颠倒了 |
| 190 | when I embarrass myself a little bit? | 当我有点尴尬的时候? |
| 191 | Why are we taking ourselves so seriously? | 我们为什么这么认真? |
| 192 | Why? | 为什么? |
| 193 | Tell me why. | 告诉我为什么。 |
| 194 | I'm sorry. | 对不起 |
| 195 | In my opinion, maybe some people won't like this. | 在我看来,也许有些人不会喜欢这样。 |
| 196 | I think we all take ourselves way too seriously. | 我想我们都太认真了 |
| 197 | And I think it's because we think | 我认为是因为我们想 |
| 198 | that everybody else cares so much | 其他人那么关心 |
| 199 | about how we're coming across. | 关于我们如何通过。 |
| 200 | But really, everybody's just focused on themselves. | 但实际上,每个人都只是专注于自己。 |
| 201 | And when they're focused on you, | 而当他们专注于你, |
| 202 | it's because they don't feel good about themselves. | 因为他们对自己不好 |
| 203 | It's all about them. | 这是所有关于他们。 |
| 204 | When people are hating on you and how you're coming across, | 当人们恨你 和你如何通过, |
| 205 | it's just a projection of what they feel like | 这只是他们感觉的投影 |
| 206 | they are also lacking or what they want more of, you know? | 他们也缺少 或者他们想要更多的,你知道吗? |
| 207 | Think about it. | 考虑一下 |
| 208 | The reason that we are so embarrassed | 我们这么尴尬的原因 |
| 209 | when we do something embarrassing is because | 当我们做一些尴尬的事,是因为 |
| 210 | we are so focused on how we are coming across. | 我们如此专注于我们如何通过。 |
| 211 | Don't you think everybody else is doing that too? | 难道你不认为其他人也这样做吗? |
| 212 | And it's just funny. | 而且这很有趣。 |
| 213 | It makes me feel a bit better when I'm so caught up | 这让我感觉好点 当我这么忙的时候 |
| 214 | in my head of what I'm doing and how I'm doing this | 在我的脑海里,我在做什么 和如何做到这一点 |
| 215 | and how I look to other people and, | 我如何看待别人, |
| 216 | oh, why did I say that stupid joke | 哦,为什么我说那愚蠢的笑话 |
| 217 | and just all these things? | 这一切? |
| 218 | I'm like, they're doing the same thing. | 我很喜欢,他们做的同样的事情。 |
| 219 | And if they're trying to make you feel bad | 如果他们想让你难过的话 |
| 220 | for whatever you did, then they are probably | 无论你做了什么, 他们很可能是 |
| 221 | more embarrassed with themselves | 更难为情 |
| 222 | than you are in that moment. | 比你的那一刻。 |
| 223 | Like, if you do something kinda silly | 喜欢,如果你做一些 有点傻 |
| 224 | or you're cringing at yourself, | 或者你正在自责, |
| 225 | but you try to recover, you try to move on, | 但你试图恢复, 你试图前进, |
| 226 | you try to bring some joy to the next moment | 你试着给下一个时刻带来快乐 |
| 227 | or do something else or move forward | 或做别的事或前进 |
| 228 | and you do something embarrassing | 你做一些尴尬的事 |
| 229 | that's not hurting anybody | 这不会伤害任何人的 |
| 230 | and someone tries to get you down about it | 有人试图让你失望 |
| 231 | and someone tries to point out what you did | 有人试图指出 你做了什么 |
| 232 | and, oh, you're so embarrassing, you're so silly, | 而且,哦,你是如此尴尬, 你是如此愚蠢, |
| 233 | they are embarrassed of themselves. | 他们很尴尬 |
| 234 | There is no reason why somebody would try to make a person | 没有理由有人想造人 |
| 235 | who is not causing any harm, | 他不会伤害任何人, |
| 236 | who's trying to just move on from the situation. | 试图摆脱困境 |
| 237 | There is no reason why somebody should be trying | 没有理由有人在尝试 |
| 238 | to make them more embarrassed and bully them | 让他们更尴尬 欺负他们 |
| 239 | or point out what they did that was so embarrassing. | 或者指出他们做了什么 如此尴尬。 |
| 240 | Unless they're feeling a bit down on themselves, | 除非他们觉得自己有点低落, |
| 241 | they feel like they need to be lifted up | 他们觉得自己需要升起 |
| 242 | and be like, oh, well, ha ha, | 像,哦,好吧,哈哈, |
| 243 | at least I'm not that embarrassing. | 至少我没有那么尴尬 |
| 244 | They're doing it to try to make themselves feel better. | 他们这样做是为了让自己感觉好点. |
| 245 | That's what I'm saying is like, | 我就是这个意思 |
| 246 | everybody is just taking themselves too seriously | 大家都太认真了 |
| 247 | in one way or another. | 以某种方式。 |
| 248 | Maybe it's from doing something embarrassing | 可能是因为做一些尴尬的事 |
| 249 | and overanalyzing it and feeling insecure | 过度分析,感到不安全 |
| 250 | or people are being rude and judgmental unnecessarily | 或人们变得无礼和无谓的判断 |
| 251 | and trying to act like they're so above you. | 并试图表现得像 他们是如此高于你。 |
| 252 | They're taking themselves so seriously. | 他们很认真的对待自己 |
| 253 | Everybody is hyper-focused on what they're doing, | 每个人都把注意力集中在他们在做什么, |
| 254 | what they're saying. | 他们说什么。 |
| 255 | We actually don't have any control | 我们实际上没有任何控制 |
| 256 | over how other people perceive us. | 对于别人如何看待我们 |
| 257 | So why don't we learn to just laugh at ourselves a little bit? | 不如我们学着笑自己一点? |
| 258 | Like I said, it's inevitable | 我说过,这是不可避免的 |
| 259 | and that kind of just brings me peace of, oh my gosh, okay, | 那种只是给我带来平静, 哦,我的上帝,好吧, |
| 260 | people are always gonna see me in a certain way. | 人们总会以某种方式看到我 |
| 261 | Whatever I'm doing, there's always gonna be an opinion. | 无论我做什么 总会有意见的 |
| 262 | There's always gonna be a perspective. | 总会有观点的 |
| 263 | I can't control that. | 我不能控制这一点。 |
| 264 | So why don't I just learn to laugh at myself? | 那我为什么不学着笑自己呢? |
| 265 | Learning to laugh at myself was the best thing I ever did. | 学会嘲笑自己是我做过的最好的事 |
| 266 | I truly cannot tell you how much peace and happiness | 我真的不能告诉你 多么和平和幸福 |
| 267 | not taking myself so seriously has brought me. | 别把我当回事了 带给我的 |
| 268 | It's not easy. | 岂不易哉. |
| 269 | Of course, if we do something | 当然,如果我们做一些事情 |
| 270 | that maybe we wouldn't want others to witness, | 也许我们不想让别人见证 |
| 271 | it can be hard to just recover from that | 很难从中恢复过来 |
| 272 | and laugh at ourselves and move on. | 并嘲笑自己,继续前进。 |
| 273 | It's so attractive when people | 人总是这么迷人 |
| 274 | don't take themselves so seriously. | 别把自己当回事 |
| 275 | And you can tell. | 你可以看出来 |
| 276 | You can tell when people are not so self-absorbed | 你可以看到,当人们不是那么自负 |
| 277 | and aware and afraid of what other people are gonna say. | 并意识到和害怕 别人会说什么。 |
| 278 | You can feel that kind of carefree, relaxing freedom | 你能感觉到那种放松的自由 |
| 279 | about people who have decided that, you know what? | 关于那些决定的人,你知道吗? |
| 280 | Life is embarrassing. | 人生难堪. |
| 281 | I'm gonna laugh at myself when something funny happens. | 我会笑自己 当一些有趣的事情发生。 |
| 282 | Deciding to laugh at yourself instead of hate yourself | 决定嘲笑自己而不是恨自己 |
| 283 | is sometimes a bit more relieving | 有时会更轻松一点 |
| 284 | than beating yourself up about something. | 而不是因为什么而自责 |
| 285 | I wanna be around the people | 我想在人们身边 |
| 286 | who don't take themselves so seriously. | 他们不会这么认真的 |
| 287 | I wanna be like that. | 我想这样 |
| 288 | Not taking yourself so seriously creates an illusion | 别太认真了 制造幻觉 |
| 289 | that maybe you don't do embarrassing things. | 也许你不会做尴尬的事 |
| 290 | Yes, embarrassing things might happen, | 是的,尴尬的事情可能会发生, |
| 291 | but the way that you recover from it and handle it | 但你从中恢复和处理的方法 |
| 292 | cuts you loose from all that excessive negativity. | 让你摆脱那些过度的消极情绪 |
| 293 | If somebody isn't taking themselves so seriously | 如果有人不这么认真 |
| 294 | and life happens and something | 生命发生了一些事情 |
| 295 | that maybe would be embarrassing to a lot of people | 这会让很多人尴尬 |
| 296 | happens to them, if they're able to just move forward | 发生在他们身上 如果他们能继续前进 |
| 297 | and laugh at themselves and move on to the next situation, | 然后嘲笑自己,然后走向下一个局面, |
| 298 | then there's really nothing to be embarrassed about. | 那就没什么好尴尬的了 |
| 299 | You decide what there is to be embarrassed about. | 由你来决定有什么好尴尬的 |
| 300 | If you do something embarrassing | 如果你做了一些尴尬的事 |
| 301 | and you start making it a big deal and thinking about it | 你开始做一个大事情 并思考它 |
| 302 | and oh no, oh no, you're just digging a deeper and deeper | 哦,不,哦,不,你只是挖一个 深度和深度 |
| 303 | hole for yourself to climb out of. | 让你自己爬出来 |
| 304 | And for other people to look at you and be like, | 而其他人看着你,就像, |
| 305 | oh wow, she's really struggling. | 哦,哇,她真的很挣扎。 |
| 306 | That's really embarrassing. | 真尴尬 |
| 307 | Or you have the choice to laugh a little, | 或者你可以选择笑一下 |
| 308 | to not take it so seriously, | 不要这么认真 |
| 309 | to focus on the next moment ahead. | 专注于未来的时刻。 |
| 310 | Brush it off. | 刷下来。 |
| 311 | Don't try to hide it and oh, you know, | 不要试图隐藏它,哦,你知道, |
| 312 | you don't have to hide whatever you did, | 你不必隐瞒你做了什么 |
| 313 | but moving past it with grace is a lot more powerful | 但是,通过它 优雅 更强大的 |
| 314 | if I did something embarrassing | 如果我做了一些尴尬的事 |
| 315 | than everybody was thinking that | 比每个人都认为 |
| 316 | and I had to be thinking about it. | 我不得不考虑它。 |
| 317 | But no, if I choose to laugh, I take my power back | 但是,不,如果我选择笑, 我收回我的力量 |
| 318 | and I get to move on freely and peacefully. | 而我可以自由和平地继续前进 |
| 319 | And if somebody else wants to have an issue | 如果别人想出问题 |
| 320 | with what I did that's so embarrassing, that's on them. | 我做的事太丢脸了,这要怪他们 |
| 321 | I'm not gonna carry that weight. | 我不会背负这个重量。 |
| 322 | I would rather laugh and have a good time. | 我宁愿笑着玩 |
| 323 | We can't always control the situation, | 我们不能总是控制局面 |
| 324 | but we can always control how we move forward | 但我们总能控制我们前进的方向 |
| 325 | and how we choose to perceive it. | 以及我们如何看待它。 |
| 326 | Let your recovery time be fast. | 让你的康复时间快点 |
| 327 | Let it be. | 随其所由. |
| 328 | For example, I'm gonna be vague here, but I did something. | 比如,我在这里会很模糊,但我做了一些事情。 |
| 329 | I was talking to somebody who in my head, | 我和脑子里的人说话 |
| 330 | I wanted them to take me quite seriously. | 我希望他们认真对待我 |
| 331 | I wanted to come across as somebody | 我想当一个人 |
| 332 | who really knew what they were talking about. | 他们真的知道他们在说什么。 |
| 333 | I was having a serious discussion with somebody | 我和某个人讨论得很认真 |
| 334 | and I spilled something on myself all over my crotch | 我把东西洒在裤子上 |
| 335 | and I was wearing something that you could just, | 我穿着一些你能穿的 |
| 336 | it was very obvious that I had spilled this thing | 很明显我把这东西洒了 |
| 337 | and I was having this important discussion. | 和我有这个重要的讨论。 |
| 338 | I don't think that it was that embarrassing | 我不觉得这么尴尬 |
| 339 | to the person I was talking to, | 和我说话的人, |
| 340 | but it was, in my eyes, really humiliating. | 但它,在我的眼中, 真的很丢脸。 |
| 341 | Of course, yes, it's not a big deal, | 当然了,没什么大不了的 |
| 342 | but it's something that I knew | 但这是我知道的东西 |
| 343 | that I would be thinking about later. | 我以后会考虑的 |
| 344 | Why did I do that? | 我为什么要这么做? |
| 345 | And I immediately found myself disappointed when it happened. | 我立刻发现自己失望 当它发生。 |
| 346 | Oh God, why did I do that? | 哦,上帝,为什么我这样做? |
| 347 | I realized, I feel like we have a split second | 我意识到,我觉得我们有一分秒 |
| 348 | to turn it around and be like, | 把它转过来,就像, |
| 349 | okay, am I going to hate myself for this | 好,我会恨我自己吗? |
| 350 | or am I gonna laugh here? | 还是我要在这里笑? |
| 351 | Am I gonna recover or am I gonna sit in it? | 我要康复还是坐在里面? |
| 352 | What am I gonna do? | 我该怎么办? |
| 353 | So I took that moment to recover fast | 所以我趁机迅速恢复 |
| 354 | and I said, you know what? | 我说,你知道吗? |
| 355 | We're going to laugh here. | 我们要在这里笑 |
| 356 | We're going to bring the light to the situation and move on. | 我们要把光明带入局势,继续前进. |
| 357 | I was like, oh my gosh, hee hee, can't believe I did that, | 我简直不敢相信我这样做 |
| 358 | like laughing about it, doing what I could, | 就像在笑 尽我所能 |
| 359 | let's clean it up a little bit. | 让我们清理一下。 |
| 360 | Okay, let's go, let's move on. | 好了,我们走,我们继续前进。 |
| 361 | You don't need to necessarily brush this thing off | 你不必把这东西刷掉 |
| 362 | and pretend it never happened, | 假装没发生过 |
| 363 | but allowing yourself to be lighthearted about it | 却让自己轻心 |
| 364 | and to giggle about it | 并嘲笑着它 |
| 365 | and to just sort of be graceful with yourself, love yourself. | 并只是有点优雅 与你自己,爱自己。 |
| 366 | Oh, you did that silly thing. | 哦,你做了那个愚蠢的事情。 |
| 367 | Okay, what next? | 好吧,接下来呢? |
| 368 | That is the sign of somebody who respects themselves. | 这是尊重自己的人的标志。 |
| 369 | They're not gonna burden themselves | 他们不会自负的 |
| 370 | with how embarrassing this was. | 这太尴尬了 |
| 371 | No, let's laugh, let's have a good time | 不,我们笑吧,玩得开心点 |
| 372 | and move to the next. | 移动到下一个。 |
| 373 | How fast you're able to come back from it | 你能从它回来的速度有多快 |
| 374 | shows how comfortable you are with yourself | 显示你对自己有多舒服 |
| 375 | and how you don't take yourself so seriously | 以及你如何不把自己这么严肃 |
| 376 | and that's an admirable trait. | 这是令人钦佩的特质 |
| 377 | Then we can be happy that the embarrassing thing happened, | 这样我们就能高兴了 尴尬的事情发生了, |
| 378 | right, because wow, look how great you recovered from it. | 好吧,因为哇,看你从它恢复了多好。 |
| 379 | You didn't let it stop you. | 你没有让它阻止你。 |
| 380 | You let it add to the situation. | 你让它增加了情况。 |
| 381 | In my instance, I let it add to the rapport | 就我而言,我让它增加关系 |
| 382 | I was building with this person and oh, ha ha, | 我和这个人一起建的 |
| 383 | and I don't know how that person perceived that. | 我不知道那个人是怎么看待的 |
| 384 | They probably aren't even thinking about it. | 他们可能根本没想过 |
| 385 | They probably don't even remember that it happened | 他们可能都不记得发生的事了 |
| 386 | because I was able to recover from it | 因为我能从中恢复过来 |
| 387 | and move forward in a graceful manner | 以优雅的方式前进 |
| 388 | and that graceful way of going about it | 和那优雅的方式去进行它 |
| 389 | was just realizing I'm gonna laugh. | 只是意识到我会笑。 |
| 390 | I'm not gonna take myself so seriously. | 我不会这么认真的 |
| 391 | It's not a big deal. | 非大义也. |
| 392 | I'm going to bring my focus that really wants to go here | 我要把我的专注点带到这里来 |
| 393 | on the embarrassing thing that I did | 我做了一件尴尬的事 |
| 394 | and focus onto the next part of the conversation | 并专注于对话的下一部分 |
| 395 | or the next thing that I can bring up | 或接下来的事 我可以提起 |
| 396 | or maybe bring it back to what I was saying. | 或者把它带回我说的话。 |
| 397 | Let's just move forward. | 我们继续前进吧 |
| 398 | Try not to dwell. | 尽量不要停留。 |
| 399 | I think the dwelling is where the misery comes from. | 我认为住所就是苦难的源头 |
| 400 | If we all dwelled in every embarrassing thing that happened, | 如果我们都住在每件尴尬的事里 |
| 401 | we would all be depressed and humiliated 24 seven. | 我们都会沮丧和羞辱247。 |
| 402 | I can't speak for the severity | 我无法形容如此严重 |
| 403 | of whatever embarrassing thing is coming to your mind, | 不管你想的是什么尴尬的事情 |
| 404 | but I think no matter what the embarrassing thing is, | 但我觉得不管什么尴尬的事 |
| 405 | we can't really change what happened. | 我们无法改变所发生的一切 |
| 406 | That's why it's embarrassing is you can't go back | 这就是为什么它令人尴尬是 你不能回去 |
| 407 | and do anything differently. | 做点别的 |
| 408 | This thing happened. | 这件事情发生了 |
| 409 | It's causing embarrassment. | 这造成了尴尬。 |
| 410 | We don't have control over what is now in the past. | 我们无法控制现在的过去 |
| 411 | We do have control over what happens now. | 我们确实可以控制现在发生的一切。 |
| 412 | Why not gracefully move towards that | 何不优雅地走向 |
| 413 | with the attitude of this happened. | 以这种态度发生。 |
| 414 | Let's laugh about it. | 师笑曰. |
| 415 | Or maybe you have to go in another room and cry about it. | 或者你必须去另一个房间 哭着说 |
| 416 | I don't know, whatever you have to do to move on from this | 我不知道,无论你必须做什么 离开这个 |
| 417 | and go to the next moment. | 并进入下一个时刻。 |
| 418 | Just remember when your mind is threatening | 记住,当你的思想受到威胁 |
| 419 | to dwell in this thing, | 住在这个东西, |
| 420 | that you could be using that to move forward | 你可以用它来前进 |
| 421 | from this thing that you really don't like that happened. | 从这件事情 你真的不喜欢发生。 |
| 422 | Try to bring that focus to the things that you do want | 试着把焦点引向你想要的东西 |
| 423 | and for the way that you want the interaction | 为了你想要互动的方式 |
| 424 | or the conversation to move forward. | 或者继续谈话 |
| 425 | Try to bring the focus to that instead of dwelling | 试着把焦点引向这一点 而不是住 |
| 426 | in the thing that you don't like | 你不喜欢的东西 |
| 427 | or the thing that you hate that happened | 或者你讨厌发生的事情 |
| 428 | that you wish you could take back. | 你希望你能够收回。 |
| 429 | Dwelling there is just gonna create more of that | 住在那里会创造更多 |
| 430 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}让这种尴尬更加突出 | |
| 431 | and it's just, you don't need that. | 只是,你不需要那个 |
| 432 | This kind of goes back to what we were saying, | 这种想法可以追溯到我们刚才所说的 |
| 433 | but a situation is as serious as you make it. | 但情况很严重 |
| 434 | If you want it to be a big deal, hyper-focus on it. | 如果你想成为一件大事,就把注意力放在上面。 |
| 435 | Dwell on it. | 盖之. |
| 436 | If you don't want it to be a big deal, look forward. | 若不欲为大事,往前看. |
| 437 | Bring that attention to the moment in front of you. | 提醒大家注意眼前的时刻 |
| 438 | I know that it might not feel like it | 我知道它可能不喜欢它 |
| 439 | because of other people's reactions | 因为别人的反应 |
| 440 | or like we said earlier, | 或者像我们刚才说过的那样 |
| 441 | how people are trying to make you feel so embarrassed. | 人们试图让你感到如此尴尬。 |
| 442 | You actually have control over how serious the situation is. | 你实际上控制了局势的严重性。 |
| 443 | Oh wow, I'm actually really happy | 哦,哇,我真的很开心 |
| 444 | with how this is turning out, guys. | 情况如何 伙计们 |
| 445 | Ooh, this actually might be one of my favorites yet, okay? | 哦,这实际上可能是 我最喜欢的之一,好吗? |
| 446 | I'm really in a process of my life | 我真的在我的生活中一个过程 |
| 447 | where I am trying to shed my victim mentality | 在那里我试图 释放我的受害人心态 |
| 448 | because once you decide that you're a victim to this life, | 因为一旦你决定 你是这个生活的受害者, |
| 449 | everything is your worst enemy | 一切都是你最大的敌人 |
| 450 | and I think embarrassment is one of those things | 我觉得尴尬是其中之一 |
| 451 | where you feel as though other people's reactions | 感觉就像别人的反应 |
| 452 | and response to you is what should control your dignity | 对你的回应就是控制你的尊严 |
| 453 | and how you feel about yourself, | 和你对自己的感觉, |
| 454 | but at the end of the day, | 但到头来, |
| 455 | you are the one torturing yourself | 你才是折磨自己的人 |
| 456 | with that memory of that thing that was so embarrassing | 带着那件令人尴尬的东西的记忆 |
| 457 | and beating yourself up over it | 并痛打自己为它 |
| 458 | or feeling less because of it | 或因为它而感觉更少 |
| 459 | and it's so much easier to blame it | 责怪它容易得多 |
| 460 | on the world around us, right? | 在我们周围的世界,对不对? |
| 461 | Because then it feels like something out of our control | 因为那感觉就像我们控制不了的东西 |
| 462 | and we can't do anything about it, | 我们对此无能为力, |
| 463 | but it is possible to get to a point | 但有可能说到一点 |
| 464 | where you don't have to be the victim | 在你不必成为受害者的地方 |
| 465 | to other people's opinions or what they think about you | 别人的意见或他们对你的看法 |
| 466 | or how they might be perceiving you | 或者他们如何看待你 |
| 467 | and I think a big part of that | 我觉得其中很大一部分 |
| 468 | is what we talked about in the beginning of this video, | 是我们在这段视频的开头所说的, |
| 469 | realizing that it is and what I talked about | 我意识到它和我说的 |
| 470 | in my acceptance video of realizing | 在我接受的录影带中 |
| 471 | that everybody is thinking about themselves all the time | 每个人都在想着自己 |
| 472 | and everybody is projecting their own insecurities onto you. | 每个人都把自己的不安全感投射到你身上 |
| 473 | That has been a very liberating thing for me to realize | 这对我来说是件非常自由的事情 |
| 474 | that why would I waste my time caring so much | 为什么我会浪费时间 关心这么多 |
| 475 | about other people's opinions of me | 关于别人对我的看法 |
| 476 | when I know that it actually doesn't really have anything | 当我知道它实际上没有真正什么 |
| 477 | to do with me, it more so has to do with themselves. | 和我有关, 更多的是和自己有关。 |
| 478 | Second of all, if I could choose to laugh | 其次,如果我可以选择笑 |
| 479 | and feel silly and happy | 并感到愚蠢和快乐 |
| 480 | and not carry all this weight of taking myself so seriously, | 而不是带着这么多的重量 对待自己如此严肃, |
| 481 | why wouldn't I choose that? | 为什么我不能选择呢? |
| 482 | Why wouldn't I choose to let that baggage go | 为什么我不能把行李放走? |
| 483 | and realize that I can't control | 并意识到我不能控制 |
| 484 | how others are gonna perceive me? | 别人怎么看待我? |
| 485 | All I can control is my own perception | 我只能控制我自己的感觉 |
| 486 | and feelings in this life. | 和这生活中的感受 |
| 487 | So why wouldn't I choose to just let go and feel lighter? | 我为什么不放过自己 觉得轻松呢? |
| 488 | I don't have to be dwelling on these things. | 我不必去调查这些事情 |
| 489 | I don't have to make this such a serious situation | 我没必要把事情搞得这么严重 |
| 490 | if I don't want to. | 如果我不想的话 |
| 491 | Realizing that really changed the game for me. | 意识到这真的改变了我的游戏。 |
| 492 | I know it's a lot easier said than done. | 我知道说起来比做起来容易多了 |
| 493 | I promise you making that cutoff | 我答应你做那个截断 |
| 494 | and making that mental switch and that decision | 并让精神转变和决定 |
| 495 | to bring that focus towards how you wanna move forward | 把注意力放在如何前进 |
| 496 | and how you can find a bit of peace and laughter about it | 和如何找到 一点点平静和笑它 |
| 497 | is much more enjoyable than the weight and the exhaustion | 比起体重和疲劳 更令人愉快 |
| 498 | of caring so much about how others are gonna perceive you. | 关心别人会怎么看待你 |
| 499 | And the good news is the things that we think | 好消息是我们认为 |
| 500 | are so memorable and so embarrassing | 难忘又尴尬 |
| 501 | and oh my gosh, people are probably thinking about this | 哦,我的天哪,人们可能 考虑这个 |
| 502 | years and years and years later, no, they're not | 年复一年 年复一年 没有 |
| 503 | because they have their own set of embarrassing things. | 因为他们有自己的一套尴尬的东西。 |
| 504 | Maybe somebody remembers it. | 也许有人记得 |
| 505 | Actually, oh my God, I'm thinking about, | 其实,哦,我的上帝, 我在想, |
| 506 | just for you guys, I'm gonna tell you a secret story. | 我给你们讲个秘密故事 |
| 507 | I can think of something that I did | 我能想出我做过的事 |
| 508 | that was really, really embarrassing. | 这真的很,真的很尴尬。 |
| 509 | I did it in a group of boys and one of them | 我在一个男孩子和他们中的一个 |
| 510 | was my boyfriend and we were in a group. | 曾经是我男朋友,我们是一伙的 |
| 511 | We were just sitting there and I was really shy. | 我们只是坐在那里,我真的很害羞。 |
| 512 | I just didn't really talk that much to these boys | 我只是没跟这些孩子说太多话 |
| 513 | and I was sitting with them and I was already so aware | 我坐在他们身边,我已经知道 |
| 514 | of all of my actions. | 我所有的行动。 |
| 515 | I wasn't saying that much. | 我没有说太多。 |
| 516 | I wasn't really participating too much. | 我并不怎么参与 |
| 517 | And then in a moment of silence, | 然后在沉默的时刻, |
| 518 | can't believe I'm telling the internet the story right now, | 真不敢相信我现在在跟互联网讲这个故事 |
| 519 | in a moment of silence, I farted. | 默默片刻,我放屁。 |
| 520 | Yep, I did. | 没错,我做到了。 |
| 521 | And I got so red and embarrassed that I ran | 我红得脸红 尴尬得跑掉了 |
| 522 | to the other room and put my head | 到另一个房间,把我的头 |
| 523 | in the corner of the wall and I was like, | 在墙的角落,我像, |
| 524 | oh my God, I can't believe I did that, I can't believe it. | 哦,我的上帝,我不能相信 我这样做,我不能相信它。 |
| 525 | And I was so, I'm tearing up thinking about it | 我心里想着 |
| 526 | because it's funny, I'm not about to cry from sadness. | 因为它很有趣, 我不会从悲伤中哭泣。 |
| 527 | It's just so hilarious. | 这太好笑了 |
| 528 | I was laughing but I was also just freaking out. | 我当时在笑 但我也吓坏了 |
| 529 | Yeah, that was a hard thing to come back from | 是啊,这是很难回来的 |
| 530 | but over the years, I just realized that like, | 但是这些年来,我意识到... |
| 531 | okay, yeah, those boys probably do remember that situation | 好吧,是的,那些男孩可能 记得的情况 |
| 532 | but at the same time, I can't burden myself | 但与此同时,我无法负担自己 |
| 533 | with the weight of this forever. | 永远的重担 |
| 534 | I have to laugh about it. | 我得笑着说 |
| 535 | They were laughing about it in the other room. | 他们在另一个房间里笑着说 |
| 536 | I need to laugh about it too so that I can move on. | 我也得笑一下才能继续 |
| 537 | If anything, it was more embarrassing to run away | 如果有的话,逃跑更尴尬 |
| 538 | and feel so embarrassed like where I think | 觉得很尴尬 就像我想的 |
| 539 | if I was able to just sit there and get a little red | 如果我能坐在那里 得到一点红色 |
| 540 | and be like, oh my God, guys, | 像,哦,我的上帝,伙计们, |
| 541 | that's actually really embarrassing, haha, | 这真的很尴尬,哈哈, |
| 542 | I can't believe I did that. | 我简直不敢相信我这样做。 |
| 543 | What's next? | 接下来呢? |
| 544 | Because we were like playing a board game. | 因为我们就像玩棋盘游戏 |
| 545 | Laugh and move forward, laugh and move forward. | 笑且向前,笑且向前. |
| 546 | That's what I have been trying to do more recently | 我最近一直想这么做 |
| 547 | in my life and it has been freeing me | 在我的生活中,它一直在释放我 |
| 548 | of just the humiliation that I've felt about things | 我对事物感到羞耻 |
| 549 | in my past and that situation, that was probably what? | 在我的过去和那种情况下, 这可能是什么? |
| 550 | Like six years ago, five years ago? | 就像六年前,五年前一样? |
| 551 | I think it was like five years ago and oh man, | 我觉得就像五年前,哦,男人, |
| 552 | I still get embarrassed to this day thinking about it | 想到今天我还是很尴尬 |
| 553 | but it's not as memorable to those boys as it is to me | 但对于那些男孩来说,它并不像对我那样难忘 |
| 554 | is what I'm trying to say. | 我想说的是 |
| 555 | They have their own list of things | 他们有自己的清单 |
| 556 | that were so embarrassing to them. | 让他们很尴尬 |
| 557 | That's not gonna just come to their head all the time | 这可不是他们总想着的 |
| 558 | or for me, when I think of embarrassing things | 或对我来说,当我想到尴尬的事情 |
| 559 | that I've done, that's where my mind will go | 我已经做了,这就是我的头脑会去 |
| 560 | but for them, they're reflecting on other things. | 但对他们来说,他们在思考其他的事情。 |
| 561 | People have their own set of embarrassing things | 人们有他们自己的一套尴尬的东西 |
| 562 | that they're not gonna remember yours | 他们不会记得你的 |
| 563 | and if they do, it's not gonna be the same way | 如果他们这样做, 它不会是相同的方式 |
| 564 | that you're remembering it. | 你还记得它。 |
| 565 | That's the good news. | 这是好消息。 |
| 566 | It really isn't as serious to others as it is to us | 其实对别人来说不是那么认真 对我们来说 |
| 567 | and if it is, that's their problem. | 如果是这样 那就是他们的问题 |
| 568 | It actually is very relieving to think about | 考虑一下其实很轻松 |
| 569 | how obsessed everybody is with themselves | 每个人多么迷恋自己 |
| 570 | because it takes that weight off of oh my God, yeah, | 因为这能减轻我的体重 |
| 571 | people aren't viewing me in the way that I'm viewing myself | 人们不会以自己的方式看待我 |
| 572 | and I don't have control over how they view me. | 我无法控制他们对我的看法 |
| 573 | I only have control over how I view myself. | 我只能控制自己的看法 |
| 574 | Am I gonna have that be a miserable process | 我会有一个悲惨的过程 |
| 575 | that is gonna exhaust me forever | 那会让我永远疲惫不堪 |
| 576 | or am I gonna have it be a fun, peaceful process? | 还是我要去 一个有趣的,和平的过程? |
| 577 | And just a warning, other people might not like the fact | 警告一下,其他人可能不喜欢这个事实 |
| 578 | that you are so comfortable with yourself | 你对你自己这么自在 |
| 579 | and that you can just move on from embarrassing things. | 并且你可以从尴尬的事情继续前进。 |
| 580 | I know I said this a little bit, | 我知道我说了一点 |
| 581 | but just get ready for maybe some people trying | 但只要准备好 也许有人尝试 |
| 582 | to make you feel more embarrassed about that thing | 让你觉得更尴尬的东西 |
| 583 | because they see maybe that you're not so fazed by it | 因为他们觉得你没有被它迷住了 |
| 584 | and that you can just laugh about it. | 你可以笑着说 |
| 585 | They want you to feel not as good | 他们要你感觉不好 |
| 586 | so they can feel better about themselves | 这样他们就能感觉好些了 |
| 587 | and just don't listen. | 别听 |
| 588 | Figure out what makes you feel happy. | 想想是什么让你高兴了 |
| 589 | That's what we're always talking about, isn't it? | 这就是我们一直在谈论的,不是吗? |
| 590 | But what would bring you peace in the situation? | 但什么会给你带来和平 在这种情况下? |
| 591 | Think about that. | 考虑一下 |
| 592 | Would it bring you peace to continue to dwell on this thing | 它会给你带来和平 继续停留在这件事情上 |
| 593 | or is that giving you more anxiety, | 还是让你更加焦虑? |
| 594 | even bringing more attention to it in the first place? | 甚至引起更多的关注 首先? |
| 595 | Or can you take the slightly unnatural, | 或者你可以拿一些不自然的, |
| 596 | I know it's not really always natural | 我知道这并不总是自然的 |
| 597 | to just laugh at ourselves, but it becomes easier, I promise. | 只是嘲笑我们自己, 但变得更容易,我保证。 |
| 598 | The more that you commit | 你犯的越多 |
| 599 | to just not taking yourself so seriously, | 只是不要把自己这么认真, |
| 600 | the easier it becomes. | 变得越容易。 |
| 601 | And I promise that thing that you did | 我答应你 |
| 602 | that's so embarrassing that you're dwelling over, | 这太尴尬了,你住在这里, |
| 603 | it's as serious as you want it to be. | 和你想的一样严重 |
| 604 | You can free yourself from it. | 能自解脱. |
| 605 | You can move on. | 你可以继续前进。 |
| 606 | You can bring all that focus to the next moment | 你可以把注意力带到下一个时刻 |
| 607 | and maybe use that as a lesson | 并也许用它作为教训 |
| 608 | as to how you want to move forward. | 至于你想怎样前进 |
| 609 | Maybe it's showing you | 也许它会告诉你 |
| 610 | that you need to build up that confidence a little bit. | 你需要建立 信心一点点。 |
| 611 | You need to feel a bit more stable in yourself | 你需要感觉更稳定一点 |
| 612 | so that you can laugh at yourself. | 以自笑语. |
| 613 | Or maybe it's showing you | 也许它会告诉你 |
| 614 | that you don't wanna be around a certain group of people. | 你不想和某个群体在一起 |
| 615 | One of my friends, ex-boyfriends, | 我的一个朋友,前男友, |
| 616 | he used to be so unhappy with himself | 他以前很不高兴 |
| 617 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}他会非常清醒 | |
| 618 | of what would be embarrassing to other people | 对别人来说会很尴尬的 |
| 619 | just so he could point it out, | 只是为了让他指出来 |
| 620 | just so that he can make that person | 为了让那个人 |
| 621 | feel really bad about themselves. | 对自己感到很不好 |
| 622 | And watch out for those people, they exist. | 当心那些人,他们存在。 |
| 623 | And I found that being in environments like that | 我发现在这样的环境中 |
| 624 | with those types of people who are just waiting | 与那些类型的人 等待 |
| 625 | for something kind of embarrassing to happen to you | 让你感到尴尬 |
| 626 | so that they can make you feel worse about it, | 这样他们会让你觉得更糟糕, |
| 627 | I learned that I cannot handle that. | 我得知我无法应付 |
| 628 | While I'm trying to feel good about myself, | 当我试着对自己好的时候 |
| 629 | I don't wanna be in environments like that. | 我不想在这样的环境中。 |
| 630 | So maybe this embarrassing thing can actually be used | 所以,也许这个尴尬的东西 可以实际使用 |
| 631 | as a tool to show us | 作为展示我们的工具 |
| 632 | what do we need? | 我们需要什么? |
| 633 | What do we need to feel a bit more peaceful | 我们需要什么 感觉更平静一点 |
| 634 | when these things happen? | 当这些事情发生时? |
| 635 | Because like I said, they are inevitable. | 因为正如我所说 他们是不可避免的。 |
| 636 | No matter how good you feel about yourself, life happens. | 不管你对自己有多好 生活都会发生 |
| 637 | You're gonna spill that drink on yourself. | 你会把酒洒在自己身上 |
| 638 | Maybe you'll fart in front of your boyfriend and his friends. | 也许你会在你男朋友和朋友面前放屁 |
| 639 | Maybe you will stutter in a speech you're giving. | 也许你在演讲时会口吃 |
| 640 | Maybe you will trip in front of your whole school. | 也许你会在你整个学校前绊倒 |
| 641 | I don't know, there are tons of things | 我不知道,有很多东西 |
| 642 | that could constantly be happening, | 这可能会不断发生, |
| 643 | but all we can really control is how we recover from them | 但我们能真正控制的是 我们如何从他们那里恢复 |
| 644 | and how we choose to move forward. | 以及我们如何选择前进。 |
| 645 | And I have found it to be a lot more enjoyable and peaceful | 我发现它更有趣 更和平 |
| 646 | when I'm able to just laugh at myself. | 当我能够只笑自己。 |
| 647 | You can't really be the butt of the joke | 你不可能是开玩笑的 |
| 648 | if you're also laughing too. | 如果你也在笑的话 |
| 649 | What I really want you guys to realize | 我真的希望你们意识到 |
| 650 | is that we have more power than we think. | 我们的力量比想象的要大 |
| 651 | We don't have to be a victim to other people's opinions | 我们不必成为别人意见的受害者 |
| 652 | and embarrassing, not so great things happening to us. | 和尴尬,不是 伟大的事情发生在我们身上。 |
| 653 | We can take our power back. | 我们可以夺回我们的力量 |
| 654 | We can laugh at it too. | 我们可以嘲笑它。 |
| 655 | We can give ourselves enough grace to just move forward | 我们可以给自己足够的恩典 仅仅向前 |
| 656 | and we don't have to be a victim to these situations. | 我们不必成为这种情况的受害者。 |
| 657 | People are always gonna have something to say, | 人们总会有话要说, |
| 658 | but what do you have to say about yourself? | 但你对自己有什么看法? |
| 659 | Anyway, I think I am done with this arrangement. | 总之,我想我已经 与这个安排。 |
| 660 | If we're able to use these embarrassing things | 如果我们能用这些尴尬的东西 |
| 661 | as a lesson of humility and realize | 作为谦卑的教训 并意识到 |
| 662 | that we can't take ourselves so seriously | 我们不能这么认真对待自己 |
| 663 | or we will constantly be the victim to life | 否则我们就永远成为生命的受害者 |
| 664 | and its embarrassing moments, | 和尴尬的时刻, |
| 665 | let's take it as an opportunity | 让我们把它当作一个机会 |
| 666 | to humble ourselves a little bit | 谦卑一点 |
| 667 | and realize that everybody goes through these things | 并意识到每个人都会经历这些事情 |
| 668 | and we don't have to be so miserable about it | 我们不必这么难过 |
| 669 | or hyper-focus on it. | 或者把注意力集中在它上。 |
| 670 | We can let it go and free ourselves from that | 我们可以放过它 摆脱它 |
| 671 | and I wish us all luck moving through | 祝我们一切顺利 |
| 672 | our more embarrassing, tough moments | 我们更尴尬,更艰难的时刻 |
| 673 | and I know that you guys get it | 我知道你们知道 |
| 674 | and I am grateful that I'm not alone in these things | 我很感激我并不孤单 |
| 675 | or these embarrassing moments either. | 或者是这些尴尬的时刻 |
| 676 | Yeah, guys, I am gonna show you my final arrangement here. | 是的,伙计们,我要告诉你 我的最后安排在这里。 |
| 677 | Thank you so much for watching | 谢谢你的观看 |
| 678 | and for starting my morning with me here. | 和开始我的早晨在这里。 |
| 679 | There's nothing that I love more | 我最爱的莫过于 |
| 680 | than chatting with you guys and doing this, | 而不是和你们聊天和做这件事 |
| 681 | so thank you for joining me. | 所以,谢谢你加入我。 |
| 682 | It means the world to me. | 这对我来说意味着世界 |
| 683 | I love you so much, so proud of you | 我非常爱你,非常为你骄傲 |
| 684 | and remember, we are on this journey together. | 记住,我们一起踏上这个旅程 |
| 685 | Have an amazing rest of your morning, day, evening | 祝你的早晨、白天、晚上的休息愉快 |
| 686 | and I will see you very soon. | 我会很快见到你。 |
| 687 | Bye. | 再见。 |
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