【TED 演讲】人生不只是要快乐｜There's more
字幕摘录
| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:04 | I used to think the whole purpose of life was pursuing happiness. | 我曾经认为生活的全部目的都是追求幸福. |
| 0:10 | Everyone said the path to happiness was success, so I searched for that ideal job, that perfect | 大家都说幸福之路是成功的 所以我找了份理想的工作 |
| 0:17 | boyfriend, that beautiful apartment. | 男朋友,那个漂亮的公寓。 |
| 0:20 | But instead of ever feeling fulfilled, I felt anxious and adrift. | 但我没有感到满足,反而感到焦虑和漂泊。 |
| 0:26 | And I wasn't alone. | 我不是一个人 |
| 0:27 | My friends, they struggled with this too. | 我的朋友,他们也为此挣扎。 |
| 0:32 | Eventually, I decided to go to graduate school for positive psychology to learn what truly | 最终,我决定去 研究生院的正心理学 学习什么才是真正的 |
| 0:38 | makes people happy. | 令众生欢喜. |
| 0:40 | But what I discovered there changed my life. | 但我在那里发现的改变了我的生活。 |
| 0:44 | The data showed that chasing happiness can make people unhappy. | 数据显示,追求幸福可以让人们不快乐. |
展开字幕全文（210 条）
| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | I used to think the whole purpose of life was pursuing happiness. | 我曾经认为生活的全部目的都是追求幸福. |
| 2 | Everyone said the path to happiness was success, so I searched for that ideal job, that perfect | 大家都说幸福之路是成功的 所以我找了份理想的工作 |
| 3 | boyfriend, that beautiful apartment. | 男朋友,那个漂亮的公寓。 |
| 4 | But instead of ever feeling fulfilled, I felt anxious and adrift. | 但我没有感到满足,反而感到焦虑和漂泊。 |
| 5 | And I wasn't alone. | 我不是一个人 |
| 6 | My friends, they struggled with this too. | 我的朋友,他们也为此挣扎。 |
| 7 | Eventually, I decided to go to graduate school for positive psychology to learn what truly | 最终,我决定去 研究生院的正心理学 学习什么才是真正的 |
| 8 | makes people happy. | 令众生欢喜. |
| 9 | But what I discovered there changed my life. | 但我在那里发现的改变了我的生活。 |
| 10 | The data showed that chasing happiness can make people unhappy. | 数据显示,追求幸福可以让人们不快乐. |
| 11 | And what really struck me was this. | 真正让我印象深刻的是这个 |
| 12 | The suicide rate has been rising around the world, and it recently reached a 30-year high | 自杀率在全世界不断上升,最近达到了30年来的最高点。 |
| 13 | in America. | 在美国。 |
| 14 | Even though life is getting objectively better by nearly every conceivable standard, more | 虽然生活客观上越来越好 几乎每个可以想象的标准,更多的 |
| 15 | people feel hopeless, depressed and alone. | 人们感到绝望、沮丧和孤独。 |
| 16 | There's an emptiness gnawing away at people, and you don't have to be clinically depressed | 你不必在临床上抑郁 |
| 17 | to feel it. | 来感受它。 |
| 18 | Sooner or later, I think we all wonder, is this all there is? | 迟早,我想我们都想知道, 这是所有的东西吗? |
| 19 | And according to the research, what predicts this despair is not a lack of happiness. | 而根据研究,预测这种绝望的不是缺乏幸福. |
| 20 | It's a lack of something else. | 谓无量众生. |
| 21 | A lack of having meaning in life. | 生活中缺乏意义 |
| 22 | But that raised some questions for me. | 但是这给我带来了一些问题。 |
| 23 | Is there more to life than being happy? | 生命比快乐还重要吗? |
| 24 | And what's the difference between being happy and having meaning in life? | 且喜与有生之义,何异乎? |
| 25 | Many psychologists define happiness as a state of comfort and ease, feeling good in the moment. | 许多心理学家将幸福定义为一种舒适和轻松的状态,在瞬间感觉良好. |
| 26 | Meaning though is deeper. | 意思虽然更深。 |
| 27 | The renowned psychologist Martin Seligman says meaning comes from belonging to and serving | 著名心理学家马丁·塞利格曼(Martin Seligman)说,意义来自于归属和服役 |
| 28 | something beyond yourself, and from developing the best within you. | 超越自我 超越你体内最优秀的发展 |
| 29 | Our culture is obsessed with happiness, but I came to see that seeking meaning is the | 我们的文化沉迷于幸福 但我发现寻求意义是 |
| 30 | more fulfilling path. | 更满足的路径。 |
| 31 | And the study showed that people who have meaning in life, they're more resilient, | 研究表明,在生活中有意义的人, 他们更具有弹性, |
| 32 | they do better in school and at work, and they even live longer. | 她们在学校和工作上表现更好,甚至活得更长。 |
| 33 | So this all made me wonder, how can we each live more meaningfully? | 因此,这一切让我好奇, 我们怎么才能生活得更有意义? |
| 34 | To find out, I spent five years interviewing hundreds of people and reading through thousands | 我花了五年时间采访了几百人 读了几千遍 |
| 35 | of pages of psychology, neuroscience and philosophy. | 心理学、神经科学和哲学的页面。 |
| 36 | Bringing it all together, I found that there are what I call four pillars of a meaningful | 我发现,我称之为有实际意义的四根支柱 |
| 37 | life. | 活着 |
| 38 | And we can each create lives of meaning by building some or all of these pillars in our | 我们每个人都可以创造有意义的生活 通过建设一些或所有 这些支柱在我们 |
| 39 | lives. | 活着 |
| 40 | The first pillar is belonging. | 第一柱为归属. |
| 41 | Belonging comes from being in relationships where you're valued for who you are intrinsically, | 归属来自在关系 在那里你被重视 谁是你的内在, |
| 42 | and where you value others as well. | 还有你重视别人的地方 |
| 43 | But some groups and relationships deliver a cheap form of belonging. | 但有些团体和关系提供一种廉价的归属形式. |
| 44 | You're valued for what you believe, for who you hate, not for who you are. | 你被看重于你所相信的,你憎恨的人,而不是你是谁. |
| 45 | True belonging springs from love. | 真正的爱之泉 |
| 46 | It lives in moments among individuals, and it's a choice you can choose to cultivate | 它生活在个人间的时刻 你可以选择培养 |
| 47 | belonging with others. | 属于他人。 |
| 48 | Here's an example. | 举个例子 |
| 49 | Each morning, my friend Jonathan buys a newspaper from the same street vendor in New York. | 每天早上,我的朋友乔纳森都从纽约的同一家街头小贩处购买报纸. |
| 50 | They don't just conduct a transaction, though. | 他们不只是做交易 |
| 51 | They take a moment to slow down, talk and treat each other like humans. | 他们需要一点时间来慢下来,交谈和对待对方像人类一样. |
| 52 | But one time, Jonathan didn't have the right change, and the vendor said, | 但有一次,乔纳森没有合适的零钱,卖家说, |
| 53 | don't worry about it. | 别担心 |
| 54 | But Jonathan insisted on paying. | 但乔纳森坚持要付钱. |
| 55 | So he went to the store and bought something he didn't need to make change. | 于是他去了商店,买了一些他不需要改变的东西. |
| 56 | But when he gave the money to the vendor, the vendor drew back. | 但是当他把钱给了卖家后,卖家就收回了. |
| 57 | He was hurt. | 他受伤了 |
| 58 | He was trying to do something kind, but Jonathan had rejected him. | 他本想做点什么 但乔纳森拒绝了他 |
| 59 | I think we all reject people in small ways like this without realizing it. | 我认为我们都以这种小方式拒绝人们,却没有意识到这一点。 |
| 60 | I do. | 当然 |
| 61 | I'll walk by someone I know and barely acknowledge them. | 我会由我认识的人走 几乎认不出他们 |
| 62 | I'll check my phone when someone's talking to me. | 有人跟我说话时我会检查我的手机 |
| 63 | These acts devalue others. | 这些行为贬低了他人的价值。 |
| 64 | They make them feel invisible and unworthy. | 让他们感到隐形和不值得 |
| 65 | But when you lead with love, you create a bond that lifts each of you up. | 但是当你带着爱领头的时候,你创造了一种将你们每个人抬起来的纽带. |
| 66 | For many people, belonging is the most essential source of meaning, | 对许多人来说,归属是最重要的意义来源, |
| 67 | those bonds to family and friends. | 与家人和朋友的关系 |
| 68 | For others, the key to meaning is the second pillar, purpose. | 对其他人来说,意义的关键是第二个支柱,目的. |
| 69 | Now, finding your purpose is not the same thing as finding that job that makes you happy. | 现在,找到你的目的 和找到让你高兴的工作不一样 |
| 70 | Purpose is less about what you want than about what you give. | 目的不在于你想要什么,而在于你付出什么。 |
| 71 | A hospital custodian told me her purpose is healing sick people. | 一个医院管理员告诉我 她的目的是治疗病人 |
| 72 | Many parents tell me, my purpose is raising my children. | 许多父母告诉我,我的目的是抚养我的孩子。 |
| 73 | The key to purpose is using your strengths to serve others. | 目的的关键是利用你的力量为他人服务. |
| 74 | Of course, for many of us, that happens through work. | 当然,对我们许多人来说,这是通过工作实现的。 |
| 75 | That's how we contribute and feel needed. | 这就是我们的贡献和感觉需要。 |
| 76 | But that also means that issues like disengagement at work, | 但这也意味着,像 脱离接触的问题在工作中, |
| 77 | unemployment, low labor force participation, | 失业、劳动力参与率低; |
| 78 | these aren't just economic problems. | 这些不仅仅是经济问题。 |
| 79 | They're existential ones, too. | 他们也是存在主义者 |
| 80 | Without something worthwhile to do, people flounder. | 没有值得做的事,人们就会浮出水面 |
| 81 | Of course, you don't have to find purpose at work, | 当然,你不需要找到工作的目的, |
| 82 | but purpose gives you something to live for, some why that drives you forward. | 但目的给了你一些生活的东西, 一些原因让你前进。 |
| 83 | The third pillar of meaning is also about stepping beyond yourself, | 第三个支柱的意义也是 超越你自己, |
| 84 | but in a completely different way. | 但以完全不同的方式 |
| 85 | Transcendence. | 转法轮. |
| 86 | Transcendent states are those rare moments | 越轨状态是难得的时刻 |
| 87 | when you're lifted above the hustle and bustle of daily life. | 当你摆脱了日常生活的烦恼 |
| 88 | Your sense of self fades away and you feel connected to a higher reality. | 你的自我意识逐渐消退,感觉自己与更高的现实相关联. |
| 89 | For one person I talked to, transcendence came from seeing art. | 我和一个人谈过 超能力来自艺术 |
| 90 | For another person, it was at church. | 对于另一个人,它是在教堂。 |
| 91 | For me, I'm a writer, and it happens through writing. | 对我来说,我是一个作家,它通过写作发生。 |
| 92 | Sometimes I get so in the zone that I lose all sense of time and place. | 有时我在那个区域会失去时间和位置的感觉 |
| 93 | And these transcendent experiences can change you. | 这些超越性的经验可以改变你。 |
| 94 | One study had students look up at 200 feet tall eucalyptus trees | 一项研究让学生仰望着200英尺高的 e树 |
| 95 | for one minute. | 一分钟。 |
| 96 | But afterwards, they felt less self-centered | 但之后,他们觉得自我中心化程度降低 |
| 97 | and they even behaved more generously when given the chance to help someone. | 当他们有机会帮助别人时 他们甚至表现得更加慷慨 |
| 98 | Belonging, purpose, transcendence. | 属于自己,目的,超越。 |
| 99 | Now, the fourth pillar of meaning I found tends to surprise people. | 现在,我发现的第四个支柱 往往让人惊讶。 |
| 100 | The fourth pillar is storytelling. | 第四支柱是讲故事。 |
| 101 | The story you tell yourself about yourself. | 你对自己讲的故事 |
| 102 | Creating a narrative from the events of your life brings clarity. | 从你生活中的事件中编造一个叙事,使事情变得清晰明了. |
| 103 | It helps you understand how you became you. | 它帮助你理解你是如何成为你的。 |
| 104 | But we don't always realize that we're the authors of our stories | 但我们并不总是意识到 我们是我们的故事的作者 |
| 105 | and can change the way we're telling them. | 可以改变我们告诉他们的方式 |
| 106 | Your life isn't just a list of events. | 你的生活不仅仅是一个事件列表。 |
| 107 | You can edit, interpret and retell your story, | 你可以编辑、解释和重述你的故事, |
| 108 | even as you're constrained by the facts. | 即使你受到事实的限制 |
| 109 | I met a young man named Emeka who'd been paralyzed playing football. | 我遇见了一个叫埃米卡的年轻人 他踢足球时瘫痪了 |
| 110 | After his injury, Emeka told himself, | 受伤后,埃米卡告诉自己: |
| 111 | my life was great playing football. | 我的生活是伟大的 踢足球。 |
| 112 | But now, look at me. | 但现在,看着我。 |
| 113 | People who tell stories like this, | 讲这种故事的人 |
| 114 | my life was good, now it's bad, | 我的生活是好的,现在它不好, |
| 115 | they tend to be more anxious and depressed. | 他们往往更加焦虑和沮丧。 |
| 116 | And that was Emeka for a while. | 这是伊米卡一阵子。 |
| 117 | But with time, he started to weave a different story. | 但随着时间的推移,他开始编织一个不同的故事. |
| 118 | His new story was, | 他的新故事是, |
| 119 | before my injury, my life was purposeless. | 在我受伤之前 我的生命是毫无意义的 |
| 120 | I partied a lot and was a pretty selfish guy. | 我参加过很多次 是个很自私的人 |
| 121 | But my injury made me realize I could be a better man. | 但我的伤害让我意识到 我可以成为一个更好的人。 |
| 122 | That edit to his story changed Emeka's life. | 编辑到他的故事 改变了埃米卡的生活。 |
| 123 | After telling the new story to himself, | 告诉自己这个新故事后 |
| 124 | Emeka started mentoring kids, | Emeka开始指导孩子们 |
| 125 | and he discovered what his purpose was, | 他发现自己的目的是什么, |
| 126 | serving others. | 服务于他人。 |
| 127 | The psychologist Dan McAdams calls this a redemptive story, | 心理学家丹·麦克亚当斯(Dan McAdams)称这个故事是"红色的". |
| 128 | where the bad is redeemed by the good. | 以善赎恶之处. |
| 129 | People leading meaningful lives, he's found, | 人们过着有意义的生活 他被发现了 |
| 130 | they tend to tell stories about their lives | 他们往往讲述自己的生活 |
| 131 | defined by redemption, growth and love. | 由救赎、成长和爱来定义 |
| 132 | But what makes people change their stories? | 但是什么让人们改变他们的故事? |
| 133 | Some people get help from a therapist, | 有些人得到治疗师的帮助, |
| 134 | but you can do it on your own too, | 但你也可以自己来 |
| 135 | just by reflecting on your life thoughtfully. | 只是通过思考 你的生活深思熟虑。 |
| 136 | How your defining experiences shaped you, | 你的界定经验如何塑造你 |
| 137 | what you lost, what you gained. | 你所失去的,你所获得的。 |
| 138 | That's what Emeka did. | 这就是埃米卡所做的。 |
| 139 | You won't change your story overnight, | 你不会改变你的故事 一夜之间, |
| 140 | it could take years and be painful. | 可能要花好几年时间才痛苦 |
| 141 | After all, we've all suffered and we all struggle. | 毕竟,我们都是受苦受难,我们都是挣扎的. |
| 142 | But embracing those painful memories | 但拥抱那些痛苦的回忆 |
| 143 | can lead to new insights and wisdom, | 可以带来新的见解和智慧, |
| 144 | to finding that good that sustains you. | 找到支撑你的好东西 |
| 145 | Belonging, purpose, transcendence, storytelling, | 归属、目的、超越、讲故事 |
| 146 | those are the four pillars of meaning. | 这些是意义中的四大支柱。 |
| 147 | When I was younger, I was lucky enough | 年轻的时候,我够幸运了 |
| 148 | to be surrounded by all of the pillars. | 被所有柱子包围 |
| 149 | My parents ran a Sufi meeting house | 我父母开了个苏菲会馆 |
| 150 | from our home in Montreal. | 从我们蒙特利尔的家。 |
| 151 | Sufism is a spiritual practice | 苏菲主义是一种精神习惯 |
| 152 | associated with the whirling dervishes and the poet Rumi. | 和诗人鲁米有关 |
| 153 | Twice a week, Sufis would come to our home | 每周两次,苏菲斯会来我们家 |
| 154 | to meditate, drink Persian tea, and share stories. | 冥想 喝波斯茶 分享故事 |
| 155 | Their practice also involved serving all of creation | 他们的实践也涉及为所有创作服务 |
| 156 | through small acts of love, | 通过小的爱情行为, |
| 157 | which meant being kind even when people wronged you. | 意思是好心点 即使有人欺负你 |
| 158 | But it gave them a purpose, to rein in the ego. | 但这给了他们一个控制自我的目的 |
| 159 | Eventually, I left home for college | 最后,我离开了家上大学 |
| 160 | and without the daily grounding of Sufism in my life, | 并且没有每天的苏菲主义 在我的生活中, |
| 161 | I felt unmoored and I started searching | 我感到不寒而栗,开始寻找 |
| 162 | for those things that make life worth living. | 对于那些使生活值得生活的东西。 |
| 163 | That's what set me on this journey. | 这就是我踏上这个旅程的原因 |
| 164 | Looking back, I now realize that the Sufi house | 回想起来,我现在意识到苏菲家 |
| 165 | had a real culture of meaning. | 有真正的文化意义。 |
| 166 | The pillars were part of the architecture, | 这些支柱是建筑的一部分, |
| 167 | and the presence of the pillars | 和柱子的存在 |
| 168 | helped us all live more deeply. | 帮助我们所有人更深地生活。 |
| 169 | Of course, the same principle applies | 当然,同样的原则适用 |
| 170 | in other strong communities as well, | 在其他强大的社区, |
| 171 | good ones and bad ones. | 不错的和坏的 |
| 172 | Gangs, cults, these are cultures of meaning | 帮派,邪教,这些都是有意义的文化 |
| 173 | that use the pillars and give people something | 用柱子给人一些东西 |
| 174 | to live and die for. | 为了生死 |
| 175 | But that's exactly why we as a society | 但这正是为什么我们作为一个社会 |
| 176 | must offer better alternatives. | 必须提供更好的替代办法。 |
| 177 | We need to build these pillars within our families | 我们需要在家庭内建立这些支柱 |
| 178 | and our institutions to help people | 以及我们帮助人们的机构 |
| 179 | become their best selves. | 成为他们最好的自己。 |
| 180 | But living a meaningful life takes work. | 但过有意义的生活需要工作。 |
| 181 | It's an ongoing process. | 这是一个持续的过程。 |
| 182 | As each day goes by, we're constantly creating our lives, | 我们每天都在创造我们的生活 |
| 183 | adding to our story, and sometimes we can get off track. | 增加我们的故事, 有时我们可以偏离轨道。 |
| 184 | Whenever that happens to me, | 每当发生在我身上, |
| 185 | I remember a powerful experience I had with my father. | 我记得我和我父亲有过一次很强的经验 |
| 186 | Several months after I graduated from college, | 我大学毕业几个月后 |
| 187 | my dad had a massive heart attack that should have killed him. | 我爸爸心脏病发作 本来应该杀了他的 |
| 188 | He survived, and when I asked him | 他活了下来,当我问他 |
| 189 | what was going through his mind as he faced death, | 当他面临死亡时,他在想什么 |
| 190 | he said all he could think about was needing to live | 他说他想的就是活下去 |
| 191 | so he could be there for my brother and me, | 他可以陪着我弟弟和我 |
| 192 | and this gave him the will to fight for life. | 这给了他争取生命的意志 |
| 193 | When he went under anesthesia for emergency surgery, | 当他接受紧急手术麻醉时 |
| 194 | instead of counting backwards from 10, | 而不是倒数从10, |
| 195 | he repeated our names like a mantra. | 他重复我们的名字 像一个漫画。 |
| 196 | He wanted our names to be the last words | 他想我们的名字是最后一句话 |
| 197 | he spoke on earth if he died. | 如果他死了,他在人间说话。 |
| 198 | My dad is a carpenter and a Sufi. | 我爸爸是木匠和苏菲人 |
| 199 | It's a humble life, but a good life. | 生平谦逊,但有善绩. |
| 200 | Lying there facing death, he had a reason to live, love. | 躺在那里面对死亡, 他有一个理由生活,爱。 |
| 201 | His sense of belonging within his family, | 他家的归属感 |
| 202 | his purpose as a dad, | 他作为父亲的目的, |
| 203 | his transcendent meditation repeating our names, | 他的超凡冥想重复了我们的名字, |
| 204 | these, he says, are the reasons why he survived. | 他说,这些是他活下来的原因。 |
| 205 | That's the story he tells himself. | 他就是这么说的 |
| 206 | That's the power of meaning. | 这就是意义的力量. |
| 207 | Happiness comes and goes, | 幸福来来去去, |
| 208 | but when life is really good and when things are really bad, | 但当生活真的好 当事情真的坏, |
| 209 | having meaning gives you something to hold on to. | 意思给你一些可以坚持的东西。 |
| 210 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
该视频共有字幕 210 条。解锁更多字幕为会员功能，请移动到 价格