TED演讲｜及时止损：叫停不断下坠的自己
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| 0:10 | So what's really going on when you want more money, success, health, fulfillment, and it's | 当你想要更多的钱,成功,健康,实现的时候, 到底是怎么回事? |
| 0:17 | just not showing up? | 只是没出现? |
| 0:19 | I mean, sure, it can be due to a lack of focus or strategy or some bad habits, but in my | 我的意思是,当然,这可能是 由于缺乏焦点或策略 或一些坏习惯, |
| 0:24 | work, which is getting people to their physical, mental, and emotional best, I found very often | 我经常发现 工作能让人们 身心和情感达到最佳状态 |
| 0:30 | it's something so much more protective, primal, and subconscious, which I'll explain using | 更具有保护性 原始意识 潜意识 |
| 0:40 | Let's start with Claire, CEO, top of her field. | 先从Claire,CEO开始,她领域最高级. |
| 0:43 | She's been climbing the corporate ladder for 25 years. | 她爬上公司梯子已经25年了. |
| 0:46 | Eats, lives, breathes her work, and one day she feels a restlessness. | 饮食,生活,呼吸她的工作,有一天她感到不安. |
| 0:52 | She can't quite put her finger on it, so she decides to relieve some stress by going back | 所以她决定回去 缓解一些压力 |
| 0:56 | to the gym. | 去体育馆 |
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| 1 | So what's really going on when you want more money, success, health, fulfillment, and it's | 当你想要更多的钱,成功,健康,实现的时候, 到底是怎么回事? |
| 2 | just not showing up? | 只是没出现? |
| 3 | I mean, sure, it can be due to a lack of focus or strategy or some bad habits, but in my | 我的意思是,当然,这可能是 由于缺乏焦点或策略 或一些坏习惯, |
| 4 | work, which is getting people to their physical, mental, and emotional best, I found very often | 我经常发现 工作能让人们 身心和情感达到最佳状态 |
| 5 | it's something so much more protective, primal, and subconscious, which I'll explain using | 更具有保护性 原始意识 潜意识 |
| 6 | Let's start with Claire, CEO, top of her field. | 先从Claire,CEO开始,她领域最高级. |
| 7 | She's been climbing the corporate ladder for 25 years. | 她爬上公司梯子已经25年了. |
| 8 | Eats, lives, breathes her work, and one day she feels a restlessness. | 饮食,生活,呼吸她的工作,有一天她感到不安. |
| 9 | She can't quite put her finger on it, so she decides to relieve some stress by going back | 所以她决定回去 缓解一些压力 |
| 10 | to the gym. | 去体育馆 |
| 11 | And after a few weeks, she's got lots more energy, lots more clarity, and this is when | 几个星期后,她有了更多的能量, 更多的清晰度,这是什么时候 |
| 12 | it hits her how unfulfilling it's been to climb the corporate ladder in a field she | 在田里爬上公司梯子 让她很失望 |
| 13 | chose just to please her parents. | 选择取悦她的父母。 |
| 14 | She starts dreading going to work. | 她开始害怕去上班 |
| 15 | Questions come up, like, well, what else would I do? | 问题来了,像,嗯,我还能做什么? |
| 16 | This is all I've ever known. | 这是我所知道的。 |
| 17 | I've given up everything for this. | 我为此放弃了一切 |
| 18 | Now what? | 现在怎么办? |
| 19 | Too confronting. | 太对峙了 |
| 20 | It's too overwhelming. | 太过压倒性. |
| 21 | So she doesn't even realize she's doing it, but she stops going to the gym and sabotages | 所以她甚至没有意识到她这样做, 但她停止去健身房和破坏 |
| 22 | her success. | 她的成绩。 |
| 23 | Next take, Margo, who for the last 10 years has been balancing her job, her marriage, | 接下来,玛戈,她在过去10年中 一直在平衡她的工作,她的婚姻, |
| 24 | her kids. | 她的孩子们 |
| 25 | She's exhausted. | 她已经筋疲力尽了 |
| 26 | She gets up early to go to work, get everyone ready for their day, goes to work, comes home, | 她早起去上班 让大家准备好过日子 去上班回家 |
| 27 | makes dinner, cleans up, and passes by her husband to crash in bed as he's just sitting | 做晚饭 洗干净 然后经过她丈夫 躺在床上 |
| 28 | there watching TV on the living room couch. | 在客厅沙发上看电视 |
| 29 | She feels so empty, overweight, overwhelmed, exhausted, unhappy, unfulfilled. | 她感觉如此空虚,超重,不堪重负,疲惫,不快乐,未完成. |
| 30 | She decides to start eating a little bit healthier to get her energy back up, get the weight | 她决定开始吃点更健康的东西 让她的能量恢复过来,增加体重 |
| 31 | off. | 关闭。 |
| 32 | She cuts out the sugar and her afternoon lattes. | 她把糖和下午拿铁都切掉了 |
| 33 | After a couple of weeks, her clothes are fitting much better. | 几个星期后,她的衣服更合适 |
| 34 | She's got lots more energy. | 她的精力还很多 |
| 35 | And this is when it hits her that the lack of confidence she had with the extra weight | 而此时,她开始感到 缺乏信心 与额外的体重 |
| 36 | {\fn黑体\fs20\shad2\2aH82\3aH20\4aH33\fscx95\3cH592001\be1}她玩得还挺小的 | |
| 37 | She settled for a job she never liked. | 她找了一份她不喜欢的工作 |
| 38 | She also realizes she's grown apart from her husband. | 她也意识到自己已经和丈夫分开长大了. |
| 39 | She's feeling things like, is this all there is? | 她觉得事情是这样的, 就是这样吗? |
| 40 | I feel so unloved. | 我感到如此不爱。 |
| 41 | I feel so unappreciated. | 我觉得很不感动 |
| 42 | She's worried if she keeps feeling these things, will she want to leave her job? | 她担心如果她一直感觉到这些事情, 她会想离开她的工作吗? |
| 43 | Will she want to leave her husband? | 她想离开她丈夫吗? |
| 44 | It's too big of a risk. | 风险太大了 |
| 45 | It's too scary. | 这太可怕了。 |
| 46 | So she doesn't even realize why she's doing it. | 所以她甚至不知道她为什么要这么做 |
| 47 | She goes back to the sugar and the lattes and sabotages her success. | 她回到糖和拿铁 破坏她的成功。 |
| 48 | And finally, take Greg, who for the last 20 years has been meeting up with his buddies | 最后 带上Greg 过去20年里 他一直和朋友见面 |
| 49 | every week where they get together, grab a beer, and complain about their jobs and their | 每星期他们聚在一起, 拿杯啤酒,抱怨 他们的工作和他们的 |
| 50 | wives, and one day it hits him. | 妻子们,总有一天,它击中了他。 |
| 51 | You know, there's got to be something more than this. | 你知道,一定还有别的东西 |
| 52 | So Greg decides to do some personal development work. | 因此格雷格决定做一些个人发展工作. |
| 53 | He starts watching a few TED Talks. | 他开始观看一些TED演讲。 |
| 54 | And after a couple of weeks, he's becoming inspired. | 几周后,他开始受到启发。 |
| 55 | Well, he's learning how he's growing. | 他正在学习如何成长 |
| 56 | And he realizes, you know, it's not fun to complain about his job anymore, especially | 他意识到,你知道, 这不好玩 抱怨他的工作了,特别是 |
| 57 | without a plan to do something about it. | 没有计划做点什么。 |
| 58 | When he sees his friends, of course he wants to talk to them about it. | 当他见到朋友时 他当然想和他们谈谈 |
| 59 | He's all lit up. | 他被点燃了 |
| 60 | He wants to share what he's learning. | 他想分享他学到的 |
| 61 | Secretly, he's hoping to inspire them to. | 秘密地,他希望能激励他们 |
| 62 | Instead, they just make fun of him and his new ways. | 相反,他们只是取笑他和他的新方式。 |
| 63 | As they do, this is when Greg realizes he's outgrown them. | 就像他们做的,这是 当格雷格意识到 他的成长超过他们。 |
| 64 | He has less and less in common with them, and he feels torn. | 他和他们有越来越少的共同点, 他感到撕裂。 |
| 65 | He'd have to explain way too much if he stops meeting up with him each week. | 如果他每周不见他 就得解释太多 |
| 66 | So he doesn't even realize why he's doing it. | 所以他根本没意识到他为什么要这么做 |
| 67 | But he stops with all the personal development work. | 但他停止了所有的个人发展工作. |
| 68 | And when he meets up with him now, he's drinking more than he was before, sabotaging his success. | 而当他现在和他见面时,他喝的比以前多,破坏了他的成功. |
| 69 | So why do we sabotage ourselves, and what could possibly be the benefit? | 那么,为什么我们破坏自己, 可能有什么好处? |
| 70 | Change is scary. | 变化是可怕的。 |
| 71 | Creates a new awareness, new perspective. | 创建新意识,新视角. |
| 72 | Poses a huge threat to what's been so comfortable and familiar, even if what's been so comfortable and familiar stinks. | 对如此舒适和熟悉的事物,即使如此舒适和熟悉的臭味,也会产生巨大的威胁. |
| 73 | You know, it can almost feel like you're facing a death, no matter which way you turn. | 你知道,它几乎可以感觉 你面临死亡, 无论你转向哪种方式。 |
| 74 | You either face the death of what you just learned you want, or you face the death of who you've been, | 你要么面对你刚刚学会的死亡 要么面对你曾经的死亡 |
| 75 | now that you're ready to become someone new. | 现在你已经准备好成为新人了 |
| 76 | As if this weren't bad enough, with all this stress, you've ignited the stress response, | 好像这还不够糟 压力很大 你引发了压力反应 |
| 77 | creating this cascade of stress-related symptoms and illnesses, conditions, even disease. | 造成这种与压力有关的症状和疾病,病情,甚至疾病。 |
| 78 | You know, it's so much easier to sabotage yourself and just go numb through either drugs, alcohol, work, food, TV. | 你知道,这样更容易破坏自己 和只是麻木 通过任何药物,酒精,工作,食物,电视。 |
| 79 | You just want to keep the feelings down. | 你只是想保持低调 |
| 80 | But they just keep coming back up again. | 但他们只是不断回来 再次。 |
| 81 | Going back to what you know, sabotaging your success feels like and seems like the much better option. | 回到你所知道的, 破坏你的成功感觉 和似乎是更好的选择。 |
| 82 | I mean, yes, it keeps you small, but you also feel it keeps you safe. | 我的意思是,是的,它让你小, 但你也觉得它让你安全。 |
| 83 | Because your head is spinning with ideas like, will these changes lead me to lose my friends, my job security? | 因为你的脑子里有种想法 这些改变会让我失去朋友吗? 我的工作保障? |
| 84 | Will you hear how selfish or crazy you are? | 你会听到你有多自私或疯狂吗? |
| 85 | Will you have to deal with judgment or criticism at the same time | 你会同时处理判断或批评吗? |
| 86 | you're dealing with your own self-doubt about what you're up to? | 你面对的是你自己的怀疑 你在做什么? |
| 87 | These are good questions. | 这些都是很好的问题。 |
| 88 | Thinking is hard. | 思惟是难. |
| 89 | Being honest about what you want is hard. | 诚实地对待你想要的是很难的。 |
| 90 | Change, that's even harder. | 改变,那更难。 |
| 91 | You know, you heard change could be great and look something like this, | 你知道,你听说 变化可能是伟大的 看起来像这样, |
| 92 | but all you can picture is something like this. | 但你能想象的就是这种东西 |
| 93 | Because these changes could impact so much, create such a snowball, such a domino effect, | 因为这些变化会影响如此之大, 造成如此雪球,如此多米诺效应, |
| 94 | you do everything you can to make the feelings go away until you can't. | 你尽你所能 让感情消失 直到你做不到 |
| 95 | It's as if you've been taking all of your energy, holding onto a pebble, | 好像你已经把精力都拿走了 拿着一块卵石 |
| 96 | because if that pebble dislodges, there's going to be a landslide. | 因为如果那块石块消失 就会有山体滑坡 |
| 97 | And then there's that moment where the pain of where you are becomes greater than the fear of the unknown. | 然后是那一刻,你在那里的痛苦 变得比对未知事物的恐惧更大。 |
| 98 | You're standing on the edge, ready to jump, | 你站在边缘,准备跳跃, |
| 99 | without the security of knowing that there's anything to catch your fall. | 却不知道有什么东西可以让你跌倒 |
| 100 | And even with that, in a sacred and deeply personal moment, | 即使这样,在一个神圣而深刻的个人时刻, |
| 101 | you make the decision, the risks are great, but the rewards, they could be so much greater. | 风险很大 但回报可能更大 |
| 102 | It hits you in a moment like this, and then you get to work. | 这样一瞬间你就会被击中 然后你就开始工作了 |
| 103 | I mean, sure, the self-doubt may still be there. | 我的意思是,当然, 自我怀疑可能还在那里。 |
| 104 | You still want to sabotage yourself, but you push through it anyway, | 你还是想破坏自己 但你还是要冲过去 |
| 105 | because you realize you're meant to be, do, or have more. | 因为你意识到你注定是,做, 或有更多的。 |
| 106 | Maybe you realize you've been sleepwalking all this time. | 也许你意识到你一直在梦游 |
| 107 | You have a message, and you can't share it if you're standing still. | 你有一个消息, 如果你站着,你不能分享它。 |
| 108 | It's like you're on a trapeze. | 犹如身处陷阱. |
| 109 | You see your partner on the other swing, you know what you're supposed to do, | 你看到你的搭档在另一个秋千, 你知道你应该做什么, |
| 110 | you're terrified, and you swing anyway. | 你害怕,反正你挥舞。 |
| 111 | Your heart's pounding, your hands are sweating, you're a mess. | 心痛而痛,手足汗出,大乱. |
| 112 | And you know, you know you can't move forward unless you let go of where you are. | 你知道,你知道,你不能前进,除非 你放手的地方。 |
| 113 | You're right there. | 你在这里。 |
| 114 | That's decision, that's the moment. | 这是决定,这是时刻。 |
| 115 | And when you do, you feel like a rock star. | 当你这样做,你感觉 像摇滚明星。 |
| 116 | Now you're inspired. | 现在你被启发了. |
| 117 | Motivation and momentum got it going, and inspiration has taken over. | 动力和动力 得到了发展, 灵感已经占据。 |
| 118 | You realize you just burst right through your comfort zone where life begins. | 你意识到你刚刚冲破了你的舒适地带 生活开始的地方 |
| 119 | It's the ultimate drug, because you're high on your own growth. | 这是终极药物,因为你靠自己成长为主. |
| 120 | The impact is having on you, those around you, and it fuels you even further. | 影响是对你,你周围的人, 它更能刺激你。 |
| 121 | See, now you're not afraid of looking good. | 你看,现在你不怕好看。 |
| 122 | Not looking good supports what you're up to. | 不看好 支持你在做什么。 |
| 123 | Now you sound different, sounding more confident, empowered, inspired. | 现在,你的声音不同, 听起来更自信, 增强能力,激励。 |
| 124 | Now you have more energy, because you're being fueled by your own idea, | 现在,你有更多的能量, 因为你被你的 想法的燃料, |
| 125 | by your own mission, by your own potential. | 由你自己的任务 由你自己的潜力 |
| 126 | You realize you could do great things. | 你知道你可以做伟大的事情。 |
| 127 | You realize you have something important to contribute. | 你意识到你有重要的事情要做 |
| 128 | You realize you can make a difference, and you love who you're becoming | 你意识到你可以有所作为, 你爱谁你正在变成 |
| 129 | once you learn to kick that sabotage to the curb. | 一旦你学会踢 破坏到路边。 |
| 130 | And if you ask me, that's an idea worth spreading. | 如果你问我, 这是一个值得传播的想法。 |
| 131 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
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