（中英附文稿）埃德·迈莱特：你以为人生已经来不及了，其实过去
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| 0:00 | The highlight reel of your life is not your mistakes, it's not your setbacks, it's not | 人生的亮点不是你的错误,不是你的挫折,不是 |
| 0:04 | who left, it's not who betrayed you. | 谁走了,不是谁背叛了你。 |
| 0:06 | It's the fact that you're still standing after they did, and that makes you incredible. | 事实是,你仍然站在他们之后, 这让你不可思议。 |
| 0:11 | Today, on the Mel Robbins podcast, you know, Ed, this is the first interview that you've | 今天,在梅尔・罗宾斯播客, 你知道,埃德, 这是你第一次采访 |
| 0:16 | done in almost two years. | 差不多两年了 |
| 0:18 | What happened? | 发生了什么事? |
| 0:19 | I've never said this. | 我从没说过 |
| 0:19 | It's pretty personal. | 这是相当私人的。 |
| 0:25 | I'm going to get more clear on what I want. | 将更明其意. |
| 0:27 | I'm going to take away and pluck out of my life the things that don't serve me anymore. | 我要夺走我生命中不再为我服务的东西 |
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| 1 | The highlight reel of your life is not your mistakes, it's not your setbacks, it's not | 人生的亮点不是你的错误,不是你的挫折,不是 |
| 2 | who left, it's not who betrayed you. | 谁走了,不是谁背叛了你。 |
| 3 | It's the fact that you're still standing after they did, and that makes you incredible. | 事实是,你仍然站在他们之后, 这让你不可思议。 |
| 4 | Today, on the Mel Robbins podcast, you know, Ed, this is the first interview that you've | 今天,在梅尔・罗宾斯播客, 你知道,埃德, 这是你第一次采访 |
| 5 | done in almost two years. | 差不多两年了 |
| 6 | What happened? | 发生了什么事? |
| 7 | I've never said this. | 我从没说过 |
| 8 | It's pretty personal. | 这是相当私人的。 |
| 9 | I'm going to get more clear on what I want. | 将更明其意. |
| 10 | I'm going to take away and pluck out of my life the things that don't serve me anymore. | 我要夺走我生命中不再为我服务的东西 |
| 11 | You are literally one decision away from changing your life, and it's not too late. | 改变你的生活,你是一个决定, 现在还不算太晚。 |
| 12 | The Extraordinary, Ed Milet. | 特别的,艾德米莱特。 |
| 13 | It is such an honor to welcome you, my dear friend, Ed Milet, to the Mel Robbins podcast. | 亲爱的朋友埃德·米莱特 欢迎你来到梅尔·罗宾斯播客台 |
| 14 | I am so happy to be here. | 我很高兴在这里。 |
| 15 | It is so good to see you. | 见到你真好 |
| 16 | I love you, and I'm so proud of all you've been doing. | 我爱你 我为你所做的一切感到骄傲 |
| 17 | I am so excited to have you here because when I feel down, when I feel discouraged, when | 我很高兴你在这里,因为当我感到失望, 当我感到沮丧,当 |
| 18 | I overcomplicate my life, you're the person I turn to. | 我过份复杂我的生活,你就是我所追求的人。 |
| 19 | Oh, wow. | 哦,哇呜。 |
| 20 | Thank you, Mel, so much. | 谢谢你,梅尔,这么多。 |
| 21 | That means the world to me coming from you. | 这意味着我的世界来自你。 |
| 22 | Well, that's why I wanted you here, because I feel like you have this magical ability | 这就是我想要你来的原因 因为我觉得你有这种神奇的能力 |
| 23 | to lift people up when they feel very low, and if the person who is listening right now | 当人们感觉非常低落时, 举起人们, 如果现在正在听的人 |
| 24 | feels like the best of their life is behind them, or they just feel stuck and discouraged, | 感觉他们一生中最美好的时光在他们身后, 或者他们只是觉得卡住和沮丧, |
| 25 | if they were to truly take to heart everything that you're about to share with us today from | 如果他们真的要 将你今天要和我们分享的一切 |
| 26 | your remarkable life and the things that you've learned the hard way, what could change? | 你非凡的生活 以及你所学到的艰难之道 是什么可以改变的? |
| 27 | I think everything can change. | 我觉得一切都会改变的 |
| 28 | I'm a big believer, and I know you are as well. | 我是一个伟大的信徒, 我知道你也是。 |
| 29 | You are literally one decision away from changing your life, and that is not rhetoric to me | 改变你的生活,你完全是一个决定, 这对我来说不是言辞 |
| 30 | in any way. | 无论如何。 |
| 31 | You're one new relationship, one new idea, one breakthrough. | 你是一个新的关系, 一个新的想法,一个突破。 |
| 32 | You truly are one opportunity, one decision away, but here's the hook. | 你真的是一个机会, 一个决定离开, 但这是钩子。 |
| 33 | If you don't live a life expecting those one mores to show up, you're going to miss them. | 如果你不活着 期待这些更多的出现, 你会想念他们。 |
| 34 | And all it is is a decision. | 它只是决定。 |
| 35 | Hey, I'm going to get up expecting some good crap to happen. | 嘿,我要起床 等待一些好狗屎发生。 |
| 36 | I'm going to get up expecting someone to come in that's going to make a shift. | 我要起身期待有人进来 换班了 |
| 37 | I'm going to get up maybe coming up with a new idea. | 我要起床了 也许有一个新的想法。 |
| 38 | I'm going to expect listening to this podcast today between Ed and Mel. | 我期待今天能收听这个播客 在艾德和梅尔之间 |
| 39 | I'm going to come up with a new idea, a new thought, a new perspective. | 我要提出一个新想法,新思想,新观点. |
| 40 | If you expect it, your mind goes to work on confirming that belief. | 如果你有这种期望,你就会去确认这种信念。 |
| 41 | You have to say, you know what? | 你必须说,你知道吗? |
| 42 | The way I've been thinking, unfortunately, has got me where I'm at. | 不幸地,我一直想着,我得到了我的位置。 |
| 43 | What do I have to lose by just maybe just imagining a difference? | 我该怎么输呢? 也许只是想象着不同? |
| 44 | You don't even have to believe it's going to happen yet. | 你甚至不用相信它会发生。 |
| 45 | I didn't say believe it yet. | 我还没说相信呢 |
| 46 | We'll get to that later. | 我们晚点再谈 |
| 47 | It starts with imagining it. | 它从想象开始。 |
| 48 | Here's the other thing I would say. | 还有件事我想说 |
| 49 | You're probably already imagining things now. | 你可能已经想象过了 |
| 50 | They're just not the things that serve you. | 他们不是为你服务的人 |
| 51 | So give me some examples. | 举个例子 |
| 52 | Well, I can tell you, like the way that I was raised with an alcoholic and a drug addict | 嗯,我可以告诉你, 就像我长大的方式 一个酒鬼和瘾君子 |
| 53 | And by the way, we're recording this in Boston. | 顺便说一句 我们在波士顿录制这个 |
| 54 | We were on welfare when we lived here in Boston as a little boy. | 小时候住在波士顿时 我们在福利院工作 |
| 55 | So I really kind of think I know what it's like to not feel good about yourself to this | 所以我真的觉得我知道什么是感觉 对自己不好这一点。 |
| 56 | day at 55 walking in here today. | 今天55岁的时候走进来 |
| 57 | I still struggle, which is amazing. | 我仍然挣扎,这是惊人的。 |
| 58 | I don't know if I've ever said this on any show out loud. | 我不知道我有没有在任何节目中 大声地说过这个 |
| 59 | I still driving over here, I was like, why would they listen to me? | 我仍然开车过来,我想, 他们为什么要听我的? |
| 60 | I still struggle with massive insecurity, self-confidence, all of those things. | 我仍然面对着巨大的不安全,自信,所有这一切。 |
| 61 | I don't know that I'm ever going to leave all of them. | 我不知道我会永远离开所有的人。 |
| 62 | So if that was a requirement to have a decent life, I would never have one. | 所以,如果这是 要求有一个体面的生活, 我永远不会有一个。 |
| 63 | One thing I would say, at least in my own life, because I have felt that way many times, | 我想说一件事,至少在我自己的生活中, 因为我已经觉得这样多次, |
| 64 | even recently, I felt that way. | 甚至最近,我也有这种感觉。 |
| 65 | When you feel the most helpless, attempt to become the most helpful. | 当你感到最无助时, 尝试成为最有帮助。 |
| 66 | In other words, move your frame of reference off of yourself temporarily and do whatever | 换句话说,暂时把你的参照基准从自己身上移开 做任何事情 |
| 67 | you can to just go serve in some way, in a quiet way. | 你可以以某种方式 静静地去服务 |
| 68 | It can even be small. | 乃至能为小. |
| 69 | It can even be just calling someone out of the blue that you've not talked to in a long | 它甚至可能只是叫一个人 突然,你还没有说话 在很长一段时间 |
| 70 | time and saying, hey, just want to remind you, which I do with you from time to time, | 时间和说,嘿,只是想提醒你, 我做你 不时, |
| 71 | I love you. | 我爱你 |
| 72 | I'm thinking about you. | и稱 |
| 73 | Just somehow get out of self for a second. | 只是不知怎的 离开自己一秒钟。 |
| 74 | And so when you feel helpless, get helpful. | 所以当你感到无助时, 得到帮助。 |
| 75 | When I was at my lowest of my life, I remember thinking, I'm going to literally say a prayer | 当我处于我生命中最底层的时候, 我记得我想,我会说一个祈祷 |
| 76 | for this person that's walking by me, like literally on the street. | 对这个在我身边的人来说 就像在街上一样 |
| 77 | Just piece me with them. | 只要把我和他们一块 |
| 78 | And it made me feel good about me. | 这让我感觉很好 |
| 79 | It's like I have some value, some worth. | 好像我有些价值,有些价值 |
| 80 | I can tell you something, maybe it's too much, but I was with my dad when he died, Mel. | 我可以告诉你一些事,也许太过分了 但我爸爸死的时候我和他在一起,梅尔 |
| 81 | And I literally held my father's hand when he took his last breath. | 我父亲最后一口气时 我握住他的手 |
| 82 | It was pretty personal. | 这是相当私人的。 |
| 83 | But we were in my dad's house, Mel, and I walked in there and immediately something | 但我们在我爸爸的房子里,梅尔, 我走在那里,立即的东西 |
| 84 | dawned on me. | 忽然发现我。 |
| 85 | That was my dad there, but it was not really my dad anymore. | 那个是我爸爸,但是他不再是我爸爸了 |
| 86 | That was his body. | 这是他的身体。 |
| 87 | I just knew there's more to us than our bodies, whatever your faith beliefs are. | 我只知道对我们来说 比我们的身体还要多 不管你的信仰是什么 |
| 88 | But there's a spirit to you. | 却有灵入. |
| 89 | There's a soul. | 有一个灵魂。 |
| 90 | There's an energy. | 有一个能量。 |
| 91 | There's a frequency that you were put here to do something in your life that's great | 有一次你被安排在这里 做一些你的生活 伟大的事情 |
| 92 | for a reason. | 有个原因 |
| 93 | You're supposed to be happy. | 汝应欢喜. |
| 94 | You're supposed to get some of those dreams out of your life. | 你应该把那些梦从生活中弄出来 |
| 95 | You're supposed to have some memories. | 你应该有一些回忆 |
| 96 | We were in my dad's house, Mel. | 我们在我爸爸的房子里,梅尔。 |
| 97 | My dad's car was parked in the driveway. | 我爸的车停在车道上 |
| 98 | He didn't take any of those with him. | 他没有带任何那些与他。 |
| 99 | You're not your possessions. | 你不是你的财产。 |
| 100 | My dad had some awards literally in the room he passed away in. | 我爸爸在他逝世的房间里有奖项 |
| 101 | You're not your accolades or what other people think about you or say about you. | 你不是你的优雅人物 也不是别人对你的看法或对你的看法 |
| 102 | He took none of that with him. | 他没有带走这些东西 |
| 103 | But there's another thing my dad had when he died that he also didn't take with him. | 但还有一样东西,我爸死的时候 他也没有带走他。 |
| 104 | My dad had fears, problems, worries, insecurities. | 我爸爸有恐惧 问题 担心 不安全 |
| 105 | None of those went with him. | 这些都没有和他一起走 |
| 106 | So you are not those things. | 所以你不是那些东西。 |
| 107 | Not only are you not your body or your possessions or what other people say about you, but you're | 你不仅是你的身体,你的财产 或者别人说你什么, |
| 108 | not these worries. | 不用担心 |
| 109 | You're not these fears. | 你不是这些恐惧。 |
| 110 | You're not your insecurities. | 你不是你的不安全感。 |
| 111 | So at any time you can make a decision to begin to separate from them. | 所以,你可以随时决定 开始与他们分开。 |
| 112 | You don't have to wait to the end like my dad did. | 你不必像我爸那样等到最后 |
| 113 | And I say that to everybody because I think sometimes we think every condition we have | 我对每个人都这么说 因为我觉得有时候我们觉得 我们的每个条件 |
| 114 | is forever. | 永远 |
| 115 | Nothing's forever. | 没什么是永远的。 |
| 116 | This life isn't forever. | 今生不长. |
| 117 | So why not begin to think a little bit differently? | 那么,为什么不开始思考 有点不同? |
| 118 | Why not to imagine and dream? | 为什么不想象和梦想呢? |
| 119 | Because you're not going to take any of that stuff with you anyway. | 因为反正你也不会带走那些东西 |
| 120 | How did that experience and revelation shift you? | 经历和启示如何改变你? |
| 121 | You know what occurs to you when a parent passes away? | 你知道父母过世后会怎样吗? |
| 122 | You're next. | 你是下一个 |
| 123 | I'm next. | 我下一个 |
| 124 | I've only got so much time here left. | 我只剩下这么多时间了 |
| 125 | And so what it did for me is it made me audit my life. | 所以它为我所做的是 它使我审计我的生活。 |
| 126 | What matters to me? | 有什么关系? |
| 127 | What's important? | 有什么要紧的? |
| 128 | Who do I want to be when this thing's over with? | 当这件事情结束了,我想成为谁? |
| 129 | I know we're getting heavy early, but it did do that for me. | 我知道我们很早就重了,但它确实对我有用 |
| 130 | But the biggie for me was I'm a worrier. | 但对我来说,我是一个可怕的人。 |
| 131 | People wouldn't know that about you, but it's so true. | 人们不会了解你 但事实如此 |
| 132 | It's true. | 这是真的。 |
| 133 | I worry. | 我担心。 |
| 134 | And I know where it comes from too, but I just think so many of the things I worried | 我知道它是从哪里来的, 但我只是认为这么多的事情 我担心 |
| 135 | about in my life, I made bigger than they were, and I've spent so much of my life not | 在我的生活中,我做了比他们更大的, 我花了这么多的我的生活没有 |
| 136 | giving myself the gift of peace that was always around me. | 给自己和平的礼物 总是在我身边。 |
| 137 | It was always around me. | 它总是在我身边。 |
| 138 | And I thought, man, once I get that, I can be happy. | 我想,伙计,一旦我得到这个,我可以快乐。 |
| 139 | Once I get that, I won't worry anymore. | 一旦我得到那, 我不会再担心了。 |
| 140 | Once I have enough money saved or once I remember thinking when I was so broke and all this | 有一次我存了足够的钱 或一次我记得想 当我破产了,这一切 |
| 141 | money on credit cards, if I could just get these credit cards paid off, if I could just | 信用卡上的钱 如果我能把这些信用卡还清 如果我能 |
| 142 | get the... | 获取... |
| 143 | And I kept moving the end zone all the time. | 我不停地移动终点区 |
| 144 | And so when my dad died, I literally decided I'm going to enjoy the gifts that are around | 所以当我爸爸去世时 我决定要享受身边的礼物 |
| 145 | me. | 来啊 |
| 146 | And it turns out it's the people. | 则果报为众生. |
| 147 | And just looking into their eyes a little bit longer, spending a little bit more time | 再多看看他们的眼睛 多花点时间 |
| 148 | telling them I love them. | 告诉他们我爱他们。 |
| 149 | And I know that may sound hokey, but it brings me great joy to do that in my life now. | 我知道这听起来可能很胡说八道, 但是这给我带来了巨大的快乐 在我的生活中这样做。 |
| 150 | That's not that I don't think you should go for your big dreams and have achievement | 这并不是说,我不认为你应该 去你的大梦,并有成就 |
| 151 | and make a difference. | 并作出改变。 |
| 152 | This show makes a huge difference. | 这个节目有很大的不同。 |
| 153 | I'd like to think my show makes a difference in people's lives. | 我认为我的节目能改变人们的生活 |
| 154 | But I don't ever want to do that again at the expense of the people around me that are | 但我再也不想以牺牲我身边的人为代价 |
| 155 | closest to me. | 离我最近一点 |
| 156 | And I know you feel that way too. | 我知道你也有这种感觉 |
| 157 | It's like just sometimes just there are blessings around us if we'll just acknowledge them. | 这就像只是有时 只是有祝福 在我们周围 如果我们只是承认他们。 |
| 158 | And I think sometimes we think, well, once I'm happy, then I'll get that thing. | 我觉得有时候我们想,嗯, 一旦我高兴了,那我就会得到它。 |
| 159 | What if it's the reverse? | 如果情况相反呢? |
| 160 | What is that if you could actually feel some of the emotions of gratefulness and gratitude | 如果你真的能感受到一些感恩和感恩的情感 |
| 161 | and joy and bliss and peace now, that the things you want will find you rather than | 欢乐、喜悦、和平, 让你想要的东西 将找到你而不是 |
| 162 | you having to go get all these things, thinking if you get them, you'll get the emotion? | 你必须去得到所有这些东西, 想如果你得到它们, 你会得到的情绪? |
| 163 | You said a couple of things that I want to make sure that I have you unpack because they're | 你说了几件事情 我想确定 我让你打包,因为它们是 |
| 164 | really important. | 这很重要 |
| 165 | And you know, I told you when we first started talking, I said, I think that as you're listening | 你知道,我告诉过你 当我们开始说话, 我说,我想,当你在听 |
| 166 | to this, you're going to have goosebumps because you're going to feel like this conversation | 这样,你会有鹅肉, 因为你会觉得这种谈话 |
| 167 | at this exact moment is exactly what you needed to hear. | 这正是你需要听到的 |
| 168 | And I already feel that way for me personally. | 我个人已经有这种感觉了 |
| 169 | So what you just said about your dad, because I do think a lot about time and how it's ticking | 所以,你刚才说的关于你爸爸, 因为我确实思考了很多 时间和它是如何滴答的 |
| 170 | and that if you're not careful, you'll miss the things that matter most because you were | 而且如果你不小心, 你会想念最重要的事情 因为你曾经是 |
| 171 | busy thinking you had more time. | 忙着想你还有时间 |
| 172 | That's right. | 没错 |
| 173 | But you also said, you know, you had regrets around it, but you then recalibrated. | 但你也说,你知道,你有 遗憾周围, 但你然后重新调整。 |
| 174 | So could you explain why that's a powerful pivot when you are brave enough to see your | 所以,你能解释为什么这是一个强大的支柱 当你勇敢到看到自己的 |
| 175 | regrets, but then you use the regret to recalibrate how you move forward? | 后悔,但你利用遗憾 重新校正如何前进? |
| 176 | There's two things that move you, I found, in this life. | 我发现有两件事让你感动 |
| 177 | One is like moving towards pleasure and dreams, the other one is moving away from pain. | 一个就像走向快乐和梦想,另一个是远离痛苦。 |
| 178 | And sometimes this pain can kind of be a gift in the sense that, you know, like I don't, | 有时候这种痛苦可能是一种礼物, 意思是,你知道,像我不, |
| 179 | I'm not a big drinker, I have a cocktail as you know, but I'm not a big drinker. | 我不是大酒鬼,我有一个鸡尾酒 你知道,但我不是一个大酒鬼。 |
| 180 | And one of the reasons I'm not is because of the pain of watching my father do too much | 其中一个原因,我没有是因为 看着父亲做太多的痛苦 |
| 181 | of it. | 对 |
| 182 | So some of these things actually that are brought into our life can teach us a lesson. | 所以,有些东西 被带入我们的生活 可以给我们一个教训。 |
| 183 | I'm a big believer that at any stage of your life, you have full permission to re-audit | 我非常相信 在你生命的任何阶段 你都有重新审计的许可 |
| 184 | it and just ask yourself, like, is this still my dream? | 问自己,这还是我的梦想吗? |
| 185 | Is this still what I want? | 这就是我想要的吗? |
| 186 | Is this still serving me? | 这个还在为我服务吗? |
| 187 | I have an island, there was these two bald eagles on the island, Wilma and Fred, and | 我有一个岛屿, 岛上有两个秃鹰,威尔玛和弗雷德, |
| 188 | they were there about 15 years before I bought it. | 他们在那里大约15年 在我买它之前。 |
| 189 | I found Fred one day under a tree, and he was struggling. | 我有一天在树下找到弗雷德 他挣扎着 |
| 190 | And I put some food out, and he didn't come out until I finally came out, and I thought | 我放了一些食物, 他没有出来 直到我终于出来, 我想 |
| 191 | something's wrong. | 有点不对劲 |
| 192 | I don't know bald eagles very well, but something's wrong. | 我不太了解秃鹰 但有问题 |
| 193 | We called the bird sanctuary, and about two days later, they had to put him down, and | 我们叫了鸟的避难所,大约两天后, 他们不得不把他放下, |
| 194 | he went to heaven. | 他上天堂了 他上过天堂了 |
| 195 | And afterwards, the lady from the bird sanctuary came out and she said, just so you know, Wilma | 之后 鸟类避难所的女士出来说 威尔玛 |
| 196 | will go soon. | 马上就走 |
| 197 | Usually when they lose their mate, they'll go soon. | 通常当他们失去伴侣时,他们很快就会离开. |
| 198 | About five weeks later, I'm taking a walk and I'm hearing this banging against the rocks | 大约5周后,我正在散步,我听到这个敲击岩石的声音 |
| 199 | like a woodpecker. | 如啄木鸟. |
| 200 | She's plucking all the feathers off of her that no longer serve her. | 她正在摘下她所有不再为她服务的羽毛 |
| 201 | Oh my God. | 天呐 |
| 202 | And sure enough, she ended up coming back about six months later. | 当然 她六个月后回来 |
| 203 | All of these feathers were back. | 这些羽毛都回来了 |
| 204 | She ends up finding a new mate. | 她最后找了个新伙伴 |
| 205 | She's had three babies. | 她生了三个孩子 |
| 206 | They live there on the island. | 他们住在岛上。 |
| 207 | She's remade her life. | 她重塑了自己的生活。 |
| 208 | The lesson is sometimes in life, it's not about adding a bunch more stuff. | 课有时在生活中,不是增加一堆东西. |
| 209 | It's the reverse. | 则反之. |
| 210 | It's about re-auditing and saying, I'm going to get more clear on what I want. | 这是关于重新审计和说, 我会得到更多的清晰 我想要什么。 |
| 211 | I'm going to take away and pluck out of my life the things that don't serve me anymore, | 我要夺走我生命中不再为我服务的东西 |
| 212 | the beliefs that don't serve me, maybe some of the relationships that are toxic that don't | 那些不为我服务的信仰 也许有些关系是有毒的 |
| 213 | serve me anymore, the environments that I'm in. | 服务于我,我所处的环境。 |
| 214 | And when you begin to take away things, a whole new you emerges and you get a new life. | 当你开始拿走一些东西, 一个全新的你出现,你得到一个新的生活。 |
| 215 | That's what happened to Wilma, and that's sort of what happened when my dad passed. | 这就是威尔玛的遭遇 也是我爸去世时的遭遇 |
| 216 | How long ago did your dad pass? | 你爸爸多久前通过? |
| 217 | Three years, three and a half. | 三年,三岁半. |
| 218 | And you said you did an audit. | 你说你做了审计 |
| 219 | So is there a specific way that the person listening can take audit of their life? | 那么,是否有一种具体的方式,让听众能够接受对其生活的审计? |
| 220 | Simple. | 简单 |
| 221 | I actually wrote down the things that I thought I wanted in my life. | 我写下了我生命中想要的东西 |
| 222 | I made a list of the things that I wanted in my life, and I actually literally ranked | 我列出了我生命中想要的东西, 实际上我排行榜 |
| 223 | them on what juiced me anymore, and that when life was over, which one of these am I going | 以及当生活结束,我要去的其中之一 |
| 224 | to... | 给... |
| 225 | And I got to the point where I'm... | 我走到了那个地步 我... |
| 226 | Here's my new thing in my life. | 这是我人生中的新东西 |
| 227 | What do I want to leave here? | 我要离开这里什么? |
| 228 | And for me, what I want to leave here is I want to leave here great memories with my | 对我来说,我想离开这里... ...我想离开这里... ...伟大的回忆... |
| 229 | Great dreams with my family. | 和我的家人一起做梦 |
| 230 | Far deeper relationships with my friends. | 更深层的关系与我的朋友。 |
| 231 | And I also want to leave here feeling like, I used to say, max out your life. | 我也想离开这里 感觉就像,我曾经说, 最大地延长你的生活。 |
| 232 | Get everything. | 获得一切. |
| 233 | And to me, that meant climbing. | 对我来说,这意味着攀登。 |
| 234 | To me now, the biggest commodity in my life is people and time. | 对我来说,我一生中最大的商品是人与时间. |
| 235 | And so I made a list of the things, and I found to myself that a lot of the things that | 于是我列了一份清单, 我发现很多事情 |
| 236 | I wrote down didn't juice me anymore. | 我写下来后,我不再喝水了 |
| 237 | And then what I did, here's the biggie, I wrote down what I was afraid of, because although | 我写下了我害怕的事 因为 |
| 238 | people might not think this, I'm loaded with fears, loaded with worries, loaded with anxiety. | 人们可能不会这样想, 我充满了恐惧, 充满了焦虑, 充满了焦虑。 |
| 239 | And so I wrote those things down, and I began to ask myself, how real were they? | 于是我把这些东西写下来, 我开始问自己,它们有多真实? |
| 240 | And once I wrote them down, they lost a lot of their power over me. | 一旦我把它们写下来, 他们失去了很多权力 对我。 |
| 241 | I became really aware of how silly most of these things were that I was worried about | 我意识到这些事情 大多都是我担心的 |
| 242 | simply by writing them down, getting them out of my mind and onto a sheet of paper. | 把它们写下来 把它们从我脑海里弄出来 然后放在一张纸上 |
| 243 | Tactically is what I did different. | 战术上,我所做的不同 |
| 244 | I'm like, that's hilarious. | 我很喜欢,这很有趣。 |
| 245 | That one's dumb. | 那一个是愚蠢的。 |
| 246 | That one's valid. | 这个是有效的。 |
| 247 | That one's maybe. | 也许吧 |
| 248 | Maybe that one. | 也许那个 |
| 249 | This one's never going to happen, dumb dumb. | 这一个永远不会发生,哑巴。 |
| 250 | You've been carrying this one forever, writing them down, almost like they were thoughts | 你一直带着这个,写下来,就像他们的想法 |
| 251 | 我有过 I had. | |
| 252 | They were not me once I put them on the paper. | 我把它们放在报纸上时,他们不是我 |
| 253 | You know, Ed, this is the first interview that you've done in almost two years. | 艾德 这是你近两年来第一次接受采访 |
| 254 | And you have millions of people that follow you online, millions of people that listen | 你有上百万人跟随你在线, 上百万人听 |
| 255 | to your podcast and have for 10 years. | 给播客10年时间 |
| 256 | What happened? | 发生了什么事? |
| 257 | Well the big thing that happened. | 嗯,发生了一件大事。 |
| 258 | I had two, what I would call, we'll call them cardiac events. | 我有两个,我叫它们心跳 |
| 259 | And that was God awakening me, like shake, like, okay, you're not going to hear what | 这是上帝唤醒我, 像摇晃,像,好吧, 你不会听到什么 |
| 260 | I'm telling you. | 我告诉你 |
| 261 | You're not going to slow down. | 你不会慢下来。 |
| 262 | We're going to physically slow you down. | 我们要把你拖慢身体 |
| 263 | But the other part of it, Mel, honestly, was that during that exact same time, though, | 但另一部分,梅尔,老实说, 是在同样时间,虽然, |
| 264 | I was already evaluating, what do I really want anymore? | 我已经在评估了 我到底想要什么? |
| 265 | We had dinner the other night and I'm like, gosh, I say yes to a lot of dinner. | 那天晚上我们吃过晚饭 我对很多晚饭都答应了 |
| 266 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}然后是晚饭之夜 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}如果 | |
| 267 | they canceled. | 他们取消了。 |
| 268 | You know what I'm saying? | 你知道我在说什么吗? |
| 269 | Like, there's so many things in my life that this, I really am on this thing now where | 喜欢,有这么多的事情 在我的生命, |
| 270 | I don't think success is about adding more. | 我认为成功并不在于增加更多。 |
| 271 | People are tired. | 众生疲倦. |
| 272 | They're tired. | 他们累了。 |
| 273 | They're fatigued. | 他们疲倦了。 |
| 274 | And what I'm saying is, I don't think it's adding a bunch of stuff. | 我想说的是,我不认为它会增加一堆东西。 |
| 275 | I think it's making room for stuff. | 我想这为东西腾出空间了 |
| 276 | What's the difference? | 有什么区别? |
| 277 | The difference is cleaning out your closet. | 区别在于清理你的衣柜 |
| 278 | We just moved and we had to clean, I had to clean out my closet and all this stuff in | 我们刚搬家,我们不得不清理, 我必须清理我的衣柜 和所有这些东西在 |
| 279 | my closet was loaded with all this stuff. | 我的衣柜里装满了这些东西 |
| 280 | Like 90% of the stuff I don't wear is weird, is outdated. | 我90%不穿的东西都怪怪的 已经过时了 |
| 281 | I'm keeping it around because it's going to come back someday. | 我留着它 因为它总有一天会回来的 |
| 282 | And once I like took all this stuff and it was very hard, I'm practically a hoarder, | 一旦我喜欢拿走这些东西 非常困难 我几乎是个囤积者 |
| 283 | all this stuff out of, I have like tennis shoes, like 15 years old, very malodorous | 所有的东西,我有像网球鞋, 像15岁,非常恐怖 |
| 284 | tennis shoes. | 网球鞋. |
| 285 | I'm never going to wear again, but somehow if I lose the pair I've got, I'm going to | 我不会再穿了 但如果我失去了那对 |
| 286 | wear it. | 戴起来 |
| 287 | Like it was silly. | 好像很傻一样 |
| 288 | And I got rid of a lot of it. | 我摆脱了很多。 |
| 289 | I'm like, wow, first off, this closet is way bigger than I remember it being. | 这柜子比我记得的要大得多 |
| 290 | And there's room now in my closet to add one or two things quite good-looking that I would | 衣柜里还有间房 用来增加一两件我好看的东西 |
| 291 | actually wear. | 实际穿。 |
| 292 | Once you start to eliminate thoughts that don't serve you, maybe a couple people, some | 一旦你开始消除那些不为你服务的想法, 也许一对夫妇,一些 |
| 293 | relationships, maybe it's a habit or two you have, when you remove them, now you've created | 关系,也许它是一个习惯或两个你, 当你去除他们,现在你创造了 |
| 294 | some space. | 找个地方 |
| 295 | Oh, now I can add one or two things that do serve me. | 哦,现在我可以添加一两件事 做服务我。 |
| 296 | So that was sort of the process for me. | 对我来说,这就是一个过程。 |
| 297 | It also gives you some clarity. | 这也让你有些清晰。 |
| 298 | Like what matters now? | 就像现在什么重要? |
| 299 | There's this space in my life to think and breathe. | 我生命中有一个思考和呼吸的空间. |
| 300 | And by the way, I know a lot of people are like, man, I got to pay this bill. | 顺便说一句,我知道很多人都喜欢,伙计, 我得支付这个账单。 |
| 301 | I've got this thing. | 我有这个东西。 |
| 302 | I've got my kids to soccer. | 我带孩子们去踢足球了 |
| 303 | I've got my grandkids over here. | 我有我的孙子在这里。 |
| 304 | I've got this. | 我来 |
| 305 | I 100% do that. | 我百分之百这样做。 |
| 306 | That's why you got to fight even harder for clarity and space. | 所以你必须更努力地争取清晰度和空间. |
| 307 | And a lot of it, a lot of it is probably thoughts that ruminate in your mind that you have picked | 很多事情,很多事情 可能是你心中的思绪 你选择了 |
| 308 | up, that do not bring you peace. | 起来,那不会给你带来和平。 |
| 309 | They bring you chaos, stress, and tension in your life. | 他们给你带来混乱、压力和紧张 |
| 310 | And it's giving yourself the gift of some spring cleaning of the closet of your mind. | 它给你自己一个礼物 一些春季清洁 你的思想壁橱。 |
| 311 | And most of this, you're not going to take with you anyway. | 大部分时间,你也不会带你走 |
| 312 | So evaluate it, audit it, give yourself, you can literally start a life over at any point | 因此,评估它,审计它, 给自己,你可以从任何一点开始生命 |
| 313 | you want, even in the worst time. | 你想,即使在最糟糕的时候。 |
| 314 | Wilma started her life over when it all was going away. | 威尔玛开始她的生活 当这一切的消失。 |
| 315 | She lost her home. | 她失去了她的家。 |
| 316 | She had lost the man of her dream. | 她失去了梦想中的男人 |
| 317 | She had lost her life. | 她已经失去了生命。 |
| 318 | It was almost over. | 都快结束了 |
| 319 | And she went, you know what? | 她去了,你知道吗? |
| 320 | I'm going to create some space. | 我要创造一些空间。 |
| 321 | I'm going to get rid of these feathers that don't serve me anymore. | 我要摆脱这些不再为我服务的羽毛. |
| 322 | And I think it's such a crazy metaphor, but it literally allowed her to soar and to fly | 我觉得这是一个疯狂的比喻, 但字面上允许她飞翔 |
| 323 | again in her life. | 在她的生活里再次出现 |
| 324 | It wasn't adding stuff. | 这不是添加的东西。 |
| 325 | It was eliminating stuff. | 这是消除的东西。 |
| 326 | What I love about what you're sharing about the recent revelations that you've had is | 我最喜欢你分享的 你最近揭露的 |
| 327 | that there is so much that takes up space in your mind and in your life that actually | 在你的脑海和生活中 有很多东西占用空间 |
| 328 | isn't helpful and isn't important to you. | 对你没有帮助 对你不重要 |
| 329 | Amen. | 阿门 |
| 330 | That's right. | 没错 |
| 331 | So if you were a huge worrier, and still are. | 所以,如果你是一个巨大的烦恼, 而且仍然是。 |
| 332 | Oh, I can help all the worriers. | 哦,我可以帮助所有的烦恼。 |
| 333 | So for the worrier that's listening, that isn't even aware, Ed, of how much space worrying | 所以对于那些在听话的烦恼者来说 艾德 根本不知道有多少空间值得担心 |
| 334 | is taking up, you mentioned that you have a sense of peace that you haven't had before. | 你提到你有以前没有过的平静感 |
| 335 | What's the first thing that you could do if you're lost in your mind, you're behind enemy | 如果你迷路了,你会怎么做? |
| 336 | lines? | 线条? |
| 337 | I think the reason that I worry is my dad worried. | 我觉得我担心的原因是我爸爸担心 |
| 338 | And let me tell you the biggest reason why I stopped. | 让我告诉你我停下来的最大原因 |
| 339 | I think with children, things are caught, not taught. | 我想和孩子们在一起,事情是被抓住的,而不是被教导的. |
| 340 | I caught that from my old man. | 我从我老爸那里找到的 |
| 341 | And I decided once I had my cardiac events that I no longer wanted my children to catch | 我决定一旦我心脏病发作 我就不再希望我的孩子赶上 |
| 342 | this from me. | 这是从我这里。 |
| 343 | I think very few people will make changes for themselves, but they'll make big changes | 我认为很少有人会为自己做出改变,但他们会做出很大改变 |
| 344 | for the people that they love. | 他们爱的人。 |
| 345 | And this way you're being, this worrying you're doing, this ruminating of thoughts that don't | 这样你就会心烦意乱地想 |
| 346 | Just so you know, it doesn't just affect you, it's affecting your children, it's affecting | 只是让你知道, 它不只是影响你, 它影响你的孩子,它影响 |
| 347 | your spouse, it's affecting everybody around you. | 你的配偶,它影响到你周围的每一个人。 |
| 348 | There's a frequency to those thoughts, and it's reducing the frequency. | 这些想法有一个频率,在降低频率. |
| 349 | See, my dad's drinking, there was a lot of things wrong with my dad's drinking, obviously, | 你看,我爸的酒, 有很多事情 错了我爸的酒,显然, |
| 350 | there's abuse that comes with it. | 随之而来的是虐待 |
| 351 | But you know the number one thing, I told my dad this once he got sober, I used to worry | 但你知道第一,我告诉我爸, 一旦他清醒了,我曾经担心 |
| 352 | about my dad. | 关于我的爸爸。 |
| 353 | I'd worry about him. | 我会担心他的 |
| 354 | Is he going to come home, is he going to be in a car accident, are mom and dad going to | 他会回家吗? 他会出车祸吗? |
| 355 | get divorced? | 离婚吗? |
| 356 | Is dad going to hurt himself? | 爸爸会伤害自己吗? |
| 357 | Is dad going to hurt anybody? | 爸爸会伤害谁吗? |
| 358 | So from the age of a little boy, I learned to worry about my dad. | 所以从一个小男孩的年纪起 我就学会了为我爸担心 |
| 359 | Those of you that are worrying, okay, not only is it affecting you, it's affecting everybody | 你们这些担心的人 不仅影响你们 而且影响每个人 |
| 360 | around you. | 环绕着你 |
| 361 | This is picked up, it is caught, it's not taught, and you can't hide it. | 今取之,捕之,不教之,不可掩也. |
| 362 | And so the first thing I would tell you is if you won't do this for yourself, you need | 所以我要告诉你的第一件事是 如果你不为自己做,你需要 |
| 363 | to do it for the people that are around you. | 为了你身边的人 |
| 364 | And the technique to stop worrying is to actually look back on your life and realize that 99% | 停止担心的技巧 是回顾你的生活 并意识到99% |
| 365 | of the things you worried about never came to fruition, were never as bad as you did. | 你所担心的事情 从来没有成功过, 从来没有像你那样糟糕。 |
| 366 | Worrying allows you to live through an event multiple times that even if it happened, should | 担心你能够经历一个 事件多次,即使它发生,应该 |
| 367 | only happen to you once. | 只有一次发生在你身上。 |
| 368 | So even the 5% or 1% of things I worried about Mel that actually did happen, which I'm pretty | 因此,即使5%或1%的事情 我担心梅尔,实际上发生了, 我很漂亮 |
| 369 | sure I created them by worrying about them all of the time, I actually lived through | 当然我一直担心他们 才创造他们,我活了下来 |
| 370 | them hundreds of times instead of the one time I had to. | 他们上百次 而不是我不得不的一次。 |
| 371 | So I lived through it over and over and over again, and then it happened, and then I lived | 于是我一遍又一遍地经历它, 然后它发生,然后我生活 |
| 372 | through it again. | 再次穿过它。 |
| 373 | I used to think if I just worry about this enough, it won't happen, or when I get there, | 我曾经想过,如果我只是担心 足够,它不会发生,或者当我到达那里, |
| 374 | I'll be prepared. | 我会准备好的 |
| 375 | It turns out that's not true. | 事实并非如此。 |
| 376 | If crap is going to hit the fan, crap is hitting the fan. | 如果狗屎要打扇子, 狗屎是打扇子。 |
| 377 | But I lived through the bad events of my life hundreds of times as opposed to just the one | 但我经历了我一生的坏事 上百次了 而不是只有一次 |
| 378 | time when it actually happened. | 当它真正发生的时候。 |
| 379 | So not only did most of the stuff I worried about never happened, but when it did happen, | 所以,不仅我担心的大部分事情 从来没有发生, 而且当它发生, |
| 380 | it was hundreds of times my body, my spirit, my heart. | 我的身体,我的精神,我心 |
| 381 | Do you think it's by coincidence that this guy who worries all the time, who carries | 你觉得这个老是担心的人 是巧合吗? |
| 382 | all this insecurities, heart broke down in his early 50s? | 他50多岁时心碎了? |
| 383 | My heart broke down. | 心断. |
| 384 | I physically think my heart just could not take any more stress. | 我觉得我的心已经承受不了压力了 |
| 385 | Right when I wake up, first question I ask myself, what do I need to worry about today? | 当我醒来时,第一个问题,我问自己,我今天需要担心什么? |
| 386 | What do I got to get done? | 我该怎么做? |
| 387 | What could go wrong today? | 今天会出什么事? |
| 388 | This is someone who millions of people listen to to better their lives. | 这个人是 数百万人听 改善他们的生活。 |
| 389 | But if I'm being honest, I was always moving away, trying to get away from these worries. | 但是,如果我是诚实的, 我总是搬家, 试图摆脱这些担忧。 |
| 390 | And I'm really happy to tell everybody that that can change and has changed for me. | 我很高兴地告诉大家,这可以改变,而且已经改变了。 |
| 391 | I worry from time to time. | 我时时烦恼. |
| 392 | That guy rears his head every once in a while. | 那家伙偶尔会重头再来 |
| 393 | But I know to slap him back now pretty good by feeding him the thoughts that do serve | 但我知道现在要打他一巴掌 给他提供那些确实有用的想法 |
| 394 | him and writing down the ones that are silly and they lose their power over me. | 写下那些愚蠢的人 他们失去他们对我的力量 |
| 395 | That's the tool. | 这就是工具。 |
| 396 | Yeah, that's my tool. | 是啊,这是我的工具。 |
| 397 | Like if you could literally go back in time and say, hey, dummy, just write down all this | 碞钩狦弧 糑 猜矹 р硂ㄇ糶ㄓ |
| 398 | stuff in your head and you're going to see in the piece of paper how stupid half this | 你脑子里的东西 你会在纸上看到 多么愚蠢的一半 |
| 399 | stuff is. | 东西是。 |
| 400 | Not half. | 没有一半。 |
| 401 | Ninety eight percent. | 百分之九十八 问曰. |
| 402 | OK. | 摆 |
| 403 | Ninety eight percent. | 百分之九十八 问曰. |
| 404 | In my case, ninety eight percent. | 就我而言,百分之九十八。 |
| 405 | I'm a professional worrier. | 我是一个专业的恐惧者。 |
| 406 | Well, the best piece, the best thing about this is vices is free. | 好吧,最好的作品, 最好的事情是 恶习是免费的。 |
| 407 | You take out a piece of paper, just write all the stuff keeping you awake at night. | 你拿出一张纸, 写所有的东西让你晚上醒着。 |
| 408 | Notice how dumb half of it is. | 注意它有多笨的一半。 |
| 409 | And then do you write down the things you want to believe? | 然后记下你想相信的事吗? |
| 410 | I do. | 当然 |
| 411 | I write down the things that I want to believe, which which for me is I can I show you a prop | 我写下我想相信的东西 对我来说,我可以给你看一个道具 |
| 412 | on it? | 在吗? |
| 413 | Sure. | 当然 |
| 414 | The number one way that I think you can shift yourself is that you have a thing inside of | 头一个办法,我认为你可以 改变自己是 你有一件事在内心 |
| 415 | you called your identity. | 你称你的身份。 |
| 416 | OK. | 摆 |
| 417 | So when I use that term, God, you kind of weave in whatever your beliefs are. | 所以当我用这个词,上帝, 你有点编织 无论你的信仰是什么。 |
| 418 | I believe next to God, the most powerful force in the world is to be consistent with the | 我相信在上帝的旁边 世界上最强大的力量就是 符合 |
| 419 | way you view you. | 看你的样子 |
| 420 | So your identity is like your thoughts, beliefs, self-concept, et cetera. | 所以,你的身份就像你的思想,信仰,自我概念等等. |
| 421 | Here's what I found out about at least me. | 这是我发现的 至少我。 |
| 422 | OK. | 摆 |
| 423 | If that thing is set at seventy five degrees, like we're in the studio, it's probably about | 如果那个东西被设定在75度, 就像我们在工作室,它可能是关于 |
| 424 | seventy five in here right now. | 现在有75个 |
| 425 | Well, externally, what's going on does not dictate the temperature in here. | 外面的情况并不决定这里的温度 |
| 426 | This place is set at seventy five degrees. | 此地设七十五度. |
| 427 | The external does not matter. | 外道无碍. |
| 428 | I think it's probably about eighty five degrees here today while we're doing this outside | 我想今天大概是八十五度 我们在外面做这个 |
| 429 | the studio. | 摄影棚。 |
| 430 | Yeah. | 对 |
| 431 | OK. | 摆 |
| 432 | Yeah. | 对 |
| 433 | So outside outside the studio, let's say it's eighty five degrees. | 所以在工作室外面 可以说是85度 |
| 434 | That does not affect the temperature in here because what happens when the external happens, | 这不影响这里的温度 因为当外部发生时会发生什么 |
| 435 | this thing turns the thermostat on, kicks the air conditioning on and regulates it back | 这玩意打开了恒温器 打开空调 调节它 |
| 436 | to what it's set at. | 以它所设定的。 |
| 437 | OK. | 摆 |
| 438 | That's our lives. | 这是我们的生活。 |
| 439 | You have multiple thermostat settings in your life. | 你生命中有多个自动调温器设置 |
| 440 | You have one for love. | 你有一个爱。 |
| 441 | You have one for peace. | 你有一个和平。 |
| 442 | You have one for money. | 你有一个钱。 |
| 443 | You have one for fitness. | 你有一个适合健身。 |
| 444 | And whatever that thermostat setting is, that identity you have, you'll do everything in | 无论自动调温器的设置是什么, 你拥有的这个身份, 你会做一切在 |
| 445 | your power subconsciously and unconsciously to get your thermostat of your life back to | 你潜意识和无意识的力量 让你的恒温器回到你的生活 |
| 446 | that setting. | 那个环境。 |
| 447 | So that's why so many times in life you'll see people, they do pick up a new habit. | 所以,这就是为什么生命中这么多次 你会看到的人, 他们确实挑了一个新的习惯。 |
| 448 | They got a new tip on a show. | 他们得到了一个新的提示 在节目。 |
| 449 | They've listened to something. | 他们听了一些东西。 |
| 450 | But if they're at seventy five degrees, let's just say of mental health. | 但是如果他们在七十五度, 让我们只是说心理健康。 |
| 451 | OK. | 摆 |
| 452 | I'm set at seventy five. | 我被设定为75。 |
| 453 | And all of a sudden, man, I'm feeling some peace. | 突然间,我感觉很平静 |
| 454 | I'm feeling some joy. | 我感觉有些快乐。 |
| 455 | I'm at eighty five. | 我八十五岁了 |
| 456 | I'm at ninety. | 我九十岁了 |
| 457 | I'm at a hundred. | 我在一百块。 |
| 458 | Things are going great. | 事情进展顺利 |
| 459 | If you don't change what you believe you're worth, if you don't adjust that thermostat | 如果你不改变你认为的价值 如果你不调整恒温器 |
| 460 | setting, that eighty five or ninety, over time you will turn the air conditioner on | 设定,85或90, 随着时间的推移,你会打开空调 |
| 461 | of your life and you'll cool it back down to what you believe you deserve to get. | 回到你认为你应得的 |
| 462 | There's one lead character in this sucker. | 这个混蛋有个主角 |
| 463 | You. | 你,你来 |
| 464 | And if your thermostat setting of happiness is seventy five degrees, you can change all | 如果你的恒温器设定的幸福度是75度 你可以改变所有 |
| 465 | the external conditions you want. | 外部条件。 |
| 466 | You're going to be at seventy five degrees. | 将七十五度. |
| 467 | You will turn the air. | 你会转动空气。 |
| 468 | By the way, you'll also turn the heater on if it gets really, really bad. | 顺便说一句,如果热器真的坏了,你也会打开。 |
| 469 | You probably won't starve. | 你可能不会饿死的 |
| 470 | You'll turn the heater on and get it back up to seventy five degrees. | 你会把暖气打开 把它调回75度 |
| 471 | The key is adjusting what you believe you're worth, what you deserve in life. | 关键在于调整你认为自己的价值,人生中应得的价值. |
| 472 | If you don't change these thermostat settings, it's everything. | 如果你不改变这些自动调温器的设置,它就是一切。 |
| 473 | It's the governor. | It州知府. |
| 474 | So the reason Ed Milett worried all the time, I got about a 50 degree peace thermostat most | 所以Ed Milett一直担心的原因 我得到了一个50度的温和器 |
| 475 | of my life. | 我一生的记忆 |
| 476 | So of course, no matter how good my life got, no matter what was going great, I'll find | 所以,当然,无论我的生活有多好, 不管什么是伟大的,我会找到 |
| 477 | a way to get my stress. | 一种得到我压力的方法。 |
| 478 | I'll find a way to get my worry. | 我会想办法去担心的 |
| 479 | We all have like five, six emotions that are our dominant emotions. | 我们都有五、六种情感 是我们主宰的情感 |
| 480 | What are they? | 他们是什么? |
| 481 | Well, there's different for each people. | 每个人的情况都不同 |
| 482 | So for me, I think my primary emotions are stress, worry, anxiety. | 所以,对我来说,我认为我的主要情绪 是压力,担心,焦虑。 |
| 483 | Those were my dominant ones. | 这些都是我的主导。 |
| 484 | And when I was younger, anger. | 当我年轻的时候,愤怒。 |
| 485 | And so no matter what happened in a given week, I'll find. | 所以不管在一周内发生了什么 我会找到的 |
| 486 | By the way, these emotions, when we have them, even if they don't serve us, we're going to | 顺便说一下,这些情绪,当我们有了它们, 即使它们不为我们服务,我们将 |
| 487 | get them. | 抓住他们。 |
| 488 | Why? | 为什么? |
| 489 | They're familiar. | 他们是熟悉的。 |
| 490 | Our brains and our minds want to constantly move to what's familiar because it conserves | 我们的大脑和头脑 都想不断移动到熟悉的地方 因为它能保存 |
| 491 | energy. | 能源。 |
| 492 | So the key thing for me in my life is I'm going to stop worrying about getting stuff. | 所以对于我来说,我生命中的关键是 我会不再担心得到的东西。 |
| 493 | What are the things I want in my life to feel? | 我这辈子想感受什么? |
| 494 | I want to feel more peace. | 我想感觉更多的和平。 |
| 495 | I want to feel more ecstasy, joy, bliss. | 我想感觉更狂喜,快乐,幸福。 |
| 496 | I want to have more optimism in my life, abundance in my life. | 我想有 更多的乐观我的生活, 丰满的我的生活。 |
| 497 | And I've made those my intentions. | 我把这些都做了 |
| 498 | And over time, I shifted what my lens delivers to me. | 随着时间的推移,我改变了我的镜片给我带来的东西。 |
| 499 | And so now my lens doesn't always deliver to me the familiar. | 所以现在我的镜头不总是给我带来熟悉的。 |
| 500 | I used to brag, I'm amazing under stress. | 我以前吹嘘过,压力很大 |
| 501 | Man, you watch me under stress, I'll function. | 男人,你在压力下看着我, 我会发挥功能。 |
| 502 | And at one point, my wife goes, do you think that's because you constantly find a way to | 有一天,我的妻子去, 你觉得那是因为 你不断找到一个方法 |
| 503 | bring it into your life? | 把它带进你的生活? |
| 504 | No matter how good it's doing, you've got to find a way to get it. | 不管它有多好,你都要想办法得到它. |
| 505 | I was like, gosh, you know, you're really right. | 我很喜欢,天哪,你知道, 你真的是对的。 |
| 506 | So these emotions that may be familiar don't serve us. | 所以这些可能熟悉的情绪 对我们没有帮助 |
| 507 | Here's the good news. | 这是好消息。 |
| 508 | Your past doesn't equal your future. | 你的过去不等于你的未来 |
| 509 | Writing down the emotions you want and the ones that you're most familiar with is really | 写下你想要的情绪 和最熟悉的情绪 |
| 510 | an incredible process in your life. | 你生命中一个不可思议的过程 |
| 511 | You know, we haven't talked about this, but I had a very similar revelation where if I | 你知道,我们没有谈论这个, 但我有一个非常相似的启示 如果我 |
| 512 | were to list the dominant emotions that I would feel any week, I would say this would | 列出我任何一周都会感受到的 主导情绪,我会说 |
| 513 | be in my late 40s, like peak misery. | 我四十多岁了,就像最痛苦的时光 |
| 514 | It would be anger and frustration, anxiety, fear, jealousy. | 这将是愤怒和挫折,焦虑,恐惧,嫉妒。 |
| 515 | And I kind of need six because there was a lot of insecurity in there. | 我有点需要六个,因为那里很不安全。 |
| 516 | But there was also this sense of I'm in it alone. | 但也有这种感觉 我独自一人。 |
| 517 | Like kind of that, like I'm on the outside. | 就像我在外面一样 |
| 518 | I have to do this on my own. | 我必须自己去 |
| 519 | Nobody, like it's all on me. | 没有人,就像它的所有在我身上。 |
| 520 | How'd you change it? | 你怎么改变的? |
| 521 | You said that you either move toward the positive or you move away from the negative. | 你说你要么向阳性走要么向阴性走 |
| 522 | If I use your thermostat example, which I'm just learning for the first time, what I would | 如果我用你的自动调温器的例子, 我第一次学习,我会怎么做? |
| 523 | I got tired of freezing because I said to him, I don't want to be this person. | 我厌倦了冰冻 因为我对他说 我不想成为这个人 |
| 524 | And I'm not stuck as this version of myself, but there is absolutely nobody that's going | 但我绝对没有人会去 |
| 525 | to do this for me. | 为了我 |
| 526 | And there's nobody stopping me from changing either. | 没有人阻止我改变。 |
| 527 | And so I love the analogy of the thermostat because if you realize that you're freezing | 所以我喜欢自动调温器的类比 因为如果你意识到你很冷 |
| 528 | in your life, using this imagination to dial it up and then asking yourself if I'm at a | 在你的生活中,用这种想象力来拨号 然后问自己,我是否在... |
| 529 | or an 80 or 90, what are those emotions that I'm going to feel? | 或80或90, 什么是那些情绪 我将感受? |
| 530 | And you could start there. | 你可以从那里开始 |
| 531 | And I think it goes back to also one of the things that you said, that if you feel stuck | 我想它也会回到你说的一件事 如果你觉得卡住了 |
| 532 | or helpless in your life, go help somebody else, because just the act of helping somebody | 或无助 在你的生活中, 去帮助别人, 因为只是行为帮助某人 |
| 533 | else, opening a door, smiling, saying a silent prayer, whatever it may be, volunteering in | 开一扇门,微笑, 默默祷告,无论它可能是什么,志愿加入 |
| 534 | your community, it gives you hope that there's something more for you. | 你的社区, 它给你的希望 有你更多的东西。 |
| 535 | And that's like the dial going up and showing you that something else is possible. | 这就像拨号向上, 告诉你,其他事情是可能的。 |
| 536 | Let me tell you about Verizon's brand new simplicity plan. | 让我告诉你Verizon的新计划 |
| 537 | It's one plan, one price, $30 a line per month, even for a single line with their best 5G | 一个计划,一个价格,每个月30美元, 甚至一个单线,他们最好的5G |
| 538 | network for all. | 面向所有人的网络。 |
| 539 | That's it. | 就这样 |
| 540 | That's the plan. | 这就是计划。 |
| 541 | And when it comes to your phone, you can do what works for you. | 而当你的电话, 你可以做你的工作。 |
| 542 | Already love your phone? | 已经喜欢你的手机了? |
| 543 | Great. | 不错 |
| 544 | Keep it. | 留着 |
| 545 | Or it's easy to buy a new one. | 或易买新. |
| 546 | Or you could upgrade to the newest phone every year for a monthly charge. | 或者你可以升级到最新的手机 每年每月收费。 |
| 547 | So let's get this straight. | 故直说. |
| 548 | One plan, one price, $30 a line per month, plus your phone, your way, and their best | 一个计划,一个价格,每个月30美元 加上你的电话,你的方式,和他们最好的 |
| 549 | 5G network? | 5G网络? |
| 550 | I guess the simplicity plan is just that. | 我想简单计划就是那样 |
| 551 | Super simple. | 超级简单。 |
| 552 | Maybe that's why they named it that. | 也许这就是为什么他们取名它。 |
| 553 | One plan, one price, and the best network for everyone. | 一个计划,一个价格, 和最好的网络每个人。 |
| 554 | 今天换到Verizon | |
| 555 | For new customers, $30 a line includes auto-pay and switch discount, additional taxes, fees, | 对于新客户,每行30美元包括自动付费和换乘折扣、额外税收、收费。 |
| 556 | and terms apply, unlimited data is restricted to on-device smartphone usage, domestic data | 并适用术语,无限数据仅限于设备智能手机使用、国内数据 |
| 557 | roaming at 2G speeds. | 以2G速度游荡. |
| 558 | I'm curious, Ed, you talked about your dad's sobriety. | 我很好奇 Ed 你说过你爸爸的清醒 |
| 559 | You also write about it in your number one blockbuster, The Power of One More. | 在你的头号挡板上,你还写了它,"一个多的力量"。 |
| 560 | How did that impact you, your dad getting sober? | 那对你有什么影响, 你爸爸变得清醒? |
| 561 | I think when you grew up with any dysfunction, divorce, stress in your home, yelling, drugs, | 我认为当你长大时 任何功能障碍 离婚 家里的压力 喊叫 吸毒 |
| 562 | alcohol, which I had the combo, not the divorce, my parents stayed married. | 酒,我有组合, 而不是离婚, 我的父母继续结婚。 |
| 563 | You carry a little piece of it with you all your life. | 一生随身携带一小块. |
| 564 | I'm driving to a Little League game. | 我开车去参加小联盟的比赛 |
| 565 | My dad, who was an aggressive, I would even say, I think I can say in my father's honor | 我的父亲,他是一个侵略者,我甚至会说, 我想我可以说为我父亲的荣誉 |
| 566 | because he came a beautiful, wonderful man in sobriety. | 因为他来一个美丽, 美丽的男人在清醒。 |
| 567 | My father was, I would even call him violent. | 我的父亲是,我甚至会叫他暴力。 |
| 568 | And we're driving to a Little League game, I'll never forget it, Mel, and my dad's crying | 我们开车去参加小联盟的比赛 我永远不会忘记的 Mel 我爸爸在哭 |
| 569 | driving the car. | 开车 |
| 570 | I'm looking at my dad like, what the heck? | 我看着我爸一样,什么地狱? |
| 571 | What's going on here? | 这是怎么回事? |
| 572 | Pulls the car over. | 停车 |
| 573 | He's still tearing up and crying and not looking at me. | 他还在哭着哭着不看我 |
| 574 | And then he turns to me when he says one more, it's why it always stayed with me. | 然后他转身对我说,当他再说一次, 这就是为什么它总是留在我身边。 |
| 575 | He goes, Eddie. | 他去,埃迪。 他去,埃迪。 |
| 576 | I said, yeah, daddy. | 我说,是的,爸爸 |
| 577 | He goes, I'm going to try to get sober one more time. | 他走了,我要尝试 清醒一次。 |
| 578 | And he looks at me. | 他看着我 |
| 579 | I said, you are? | 我说了 是吗? |
| 580 | He said, yeah, son. | 他说,是的,儿子。 |
| 581 | And I said, dad, why would this be any different than the other times? | 我说 爸爸 为什么这跟以前不一样 |
| 582 | You've tried a lot of times. | 你试过很多次了 |
| 583 | And he goes, well, Eddie, I think sometimes in life, you got to give everything one more | 他走了,嗯,埃迪,我认为有时 在生活中,你必须给一切更多 |
| 584 | try. | 试试看 |
| 585 | I think it's a huge lesson just because it hasn't happened before. | 我认为这是一个巨大的教训 只是因为它从来没有发生过。 |
| 586 | You're one try away. | 你是一个尝试离开。 |
| 587 | And then he goes, I think this is the key to life. | 然后他走了, 我认为这是生命的关键。 |
| 588 | He goes, Eddie, you never said this before this day. | 他走了,埃迪,你从没说过 |
| 589 | Mel, he goes, I love you. | 梅尔 他走了 我爱你 |
| 590 | And you deserve a dad you can be proud of. | 你应该得到一个可以自豪的父亲。 |
| 591 | That's why I'm going to try harder this time. | 所以我这次要更努力一点 |
| 592 | What my dad did is he linked his love for me and my sisters and my mom to making this | 我爸爸做的是他把对我和姐妹们的爱 和我妈的爱联系起来 |
| 593 | change in this decision. | 更改本决定。 |
| 594 | And I'm a believer that love is the most powerful of all emotions. | 而我相信爱是所有情感中最强大的. |
| 595 | It overrides fear. | 它战胜恐惧。 |
| 596 | It overrides anxiety. | 它能克服焦虑 |
| 597 | It overrides stress. | 它能克服压力。 |
| 598 | It overrides worry. | 它能克服忧患 |
| 599 | If you want to make one of these changes in your life, you've got to link it to your love | 如果你想改变你的生活 你必须把它和你的爱联系起来 |
| 600 | of someone else that you care about, your love for yourself, for your love of God. | 你关心的人, 你爱自己, 你爱上帝。 |
| 601 | And you link that. | 你将它联系起来。 |
| 602 | And if you could truly make that connection, it will be bigger than your fear. | 如果你能真正建立这种联系, 它会比你的恐惧更大。 |
| 603 | But if you don't link it to something bigger than that fear, bigger than that worry, bigger | 但是如果你不把它和 比恐惧更大的东西联系起来, 比担心更大的,更大的 |
| 604 | than that I'm not good enough, what are people going to think about me? | 比我不够好, 人们会怎么想我? |
| 605 | What are they going to say? | 他们要说什么? |
| 606 | I'm probably going to fail again. | 我可能会再次失败。 |
| 607 | I've always been average. | 我总是很普通 |
| 608 | I've always been ordinary. | 我总是很普通 |
| 609 | That's just who I am. | 这就是我是谁。 |
| 610 | If you don't link it to something bigger than that emotion, it's probably not going to happen. | 如果你不把它和 更大的情感联系起来, 它可能不会发生。 |
| 611 | My dad finally anchored it to the love of his family. | 我爸爸终于把它植根于家人的爱 |
| 612 | And that love, thank God, was greater than that addiction, was greater than that desire | 爱,谢天谢地,比上瘾还强,比欲望还强 |
| 613 | to go do something that didn't serve him. | 去做一些不为他服务的事 |
| 614 | But the crazy part, when my dad got sober, he came back from rehab. | 但最疯狂的是,当我爸爸清醒的时候,他从戒毒所回来。 |
| 615 | He looked good. | 他看起来不错 |
| 616 | I went, Dad, are you never going to drink again? | 我去了 爸爸 你再也不会喝酒了吗? |
| 617 | And he says to me, I'll never forget it, Mel. | 他对我说,我永远不会忘记的,梅尔 |
| 618 | He goes, I can't promise you that, son. | 他走了,我不能保证,儿子。 |
| 619 | And I remember feeling disappointed. | 我记得我感到很失望。 |
| 620 | He goes, but Eddie, here's what I can tell you. | 他走了,但艾迪,我可以告诉你 |
| 621 | I'm not going to drink for one more day at a time. | 一日不饮. |
| 622 | And my dad stacked up those one more days the rest of his life. | 我爸爸在余生中又堆积了那些日子 |
| 623 | Never had another drink, never used another drug. | 没有再喝过酒,也没有再用过毒品 |
| 624 | Why does that matter? | 这有什么关系? |
| 625 | You don't have to make huge big decisions. | 你不必做出巨大的决定 |
| 626 | You just got to decide for today. | 你只需要为今天做决定 |
| 627 | My dad every day made this decision. | 我爸爸每天都做这个决定 |
| 628 | I'm not going to drink. | 我不会喝酒的。 |
| 629 | I love my family more than I want to drink. | 爱家人胜于饮. |
| 630 | It doesn't have to be this huge monumental thing. | 没必要这么巨大 |
| 631 | It's just today. | 今日才见. |
| 632 | When my dad died, I woke up in the middle of the night one night crying, surprised me. | 我爸爸去世时,我半夜醒来,哭着哭,让我惊讶. |
| 633 | And my wife's like, what's going on? | 我妻子就像,发生了什么事? |
| 634 | It's the fog of the night. | 夜来大雾. |
| 635 | And I'm like, someone helped daddy. | 我很喜欢,有人帮助爸爸。 |
| 636 | She's like, what are you saying? | 她喜欢, 你在说什么? |
| 637 | And I said, I just, I can't believe I never dawned on me before. | 我说,我只是, 我不能相信 我从来没有发现我之前。 |
| 638 | I'm like 52 years old. | 我像52岁。 |
| 639 | I go, my dad didn't get sober alone. | 我走了 我爸一个人不清醒 |
| 640 | Someone helped my dad. | 有人帮我爸爸 |
| 641 | And by the way, the night my dad got sober, he was going to take his life. | 顺便说一句 我爸清醒的那晚 他打算自杀 |
| 642 | I'm aware at the church, the police were looking to find my father. | 我知道教堂里 警察在找我父亲 |
| 643 | He was going to kill himself that night. | 当晚他打算自杀 |
| 644 | And I said, someone intervened and helped my dad. | 我说,有人干预 和帮助我爸爸。 |
| 645 | They changed our whole family. | 他们改变了我们全家 |
| 646 | They saved my dad's life. | 他们救了我爸爸的命 |
| 647 | They saved our whole family. | 他们救了我们全家 |
| 648 | I'm probably kind of a speaker and a coach because of this person. | 我可能是个演说家和教练 因为这个人 |
| 649 | They don't probably know I'm his son. | 他们可能不知道我是他儿子 |
| 650 | The ripple effect of helping one human, my dad, I got to find him. | 帮助一个人类的连锁反应 我爸爸 我得找到他 |
| 651 | And I found him. | 我发现了他。 |
| 652 | I found the guy. | 我找到那个人了 |
| 653 | I can't tell you everything about him because it's an anonymous program my dad was in, | 我不能告诉你关于他的一切 因为它是一个匿名程序 我爸爸当时在, |
| 654 | but God's got a funny sense of humor. | 但上帝有幽默感 |
| 655 | My name's Ed, not a cool name. | 我的名字是艾德,不是一个很酷的名字。 |
| 656 | My dad's name's Edward, not a cool name. | 我爸叫爱德华,不叫酷 |
| 657 | My grandfather was Edward. | 我祖父是爱德华 |
| 658 | This dude's name, Ed. | 这家伙的名字,埃德。 |
| 659 | God's just up there laughing at all of us, right? | 上帝只是在那里 笑我们所有人,对不对? |
| 660 | That's not the coolest part of the story, Mel. | 这不是故事最酷的部分,梅尔。 |
| 661 | Here's the cool part. | 这是很酷的部分。 |
| 662 | What qualified this man to help my dad? | 凭什么他能帮我爸爸? |
| 663 | What were his qualifications? | 他的资格是什么? |
| 664 | You think he was a perfect resume? | 你认为他是一个完美的简历? |
| 665 | Never sinned? | 从来没有犯过罪? |
| 666 | Never made a mistake? | 从来没有犯过错? |
| 667 | No. | 没有 |
| 668 | You know what his qualifications were? | 你知道他的资格是什么吗? |
| 669 | He was also a drunk. | 他也是个酒鬼 |
| 670 | He had also been a drug addict. | 他也曾是吸毒成瘾者。 |
| 671 | He had also been a liar. | 他也是个骗子。 |
| 672 | He also lived in the shadows. | 亦住诸阴. |
| 673 | He had also carried shame the majority of his life. | 他一生中的大部分时间都感到羞耻。 |
| 674 | The reason that that qualified him is you're most qualified in life | 是因为你一生中最有资格 |
| 675 | to help the person you used to be. | 帮助你过去的人 |
| 676 | We think in life that our biggest setbacks, | 我们认为生活中最大的挫折 |
| 677 | our biggest mistakes, our divorce, our financial mistake, | 我们最大的错误,我们的离婚, 我们的经济错误, |
| 678 | heck, it may not even be any of that. | 见鬼,可能根本不是 |
| 679 | We just think we're disqualified because we've always been average. | 我们只是觉得我们被取消资格 因为我们一直是普通人 |
| 680 | We've always been invisible. | 我们一直都是看不见的 |
| 681 | And nothing could be further from the truth. | 没有什么比事实更进一步了。 |
| 682 | Those are the very things that qualify you to help somebody else. | 这些正是你有资格帮助别人的原因 |
| 683 | And living a great life may not be on Instagram | 过着伟大的生活也许不会在Instagram上 |
| 684 | or having your own show or having an island or a jet. | 或拥有自己的表演 或拥有一个岛屿或飞机。 |
| 685 | It might be like in a really quiet moment | 可能在非常安静的时刻 |
| 686 | when no one's watching, you're helpful. | 没人看的时候,你帮了大忙 |
| 687 | That man, by the way, was only sober 31 days, | 顺便说一句 那个人才清醒31天 |
| 688 | the day that he held my dad. | 那天,他抱着我爸爸。 |
| 689 | So you don't have to have it all figured out. | 故不须全解. |
| 690 | You don't have to have a whole big old plan. | 你不必有一个全新的计划。 |
| 691 | You don't have to know every single step. | 你不必知道每一个步骤。 |
| 692 | There's 12 steps in that program. | 这个计划有12个步骤 |
| 693 | This dude didn't even know what the fifth step was | 这家伙甚至不知道第五步是什么 |
| 694 | because he hadn't done it yet himself. | 因为他自己还没做 |
| 695 | You don't have to have it all figured out. | 你不必把事情都弄明白的 |
| 696 | What you have to have is a heart. | 你必须要有一颗心。 |
| 697 | It says, I want to help people. | 上面说 我想帮助别人 |
| 698 | And I'm not disqualified because of my mistakes | 我并不是因为我的错误而被取消资格 |
| 699 | or my setbacks or my failures. | 或者我的挫折 或者我的失败 |
| 700 | In fact, those are the very things that do qualify me. | 事实上,正是这些东西才让我有资格。 |
| 701 | My dad went on to help about 4,000 people get sober himself | 我爸爸继续帮助大约四千人 自己戒酒 |
| 702 | because you're most qualified to help those you used to be. | 因为你最有资格帮助 那些你曾经是。 |
| 703 | You start to look at your life very differently. | 你开始看待你的生活 非常不同。 |
| 704 | What if all of this stuff has happened | 如果这一切发生 |
| 705 | to literally prepare me | 真正让我做好准备 |
| 706 | for this decision I'm about to make to change my life? | 为了这个决定 我要改变我的生活? |
| 707 | That I'm not going to hide from my failures | 我不会逃避我的失败 |
| 708 | or my screw-ups or my averageness or my invisibility. | 或我的失败,或我的平均 或我的隐形。 |
| 709 | It's actually what qualifies me the most | 其实是我最有资格的 |
| 710 | to do something great in my life. | 做我生命中伟大的事情。 |
| 711 | And that's to help other people. | 那是为了帮助别人 |
| 712 | And that's what you were born to do. | 这就是你天生要做的事 |
| 713 | It's the greatest lesson of my life | 这是我人生中最伟大的教训 |
| 714 | is watching this Ed help my precious Ed | 看这个 Ed帮我宝贝 Ed |
| 715 | so that I'm actually here today with you, | 所以,今天我其实在这里和你在一起, |
| 716 | hopefully helping one person as well. | 希望也帮助一个人 |
| 717 | That's the ripple effect. | 这就是波纹效应。 |
| 718 | It is my most favorite thing that you say by far. | 我最喜欢你这么说 |
| 719 | You're most qualified to help the person you used to be. | 你最有资格帮助你过去的人 |
| 720 | It's true. | 这是真的。 |
| 721 | For the person who's listening | 对于倾听的人 |
| 722 | that still is having trouble kind of believing that, | 仍然很难相信, |
| 723 | what would you say to them? | 你会对他们说什么? |
| 724 | That's the biggest question in the world. | 这是世界上最大的问题。 |
| 725 | I will flip it on you. | 我会把它翻到你身上。 |
| 726 | Then why else are you here? | 那你为什么在这里? |
| 727 | There's a reason that you're here. | 尔时如来有情因缘. |
| 728 | I'm really good at this | 我真的很擅长这个 |
| 729 | because I've screwed up so many things in my life. | 因为我这辈子搞砸了很多事情 |
| 730 | I'm immensely qualified. | 我非常有资格。 |
| 731 | You want to talk about worry and screw up? | 你想谈谈担心和搞砸了? |
| 732 | I can do that. | 我可以做到这一点。 |
| 733 | You want to talk about screwing up financially? | 你想谈谈在经济上搞砸? |
| 734 | We can do that. | 我们可以做到这一点。 |
| 735 | You want to talk about being a jerk? | 你想谈一个混蛋? |
| 736 | I'm qualified for that one too. | 我也有这个资格 |
| 737 | Like I can anger, whatever you want. | 就像我可以生气,随便你 |
| 738 | Pick a topic. | 选一个话题。 |
| 739 | I'm pretty much, I've messed it up. | 我几乎,我已经搞砸了。 |
| 740 | You know the truth is those times in your life | 你知道你生命中的那些时代 |
| 741 | where you have helped someone | 在你帮助别人的地方 |
| 742 | or you did encourage somebody, | 或者你鼓励别人 |
| 743 | you feel so good about yourself. | 你对自己感觉很好 |
| 744 | You feel at home. | 你感觉在家里。 |
| 745 | You can't worry fear or stress in the moments | 此时此刻你不必担心恐惧或压力 |
| 746 | when you've made a difference for somebody else. | 当你对别人有所帮助时 |
| 747 | So you've already done this in your life | 所以,你已经这样做 在你的生活中 |
| 748 | and you're a good person | 你是个好人 |
| 749 | and you don't give yourself enough credit | 而且你没有给自己足够的功劳 |
| 750 | for being a good person. | 作为好人。 |
| 751 | I'll tell you a quick thing. | 我会告诉你一个快的事。 |
| 752 | My mentor in my life was Wayne Dyer. | 我的导师是韦恩戴尔 |
| 753 | If you don't know who he is, | 如果你不知道他是谁 |
| 754 | my friend listening to this, | 我的朋友听这个, |
| 755 | you should go look him up. | 你应该去找他 |
| 756 | But I'm running on a beach in Hawaii. | 但我在夏威夷的海滩上跑 |
| 757 | I'm 30 and I'm kind of like doing okay in life. | 我30岁,我有点像 做正常的生活。 |
| 758 | And I'm running down this beach. | 我跑到海滩上 |
| 759 | It's like 6 a.m. | 犹如六时. |
| 760 | This guy's got no shirt on. | 这家伙没穿衬衫 |
| 761 | He's running towards me. | 他朝我跑来 |
| 762 | It's a bald guy, but he's got a hairy back. | 是个秃头,却背着毛. |
| 763 | And I'm like, oh, I'm gonna have to bump into this dude. | 而且我会,哦,我要去 撞见这个家伙。 |
| 764 | And I avoid him and he runs by me. | 我避开他,他从我身边跑 |
| 765 | And I'm like, oh my gosh, that was Wayne Dyer. | 我就像,我的天啊,那是韦恩戴尔。 |
| 766 | Wayne Dyer would be like Mel Robbins right now. | 韦恩·戴尔现在就像梅尔·罗宾斯 |
| 767 | Oh, that's not true. | 哦,这不是真的。 |
| 768 | Wayne Dyer 你在开玩笑吗? | |
| 769 | Is like a legend. | 就像一个传说。 |
| 770 | His book sold like 40 million copies or something. | 他的书卖得像四千万份之类的 |
| 771 | What is his book called? | 他的书叫什么? |
| 772 | Yeah, The Let Them Theory, I think. | 是啊,"让理论",我想。 |
| 773 | But anyway, pretty much Mel Robbins right now. | 不过现在差不多是梅尔·罗宾斯了 |
| 774 | So anyway, so he runs right by me. | 所以他从我身边跑来 |
| 775 | I think you just described you. | 我想你刚刚描述了你 |
| 776 | So he runs right by me. | 他从我身边跑过来了 |
| 777 | I don't have a hairy back. | 背无毛. |
| 778 | You do not have. | 你没有。 |
| 779 | I just waxed. | 我只是擦蜡。 |
| 780 | That's why. | 故说. |
| 781 | Love it. | 喜欢它。 |
| 782 | So we're wearing Sony Walkman. | 所以我们穿着索尼随身听 |
| 783 | That's how long ago it was. | 何等为久. |
| 784 | And I take my Walkman off and I go, Dr. Dyer. | 我带随身听走了,戴尔博士 |
| 785 | And he stops and he turns around. | 他停下来转身 |
| 786 | He's got his headphones. | 师有耳机. |
| 787 | He goes, yeah. | 他去,对。 |
| 788 | I go, you changed my life. | 我走了,你改变了我的生活。 |
| 789 | And he goes, I doubt that. | 他走了,我怀疑这一点。 |
| 790 | I bet you changed your life. | 我敢打赌,你改变了你的生活。 |
| 791 | But how did I help? | 我怎么帮的? |
| 792 | That's what he said. | 他就是这么说的 |
| 793 | And he walked towards me and we sat on the beach. | 他走向我 我们坐在沙滩上 |
| 794 | Can you imagine this? | 你能想象吗? |
| 795 | And we watched the sun come up together. | 我们一起看着太阳升起 |
| 796 | But here's the lesson from the conversation. | 但这里的教训 从谈话。 |
| 797 | At the end of it, he goes, Ed, you're going to live a great life. | 最后,他去,埃德, 你会过一个伟大的生活。 |
| 798 | In fact, I think you're going to change the world. | 事实上,我认为你会改变世界 |
| 799 | Now, at the time, I'm thinking he has definitely never said this to anybody else. | 现在,在当时,我想 他肯定从来没有说过这一点 其他人。 |
| 800 | Looking back, he may have said that to everybody. | 回想起来,他可能已经对所有人说过了。 |
| 801 | He said, Ed, the reason you're going to have a great life and make a huge difference | 他说,艾德,你过着美好的生活 并带来巨大的变化 |
| 802 | is you're a good man. | 你是好人吗? |
| 803 | And he stopped. | 他停下来了。 |
| 804 | They had blue eyes, very similar to my dad's. | 他们的眼睛是蓝色的 和我爸的很像 |
| 805 | That was the first time, Mel, in my life, in 30 years at that time, | 这是第一次,梅尔,在我生命中, 在30年的时间里, |
| 806 | someone gave me a compliment that I believed. | 有人赞美我 我相信。 |
| 807 | You'd have told me I was talented or smart or I didn't believe any of that. | 你会告诉我,我是天才或聪明 或者我不相信任何这一切。 |
| 808 | But he said, I think you're a good man. | 但他说 我觉得你是个好人 |
| 809 | I kind of believed that. | 我有点相信这一点。 |
| 810 | And he goes, I want you to always get your confidence from your intentions, Ed. | 他走了,我希望你永远得到 你的信心 从你的意图,埃德。 |
| 811 | You intend to do good. | 你想做点好事 |
| 812 | When you walk into a big speech, focus on your intentions to help. | 当你走进一个大演讲, 专注于你的意图帮助。 |
| 813 | When you walk into a one-on-one meeting with that confidence to come from, | 当你走进一个一对一的会面 与这种自信来自, |
| 814 | you remind yourself, I intend to do good. | 你提醒自己, 我打算做好事。 |
| 815 | I intend to make a difference. | 我打算有所作为。 |
| 816 | My intentions are good. | 我的意图是好的。 |
| 817 | He goes, you should beam with confidence over your intentions, Ed, not your ability. | 他走了,你应该有信心地 对你的意图,埃德,不是你的能力。 |
| 818 | And I got to tell you, walking into the podcast today, any speech, | 我得告诉你 今天走进播客 任何演讲 |
| 819 | if you asked me, hey, you're so smart, you're so this, | 如果你问我,嘿, 你是如此聪明,你是如此的, |
| 820 | I'd come in here really insecure. | 我来这里真的很不安全。 |
| 821 | But I feed myself with my intention. | 但我以意念供养自己. |
| 822 | And I would say our friend listening to this, you know what? | 我会说我们的朋友听这个,你知道吗? |
| 823 | You can shift your confidence in an instant with your intentions. | 你可以随心所欲地瞬间转变信心. |
| 824 | Remind yourself, you are a good person. | 提醒自己 你是个好人 |
| 825 | You do want to make a difference. | 你确实想有所作为 |
| 826 | You do want to help. | 你确实想帮忙 |
| 827 | You should be beaming with confidence because of your intention. | 你应该满怀信心地照亮 因为你的意图 |
| 828 | No, I didn't know he's writing a book called The Power of Intentions, | 不,我不知道他正在写一本书 "意图的力量" |
| 829 | literally at that time. | 在那个时候 |
| 830 | But I have to tell you, I have walked through this life | 但我得告诉你,我走过这一辈子 |
| 831 | with all these insecurities and all these worries. | 和所有这些不安全 和所有这些担心。 |
| 832 | But in the moments where I need it, I'm a pretty confident dude. | 但在我需要的时候 我是个很有自信的人 |
| 833 | What's really cool about that story is he was previewing the lesson | 那故事最酷的是他在预览课 |
| 834 | that you learned when your dad died. | 你爸爸死时你学到的 |
| 835 | I never thought about that. | 我从来没有想过这一点。 |
| 836 | You're right. | 你说得对 |
| 837 | You are a good dude. | 你是个好人 |
| 838 | I never thought about that. | 我从来没有想过这一点。 |
| 839 | What comes up for you when you think about that? | 想想看,你有什么好处? |
| 840 | I wish I would have given myself a lot more grace in my life. | 我希望我一生能给自己更多的恩惠. |
| 841 | So I did heed that lesson like in the big moments, | 所以,我确实听了教训 像在大的时刻, |
| 842 | like before a podcast or a speech or whatever, | 就像播客或演讲前一样 |
| 843 | a business meeting or something. | 商务会议什么的。 |
| 844 | But not every day of my life. | 但不是每天我的生命。 |
| 845 | Not the majority of me walking around with me. | 不是大多数我走来走去。 |
| 846 | Me walking around with me. | 我跟着我到处走 |
| 847 | I wish I would have given myself a whole lot more grace every day of my life. | 我希望我每天能给自己更多的恩惠 |
| 848 | Just remind myself, hey, you're a pretty good guy. | 提醒我一下 你是个好人 |
| 849 | Everything will be okay. | 一切都会好的 |
| 850 | And I didn't give myself that grace. | 我没有给自己恩典。 |
| 851 | And as a consequence, I probably hurt people around me, | 结果我可能伤害了我身边的人 |
| 852 | probably hurt my friends. | 可能会伤害我的朋友 |
| 853 | I'm sure all those relationships could have been a lot deeper | 我敢肯定,所有的这些关系 可能已经很多深 |
| 854 | had I been more present instead of worrying about | 我是不是更在场 而不是担心 |
| 855 | all the things I was worried about all the time. | 所有我一直担心的事情 |
| 856 | So I also just think of like, | 所以我也觉得... |
| 857 | I can't ever get one of those days back with my dad. | 我再也回不去和我爸在一起了 |
| 858 | I would love to have just had more time with my dad | 我很想和我爸多待一会 |
| 859 | and told my dad when he was here how much I love him, | 并告诉我的父亲 当他在这里,我有多爱他, |
| 860 | how proud I was of him, how much I cherished him. | 我为他感到多么骄傲 我多么珍惜他 |
| 861 | There's so many times people we love, they just walk in a room. | 有很多次我们爱的人, 他们只是走在一个房间。 |
| 862 | And you don't know when the last time they're going to walk in that room is. | 你不知道他们最后一次走进那个房间是什么时候 |
| 863 | We act like they're going to keep walking in a room. | 我们装作他们要继续走在房间里 |
| 864 | My sister gave birth to twin identical boys about a year ago. | 我姐姐一年前生了双胞胎男孩 |
| 865 | Cassius and Justice, beautiful boys. | 卡修斯和正义,美丽的男孩。 |
| 866 | And about an hour after something happened with Cassius, | 卡修斯出事一个小时后 |
| 867 | something wasn't good. | 东西不好。 |
| 868 | And the doctors came in and grabbed him. | 医生进来抓了他 |
| 869 | And about an hour later, they came back in and told us that he had passed. | 大约一个小时后,他们回来 告诉我们,他已经过去了。 |
| 870 | And in fact, my sister named the twin that survived Justice | 事实上,我姐姐给幸存下来的双胞胎起名 |
| 871 | because now it's just us. | 因为现在只有我们了 |
| 872 | We don't know how much time we have. | 我们不知道我们有多少时间。 |
| 873 | Cassius got one hour. | 卡修斯还有一小时 |
| 874 | We all act like we're going to get around to being happier. | 我们都表现得像要过上快乐的生活 |
| 875 | I'll get around to telling my dad how much I love him. | 我会告诉我爸我有多爱他 |
| 876 | I'm going to get around to calling Mel and just saying, hey, are you okay? | 我要打给梅尔 说,嘿,你没事吧? |
| 877 | I'll get around to it. | 我会解决的 |
| 878 | I'll get around to giving myself some joy. | 我会给自己一些快乐。 |
| 879 | I'll get around to having some peace. | 我会得到一些和平。 |
| 880 | I'll get around to making that one memory in my life. | 我会在我的生活中做一个记忆。 |
| 881 | I'll get around to it until you don't. | 我会去的,直到你没有。 |
| 882 | You don't know when the last time someone's going to walk in a room that you love. | 你不知道最后一次有人走进你爱的房间是什么时候 |
| 883 | You don't know when the last time is the last time. | 你不知道最后一次是什么时候 |
| 884 | I should have just given myself the gift of fully enjoying it. | 我本该给自己一个享受的礼物 |
| 885 | Like, this is awesome, isn't it? | 这太棒了,不是吗? |
| 886 | Let's just take it all in. | 让我们把它全部。 |
| 887 | Not like, where do I got to go next? | 不像,我该去哪? |
| 888 | Well, what about this? | 这个呢? |
| 889 | You know what I'm saying? | 你知道我在说什么吗? |
| 890 | Just enjoy these moments, none of them that cost any money. | 只要享受这些时刻, 没有花费任何钱。 |
| 891 | None of the good ones have cost money. | 没有一个好人要花钱 |
| 892 | It doesn't cost any money when my mom walks in a room. | 我妈走进房间也不花钱 |
| 893 | It doesn't cost any money to just have a great conversation with God alone. | 光是和上帝谈话并不费钱 |
| 894 | It costs nothing. | 毫无代价 |
| 895 | And yet I'm waiting around to getting around, aren't we, in our life? | 而我却在等着转身 不是吗? |
| 896 | Well, you're not anymore. | 好吧,你已经不是了。 |
| 897 | I'm not anymore. | 我没有了。 |
| 898 | Do it now. | 现在就做 |
| 899 | Don't act like you've got forever. | 别装作你永远有 |
| 900 | Like, right now, take some action on something we've talked about today. | 比如,现在,对我们今天谈论的事情采取行动。 |
| 901 | Like, now. | 喜欢,现在。 |
| 902 | Like, now, a small one. | 比如,现在,一个小的。 |
| 903 | Take a step. | 一步来. |
| 904 | Get some progress. | 取得一些进展。 |
| 905 | Move the car a little bit. | 移动一下车。 |
| 906 | I can't teach you to drive a parked car. | 我不能教你开停着的车 |
| 907 | Get moving. | 快点 |
| 908 | Just do something. | 做点什么 |
| 909 | You gave the most powerful tool on the planet. | 你给了地球上最强大的工具 |
| 910 | And I want to make sure that as you're listening to Ed, | 我想确定,当你在听艾德, |
| 911 | that you really grab this and you start to use it. | 你真的抓住这个,然后开始使用它。 |
| 912 | When you double down on your good intentions, | 当你背弃你的善意 |
| 913 | it doesn't mean you're always going to get it right. | 这并不意味着你总是会得到它的权利。 |
| 914 | It doesn't mean you're going to succeed. | 不代表你会成功 |
| 915 | It doesn't mean you won't inadvertently hurt people or piss them off | 这并不意味着你不会无意中伤害别人或惹怒他们 |
| 916 | because you don't do what they expect. | 因为你不做他们期望的。 |
| 917 | But if you know your intentions and you know they're anchored in your values | 但是,如果你知道你的意图 并且你知道,他们植根于你的价值观 |
| 918 | and doing the best that you can and trying to be a good person, | 尽你所能 并尝试成为一个好人, |
| 919 | that is the single best and most powerful way | 这是唯一的最好和最有力的方法 |
| 920 | to start to build confidence in yourself. | 开始建立对自己的信心。 |
| 921 | And I have gotten to a point in my life where I used to be crippled | 我生命中曾经有一点残废 |
| 922 | by criticism or crippled by what people might think | 被批评或被人们的思绪所削弱 |
| 923 | or crippled by public perception or crippled by, | 或被公众感知所残废,或被他们残废, |
| 924 | what are my friends going to? | 我的朋友会怎样? |
| 925 | And really knowing myself and my intentions | 真正了解我自己和我的本意 |
| 926 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}允许我以我认识自己的方式 过着生活 | |
| 927 | and I'm proud of myself and I know why I'm doing what I do. | 我为自己感到骄傲,我知道我为什么要这样做。 |
| 928 | And if people criticize me, they clearly don't know my intentions. | 如果有人批评我 他们显然不知道我的意图 |
| 929 | And that's the one thing. | 这是一件事。 |
| 930 | That's why I think a lot of people make a little bit of progress | 所以我觉得很多人进步了一点 |
| 931 | and then the criticism comes and they're like, | 然后,批评来了 他们喜欢, |
| 932 | okay, I'll shrink my dream. | 好吧,我会缩小我的梦想。 |
| 933 | I'll shrink myself back to your small thinking. | 我会缩回你的小想法 |
| 934 | Yes. | 对 |
| 935 | This goes to the thermostat. | 这是自动调温器。 |
| 936 | You start to feel the pressure. | 你开始感受到压力 |
| 937 | Are you sure you want to not drink? | 你确定不喝酒吗? |
| 938 | Are you sure you want to work on that business this weekend? | 你确定这个周末你想做这个生意吗? |
| 939 | You sure you want to go for that run instead of just hanging here | 你真的想去跑步 而不是在这里闲逛 |
| 940 | with me and watching the game? | 和我一起看比赛? |
| 941 | Exactly. | 没错 |
| 942 | Yeah. | 对 |
| 943 | Who do you think you are? | 你以为你是谁? |
| 944 | Yes. | 对 |
| 945 | All of a sudden, you're happy. | 忽然欢喜. |
| 946 | Oh, now you're the fitness expert, huh? | 你现在是健身专家了? |
| 947 | And at some point in a great life, you decide, | 在伟大的生活中的某个时刻 你决定 |
| 948 | I will not shrink myself for your acceptance | 我不会为了你的接受而缩水 |
| 949 | because this life isn't about your acceptance. | 因为这种生活与你的接受无关 |
| 950 | It's my own acceptance. | 这是我自己的接受。 |
| 951 | It's God's acceptance. | 是神所摄受. |
| 952 | You know the number one impact on your thermostat setting? | 你知道对自动调温器的冲击吗? |
| 953 | Associations. | 结社. |
| 954 | With your five best friends, eat really clean, | 和你的五个好朋友,吃得干净 |
| 955 | drink a bunch of water, take a walk every day, | 喝一堆水,每天散步, |
| 956 | do some stretching. | 做一些伸展。 |
| 957 | If that were the five people you're around, | 如果那是你身边的五个人 |
| 958 | you're probably going to be a little bit more fit, right? | 你可能会更适合,对不对? |
| 959 | So the number one thing that dials that thermostat down | 拨打自动调温器的头一件事 |
| 960 | is who you're around. | 就是你身边的人 |
| 961 | And so if you have to be around these people that don't serve you, | 所以,如果你必须 身边的人 不为你服务, |
| 962 | you have to find a way that your self-worth | 你必须找到一种方法 让你的自我价值 |
| 963 | is not connected to their approval. | 与其批准无关。 |
| 964 | And it's a biggie. | 则大乘. |
| 965 | It's like a snake shedding a skin. | 犹如蛇舍皮. |
| 966 | That's why it feels really awful | 这就是为什么它感觉真的很糟糕 |
| 967 | to step into a new chapter of your life | 踏入你人生的新篇章 |
| 968 | because there are parts of you that you're shedding. | 因为有些地方你正在睡觉 |
| 969 | And so I want to go back to intention | 所以我想回到原意上来 |
| 970 | because the more you know thyself | 因为你越了解你自己 |
| 971 | and you know your intentions | 你知道你的意图 |
| 972 | and you know the background | 和你知道的背景 |
| 973 | and you know what you've put into it | 你知道你给它注入了什么 |
| 974 | and you know why you're doing something, | 你知道你为什么这么做 |
| 975 | you're the only person's opinion that actually matters. | 你是唯一真正重要的观点 |
| 976 | I love the way you just said that. | 我喜欢你刚才说的 |
| 977 | That's the crazy thing. | 这是疯狂的事情。 |
| 978 | It's so true. | 如此真实. |
| 979 | If you were to, you know, | 狦琌... |
| 980 | the millions of people that you've coached and inspired | 你所教导和激励的数百万人 |
| 981 | and the mega bestseller that you've written, | 还有你写的最畅销书 |
| 982 | if you could recommend one habit | 如果你能推荐一种习惯 |
| 983 | that really has that domino effect for somebody, | 这真的有 多米诺效应的人, |
| 984 | if they're listening to you and they're like, | 如果他们听你的,他们喜欢, |
| 985 | okay, you're right, Ed. | 好吧,你说得对,埃德。 |
| 986 | For me, it's moving my body early in the day. | 对我来说,它移动 我的身体在早期。 |
| 987 | It's just a really simple thing. | 很简单 |
| 988 | When I move my body early in the day, | 当我在早期移动我的身体, |
| 989 | that is a catalyst habit for me | 这对我来说是一种催化习惯 |
| 990 | because I don't like to do it. | 因为我不喜欢这样做。 |
| 991 | I've lifted weights for 35 years. | 我已经举重35年了 |
| 992 | I've enjoyed maybe seven of those days, | 我享受了也许7天, |
| 993 | but I've enjoyed walking out of the gym when I'm done | 但我很享受走出体育馆 |
| 994 | almost every single time once I've accomplished it. | 几乎每一次,我完成了它。 |
| 995 | So to me, why does that matter? | 对我来说,这有什么关系? |
| 996 | It's one of the few areas of my life I can control. | 这是我生命中我能控制的少数领域之一. |
| 997 | I can't control whether someone shows up for the meeting. | 我无法控制有人来参加这个会议 |
| 998 | I can't control whether we close a sale. | 我无法控制我们是否关门了 |
| 999 | I can't control how somebody feels about something. | 我无法控制别人对某件事的感受 |
| 1000 | I can't control. | 我无法控制。 |
| 1001 | I can control that I got up and I moved my body. | 我可以控制我站起来 移动我的身体。 |
| 1002 | It gives me energy. | 它给了我能量。 |
| 1003 | It also says to me, | 它还对我说, |
| 1004 | I'm willing to do something most people aren't willing to do. | 我愿意做一些大多数人不愿意做的事 |
| 1005 | Maybe I'm going to get things most people aren't going to get. | 也许我会得到大多数人不会得到的东西。 |
| 1006 | So my catalyst habit is that my new one, | 所以我的催化习惯是 我的新习惯, |
| 1007 | I'll give you my new one, | 我把我的新礼物给你 |
| 1008 | my new one is writing. | 我的新写作。 |
| 1009 | I don't like to write. | 我不喜欢写作。 |
| 1010 | I'm not a good writer, | 我不是一个好作家, |
| 1011 | and I used to use that as an excuse. | 我以前也以此为借口 |
| 1012 | I'm not good at this. | 我不擅长这个。 |
| 1013 | People use that as an excuse. | 人们以此为借口。 |
| 1014 | So what? | 那又怎样? |
| 1015 | I have to get good at it | 我一定要学好 |
| 1016 | because guess what happens when I write? | 你猜我写作时会怎样? |
| 1017 | It's a form of self-expression. | 谓自性形. |
| 1018 | I get things on paper that tell me, | 我得到的东西在纸上 告诉我, |
| 1019 | hey, that worry you have is completely dumb | 嘿,你担心的太蠢了 |
| 1020 | and you're wasting time on. | 你在浪费时间 |
| 1021 | It's not real, | 这不是真的 |
| 1022 | but it's also like in our industry | 但它也像 在我们的行业 |
| 1023 | because I've gotten better at writing, | 因为我的写作能力越来越强了 |
| 1024 | it's stimulated more prayer. | 它刺激更多的祈祷。 |
| 1025 | It's stimulated more thinking of content | 这刺激了对内容的思考 |
| 1026 | of things I can share on shows, | 我可以分享的节目, |
| 1027 | things I can put in books. | 我能放进书里的东西 |
| 1028 | But that moment of peace | 但那个和平的时刻 |
| 1029 | with my cup of coffee in front of me | 在我面前喝着咖啡 |
| 1030 | and I just write, | 我只是写, |
| 1031 | and it's become for me like a great cathartic form of expression | 对我来说就像一种 伟大的催化表达形式 |
| 1032 | of me just getting out of my head | 我刚刚走出我的脑袋 |
| 1033 | and onto this piece of paper. | 在这张纸上 |
| 1034 | How does writing create peace in your mind? | 写作如何创造你心中的和平? |
| 1035 | Okay, I'll tell you for me. | 好吧,我会告诉你对我来说。 |
| 1036 | And I want you to put me at the scene. | 我要你把我放在现场 |
| 1037 | Candidly, I get up and I get out of my bed | 好极了,我站起来,从床上下来 |
| 1038 | and I get on my knees. | 我跪下来 |
| 1039 | And I get on my knees | 我跪下来 |
| 1040 | and it's usually between 30 seconds and three minutes | 通常在30秒到3分钟之间 |
| 1041 | and it's just some prayer time. | 这只是一些祈祷时间。 |
| 1042 | It gives me perspective. | 这给我带来了视角。 |
| 1043 | So I do that. | 所以,我这样做。 |
| 1044 | And then for me, I go do my workout first | 然后我先去练练 |
| 1045 | because it's a thing I don't want to do the most in the world. | 因为这是我最不想做的事 |
| 1046 | And then I get my cup of coffee | 然后,我得到我的咖啡杯 |
| 1047 | and I sit down and I sit in the same spot. | 我坐下来 坐在同一个地方 |
| 1048 | By the way, I think that spot after you do it for a while | 顺便说一句,我想你做了一段时间后 那个地方 |
| 1049 | becomes a trigger, | 变成一个触发器, |
| 1050 | becomes an anchor to a particular state of mind. | 成为精神状态的锚 |
| 1051 | So I do sit in the same spot | 所以我就坐在同一个地方 |
| 1052 | and I have my cup of coffee | 还有我的咖啡 |
| 1053 | and I begin to write. | 我开始写作 |
| 1054 | It's usually about 30 minutes. | 通常约30分钟. |
| 1055 | And my thing is I have to write within one minute. | 我的问题是,我必须在一分钟内写作。 |
| 1056 | I have to put something on that paper. | 我得把东西在报纸上。 |
| 1057 | Some mornings it's a worry that I have | 某天早上,我有点担心 |
| 1058 | but it's going to be on that paper within a minute. | 但它会在一分钟内在报纸上。 |
| 1059 | And I do do this now. | 而我现在这样做。 |
| 1060 | I can honestly say every day. | 我每天都能说 |
| 1061 | How has it changed your mindset | 如何改变你的心态 |
| 1062 | and worry and anxiety like this anchor practice? | 担心和焦虑 像这个主播练习? |
| 1063 | It's a great release for me. | 令我大解脱. |
| 1064 | And I actually just write to one person. | 我其实只是给一个人写信。 |
| 1065 | So different days I pick different people. | 所以不同的日子我选择不同的人。 |
| 1066 | Some days I may be writing to me | 有一天我会写信给我 |
| 1067 | in my current state of life. | 在我目前的生活状态中 |
| 1068 | Some days I'm writing to young me. | 有时候我会写信给年轻我 |
| 1069 | Some days I'm writing to my children. | 有些时候我写信给我的孩子们 |
| 1070 | I'm into this new thing where I observe people | 我对这个新事物感兴趣 我观察人们 |
| 1071 | and I'm in love with a particular person | 我爱上了一个人 |
| 1072 | that I can't take my eyes off of. | 我不能把眼睛关闭。 |
| 1073 | And it started about four years ago. | 大约四年前开始的 |
| 1074 | I had a flight canceled | 我有一个航班取消了 |
| 1075 | and I was stuck in a delay in the airport. | 我被困在机场的延误中 |
| 1076 | My eye caught this woman. | 我的眼睛抓住这个女人 |
| 1077 | I probably can't get through this without telling you this | 没告诉你我可能撑不下去 |
| 1078 | but I write to her a lot. | 但我经常给她写信 |
| 1079 | I noticed her and she was wheeling a trash can around | 我注意到她 她开着垃圾桶 |
| 1080 | and she was picking up the trash around the airport | 她在机场附近捡垃圾 |
| 1081 | and going in and cleaning the bathrooms. | 进去洗洗手间 |
| 1082 | And I watched her and I could not take my eyes off her. | 我看着她,我无法从她眼里移开 |
| 1083 | Remember there's thousands of people walking around her | 记得有成千上万的人在她身边走来走去 |
| 1084 | and I just started to think about her life. | 我开始想她的生活 |
| 1085 | She looked to me to be in her late 60s. | 她希望我60多岁了 |
| 1086 | I just projected her life in my mind. | 我只是在脑海中投射她的生命 |
| 1087 | But she got up that morning, | 但是她那天早上起来 |
| 1088 | probably in an apartment, | 也许在一个公寓, |
| 1089 | probably by herself. | 可能是她一个人 |
| 1090 | And she got up in the dark | 在黑暗中她站起来 |
| 1091 | because that's when she gets up. | 因为那是她起床的时候 |
| 1092 | She made herself a little breakfast. | 她自己做了点早餐 |
| 1093 | Her big hope for the day is maybe her kids will call. | 她对今天最大的希望是 也许她的孩子会打电话来 |
| 1094 | Maybe her grandchildren will call her. | 也许她的孙子会打电话给她。 |
| 1095 | And long ago she had dreams in her life. | 很久以前,她有梦想 在她的生活中。 |
| 1096 | And just in my mind, this man she loved left. | 就在我脑海里 她爱的那个人离开了 |
| 1097 | He left. | 他离开了。 |
| 1098 | And she stayed and finished raising those kids. | 然后她留下来抚养那些孩子 |
| 1099 | And all these hopes and dreams she had for a life, | 她一生的希望和梦想 |
| 1100 | they didn't all come together the way she hoped. | 他们并没有像她所希望的那样走到一起 |
| 1101 | She prays every morning. | 她每天早上都祈祷 |
| 1102 | She loves God. | 她爱上帝 |
| 1103 | She's never hurt a soul. | 她从不伤害任何人 |
| 1104 | She got up that morning, she got in her car in the dark | 那天早上她起床,在黑暗中上车 |
| 1105 | and she drove to a parking lot. | 她开车去停车场 |
| 1106 | She then has to get on a bus to get to the airport | 然后她必须上车去机场 |
| 1107 | with a bunch of other people in there | 还有一群人在里面 |
| 1108 | that maybe at that day is not their dream day. | 也许那天不是他们的梦想日 |
| 1109 | No one says hello to her. | 没人跟她打招呼 |
| 1110 | No one acknowledged her. | 没有人承认她。 |
| 1111 | They give her a name badge. | 他们给她一个名字徽章。 |
| 1112 | They aside her trash can for the day. | 他们今天把垃圾桶放一边 |
| 1113 | They send her off into the airport. | 他们送她去机场 |
| 1114 | And all day long, no one sees her. | 整天没人看见她 |
| 1115 | She's tired. | 她已经累了 |
| 1116 | She's weary. | 她很疲惫。 |
| 1117 | No one says hello. | 没有人打招呼。 |
| 1118 | No one says I love you. | 没有人说我爱你。 |
| 1119 | No one says great job. | 没有人说伟大的工作。 |
| 1120 | Meanwhile, around her, | 同时,在她身边, |
| 1121 | everybody's on their way to their dream vacation. | 大家都在去梦中度假的路上 |
| 1122 | Their big business meeting. | 他们的大型商务会议。 |
| 1123 | They're chasing their dreams and their life. | 他们追逐着自己的梦想和生活. |
| 1124 | She goes her whole day invisible. | 她一整天都是隐形的 |
| 1125 | At the end of the day, she brings her trash can back, | 最终,她带回了垃圾桶 |
| 1126 | puts the name badge on, gets back in her car, drives home, | 戴上名牌 回到车里 开车回家 |
| 1127 | and she's just hoping her kids call. | 她只是希望她的孩子打电话。 |
| 1128 | She's hoping her grandbabies might call her tonight. | 她希望她爷爷今晚能给她打电话 |
| 1129 | She's going to get up and do that again. | 她会站起来再做一次 |
| 1130 | I thought how resilient she is. | 我想她有多有弹性 |
| 1131 | She doesn't complain. | 她不抱怨。 |
| 1132 | She just gets up every day | 她每天都起来 |
| 1133 | and does what she can to make her life better. | 尽她所能让她的生活好起来 |
| 1134 | So like you would do or anybody would do, | 所以,像你会做或任何人会做, |
| 1135 | I just walked over and you know what I found out by the way? | 我只是走过来,你知道我发现了什么吗? |
| 1136 | She's everywhere. | 她无处不在 |
| 1137 | She cleaned your hotel room this morning. | 她今早清理了你的旅馆房间 |
| 1138 | She's a he today too. | 她今天也是个男的 |
| 1139 | He got in a truck this morning to go somewhere | 他今早坐卡车去某处 |
| 1140 | to pay the bills for his family. | 为他的家人付帐单 |
| 1141 | Maybe he's not going exactly where he thought | 也许他不会去他想的地方 |
| 1142 | he was going to be going 20 years ago. | 他20年前就打算去的 |
| 1143 | He just wants his wife to be proud of him. | 他只是想让妻子为他骄傲 |
| 1144 | He just wants to be his kid's hero. | 他只想成为他孩子的英雄 |
| 1145 | And he doesn't feel great about himself right now. | 他现在对他自己感觉不怎么样 |
| 1146 | And he wants to be happier and he wants to. | 他想更快乐,他想。 |
| 1147 | That's who I'm writing to now. | 这就是我现在写给谁。 |
| 1148 | I want to tell him I love you. | 我想告诉他我爱你 |
| 1149 | It's not too late. | 亦不迟. |
| 1150 | It's not over yet. | 还没完呢 |
| 1151 | You have value. | 你有价值。 |
| 1152 | You matter. | 你事关重大. |
| 1153 | You know the hero of my family, Mel, | 你知道我家的英雄梅尔 |
| 1154 | isn't my dad who I write about all the time. | 我经常写关于我爸爸的事 |
| 1155 | It's my mom. | 是我妈妈 |
| 1156 | My mom's the one whose husband was gone many nights | 我妈是丈夫多夜不归的人 |
| 1157 | and she's the one who did homework with us | 是她和我们一起做功课的 |
| 1158 | and I never knew anything was wrong. | 我从不知道有什么不对劲 |
| 1159 | She's the one who went to bed most of those nights | 她就是那些晚上常去睡觉的人 |
| 1160 | when my dad was out somewhere. | 我爸不在的时候 |
| 1161 | It still made us lunch for the next day. | 它仍然让我们的午餐第二天。 |
| 1162 | Got up and made us breakfast. | 起来给我们做早餐 |
| 1163 | Took us to school. | 带我们去学校 |
| 1164 | Made us feel safe. | 使我们感到安全。 |
| 1165 | She got no credit for that. | 她没有功劳。 |
| 1166 | No credit, but she held our family together. | 没有信用,但她维持我们的家庭在一起。 |
| 1167 | She was the glue. | 她是胶水。 |
| 1168 | A lot of these people are the glue in their family. | 很多人都是家里的胶水 |
| 1169 | They were the strength. | 他们是力量 |
| 1170 | They were the quiet person | 他们是安静的人 |
| 1171 | who held that family together the entire time. | 他们一直维持着一家人 |
| 1172 | I want to write to them. | 我想给他们写信。 |
| 1173 | I want to say to them, it's not over. | 我想告诉他们,它还没有结束。 |
| 1174 | You matter. | 你事关重大. |
| 1175 | You're a good person. | 你是个好人 |
| 1176 | Good things come from you. | 好东西来自你。 |
| 1177 | People say, that's too late. | 人们说,这是太晚了。 |
| 1178 | It's over. | 结束了 |
| 1179 | I didn't make it. | 我没有成功。 |
| 1180 | In many people's cases, | 在许多人的案例中, |
| 1181 | it may be a little bit from now | 以后可能有点 |
| 1182 | before anybody really appreciates what you've done. | 在别人真正欣赏你所做的之前 |
| 1183 | But at some point, I promise you, | 但有时,我向你保证, |
| 1184 | people that love you, | 爱你的人 |
| 1185 | it took me a long time to figure out | 我花了很长时间才想明白 |
| 1186 | my dad's not the hero of our family. | 我爸爸不是我们家的英雄 |
| 1187 | It's my mom. | 是我妈妈 |
| 1188 | She didn't make any of the mistakes. | 她没有犯错 |
| 1189 | She didn't make any of the noise. | 她没有发出任何声音。 |
| 1190 | She just loved us. | 她只是爱我们 |
| 1191 | She just served us every day quietly | 她每天悄悄地为我们服务 |
| 1192 | and got no credit. | 没有功劳 |
| 1193 | These are the heroes. | 这些是英雄 |
| 1194 | These are the people that I want to write to, | 这些是我想写信给的人, |
| 1195 | to give hope to, to give the tools to. | 给希望,给工具。 |
| 1196 | And just to say, hey, I see you. | 只想说,嘿,我看到你了。 |
| 1197 | You're not invisible. | 汝非无形. |
| 1198 | It's not too late. | 亦不迟. |
| 1199 | You're not disqualified. | 你没被取消资格 |
| 1200 | You're immensely qualified. | 你很有资质 |
| 1201 | And you're changing people's lives | 你在改变人们的生活 |
| 1202 | probably more often every day than you realize. | 可能每天都比你意识到的要多 |
| 1203 | And you don't earn your way into heaven. | 而你却无法进入天堂 |
| 1204 | You just got to get there, | 你刚刚得到那里, |
| 1205 | whatever you believe about that. | 无论你相信什么 |
| 1206 | But you earn the line of people waiting to thank you | 但你赢得了一线人 等待感谢你 |
| 1207 | when you get there. | 当你到达那里。 |
| 1208 | And people like my mom and like Griselda, | 像我妈妈和格里塞尔达这样的人 |
| 1209 | that was her name, | 这是她的名字, |
| 1210 | there's a long line of people | 有很长的一行人 |
| 1211 | that'll be thanking them someday. | 总有一天会感谢他们的 |
| 1212 | So I want to write to them. | 所以我想写信给他们。 |
| 1213 | I picture her a lot when I write. | 我写信时经常想象她 |
| 1214 | What are you saying to her or to him, | 你在对她或他说什么? |
| 1215 | the guy driving the truck? | 那个开卡车的人? |
| 1216 | What do you say to the person who's listening | 你对在听的人怎么说? |
| 1217 | that really resonates with that? | 这真的有共鸣吗? |
| 1218 | Because I could see myself in scenes of my own life. | 因为我可以在自己生活中看到自己 |
| 1219 | I could see my parents. | 我能见我父母. |
| 1220 | I could see my grandparents. | 我可以看到我的祖父母。 |
| 1221 | Like, I often look at people when you're at a stoplight | 喜欢,我经常看人 当你在停电灯 |
| 1222 | and I wonder, where are they driving? | 我想知道,他们在哪里开车? |
| 1223 | So do I. | 我也一样。 |
| 1224 | What job are they going to? | 他们要做什么工作? |
| 1225 | What are they thinking about right now? | 他们现在在想什么? |
| 1226 | Like, what struggles do they have? | 比如,他们有什么挣扎? |
| 1227 | What dreams have they given up on? | 他们放弃了什么梦想? |
| 1228 | What do you say to people? | 你对别人怎么说? |
| 1229 | I do too, Mel. | 我也是,梅尔。 |
| 1230 | It's caused me to really see people. | 这让我真的看到了人。 |
| 1231 | First off, the great gift of it is | 首先,伟大的天赋是 |
| 1232 | with everybody I'm with, | 和每个人,我与, |
| 1233 | I think I spend a little longer seeing them | 我想我花了一段时间去见他们 |
| 1234 | and a little less trying to make an impression on them. | 更别想给他们留下印象了 |
| 1235 | I used to walk in a room and go, here I am. | 我曾经走在一个房间 走,我在这里。 |
| 1236 | Now I tend to walk in a room and go, there you are. | 现在,我倾向于走在一个房间 然后去,你在这里。 |
| 1237 | And what I write to them is that | 我写给他们的是 |
| 1238 | you're making a bigger difference in the world | 你在改变世界 |
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| 1240 | And like my mom, that's who I am. | 就像我妈妈,这就是我 |
| 1241 | Like, if there is goodness in me, | 喜欢,如果我有善良, |
| 1242 | that good me, I got from her. | 我从她那里得到的 |
| 1243 | I caught that. | 我看见了。 |
| 1244 | She never taught it. | 她从未教过 |
| 1245 | She never got on a soapbox and said, | 她从没上过肥皂盒 然后说 |
| 1246 | I just watched it every day. | 我每天都在看这个 |
| 1247 | And I think so many of these people in life need to know, | 我觉得生活中很多人需要知道 |
| 1248 | one, it's not too late. | 一,还不算太晚。 |
| 1249 | And there is a dream and a memory in your life coming. | 还有你的梦想和记忆 |
| 1250 | And you deserve it. | 你应该得到它。 |
| 1251 | And what we have to do is to get you to love yourself | 我们要做的就是让你爱自己 |
| 1252 | without conditions so that we can change | 没有条件,我们就可以改变 |
| 1253 | that thermostat setting. | 那个自动调温器 |
| 1254 | And the more that I can write to them and say, | 我越能写信给他们说 |
| 1255 | just so you know, what you're doing | 只是让你知道,你在做什么 |
| 1256 | is the most important thing, | 最重要的东西, |
| 1257 | which is helping the people you love the most. | 帮助你最爱的人 |
| 1258 | What a world-class father you are. | 你真是个世界级的父亲 |
| 1259 | What a world-class mother you are. | 你真是个世界级的母亲 |
| 1260 | Those are the most important things in life. | 这些都是生活中最重要的东西。 |
| 1261 | And from there, you can build something great. | 从那里,你可以建造一些伟大的东西。 |
| 1262 | We have to change this. | 我们必须改变这一点。 |
| 1263 | What happens with these folks that we love so much | 我们深爱的人会怎样 |
| 1264 | is their self-love is all, it becomes conditional. | 他们的自我爱就是一切 变成有条件的 |
| 1265 | And unless they're achieving, unless they're growing, | 除非他们实现 除非他们成长 |
| 1266 | they don't give themselves the gift | 他们不给自己礼物 |
| 1267 | of the grace of loving themselves like they should have. | 就像他们应该爱自己一样 |
| 1268 | I can't believe we've gone this deep today, by the way, | 顺便说一句,我不敢相信我们今天已经走这么深 |
| 1269 | so many times. | 这么多次。 |
| 1270 | And I want them to know that the chance for you | 我想让他们知道 你的机会 |
| 1271 | in your life to make a difference in your life | 在你的生活中 改变你的生活 |
| 1272 | is to acknowledge the good things you've already done | 就是承认你已经做的好事 |
| 1273 | and to stop highlighting all the time. | 并停止强调所有的时间。 |
| 1274 | The highlight reel of your life is not your mistakes. | 你人生的亮点不是错的 |
| 1275 | It's not your setbacks. | 这不是你的挫折。 |
| 1276 | It's not who left. | 这不是谁离开。 |
| 1277 | It's not who betrayed you. | 这不是谁背叛了你。 |
| 1278 | It's the fact that you're still standing after they did. | 事实是,你仍然站在他们之后。 |
| 1279 | This thing you're carrying with you | 你带着这个东西 |
| 1280 | is what makes you special. | 让你变得特别 |
| 1281 | You're still standing. | 你还站着呢 |
| 1282 | And the fact that it's been so difficult | 和事实,它一直如此困难 |
| 1283 | and you've carried it with such grace, with such honor, | 你带着它 如此优雅 如此荣誉 |
| 1284 | you didn't return the favor. | 你没有报答我 |
| 1285 | You didn't return the betrayal. | 你没有回报背叛 |
| 1286 | You didn't return the hurt. | 你没把伤痕还回去 |
| 1287 | You just got up every day and did what you needed to do. | 你每天都起床 做你该做的 |
| 1288 | And that makes you incredible. | 这让你难以置信。 |
| 1289 | And it's not too late. | 亦不迟. |
| 1290 | We can build from that place that you're at right now | 我们可以从你现在所在的地方建起来 |
| 1291 | if you'll acknowledge it. | 如果你承认的话 |
| 1292 | And I want to write to them. | 我想写信给他们。 |
| 1293 | That's all I want to write to now. | 这就是我想写给现在。 |
| 1294 | You know, Ed, I not only think you're a good man, | 你知道,埃德,我不仅认为你是个好人, |
| 1295 | I think you're a world-class human. | 我认为你是一个世界级的人。 |
| 1296 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
| 1297 | Who is changing the world for the better. | 谁在改变世界,让世界变得更好。 |
| 1298 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
| 1299 | And I'm proud to be your friend. | 我很自豪能成为你的朋友 |
| 1300 | I love you. | 我爱你 |
| 1301 | I'm proud of you. | 我为你骄傲 |
| 1302 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
| 1303 | What are your parting words? | 你讲什么话? |
| 1304 | I just want to remind you that you were born | 我只想提醒你,你出生的时候 |
| 1305 | to do something great with your life. | 做一些伟大的事情与你的生活。 |
| 1306 | You were. | 没错 |
| 1307 | When I was a little guy, my grandfather would pick me up. | 我小时候 我爷爷会来接我 |
| 1308 | I remember my dad's missing. | 我记得我爸爸失踪了 |
| 1309 | My grandfather would pick me up. | 我爷爷会来接我 |
| 1310 | And he had this blue van. | 他有一辆蓝色面包车 |
| 1311 | And my grandfather worked for the Boston Globe. | 我祖父在波士顿环球报工作 |
| 1312 | He was a pressman. | 他是个记者。 |
| 1313 | OK. | 摆 |
| 1314 | And so he would pick me up on Sundays | 然后他星期天来接我 |
| 1315 | and we'd go get donuts and pick them up from my other cousins. | 我们去拿甜甜圈 从其他表弟那里拿来 |
| 1316 | But I was the oldest cousin. | 但我是最年长的表弟 |
| 1317 | So anyway, he'd pick me up. | 所以不管怎样 他都会来接我 |
| 1318 | We're driving in the van. | 我们在车里开车 |
| 1319 | And I would just look at Papa. | 我会看着爸爸。 |
| 1320 | He's a big guy. | 他是个大人物 |
| 1321 | And he would look down at me when he was driving. | 他开车时会看着我 |
| 1322 | He'd go, Eddie. | 他会去的,艾迪。 |
| 1323 | I go, yeah, big Papa. | 我走了,对,大爸爸。 |
| 1324 | He goes, you're going to do something great with your life. | 他走了,你会做一些伟大的事情 你的生活。 |
| 1325 | And I go, I am, big Papa. | 我走了,我是,大父亲。 |
| 1326 | He goes, oh, you're going to do something awesome. | 他走了,哦, 你会做一些伟大的事情。 |
| 1327 | You're my favorite. | 你是我最喜欢的 |
| 1328 | And every time one of my cousins was born, he'd call me. | 每当我表弟出生的时候 他都会打电话给我 |
| 1329 | He goes, oh, hey, cousin Peter was born. | 他走了,哦,嘿, 表弟彼得出生。 |
| 1330 | And I'd start to feel kind of jealous. | 我开始觉得有点嫉妒了 |
| 1331 | And he'd go, hey, don't tell anybody. | 他会去,嘿,不要告诉任何人。 |
| 1332 | I go, what, Papa? | 我走了,什么,父亲? |
| 1333 | He goes, you're my favorite. | 他走了,你是我最喜欢的。 |
| 1334 | And I say that to you because if you had anybody in your life | 我这样说是因为如果你有任何人在你的生活中 |
| 1335 | when you were a child who believed in you, anybody, | 当你还是个孩子,谁相信你,任何人, |
| 1336 | your mom, your dad, a grandparent, a coach, | 你妈妈 你爸爸 一个祖父母 教练 |
| 1337 | whatever, they just looked at you. | 不管怎么样,他们只是看着你。 |
| 1338 | Remember them? | 还记得他们吗? |
| 1339 | You just felt special. | 你只是觉得特别。 |
| 1340 | You felt safe when you were with them. | 你和他们在一起的时候感觉很安全 |
| 1341 | Remember that person? | 记得那个人吗? |
| 1342 | Most of you have that person in your life. | 你们大多数人都有这个人 |
| 1343 | My final message to you is that they were right. | 我最后的信息是,他们是对的。 |
| 1344 | Maybe everybody else missed it, but they were right. | 也许其他人都错过了,但他们是对的。 |
| 1345 | They were right about you. | 他们对你的看法是对的 |
| 1346 | And my challenge to you would be make them proud of you. | 我对你的挑战就是让他们为你骄傲 |
| 1347 | Make them proud of you. | 让他们为你骄傲 |
| 1348 | If they're still here, you still have time to show them. | 如果他们还在,你还有时间给他们看 |
| 1349 | If they're gone, honor them with the person you're becoming | 如果他们走了,就以你即将成为的人为荣 |
| 1350 | every day with the choices you make. | 每天都有选择 |
| 1351 | Make them proud of your resilience. | 让他们以你的韧性为荣 |
| 1352 | Make them proud of your toughness. | 让他们为你强硬而自豪 |
| 1353 | And if you never had that person, I apply for the position. | 如果你从来没有这个人, 我申请职位。 |
| 1354 | And I can promise you, whatever your faith beliefs are, | 我可以向你保证 不管你的信仰是什么 |
| 1355 | God looks at you with so much pride, so much joy, | 上帝看着你 如此自豪,如此快乐, |
| 1356 | so much belief, so much love. | 这么多的信仰,这么多的爱。 |
| 1357 | And there's time left for you. | 还有时间给你 |
| 1358 | There's time still left on the clock. | 钟上还有时间呢 |
| 1359 | And all these mistakes, all these setbacks, all these hurts, | 所有这些错误,所有这些挫折,所有这些伤害, |
| 1360 | all the pain, all of those things, | 所有的痛苦,所有这些东西, |
| 1361 | we're qualifying you to do something great | 我们给你资格做件好事 |
| 1362 | because you are most qualified to help that person you used to be. | 因为你最有资格帮助 你曾经的人。 |
| 1363 | And there's somebody somewhere who needs you so badly. | 有个地方非常需要你 |
| 1364 | Start looking for them. | 开始寻找他们。 |
| 1365 | You're one person, one decision away from totally changing your life. | 你是一个人, 一个决定离开 完全改变你的生活。 |
| 1366 | So start looking for it. | 所以开始寻找它。 |
| 1367 | Ed, my lad, I love you. | 艾德,我的小伙子,我爱你 |
| 1368 | I love you. | 我爱你 |
| 1369 | I absolutely love you. | 我绝对爱你 |
| 1370 | I am so proud of you. | 我为你感到骄傲 |
| 1371 | And I knew you as max out, Ed. | 我知道你是最大的出来,埃德。 |
| 1372 | I knew you pre-heart attack. | 我知道你是心前攻击 |
| 1373 | And I got to say, this is the best you ever. | 我得说,这是你有史以来最好的。 |
| 1374 | Oh, thank you. | 谢谢 |
| 1375 | Wow. | 珃 |
| 1376 | That means a lot coming from you, Mel. | 梅尔,那意味着很多来自你。 |
| 1377 | So thank you. | 谢谢 |
| 1378 | No, I mean, I always felt the oozing goodness coming out of you, | 不,我的意思是,我总是感觉 呕吐的善良从你身上出来, |
| 1379 | but there is this expanded capacity and depth | 但有这种扩大的能力和深度 |
| 1380 | and way that you're showing up that is absolutely incredible. | 你出现的方式是绝对不可思议的。 |
| 1381 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
| 1382 | Life-changing. | 改变生命 |
| 1383 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
| 1384 | I'm here to help you help people. | 我是来帮你帮助别人的 |
| 1385 | And that means the world to me coming from you. | 这意味着我的世界来自你。 |
| 1386 | There's very few people, like we've both said, whose opinions matter. | 很少有人,就像我们都说过的, 他们的意见很重要。 |
| 1387 | and yours matters very deeply to me. | 你对我很重要 |
| 1388 | Thank you so much. | 非常感谢 |
| 1389 | I loved today. | 我今所爱. |
| 1390 | Succeeded my expectations, so thank you. | 幸亏我的期望,谢谢你 |
| 1391 | Well, we went deep because that's the kind of friends we are. | 我们深陷其中 因为我们是那种朋友 |
| 1392 | Yeah, thank you. | 谢谢 |
| 1393 | And I also want to thank you. | 我也想谢谢你。 |
| 1394 | Thank you for making the time and spending it with me and Ed. | 谢谢你给我时间和我和艾德在一起 |
| 1395 | Isn't he just a treasure? | 他不就是个宝贝吗? |
| 1396 | I hope you will share this with people in your life | 我希望你能和别人分享这个 |
| 1397 | that you love. | 你爱的。 |
| 1398 | And you're going to do something great with your life. | 你会做一些伟大的事情 你的生活。 |
| 1399 | And I know you are because you're | 我知道你是因为你 |
| 1400 | going to take everything that Ed poured into you to heart, | 将艾德倾注在你心中的一切, |
| 1401 | and you are going to use the tools. | 你要用这些工具 |
| 1402 | And you are going to continue to remind yourself | 你会继续提醒自己 |
| 1403 | that you're a good person and good things are going to happen | 你是一个好人, 好事会发生 |
| 1404 | because you're going to make them happen. | 因为你会让他们实现的 |
| 1405 | And in case nobody else tells you today, as your friend, | 如果今天没人告诉你 作为你的朋友 |
| 1406 | I wanted to be sure to tell you that I love you | 我想告诉你我爱你 |
| 1407 | and I believe in you. | 我相信你们 |
| 1408 | And I believe in your ability to create a better life. | 我相信你有能力创造更好的生活 |
| 1409 | And there is no doubt in my mind that everything | 我心里毫不怀疑一切 |
| 1410 | that Ed shared with you was exactly what you were meant | 艾德跟你分享的正是你的意义 |
| 1411 | to hear at this exact moment in your life. | 在你生命的这一刻听到。 |
| 1412 | So please just honor it as a blessing that was given to you. | 所以,请尊重它 作为祝福给你。 |
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