（中英附文稿）Tony Robbins：想真正改变自己，别再
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| 0:00 | There is so much, if you think it, you will get it, but I still don't think it's going to fix everything for me. | 有这么多,如果你认为它, 你会得到它, 但我仍然认为它不会 修复一切对我来说。 |
| 0:05 | No, no, I mean, listen, whatever you think about consistently, it doesn't manifest in your life. | 不,不,我的意思是,听着,无论你一直想什么, 它并不表现在你的生活中。 |
| 0:09 | But there are other things beyond just that one force of what you want. | 但还有别的事 不只是你想要的力量 |
| 0:13 | To think otherwise is to think you're the center of the universe, which is absurd to me. | 认为不然就是认为你是宇宙的中心,这对我来说是荒谬的. |
| 0:16 | So you're saying the law of attraction is bullshit? | 你是说吸引人的法则是废话? |
| 0:18 | I said no, the law of attraction is real. | 我说不,吸引法是真实的 |
| 0:19 | It's one of dozens, dozens of laws. | 是名十数诸法之一. |
| 0:22 | And you're saying that's the whole game? | 你是说这是整个游戏? |
| 0:24 | I'm sitting down with the iconic Tony Robbins, modern-day philosopher, author. | 我和标志性的托尼·罗宾斯坐在一起 现代哲学家 作家 |
| 0:29 | If you're sick of the platitudes and the manifesting and unable to build a tactical, sustainable daily approach to improving your life, today's episode is for you. | 如果你厌倦了陈词滥调和表白,无法建立策略性的,可持续的日常方法来改善你的生活,今天的剧集就是为了你. |
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| 1 | There is so much, if you think it, you will get it, but I still don't think it's going to fix everything for me. | 有这么多,如果你认为它, 你会得到它, 但我仍然认为它不会 修复一切对我来说。 |
| 2 | No, no, I mean, listen, whatever you think about consistently, it doesn't manifest in your life. | 不,不,我的意思是,听着,无论你一直想什么, 它并不表现在你的生活中。 |
| 3 | But there are other things beyond just that one force of what you want. | 但还有别的事 不只是你想要的力量 |
| 4 | To think otherwise is to think you're the center of the universe, which is absurd to me. | 认为不然就是认为你是宇宙的中心,这对我来说是荒谬的. |
| 5 | So you're saying the law of attraction is bullshit? | 你是说吸引人的法则是废话? |
| 6 | I said no, the law of attraction is real. | 我说不,吸引法是真实的 |
| 7 | It's one of dozens, dozens of laws. | 是名十数诸法之一. |
| 8 | And you're saying that's the whole game? | 你是说这是整个游戏? |
| 9 | I'm sitting down with the iconic Tony Robbins, modern-day philosopher, author. | 我和标志性的托尼·罗宾斯坐在一起 现代哲学家 作家 |
| 10 | If you're sick of the platitudes and the manifesting and unable to build a tactical, sustainable daily approach to improving your life, today's episode is for you. | 如果你厌倦了陈词滥调和表白,无法建立策略性的,可持续的日常方法来改善你的生活,今天的剧集就是为了你. |
| 11 | Stop creating flimsy New Year's resolutions. | 停止制造虚伪的新年决议. |
| 12 | Change your life for real today with me. | 改变你的生活 真正的今天与我。 |
| 13 | So many people feel like they can't say the thing that might actually help because it might hurt somebody's feelings. | 很多人觉得自己无法说出 可能真的有帮助的东西 因为这可能会伤害别人的感情 |
| 14 | Where did we get up this thing that you're not supposed to offend anybody? | 我们从哪里得到这个东西 你不应该冒犯任何人? |
| 15 | If you're not going to offend anybody, you're not going to have any impact. | 如果你不打算冒犯任何人,你就不会有任何影响. |
| 16 | Sometimes you got to do what's uncomfortable. | 有时候你必须做不舒服的事 |
| 17 | Otherwise, you're just making yourself feel good. | 否则,你只是让自己感觉很好。 |
| 18 | I can make myself feel good and go, gosh, it's so horrible. | 我可以让自己感觉好,走了,天哪,太可怕了。 |
| 19 | I understand. | 我理解,我懂你说什么 |
| 20 | 说吧 Fet that. | |
| 21 | Some part of you wants transformation or you wouldn't be in my presence. | 你的一部分想要转变 否则你就不会出现在我面前了 |
| 22 | And it's going to happen. | 而将化之. |
| 23 | We all tell ourselves stories about things. | 我们都对自己讲故事。 |
| 24 | Our narrative of our life controls our life more than anything else. | 我们对生命的叙述 更能控制我们的生活 |
| 25 | So you have to divorce your limitations and marry the truth of your unlimited ability. | 所以,你必须离婚 你的限制 结婚的真相 你无限的能力。 |
| 26 | What are the biggest lies that we are told because it seems nice instead of true today? | 我们被告知最大的谎言是什么,因为今天看起来不错而不是真实? |
| 27 | Okay, I want to talk about a million things with you. | 好吧,我想和你谈一百万件事情。 |
| 28 | I've been so excited to have this conversation. | 我很兴奋能有这种对话。 |
| 29 | Thanks for taking the time. | 谢谢你慢慢来 |
| 30 | I want to talk about a thing that I used to think was touchy feely. | 我想谈谈我曾经认为是敏感的东西。 |
| 31 | And then actually you were one of the first guys that made me realize you could have all the tools, all the tactics, all the metrics. | 然后,实际上你是第一个让我意识到 你可以拥有所有的工具, 所有的战术,所有的衡量标准的人之一。 |
| 32 | But if you don't have your mind right, none of it will work. | 但如果你没有你的头脑, 它不会工作。 |
| 33 | And one of the things that I love about you is you've beaten into my mind that peak performance starts with mindset and that that is not actually a touchy feely thing. | 我最喜欢你的一件事就是 你打进我的脑海里 峰值表现从心态开始 而这其实不是感性的东西 |
| 34 | But you've also hinted that in some ways there's something that comes before mindset. | 但你也暗示了 在某些方面 有些东西会先于思维 |
| 35 | And why is the order of that so important? | 为什么这个命令如此重要? |
| 36 | This actually came because for, oh gosh, this is going to be my 49th year. | 这其实是因为,哦,天哪, 这是我49岁。 |
| 37 | I've traveled the earth at a really unique time. | 我在一个非常独特的时代 游历了地球 |
| 38 | I've been in every single major country in the world. | 我去过世界上每一个大国 |
| 39 | I have clients in every country in the world. | 我在世界各地都有客户 |
| 40 | So 193 countries give you an idea. | 193个国家给了你一个想法。 |
| 41 | And so after a while you recognize patterns. | 所以过了一段时间,你就能识别出规律。 |
| 42 | And one of the patterns that I began to recognize is what creates a breakthrough. | 我开始认识到的规律之一 就是创造突破。 |
| 43 | Because I'm interested not in just managing something or making it better. | 因为我不感兴趣 仅仅管理的东西 或使它更好。 |
| 44 | I want to scale something. | 我想做点什么 |
| 45 | I want to see it grow. | 欲见其增长. |
| 46 | So or a breakthrough in your personal life. | 或者你个人生活中的突破 |
| 47 | Same thing. | 同样的事情。 |
| 48 | Somebody's going along and they try to change, don't fall through, try to change, don't fall through, beat themself up. | 有人跟着他们,他们试图改变, 不要掉下去,试图改变, 不要掉下去,打他们自己。 |
| 49 | Like what is the difference between the person who beat themself up and the time when he or she finally broke through? | 比如说,打他们的人与他/她最终破门而入的时间有什么区别? |
| 50 | And what I found is there's actually three elements to it. | 我发现实际上有三个因素。 |
| 51 | And the reason most people fail to have a breakthrough, I experience, is that they go after them in the wrong sequence. | 大多数人之所以未能取得突破, 我所经历的, 是因为他们以错误的顺序追赶他们。 |
| 52 | It's kind of like if you know the right numbers to a vault and you put them in the wrong order, you don't get the treasure, right? | 这有点像,如果你知道正确的数字 到一个金库, 你把它们在错误的顺序, 你没有得到的宝藏,对不对? |
| 53 | Same thing with your phone number. | 跟你的电话号码一样 |
| 54 | You don't reach the person. | 你联系不到这个人 |
| 55 | So I'll give you the three S's to a breakthrough. | 故以三S为突破. |
| 56 | The first one is not the most valuable one. | 第一个不是最有价值的。 |
| 57 | It's the first one people go for. | 初一众生所求. |
| 58 | It's strategy. | 这是策略 |
| 59 | Now for you and I, strategy seems like the most natural thing to go for. | 现在,对于你和我来说, 策略似乎是最自然的事情去。 |
| 60 | If I want to achieve something, how do I do it? | 如果我想做点什么 我该怎么做? |
| 61 | That's the number one question, right? | 这是头号问题,对不对? |
| 62 | But the problem with asking how do I do it is if you've never done it before, most people then go into what I call the tyranny of how. | 但问题是,如果你以前从未做过, 我该如何做, 那么大多数人就会进入我所说的暴政。 |
| 63 | The tyranny of how is like, have you ever done this? | 你做过这样的暴政吗? |
| 64 | Set a goal. | 设定一个目标。 |
| 65 | Maybe when you're really young, I'm going to do this. | 也许当你真的年轻, 我会做到这一点。 |
| 66 | You maybe even told if you're going to do this and this voice in your head goes, who are you kidding, right? | 你可能甚至告诉 如果你要这样做, 和这个声音在你的头上去, 你在开玩笑,对不对? |
| 67 | Because what happens is you start to doubt. | 因为你开始怀疑了 |
| 68 | Because you have no reference base. | 因为你没有参考依据 |
| 69 | You have no experience. | 你没有经验 |
| 70 | And so when you're uncertain, you don't follow through. | 所以,当你不确定的时候,你不遵循。 |
| 71 | And you look at a peak performer, what makes them a peak performer. | 你看一个高峰表演者, 是什么使他们成为高峰表演者。 |
| 72 | If you watch them going down that court in the NBA or NFL or whatever sport it may be, you feel this relentless energy. | 如果你看到他们在NBA或NFL的球场 或者任何运动 你都会感受到这种无情的能量 |
| 73 | There's not an ounce of hesitancy. | 亦无一毫犹豫. |
| 74 | There's absolute certainty. | 有绝对的确定性。 |
| 75 | That doesn't guarantee success, but it increases probability through the roof. | 这不能保证成功,但它会增加通过屋顶的概率. |
| 76 | When you focus on something you know how to do, the doubts show up. | 当你专注于你所知道的事情时,怀疑就会显现出来. |
| 77 | And then the second thing that happens is, I'll give you an example. | 接下来的第二件事是,我给你一个例子。 |
| 78 | Let's take a simplistic piece. | 取一简文. |
| 79 | 70% of Americans are overweight, right? | 70%的美国人超重 对吧? |
| 80 | We're the fattest country in the history of the world. | 我们是世界历史上最肥的国家. |
| 81 | We're infecting every other country with our dietary patterns and people around the world are getting more and more ill. | 我们用我们的饮食模式感染了每一个其他国家,全世界的人越来越生病. |
| 82 | But is the secret to being fit and healthy like so complex that you only need super intelligent people to understand? | 但是,健康与健康的秘密 就像如此复杂,你只需要超级聪明的人来理解? |
| 83 | Is it that it costs so much to learn that technology? | 学习这种技术要花这么多钱吗? |
| 84 | Is it special only for the 0.1% of the population? | 只有0.1%的人口有这种特殊性吗? |
| 85 | No, the strategy of how to be fit and healthy, there's a million different strategies. | 不,如何适应和健康的策略, 有很多不同的策略。 |
| 86 | There's not even just one and they all work to a certain extent. | 甚至不止一个 而且他们都在一定的程度上工作 |
| 87 | Some are better than others, obviously. | 显然,有些比其他更好。 |
| 88 | So it's not a strategy problem. | 所以这不是一个策略问题。 |
| 89 | Now, it's possible. | 现在,这是可能的。 |
| 90 | I remember about 15 years ago, Time magazine had the cover of the magazine. | 我记得大约15年前,"时代"杂志有该杂志的封面. |
| 91 | It was the Atkins diet and they said 14% of Americans are in the Atkins diet. | 是阿特金斯的饮食 他们说14%的美国人在阿特金斯的饮食中 |
| 92 | Well, if you're on the Atkins diet, hopefully you woke up at some point and went, | 好吧,如果你在阿特金斯的饮食, 希望你在某时醒来,走了, |
| 93 | if anything makes my breath smell this bad and I got to pee on a stick, | 如果有什么东西让我的呼吸闻到这么臭... ...我要在棍子上撒尿, |
| 94 | so I got so much acid in my body, probably is not sustainable. | 我体内有这么多酸 可能无法持续 |
| 95 | But everybody did it. | 但每个人都做到了。 |
| 96 | It worked for a short time. | 它工作了很短的时间。 |
| 97 | They went and did the piece to make it work. | 他们去并做了片 使它工作。 |
| 98 | So some people did have the wrong strategy. | 所以有些人确实有错误的策略。 |
| 99 | But the real problem is the second S, I'm moving backwards in order of importance, | 但真正的问题是第二个S, 我向后移动顺序重要, |
| 100 | meaning strategy is the least important even though I consider myself a strategist. | 虽然我自认为是战略家, |
| 101 | I know the right strategy could save you 10 years in your business. | 我知道正确的策略可以节省你十年的生意 |
| 102 | The right strategy could save you months in terms of turning your weight around | 正确的策略可以节省你几个月的重量 |
| 103 | or transforming a relationship. | 或改变关系。 |
| 104 | It could be minutes, right, if you have the right strategy. | 如果你有正确的策略的话 可能就是几分钟 |
| 105 | But people don't use the strategy because the second S gets in the way, which is their story. | 但人们不使用这个策略,因为第二S会妨碍,这就是他们的故事. |
| 106 | The story, we all tell ourselves stories about things. | 故事,我们都讲述自己的事情。 |
| 107 | Our narrative of our life controls our life more than anything else. | 我们对生命的叙述 更能控制我们的生活 |
| 108 | And all the story is, is a set of beliefs. | 所有的故事都是 一套信仰 |
| 109 | And beliefs are nothing but things we've told ourselves over and over again | 信仰只是我们反复告诉自己的事情 |
| 110 | with so much certainty that now we believe them. | 非常肯定,我们现在相信他们。 |
| 111 | Like, for example, for yourself, if I can ask, | 比如说 为了你自己 如果我能问 |
| 112 | can you think of any belief you may have had 10, 15 years ago that you'd, | 你能想到你10,15年前的信仰吗? |
| 113 | back then you would have fought for that belief, | 那时你会为这个信念而战 |
| 114 | but today you're almost embarrassed you had that belief? | 但今天你几乎尴尬 你有这种信念? |
| 115 | Yes. | 对 |
| 116 | Right? | 对吧? |
| 117 | Most people can. | 大多数人可以。 |
| 118 | So the fact that you believe it doesn't mean it's true. | 所以,你相信这个事实并不意味着它是真的。 |
| 119 | It just means you're certain. | 这说明你很确定 |
| 120 | And so most people have certainty about, well, it won't work. | 所以大多数人都确信,这行不通。 |
| 121 | So let's take the example of fitness again. | 故复以健身为例. |
| 122 | So why don't you ask that person who's 35 pounds overweight, | 那你为什么不问问35磅重的人 |
| 123 | how come you're overweight? | 你为什么超重? |
| 124 | Well, I've tried, what will he say? | 我试过了 他会怎么说? |
| 125 | I've tried... | 我试过... |
| 126 | Everything. | 一切众生. |
| 127 | That's right, everything. | 没错 一切 |
| 128 | And I look at him and I say, with all due respect, | 我看着他说,恕我直言, |
| 129 | you haven't tried everything. | 你还没有尝试一切。 |
| 130 | Yes, I have. | 是的,我见过。 |
| 131 | I've tried thousands of things. | 我试过很多次 |
| 132 | Okay, name them. | 好吧,给他们起个名字。 |
| 133 | And then they'll go, well, I've tried hundreds of things. | 然后他们会去,好了,我已经尝试了数百件事。 |
| 134 | Name them. | 说吧 |
| 135 | Well, I've tried these two things that don't work over and over again | 嗯,我已经尝试过 这两件事,不工作一次又一次 |
| 136 | because it'll come down to you, right? | 因为它会降给你,对不对? |
| 137 | And they call that everything, right? | 他们称这为一切,对不对? |
| 138 | So the story keeps them to do it. | 所以故事让他们去做。 |
| 139 | You're not in a relationship. | 你没有恋爱 |
| 140 | You don't have a relationship. | 你没有关系 |
| 141 | You say you want one. | 你说你想要一个。 |
| 142 | Why aren't you in one? | 你为什么不在一个? |
| 143 | Well, the good ones are all taken, they're gone, | 好了,好的人都被带走了,他们走了, |
| 144 | or they're gay and I'm not, or I'm gay and they're not, right? | 或者他们是同性恋,我不是, 或者我是同性恋,他们不是,对不对? |
| 145 | It's not true. | 非实非实. |
| 146 | It's just not true. | 这不是真的 |
| 147 | But the story controls what you're willing to do or not do | 但故事控制你愿意做或不做 |
| 148 | because it's a belief and beliefs control actions, right? | 因为它是一个 信仰和信仰控制行动,对不对? |
| 149 | So even if you have the right strategy, | 所以,即使你有正确的策略, |
| 150 | if your story doesn't support it, | 如果你的故事不支持它, |
| 151 | have you ever been with somebody and you were, let's say, | 你曾经和某个人在一起过 并且,让我们说, |
| 152 | trying to help them and you've got lots of skill. | 试图帮助他们, 你有很多技能。 |
| 153 | And so you're showing, hey, | 所以,你显示,嘿, |
| 154 | here's what you can do to take on small businesses | 来做点小生意吧 |
| 155 | and build a real mini empire for yourself, right? | 为自己建立一个真正的小帝国,对吧? |
| 156 | And you can do it with businesses people aren't competing you for | 你可以和企业合作 别人不会和你竞争 |
| 157 | and you can earn great cash flow and it's not sexy, | 你可以赚大钱,不性感 |
| 158 | but it's very successful. | 但它是非常成功的。 |
| 159 | Let me show you how. | 让我告诉你怎么做。 |
| 160 | And you can put all that in front of them and they'll just like, | 你可以把所有的东西放在他们面前 他们就会喜欢, |
| 161 | no, it's like, no, you know, I just, no, that's not going to happen. | 不,这就像,不,你知道, 我只是,不,这是不会发生的。 |
| 162 | It just won't work for me. | 它只是不会工作给我。 |
| 163 | You say, no, no, look, I can show you, I've done it. | 你说,不,不,你看, 我可以告诉你,我已经做到了。 |
| 164 | No, no, it doesn't work for me. | 不,不,这对我没用。 |
| 165 | And the more you push on them, then they get more irritated. | 你越往他们身上推,他们就会更恼火。 |
| 166 | And the reason they're irritated is they want to hang on to their story | 他们生气的原因是他们想坚持他们的故事 |
| 167 | because the deepest fear everybody has, everyone has. | 因为每个人都最深的恐惧,每个人都有。 |
| 168 | Kings have dealt with in Queens, you know, Academy Award winners, | 国王在皇后区处理过 奥斯卡奖得主 |
| 169 | Grammy winners, you know, winners of the NFL and the greatest, | 格莱美奖得主,你知道, 胜利者与最伟大的, |
| 170 | the greatest players in history. | 历史上最伟大的球员。 |
| 171 | Everybody has a fear at some point that they're not enough, | 每个人都担心自己不够 |
| 172 | not rich enough, not smart enough, not funny enough, | 不够富有,不够聪明,不够好笑 |
| 173 | not attractive enough, you know, not playful enough, not something enough. | 不够吸引人,你知道,不够玩,不够的东西。 |
| 174 | And the deeper fear we have is we're not enough, we won't be loved. | 我们最深的恐惧是 我们不够,我们不会被爱。 |
| 175 | And love is really, it's like the heartbeat of the soul, right? | 爱就像灵魂的心跳 对吧? |
| 176 | It's the essence, it's the oxygen of your soul. | 这是精髓,这是你灵魂的氧气。 |
| 177 | So people come up with a story so they can explain, | 人们想出一个故事来解释 |
| 178 | it's not that I'm not enough. | 我不是说不够 |
| 179 | It's just I have ADHD. | 只是我得到了ADHD。 |
| 180 | Well, so did, you know, Sir Richard Branson. | 理查德·布兰森爵士也是 |
| 181 | He's done quite well, right? | 他做得很好,对不对? |
| 182 | You know, don't confuse me with the facts. | 你知道,不要混淆 我与事实。 |
| 183 | So the story, no matter how good and clear the strategy | 因此,无论如何好 和清晰的策略 |
| 184 | and you do a fantastic job, I want to say on the air, | 你做一个很棒的工作, 我想说在播出, |
| 185 | you know, I went through your book and I just thought you made it | 你知道,我读过你的书, 我只是觉得你做到了 |
| 186 | so clear for people and I would be doing this myself | 这么清楚的人,我会这样做我自己 |
| 187 | if I wasn't already as advanced as I've done in terms of size of businesses. | 如果我的生意规模还没那么发达的话 |
| 188 | If I was looking to start, it's a great way to do it. | 如果我想开始,这是个伟大的方法。 |
| 189 | And in fact, I remembered it now when I was really like 18, | 事实上,我现在记得 当我真的像18, |
| 190 | I went to a guy's course called Bizarre Financing | 我去了一个叫Bizarre融资的人的课 |
| 191 | and it was all about how to build these small businesses, right? | 这都是如何建立这些小企业,对不对? |
| 192 | But I think you've done a more thorough job. | 但我觉得你做了更彻底的工作 |
| 193 | But the point is, they're not going to do it | 但重点是,他们不会这么做的 |
| 194 | if they don't have the right belief structure, right? | 如果他们没有正确的信仰结构,对不对? |
| 195 | So you have to divorce your limitations | 所以,你必须离婚 你的限制 |
| 196 | and marry the truth of your unlimited ability. | 嫁给你无限能力的真实性 |
| 197 | Now, some people get a divorce and then they go visit their divorcee | 现在,有些人离婚 然后他们去探望他们的离婚者 |
| 198 | on a regular basis. | 定期举行。 |
| 199 | It's not a good idea. | 岂不妙哉. |
| 200 | You have to just cut it off and no longer go there. | 你得把它切掉 别再去那里了 |
| 201 | You have to tap into the truth. | 你必须了解真相 |
| 202 | You know, as corny as it sounds, the truth will set you free. | 你知道,虽然听起来很老套, 但真相会让你自由的。 |
| 203 | But for most people, they don't have someone to really do that to them. | 但对于大多数人来说, 他们没有真正这样做的人。 |
| 204 | That's what I do. | 我就是这样 |
| 205 | I create environments where that happens. | 我创造了环境 在那里发生。 |
| 206 | But there is something before that. | 但在此之前,还有一些事情。 |
| 207 | And that is the first S, | 这是第一个S, |
| 208 | the one you should start with, but most people rarely even get to | 你该从那开始, 但大多数人甚至很少得到 |
| 209 | and that is your state. | 这就是你的状态。 |
| 210 | If you're going to have a breakthrough, it comes from your state. | 若得突破,则出自汝州. |
| 211 | You can think of that as energy, vitality, strength, mental energy, | 你可以把这看作是能量,活力,力量,精神能量, |
| 212 | mental fitness, right? | 心理健身 对吧? |
| 213 | All that really means is your mental emotional state | 真正意味着你的精神情绪状态 |
| 214 | affects the way you perceive everything in life. | 影响你对生活中一切的看法 |
| 215 | Have you ever been pissed off at somebody | 你曾经对别人生气过吗? |
| 216 | and then you suddenly can remember everything that they ever did | 然后你突然想起他们做过的一切 |
| 217 | that pissed you off? | 你生气了吗? |
| 218 | Of course, not ever. | 当然,从来没有。 |
| 219 | So and when you're in love, what's wrong with life? | 然则而情之所至,则生之何为? |
| 220 | If you fall totally in love, not a damn thing. | 如果你完全坠入爱河,什么也没有 |
| 221 | Nothing's wrong. | 没什么错 |
| 222 | It's we're broke. | 我们破产了 |
| 223 | It doesn't matter. | 没关系 |
| 224 | We're in love, right? | 我们恋爱了,对吧? |
| 225 | So your state controls your story. | 所以,你的国家控制你的故事。 |
| 226 | Your story and your state control whether you do anything. | 你的故事和州政府控制你是否做什么 |
| 227 | If no one showed you how to get the strategy, you'd figure out the strategy. | 如果没有人教你如何获得策略,你会想出策略. |
| 228 | You'd find the way you'd make the way with the right state. | 你会找到办法 与正确的州。 |
| 229 | So all the work I've done most of my life. | 因此我一生的大部分工作都做了. |
| 230 | I realized was start with a state because everywhere else you're starting | 我意识到是从一个州开始的 因为你要开始的任何地方 |
| 231 | you're paying, you know, you can teach them the best tools in the world. | 你可以教他们最好的工具 |
| 232 | They won't follow through. | 他们不会继续的 |
| 233 | If I start with a story, it's easy to shift their belief | 如果我从一个故事开始,很容易改变他们的信仰 |
| 234 | and then I can teach them the tools. | 然后我可以教他们工具。 |
| 235 | But if you don't do in that order, people get very, very frustrated. | 但是如果你不这样做的顺序, 人们会非常,非常沮丧。 |
| 236 | If you do in that order becomes very, very easy. | 如果你这样做的顺序 变得非常,非常容易。 |
| 237 | Like for example, think about this. | 比如,想想这个。 |
| 238 | Somebody says to you, okay, I know I got to go on a diet. | 有人对你说,好吧, 我知道我必须去节食。 |
| 239 | I got to I got to exercise. | 我得去锻炼一下 |
| 240 | I'm going to do it. | 师便打. |
| 241 | I'm really going to do it. | 我真的要做到这一点。 |
| 242 | Is it going to happen? | 会发生吗? |
| 243 | No, it's not going to happen in million years because the state they're in. | 不,它不会发生 在百万年,因为他们的状态。 |
| 244 | Most people are trying to get themselves to do something. | 大多数人都想做点什么 |
| 245 | And what they don't understand is what you do is based on your state. | 他们不明白的是你的行为是基于你的状态 |
| 246 | And what do you think is harder? | 你觉得更难的是什么? |
| 247 | For example, dieting or fasting? | 例如饮食还是斋戒? |
| 248 | Dieting. | 饮食. |
| 249 | Yes, very much so. | 是的,非常喜欢。 |
| 250 | Absolutism because fasting is absolute. | 禁食是绝对的 |
| 251 | You just don't do it. | 你只是不这样做。 |
| 252 | Dieting is like a rule by attrition. | 减肥就像一个规则。 |
| 253 | You know, right? | 你知道吗? |
| 254 | How does no matter water? | 水又怎样? |
| 255 | That's a nothing, right? | 这没什么,对吧? |
| 256 | Yeah. | 对 |
| 257 | So if you get to that place, that mindset, which is total resolve, | 所以,如果你到了那个地方, 这种心态,这是完全的决心, |
| 258 | that's what it takes to fast in a state of resolve. | 这就是在决心状态下斋戒所需要的. |
| 259 | It's easy when you're dieting. | 饮食时方便. |
| 260 | You're saying, well, could I do that? | 你是说 我可以这么做吗? |
| 261 | What if I do that? | 如果我这样做呢? |
| 262 | You're negotiating negotiation with yourself makes you weak. | 你和自己谈判 让你软弱无力 |
| 263 | So the right state, you'll get the right behavior. | 所以,正确的状态, 你会得到正确的行为。 |
| 264 | You'll get the right story and you'll find the right strategies. | 你会得到正确的故事 你会找到正确的策略 |
| 265 | And so my focus is first there and I still do all three, but that's where I go first. | 所以我的注意力首先在那里, 我仍然做所有三个, 但这就是我先去的地方。 |
| 266 | That's so good. | 赞曰. |
| 267 | You know, I was funny because I was talking to some of our mutual friends | 你知道,我很搞笑,因为我正和我们的一些朋友说话 |
| 268 | and one of them was like, you should ask him something that you need to change. | 其中一个你应该问他一些你需要改变的事 |
| 269 | Like get a little vulnerable. | 喜欢有点脆弱。 |
| 270 | Sure. | 当然 |
| 271 | And I was like, God, he's seen all the things. | 我像,上帝,他看到了所有的东西。 |
| 272 | You know, I remember watching, I am not your guru back in the day. | 你知道,我记得看着, 我不是你的大师 回到白天。 |
| 273 | And you were just like, you know, a woman's life. | 你就像一个女人的生活 |
| 274 | You just, I don't know what sort of crazy Tony Robbins magic, but you | 你只是,我不知道 什么样的疯狂托尼・罗宾斯的魔法, 但你 |
| 275 | just like magic to her and, and I thought about it. | 就像魔法一样,我考虑过了 |
| 276 | I'm a pretty disciplined individual in a lot of ways, but for instance, like | 我是一个相当有纪律的人 在许多方面,但例如, |
| 277 | small things this time of year, like I will say, no, no, I'm definitely not | 每年这个时候我都会说 我绝对不会 |
| 278 | having multiple glasses of red wine and that bread, and then I will do it. | 喝几杯红酒和面包,然后我再做 |
| 279 | But in your mind, the formula, does it just go absolutes? | 但是在你的脑海里,公式, 它只是去绝对? |
| 280 | So like, is my next step just, okay, Cody, no red wine ever, no bread. | 所以,就像,是我的下一步 只是,好吧,科迪,没有红酒 从来没有,没有面包。 |
| 281 | Or I have to say it when I'm jumping on a trampoline or I have to | 或者我跳上蹦床的时候必须说,或者我必须说 |
| 282 | say it when I'm excited. | 当我兴奋的时候说 |
| 283 | Like, how do I tactically? | 我怎么用战术? |
| 284 | Well, you have just, you need stronger reasons, honey. | 好吧,你只是, 你需要更有力的理由,亲爱的。 |
| 285 | You don't have strong enough reasons to fall through. | 你没有足够的理由掉下来。 |
| 286 | So you have reasons in the moment. | 所以你现在有原因了 |
| 287 | It's like decision-making. | 如是决定. |
| 288 | Why are most people supposed to make a decision and then | 为什么大多数人应该做决定 然后 |
| 289 | they don't follow through. | 他们不跟随。 |
| 290 | They used to fascinate me too. | 他们以前也喜欢我 |
| 291 | And when I began to realize there's a couple of things. | 当我开始意识到 有一些事情。 |
| 292 | Number one, most people don't make a lot of decisions. | 第一,大多数人不会做出很多决定. |
| 293 | So they have kind of weak decision-making muscles. | 所以他们有种弱的决策肌肉。 |
| 294 | I don't know if you've ever been around somebody at dinner and a | 我不知道你有没有去过 有人在晚餐和 |
| 295 | restaurant and there's a person who's always the last one and they still | 餐馆,有一个人 谁总是最后一个 而且他们仍然 |
| 296 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}不能做决定 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}服务员马上就要丢了 然后他们终于 | |
| 297 | decide, right? | 决定,对不对? |
| 298 | Yes. | 对 |
| 299 | I never hire them. | 我从来没有雇用他们。 |
| 300 | That's actually a great never hired them in million years. | 这实在是一百万年来从未雇用过他们 |
| 301 | However, the reason they're not making a decision is they want to make the | 然而,他们之所以不做决定 是因为他们想做出 |
| 302 | right decision always. | 正确的决定总是。 |
| 303 | They want to do the right thing, but perfection doesn't exist. | 他们想做正确的事情,但完美并不存在. |
| 304 | It's just not there. | 它只是没有。 |
| 305 | So if you look at decision-making, I remember I met General Norman | 所以,如果你看看决策, 我记得我遇到了诺曼将军 |
| 306 | Schwarzkopf, who, you know, did the original Desert Storm group. | 施瓦兹科普夫,他,你知道, 做了最初的沙漠风暴组。 |
| 307 | And I remember asking him, we were talking about leadership and what's | 我记得我问过他 我们在谈论领导力和什么 |
| 308 | the most important thing in leadership. | 领导最重要的事情。 |
| 309 | And he said, decision-making. | 他说,决策。 |
| 310 | I said, well, how do you make tough decisions? | 我说,你如何做出艰难的决定? |
| 311 | He goes, that's what you paid for. | 他走了,这就是你付的钱。 |
| 312 | Any idiot can make the easy decision. | 任何白痴都可以做出轻松的决定. |
| 313 | What makes you a leader is big decisions. | 让你成为领袖的就是大决定 |
| 314 | He said, but to get those big decisions done, you have to have | 他说,但要完成这些重大决定, 你必须 |
| 315 | enough reasons to follow through or it won't happen. | 有足够的理由坚持下去 否则就不会发生 |
| 316 | And he says, if you don't come up with the reasons, the decision doesn't last. | 他说,如果你不想出原因的话,决定不会持久. |
| 317 | And he told me a story I'll never forget. | 他告诉我一个我永远不会忘记的故事 |
| 318 | He said that he was a private working for a general and the general was one | 他说他是为将军工作的私家侦探 将军也是 |
| 319 | of the most powerful, I think he was a four-star general, a three-star general | 在最强大的,我认为他是 四星将军, 三星将军 |
| 320 | at the Pentagon and very influential man, to say the least. | 在五角大楼和非常有影响力的人, 至少可以说。 |
| 321 | And Pentagon had wrestled with a strategic decision for the Pentagon | 五角大楼已经为五角大楼做出了战略决定 |
| 322 | as a whole for almost 10 years. | 从整体上讲 差不多十年了 |
| 323 | And they had people that argued on both sides pretty powerfully, so much | 他们有在两侧争吵的人 相当强大,如此之多 |
| 324 | so that no one could decide. | 以便没有人能决定。 |
| 325 | And so they set a date where they're going to finally make a decision | 所以他们定了一个日期 他们将最终做出决定 |
| 326 | no matter what and the general's going to make it. | 不管怎么样,将军都会成功的 |
| 327 | 所以Schwarzkopf是私人 他还有五个人 | |
| 328 | Their job was to accumulate all this information from both sides, which | 他们的任务是从双方积累所有这些信息。 |
| 329 | he said literally filled almost half a room and try to bring that | 他说,字面上填满了几乎半个房间 并试图带来 |
| 330 | down to like six binders. | 下到像六束绑。 |
| 331 | The general could go through and really understand both sides of the issue. | 将军可以经历并真正理解问题的两面。 |
| 332 | Well, as they're doing the coalition trying to go through this, which | 他们正在联军中努力通过这个 |
| 333 | were completely behind, he said he was getting so scared. | 完全落后,他说 他变得如此害怕。 |
| 334 | And then the general's called out with an emergency and he had a | 然后,将军的呼唤 与紧急情况,他有一个 |
| 335 | leave and didn't come back until literally the night before the | 离开,直到晚上才回来 |
| 336 | decision-making process. | 决策过程。 |
| 337 | And so he has no preparatory materials. | 所以他没有准备材料 |
| 338 | And he said, I didn't know what the hell to do. | 他说,我不知道该怎么办 |
| 339 | I gave the general stuff, but I knew he couldn't possibly do it. | 我给了一般的东西, 但我知道他不可能做到这一点。 |
| 340 | He couldn't resolve these. | 他解决不了这些 |
| 341 | Should I cancel the meeting? | 要我取消会议吗? |
| 342 | He said, no, bring the meeting. | 他说,不,带会议来。 |
| 343 | They had the meeting. | 他们有会议。 |
| 344 | He said, okay, give me side number one. | 他说,好吧,给我第一。 |
| 345 | He said, do you have 20 minutes? | 他说,你有20分钟吗? |
| 346 | Give me side number two, you have 20 minutes. | 给我第二边,你还有20分钟 |
| 347 | And when they're done, they stood up and he said, do that | 当他们完成,他们站起来 他说,做到这一点 |
| 348 | one. | 一个 |
| 349 | And they all went, that's general. | 他们都去了,这是将军。 |
| 350 | And they saluted and left the room. | 并礼而出室. |
| 351 | But the story's interesting part was Schwarzkopf as a private is | 但故事的有趣部分是 Schwarzkopf作为私人 |
| 352 | thinking he couldn't possibly know what was the right decision to make | 以为他不可能知道什么是正确的决定 |
| 353 | that decision. | 这一决定。 |
| 354 | This is insane. | 这太疯狂了 |
| 355 | And he was so stressed about it. | 他对此很紧张 |
| 356 | They worked up all his courage, knocked on the general's door and | 他们鼓起他的勇气 敲上将军的门 |
| 357 | said, permission to speak freely, sir. | 允许自由说话 长官 |
| 358 | He goes at ease. | 他不会有事的 |
| 359 | He goes, general, I know you couldn't possibly have viewed the materials. | 他走了,将军,我知道你不可能 看过材料。 |
| 360 | We couldn't even get you all the materials that are there. | 我们甚至拿不到所有的材料 |
| 361 | You just made a decision that determines the direction of the | 你刚刚做了一个决定 决定方向 |
| 362 | clinic on no decision for 10 years. | 10年没有决定的诊所。 |
| 363 | You just did it. | 你刚刚做到了。 |
| 364 | He goes, that's right. | 他走了,没错。 |
| 365 | When putting command, take charge. | 下达命令时,负责指挥. |
| 366 | He said, make a decision. | 他说,做一个决定。 |
| 367 | He goes, but general, you didn't have enough information. | 他走了,但将军,你没有足够的信息。 |
| 368 | He goes, there was too much information. | 他去,有太多的信息。 |
| 369 | He said, both sides have been arguing for 10 years. | 他说,双方都争论了十年。 |
| 370 | Here's what I know. | 这是我知道的。 |
| 371 | Whatever decision I made, it'll be right. | 不管我做出什么决定 都是正确的 |
| 372 | It'll be wrong. | 会错的 |
| 373 | If it's wrong, we'll find out quicker. | 如果错了,我们会发现更快。 |
| 374 | It won't take us 10 years and we can change our approach. | 我们不需要10年的时间,我们可以改变我们的方法。 |
| 375 | If it's right, we'll be on the right track and we'll move forward | 如果是正确的,我们会在正确的轨道上前进 |
| 376 | immediately. | 马上 |
| 377 | Decisions need to be made. | 需要作出决定。 |
| 378 | And I thought, what a great approach, right? | 我想,多么伟大的方法,对不对? |
| 379 | So later I started studying it. | 后来我开始研究它。 |
| 380 | I was like, I think decisions have three parts. | 我觉得决定有三个部分 |
| 381 | So when you go to yours, you decide not to drink or decide to drink | 所以,当你去你的, 你决定不喝酒或决定喝酒 |
| 382 | only so many of these elements, our drinks, right? | 只有这么多这些元素,我们的饮料,对不对? |
| 383 | Decision can feel a little bit like a war. | 决策会有点像战争 |
| 384 | I'm going to do this. | 我要做到这一点。 |
| 385 | I get myself to do this. | 我让自己做到这一点。 |
| 386 | You know, all right, I'm going to do it, right? | 你知道,所有的权利, 我会做到这一点,对不对? |
| 387 | But it's a three-part process and that's what people don't understand. | 但它是一个三部分的过程,这是人们不明白的. |
| 388 | If you decide that's all you do, you're making a decision in the moment. | 如果你只做这个,你现在就做决定 |
| 389 | You meant it when you made that decision to yourself. | 你做决定的时候是真心的 |
| 390 | Wouldn't you say? | 你说呢? |
| 391 | Sure. | 当然 |
| 392 | So what happened later on, you're in a different environment, right? | 所以后来发生的事, 你在一个不同的环境,对不对? |
| 393 | You've not taken the moment and pushed it into the future. | 你没有把时机推向未来 |
| 394 | What takes that moment pushing the computer is if while you're in that | 推动计算机的那一刻是什么 当你在其中 |
| 395 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}你做了一些事 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}让你坚持到底 | |
| 396 | consequences if you didn't, significant consequences, right? | 后果,如果你没有, 重大的后果,对不对? |
| 397 | That's what the general does, right? | 将军就是这么做的 对吧? |
| 398 | So you look at this and go, okay, I say I'm going to do this, but is this | 所以,你看这个然后走, 好吧,我说我要做到这一点,但这是 |
| 399 | do I got enough reasons? | 我有足够的理由吗? |
| 400 | Is this really that important to me? | 这真的对我很重要吗? |
| 401 | Because if it's not, I want to bullshit myself. | 因为如果不是,我想自吹自擂 |
| 402 | I'm not here to lie to myself. | 我不是来骗自己的 |
| 403 | If I'm really going to do it, then here's my absolute commitment for | 如果我真的要这么做 我绝对承诺 |
| 404 | the next 30 days and this is what it costs me if it doesn't, right? | 接下来的30天,如果它不这样做,我就要付出代价,对吧? |
| 405 | And this is what I get. | 这就是我得到的。 |
| 406 | This is why I want to do it. | 这就是我要这样做的原因。 |
| 407 | So it's not just a moving away from approach, but I always tell people | 所以,这不仅仅是一个移动 接近,但我总是告诉人们 |
| 408 | never leave the side of making a decision without doing something | 从不离开做决定的一方 不做点什么 |
| 409 | that commits you to follow through later on because you're going to | 承诺你以后要坚持下去 因为你要去 |
| 410 | be in a different state, state again, right? | 在不同的状态,再次状态,对不对? |
| 411 | And you're going to make a different decision in that different state | 你会做出不同的决定 在不同的状态 |
| 412 | of that party that's there. | 那边的那个 |
| 413 | But there's a third step that most people never get to resolve. | 但还有第三步,大多数人永远无法解决. |
| 414 | So think about what does it mean to you to decide? | 想想这对你决定意味着什么? |
| 415 | Tell me what it means to you to decide. | 告诉我决定对你意味着什么 |
| 416 | What's that feeling when you decide? | 你决定的时候是什么感觉? |
| 417 | It's forward momentum. | 这是前进的势头。 |
| 418 | It's a choice on path. | 道中选. |
| 419 | What does it mean to commit? | 犯罪意味着什么? |
| 420 | To not go back. | 以不退转. |
| 421 | You know, there's an anti instead of a pro. | 你知道,有一个反 而不是一个职业。 |
| 422 | Now you put a line in the sand that's beyond just this moment | 现在你把一条线 在沙子上 超越了这一刻 |
| 423 | and you've taken what's in the moment, taken it forward. | 并且你已经把现在的情况, 向前看。 |
| 424 | What does it mean to you to resolve? | 解决问题对你意味着什么? |
| 425 | Like no matter what we're going to do, we're going to execute on this. | 就像不管我们要做什么, 我们要执行这个。 |
| 426 | That's right. | 没错 |
| 427 | Resolve means it's already done. | 决心意味着它已经做了。 |
| 428 | You say something's resolved, it's already done. | 你说事情已经解决了,已经解决了 |
| 429 | It's done in you. | 于汝所为. |
| 430 | So it's going to be done in the world. | 故能于世间成就. |
| 431 | And what resolve brings an interesting emotion. | 决心带来有趣的情感。 |
| 432 | Decision-making can be a little battle. | 决策可以是一个小战斗。 |
| 433 | Commitment can feel like having to use some force. | 承诺可以感到必须使用武力。 |
| 434 | But resolve brings peace. | 但决心带来和平。 |
| 435 | And then it's like even if things don't go the way I want, even if | 然后它就像,即使事情 不走我想要的方式, 即使 |
| 436 | it changes here or there, I've resolved this is how it is. | 无论是这里还是那里,我都解决了这个问题。 |
| 437 | So I want you to think of a decision you've made that you did keep | 所以我希望你想想你所做的决定 |
| 438 | your word on that was a difficult decision. | 你的话是很难的 |
| 439 | Because the alcohol one's not that difficult, right? | 因为酒不难喝,对吧? |
| 440 | I bet you've had some much more difficult decisions you've kept. | 我敢打赌,你有一些 更困难的决定,你一直保持。 |
| 441 | Definitely. | 当然 |
| 442 | Can you tell me one? | 你能告诉我一个吗? |
| 443 | Yeah, I mean, I'm divorced and remarried. | 是啊,我的意思是,我离婚 和再婚。 |
| 444 | So I remember when I was going through my divorce or when I was | 所以我记得当时我正在经历 离婚或当我是 |
| 445 | going through my not-so-happy marriage the first time, I couldn't | 第一次经历我不太幸福的婚姻 我无法 |
| 446 | make a decision on doing it. | 做决定 |
| 447 | And so I said, I'm going to put a date on a calendar. | 所以我说,我要在日历上放一个约会。 |
| 448 | And by that date, I will have done the actions I think will, you | 到那个日期,我会做我认为会做的事,你 |
| 449 | know, go to therapy, have lots of conversations, attempt to resolve | 你知道,去治疗, 有很多谈话,试图解决 |
| 450 | it, but if I can't, that will be my date. | 如果不行,那是我的约会对象 |
| 451 | And by then I will tell him and we will commit. | 到时候我会告诉他,我们将承诺。 |
| 452 | So listen to what your language is. | 故听其语言. |
| 453 | You decided, and in that day you decided you also committed. | 你决定了 那天你决定你也承诺了 |
| 454 | You committed to what had happened in the future by a certain | 你对将来发生的那些事作出承诺 |
| 455 | date, by a certain time of what was going to occur. | 日期,在某一时间 将要发生的事情。 |
| 456 | Did you get to resolve? | 你有决心吗? |
| 457 | I did. | 没错 |
| 458 | When did resolve happen? | 什么时候决定的? |
| 459 | Did it happen that day or later? | 是那天还是后来? |
| 460 | No, it happened that day. | 不,那天发生了。 |
| 461 | So did you feel, what did you feel inside when you resolved it? | 所以,你觉得, 当你解决它的时候,你有什么感觉? |
| 462 | Peace. | 安静 |
| 463 | Sadness, but peace. | 悲伤,但和平。 |
| 464 | I understand. | 我理解,我懂你说什么 |
| 465 | Ending something is always sad. | 结束某件事总是很悲哀。 |
| 466 | But one of the rules of life that most people are upset about that | 但生活规则之一 大多数人对此不高兴 |
| 467 | they don't want to take, it's a given in life is everything ends. | 他们不想拿, 这是生命的给定就是一切结束。 |
| 468 | Right? | 对吧? |
| 469 | Everything changes. | 一切变化. |
| 470 | But my view is, and something new begins. | 但我的观点是, 新的开始。 |
| 471 | Right? | 对吧? |
| 472 | It's like the call, it's the call of adventure when you know, the | 这就像呼叫, 这是冒险的呼唤 当你知道, |
| 473 | hero's journey is there. | 英雄的旅程就在那里。 |
| 474 | So I think you either have to decide and commit, ideally resolve | 所以我觉得你要么决定 要么承诺 最好下定决心 |
| 475 | or not kid yourself about it. | 或不是在开玩笑 |
| 476 | Cause it may not be that important to you. | 因为对你来说可能没那么重要 |
| 477 | Yeah, that's a great point. | 是啊,这是一个伟大的观点。 |
| 478 | It's like you might be doing, you know, virtual signaling to yourself. | 就像你在做,你知道,虚拟的信号给自己。 |
| 479 | It didn't sound like you told anybody else, but that's what people | 这听起来不像你告诉别人, 但这就是人们 |
| 480 | do that too. | 也这样做。 |
| 481 | They don't just virtual signal stupidly on social media. | 他们不只是虚拟信号 愚蠢的社交媒体。 |
| 482 | They do it to themselves. | 他们这样做对自己。 |
| 483 | Yeah. | 对 |
| 484 | You know, it's fascinating you say that. | 你这么说真有趣 |
| 485 | My husband has a former Navy SEAL and so he is so committed to his work. | 我丈夫有前海军海豹突击队 所以他非常致力于他的工作 |
| 486 | He does. | 他这样做。 |
| 487 | And one thing that he's taught me lately that has helped the last | 他最近教我的一件事 帮助了最后 |
| 488 | couple of years is if we, if we make a decision and we are committed | 几年就是如果我们,如果我们作出决定,我们承诺 |
| 489 | to it, he does a thing that now I have a word for it, I guess, which | 他做了一件事,现在我有话要说,我想 |
| 490 | is this idea of commitment and resolve. | 这就是承诺和决心的理念。 |
| 491 | He'll say like, for instance, we had something we wanted to do and | 他会说,比如说,我们有些事情想做 |
| 492 | he was like, okay, well, what are you going to do if you don't hit | 他就像, 好吧, 好吧, 你要怎么办 如果你不打 |
| 493 | that goal? | 那个目标? |
| 494 | And I said, I don't know, what do you want me to do? | 我说,我不知道,你想让我做什么? |
| 495 | What, what's on the table? | 什么? 桌子上有什么? |
| 496 | We put in cash and put it in. | 我们把现金放进去 |
| 497 | He was like, that's not big enough. | 他说,那还不够大。 |
| 498 | And he's like, it not only has to be cash, which would bother you, | 他喜欢,它不仅 必须是现金, 这将困扰你, |
| 499 | but something that would bother you so much that you're not going | 但有些事让你心烦意乱 以至于你不去 |
| 500 | to execute. | 要执行。 |
| 501 | And so he's like, so if you don't execute on this, I'm going to put, | 所以,他喜欢, 所以如果你不执行这个, 我要说, |
| 502 | we're going to write a check and on the check, you're going to put | 我们要写张支票,你放 |
| 503 | $10,000 and you're going to say democratic socialist party of | 10000美元,你会说民主社会主义政党 |
| 504 | America. | 美国。 |
| 505 | You don't do this. | 你不这样做。 |
| 506 | I'm sending the check with your name on it. | 我要寄上你的名字的支票 |
| 507 | You're going to be on the donor list. | 你会在捐赠名单上。 |
| 508 | And I was like, oh no, now I'm really in it and I have to commit | 我当时想,哦,不, 现在我真的在它,我必须承诺 |
| 509 | to this and so now I have a framework, but it's, you know, | 现在,我有一个框架,但它,你知道, |
| 510 | what's fascinating about you is these little small things in life | 你最迷人的是生活中这些小东西 |
| 511 | aren't so small. | 没那么小 |
| 512 | They accumulate to everything in life. | 它们在生活中积累到一切 |
| 513 | It's this compounding effect decision-making. | 是这种复合效应的决策。 |
| 514 | I think is one of the top five skills in life. | 我认为是人生中五大技能之一. |
| 515 | What are the other four? | 其他四个是什么? |
| 516 | I wouldn't walk them in. | 我不会送他们进去的 |
| 517 | I'd say managing your state is one of the most important. | 我觉得管理你的国家是最重要的 |
| 518 | I think how to build relationship is certainly one of the most | 我觉得怎样建立关系当然是最伟大的 |
| 519 | important. | 这很重要 |
| 520 | Your capacity to create a vision for your life is extremely | 你创造人生观的能力是巨大的 |
| 521 | important. | 这很重要 |
| 522 | Moving from being a manager to a creator is extremely important. | 从管理者到创造者是极为重要的。 |
| 523 | Most people are managing their lives. | 大多数人都在管理自己的生活。 |
| 524 | They're they're making a living. | 众生作么生. |
| 525 | They're not designing their life or you know, even in business | 他们不是在设计自己的生活 也不是在商业上 |
| 526 | part of what helps you grow in business is when you stop | 帮助你成长的部分 是在你停止的时候 |
| 527 | becoming a manager. | 成为一名经理 |
| 528 | Managers all we want to know techniques. | 管理者我们想知道的都是技术。 |
| 529 | And by the way, I have plenty of techniques I've learned over | 顺便说一句,我学到了很多技巧 |
| 530 | the years, but I'm much more into this stage in my life and | 这些年, 但我更进入这个阶段 在我的生活和 |
| 531 | what is behind the technique that makes somebody follow | 是什么背后的技术 使某人遵循 |
| 532 | through, right? | 通过,对不对? |
| 533 | Techniques are cute and they might work, but then eventually | 技术很可爱,可能有用 但最终 |
| 534 | the technique becomes your new toy that will become your | 技术成为你的新玩具 成为你的 |
| 535 | new limitation, right? | 新的限制,对不对? |
| 536 | So I think it's important to look for what's behind it all. | 因此,我认为重要的是要寻找这一切背后的背后. |
| 537 | If you shift what's behind all you shift everything, right? | 如果你把背后的东西都转移了,对吗? |
| 538 | That's my focus. | 这是我的重点。 |
| 539 | Do you ever not keep promises to yourself now? | 你现在有没有遵守过对自己的承诺? |
| 540 | It's a great question. | 问曰. |
| 541 | Yes, there's one that I've not kept to myself. | 是的,有一个我没有 保持自己。 |
| 542 | To be honest, it's the only one I can think of. | 老实说 这是我唯一能想到的 |
| 543 | I don't know that I promised myself. | 我不知道我答应过自己 |
| 544 | Honestly, that's the truth. | 说实话,这是事实。 |
| 545 | And that is, you know, I'd slow my schedule down. | 那就是,你知道, 我会慢我的日程。 |
| 546 | You're not keeping that I know that for a fact. | 你不会一直认为我知道的 |
| 547 | No, you can tell by my voice. | 不,你可以从我的声音看出来。 |
| 548 | No, I've not kept that promise. | 不,我没有遵守这个承诺。 |
| 549 | But honestly, it's like, you know, like I get a phone call | 但说实话,这就像,你知道, 就像我接到一个电话 |
| 550 | last night from a dear friend of mine and he's got a friend | 昨晚我亲爱的朋友说他有个朋友 |
| 551 | that's suicidal in the middle of the night. | 这是半夜自杀。 |
| 552 | That's like, you know, I get these calls every day. | 这就像,你知道, 我每天都接到这些电话。 |
| 553 | Somebody's got, you know, cancer. | 有人得了癌症 |
| 554 | So he's got whatever and I have such a database of businesses | 所以,他有什么,我有一个这样的数据库 企业 |
| 555 | and relationships, you know, in the health area and the | 在健康领域和 |
| 556 | relationship area, the business area, the finance area and | 关系领域、商业领域、财务领域和 |
| 557 | the emotional well-being area that I find myself called. | 我发现自己所谓的情感福利领域 |
| 558 | And so then I end up being up for two and a half hours | 所以我最后两个半小时都醒了 |
| 559 | help this stranger not do those things. | 帮助这个陌生人不要做那些事。 |
| 560 | And so what my wife and I are going to have a meeting | 我和我妻子要开个会 |
| 561 | this next week and then I'm going to have to take it from | 这下周,然后我不得不把它从 |
| 562 | decide to commit to resolve because I think I decided | 决定承诺解决 因为我想我决定 |
| 563 | but I didn't really commit and resolve because I'm so called. | 但我没有真正 承诺和决心 因为我是如此叫。 |
| 564 | That's the thing too. | 这也是问题所在。 |
| 565 | It's like people have different ways of motivating themselves. | 感觉人们有不同的激励方式 |
| 566 | I've never been a motivator. | 我从来没有做过一个驱动器。 |
| 567 | I don't even like the term. | 我甚至不喜欢这个词。 |
| 568 | Motivation is a good thing. | 动机是好事。 |
| 569 | It's like a warm bath or shower. | 犹如暖浴或沐浴. |
| 570 | You should probably have one every day, but it's not enough, | 你也许应该每天有一个 但还不够 |
| 571 | right? | 对吧? |
| 572 | You need strategy. | 你需要战略 |
| 573 | You need follow through. | 你需要跟从。 |
| 574 | But what I'm really interested in is like what's deeper than | 但我真正感兴趣的是... ... |
| 575 | that? | 那个? |
| 576 | What's the inner drive in that? | 里面有什么内在驱动器? |
| 577 | And when I look around at what's happening in people's | 当我环顾四周观察人们的遭遇 |
| 578 | drives, I say what you can think of it is this way. | 驱动器,我说你能想到的是这种方式。 |
| 579 | You can think of there's like, let's say pull motivation and | 你可以想到,比如说,拉动动机和 |
| 580 | push motivation pushes what most people use. | 推动动机推动大多数人使用的东西。 |
| 581 | I'm going to push myself through and I'm going to make this | 我将自己推过去,我会做这个 |
| 582 | happen. | 发生。 |
| 583 | Well, that takes enormous, you know, I would say, you know, | 嗯,这需要巨大的, 你知道,我会说,你知道, |
| 584 | inner strength in that you clearly have that I clearly have | 内心的力量,因为你显然有 我显然有 |
| 585 | that inner drive, but everybody's only got so much of | 内在的驱动器, 但每个人都只有这么多 |
| 586 | that, right? | 是吗? |
| 587 | What's unlimited is pull motivation pull drive. | 无限的就是拉动动力拉力 |
| 588 | That's something that is something you care about more | 这才是你更关心的事 |
| 589 | than yourself so much more than yourself that it's not | 比你自己多得多,它不会 |
| 590 | effortful. | 费尽心思 |
| 591 | It gives you an energy. | 它给你能量。 |
| 592 | That's also almost feel superhuman to other people and | 对其他人来说,这几乎也是超人的感觉 |
| 593 | it's because you're you know, this is what you're made for | 因为你知道,这就是你的使命 |
| 594 | and when you find that, you know, it's been said before, | 当你发现, 你知道,它曾经说过, |
| 595 | you know, the two most important days of your life of | 你生命中最重要的两天 |
| 596 | the day that you're born in the day you discover what you're | 在你出生的那一天 你发现你是什么 |
| 597 | born for, right? | 生来就是为了这个 对吧? |
| 598 | I know what I'm born for. | 知诸众生故. |
| 599 | And so changing that in my life and saying I'm not going to | 改变我的人生 说我不会 |
| 600 | do that. | 做到这一点。 |
| 601 | I have to find somewhere in between the two. | 我得在两者之间找到一个地方 |
| 602 | I have to find what I am willing to commit to in that | 我必须找到我愿意承诺的 |
| 603 | process. | 进程。 |
| 604 | That's interesting. | 这很有趣。 |
| 605 | My first response on my head was no, of course, I keep my | 我的头第一次反应是 不,当然,我保持我的 |
| 606 | word to myself for everything and the probably still is true | 告诉自己一切 可能还是真的 |
| 607 | because my word to myself is I will always show up when it | 因为我对自己说,我会永远出现 |
| 608 | matters most for people. | 对人来说最重要的 |
| 609 | Yeah, you almost have like a higher priority than you even | 是啊,你几乎有一个更高的优先 比你甚至 |
| 610 | realized about the sub priority. | 已意识到次级优先级。 |
| 611 | Well, it's you know, it's so timely because you're having | 嗯,这是你知道的, 它是如此及时 因为你有 |
| 612 | an event in January and I really wanted to go to I was | 一月份的一个事件 我真的很想去 |
| 613 | going to go to your last event and we're in the mixture of | 要去参加你最后的活动, 我们正在混合 |
| 614 | mix of all this fertility stuff. | 混合这些生育力的东西。 |
| 615 | And so it's one of the first times where I haven't been able | 所以,这是第一次 我无法 |
| 616 | to keep my word as often as I'm used to to other people and | 以遵守我的话 就像我习惯别人一样 |
| 617 | it's out of my control for the first time. | 这是第一次超出我的控制。 |
| 618 | I understand. | 我理解,我懂你说什么 |
| 619 | Owning a business is incredible until a slip on site or a | 经营一个企业是不可思议的 直到一个滑倒在现场或一个 |
| 620 | pissed-off client or a tiny mistake turns into a very | 生气的客户端 或一个小错误变成一个非常 |
| 621 | expensive problem. | 昂贵的问题。 |
| 622 | If you're not covered that can actually wipe out months even | 如果你没被覆盖 那甚至可以抹去几个月 |
| 623 | years of work. | 工作年资 |
| 624 | That's why smart owners use Next Insurance. | 这就是为什么聪明的业主使用"下一个保险". |
| 625 | It's coverage built specifically for small businesses | 专为小生意而设 |
| 626 | all online all instant. | 都马上上线 |
| 627 | So no paperwork, no waiting, no corporate run-around nonsense | 所以,没有文件,没有等待, 没有公司运行的废话 |
| 628 | whether you run a cleaning crew, a fitness studio or a | 无论你经营一个清洁组,一个健身工作室还是一个 |
| 629 | business you bought on Main Street, Next keeps you protected | 在主街你买的生意, 下一个保护你 |
| 630 | so you can keep building. | 这样你就可以继续建设。 |
| 631 | Taking risk is part of the game. | 冒险是游戏的一部分 |
| 632 | Being protected is how you win it. | 保护是怎样赢得的 |
| 633 | Head to nextinsurance.com slash Cody and check them out. | 前往下一个保险公司 Cody 检查一下 |
| 634 | I love the idea of this event because you know, new year, | 我喜欢这个活动的想法,因为你知道,新年, |
| 635 | new you, there are all these things around this time of | 新的你,这些东西 围绕这个时代 |
| 636 | year, but we don't actually keep our promises to ourselves | 一年,但我们实际上不履行 我们对自己的承诺 |
| 637 | for the most part. | 大部分时间 |
| 638 | And one of the ways that I in the beginning maybe thought | 我一开始想的其中一种方式 |
| 639 | of you was like, oh, it's positive thinking. | 你就像,哦,这是积极的思考。 |
| 640 | We have to positive think and that is actually the opposite. | 我们必须积极思考,这实际上恰恰相反。 |
| 641 | No, I don't even believe my I believe I don't believe in | 不,我甚至不相信 我相信,我不相信 |
| 642 | negative thinking doesn't help you. | 消极思维对你有帮助。 |
| 643 | I believe you need to find what's true. | 我认为你需要找到真相 |
| 644 | I don't believe you should go to your garden and there's | 我不相信你该去你的花园 |
| 645 | weeds there. | 杂草在那里。 |
| 646 | So you chant there's no weeds. | 所以,你喊 没有杂草。 |
| 647 | There's no weeds. | 无杂草. |
| 648 | It's like no reach down and grab the weeds, right? | 这就像没有伸手 和抓住杂草,对不对? |
| 649 | You got to see what's real. | 你得看看什么是真实的。 |
| 650 | You got to see this is but also not see it worse than it is. | 你得看这个 但也不要看它比它更糟 |
| 651 | Most people see it worse than it is because they're afraid | 大多数人看到它比它更糟,因为他们害怕 |
| 652 | of failing so then they don't try right and then you're | 失败,所以他们不尝试对 然后你 |
| 653 | going to see it better than it is because without a vision | 会比它更好看 因为没有远见 |
| 654 | people perish, right? | 人会死 对吧? |
| 655 | You have to have a vision and then you got to make it that | 你必须有远见,然后你必须让它 |
| 656 | way and that's where the strategy comes in, right? | 战略就是从这里来的 对吧? |
| 657 | So that's how I look at it. | 所以我才这么看 |
| 658 | But no, I'm not. | 但是,我没有。 |
| 659 | I've never been to positive thinking per se when they did | 我从来没有去过积极的想法本身 当他们这样做 |
| 660 | the secret they came to me to be part of secret. | 他们来找我是为了成为秘密的一部分 |
| 661 | I said I will not participate in a million years. | 我说我不会在一百万年内参加。 |
| 662 | This is bullshit. | 这是废话。 |
| 663 | And so you're saying the law of Attraction is bullshit. | 所以你说吸引法是胡说八道 |
| 664 | I said no law of Attraction is real. | 我说没有吸引法则是真的 |
| 665 | It's one of dozens dozens of laws and you're saying that's | 这是几十条法律之一 你说的 |
| 666 | the whole game. | 整个游戏。 |
| 667 | And I remember this guy was saying yeah, but I was coming | 我记得这家伙说是的,但我正要来 |
| 668 | here to talk with you about this and he said and I was running | 来跟你谈这个 他说我跑 |
| 669 | late and I thought green green green and I got all green | 晚了,我以为绿色绿色 我得到了所有的绿色 |
| 670 | lights. | 灯光 |
| 671 | I said so what's going to happen when you're coming to see | 我说了,你来看时会怎样 |
| 672 | me and you get all red lights. | 我和你得到所有的红灯。 |
| 673 | You can see you're thinking bad. | 能见恶念. |
| 674 | Are you telling me some person who was in Alcatraz was there | 你是说有人在阿卡特拉兹 |
| 675 | or not Alcatraz but in Germany, you know in a concentration | 在德国,你知道在集中 |
| 676 | camp that they were just a negative thinker sometimes not | 他们只是消极的思想家 有时不是 |
| 677 | getting what you want is what the universe or God wants for | 得到你想要的 是宇宙或上帝想要的东西 |
| 678 | you. | 你们 |
| 679 | So you develop lesson skills muscles strengths caring that | 所以,你培养 课程技能肌肉 强力关心 |
| 680 | you wouldn't have had without it. | 你没有它就不会有。 |
| 681 | So it's not just that there's things like capabilities. | 所以,不仅仅是有 诸如能力的东西。 |
| 682 | There's like skill sets. | 有像技能组合。 |
| 683 | There's you can't do that. | 有不可说不可说. |
| 684 | So I know I was revolted against that. | 所以,我知道我是 反抗这一点。 |
| 685 | I watched it go like this and of course crash because everybody | 我看着它像这样,当然坠毁 因为每个人都 |
| 686 | wants the oversimplistic view of life, but they won't get you | 想要过度简单化的人生观,但他们不会得到你 |
| 687 | results. | 结果。 |
| 688 | Just thinking positive is not going to do it thinking negative | 以为积极是不会做 以为消极 |
| 689 | will certainly hurt your life, but that's not the full full | 一定会伤害你的生命,但这不是完整的 |
| 690 | gig. | 任务。 |
| 691 | No no matter how bad I want it. | 无论我有多想 |
| 692 | If I go try to one-on-one you on that basketball court, I | 如果我在篮球场上试一试你 |
| 693 | don't think I wouldn't you got like just a tiny few inches more | 别以为我不会再多几英寸 |
| 694 | than I do but it's important because these days I live in | 比我更清楚 但这很重要 因为现在我住 |
| 695 | Austin, Texas and there is so much you know, if you think it | 奥斯汀,德克萨斯州,有这么多 你知道,如果你认为 |
| 696 | you will get it and if you rub this crystal, I brought a | 你会得到它,如果你擦这个水晶, 我带来了一个 |
| 697 | crystal. | 结晶。 |
| 698 | I like a crystal, but I still don't think it's going to fix | 我喜欢水晶 但我还是觉得它不会修好 |
| 699 | everything for me. | 一切为我. |
| 700 | No, no, I mean listen, I think all the I think thoughts are | 不,不,我的意思是 听着,我觉得所有的想法都是 |
| 701 | real and whatever you think about consistently tend to | 真实的,无论你怎么想 总是倾向于 |
| 702 | manifest in your life, but there are other things beyond just | 但还有别的事情 |
| 703 | that one force of what you want and to think otherwise is | 你所想的其中一种力量 和想的不是 |
| 704 | think you're the center of the universe, which is absurd to | 认为你是宇宙的中心, 这是荒谬的, |
| 705 | me, right? | 我,对不对? |
| 706 | If that was true, why would we just get whatever we want | 如果是真的,为什么我们只是得到我们想要的 |
| 707 | immediately? | 马上? |
| 708 | Well, because you'd be spoiled rotten. | 因为你会被宠坏的 |
| 709 | You wouldn't care about anything or anyone. | 你什么都不会在乎 |
| 710 | I mean think about it when you were born, would you have to | 我是说,当你出生的时候,你会考虑一下吗? |
| 711 | be loved? | 被爱着? |
| 712 | Nothing. | 没什么 |
| 713 | Nothing scream yell go to the bathroom in your pants throw | 你裤子里没有尖叫的叫喊声 |
| 714 | up all of your mom or your dad. | 让你所有的母亲或你爸爸。 |
| 715 | You're still loved right, but there was a day when that | 你仍然被爱对了,但有一天 |
| 716 | stopped and that's the day that fear entered your body. | 停止了,那是一天 恐惧进入你的身体。 |
| 717 | That's the day you try to figure out what to do. | 即于此日欲解诸法. |
| 718 | So you would because you know to survive you need love love | 所以,你会因为你知道生存 你需要爱 |
| 719 | is where someone puts their needs aside for yours, right? | 有人把需求放在一边,对吧? |
| 720 | Then as humans were like different than other animals. | 然后人类就跟其他动物不一样了 |
| 721 | Some animals there's egg and crack and you never see your | 有些动物有蛋和裂缝 你从没见过你 |
| 722 | mother and father, but you have some competitive advantage. | 父母,但你有一些竞争优势。 |
| 723 | You have horns. | 你有号角。 |
| 724 | You have teeth. | 你有牙齿。 |
| 725 | You have camouflage, right? | 你有伪装,对不对? |
| 726 | Our competitive advantage is love. | 我们的竞争优势是爱。 |
| 727 | And so our capacity to feel that caring allows us to connect | 所以,我们的能力 感觉关爱 使我们能够连接 |
| 728 | allows us to work with the other child allows to expand beyond | 允许我们和另一个孩子一起工作 允许扩展范围 |
| 729 | what other people can possibly do. | 别人能做什么? |
| 730 | And so I look at it and say, okay, if this is our capacity, | 所以,我看着它说,好吧,如果这是我们的能力, |
| 731 | why is it that we have this unconditional love in the | 为什么我们有这种无条件的爱在 |
| 732 | beginning and then everybody pursues it for the rest of | 开始,然后每个人都追随它 剩下的时间 |
| 733 | their life and rarely feels it because if you're unconditional | 他们的生活,很少感觉它 因为如果你无条件 |
| 734 | love forever, you'd never grow. | 永远的爱,你永远不会成长。 |
| 735 | You never bring anything to the world. | 你从不带任何东西给世界 |
| 736 | It would all be about me. | 这都是为了我 |
| 737 | Me me just like ridiculous. | 我只是喜欢可笑。 |
| 738 | So you have to grow up and realize life's not about you. | 所以,你必须成长 并意识到生活不是关于你。 |
| 739 | It's about we and that the more you contribute the better | 而是我们 你贡献越多越好 |
| 740 | business is a spiritual game. | 商业是一种精神游戏。 |
| 741 | It's a perfect example. | 这是一个完美的例子。 |
| 742 | The every religion on earth has some version of love thy | 世界上的每个宗教都有你的爱 |
| 743 | neighbor like thyself different versions of it, but a version | 邻居喜欢你自己不同的版本,但一个版本 |
| 744 | of that principle within it, right? | 里面的原则,对不对? |
| 745 | Karma, whatever you want to call it. | 卡玛,随便你怎么说 |
| 746 | When you fall in love with your client, not just fall in | 当你爱上你的委托人, 不只是掉进去 |
| 747 | love with your customer or your I should say your product | 爱你的客户或你的客户 我应该说你的产品 |
| 748 | or service that's going to change. | 或服务会改变。 |
| 749 | Follow the client and you're trying to do everything can to | 跟着客户,你想尽一切办法 |
| 750 | meet their needs you turn them into a raving fan and you | 满足他们的需要 你把他们变成狂妄的粉丝 而你 |
| 751 | love on them and you think constantly about meeting their | 爱他们,你总是想 遇见他们 |
| 752 | needs like a mom does their kid or like a best friend does | 需要像妈妈做他们的孩子 或者像最好的朋友做 |
| 753 | for somebody they really care about. | 为了他们真正关心的人 |
| 754 | You're going to grow in business. | 你会在商业上成长 |
| 755 | You're going to grow anything that you do, but we're not | 你会长出你所做的事 但我们不会 |
| 756 | meant to just have unconditional love because then we wouldn't | 因为那样我们就不会 |
| 757 | grow right. | 长的对。 |
| 758 | We need to grow we need to expand and so otherwise all | 我们需要成长,我们需要扩张 所以所有 |
| 759 | these stupid thoughts like oh, I'm just going to think it's | 这些愚蠢的想法 像哦,我只是会认为 |
| 760 | going to happen to be there. | 碰巧会在那里。 |
| 761 | Plus if you went to Vegas, what's the worst thing to happen | 而且如果你去拉斯维加斯, 什么是最糟糕的事情 |
| 762 | if you go to Vegas? | 如果你去拉斯维加斯? |
| 763 | Well, in this case maybe lose all your money. | 那么,在这种情况下,也许失去所有的钱。 |
| 764 | No, the worst thing to happen is win. | 不,最糟糕的事是赢 |
| 765 | Oh, interesting. | 哦,有趣的是,我们是... |
| 766 | Of course. | 当然 |
| 767 | Then you think you're skilled. | 那你觉得你很熟练 |
| 768 | Steve Winn is a good friend of mine. | 史蒂夫·温恩是我的好朋友 |
| 769 | He built most of Las Vegas. | 他建造了拉斯维加斯的大部分地区. |
| 770 | So he disagrees. | 所以他不同意这一点。 |
| 771 | I was with him one day and this guy won a 10 million dollar | 有一天我跟他在一起 这家伙赢了一千万 |
| 772 | jackpot and Steve is a very tight guy on finance, right? | 大奖和史蒂夫是一个非常紧的人 在金融,对不对? |
| 773 | Very tight guy. | 非常紧的人。 |
| 774 | Like he knows what every, you know, one of his retailers | 就像他知道 他的零售商之一 |
| 775 | is doing and he wants the maximum dollar for each one | 正在做,他想要每个最大的美元 |
| 776 | and movie time wasn't paying him enough. | 电影的时间还不足以支付他。 |
| 777 | He get very upset. | 他很不高兴 |
| 778 | I'm like, you're doing quite fine, right? | 我很喜欢,你做得很好,对不对? |
| 779 | He says, no, I want to but when a person won I saw none | 他说,不,我想 但当一个人赢了,我看到没有 |
| 780 | of that. | 就是这样 |
| 781 | So I finally said Steve, usually you're pretty uptight | 所以我最后说史蒂夫 通常你很紧张 |
| 782 | about something like this. | 关于类似的东西。 |
| 783 | No, Tony, don't you know? | 不,托尼,你知道吗? |
| 784 | You see all the people around him, see all the pictures. | 你看见周围的人 看见所有的照片 |
| 785 | That guy will come back for the rest of his life. | 那家伙一辈子都会回来的 |
| 786 | But so all these other people he goes the odds are my odds. | 但是,所以所有这些其他人 他去的概率是我的概率。 |
| 787 | He goes that makes me money. | 他走那让我赚钱。 |
| 788 | I'm in it for the long game. | 我是为了这个漫长的游戏 |
| 789 | That's how it works here. | 这里就是这样 |
| 790 | But if you went to Vegas and let's say pulled one of those | 但是如果你去了拉斯维加斯 让我们假设拉了其中之一 |
| 791 | worn-out bandits and you get the jackpot, what was your | 破烂的土匪,你拿到大奖,什么是你的 |
| 792 | response going to be? | 反应会是? |
| 793 | Awesome. | 厉害 |
| 794 | Second time. | 次二颂. |
| 795 | Probably less excited but still excited. | 也许不那么兴奋,但仍很兴奋。 |
| 796 | A hundred times every time you get the same victory. | 每获同胜百遍. |
| 797 | Now it's called a job. | 今此名为业. |
| 798 | That's fascinating. | 这太迷人了 |
| 799 | So we need jackpots in our life to make us feel alive. | 所以我们需要我们生活中的大奖 来让我们感到活着。 |
| 800 | If you got everything you wanted every moment, you'd be | 如果你得到你想要的一切 每一刻,你会 |
| 801 | bored out of your mind. | 厌离烦恼. |
| 802 | It's such a good point. | 这是这样一个好点。 |
| 803 | What's interesting about you is, you know, I think a lot | 你很有趣的是,你知道,我觉得很多 |
| 804 | of people struggle with people-pleasing, right? | 人民与人民抗争,对不对? |
| 805 | And you know, maybe they try to do things that other people | 你知道,也许他们试图做 别人的事情 |
| 806 | think will make them likable. | 认为会让他们喜欢。 |
| 807 | You seem to do the opposite. | 你似乎做相反的。 |
| 808 | Like you are so comfortable pushing buttons, saying hard | 像你这么舒服 推按钮,说得硬 |
| 809 | truths, and at least what I've seen publicly, kind of pushing | 真相,至少我公开看到的, 一种推 |
| 810 | people out of their comfort zone. | 人们离开他们的舒适地带。 |
| 811 | And I don't do that till they first know how much I care. | 在他们知道我有多在乎之前 我不会那么做的 |
| 812 | I earn that right and they see that. | 我赚到钱,他们就会看到 |
| 813 | I don't just come in like a jerk and go this, this, this | 我不只是像混蛋一样进来 然后走这个,这个,这个 |
| 814 | because I really do. | 因为我真的有 |
| 815 | No, I don't think you come off that way. | 不,我不认为你走那边。 |
| 816 | But I think that's scary for people, even though I do believe | 但我认为这对人们来说是可怕的 尽管我相信 |
| 817 | a lot of times that's what we need. | 很多时候我们都需要这样 |
| 818 | We need like, Chris, my husband calls it a benevolent bully, | 我们需要像,克里斯,我丈夫称之为 仁慈的欺负, |
| 819 | you know, somebody to push you like you need it. | 你知道,有人推你 像你需要它。 |
| 820 | Have you always been like that? | 你一直这样吗? |
| 821 | Or how did you learn to push people the way they needed to? | 或者你是如何学会按他们需要的方式推动别人的? |
| 822 | No, I was more of a pleaser growing up. | 不,我长大后更开心 |
| 823 | You know, everyone has a dominant force in their life. | 你知道,每个人都有 主导力量在他们的生活。 |
| 824 | My mom was the dominant force and she was, I had four different | 我妈妈是主力,她,我有四个不同的 |
| 825 | fathers, so she was the dominant force as you might guess. | 父亲,所以她是支配力量 正如你可能猜测。 |
| 826 | She was quite a force of nature. | 她是一个相当自然的力量。 |
| 827 | Got rid of them one after another. | 逐个除掉了他们 |
| 828 | And I learned to please her or I was, you know, it was quite | 我学会了取悦她 或者,你知道,这是相当 |
| 829 | physical with her and I was 5'1 in high school. | 我高中时只有5尺1寸 |
| 830 | And then even when I grew 10 inches in a year, I learned | 即使我一年里长了10英寸 我学会了 |
| 831 | to bend my hair down, she grabbed my hair and smacked me | 她抓住我的头发打我 |
| 832 | against the wall. | 在墙上。 |
| 833 | She was a beautiful woman. | 她是一个美丽的女人。 |
| 834 | I wouldn't give you the wrong impression. | 我不会给你错误的印象。 |
| 835 | She was as loving as you could be, but she abused, you know, | 她和你一样爱她 但她虐待了她 |
| 836 | alcohol and prescription drugs. | 酒精和处方药。 |
| 837 | And when you put those two together, you become a different | 当你把这两个组合起来,你就变了 |
| 838 | personality. | 个性。 |
| 839 | So I had to work out in my head. | 所以我得在脑子里工作 |
| 840 | How do you deal with someone who who's loved and craved the | 你如何对待爱人和爱人 |
| 841 | most? | 大多数? |
| 842 | I was trying to harm you, but you know, loves you, you | 我想伤害你,但你知道,爱你,你 |
| 843 | know, and so rather than go through the whole victim | 而不是通过整个受害者 |
| 844 | bullshit, I just, there's not any part of me that's ever | 胡说,我只是, 没有我的任何部分曾经 |
| 845 | been a victim. | 一个受害者。 |
| 846 | I was like, okay, she's wired with pain and I got to figure | 我当时想,好吧,她有线 痛苦,我得想 |
| 847 | out how to, basically I became a practical psychologist | 如何去,基本上我成为一个实用的心理学家 |
| 848 | because of her. | 因为她。 |
| 849 | I had to figure out how to manage her states, her emotions | 我得想办法管理好她的状态 她的情绪 |
| 850 | so I could protect my younger brothers, five years younger, | 这样我就能保护弟弟们 5岁 |
| 851 | the younger sister, seven years younger. | 妹妹,7岁。 |
| 852 | And I got really good at it as I had to be. | 我真的很擅长它,因为我必须。 |
| 853 | But then also with women in my life and relationship in the | 但后来我的生命中 和女人的关系 |
| 854 | beginning, it was all pleasing all the time, which is a woman | 一开始,这都是令人愉快的, 这是一个女人 |
| 855 | I'm sure you know, it's probably why you married a Navy | 我敢肯定,你知道,这可能是为什么 你嫁给海军 |
| 856 | Seal, having a pleaser doesn't please a woman. | 封l,有悦者不悦妇. |
| 857 | Men are confused by that. | 男人对此感到困惑。 |
| 858 | They're like, she wants me to please him. | 他们喜欢,她要我取悦他。 |
| 859 | Yeah, she wants to be pleased, but she doesn't want you to | 是啊,她想高兴, 但她不希望你 |
| 860 | be a pleaser. | 做一个讨人喜欢的人。 |
| 861 | What the hell does that mean, right? | 这是什么意思,对不对? |
| 862 | So I learned that lesson. | 所以我学到了这个教训。 |
| 863 | But even during that time, when I stood up to serve someone, | 但即使在那个时候 当我站起来为某人服务时 |
| 864 | I'm there to serve someone. | 我在那里为某人服务。 |
| 865 | So if I will at the end of an intervention, well, you saw | 所以,如果我在干预结束时,嗯,你看到了 |
| 866 | I'm not your guru. | 我不是你的大师。 |
| 867 | There was a moment there where I was working with a young | 有一瞬间我和一个年轻人一起工作 |
| 868 | woman who was part of this cult where they raped children | 女人是这个邪教的一部分 他们强奸儿童 |
| 869 | and said it was for God. | 并说这是为上帝。 |
| 870 | And you know, she was in such a horrible place. | 你知道,她在一个可怕的地方。 |
| 871 | And so I did this work and it's like, I feel like God comes | 所以我做了这个工作 感觉就像上帝来了 |
| 872 | through me in those moments and not trying to be overly | 在那些时刻 通过我 而不是试图过度 |
| 873 | dramatic, but as you say, it looks like magic and it's | 戏剧性,但你说, 它看起来像魔法,它是 |
| 874 | different every time. | 每次都不一样 |
| 875 | And so afterwards, this group pushed on the wall, pushed | 于是,这群人推上墙,推 |
| 876 | in the door. | 在门里。 |
| 877 | And I was like, after those things are done very often, I | 我当时想, 在那些事情经常发生之后,我 |
| 878 | can't show any emotion then because I'm there with them. | 那时我无法表现出任何情感 因为我和他们在一起 |
| 879 | If I fully feel what they're feeling, I can't help them. | 如果我完全感受到他们的感受,我帮不了他们. |
| 880 | But I am feeling it inside. | 但我感觉里面。 |
| 881 | I put it in a box and then I go to the back room there and | 我把它放在一个盒子里 然后我去后面的房间那里 |
| 882 | then I just started bawling for what this woman had been | 然后我开始为这个女人的遭遇而哭泣 |
| 883 | through. | 通过。 |
| 884 | Now it makes me emotional thinking about it. | 现在,它让我 情绪思考它。 |
| 885 | And the guys that were doing the show said, no, we had to | 做节目的人说,不,我们不得不 |
| 886 | have direct access and they open the doors and you see me | 有直接进入,他们打开门,你看到我 |
| 887 | there crying and but it's because you know, this is what | 在那里哭泣,但这是因为你知道,这是什么 |
| 888 | I'm made for. | 我为所造. |
| 889 | It's like I hate suffering. | 犹如恨苦. |
| 890 | He'd say anyone's suffering. | 他会说任何人的痛苦。 |
| 891 | So I am unbelievably committed to end suffering any way I | 所以我不可信地承诺 结束任何痛苦 |
| 892 | can, but I also know my own suffering will not help that | 但我也知道自己受的苦不会帮助你 |
| 893 | person who's suffering. | 受苦受难的人。 |
| 894 | So I need a call to a higher part of them and I can do it | 所以我需要打个电话给他们的更高部分,我可以做到 |
| 895 | in multiple ways and do it with humor and do it intensity | 以多种方式,用幽默来做,用强度来做 |
| 896 | and do it with fun. | 和做它与乐趣。 |
| 897 | I can do it being weird, but I will find the way to get them | 我可以做它很奇怪, 但我会找到方法得到他们 |
| 898 | there and it's different every time. | 每次都不一样 |
| 899 | That's my art, you know, that's where you can call it the | 这就是我的艺术,你知道, 你可以称之为 |
| 900 | universe. | 宇宙 宇宙 宇宙 宇宙 宇宙 宇宙 宇宙 |
| 901 | I call it God comes through you because you're trying to serve | 我称之为上帝通过你 因为你试图服务 |
| 902 | something more than yourself. | 比你还重要 |
| 903 | You get different insights. | 你得到不同的见解。 |
| 904 | If you're just trying to serve yourself, you have a certain | 如果你只是想服务自己, 你有一定的 |
| 905 | level of insight. | 高度的见解。 |
| 906 | If you've got a family you care about, you're trying to serve | 如果你有一个家庭 你关心,你试图服务 |
| 907 | your family. | 產 |
| 908 | You get a different level of insight, you know, trying to | 你得到不同层次的洞察力, 你知道,试图 |
| 909 | serve, you know, a community, you know, the world. | 服务,你知道,一个社区,你知道,世界。 |
| 910 | I don't mean virtue signaling bullshit. | 我指的不是美德象征着屁话 |
| 911 | I mean like, you know, what's in your heart. | 我是说,你知道,你心里是什么 |
| 912 | The level of insights that are given to me that I can't | 我无法理解的洞察力 |
| 913 | possibly know about a person while they're standing there. | 也许知道一个人 当他们站在那里。 |
| 914 | Like people think that if there's a script backstage or | 就像人们认为 如果有一个剧本后台或 |
| 915 | someone people come up even the guys are filming say when it | 有人上来 连拍戏的人都说 |
| 916 | do you have a like an earpiece or something? | 你有耳机之类的吗? |
| 917 | I was like, what are you talking about? | 我说,你在说什么? |
| 918 | They came a little check see if I didn't beside how could you | 他们来了个小检查 看看我是不是在你旁边 |
| 919 | know that about her? | 知道她吗? |
| 920 | And I was like, I just knew, you know, I just knew immediately. | 而我就像,我只是知道, 你知道,我只是知道 立即。 |
| 921 | So the emotion I go through is enormous. | 所以我经历的情感是巨大的。 |
| 922 | It's not like I'm just cold and this is how it is and usually | 我又不是冷的 通常都是这样 |
| 923 | by the end of it. | 以它结尾。 |
| 924 | The person feels very loved and very taken care of and they | 这个人觉得很受人爱戴,很照顾,他们 |
| 925 | have the breakthrough that they're looking for. | 有他们想要的突破。 |
| 926 | But you know, I had this conversation with Oprah one day | 但有一天我和奥普拉谈过了 |
| 927 | women are so abused by our society when I say abused. | 当我说女人被社会虐待的时候 |
| 928 | I don't want to be just be derogatory, but you know, women | 我不想被贬低,但你知道,女人 |
| 929 | are put in this image of who they're supposed to look like | 被放在这个形象 他们应该是谁 |
| 930 | be like act like and women to me are unbelievable. | 像个女人 对我而言是不可思议的 |
| 931 | You're you're about to be a mom. | 你就要当妈妈了 |
| 932 | There's another part of you. | 还有你的一部分。 |
| 933 | They'll come a life when you're a mom is it's unbelievable. | 你做妈妈后他们会有生命的 真是难以置信 |
| 934 | Women do how their kids don't know it and don't understand | 女人会做自己孩子不知道的事 不懂事 |
| 935 | it is mind-boggling to me but to be a mom and a business | 对我来说,这很吸引人 但做妈妈和生意 |
| 936 | person and to be a lover and to be a husband or wife and all | 做个情人,做个丈夫或妻子 |
| 937 | those things at one time it takes just unbelievable energy | 那些东西 一次它需要令人难以置信的能量 |
| 938 | strength and so forth. | 坚固等. |
| 939 | And when I see what happens with women generalizing about | 当我看到女人通晓 |
| 940 | themselves, I'm just a homemaker or something makes me crazy. | 他们自己,我只是一个家庭主妇 或者什么让我疯了。 |
| 941 | But the one thing women have if a woman isn't super attractive | 但如果女人不是超级有魅力的 |
| 942 | is they have support men don't have that men don't go share | 他们有支持男人 没有男人不去分享 |
| 943 | their feelings. | 他们的感情。 |
| 944 | We don't go talk about our relationships, right? | 我们不谈我们的关系,对不对? |
| 945 | I remember we're having a program in Mexico and this one | 我记得我们在墨西哥有个节目 还有这个 |
| 946 | was saying you were with your friend and you know, you know, | 说你是你的朋友 你知道,你知道, |
| 947 | he got divorced and you don't know if he's dating, you know, | 他离婚了 你不知道他是不是在约会 |
| 948 | he says we played golf and she goes and it didn't come up. | 他说我们打高尔夫 她去了,没有出现。 |
| 949 | He goes I would have come up, you know, and she was just | 他走了,我会 上来,你知道,她只是 |
| 950 | like stunned because she thinks how a woman would think versus | 就像被惊呆了一样 因为她觉得一个女人会怎样想 |
| 951 | how a man's brain would think right. | 一个人的大脑会怎么想 |
| 952 | And so I say this because I was telling Oprah I said one of | 所以我这样说是因为我告诉奥普拉我说过 |
| 953 | the beautiful things about the sisterhood if the woman's | 姐妹般的美丽事物 如果女人 |
| 954 | really attractive sometimes there's backbiting and there's | 真的很吸引人 有时有反咬和有 |
| 955 | the opposite. | 则相反。 |
| 956 | There's not the support. | 无有供养. |
| 957 | There's just tremendous support women share their problems men | 只有巨大的支持 女人分享自己的问题 男人 |
| 958 | don't share their problems men's job is solve a problem and | 不要分享他们的问题 男人的工作是解决问题, |
| 959 | then you get with a woman in your life. | 然后,你得到一个女人 在你的生活中。 |
| 960 | You want to solve it for them in a man's world. | 你想在一个人的世界里解决它 |
| 961 | The more you solve problems the more you move up the hierarchy | 问题越解决越高 |
| 962 | of being a man in a woman's world. | 在女人的世界里做个男人 |
| 963 | No you share your problems so you can connect and feel for | 不,你分享你的问题 这样你就可以连接和感受 |
| 964 | the person right and you want to stay with it and so forth. | 人的权利,你想留下来 与它等等。 |
| 965 | So what happens with that is it's actually good for a feeling | 因此,会发生什么是 它实际上是好的感觉 |
| 966 | of support, but it's not great breakthroughs because women | 支持,但这不是伟大的突破 因为妇女 |
| 967 | supported the women in terrible terrible beliefs terrible | 支持那些有可怕信仰的妇女 |
| 968 | states terrible. | 状态很可怕 |
| 969 | They have a terrible relationship and they talked to two | 他们的关系很糟 他们和两个人谈过 |
| 970 | other women who have a terrible relationship about how well | 其他关系不好的女人 |
| 971 | they should do the relationship and go it's all him. | 他们应该做 关系,去这一切是他。 |
| 972 | It's no no, it's no matter how thin you slice of there's two | 不,不,不,不管你有多瘦 有两个 |
| 973 | sides. | 侧. |
| 974 | There's him and there's you right and so I was doing an event | 有他,有你的权利 所以我做了一个活动 |
| 975 | one time for 5,000 women in radio music music call for | 5 000名妇女在广播音乐中呼吁 |
| 976 | Oprah. | 奥普拉 |
| 977 | It was all women. | 都是女人的错 |
| 978 | I never heard that that high a pitch of sounds in my entire | 我从来没有听说过那高音 在我的整个 |
| 979 | life in one room and and she said, okay, why won't you do | 在一个房间里生活 她说,好吧,为什么不这样做 |
| 980 | an intervention like this? | 像这样的干预? |
| 981 | I saw Oprah interventions can take 15 minutes. | 我看见奥普拉的干预需要15分钟 |
| 982 | They can take an hour. | 他们需要一个小时。 |
| 983 | I go until take two hours. | 我走了两个小时 |
| 984 | She goes we don't have that. | 她去我们没有。 |
| 985 | I said, I know you're doing this program live. | 我说 我知道你在现场直播这个节目 |
| 986 | She goes I think you could do in the timeline. | 她走了 我想你可以在时间里完成 |
| 987 | I said, okay, but I said I also have to be willing to do | 我说,好吧,但我说 我也必须愿意做 |
| 988 | whatever it takes because of course, of course, you know, | 当然,当然,你知道, |
| 989 | and I already have this conversation with her about you | 我已经和她谈过你的事了 |
| 990 | can't support women just in their limitations. | 不能仅仅支持女人的局限性。 |
| 991 | If you really care about them, you got to call to call truth | 如果你真的关心他们, 你得打电话叫真相 |
| 992 | to be supportive and so someone stands up and she talks about | 支持她 所以有人站起来 她谈论 |
| 993 | how she's lost your business because of 9-eleven and she's | 她是如何失去你的生意 因为9 -even,她 |
| 994 | not being able to build it because of her husband and her | 因为她丈夫和她无法建造 |
| 995 | kids and she's 110 pounds overweight. | 孩子们,她超重110磅。 |
| 996 | It's because they all demand something for every moment. | 因为他们每时每刻都有需求 |
| 997 | Now. | 现在 |
| 998 | I'm a lover of women like I think women are no man on this | 我是女人的爱人,我觉得女人不是男人 |
| 999 | planet got here without a woman. | 星球上没有女人 |
| 1000 | I mean through woman who risked her life for you to be here. | 我的意思是通过女人 谁冒着生命危险 你在这里。 |
| 1001 | That's my core belief about women. | 这是我对女人的核心信念。 |
| 1002 | I hold women like this, but this is bullshit, right? | 我这样抱女人,但这是废话,对不对? |
| 1003 | I got plenty of friends that had in the building 9-eleven | 我有很多朋友在九楼 |
| 1004 | their business didn't go under. | 他们的生意没有破产 |
| 1005 | So it's not 9-eleven that did it right and your husband didn't | 所以,不是9 -even做了它的权利,你的丈夫没有 |
| 1006 | make you 110 pounds overweight nor did your children and | 让你超重110磅 你的孩子也没有 |
| 1007 | and so everything she's saying is a lie and the women are | 所以她所说的一切都是谎言 女人是 |
| 1008 | around are like, oh, I'm surrounded by 5,000 women. | 我身边有5000个女人 |
| 1009 | I go effort. | 我会努力的 |
| 1010 | I can't do this. | 我办不到 |
| 1011 | I can't not do this. | 我不能不这样做。 |
| 1012 | I said now well, you just told me is total absolute bullshit | 我说好了,你刚才告诉我 完全是绝对的废话 |
| 1013 | and the whole room went it was like shock and then there's | 整个房间都被震动了 |
| 1014 | sounds and I'm like, I'm not being mean but if you want | 听起来我很喜欢,我不是 刻薄,但如果你想 |
| 1015 | transformation if you want to change your change your life, | 如果你想改变你的生活 |
| 1016 | you cannot do it by blaming everybody else for what you've | 你不能责怪别人,因为你所做的事 |
| 1017 | done 9-eleven is a horrific thing. | 做了9 -even是可怕的事情。 |
| 1018 | I'm sure it massively interrupted your business, but she | 我敢肯定,它大规模地打断了你的业务,但她 |
| 1019 | wasn't even in the building. | 连大楼里都没有 |
| 1020 | She wasn't even close to the building. | 她甚至没有靠近大楼。 |
| 1021 | I said this is not why your business went under you're | 我说这不是为什么你的生意会这样 |
| 1022 | making excuses and I'm saying this because I care excuses | 找借口 我这么说是因为我在乎借口 |
| 1023 | will only hurt you and right now you don't have relationship | 只会伤害你 现在,你没有关系 |
| 1024 | with your husband clearly by the way talking about you don't | 跟你丈夫说得很清楚,你不会 |
| 1025 | in relationship with your kids and that's another reason | 和你孩子的关系 这是另一个原因 |
| 1026 | why you're probably 110 pounds overweight. | 为什么你可能 110磅超重。 |
| 1027 | You're bearing your emotion with food and then also there | 你带着你的情感与食物,然后在那里 |
| 1028 | started to be some sounds and then and then Oprah says and | 开始有些声音 然后Oprah说 |
| 1029 | she's behind me about, you know, like 50 yards. | 她在我后面,你知道, 像50码。 |
| 1030 | It's a giant building, right? | 这是一个巨大的建筑,对不对? |
| 1031 | She goes about Tony but Tony but to be fair and I snap back | 她喜欢托尼 但为了公平,我回来 |
| 1032 | and I look through like this. | 我看着像这样 |
| 1033 | I'll never forget because I was in state and I'm in state you | 我永远不会忘记 因为我在状态 我在状态你 |
| 1034 | don't break my state, right? | 不要破坏我的状态,对不对? |
| 1035 | And she goes, oh, I'm doing that thing aren't I? | 她去,哦,我这样做,不是吗? |
| 1036 | And I said, yes, you're doing that thing, right? | 我说,是的,你这样做,对不对? |
| 1037 | So I had it go to a break and I just kept working with her | 所以,我得到了一个休息, 我只是继续工作与她 |
| 1038 | my time was done and brought her back and got in a great place | 我的时间结束了,带她回来 进入一个伟大的地方 |
| 1039 | and a year later she was on Dr. | 一年后,她上了医生 |
| 1040 | Oz. | 奥兹 |
| 1041 | She lost 115 pounds. | 她减了115磅。 |
| 1042 | She had a relationship back. | 她有一段关系回来。 |
| 1043 | She'd restarted a new business, right? | 她重新开始了新的生意,对吧? |
| 1044 | So sometimes you got to do what's uncomfortable and so yes, | 所以,有时你必须做 不舒服的事情,所以是的, |
| 1045 | I'm willing to do that to have someone's life change because | 我愿意这么做是为了改变别人的生活 因为 |
| 1046 | otherwise you're just you're just making yourself feel good. | 否则你只是让你自己感觉很好。 |
| 1047 | I can make myself feel good and her feel good and go gosh, | 我可以让自己感觉好, 她感觉好,去天哪, |
| 1048 | that's so horrible. | 这太可怕了。 |
| 1049 | I understand and all those things but F that if you stood | 我理解,除了F,如果你站着 |
| 1050 | up my belief is if you stand up in my room something's caused | 我坚信如果你站在我房间 一定有什么原因 |
| 1051 | you to stand up some part of you wants transformation or you | 要么你站出来,要么你想要转变,要么你 |
| 1052 | wouldn't be in my presence and it's going to happen. | 也不会出现在我面前 事情就会发生 |
| 1053 | That's so true. | 没错 |
| 1054 | I think that's one of the saddest things about what happened | 我想这是最可悲的事情之一 发生了什么事 |
| 1055 | with sort of the PC-ness of society today is that so many | 今天社会的个人电脑化 如此之多 |
| 1056 | people feel like they can't say the thing that might actually | 人们觉得他们不能说 事情可能实际上 |
| 1057 | help because it might hurt somebody's feelings. | 帮助,因为它可能会伤害别人的感情。 |
| 1058 | Where do we get up this thing that you're not supposed to | 我们从哪里爬起来,你不该爬的 |
| 1059 | offend anybody? | 冒犯别人? |
| 1060 | Here's a question for you. | 问曰. |
| 1061 | Can people be offended by anything if they want to be? | 如果人们想成为什么人,他们会生气吗? |
| 1062 | Yes, but I don't think that should change what I do because | 是的,但我觉得这不应该改变我的工作,因为 |
| 1063 | of it. | 对 |
| 1064 | No, but I'm just saying with so anyone you can who said where | 不,我只是说,与任何人,你可以 谁说在哪里 |
| 1065 | do we come with this new magical rule? | 我们一起来这个神奇的新规则吗? |
| 1066 | You're not supposed to anybody if you're not going to fit | 你不适应别人就不应该 |
| 1067 | anybody. | 谁都行 |
| 1068 | You're not going to have any impact. | 你不会有任何影响。 |
| 1069 | You know, I think it was Emerson has said, you know, be | 你知道,我想是爱默生说,你知道, |
| 1070 | nothing do nothing say nothing and create nothing. | 无所事事,无所不言,无所不为。 |
| 1071 | That's how you can be sure you're never attacked, right? | 这样你才能确定你从未受到攻击,对吧? |
| 1072 | You know, I'm not going to do that. | 你知道,我不会这样做。 |
| 1073 | I'm here on I've got a purpose and of course some people are | 我来这里是有目的的 当然有些人是 |
| 1074 | not going to understand it but people my seminars do so they're | 无法理解,但人们 我的研讨会这样做,他们是 |
| 1075 | still there 12 hours later. | 12小时后仍然在那里 |
| 1076 | You know when they wouldn't sit for a three-hour movie there | 你知道当他们不坐在那里 3小时的电影 |
| 1077 | they won't get up to go to the bathroom because they're | 他们不会起床去洗手间,因为他们 |
| 1078 | watching real life as it's happening. | 看着现实生活 |
| 1079 | It's more dramatic than anything you could write in a script | 比任何你能用剧本写的剧本都更戏剧化 |
| 1080 | because it's real because like even today reality television | 因为它是真实的 因为像今天的电视 |
| 1081 | is bullshit. | 废话。 |
| 1082 | It's made up right people know it's fake you feel when | 它编成正确的人 知道它是假的,当你感觉 |
| 1083 | something's real and when something's real you can relate | 有些东西是真实的,当有些东西是真实的,你可以联系 |
| 1084 | to it and it calls to some part of you to be more real and | 并且它呼吁你的一部分 更真实, |
| 1085 | when we're vulnerable and we're real we can change anything | 当我们脆弱,我们是真正的, 我们可以改变任何事情 |
| 1086 | but we try to soften it, you know, like use all the language | 但是我们试图软化它, 你知道,像使用所有的语言 |
| 1087 | pretty good. | 不错 |
| 1088 | It's okay. | 没关系。 |
| 1089 | All that kind of stuff those softeners keep you from getting | 所有那种东西 那些软化器让你无法得到 |
| 1090 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}去你真正能够实现转变的地方 | |
| 1091 | It's so true. | 如此真实. |
| 1092 | Yeah, I got in trouble on the internet a few weeks ago because | 是啊,我惹麻烦 在互联网上几个星期前,因为 |
| 1093 | I said I don't think you should cry in business meetings just | 我说,我不认为你应该哭 在商务会议只是 |
| 1094 | because you can't express yourself fully. | 因为你不能充分表达自己。 |
| 1095 | Like I do I think you need to self-regulate like you could | 就像我一样 我觉得你需要自我调节 就像你可以 |
| 1096 | step out whatever but I don't think that you should have a | 出来什么,但我不认为 你应该有一个 |
| 1097 | belief that it will help you and it is totally fine. | 相信它会帮助你, 它完全罚款。 |
| 1098 | If you cry in business meetings, that is just not our society. | 如果你在商业会议上哭, 那只是不是我们的社会。 |
| 1099 | There's no crying in baseball yet. | 棒球还没哭呢 |
| 1100 | There's just not and it's happened to me a few times and | 只是没有,它发生在我身上几次, |
| 1101 | whatever if you cry, I'm not going to do you. | 不管你哭什么, 我不会做你。 |
| 1102 | I don't think it's going to help your career, but you didn't | 我不认为这会帮助你的事业, 但你没有 |
| 1103 | only couldn't cry, right? | 只是不能哭,对不对? |
| 1104 | You said that I don't think it'll help you exactly. | 你说我不觉得这对你有什么帮助 |
| 1105 | Yeah. | 对 |
| 1106 | Yeah, and so you had a tag for that. | 是的,所以你有一个标签。 |
| 1107 | Of course, of course. | 当然,当然。 |
| 1108 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 1109 | I want to play like a couple little games. | 我想玩一些游戏 |
| 1110 | One is I hear that you like this pattern interrupt exercise | 一,我听说你喜欢这个模式 中断练习 |
| 1111 | and this gives me anxiety even ask you these questions, but | 这让我焦虑 甚至问你这些问题,但 |
| 1112 | like the idea is we give you a series of negative patterns | 就像我们给你一系列负面模式 |
| 1113 | and then you say how you would break free from them. | 然后你说你会如何摆脱他们。 |
| 1114 | And what I find fascinating about you is like you kind of | 我发现你的魅力就像你 |
| 1115 | just in the moment already know the thing to say. | 就在此刻 已经知道该说什么了 |
| 1116 | I adapt it to the person, right? | 我把它适应人,对不对? |
| 1117 | You know, it has to be like I need to know what's going on, | 你知道,它必须像 我需要知道 这是怎么回事, |
| 1118 | but I'll give you some general things if you want, but what | 但我会给你一些一般的东西 如果你想,但什么 |
| 1119 | would be a pattern up for you versus me versus another | 你对我对另一个 |
| 1120 | person's different based on your model of the world, right? | 根据你的世界模式,人是不同的,对吧? |
| 1121 | Interesting. | 有意思,这很有趣 |
| 1122 | So it's like, you know, what based on what you believe | 所以,就像,你知道, 什么根据你相信 |
| 1123 | and I figured that out very quickly when I'm doing | 当我做的时候,我很快就知道了 |
| 1124 | intervention with someone and so I'll figure out what it is. | 干预别人, 所以我会找出它是什么。 |
| 1125 | If I know for example, you value significance the most | 举个例子,你最看重的是 |
| 1126 | then I might show you how by doing whatever it's costing | 然后,我可能会告诉你如何 通过做它的成本 |
| 1127 | you the significance and I'll have leverage there. | 你的重要性,我会有杠杆在那里。 |
| 1128 | If you're driven by love, then I will use love as the metaphor. | 如果你被爱驱使,那我就用爱作为比喻. |
| 1129 | If you're driven by certainty, then I'll show you how to | 如果你有把握 我会教你怎么做 |
| 1130 | take away your certainty. | 夺走你的确定性。 |
| 1131 | If you keep doing this, right? | 如果你继续这样做,对不对? |
| 1132 | So I'm looking for leverage. | 所以我在找筹码 |
| 1133 | It's not just breaking a pattern. | 这不仅仅是打破模式。 |
| 1134 | That's like a stupid technique, you know, that won't last. | 这就像一个愚蠢的技巧, 你知道,那不会持续。 |
| 1135 | It has to be tied to something. | 得与物相结. |
| 1136 | There's an inner drive about so we all have six needs human | 有个内在的驱动器 所以我们都有六个需要人类的 |
| 1137 | needs certainty. | 需要确定性。 |
| 1138 | Everybody has it. | 每个人都有 |
| 1139 | It's a survival need because certainly you can be | 这是生存的需要 因为你当然可以 |
| 1140 | comfortable because if you're not comfortable, if you're | 舒服是因为如果你不舒服的话,如果你是 |
| 1141 | in pain regularly, regular pain means damage, regular damage | 正常疼痛 正常疼痛意味着损伤 正常损伤 |
| 1142 | equals death. | 相当于死亡。 |
| 1143 | So it's the base need for human beings. | 所以这是人类的基础需要。 |
| 1144 | But if you're certain all the time, you're bored silly. | 但如果你一直很确定,你很无聊 |
| 1145 | So you need uncertainty, right? | 所以,你需要不确定,对不对? |
| 1146 | You need variety. | 你需要种类。 |
| 1147 | You need surprise. | 你需要一个惊喜。 |
| 1148 | We need significance. | 我们需要意义。 |
| 1149 | Our culture way overvalued significance today because of | 我们的文化今天被高估了 因为 |
| 1150 | social media. | 社交媒体. |
| 1151 | That's like people, you know, put on filters and pretend | 这就像人们,你知道, 穿上过滤器,假装 |
| 1152 | they're different than they are. | 他们和他们不一样 |
| 1153 | One of my buddies has his own gym and he told me this the | 我的一个朋友有自己的健身房 他告诉我 |
| 1154 | other day, I couldn't even believe it. | 有一天 我简直不敢相信 |
| 1155 | He said on a daily basis, daily basis women and sometimes | 他说,每天,每天,妇女有时 |
| 1156 | men come in who are, you know, influencers because he's got | 男人进来谁,你知道, 影响因为他有 |
| 1157 | a great gym. | 一个伟大的健身房。 |
| 1158 | They lay on all the equipment. | 他们躺在所有设备上。 |
| 1159 | They take all these pictures and they leave. | 他们拍了这些照片就离开了 |
| 1160 | They don't work out a single ounce when you're 27 to 32. | 当你27岁到32岁的时候 他们就一盎司都没用 |
| 1161 | You have to be an idiot to not be fit, right? | 你必须要是个白痴 不适合,对不对? |
| 1162 | I mean, it's like decent genetics and you can be fit, | 我的意思是,这就像 体面的遗传学,你可以适合, |
| 1163 | right? | 对吧? |
| 1164 | So but they're making money off of it. | 但他们从中赚钱 |
| 1165 | They don't do anything. | 他们什么都不做。 |
| 1166 | It's just about looking good, right? | 这只是关于看起来不错,对不对? |
| 1167 | And then using their looking good to try to make money. | 然后利用他们的长相赚钱 |
| 1168 | So, I mean, that's going to wear off for them. | 所以,我的意思是, 这是要去磨损他们。 |
| 1169 | Unfortunately, at some stage in their life, right? | 不幸的是,在他们生命的某个阶段,对不对? |
| 1170 | So it's like a significance is overvalued. | 因此,它就像一个意义被高估了. |
| 1171 | The need for connection and love is the deepest need that | 需要连接和爱 是最重要的需要 |
| 1172 | people have, but most people want certain love. | 但大多数人都想要某种爱 |
| 1173 | And so they try to control the love and kills it or they | 所以他们试图控制爱 并杀死它或他们 |
| 1174 | want significant love like it's got to be the most significant | 想要重要的爱 像它必须是最重要的 |
| 1175 | thing and then they get they start to promote who they are | 然后他们开始提升自己 |
| 1176 | more than they are because they think that's what's necessary | 不只是因为他们认为那是必要的 |
| 1177 | and they're not truthful, right? | 他们不诚实,对不对? |
| 1178 | And then we need to grow. | 然后我们需要成长。 |
| 1179 | We need to contribute. | 我们需要作出贡献。 |
| 1180 | Those are the spiritual needs. | 这是精神需要。 |
| 1181 | If you don't grow, it doesn't your relationships not growing | 如果你没有成长,那你们的关系就不会增长 |
| 1182 | your business is not growing. | 你的生意没有增长 |
| 1183 | It's dying. | 临终. |
| 1184 | There's there's that's the law of life. | 即有众生之法. |
| 1185 | Everything grows or dies. | 一切众生生长或死. |
| 1186 | But also when you grow then you have something to give what | 但当你长大了,你有东西给 |
| 1187 | makes people have a meaningful life is to feel like there's | 让人们有有意义的生活 就是感觉有 |
| 1188 | something beyond yourself because meeting your own basic | 超越你自己的东西 因为满足你自己的基本 |
| 1189 | needs any idiot can do. | 需要任何白痴可以做的。 |
| 1190 | You can lie to yourself and do that. | 你可以欺骗自己,这样做。 |
| 1191 | You know, you can work just 12 hour days and do that. | 你知道,你可以只工作12小时 并做到这一点。 |
| 1192 | You can there's a million ways you can meet those basic needs | 你可以用一百万种方法来满足这些基本需要 |
| 1193 | of certainty and uncertainty and significance and connection | 确定性和不确定性以及意义和联系 |
| 1194 | at least not so much love. | 至少没有这么多爱。 |
| 1195 | But I when I look at people I try to see what's driving them | 但是当我看着别人时 我试着看是什么驱使着他们 |
| 1196 | and then I know better which pattern of work but go ahead | 然后我知道哪一种工作模式,但继续 |
| 1197 | give me your list and I'll just give you some simplistic | 把你的名单给我 我就简单点 |
| 1198 | responses. | 回应。 |
| 1199 | Can you tell right away after meeting somebody what they're | 你能在遇到别人后马上说出来吗? |
| 1200 | one of the six is six knees. | 六者之一为六膝. |
| 1201 | I look to see what are their top two and what if you know | 我想看看什么是他们的前2 如果你知道 |
| 1202 | nothing about them. | 没有什么关于他们。 |
| 1203 | I ask questions along the way very you ask a lot of questions | 我问了很多问题 你问了很多问题 |
| 1204 | all the time. | 所有的时间。 |
| 1205 | One person counted one time. | 一人数过一次. |
| 1206 | I had a woman was suicidal and a guy in the back who was a | 我有一个女人在自杀 一个男人在后面 |
| 1207 | trainer was running down. | 教练跑下来了 |
| 1208 | I asked 167 questions before I made one statement fascinating. | 在我发表令人着迷的讲话之前,我问了167个问题。 |
| 1209 | So you ask questions to figure it out. | 所以,你问问题 找出它。 |
| 1210 | What about you have a lot of businesses now and can you tell | 那你现在有很多生意 你能说出来吗? |
| 1211 | immediately if somebody is somebody you should partner with | 如果有人是你该合作的人 |
| 1212 | or not? | 还是没有? |
| 1213 | No, I can't tell me that I can get seduced because people put | 不,我不能告诉我 我可以被诱惑 因为人们放 |
| 1214 | on their best behavior. | 他们最好的行为。 |
| 1215 | They're going on a date, right? | 他们要去约会,对吧? |
| 1216 | So I look at it this way. | 所以我这样看它。 |
| 1217 | If I'm going to evaluate somebody I have three questions | 如果我要评价一个人 我有三个问题 |
| 1218 | saying which what you would have in your business or on a | 说,你会有什么 在你的生意或一个 |
| 1219 | date. | 约会。 |
| 1220 | Can they do the job? | 他们能胜任吗? |
| 1221 | If I'm interviewing one of my companies by time it gets to | 如果我在采访我的一个公司的时候... |
| 1222 | me, of course they can do the job or I wouldn't be interviewing | 我,他们当然可以做,否则我就不面试了 |
| 1223 | them right or if you were dating can they do the job if | 他们是对的,或者如果你在约会 他们可以做这个工作,如果 |
| 1224 | you've been dating him six months? | 你和他约会六个月了? |
| 1225 | Yeah, they can do it. | 是啊,他们可以做到这一点。 |
| 1226 | More important question is can they do that job? | 更重要的问题是他们能做这个工作吗? |
| 1227 | Well, long-term, right? | 嗯,长期,对不对? |
| 1228 | Will they keep doing a great job because everyone does great | 他们会继续做一个伟大的工作 因为每个人都做得很好 |
| 1229 | job in the beginning, right? | 工作一开始,对不对? |
| 1230 | And what determines that is are their goals in alignment with | 他们的目标与 |
| 1231 | the job, right? | 工作,对不对? |
| 1232 | So I used to I remember years ago we had a woman that worked | 所以我以前记得很多年前 我们有一个女人工作 |
| 1233 | for us for five years as our personal assistant and we're | 作为我们个人助理的五年 |
| 1234 | traveling the world and we were pretty 24-7 and you become | 环游世界 我们相当24到7岁 而你变成了 |
| 1235 | part of our family, right? | 我们家的一部分,对不对? |
| 1236 | Should we love her and still do she's still a close member | 如果我们爱她,她还是很亲密的 |
| 1237 | of our family, but she fell in love with another of our | 但是她爱上了另一个我们 |
| 1238 | employees and had a child. | 雇员和有一个孩子。 |
| 1239 | And so she needs to stay put so we had to replace her. | 所以她需要留在原地 所以我们得代替她 |
| 1240 | And so we went to the LA because we're living in California | 我们去了洛杉矶 因为我们住在加州 |
| 1241 | at the time Southern California went to the LA personal | 当时南加州去洛杉矶个人 |
| 1242 | assistance Association. | 援助协会。 |
| 1243 | We went through five hires in five months and none of them | 我们五个月就雇了五个人 五个月都没有 |
| 1244 | were even close to good and they all sounded so good to start | 甚至接近好,他们都听起来很好开始 |
| 1245 | with and the one day I realized, you know, we're fishing | 有一天我意识到 我们在钓鱼 |
| 1246 | in the sewer who comes to LA to come a personal assistant. | 在下水道,谁来洛杉矶 来一个私人助理。 |
| 1247 | They don't kind of become a personal assistant so they | 他们不会成为私人助理,所以... |
| 1248 | could help people change the world help a family they come | 能够帮助人们改变世界 帮助一个他们来的家庭 |
| 1249 | because I discovered they wanted my clientele. | 因为我发现他们想要我的客户 |
| 1250 | They want to talk to Quincy Jones in those days or Anthony | 那几天他们想跟昆西·琼斯或安东尼谈 |
| 1251 | Hopkins or slice the loan or you know, whoever it was that | 霍普金斯或切 贷款或你知道, 不管是谁 |
| 1252 | I was dealing with at the time and they would treat them like | 当时我在和他们打交道 他们会把他们当成 |
| 1253 | gold and treat all my other clients and friends like they | 黄金,对待我其他的客户和朋友 |
| 1254 | were dirt right including my wife, which so did I get rid | 包括我妻子在内的污垢,我也摆脱了 |
| 1255 | of them. | 他们。 |
| 1256 | So I realized, you know, you've got to decide where you going | 所以我意识到,你知道, 你必须决定你要去哪里 |
| 1257 | to find somebody who's more aligned with the job in their | 找到一个更符合他们工作的人 |
| 1258 | nature and in their goals or I have a friend that I bumped | 自然和他们的目标,或者我有一个朋友 我撞了 |
| 1259 | into in Fiji one time. | 一次进入斐济 |
| 1260 | I have a resort in Fiji and my wife and I were flying | 我在斐济有个度假村 我妻子和我在飞 |
| 1261 | commercial most days still and we you know, you go through | 大部分的广告时间 仍然,我们 你知道,你走过 |
| 1262 | immigration. | 移民问题。 |
| 1263 | There's about five lines. | 约有五行. |
| 1264 | My I said, honey, why don't go on this line here? | 我说了,亲爱的,为什么不走这条线? |
| 1265 | It looks like it's faster. | 看起来快了 |
| 1266 | She goes, no, this line is faster. | 她走了,不,这条线更快。 |
| 1267 | Look honey, this one's actually faster. | 看,亲爱的,这个实际上更快。 |
| 1268 | She goes, I think this one's faster. | 她走了,我觉得这个更快。 |
| 1269 | I said, fine, you go in that line. | 我说,好吧,你走这条线。 |
| 1270 | I'll go in this line and we play these silly games. | 我去排队玩这些愚蠢的游戏 |
| 1271 | We're going to race. | 我们要比赛了 |
| 1272 | So we're going back and forth. | 於是前后相续. |
| 1273 | I'm ahead and she's had, you know, back and forth. | 我领先,她有, 你知道,前后。 |
| 1274 | We've been silly and this man hears my voice because I said | 我们一直很傻 这个人听到我的声音 因为我说 |
| 1275 | that on my wife and he goes Tony and I turn around look and | 我妻子和他去托尼和我转身看 |
| 1276 | this guy hadn't seen him in about nine years, brilliant | 这家伙已经九年没见他了 聪明极了 |
| 1277 | businessman. | 商人们 |
| 1278 | And I said, what are you doing here? | 我说,你在这里做什么? |
| 1279 | He goes, what are you doing here? | 他走了,你在这里做什么? |
| 1280 | I said, well, I'm here with my wife. | 我说,好吧,我在这里与我的妻子。 |
| 1281 | I have a resort here. | 我这儿有个度假村 |
| 1282 | I'm here to take a few weeks off and he said resort here and | 我是来请几周假的 他说要在这里度假 |
| 1283 | I said, yeah, I said, where are you going? | 我说,是的,我说,你要去哪里? |
| 1284 | He told me I said, oh too bad. | 他告诉我说,太糟糕了。 |
| 1285 | We're the number one resort. | 我们是第一度假村。 |
| 1286 | I said, but what are you here for? | 我说了 但你来这里干嘛? |
| 1287 | He goes, I just got married. | 他走了,我刚结婚了。 |
| 1288 | I said again, it was his third marriage. | 我再说一遍 这是他的第三次婚姻 |
| 1289 | He goes, yeah. | 他去,对。 |
| 1290 | And I said, well, where's your bride? | 我说 你的新娘呢? |
| 1291 | She was standing next to Sage and they were doing the same | 她站在Sage旁边 他们也是 |
| 1292 | thing we were doing. | 我们当时在做的事 |
| 1293 | So, you know, you're in the line. | 所以,你知道,你是在排队。 |
| 1294 | I said, so how long have you known her? | 我说,你认识她多久了? |
| 1295 | I'm talking about seven, eight years. | 我说的是七八年 |
| 1296 | He goes, yeah, probably just a little bit of last time. | 他走了,是啊,也许只是一点点 上次。 |
| 1297 | I saw her probably seven years. | 我可能见过她七年了 |
| 1298 | So you're seven years. | 你才7岁 |
| 1299 | You're just not getting married. | 你只是没有结婚。 |
| 1300 | I said, how come he goes, she wore me down and I thought | 我说,为什么他去, 她穿我下来,我想 |
| 1301 | so then quickly I'm trying to change the conversation. | 所以我想尽快改变谈话 |
| 1302 | I had him like, well, are you going to have kids? | 我让他喜欢,嗯, 你会有孩子吗? |
| 1303 | He goes, Tony, you know, I've had two fans for this. | 他去,托尼,你知道,我已经有两个粉丝 这一点。 |
| 1304 | I went through all of that. | 我经历了这一切。 |
| 1305 | I lost all my money twice. | 我失去了所有的钱两次。 |
| 1306 | We are not. | 我们不是。 |
| 1307 | I said, well, I looked across and this woman's like 29 | 我说,我过去看,这个女人29岁 |
| 1308 | years old. | 岁. |
| 1309 | He's 48. | 他48岁了 |
| 1310 | I said, have you had a discussion about this? | 我说,你有讨论过吗? |
| 1311 | He goes, yes, that was my deal. | 他去,是的,这是我的交易。 |
| 1312 | If we get married, no kids. | 如果我们结婚,没有孩子。 |
| 1313 | I'm thinking, oh my God, he's in for a rough ride. | 我想,哦,我的上帝, 他是一个艰难的旅程。 |
| 1314 | So we get to the front. | 所以我们去前面 |
| 1315 | We introduce each other's spouses and they go off and I | 我们介绍对方的配偶 然后他们就走了 |
| 1316 | look at my wife. | 看着我的妻子。 |
| 1317 | She looks at me and I go, they're in trouble. | 她看着我,我走了,他们有麻烦了。 |
| 1318 | She goes, oh, you have no idea. | 她走了,哦,你不知道吗? |
| 1319 | I said, I think I do. | 我说,我想我做到了。 |
| 1320 | What'd you learn? | 你学到了什么? |
| 1321 | She told him, yeah, he thinks we're not going to have a | 她告诉他,是的,他认为我们不会有一个 |
| 1322 | kids bowl have within two years and they did and got | 孩子们的碗 在两年内,他们做到了,得到了 |
| 1323 | divorced for a third time. | 第三次离婚了 |
| 1324 | Problem is they didn't have their goals aligned. | 问题是他们的目标没有一致 |
| 1325 | You have to have all your goals like but a major issues | 你必须有你的全部目标 像一个重大问题 |
| 1326 | like a child or not. | 像个孩子一样 |
| 1327 | It's got to be aligned or you're not going to sustain | 一定要对齐 否则你无法维持 |
| 1328 | that relationship. | 那种关系。 |
| 1329 | So whether it's a business or whether I use business | 所以,不管它是生意 还是我用生意 |
| 1330 | because it's easier to modulate in your head, right or | 因为它更容易在你的脑中调节,对或 |
| 1331 | a relationship. | 一个关系。 |
| 1332 | It's the critical element there. | 这是关键元素。 |
| 1333 | And then the last part is is that a right team fit in a | 最后一部分是 一个合适的团队 |
| 1334 | business. | 业务。 |
| 1335 | You can relate to this. | 你可以跟这个有关 |
| 1336 | I'm sure because all those businesses you run, you know, | 我敢肯定,因为所有的业务 你经营,你知道, |
| 1337 | you got somebody's a superstar but the wrong team fit. | 你得到了一个人的超级明星 但错误的团队适合。 |
| 1338 | They rub against everybody else. | 他们与其他人擦擦。 |
| 1339 | They piss everybody else off and maybe they like your top | 他们惹恼了其他人 也许他们喜欢你的顶部 |
| 1340 | salesperson or your top marketing person, your top | 推销员或你的顶级推销员,你的顶级 |
| 1341 | whatever and you don't want to get rid of them because man | 随便你,你不想摆脱他们 因为男人 |
| 1342 | they bring in a lot of revenue. | 他们带来了很多收入。 |
| 1343 | But unless you do they'll destroy your business. | 但是除非你这么做 否则他们会毁了你的生意 |
| 1344 | They've always said, you know, it's not the person you | 他们总是说,你知道, 这不是你的人 |
| 1345 | failed to hire. | 未请人. |
| 1346 | It's the person you failed to fire that destroys your | 是你失火的人毁了你 |
| 1347 | business. | 业务。 |
| 1348 | And so I'm a big believer in testing. | 所以我很相信测试 |
| 1349 | Now one of the things I do with partnerships today just | 现在,我所做的一件事 今天与伙伴关系只是 |
| 1350 | as a little clue. | 作为一个小线索。 |
| 1351 | I showed this Patrick bit David the other day and I didn't | 那天我让帕特里克咬了大卫 我没有 |
| 1352 | realize how important he thought it was. | 知道他觉得有多重要 |
| 1353 | I was like, I guess it really is. | 我当时想,我想真的 |
| 1354 | He said because I've been through so many rough ones. | 他说,因为我经历了这么多 粗糙的。 |
| 1355 | I said I was too but what I do is a full background check | 我说我也是 但我所做的是全面的背景调查 |
| 1356 | on everyone now and it saves me enormous amount. | 现在每个人都有,这能让我节省很多 |
| 1357 | I told him up front listen, I'm open book. | 我告诉他前面听,我是开放的书。 |
| 1358 | Please do a full background check everything on me that | 请做一个完整的背景调查 关于我的一切 |
| 1359 | you want to check but I don't go into any partnerships | 你想看看,但我不加入任何合伙关系 |
| 1360 | with a full background check. | 进行完整的背景调查。 |
| 1361 | It's not out of disrespect. | 不出于不敬. |
| 1362 | It's out of respect so that we know and if there's anything | 这是出于尊重 所以我们知道 如果有什么 |
| 1363 | that you want to share with us or anything comes up that | 你想和我们分享什么的 |
| 1364 | you think is inappropriate, you can share it with me. | 你觉得不合适 你可以和我分享 |
| 1365 | I'll give you the report so forth. | 报如是言. |
| 1366 | Well the panic you see in some people's eyes then the | 你从一些人的眼里看到的恐慌 |
| 1367 | tightening in some people and then the people like no, | 收紧一些人,然后人们喜欢不, |
| 1368 | it's totally fine and then you get the report and then | 完全没事,然后你得到报告,然后 |
| 1369 | they never call you back. | 他们从不给你回电话 |
| 1370 | I mean I have saved myself so much money time and energy | 我的意思是,我已经节省了 这么多的时间和精力 |
| 1371 | by having that one investment in a long-term relationship | 在长期关系中进行这一投资 |
| 1372 | up front. | 站在前面,我们走 |
| 1373 | So smart. | 如此聪明. |
| 1374 | I wish I would have done that earlier on although I think | 我希望我早点这样做 虽然我想 |
| 1375 | some of the biggest partnership mistakes I made were cheap | 我最大的合作失误是便宜的 |
| 1376 | and retrospect like they're painful but you're like I | 回想起来就像他们痛苦 但你像我一样 |
| 1377 | needed to lose that money. | 需要失去那些钱。 |
| 1378 | I needed to lose that relationship or I would have kept | 我需要失去那段关系 否则我会一直保持 |
| 1379 | having the same pattern. | 有相同的模式。 |
| 1380 | Yeah, there's always a benefit but as the years go by you | 是啊,总是有好处的,但随着岁月的流逝 |
| 1381 | probably less tolerant of having those things happen. | 可能不太容忍发生这种事 |
| 1382 | Well, it's heartbreaking I think because the partnerships, | 嗯,这是令人心碎的 我想因为伙伴关系, |
| 1383 | you know, I remember one in particular. | 我特别记得一个 |
| 1384 | I thought we were buddies, you know, I was like, yeah, | 我以为我们是朋友, 你知道,我很喜欢,是的, |
| 1385 | I'm like I met your baby. | 我好像遇见了你的孩子 |
| 1386 | I thought we were best buds and you know, there was one | 我以为我们是最好的芽 你知道,有一个 |
| 1387 | instance where they kind of targeted me. | 比如说他们以我为目标 |
| 1388 | I was on the internet and I didn't realize there's this | 我上网时不知道有这个 |
| 1389 | type of human that you know, I guess there are predators | 人类的种类,你知道, 我想有掠食者 |
| 1390 | everywhere. | 到处都是 |
| 1391 | And so then I had to realize where am I short in my | 于是我不得不意识到我的短处 |
| 1392 | analysis of people? | 对人的分析? |
| 1393 | Yes. | 对 |
| 1394 | And how did I sell myself on what I wanted instead of what | 我如何出卖自己 而不是想要什么 |
| 1395 | was in front of me? | 就在我面前吗? |
| 1396 | Most of my most important skills came from some early | 我最重要的技能大多来自早期 |
| 1397 | mistakes with people one of which I had two partners and I | 错误的人,其中之一 我有两个伙伴和我 |
| 1398 | brought them on board and made a deal with them. | 带他们上船 和他们达成协议 |
| 1399 | That was ridiculously good for them, but it was based still | 这对他们来说是荒谬的,但是它还是基于 |
| 1400 | on some results and they absolutely stole $758,000. | 他们偷走了75万8千元 |
| 1401 | $250 of the $758,000 put me in debt. | 七万五千八千块中,有二百五十块欠我债 |
| 1402 | $758,000 white company was doing a million. | 7万5千8千元的白人公司在做一百万 |
| 1403 | So not billions a million, right? | 所以不是亿万,对不对? |
| 1404 | So it was like all the money I knew and I've been on the | 所以,就像所有的钱 我知道,我一直在 |
| 1405 | road 225 days and everybody told me I have to go bankrupt | 225天,大家都说我要破产 |
| 1406 | and I wanted to kill this guy. | 我想杀了这家伙 |
| 1407 | He fled to Mexico and I realized while I'm chasing him | 他逃到墨西哥,我在追他的时候意识到 |
| 1408 | in Mexico, my business is going to go under. | 在墨西哥,我的生意会破产 |
| 1409 | So I went to Fiji and I was like, I was so angry at him, | 于是我去了斐济,我很喜欢,我很生气他, |
| 1410 | but I said no, who I'm most angry with is me because how | 但我说不,我最生气的是我,因为 |
| 1411 | did I not see this, right? | 我没看见吧? |
| 1412 | I don't care how good he presented. | 我不管他表现的多好 |
| 1413 | Was it about human behavior? | 是关于人类的行为吗? |
| 1414 | I don't fully understand and I was second day in Fiji in | 我不太明白 我第二天在斐济 |
| 1415 | this sweaty little hut and and I went to sleep with that | 这个汗流满面的小屋 我睡了那个 |
| 1416 | thought just burning thought I woke up the next morning | 以为我第二天早上醒来 |
| 1417 | and I wrote literally for six straight hours in filled up | 我写了整整六个小时 |
| 1418 | three journals all these distinctions. | 三个杂志的这些区别。 |
| 1419 | I mean, I created my day with destiny program because I | 我的意思是,我创造了我的一天 命运程序 因为我 |
| 1420 | did it to me. | 对我做了 |
| 1421 | That's my favorite program. | 这是我最喜欢的节目 |
| 1422 | It's the only seminar I've been through because I did it | 这是我参加的唯一一次研讨会 |
| 1423 | for me changed everything rewired me so that you know, | 因为我改变了一切 重新连接我,让你知道, |
| 1424 | sometimes you have values that pull you apart, you know, | 有时候你有价值 把你分开,你知道, |
| 1425 | like you want to please everybody and you are to me | 就像你想取悦所有人,你对我 |
| 1426 | as successful as you can you want to be totally honest. | 尽可能成功,你可以 你想完全诚实。 |
| 1427 | You want everybody totally happy, right? | 你想让每个人都快乐 对吧? |
| 1428 | And I learned how to align my values so that I was pulled | 我学会了如何调整我的价值观 这样我被拉 |
| 1429 | instead of having to push or being pulled in different | 而不是不得不推 或被拉到不同的 |
| 1430 | directions. | 前进方向 |
| 1431 | And it was the most first time in my life. | 这是我人生中第一次 |
| 1432 | I felt calm and everybody around me is like you're so | 我感觉冷静,我周围的人都像你这样 |
| 1433 | different. | 不一样 |
| 1434 | It was like a rewiring for myself. | 这就像一个复线我自己。 |
| 1435 | So I agree with you. | 所以我同意你的观点。 |
| 1436 | Sometimes your biggest mistakes if you learn from them are | 有时候你最大的错误 如果你从中吸取教训 |
| 1437 | the most important ones, but I don't want to make the same | 最重要的,但我不想做同样的 |
| 1438 | mistakes. | 错误。 |
| 1439 | And so I look for systems to help with that as well. | 所以我寻找系统来帮助我们。 |
| 1440 | You have a program coming up in January. | 你有一个程序即将在一月份。 |
| 1441 | That's time to rise summit. | 是时候登顶了 |
| 1442 | I've never been to this one before. | 我从来没有去过这个以前。 |
| 1443 | Yes, I want to hear about it and I also want to hear about | 是的,我想听 关于它,我还想听 |
| 1444 | how you prepare for these shows that you do because I hear | 你如何准备这些 显示你这样做,因为我听说 |
| 1445 | you obsessively prepare even to this day for the shows you | 你一直为今天的演出做准备 |
| 1446 | put on. | 带上 |
| 1447 | Is that true? | 是吗? |
| 1448 | That's true. | 没错 |
| 1449 | I just I believe in overloading my brain because I never know | 我只是相信过量的大脑 因为我不知道 |
| 1450 | what's going to happen like because I don't just do a rote | 会发生什么,因为我不只是做一个旋转 |
| 1451 | talk. | 说话 |
| 1452 | I sometimes I'll prepare everything and then I go out into | 有时候我会准备一切 然后出去 |
| 1453 | the audience and I feel different things. | 观众和我感觉不一样 |
| 1454 | I see people I see where they are and I have to adjust also | 我看到有人我看见他们在哪里,我也必须调整 |
| 1455 | Could you imagine this will be my 49th year I'm about to | 你能想象这将会是我的第49年吗? |
| 1456 | begin. | 开始 |
| 1457 | So I would be bored out of my brain if I was just doing the | 所以,我会无聊出我的大脑 如果我只是做 |
| 1458 | exact same thing. | 同样的事情。 |
| 1459 | I know there's certain things that work and what to do but I | 我知道有些事情是可行的 做什么,但我 |
| 1460 | have to be able to adapt to feel alive and do art and art is | 必须能够适应生活 做艺术和艺术 |
| 1461 | something that's different every time. | 每次都不一样的东西 |
| 1462 | It's not the same and it's also what challenges me. | 这不一样 也是挑战我的原因 |
| 1463 | So I feed my brain everything I can and then I trust when I | 所以我会尽我所能养活我的大脑 然后我相信当我 |
| 1464 | step on the stage what will be necessary is there. | 在舞台上将有必要的 |
| 1465 | How do you feed it? | 如何供养. |
| 1466 | Like what does that look like? | 看起来像什么? |
| 1467 | Well, for example my date with destiny I have people fill out | 举个例子,我和命运的约会... ...我让别人填表 |
| 1468 | about a 20 page interview report. | 大约20页的采访报告。 |
| 1469 | There's 5,000 of them and I read them for a week. | 有五千人 我读了一个星期 |
| 1470 | I'm not everybody does it by the way, you know, somebody | 我不是每个人都这样做,你知道,某人 |
| 1471 | wait to the last minute so I you know, don't turn in at all. | 等待最后一分钟,所以你知道, 不要自首。 |
| 1472 | It's only your destiny. | 这只是你的命运。 |
| 1473 | Don't worry about it. | 别着急 |
| 1474 | But what it gives me is the patterns in the room. | 但是它给了我的是房间的图案 |
| 1475 | I may not remember every name every story, but I remember | 我可能不记得每一个名字 每个故事,但我记得 |
| 1476 | what the patterns are and then when somebody stands up even | 模式是什么 然后当有人站起来 |
| 1477 | it wasn't that person. | 不是那个人 |
| 1478 | I know if I can work with this person and help them transform | 我知道如果我能和这个人合作 帮助他们改造 |
| 1479 | I could be affecting 50 or a hundred people simultaneously | 我可能会同时影响50或100人 |
| 1480 | right then I consciously know about that's how I load my | 我自觉知道,我就是这样装的 |
| 1481 | brain. | 大脑。 |
| 1482 | I also brainstorm out different examples or tools. | 我还集思广益 不同的例子或工具。 |
| 1483 | I'm always coming up with something new in terms of insight | 我总是想出一些新的见解 |
| 1484 | or strategy and then but the thing you're talking about is | 或策略,然后,但你说的是 |
| 1485 | a really unique event. | 一个非常独特的事件。 |
| 1486 | I started it because of COVID because I was used to doing | 我开始是因为COVID 因为我习惯做 |
| 1487 | stadiums right and in 2020 the governor of California team | 体育场对 2020年加州州长队 |
| 1488 | calls me up. | 打给我 |
| 1489 | I know him well, not a big fan. | 我了解他,不是个大粉丝 |
| 1490 | Newsome打电话给你。 | |
| 1491 | Well Newsome had his team call me and then he wrote me | Newsome让他的团队打电话给我 然后他写信给我 |
| 1492 | directly. | 直接说 |
| 1493 | He's upset about me telling the world that he canceled the | 他为我告诉世界他取消了 |
| 1494 | event which he did right. | 事情是他做的对的。 |
| 1495 | Said you're not making me look good. | 说你没让我好看 |
| 1496 | He said like that's you. | 他说那是你 |
| 1497 | You're a nice man. | 你是个好人 |
| 1498 | I like you personally, but I don't agree with your policies | 我喜欢你个人 但我不同意你的政策 |
| 1499 | right. | 对 |
| 1500 | This is ridiculous. | 这太荒谬了 |
| 1501 | So we had an event there for 14,000 people and two weeks | 我们在那里举行了14000人和两周的活动 |
| 1502 | before he sends out the message to me from his team and says | 在他从他的团队给我发信息之前 |
| 1503 | you only put a hundred people in the stadium are new rules. | 你只把一百人放进体育场 是新的规则。 |
| 1504 | I said I said to his people I said this is absurd. | 我说,我对他的人说,这是荒谬的。 |
| 1505 | You know, we can't put a hundred people in a stadium. | 我们不能把一百个人放在体育场里 |
| 1506 | What are we going to do with the other, you know, 13,000, | 我们要怎么对付另一个,你知道的,13000, |
| 1507 | you know, 900 people and so I said screw them. | 你知道,900人 所以我说去他们的。 |
| 1508 | I'm going to move this thing to Vegas. | 我要把这玩意搬到拉斯维加斯 |
| 1509 | They'll never shut down Vegas. | 他们永远不会关闭拉斯维加斯。 |
| 1510 | Right. | 对 |
| 1511 | So two weeks before we moved 14,000 people to Vegas and | 两周前我们把14000人搬到拉斯维加斯 |
| 1512 | they shut down Vegas. | 他们关闭了拉斯维加斯。 |
| 1513 | Right. | 对 |
| 1514 | So then I'm like, oh my God, I mean I need to help these | 所以我想,哦,我的上帝, 我的意思是我需要帮助这些 |
| 1515 | people. | 人们 |
| 1516 | The time they need us most is during this time because | 他们最需要我们的时间就是这段时间 因为 |
| 1517 | everybody's depressed and upset and I don't know what's | 每个人的沮丧和不安 我不知道是什么 |
| 1518 | going to happen. | 会发生的。 |
| 1519 | So I said, okay, let's move it to Texas. | 所以我说,好吧,我们把它搬到德州去。 |
| 1520 | Texas is its own country. | 德州是它自己的国家. |
| 1521 | I met the governor there. | 我在那里见过州长 |
| 1522 | I don't know him personally really well, but I've met him. | 我不太了解他 但我见过他 |
| 1523 | He says he's not going to shut down seven days before they | 他说他不会在七天前关闭 |
| 1524 | shut down Vegas. | 关闭拉斯维加斯。 |
| 1525 | We rented a big church 14,000 people. | 我们租了14,000人大教堂 |
| 1526 | So then I was like, I'm just relentless. | 所以我就想,我只是无情。 |
| 1527 | I'm like, okay, well they allow you to put 10 people in | 我很喜欢,好吧,他们允许你 10人英寸 |
| 1528 | a movie theater. | 一个电影院。 |
| 1529 | I said, okay, we'll do 1400 movie theaters local for people | 我说,好吧,我们会做1400电影院 当地的人 |
| 1530 | that have to travel a big screens or big sound at least, | 至少要走一个大屏幕或大声音, |
| 1531 | you know, 10 people interacting with each other and they shut | 你知道,10个人互相交流 他们关闭了 |
| 1532 | down the movie theaters. | 在电影院里 |
| 1533 | So I was like, okay, we're going to build a studio and my CFO | 所以我想,好吧, 我们要建立一个工作室 和我的CFO |
| 1534 | was like, you're going to build a studio? | 你要建一个工作室? |
| 1535 | Like we lost a hundred million dollars in six months because | 就像我们损失了一亿元 在六个月内,因为 |
| 1536 | I didn't want to fire anybody because I mean, you know, we | 我不想解雇任何人,因为,你知道,我们 |
| 1537 | kept saying we're 10 dead 10 more days to stop the whatever | 不停地说,我们死了10个 10多天停止什么 |
| 1538 | the language was these those days and I was like, so I said | 语言是这些日子,我就像, 所以我说 |
| 1539 | we can't wait. | 我们等不及了 |
| 1540 | So I bought a building because I couldn't build it fast enough | 所以我买了一栋楼 因为我建得不够快 |
| 1541 | 50 foot high ceilings. | 50英尺高的天花板。 |
| 1542 | I built 22 foot high LED screens made him 50 feet around me | 我建了22英尺高的LED屏幕 使他在我周围50英尺 |
| 1543 | and got 0.67 resolution highest resolution world. | 并获得了0.67分辨率最高的世界。 |
| 1544 | I could see more in your face than I can even see now because | 我看得比你现在还清楚 |
| 1545 | you're this much bigger, right? | 你这样大,对不对? |
| 1546 | And then I called Eric you on the founder of zoom and said | 然后我打电话给Eric 你对缩放创始人说 |
| 1547 | 1200 people is not going to work. | 1200人不会工作。 |
| 1548 | I need 25,000 people. | 我需要两万五千人 |
| 1549 | He's a fan of mine. | 他是我的粉丝。 |
| 1550 | So he changed the tech so we could do it and then I hired | 所以他改了技术,这样我们就可以做,然后我雇了 |
| 1551 | all these people. | 所有这些人。 |
| 1552 | I all said we can't do this in nine weeks. | и常弧иぃ9琍戳内暗 |
| 1553 | I said, well then you're not working here and I just kept | 我说了,那你就不在这工作了,我一直 |
| 1554 | going through people. | 经历人们。 |
| 1555 | We literally the night before putting it all together and we | 我们拼凑在一起的前一晚 |
| 1556 | got up. | 起来 |
| 1557 | We did this event and we had people from all over the earth | 我们做了这个活动,我们有来自世界各地的人 |
| 1558 | that participated and I had 193 countries there and we had | 我在那里有193个国家 |
| 1559 | over 25,000 people normally we have 15,000. | 正常情况下我们有15,000人 |
| 1560 | So it's even more people because they could do it from | 因此,它甚至更多的人 因为他们可以做到这一点从 |
| 1561 | different places in the world. | 世界上不同的地方。 |
| 1562 | They wanted to so then I was like, okay, I want to I want | 他们想这样,然后我想,好吧,我想 |
| 1563 | to reach everybody. | 联系所有人 |
| 1564 | Let's let's do an event for free. | 让我们做一个免费的活动。 |
| 1565 | Let's do one event for three days. | 让我们做一个活动 三天。 |
| 1566 | Not just an hour thing or two. | 不止一个小时的事 |
| 1567 | Let's do like two and a half hours a day for three days | 我们每天做两个半小时 三天 |
| 1568 | enough to give people a real transformation. | 足够让人们真正转变 |
| 1569 | We'll do it right at the beginning of the year. | 明初正显. |
| 1570 | It's kind of a comeback challenge. | 这是一种复出的挑战。 |
| 1571 | I called it back then it's now called time to rise and the | 我调用它回到现在 它叫时间升起和 |
| 1572 | comeback story is the best story of your life down you | 回来的故事是你一生中最好的故事 |
| 1573 | down. | 下来 |
| 1574 | Everything's not working. | 一切法无功用. |
| 1575 | That's what inspires people. | 即能激励众生. |
| 1576 | This is the comeback time and we put it together. | 现在是时候了,我们把它拼凑在一起。 |
| 1577 | We had a million people show up million one and now we've | 我们有一百万人出现,现在我们已经 |
| 1578 | done it for seven straight years. | 干过七年了 |
| 1579 | I think this will be last year. | 我想这将是去年。 |
| 1580 | I'll do it. | 我来 |
| 1581 | I'm just my schedule so full. | 我只是我的日程安排这么满。 |
| 1582 | I would do one last one and we're going to do it for three | 我会做最后一个,我们要做三个 |
| 1583 | days and people from 193 countries of 10 every country | 10个国家的193个国家 |
| 1584 | in the world and we go for like I say two and a half hours | 在世界上,我们去 像我说的两个半小时 |
| 1585 | and we help you not just make a New Year's resolution, | 而我们帮助你 不只是通过新年决议, |
| 1586 | which nobody keeps right because they don't have a plan. | 没有人坚持正确 因为他们没有计划 |
| 1587 | They don't have a strategy anything else. | 他们没有别的策略 |
| 1588 | We help you create the breakthroughs that are necessary | 我们帮你创造必要的突破 |
| 1589 | and you become part of a really cool community because we | 你成为了一个非常酷的社区 因为我们 |
| 1590 | have a Facebook community and so in the middle of the | 有个脸书社区 在中间 |
| 1591 | night I get people an assignment and they make these | 晚上,我得到一个任务 他们做了这些 |
| 1592 | videos from 193 countries of 10 every country in the | 10个国家的193个国家的录像 |
| 1593 | And you see people transforming from all over the earth, every age group, every direction, | 你看到人们从地球各地 每一个年龄段 每一个方向 |
| 1594 | every country, every language. | 每一个国家,每一个语言。 |
| 1595 | So I love that aspect of it. | 所以我喜欢这个方面。 |
| 1596 | And there's no charge for it. | 亦无收费. |
| 1597 | Literally, it's free. | 从字面上来说,它是免费的。 |
| 1598 | So if people go to time to rise summit, time to rise summit.com, time to rise summit.com, | 所以,如果人们去时间 上升峰会, 上升峰会.com, 上升峰会.com, |
| 1599 | they can register for it and they can attend it. | 他们可以注册和参加。 |
| 1600 | And you can think of it like going to a great two and a half hour movie three days in a | 你可以想到它像去 一个伟大的两个半小时 电影三天 |
| 1601 | row. | 排队 |
| 1602 | But instead of just being entertained, at the end of your life is really transformed. | 但是,与其只是被娱乐, 在你生命的尽头, 是真的转变。 |
| 1603 | And then, you know, we've done so much value for people, then some people decide they want | 然后,你知道,我们做了这么多 价值的人, 然后一些人决定他们想要 |
| 1604 | to do other things with us, which is wonderful, but there's no requirement in any way, shape | 与我们做其他的事情, 这是美妙的, 但没有任何要求 以任何方式,形状 |
| 1605 | or form. | 或形式。 |
| 1606 | And it's been my way to give back. | 这一直是我回馈的方式 |
| 1607 | It was desperately needed during COVID. | 在COVID期间是迫切需要的. |
| 1608 | And then we just kept the momentum for it for now. | 然后,我们只是保持了它的势头 现在。 |
| 1609 | Do I get claps at the event? | 我能在活动中鼓掌吗? |
| 1610 | The Tony Robbins claps? | 托尼・罗宾斯拍手? |
| 1611 | You do, don't you? | 你这样做,不是吗? |
| 1612 | Because it's my favorite part of the event. | 因为这是我最喜欢的活动 |
| 1613 | Well, I can't wait to come to this next one. | 我迫不及待想参加下一场比赛 |
| 1614 | I can't wait to see what this next evolution looks like. | 我迫不及待地想看看接下来的进化过程是什么样子. |
| 1615 | Well, that's the thing about it. | 事情就是这样 |
| 1616 | You don't have to come to it. | 不须来. |
| 1617 | It's digital. | 腾讯数字. |
| 1618 | So you can do it from my couch. | 这样你就可以在我的沙发上做。 |
| 1619 | Yeah, you can do it from your couch. | 是啊,你可以从你的沙发上做到这一点。 |
| 1620 | You can do it from your office. | 你可以在办公室做 |
| 1621 | We start here at 10 in the morning. | 我们早上十点开始 |
| 1622 | It's midnight in what do you call it, Sydney, Australia, for example, and they go each day | 以澳大利亚悉尼为例,现在是午夜,他们每天都去 |
| 1623 | all the way through it as well. | 整个过程也一样。 |
| 1624 | So three or four in the morning. | 故晨三四时. |
| 1625 | So you'll be joined by people all over the earth and you have a cool community of people | 所以,你将会加入 各地的人 你有一个很酷的人社区 |
| 1626 | that all have something coming. | 都来了 |
| 1627 | They want more. | 他们想要更多。 |
| 1628 | They're not willing to settle. | 他们不愿意和解 |
| 1629 | If you want more for your life, if you want it's time to rise and take more out of your | 如果你想要更多的生活, 如果你想它的时间 升起,取出更多的你的 |
| 1630 | life, you don't want to have next year be the same as last year, then you need some | 生活,你不想有明年 与去年一样,然后你需要一些 |
| 1631 | tools, you need some inspiration, you need some community, and you need some days where | 工具,你需要一些灵感, 你需要一些社区, 你需要一些日子在那里 |
| 1632 | it's actually going to happen. | 它实际上是要发生。 |
| 1633 | Like you said, put it on the calendar and make it lock. | 就像你说的,把它放在日历上,让它锁上。 |
| 1634 | So it's coming up January 29th through the 31st. | 因此1月29日到31日的比赛开始. |
| 1635 | January 29th through the 31st and again, if they go to timetorise.summit.com, get yourself | 1月29日到31日再过一次,如果他们去时间上升. Summit.com,请自便 |
| 1636 | signed up and lock it in your calendar and I encourage people, bring your family, bring | 我鼓励人们 带来你的家人 |
| 1637 | your friends or your co-workers at the office and do it. | 你的朋友或同事 办公室并做。 |
| 1638 | It'll be an experience you won't forget. | 这将是你不会忘记的经验。 |
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