（中英附文稿）想做的事总在等别人认可？把人生的决定权拿回来【
字幕摘录
| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:00 | Gary I'm on my way. | 盖瑞,我马上到 |
| 0:01 | Today on the Mel Robbins podcast. | 今天在梅尔・罗宾斯播客。 |
| 0:04 | Gary! | 盖瑞! |
| 0:05 | A conversation that's 12 years | 12年的谈话 |
| 0:08 | in the making. | 在制作时。 |
| 0:09 | Do you understand who you consume, what you consume, is who you become? | 你知道你消费的是谁吗? 你消费的是谁? |
| 0:13 | Gary V is | 盖瑞五世是 |
| 0:14 | the person who inspired me to start putting myself out there and online. | 启发我开始把自己放在那里和网上的人 |
| 0:18 | My personal mentor, | 我的私人导师, |
| 0:20 | Gary Vaynerchuk, 在这里。 |
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| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | Gary I'm on my way. | 盖瑞,我马上到 |
| 2 | Today on the Mel Robbins podcast. | 今天在梅尔・罗宾斯播客。 |
| 3 | Gary! | 盖瑞! |
| 4 | A conversation that's 12 years | 12年的谈话 |
| 5 | in the making. | 在制作时。 |
| 6 | Do you understand who you consume, what you consume, is who you become? | 你知道你消费的是谁吗? 你消费的是谁? |
| 7 | Gary V is | 盖瑞五世是 |
| 8 | the person who inspired me to start putting myself out there and online. | 启发我开始把自己放在那里和网上的人 |
| 9 | My personal mentor, | 我的私人导师, |
| 10 | Gary Vaynerchuk, 在这里。 | |
| 11 | It's time to stop making excuses. | 是时候停止找借口了 |
| 12 | I promise you, whatever you're scared of | 我保证,无论你害怕什么 |
| 13 | is far less scary than 30 years from now telling some random stranger dot dot dot dot dot. | 远比30年后的恐怖 告诉某个陌生人点点点 |
| 14 | And change your life right now. | 现在改变你的生活 |
| 15 | Kudos to everyone who's listening. | 工藤给听的人 |
| 16 | You chose to consume some | 你选择消费一些 |
| 17 | positivity. | 阳性. |
| 18 | This is very important, everyone. | 这很重要,各位 |
| 19 | I feel like I'm onto one here, so lock in. | 感觉好像我在这里,所以锁定。 |
| 20 | Please help me welcome the one, the only, Gary Vaynerchuk to the Mel Robbins podcast. | 请帮助我欢迎这个,唯一的, 加里・维纳楚克 到梅尔・罗宾斯播客。 |
| 21 | I'm so happy to be here, Mel. | 我很高兴在这里,梅尔。 |
| 22 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
| 23 | You have been an inspiration to me | 你给我留下了灵感 |
| 24 | for 12 years. | 12年来。 |
| 25 | I would not be where I am today without you. | 没有你,我不会成为今天的我 |
| 26 | And so where I want to start, | 所以我想从哪里开始 |
| 27 | because I'm so thrilled that the person that's with us right now is going to get to be infused | 因为我太激动了 现在和我们在一起的人 将会被注入 |
| 28 | with your wisdom, your energy, the lessons from your life, the way you think about life. | 用你的智慧,你的能量, 从你的生活中吸取的教训, 你思考生活的方式。 |
| 29 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}听话的人会如何改变生活 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}如果他们把一切事情都放在心上 | |
| 30 | we're about to talk about today? | 我们今天要谈谈吗? |
| 31 | They'll become dramatically lighter. | 它们会变得很轻 |
| 32 | We are incredibly capable | 我们的能力超强 |
| 33 | of making mountains out of molehills. | 从摩尔山上造山 |
| 34 | And we focus on dumb shit until real shit happens. | 我们专注于愚蠢的狗屎 直到真正的狗屎发生。 |
| 35 | And then we recalibrate. | 然后我们调整。 |
| 36 | I prefer the person that's listening right now enjoy life or understand | 我更喜欢现在在听的人 享受生活或理解 |
| 37 | life before something bad happens in it. | 生命在它发生坏事之前。 |
| 38 | And I'm very focused on that. | 我非常专注于这个。 |
| 39 | And that's a lot of | 这是很多 |
| 40 | what my content of my life is about. | 我生命中的内容是什么 |
| 41 | Well, we're going to get into how you actually do that. | 嗯,我们要去了解 你如何实际做到这一点。 |
| 42 | But | 不过 |
| 43 | before we get into that, I want the person listening to understand a little bit about | 在我们开始之前 我想让听者了解一下 |
| 44 | how your life has shaped you. | 你的人生是如何塑造你的 |
| 45 | You know, what's interesting is I said before you're coming into | 你知道,有趣的是,我在你进来之前说过 |
| 46 | the team, I said, I've heard you for a decade say, I'm going to buy the Jets. | 我说,我听你们说了十年了 我要买喷气机 |
| 47 | I'm going to | 我会 |
| 48 | buy the Jets. | 买喷气机。 |
| 49 | And I said to my team of almost 50 people, how many people here think he's going | 我对我将近50人的团队说, 有多少人认为他要去 |
| 50 | to do it? | 要做到这一点? |
| 51 | Every hand went up. | 每举手. |
| 52 | And what's interesting is that I don't know if you will or won't, | 有趣的是 我不知道你会不会 |
| 53 | but what is powerful is that your belief that you might is something that other people can catch. | 但强大的是,你相信 你可能会是别人可以抓住的东西。 |
| 54 | What's even more interesting on a personal level is the joy of chasing it is dramatically | 更有趣的是 追逐它的乐趣是巨大的 |
| 55 | more delicious than achieving it. | 比达到它更美味。 |
| 56 | Say more about that. | 再说一遍 |
| 57 | You know, somewhere around my early 20s, | 你知道,在我的20多岁左右, |
| 58 | I think I realized, oh, shoot, I like the chase more than the getting it. | 我想我意识到,哦,射击, 我喜欢追逐胜过得到它。 |
| 59 | I like the practice | 我喜欢练习 |
| 60 | more than the trophy. | 胜过奖杯 |
| 61 | I don't live for outside validation. | 我不住外面的验证。 |
| 62 | I didn't use that term, but I realized | 我没有用这个词,但我意识到 |
| 63 | very early in my life, oh, I'm different. | 在我生命的很早, 哦,我不一样。 |
| 64 | By the time I was 25, I had gone through being an | 25岁的时候,我经历了一个 |
| 65 | immigrant that couldn't speak English misunderstood, being a ridiculously bad student, | 移民不能说英语 误解, 作为一个荒谬的坏学生, |
| 66 | being misunderstood by parents of your friends and teachers, innovating in my dad's liquor store, | 被你朋友和老师的父母误解了 在我爸的酒店里创新 |
| 67 | things that people told my dad would ruin his business if he let me do it. | 人们告诉我爸爸的事 如果他让我做 就会毁了他的生意 |
| 68 | By the time I was | 当我是 |
| 69 | 25, I was told by the world that I was wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong. | 25,我被世界告诉,我错了,错了,错了,错了,错了. |
| 70 | And everything was | 这一切是 |
| 71 | right, right, right, right, right. | 对,对,对,对,对 |
| 72 | And that made it very easy to live the last 25 years because | 这使得它非常容易 生活过去25年,因为 |
| 73 | I had it figured out early. | 我早知道会这样 |
| 74 | And I say that from a place of gratitude, not audacity. | 我从一个感恩的地方说,不是胆怯。 |
| 75 | I hate the word | 我讨厌这个词 |
| 76 | luck because I believe the world likes to weaponize it as an excuse to why they're not doing their | 幸运是因为我相信世界喜欢武器化 以此为借口 他们为什么不做他们的 |
| 77 | thing. | 东西。 |
| 78 | But it is not lost on me. | 但它并没有丢失在我身上。 |
| 79 | The serendipity that got me out of the Soviet Union, got me to | 使我离开苏联的死神 让我 |
| 80 | the US, gave me the mother that I had, gave me competitive spirit, but also just pure love in | 美国,给了我我拥有的母亲, 给了我竞争的精神, 但也只是纯粹的爱在 |
| 81 | my heart. | 我的心脏。 |
| 82 | I am 50 now. | 我现在50岁了 |
| 83 | I've watched many young children, nephews, children, nieces, friends, | 我看过很多年幼的孩子,侄子,孩子,侄女,朋友, |
| 84 | children. | 孩子们 |
| 85 | Some kids are just born with some shit. | 有些孩子生来就有些狗屎 |
| 86 | And then if they're fortunate enough that those | 如果幸运的是... |
| 87 | ingredients are cooked properly in the proper restaurant, well then shit gets crazy. | 配料在适当的餐厅里做得很好 然后就发疯了 |
| 88 | But here's | 但这里 |
| 89 | what I'm intoxicated by. | 我被什么所迷恋 |
| 90 | Tell me. | 告诉我 |
| 91 | That if the person watching right now did not have all the | 如果现在看的人没有全部 |
| 92 | best ingredients, DNA, did not have the greatest chef and sous chef parents, were not served in | 最好的配方,DNA,没有最好的厨师 和Sous厨师的父母,没有在 |
| 93 | the best restaurant, the neighborhoods and environments they grew up in. | 最好的餐厅, 邻居和他们成长的环境。 |
| 94 | What I'm intoxicated | 我醉了的东西 |
| 95 | by, why I exist in public, is my belief is that people are obnoxiously more capable of changing | 我为什么在公众面前存在 是因为我相信人们更能改变 |
| 96 | than they realize. | 比他们意识到。 |
| 97 | And it's actually shockingly simple and the hardest thing in the world. | 这其实是令人震惊的简单 也是世界上最困难的事情 |
| 98 | Shockingly simple and the hardest thing in the world. | 令人震惊的简单和最难的事情 在世界上。 |
| 99 | There were so many things that you just | 有这么多的事情,你只是 |
| 100 | said that I want to make sure as you're listening, you really heard it. | 说我想确定你听的时候 你真的听到了 |
| 101 | Because when you started to | 因为当你开始 |
| 102 | the cadence of misunderstood, misunderstood, misunderstood, misunderstood, the majority of | 误解、误解、误解、误解 |
| 103 | people who feel misunderstood start to withdraw and start to say something's wrong. | 觉得被误解的人开始退出 并开始说出错 |
| 104 | So for the | 所以,对于 |
| 105 | person who's listening right now that feels like I suck at school, I just got fired from a job, | 现在在听的人 感觉我在学校很烂, 我刚被开除了工作, |
| 106 | I want to be, I'm so different from my family. | 我想成为,我和家人不一样 |
| 107 | I can't find somebody to date that's interested | 我找不到一个有兴趣的人 |
| 108 | in me or like I'm misunderstood, misunderstood. | 或像我被误解,误解。 |
| 109 | And it is like dragging around a lead weight. | 这就像拖着铅重量。 |
| 110 | How do you flip that sense that the world doesn't get you into something that propels you? | 这个世界不会让你陷入 推动你的东西之中 |
| 111 | By not wanting the world to get you. | 不想让世界得到你 |
| 112 | Say more. | 更说. |
| 113 | You know, I'm just confused why you need your | 你知道,我只是困惑 为什么你需要你的 |
| 114 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}为什么你需要你母亲 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}你需要你母亲来理解你 | |
| 115 | why you need your fucking coworker to fully understand you. | 为什么你需要你他妈的同事 来充分理解你。 |
| 116 | The answer to your question, | 回答你的问题 |
| 117 | Mel, is being comfortable with being misunderstood by realizing someone's subjective opinion of you | 梅尔,被别人误解了很自在 因为有人对你的主观看法 |
| 118 | who is not you can never fully know you, not even the people that are closest to you. | 他不是你永远不能完全了解你, 甚至连最接近你的人。 |
| 119 | So how could a stranger in the comments of an Instagram post have a prayer of knowing who the | 因此,在Instagram文章的评论中,一个陌生人怎么会祈祷知道谁是 |
| 120 | fuck you are? | 你他妈的是? |
| 121 | By the way, Mel Mafia, that's what I call you guys. | 顺便说一下,梅尔黑手党,这就是我叫你们。 |
| 122 | I apologize for the cursing. | 我为诅咒道歉 |
| 123 | I'm | и琌 |
| 124 | a little bit of a Jersey boy. | 一点点的泽西男孩。 |
| 125 | I'll try to rein it in because I know occasionally it allows someone | 我会试着控制它 因为我知道偶尔它允许某人 |
| 126 | not to hear me. | 不听从我。 |
| 127 | I appreciate you saying that because there are a lot of people that listen | 我很感谢你这么说 因为有很多人听 |
| 128 | to the Carruth Littles. | 敬卡鲁斯小队 |
| 129 | However, it is important that you also acknowledge that | 不过,你们也必须承认: |
| 130 | that is just who you are. | 这就是你是谁。 |
| 131 | Comma, I'm incredibly empathetic to the people that have historically | 逗号,我对历史上的人非常的同情 |
| 132 | not consumed my content or not followed me because if they in their life genuinely believe that | 没有消耗我的内容 或没有跟踪我 因为如果他们在生活中真的相信 |
| 133 | cursing is atrocious and a sign of lack of intelligence or whatever they may think it is, | 咒骂是残忍的,是缺乏智慧或他们认为的什么迹象, |
| 134 | I have the humility and the empathy and compassion to understand that. | 我有谦卑和同情心和同情心来理解这一点。 |
| 135 | It's funny that I called it | 这很有趣,我叫它 |
| 136 | I tend not to, but I think it comes out of just the deep respect I have for you and what you're | 我倾向于不,但我觉得它来自 只是深深的尊敬 我对你,你是什么 |
| 137 | building and kind of like, I know I'm different and you have incredible people on here and I | 建筑之类的,我知道我不同 而你有不可思议的人在这里和我 |
| 138 | know just like you are the exact human that was built to break through for someone. | 你知道就像你一样 就是为某人而造的人 |
| 139 | I know that | и笵 |
| 140 | I'm the exact human to break through for a lot of people right now and I worry about the seven or | 我是一个人 突破很多人 现在,我担心的七或 |
| 141 | nine that won't go much further because of the cursing yet I'm the human on earth that is about | 9个因为咒骂而不会走得更远 而我是地球上的人 |
| 142 | to say the sentence or two that fundamentally changes their perspective and the only thing | 说一句两句 根本改变了他们的观点 也改变了唯一的东西 |
| 143 | life is is how you see it. | 生活是怎样看待它的。 |
| 144 | There is no life. | 没有生命 |
| 145 | There is no real world. | 没有真实的世界。 |
| 146 | There's just your perception. | 这就是你的看法。 |
| 147 | There's just what you bring to the table. | 有你带在桌子上的东西 |
| 148 | You are either cynical because you are deeply insecure | 你要么玩世不恭 因为你很不安全 |
| 149 | or you are deeply optimistic because you're incredibly purely confident. | 或者你非常乐观 因为你非常自信 |
| 150 | You have your | 你拥有你的 |
| 151 | life experiences. | 生活经历。 |
| 152 | You have the things you were told. | 你有你被告知的事情。 |
| 153 | Most people that are listening right now, | 大部分现在在听的人 |
| 154 | Mal, are scared. | 马尔,害怕了 |
| 155 | This is something we need to talk about. | 这事我们得谈谈 |
| 156 | So when somebody who is listening to you | 所以当有人在听你的话 |
| 157 | say that the biggest problem right now is that people are scared. | 说现在最大的问题是 人们害怕。 |
| 158 | There is so much fear and | 有这么多的恐惧和 |
| 159 | there are plenty of reasons in life to be afraid, but allowing it to dominate what you do next | 生活中有很多理由可以害怕 但允许它主导你接下来的工作 |
| 160 | is really the skill that somebody can learn to flip from cynicism, there's nothing I can do, | 真正的技巧是别人可以学会从愤世嫉俗中翻转, 我无能为力, |
| 161 | to there's always something I can do. | 我总能做点什么 |
| 162 | Well, there's unlimited reasons to be optimistic. | 嗯,有无限的理由 乐观。 |
| 163 | Talk to the person who's cynical right now and who wants to be more optimistic, | 和那些玩世不恭的人谈谈 想更乐观的人 |
| 164 | who wants to have courage. | 谁想有勇气。 |
| 165 | Stop listening to politicians. | 别再听政客的话了 |
| 166 | Thanks for having me, everyone. | 谢谢你邀请我,各位 |
| 167 | That's it, Mal. | 就是这样,玛尔。 |
| 168 | There is nothing else. | 没有别的了。 |
| 169 | Do you understand who you consume, what you consume, | 你们知道吗?你们所消费的和所消费的, |
| 170 | is who you become? | 你变成什么人了? |
| 171 | One of the reasons I schlepped here is because I want to honor you being a human | 我来这里的原因之一 是因为我想纪念你成为人类 |
| 172 | being who I know has fundamentally made it better for people. | 成为我认识的人 从根本上使它为人更好。 |
| 173 | I do not understand how people continue | 我不明白人们怎么继续 |
| 174 | to be confused. | 被迷惑着 |
| 175 | There are two ways to build the biggest building in town. | 有两种方法可以建造镇上最大的建筑. |
| 176 | One is to just be | 一个就是 |
| 177 | talented enough to build the biggest building in town and you admire everyone else's buildings, | 才华横溢 在镇上建造了最大的建筑 而你欣赏其他人的建筑 |
| 178 | even the ones that are even bigger than yours, comma the choice that most people take, | 即使是比你大的人 也意味着大多数人的选择 |
| 179 | which is they build a crappy little building and they spend 100% of their time trying to | 他们建造了一座烂小楼 他们花100%的时间试图 |
| 180 | tear down everybody else's building. | 拆掉别人的楼 |
| 181 | This is shockingly hard and wildly easy. | 这是令人震惊的艰难和疯狂的简单。 |
| 182 | Algorithms. | 算术. |
| 183 | Ready? | 准备好了吗? |
| 184 | Yes. | 对 |
| 185 | Gary, you don't get it. | 盖瑞,你不明白 |
| 186 | You always talk about social media. | 你总是谈论社交媒体。 |
| 187 | I'm so mad at you. | 我对你太生气了 |
| 188 | It's my algorithm. | 这是我的算法。 |
| 189 | Watch this, everyone. | 大家看这个 |
| 190 | You want a task at home right now? | 你现在想在家工作吗? |
| 191 | 打开您的Instagram 或 | |
| 192 | negativity, manscaping, whatever you got. | 消极主义,人脸,无论你有什么。 |
| 193 | Literally click the buttons on the top right | 直接单击右上方的按钮 |
| 194 | 在Instagram或TikTok右下角 说不感兴趣,继续做 | |
| 195 | for one day and then go to search and type in joy enter and then like five or six things that pop up | 一天,然后去搜索 和输入的快乐 进入,然后像五或六件事 弹出 |
| 196 | and then go back to search and type in happy and get some content and like and follow a couple | 然后回到寻找和打字 在快乐,得到一些内容 喜欢和跟随夫妇 |
| 197 | things and this is very important. | 这很重要 |
| 198 | Then go to search and put in Gary VEE and follow that account | 然后去搜索,放进Gary VEE 跟踪那个账户 |
| 199 | and on and on, my friends, the algorithm did not change you. | 不停地,我的朋友,算法并没有改变你。 |
| 200 | The algorithm exposed you. | 算法让你暴露了 |
| 201 | Oh, | 瓳 |
| 202 | it's so true. | 这是如此真实的。 |
| 203 | Oh, I know, Mel. | 我知道,梅尔 |
| 204 | For somebody who's listening, because I do think that you're right | 对于在听的人, 因为我确实认为你是对的 |
| 205 | and most people are in their heads spending all kinds of time either tearing themselves down | 大多数人在脑子里花各种时间 要么把自己撕下来 |
| 206 | and coming up with reasons why they can't. | 并提出他们不能的理由 |
| 207 | Correct. | 没错 |
| 208 | Or looking around at other people | 或环顾他人 |
| 209 | and using it as evidence to see why they can't. | 并用它作为证据 看看为什么他们不能。 |
| 210 | That's right. | 没错 |
| 211 | Or spending a lot of time tearing | 或者花很多时间撕裂 |
| 212 | other people down instead of like spending the same amount of time lifting themselves up. | 其他人倒下 而不是像花同样多的时间 提高自己。 |
| 213 | How if somebody who's listening starts to have a moment of reckoning where you're like, you know, | 如果有人在听 开始有 片刻的考虑 你喜欢,你知道, |
| 214 | I'm kind of sick of this version of myself. | 我有点讨厌这个版本的自己。 |
| 215 | I'm kind of sick of feeling like I'm stuck. | 我有点厌倦了觉得自己被困住了 |
| 216 | I'm sick | 我病了,我有点病了 |
| 217 | of being jealous of everyone else. | 嫉妒别人 |
| 218 | I am living in a lot of fear. | 我生活在恐惧之中 |
| 219 | Nobody's going to do this for me, | 没有人会为我这样做, |
| 220 | but nobody's stopping me from doing what I'm capable of doing. | 但没人能阻止我做我能做的事 |
| 221 | I'm the one in my own way. | 以我法门者. |
| 222 | I'm using excuses at scale. | 我用借口在规模上。 |
| 223 | I continuously go back to my mom fucked up when I was eight. | 我八岁时就一直回到我妈那 |
| 224 | No shit, | 不会吧? |
| 225 | Sally. | 萨莉 |
| 226 | You're grown now. | 你现在长大了 |
| 227 | You're 34. | 你是34岁。 |
| 228 | The answer is action. | 答案是行动。 |
| 229 | Therapy. | 治疗。 |
| 230 | Therapy is a good one. | 治疗是好的。 |
| 231 | Instead of buying dumb shit to cover up your hurt, why don't you go invest it into therapy? | 而不是买些蠢货来掩盖你的伤痛 为什么不去投资治疗? |
| 232 | Do you know how many people have BMWs that actually needed to go buy therapy sessions | 你知道有多少人有宝马 需要去买治疗课 |
| 233 | with that money? | 用那些钱? |
| 234 | Please do not use materialistic things to show the world you're good when we all | 请不要用唯物主义的东西 来向世界展示,当我们都好 |
| 235 | know you're not. | 你知道你没有。 |
| 236 | Right, Mel? | 对吧,梅尔? |
| 237 | Yeah. | 对 |
| 238 | You know, do you know why there's such a big consumer world? | 你知道为什么有这么大的消费世界吗? |
| 239 | Like people buy stuff. | 就像人们买东西一样 |
| 240 | It's because we use it as proxies to disguise behind the makeup of our | 因为我们用它来伪装我们的化妆品 |
| 241 | materialistic things to not allow you to see what's actually happening. | 唯物主义的东西 不允许你看到 实际发生。 |
| 242 | We have a pandemic of keeping | 我们有大流行的保存 |
| 243 | up with the Joneses, not because of social media and we see other people with stuff, | 与琼斯一家,不是因为社交媒体 而我们看到其他人的东西, |
| 244 | but because modern parenting left accountability out of the ingredients of the last 30, 40 years. | 但因为现代的养育方式 将责任从过去30,40年的成分中分离出来 |
| 245 | 说 about. | |
| 246 | You have two kids. | 你有两个孩子。 |
| 247 | Yes. | 对 |
| 248 | And you're also, for as public as you are, | 你也一样,因为你作为一个公众, |
| 249 | I really respect the fact that you're very private about your personal life. | 我非常尊重你对私人生活很隐私的事实 |
| 250 | Outrageously. | 太过分了 |
| 251 | And I would love to have you talk about this | 我希望你能谈谈这个 |
| 252 | in the lane of accountability because there is a lot of blaming your parents, blaming the | 在责任的路上,因为有很多 责怪你的父母,责怪 |
| 253 | circumstances and they're very real circumstances that are very unfair. | 环境是真实的,非常不公平 |
| 254 | Correct. | 没错 |
| 255 | There's horrible | 有可怕的东西 |
| 256 | things that happen to people. | 发生在人们身上的事 |
| 257 | Every day. | 每日无时. |
| 258 | I do not believe everything happens for a reason. | 我不相信一切发生是有原因的。 |
| 259 | I believe | и獺 |
| 260 | shit happens. | 狗屎发生。 |
| 261 | A lot of it's unfair, but you have to find a reason to move on and to grow. | 虽然很多是不公平的,但必须找到继续前进和成长的理由. |
| 262 | Because | 因为 |
| 263 | other people who've also been in that situation have found a way. | 其他人也曾有过这种情况 已经找到了办法。 |
| 264 | And so the question becomes, | 所以问题就变成 |
| 265 | it is not impossible. | 这并非不可能。 |
| 266 | Yes. | 对 |
| 267 | Like that's important. | 这很重要 |
| 268 | Like to your point, there are a lot of atrocious | 就像你的观点, 有很多残暴的 |
| 269 | things. | 东西。 |
| 270 | What about the fact that 800 million people, roughly 10% of the world right now, | 那事实上8亿人口, 大约现在世界的10%, |
| 271 | cannot get a glass of clean water as we sit here in this room? | 我们坐在这房间 就不能喝杯净水吗? |
| 272 | Like perspective is confused out | 感觉很混乱 |
| 273 | there. | 这里 |
| 274 | There are people that have real alcoholic parents, abandoned by parents, foster home, | 有些人有真正的酗酒的父母, 被父母遗弃,寄养家庭, |
| 275 | other scary stuff. | 其他可怕的东西。 |
| 276 | The problem is it's like, it is. | 问题是它就像,它是。 |
| 277 | I mean, my mother is the most optimistic, | 我的意思是,我的母亲是最乐观的, |
| 278 | joyful, warm human on earth. | 快乐,温暖的人类在地球上。 |
| 279 | Here's my mother's story in a nutshell. | 这是我妈妈的故事 |
| 280 | She lost her mother at five. | 她五岁失去母亲了 |
| 281 | Her mother died when she was five years old. | 她的母亲在5岁时去世. |
| 282 | Her father went to jail for 10 years when she was nine, | 她父亲在她九岁时入狱十年 |
| 283 | 10, because the Soviet Union is a really fucked up place. | 10,因为苏联是一个非常糟糕的地方。 |
| 284 | For the things that I get put on Mel's | 为了我得到的东西 梅尔的 |
| 285 | podcast for, my grandfather went to jail for. | 播客,我爷爷坐牢。 |
| 286 | Like real shit, right? | 像真正的狗屎,对不对? |
| 287 | I mean, that's a tough fucking | 我的意思是,这是一个艰难的他妈的 |
| 288 | hand, you know? | 手,你知道吗? |
| 289 | And yet, incredible capacity to choose optimism and is more joyful and optimistic | 然而,令人难以置信的能力 选择乐观 并且更快乐和乐观 |
| 290 | than anyone in our extended families who all, quote unquote, had it better. | 比我们大家庭中的任何人都好 引用不言自明的话 |
| 291 | And by the way, | 顺便说一句 |
| 292 | as atrocious as that was for my mom, there are thousands listening now that had it even worse. | 就像对我妈妈一样残忍 现在有成千上万的人在听 更糟糕的是 |
| 293 | I get that. | 我懂了,我懂你说什么 I get that. |
| 294 | The question becomes, when is it not your parents' fault anymore? | 问题是,什么时候不再是你父母的错? |
| 295 | Let's start with that | 先说 |
| 296 | one. | 一个 |
| 297 | Mel, I'm actually asking you, let's flip it. | 梅尔,我实际上问你, 让我们翻转它。 |
| 298 | This is the Gary V Audio experience. | 这是Gary V音频体验。 |
| 299 | At what age, | 几岁 |
| 300 | roughly, you're just one woman. | 大约,你只是一个女人。 |
| 301 | You just have one subjective opinion. | 你只有一个主观观点。 |
| 302 | There's no right or wrong | 没有对错 |
| 303 | answer to this. | 回答这个问题。 |
| 304 | But let's talk, sister, talk to me like we're just walking in the backyard. | 但是,让我们谈谈,姐姐, 和我说话像我们只是走在后院。 |
| 305 | Okay, we're on a walk. | 好吧,我们在散步。 |
| 306 | Just for fun. | 只是为了好玩 |
| 307 | A general number. | 一总号. |
| 308 | This is just a world, obviously incredibly circumstantial, | 这仅仅是一个世界, 显然是令人难以置信的间接, |
| 309 | everyone's life, but for fun, at what age, Mel, do you believe that it is no longer | 每个人的生活,但为了好玩, 在什么年龄,梅尔,你相信 它不再是 |
| 310 | fun or interesting to just keep blaming your parents? | 继续责怪你父母很有趣还是有趣? |
| 311 | At what age are you able to stand on | 你几岁才能站出来 |
| 312 | your own two feet and choose who you surround yourself with, what you actually believe, | 你自己的两只脚 选择你身边的人 你相信什么 |
| 313 | how you limit your interactions with those parents or any other person that pushes negative | 你如何限制你与那些父母 或任何其他人的交流 推向负面 |
| 314 | propaganda 24-7? | 24 -7宣传? |
| 315 | At what age are you a big girl now? | 你现在多大年纪了? |
| 316 | Well, I wouldn't say it's an age. | 好吧,我不会说这是一个年龄。 |
| 317 | I say it's the moment you decide to pay for your life. | 我说这是你决定付出代价的时刻 |
| 318 | There is a point of view that has | 有一种观点认为, |
| 319 | been very helpful to me, which is understanding that people can only give you what they have to | 对我非常有帮助,我明白 人们只能给你他们必须的东西 |
| 320 | give and people can only provide you with the parenting experience largely based on what was | 给予和人们只能提供 你的父母经历 基本上基于什么 |
| 321 | done to them. | 对他们做的。 |
| 322 | There's some real evil people out there, but there's also a lot of people that do | 外面有一些真正的邪恶的人 但也有很多人这样做 |
| 323 | bad things that don't know what they're doing. | 坏事无明. |
| 324 | And we've got to get into a place of what's an | 我们必须进入一个地方 什么是 |
| 325 | inconvenience or a darn it versus a catastrophic, I mean, what people now deem as my parent fucked | 我意思是,人们现在认为是 我的父母性交。 |
| 326 | me up only 40 years ago was like a skinned knee. | 我40年前才起床 就像一个皮肤的膝盖。 |
| 327 | I mean, there are people who blame their parents | 我的意思是,有人谁责怪他们的父母 |
| 328 | for things that were inconceivable. | 对于不可思议的事情。 |
| 329 | I mean, like missing one football game. | 我的意思是,像错过一个足球比赛。 |
| 330 | Well, you missed the big game where I threw three touchdowns. | 好吧,你错过了大游戏 我扔了三次触地得分。 |
| 331 | Here's the thing. | 事情是这样的 |
| 332 | Your parents did the job that they did. | 你的父母做了他们的工作。 |
| 333 | And at some point, you have to take | 在某些时候,你必须接受 |
| 334 | that as a fact and decide what are you going to do next? | 事实上,你决定下一步要做什么? |
| 335 | That's it. | 就这样 |
| 336 | And are you going to look back | 你会回头看吗? |
| 337 | with judgment or are you going to look back with understanding and a bit of compassion | 带着判断力 还是你会带着理解和同情心回头看 |
| 338 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}然后做个成年人 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}或者原谅和讨论 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}或者有些界限 | |
| 339 | around it? | 绕着它? |
| 340 | Do you know what my opening line was to VCon3, my big conference? | 你知道我的开通电话是VCON3吗? |
| 341 | Literally walked on | 直走着走着 |
| 342 | stage, 10,000 people opening line, F your grandparents. | 舞台,一万人开通,F你的祖父母。 |
| 343 | What do you mean F your grandparents? | 你说F是你的祖父母是什么意思? |
| 344 | That was my opening line. | 那是我的开场白 |
| 345 | Why? | 为什么? |
| 346 | Because I am so tired of people being so mad at their mom and dad | 因为我厌倦了别人这么生父母的气 |
| 347 | without taking a good look at what their grandparents did to mom and dad. | 没有仔细看 他们的祖父母对父母做了什么。 |
| 348 | We love little | 我们爱小 |
| 349 | granny because she gives you cookies and give you five bucks. | 奶奶因为她给你饼干 给你五块钱 |
| 350 | But meanwhile, Grammy screwed up | 但与此同时,格莱美搞砸了 |
| 351 | your mom so good that you've spent your whole life blaming your mom. | 你妈妈那么好 你一辈子都在责怪你妈妈 |
| 352 | Like at what point are | 喜欢在什么时候 |
| 353 | you able to understand it's not their fault either? | 你明白这不是他们的错吗? |
| 354 | And now Mel, let's transition. | 现在,梅尔,让我们过渡。 |
| 355 | That's | 这是 |
| 356 | the bigger question. | 更大的问题。 |
| 357 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 358 | What are you doing by verbalizing to everyone in your world that | 你在干嘛,对世界的每个人说 |
| 359 | this happened? | 发生这种事? |
| 360 | You're keeping it alive. | 令其不灭. |
| 361 | Yeah. | 对 |
| 362 | What are you asking for? | 你问什么? |
| 363 | You're asking for pity. | 汝求怜悯. |
| 364 | You're asking for compassion. | 汝等求慈悲为体. |
| 365 | You're asking for enablement. | 你要求授权。 |
| 366 | You're creating a framework of | 你创造了一个框架 |
| 367 | entitlement. | 应享权利。 |
| 368 | You're using it as a weapon to justify why not. | 你用它作为武器来证明为什么不 |
| 369 | Instead of going all in on, | 而不是一直这样 |
| 370 | I'm just not motivated enough right now and I've got to do this or that. | 我只是现在不够积极 我必须做这个或者那个 |
| 371 | Like once you go fully | 碞钩Чǐ妓 |
| 372 | accountable, when you love yourself all the way, but you also have the humility to understand | 负责,当你一直爱着自己, 但你也有谦卑的理解 |
| 373 | you're a human being and you just might suck at a lot of things. | 你是一个人,你只是可能吸 很多东西。 |
| 374 | And that's super duper okay. | 这是超级杜伯好。 |
| 375 | Once you go there, it gets real light. | 一旦你去那里, 它得到真正的光。 |
| 376 | I think what you're saying, if I give it back to you, | 我想你在说什么 如果我还给你 |
| 377 | is that what you see in what's holding a lot of people back is so much time and energy spent | 你所看到的 支撑着很多人的 时间和精力 |
| 378 | looking backwards and blaming versus standing in the present moment going, this happened. | 回头看 责备和站立 此刻,这种情况发生了。 |
| 379 | It had | 它曾经 |
| 380 | this impact on me and what am I going to do next? | 这对我的影响 接下来我该怎么办? |
| 381 | What am I going to take responsibility for | 我该承担什么责任? |
| 382 | moving forward? | 前进? |
| 383 | Now that I've acknowledged what's happened, I get it, but I am an adult now | 既然我承认了 事情的发生,我明白了 但我现在已经成年了 |
| 384 | and it is time for me to figure out what do I want with my life? | 现在该由我来决定我要什么? |
| 385 | And that's why I get so excited. | 所以我才这么兴奋 |
| 386 | People make fun of me about how I think about age. | 人们嘲笑我如何看待年龄 |
| 387 | Yeah. | 对 |
| 388 | As you see, people probably razz me | 如你所见,人们可能会把我惹毛 |
| 389 | on the internet like, Gary, I'm 90. | 在互联网上像,加里,我90。 |
| 390 | And I'm like, you have time. | 而我喜欢,你有时间。 |
| 391 | They like these skits. | 他们喜欢这些滑板。 |
| 392 | What excites me about that is I do believe people somewhere between 25 and 45 in that kind of window | 令我兴奋的是,我确实相信25到45岁的人 |
| 393 | can get to this place where they're exhausted of pointing fingers. | 可以到达这个地方,在那里,他们疲倦 指指。 |
| 394 | It took me to about 47. | 我花了约47。 |
| 395 | Actually, it was 41 when I woke up and realized nobody is coming to save | 事实上,我醒来时是41岁 发现没人会来救我们 |
| 396 | my ass from this mess that I'm in. | 我的屁股从这个乱七八糟的我。 |
| 397 | Not my husband, not my parents. | 不是我丈夫,也不是我父母的错 |
| 398 | It is nobody else's | 这是别人的 |
| 399 | responsibility. | 责任。 |
| 400 | We're in a gigantic hole and since I don't see anybody else coming with a | 我们在一个巨大的洞里, 因为我看不到任何人 带着一个 |
| 401 | ladder, I better stop bitching and feeling sorry for myself and get to work. | 梯子,我最好不要发牢骚 为自己感到难过 并开始工作。 |
| 402 | And when you go from | 当你离开 |
| 403 | even we, and I assume you're bringing your husband into that, right? | 就连我们,我猜你也会把你丈夫扯进来,对吧? |
| 404 | Yes. | 对 |
| 405 | And you go into I. I have | 而你进入我。 我见过 |
| 406 | to do this. | 这样做。 |
| 407 | We is good because that's only two. | 我们很好,因为那只是两个。 |
| 408 | That's better than, but when you go to I. I. | 这比,但当你去我。 我当然知道 I. |
| 409 | It's not a we, it's me. | 这不是我们,是我。 |
| 410 | But I need all the people I'm talking to right now on the camera. | 但我需要所有的人 我现在在镜头上说话。 |
| 411 | I'm like, | 我很喜欢, |
| 412 | even if your spouse is the one who's like, let's make this invest, like, what are you going to | 即使你的配偶是喜欢的, 让我们做这个投资,喜欢,你会 |
| 413 | blame him or her forever? | 永远怪他还是她? |
| 414 | Well, I think that's a problem in a lot of relationships. | 嗯,我认为这是一个问题 在很多的关系。 |
| 415 | No shit. | ⊿闽玒 |
| 416 | Why do you think I'm bringing it up? | 你觉得我为什么要提这个? |
| 417 | I'm going to say it again. | 复说'言. |
| 418 | If your husband made you buy that | 如果你丈夫让你买的 |
| 419 | third home in South Carolina and it was a flop, or if your wife made you invest in a stock that, | 南卡罗来纳州的第三家房子 是个烂摊子 或者如果你妻子逼你投资股票 |
| 420 | what are you going to just razz her in perpetuity? | 你打算怎么永远折磨她? |
| 421 | What are you going to tell Johnny for the rest of | 你要怎么跟强尼说呢? |
| 422 | your life? | 你的生活吗? |
| 423 | Our life would be better if you didn't make us buy that fucking house in Miami. | 我们的生活会更好 如果你没有让我们买 那该死的房子在迈阿密。 |
| 424 | It's not real. | 非实相. |
| 425 | Mel, it's not real. | 梅尔 这不是真的 |
| 426 | So what do you do? | 那你怎么办? |
| 427 | Because what you're basically saying is | 因为你的意思是 |
| 428 | you have no idea how much time and energy you spend blaming other people for the state you're | 你不知道你花了多少时间和精力 责怪别人你的状况 |
| 429 | in in your life. | 在你的生活中。 。 。 |
| 430 | Whether it's people who have what you want, or people that had a lot more | 无论是有你想要的东西的人 还是有更多 |
| 431 | privilege and had a better start than you did, or it's your parents for the things that they didn't | 特权和有一个更好的开始 比你,或者这是你的父母 他们没有的东西 |
| 432 | do or that they did do, or it's your spouse because they're not showing up a certain way | 或者是你的配偶 因为他们没有某种方式出现 |
| 433 | and you're missing the single most important factor in your life that changes everything, | 你错过了人生中最重要的因素 改变一切 |
| 434 | which is you. | 这是你。 |
| 435 | Envy and jealousy is driving me crazy. | 嫉妒和嫉妒让我发疯 |
| 436 | Why have you chosen, friends, | 为什么你们选择了,朋友们, |
| 437 | to look at the three people on earth that are in their 20s that are trillionaires, | 看看地球上20多亿富翁的三个人 |
| 438 | or who've spent a million dollars on plastic surgery to look incredible? | 或谁花了一百万 整形手术 看起来不可思议? |
| 439 | Why are you choosing | 你为什么选择 |
| 440 | to shape yourself up to them? | 让自己适应他们? |
| 441 | Don't you know there's 8.3 billion other people | 你不知道还有83亿人吗? |
| 442 | that you could shape yourself up to? | 你能塑造自己吗? |
| 443 | And I'm going to say something nice and slow. | 且道我今当说妙法慢法. |
| 444 | If you are capable to be listening to the Mel Robbins podcast, if you are right now capable | 如果你能听Mel Robbins播客的话 如果你现在有能力的话 |
| 445 | of having the time, whether you're on a treadmill, walking the damn dog, | 无论你在跑步机上走狗 |
| 446 | driving toward, if you are a human, by the way, that is maybe potentially doing it on a phone | 开车去,如果你是人类, 顺便说一句,这也许是潜在的 做在电话上 |
| 447 | that costs several hundred dollars, if you're even a human that is hearing these words, | 如果你是听这些话的人类 |
| 448 | you have it much better than most of the entire world. | 你比全世界大多数人都强多了 |
| 449 | So how about that? | 怎么样? |
| 450 | How about not, | 不如这样吧, |
| 451 | wah, wah, I'm not Timothy Chalamagne. | 我不是蒂莫西・查拉曼 |
| 452 | How about 8.3 billion people? | 83亿人怎么样? |
| 453 | How about 800 million people | 8亿人怎么样? |
| 454 | can't get clean water? | 不能得到干净的水? |
| 455 | How about all the truth of the world? | 世间一切真言如何. |
| 456 | How about you do have it better | 怎么样,你有它更好 |
| 457 | than your grandma had it? | 比你奶奶的还好? |
| 458 | How about real shit? | 怎么样真正的狗屎? |
| 459 | How about gratitude? | 感谢怎么样? |
| 460 | Enough of this envy. | 别再羡慕我了 |
| 461 | There's | 还有 |
| 462 | nothing to do with you and, you know anything about their actual real life. | 和你无关 而且 你知道他们的真实生活 |
| 463 | So true. | 没错 |
| 464 | We put | 我们放 |
| 465 | all these people on a pedestal. | 这些人在台阶上 |
| 466 | And meanwhile, that person is drinking a bottle of bourbon tonight | 同时 那个人今晚喝一瓶波本酒 |
| 467 | because they can't deal with the pressure of the world's judgment because their emotional foundation | 因为他们无法应对世界判断的压力 因为他们的情感基础 |
| 468 | isn't good enough. | 不够好。 |
| 469 | When are we going to lead into gratitude? | 我们什么时候才能感恩? |
| 470 | Do you think gratitude is the way you | 你觉得感激是你的方式 |
| 471 | flip from blame? | 从责怪中翻转? |
| 472 | Yes. | 对 |
| 473 | Because I think a lot of people are probably leaning in going, boy, | 因为我认为很多人 可能倾向于去,男孩, |
| 474 | like if you were to just calculate, okay, what are all the things I'm blaming on my childhood? | 就像如果你只是计算, 好吧, 什么是所有的事情 我责怪我的童年? |
| 475 | And it's holding me back because you're dragging it with you if you're still looking backward. | 而且它拖住我 因为你拖着它 如果你仍然向后看。 |
| 476 | Or blaming your spouse or blaming your boss or blaming your daughter who's living the life you | 或责怪你的配偶 或责怪你的老板 或责怪你的女儿 谁的生活你的生活 |
| 477 | wish you were living and you feel like you're doing it for her and no one did it for you. | 希望你活着 觉得你是为了她 而没人为你做 |
| 478 | Blame, blame, blame, blame, blame. | 责,责,责,责. |
| 479 | Gratitude. | 谢谢 |
| 480 | And here's a big one. | 且道这里大个子. |
| 481 | How about some humility? | 谦逊点怎么样? |
| 482 | Can we get humility back into the game? | 我们能让谦卑回归游戏吗? |
| 483 | Why do people think humility is weak? | 为什么人们觉得谦卑是软弱的? |
| 484 | I don't know. | 师曰. |
| 485 | I think people think kindness is weak. | 我认为人们认为仁爱是软弱的. |
| 486 | I don't get that. | 我不明白这一点。 |
| 487 | No shit. | ⊿闽玒 |
| 488 | Neither do I. | 我也一样。 |
| 489 | Like in this nanosecond, like taking myself out of the podcast, | 就像在这个纳米秒, 像带我自己出播客, |
| 490 | I'm so happy right now because I'm happy people listen to you. | 我现在太高兴了 因为我很高兴的人听你的 |
| 491 | I'm happy people listen to me. | 我乐众生谛听. |
| 492 | I'm happy, you know, people are focusing on all the bad that's out there. | 我很高兴,你知道, 人们正在专注于所有的坏 在那里。 |
| 493 | There are so many outlets | 有这么多的渠道 |
| 494 | to get good now. | 现在好起来。 |
| 495 | There's so many. | 有这么多。 |
| 496 | And this is the point. | 这就是重点 |
| 497 | First of all, kudos to everyone who's | 首先,库多斯给每个人谁 |
| 498 | listening. | 听着 |
| 499 | You chose to consume some positivity. | 你选择了使用一些肯定性。 |
| 500 | You chose to consume some accountability. | 你选择了承担一些责任。 |
| 501 | You may not know why you like Mel, but I do. | 你也许不知道你为什么喜欢梅尔 但我喜欢 |
| 502 | Why do they like me? | 他们为什么喜欢我? |
| 503 | Because they're on the cusp of | 因为他们在关节上 |
| 504 | change. | 变化。 |
| 505 | They're in the pregame. | 他们在预赛中。 |
| 506 | I'm excited. | 我很兴奋 |
| 507 | Like literally, I don't know if you can see these. | 就像字面上,我不知道你能不能看到这些。 |
| 508 | I'm pumped for them. | 我为他们加油。 |
| 509 | They're close. | 他们很近 |
| 510 | Right? | 对吧? |
| 511 | Yes. | 对 |
| 512 | They're consuming you because they're close. | 他们在消耗你,因为他们很接近。 |
| 513 | Yes. | 对 |
| 514 | And you listen because you sense something that Gary and I know is true. | 你听是因为你感觉到一些东西 加里和我都知道是真实的。 |
| 515 | That you are capable | # 你有能力 # |
| 516 | of bananas, extraordinary things. | 香蕉,不寻常的东西。 |
| 517 | And let me say that real quick. | 让我说,真的很快。 |
| 518 | If you can shift your mindset. | 如果你能改变你的心态。 |
| 519 | Let me say something about that. | 让我说说 |
| 520 | For extraordinary things, not tens of millions of listeners to your | 对于不寻常的事情,不是几千万的听众 |
| 521 | podcast or 33 businesses that you're juggling. | 播客或者33家你正在搞的生意 |
| 522 | The number one thing I have is not all the things | 我拥有的第一 并不是所有的东西 |
| 523 | you think I have. | 你以为我有。 |
| 524 | The number one thing I have is peace of mind. | 我的头一件事是安心 |
| 525 | Do you know what I want for everyone? | 你知道我想为大家做什么吗? |
| 526 | I don't want them to have a blue check mark, Mel. | 我不想让他们有一个蓝色的支票标记,梅尔。 |
| 527 | I don't want them to have a million fucking | 我不想让他们有一百万他妈的 |
| 528 | followers. | 追随者。 |
| 529 | I don't need them to have a top five podcast or big businesses. | 我不需要他们拥有五大播客或大生意 |
| 530 | I need them to have | 我需要他们拥有 |
| 531 | peace of mind. | 平心静虑. |
| 532 | Do you know how many people listening right now should make a lot less money? | 你知道现在有多少人听 赚得更少吗? |
| 533 | They're making 240 but they don't like their job. | 他们赚了240,但他们不喜欢他们的工作。 |
| 534 | They're living above their means so they need | 他们活在自己的收入之上 所以他们需要 |
| 535 | their job to continue to pay for their lifestyle of things that bring them no actual joy. | 他们的工作是继续支付 他们的生活方式的东西 给他们没有真正的快乐。 |
| 536 | And you know | 而且你知道吗 |
| 537 | what they need to do? | 他们需要做什么? |
| 538 | They need to simplify their life. | 他们需要简化生活。 |
| 539 | We must get out of this materialistic keeping | 我们必须摆脱这种物质主义的束缚 |
| 540 | up with the Joneses. | 与琼斯。 |
| 541 | Now listen, I need action. | 听着,我需要行动 |
| 542 | There's plenty of people listening right now that | 现在有很多人听 |
| 543 | don't need simplicity. | 不需要简单 |
| 544 | I need action. | 我需要行动。 |
| 545 | I need people because I love them too much. | 我需要人是因为我太爱他们了 |
| 546 | I need the game. | 我需要游戏。 |
| 547 | I'm too creative. | 我太有创意了 |
| 548 | It's like too fun. | 这就像太有趣了。 |
| 549 | I'm a city boy. | 我是一个城市男孩。 |
| 550 | I'm a people person. | 我是一个人。 |
| 551 | I love everyone | 我爱每个人 |
| 552 | regardless of what their intent is towards me. | 不管他们对我的意图是什么 |
| 553 | I need it, right? | 我需要它,对不对? |
| 554 | But if I didn't, no one on | 但是如果我没有,没有人在 |
| 555 | earth would know me. | 地球会了解我的 |
| 556 | I would live in the middle of absolutely nowhere and I would do simple things | 我活在无处可去 做简单的事情 |
| 557 | because I'm comfortable in being who I actually am. | 因为我很自在地做自己 |
| 558 | That is the secret to life. | 这就是生命的秘密。 |
| 559 | Period. | 期间。 |
| 560 | Are you | 是你吗? |
| 561 | comfortable with yourself? | 舒服吗? |
| 562 | Are you proud of yourself? | 你为自己骄傲吗? |
| 563 | Peace of mind means you're not | 平心静虑意味着你不是 |
| 564 | questioning, who am I? | 我是谁? |
| 565 | What should I be doing today? | 今天我该怎么办? |
| 566 | What does this person think of me? | 这个人怎么看我? |
| 567 | That you | 那个你 |
| 568 | know who you are. | 知道你是谁。 |
| 569 | You know your intention. | 你知道你的意图。 |
| 570 | And I think this is really, really important because | 我觉得这很重要 因为... |
| 571 | you chase the material thing because you think that if you have the right purse or the right car | 你追求物质的东西,因为你认为 如果你有正确的钱包或正确的车 |
| 572 | or the right outfit on or the right house in the right neighborhood or you belong to the right club | 或合适的衣服 或合适的房子 在正确的社区 或者你属于正确的俱乐部 |
| 573 | or you have your nails done the right way, that other people are going to think you are a certain | 或者你的指甲做了正确的方式, 其他人会认为你是肯定的 |
| 574 | person. | 个人。 |
| 575 | And that is going to give you the confidence and peace of mind. | 这将给你信心和心灵的安宁。 |
| 576 | That's right. | 没错 |
| 577 | It doesn't. | 它没有。 |
| 578 | Nope. | 没有 |
| 579 | It anchors your self-worth in someone else's opinion, which you will never | 它将你的自我价值固定在别人的视线里,你永远不会 |
| 580 | control, which means you will always be chasing other people's opinions in order to get the | 控制,这意味着你将永远 追寻别人的意见 为了得到 |
| 581 | validation that you can give to yourself. | 验证,你可以给自己。 |
| 582 | Yes. | 对 |
| 583 | Mike, you know what my great hope is for 2050 to | 迈克,你知道我最大的希望是2050年到 |
| 584 | 2060 is that the advancements of technology actually bring us back to simplicity. | 2060年是,技术进步实际上使我们回到了简洁的状态. |
| 585 | I believe | и獺 |
| 586 | by the way, this is one of my thesis of how it could go. | 顺便说一句,这是我的论文之一 如何可以去。 |
| 587 | And yeah, you might not have the same | 是啊,你可能没有同样的 |
| 588 | car. | 车 |
| 589 | Your friends with husband might be just much more attractive than yours or whatever it might | 你和丈夫的朋友 可能比你的更有吸引力 或任何可能 |
| 590 | be. | 将。 |
| 591 | You might be a director and not an SVP in your company, but I can tell you about me, Mel. | 你可能是一个导演,而不是你公司的 SVP, 但我可以告诉你我,梅尔。 |
| 592 | The way I view people is 100% based on their humanity. | 我对人的看法完全基于人性。 |
| 593 | The way I view, do I like someone, | 我的看法,我喜欢谁, |
| 594 | do I not? | 是吗? |
| 595 | Mel, this may interest you, this you may not know about me. | 梅尔,这也许你感兴趣, 这也许你不知道我。 |
| 596 | I am wildly unimpressed, | 我非常没有印象, |
| 597 | including myself in people's business accomplishments. | 包括我自己的事业成就 |
| 598 | I really truly believe, | и痷獺 |
| 599 | and I'm glad we're lasering in on this, that the measure of a person is not what they have. | 我很高兴我们正对这个进行激光 一个人的度量不是他们拥有的 |
| 600 | It's how they treat other people. | 这就是他们如何对待别人。 |
| 601 | The only thing I actually live my life for is my funeral. | 我唯一能活下去的是 我的葬礼 |
| 602 | Let's go here because one of my most favorite things that I have ever seen you do or say, | 让我们在这里,因为我最喜欢的事情之一 我见过你做或说, |
| 603 | it is a video. | 那是个视频 |
| 604 | You're going to know exactly which one it is as I start to speak. | 你会知道我开始说话时 到底是谁 |
| 605 | You are in a cab, I believe, and the window is down and you're at a stoplight and a woman runs | 你在计程车里,我相信, 窗户倒了,你在一个停电灯和一个女人跑 |
| 606 | over and is like, Gary, Gary, oh my God, Gary, I love you. | 盖瑞,盖瑞,天啊,盖瑞,我爱你 |
| 607 | You know, I need some motivation today. | 你知道,我今天需要一些动力。 |
| 608 | Give me some motivation. | 给我一些动力。 |
| 609 | And you look out the window and you look at her and you say, | 你看着窗外 你看着她说 |
| 610 | you're going to die. | 你会死的 |
| 611 | And she's kind of startled and I don't remember the exact words, but it was, | 她有点吃惊,我不记得 确切的话,但它是, |
| 612 | you're going to die. | 你会死的 |
| 613 | We're all going to die. | 我们都会死的 |
| 614 | What really matters is how do you want to live? | 真正重要的是你想怎样生活? |
| 615 | How do you want to live? | 你想怎样生活? |
| 616 | And while you're here and while you're still on this side of the dirt | 当你在这里的时候 当你还在泥土的这边的时候 |
| 617 | and while people that you still love can still walk into the room, how are you going to live? | 当你仍然爱的人 仍然可以走进房间, 你将如何生活? |
| 618 | Because you do not want to get to your funeral and go, God, I wish I had. | 因为你不想去你的葬礼, 上帝,我希望我有。 |
| 619 | Boy, I wish I was a | 男孩,我希望我是一个 |
| 620 | better person. | 更好的个人。 |
| 621 | See, I am like you. | 你看,我喜欢你。 |
| 622 | I constantly think about that moment. | 我不停地想那个时刻 |
| 623 | I want to reflect back | 我想反射回来 |
| 624 | and go, I was a good mom. | 去,我是个好妈妈。 |
| 625 | I was like a good friend. | 我就像一个好朋友 |
| 626 | I gave it a good run. | 我给了它一个很好的运行。 |
| 627 | I gave more than I took. | 我付出的比拿的还多 |
| 628 | I scratched the itches. | 我挠痒。 |
| 629 | You know, I'm very passionate about what I'm about to say. | 你知道,我对我要说的话很热情 |
| 630 | I think we've lost our way with the elderly. | 我想我们和老人们一起迷路了 |
| 631 | I think the last 30, 40 years of technology | 我想过去三四十年的技术 |
| 632 | advancements have made us make fun of grandparents because they don't know how to use open claw or, | 进步让我们取笑祖父母 因为他们不知道如何使用开口的爪子或, |
| 633 | 你知道,即时信使或Snapchat。 | |
| 634 | And I think we've really done a disservice to ourselves | и谋眔и痷端甡 |
| 635 | by misunderstanding what true wisdom is. | 误会了真正的智慧是什么 |
| 636 | A hundred years ago, the thought of disrespecting an elder | 一百年前,有人想不尊重老人 |
| 637 | was as foreign as you can imagine. | 和你能想象的一样陌生 |
| 638 | I like tactics sometimes. | 有时候我喜欢战术 |
| 639 | I got a weird one, everyone. | 我有一个奇怪的,大家。 |
| 640 | This is a big one, actually. | 这是一个很大的,实际上。 |
| 641 | It's a very left field one. | 这是一个非常左的球场。 |
| 642 | I promise you, I've literally never | 我保证,我从来没有 |
| 643 | heard anyone else get hot on this one. | 听到其他人热这个。 |
| 644 | So I like bringing it up. | 所以我喜欢提起它。 |
| 645 | If you can volunteer five hours | 如果你可以自愿5小时 |
| 646 | to a retirement home in your general area, like literally call them, email them, be like, Hey, | 去你所在地区的养老院, 就像直呼他们,电子邮件,就像,嘿, |
| 647 | was this something to Mel's podcast? | 这对梅尔的播客有什么影响吗? |
| 648 | Like super weird, you might think, but like, is there any | 像超级怪异,你可能会认为, 但是,喜欢,有没有 |
| 649 | way for me to like give five hours? | 让我喜欢给5小时? |
| 650 | So much good will happen in that five hours. | 5小时后会发生很多好事 |
| 651 | First of all, | 首先,我们... |
| 652 | a lot of people in those places are quite lonely, unfortunately. | 不幸的是,那些地方很多人都很孤独 |
| 653 | And really, right? | 是吗? |
| 654 | You like, I see | 你喜欢,我明白了 |
| 655 | like even saying it, like coming out of my mouth, I was like, and then you're and I know a lot of | 就像从我嘴里说出来,我说,然后你和我知道很多 |
| 656 | people just went, right? | 人们只是去了,对不对? |
| 657 | It's just the way it is. | 犹如是法. |
| 658 | It's really tough. | 这真的很难。 |
| 659 | So that breaks my heart. | 所以这让我心碎。 |
| 660 | And | 还有 |
| 661 | you would be doing a real mitzvah, a real gift, a real nice thing. | 你会做一个真正的成人礼, 一个真正的礼物, 一个真正的美好的事情。 |
| 662 | Like talking to a 91 year old | 就像跟91岁的孩子说话一样 |
| 663 | woman about her life will bring her incredible joy of just companionship. | 女人关于她的生活,会带 令人难以置信的欢乐 她只是陪伴。 |
| 664 | But here's a little | 但这里有点 |
| 665 | secret. | 暗号 |
| 666 | It's going to do a lot more for you. | 更能为汝作么生. |
| 667 | And let me tell you, as someone who has gone out of | 让我告诉你,作为一个人 谁走了出去 |
| 668 | his way to sit with people in their eighties on planes and at airports and in random moments in | 他和80多岁的人坐在飞机上 和机场上 |
| 669 | my life, the number one thing everyone listening to this podcast wants to avoid is regret. | 我的生命,每个人听播客 想要避免的头号事情是后悔。 |
| 670 | If | 若为 |
| 671 | anything comes out of this podcast, if one person, if one of you, if one of you decide | 任何来自播客的东西, 如果一个人,如果你们中的一个决定 |
| 672 | to do something tomorrow, jump out of a plane skydiving, quit your job and become a dog walker | 明天做点什么,跳出飞机跳伞, 辞掉你的工作,成为一个行狗 |
| 673 | and live more humbly, get out of a toxic relationship, get out of regret, do something | 更谦卑地生活,摆脱毒害的关系,摆脱悔恨,做点什么 |
| 674 | tomorrow, tomorrow, do something tomorrow. | 明天,明天,明天做点什么 |
| 675 | This is probably, you're probably consuming this | 这可能是,你可能 消耗这个 |
| 676 | right as the fall. | 恰如秋天一样 |
| 677 | The seasons change, right? | 季节变了,对吧? |
| 678 | Everyone in your life and in real life, | 每个人在你的生活中和现实生活中, |
| 679 | we're coming out of summer, like we're in the go time. | 我们从夏天出来 就像我们到了时间一样 |
| 680 | It's September energy. | 谓九月能源. |
| 681 | It's football season. | 足球赛季. |
| 682 | Tomorrow, tomorrow, do something that's been sitting in your tummy for a day, a year, | 明天,明天,做一些 一直坐在你的肚子里一天,一年, |
| 683 | and most likely a decade, Mel. | 很可能是十年 梅尔 |
| 684 | And just do it actually. | 并做实际上。 |
| 685 | I promise you, whatever you're scared of | 我保证,无论你害怕什么 |
| 686 | is far less scary than 30 years from now telling some random stranger that looks like Gary | 比起30年后 告诉一个像盖瑞的陌生人 |
| 687 | that you, the worst sentence, Mel, is three words. | 你,最糟糕的一句话,梅尔,是三个字。 |
| 688 | I wish I dot, dot, dot, dot, dot. | 吾愿以点,点,点,点. |
| 689 | And my great joy is that I don't live that way. | 我最大的欢喜是,我不这样生活。 |
| 690 | 400 trillion to one, Mel. | 400万亿比1,梅尔。 |
| 691 | 400 trillion to one. | 400万亿对1。 |
| 692 | My friends, the current scientific, I'm no scientist. | 我的朋友,现在的科学家,我不是科学家。 |
| 693 | I got Fs inside, so bear with me. | 我里面有F,所以忍着点 |
| 694 | But what I've been able to consume, modern scientists that are way above my pay grade | 但我能消费的 现代科学家 远远超出了我的薪水水平 |
| 695 | currently have the likelihood of becoming a human being at 400 trillion to one. | 目前有可能成为400万亿至1个人类。 |
| 696 | That you are you. | 说你是你。 |
| 697 | That you were born. | 说你出生 |
| 698 | Mom could have went for another glass of wine before they went down | 妈妈本来可以在他们倒下之前再喝杯酒 |
| 699 | and the whole game would have been different and you would not be you. | 整个游戏会不同 而你不会是你 |
| 700 | It is a miracle is disrespectful to how impossible it is to have a life. | 这是一个奇迹,不尊重生活是多么不可能。 |
| 701 | So you're going to mope around your whole life? | 所以,你要去 苦闷你的整个生活? |
| 702 | Let me get this straight. | 让我说清楚 |
| 703 | You've won the ultimate lottery of the universe. | 你赢得了宇宙的最终彩票 |
| 704 | Of the actual universe. | 真实的宇宙 |
| 705 | And we've decided we're going to mope and cry about dumb shit. | 我们决定要为蠢事哭泣 |
| 706 | And here's the best part. | 这是最好的部分。 |
| 707 | You don't like it, go change the room. | 你不喜欢,去换房间 |
| 708 | Right? | 对吧? |
| 709 | Yes. | 对 |
| 710 | You don't like it, change the room. | 你不喜欢,换个房间 |
| 711 | You don't like a relationship, change the house. | 你不喜欢恋爱,换房子 |
| 712 | You don't like your boss, change the office. | 你不喜欢你的老板 换办公室 |
| 713 | You don't like your mindset, change it. | 你不喜欢你的心态,改变它。 |
| 714 | Consume shit like this. | 装成这样 |
| 715 | Yeah, you don't like what's showing up on social media, change where you follow. | 对,你不喜欢社交媒体上出现的东西 改变你跟随的地方 |
| 716 | The algorithm is exposing who you actually are. | 算法显示你是谁 |
| 717 | It's so true. | 如此真实. |
| 718 | And you know, listen, friends, the number one thing that's holding so many of you back | 你知道,听着,朋友们, 头号事情是 拖住这么多的你们 |
| 719 | is your lack of humility. | 你缺乏谦卑 |
| 720 | I'm telling you, my friends, I'm begging you. | 告众曰. 师曰. |
| 721 | I'm like nose to mic, I'm begging you. | 我像鼻子对麦克风,我求你了。 |
| 722 | Lean into these old school values, humility, civility, kindness towards straight, | 精进这些旧的学校价值观,谦卑,文明,仁慈 向直, |
| 723 | open the door for someone's smile. | 开门让别人笑 |
| 724 | Do you know how many people I smile at, Mel? | 你知道我笑过多少人吗,梅尔? |
| 725 | Everybody. | 每个人。 |
| 726 | You should see me in an airport. | 你应该在机场看到我 |
| 727 | It's like a joke. | 这就像一个笑话。 |
| 728 | I don't even know. | 我什至不晓得。 |
| 729 | And now people know who I am. | 现在人们知道我是谁了 |
| 730 | So it was a lot more fun back in the day because, | 所以,它是一个很多更多的乐趣 回到过去,因为, |
| 731 | you're just a goofy guy with a big smile. | 你只是个笑容大的人 |
| 732 | And by the way, a lot of people smile back and they need it. | 顺便说一句,很多人笑回来,他们需要它。 |
| 733 | Then I would say this. | 那我就这么说了 |
| 734 | I think people like myself, like you, | 我觉得像我这样的人 像你一样 |
| 735 | I believe happiness has done a bad job. | 我相信幸福已经做了一个坏的工作。 |
| 736 | Let me explain. | 让我解释一下 |
| 737 | I think the last decade, unhappiness has been amazing at marketing. | 我认为过去十年来,不幸福在营销上是惊人的. |
| 738 | That the people that are unhappy are doing a great job. | 那些不高兴的人正在做一个伟大的工作。 |
| 739 | They're taking time to go around the internet, look at people's clips, | 他们花时间绕过互联网 看看别人的剪辑 |
| 740 | allow themselves to get triggered, and then leave nasty comments. | 允许自己被触发,然后留下恶心的评论。 |
| 741 | They're working. | 他们在工作 |
| 742 | It is a full-time job to leave negative comments. | 留下负面评论是一项全职工作。 |
| 743 | I believe happiness is doing a bad job. | 我相信幸福是做坏事。 |
| 744 | I believe there are not enough of us. | 我认为我们是不够的。 |
| 745 | And Mel, I'm going to say something right now that's really powerful. | 梅尔,我现在要说一些 真正强大的东西。 |
| 746 | There's a lot of us, but they're quiet. | 我们有很多人,但他们很安静 |
| 747 | They are quiet because they're not at the | 他们很安静,因为他们不在 |
| 748 | full place yet where they're willing to deal with the ridicule and the judgment | 在他们愿意面对嘲笑和判决的地方 |
| 749 | for the bigger purpose. | 为了更大的目的 |
| 750 | I didn't deal with any issues in high school or junior high | 我高中和初中都没处理过问题 |
| 751 | around trying to fit in. | 试图融入 |
| 752 | I was incredibly well-liked because of how my personality is | 我非常的受人喜爱 因为我的个性 |
| 753 | my personality. | 我的个性 |
| 754 | Peer pressure was non-existent. | 不存在同伴压力。 |
| 755 | I never compromised my morals or who I was | 我从来没有损害我的道德 或我是谁 |
| 756 | in junior high or high school. | 初中或高中阶段。 |
| 757 | I'm definitely not going to fucking do it as an adult. | 我绝对不会像成年人那样干 |
| 758 | So for somebody though who is crippled by other people's opinions, and I remember when I first | 所以,对于一个人,虽然谁 残废别人的意见, 我记得当我第一次 |
| 759 | started putting myself out there online, I was absolutely terrified of what my friends were | 我开始把自己 在网上, 我绝对害怕我的朋友是什么 |
| 760 | going to think. | 将思考。 |
| 761 | I felt cringey as hell. | 我觉得克林吉像地狱。 |
| 762 | And it is human nature to post, then to check how many | 并且是人性 张贴,然后检查有多少 |
| 763 | people, then to question what you post, then to go down and you've got a couple likes and then see | 人们,然后问你贴什么, 然后下去,你有夫妇喜欢,然后看到 |
| 764 | who's not liking it. | 谁不喜欢它。 |
| 765 | And then look at the one comment that is the weird emoji. | 然后看一个评论 是奇怪的情感。 |
| 766 | And then you | 还有你 |
| 767 | wonder what they were actually thinking when they put the weird emoji and then laser focus on the | 想知道当他们把 奇怪的爱莫吉 然后激光聚焦于 |
| 768 | thing that's negative instead of focusing on the thing that's positive. | 事情是负面的 而不是专注于 的东西是积极的。 |
| 769 | And I think that habit | 我觉得那习惯 |
| 770 | and instinct to go to what's wrong keeps so many people from leaning in and experimenting. | 和本能去 错误的事物 使这么多人不 倾斜和实验。 |
| 771 | Because | 因为 |
| 772 | you say, Gary, life shrinks and expands in proportion to your willingness to take risks | 你说,加里,生命会缩水 并按你愿意冒险的比例扩张 |
| 773 | and try new things. | 尝试新事物。 |
| 774 | And for most people, putting yourself out there, whether it's posting online | 对大多数人来说,把自己放出来, 是否在网上发布 |
| 775 | or changing your career or starting to exercise or starting that Etsy shop is freaking terrifying. | 或改变你的事业 或开始锻炼或开始 爱滋店是可怕的。 |
| 776 | Yes, because their entire framework of how they see life is predicated on other people's opinions, | 是的,因为他们看待生活的整个框架 是建立在其他人的意见之上的, |
| 777 | everybody but them own selves. | 每个人除了他们自己。 |
| 778 | So how do you stop caring about what other people think? | 你怎么不再关心别人的想法? |
| 779 | Practice. | 练习 |
| 780 | How do I practice? | 我怎么练习? |
| 781 | By doing it. | 由是行故. |
| 782 | You're looking at a boy who literally was scared shitless to swim and ride a bike. | 你正看着一个男孩, 他实际上害怕狗屎 游泳和骑自行车。 |
| 783 | Like there was a lot of things I was scared of that I think I just got it all out of the system | 好像我很害怕很多事情 我想我刚刚把它从系统里弄出来 |
| 784 | by the time I was 15, 16, 17, 18, somewhere in that range. | 当我15、16、17、18岁的时候,就在那个范围内 |
| 785 | Okay, so for the 57 year old or the 27 year old or the 37. | 好吧,所以对于57岁或27岁或37岁。 |
| 786 | Let me give you the big one. | 让我给你一个大的。 |
| 787 | Parents, if you have a child that gets bad grades, | 父母,如果你有一个孩子 得到不好的成绩, |
| 788 | I'm going to say something weird that I'm I don't even know if I'm right, wrong, left, right. | 我要说些奇怪的话 我甚至不知道自己是不是对的 错的 左的 右的 |
| 789 | But I'm telling you, there's some real value. | 但我告诉你, 有一些真正的价值。 |
| 790 | I see so many people so many people now that are | 我看到这么多的人 现在这么多的人,现在 |
| 791 | in the line. | 排队 |
| 792 | They get validation from outside every 90 days from a teacher, A plus, B plus, | 他们每90天从外面得到一个老师的验证 A+ B+ |
| 793 | A minus. | 一减. |
| 794 | I think there's a lot there. | 我觉得那里有很多 |
| 795 | And so to answer your question, practice. | 为了回答你的问题 练习 |
| 796 | You've got to get used to get ridiculed so much, get judged so much, get pushed back so much | 你要习惯被嘲笑 被评判 被推回 |
| 797 | that you can't hear it anymore. | 你再也听不见了 |
| 798 | What's interesting is that if you really think about the stepping up to the line, | 有趣的是,如果你真的想到 向线的加速, |
| 799 | like I feel like you and I are our philosophy in life could be explained by the Nike tagline, | 就像我觉得你和我是 我们生活中的哲学 可以用耐克标签来解释 |
| 800 | just do it. | 只要做到这一点。 |
| 801 | And the most people don't understand the most powerful word of those three words. | 而多数人并不理解这三个词中最强大的词. |
| 802 | It's just because if their tagline had been do it, that's not that inspiring. | 这是因为如果他们的标记线 已经做了,那不是那么鼓舞人心。 |
| 803 | The just is so powerful because it honors this very human and universal moment of hesitation. | 正义是如此强大,因为它尊重这一人类和普遍的犹豫时刻。 |
| 804 | You said that the person that's listening right now is on the cusp of something. | 你说,现在正在听的人 是在某事的破碎。 |
| 805 | You have gotten | 你已经得到了 |
| 806 | up out of the stands, you've been watching a game, you're now standing there on the sideline | 站在站台外,你一直在看比赛,你现在站在一边 |
| 807 | of the pickup basketball court, and you are hesitating. | 你却犹豫不决 |
| 808 | That just is an acknowledgement | 那只是承认 |
| 809 | that the hesitation is normal. | 犹豫是正常的。 |
| 810 | The hesitation is what you feel right before you push through. | 犹豫不决是你的感觉 在你冲过去之前 |
| 811 | Can I use that analogy? | 我能用这个类比吗? |
| 812 | Please. | 请 |
| 813 | This is very important, everyone. | 这很重要,各位 |
| 814 | I feel like I'm onto one here, so lock in. | 感觉好像我在这里,所以锁定。 |
| 815 | If I went on a basketball court right now, I'm a decent little player, but let's say this was just | 如果我现在去一个篮球场, 我是一个体面的小球员, 但让我们假设这只是 |
| 816 | really high level game, and I sucked, and the other nine people really went there of trying to | 非常高级的游戏,我吸, 其他9个人真的去那里试图 |
| 817 | make me feel bad about it. | 让我感到难过。 |
| 818 | There's something in me that asks them in return a very simple question, | 我心里有些东西 问他们一个很简单的问题 |
| 819 | which is like, you are correct. | 这就像,你是对的。 |
| 820 | You nine are better at basketball than I am. | 你们9个人的篮球能力比我强 |
| 821 | But now I have | 但现在我有了 |
| 822 | a question for you. | 问你个问题 |
| 823 | Are you a nicer boy than I am? | 你比我还乖吗? |
| 824 | Are you as good at making money as I am? | 你跟我一样擅长赚钱吗? |
| 825 | Do you know how to make social media content as well as I do? | 你知不知道像我一样如何制作社交媒体的内容? |
| 826 | Do you understand what live | 你知道什么是活的吗? |
| 827 | shopping is and how much that can change your nine person's lives today, today? | 这能改变你九个人的今天,今天的生活吗? |
| 828 | Why have we | 为什么我们 |
| 829 | gotten into a place where one or two or three things that you're not as good at are eating up | 进入一个你不太擅长的一两三样东西 正在吃东西的地方 |
| 830 | all the oxygen? | 所有氧气吗? |
| 831 | My friends, every one of you is great at something. | 朋友们,你们每个人都很擅长某事 |
| 832 | It's true. | 这是真的。 |
| 833 | I have a great | 我有一个伟大的 |
| 834 | friend, Nate, who was my admin for a long time, my co-founder in Empathy Wines, now works in the | 朋友,内特,他是我的管理者 长期,我的联合创始人 在爱默西酒,现在工作 |
| 835 | tennis a bunch because I had a couple weeks off. | 打网球因为我休息了几周 |
| 836 | You're a tennis player? | 你是网球运动员? |
| 837 | Yeah, I hack a little. | 是啊,我黑了一点点。 |
| 838 | I kind of see in whites. | 我有点看到白色的。 |
| 839 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 840 | So we would play one sec because I'd want to go home back to the | 所以,我们会打一秒钟 因为我想回家 |
| 841 | boy and like da da da. | 男孩和喜欢达达达。 |
| 842 | And twice in that summer, he was up five one and I won. | 那年夏天他两度升到五点一 我赢了 |
| 843 | Came back and won | 回来赢了 |
| 844 | seven five and seven six. | 7个5个7个6个 |
| 845 | Couple things. | 几样东西。 |
| 846 | One, it's because when I was down five one, I started to | 一,是因为我五岁的时候 我开始 |
| 847 | change the energy of the court. | 改变宫廷的能量 |
| 848 | I started to verbalize towards him and to myself. | 我开始对他和我自己说话 |
| 849 | What did | 或 |
| 850 | you say? | 你说呢? |
| 851 | The first time I just started talking of like, Nate, I have a feeling I'm going to come | 内特,我第一次说话的时候 我有种感觉我要来了 |
| 852 | back. | 回来 |
| 853 | Like it's crazy what verbalization does. | 喜欢它疯狂 口头化做什么。 |
| 854 | Yes. | 对 |
| 855 | And then sports is wild. | 然后,体育是野性的。 |
| 856 | Life is sports. | 生活就是运动. |
| 857 | It's | 这是 |
| 858 | momentum. | 势头。 |
| 859 | Right now people, there's a 39 year old woman right now listening to this and it's just | 现在,人们,有一个39岁的女人 现在听这个,它只是 |
| 860 | not been going well. | 进展不顺利 |
| 861 | And literally one point, AKA one action she takes tomorrow changes the whole | 从字面上说,AKA一个动作 她明天会改变整个 |
| 862 | calculus of the game and her next 50 years are epic. | 游戏的微积分和她接下来的50年都是史诗. |
| 863 | Do you know how intoxicating that is to me? | 你知道这对我有多毒吗? |
| 864 | Oh, I love this too. | 哦,我也很喜欢这个。 |
| 865 | I love that you're one decision away, one action away from a completely | 我喜欢你是一个决定, 一个行动离开一个完全 |
| 866 | different life. | 不一样的生活 |
| 867 | So anyway, I beat him. | 总之,我打败了他 |
| 868 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 869 | And then the second time I'm just like, Nate, | 然后,第二次我只是喜欢,内特, |
| 870 | you know, this is about to happen again. | 你知道,这是 即将再次发生。 |
| 871 | And it did for years when we would be together. | 几年来,我们在一起。 |
| 872 | I would bring up these two comebacks to razzle them a little bit and like boy talk in business | 我会提起这两个回来 让他们迷惑一下 就像男孩在谈生意 |
| 873 | settings and different things. | 设置和不同的东西。 |
| 874 | And he would always eat it. | 他总是吃它。 |
| 875 | And finally I turned to him and | 最后我转向他 |
| 876 | said, Nate, like after nine times using this on him, I looked at him and said, Nate, the next time | 说,内特,像9次 用这个在他身上, 我看着他说,内特,下一次 |
| 877 | I fucking say that you look me dead in the face and ask me what my handicap is. | 我他妈的说,你看着我死在脸上 问我的缺陷是什么。 |
| 878 | Cause he's a | 因为他是一个 |
| 879 | remarkable golfer scratch. | 了不起的高尔夫球员刮伤。 |
| 880 | And I played nine times in my life. | 我这辈子打过九次 |
| 881 | Everybody's good at something. | 每个人都擅长的东西。 |
| 882 | And that's something we might be. | 而这正是我们可能做的。 |
| 883 | You're just a nice person. | 你只是一个好人。 |
| 884 | 我会在Gary Vaynerchuk那里争论 | |
| 885 | of life, being a good human is way ahead of 10 million followers and $10 million in cash. | 成为好人 远远领先于1000万追随者和1000万现金 |
| 886 | And you may not believe me because you don't know me, but that's because you just don't know me. | 你可能不相信我 因为你不认识我, 但那是因为你不认识我。 |
| 887 | I want to circle back because you told that story for a reason. | 我想回圈 因为你讲这个故事是有原因的 |
| 888 | And the reason why you told that | 还有你为什么这么说 |
| 889 | story is because you just gave the tool and the tactic that gets you off the sideline. | 故事是因为你刚刚给了 工具 和战术 让你离开边线。 |
| 890 | That's right. | 没错 |
| 891 | Because as you're standing there, whether the sideline for you is I'm taking the real estate | 因为当你站在那里, 不论你的侧线是 我拿房地产 |
| 892 | exam. | 考试。 |
| 893 | I'm quitting this job. | 我要辞职了 |
| 894 | I'm leaving this relationship. | 我要离开这个关系。 |
| 895 | I am going to learn how to make | 我要学会如何做 |
| 896 | money online and do live shopping. | 网上赚钱 现场购物 |
| 897 | Yes, I am. | 对,我是。 |
| 898 | When you're standing on that line and the just do it | 当你站在那条线上时,就这么做 |
| 899 | and the hesitation is building, the only one criticizing you is you. | 犹豫不决的是你 唯一批评你的人是你 |
| 900 | And when you start to | 当你开始 |
| 901 | smack talk yourself, I'm doing the damn thing. | 你自己说,我在做该死的事情。 |
| 902 | I know I'm scared. | 我知道,我很害怕。 。 。 |
| 903 | I know it feels weird. | 我知道这感觉很奇怪。 |
| 904 | Watch | 看着 |
| 905 | me make a comeback. | 我回来了。 |
| 906 | Watch me change my life. | 看着我改变我的生活。 |
| 907 | It changes the trajectory of your life because now | 它改变了你的生活轨迹 因为现在 |
| 908 | instead of arguing against yourself, which is what's creating the hesitation, by the way, | 而不是反对自己, 这就是造成犹豫的原因,顺便说一句, |
| 909 | nobody else in your life is going, don't you dare do that thing. | 你生活中没有别人去, 你敢这样做。 |
| 910 | Of course. | 当然 |
| 911 | It's you. | 这是你。 |
| 912 | It's heartbreaking. | 真让人心碎 |
| 913 | Don't you think it's heartbreaking? | 你不觉得这很让人心碎吗? |
| 914 | Yes. | 对 |
| 915 | And let me paint another picture if you allow me. | 让我再画一张照片 |
| 916 | Of course. | 当然 |
| 917 | Live shopping. | 现场购物. |
| 918 | I'm obsessed. | 我着迷了 |
| 919 | So explain what live shopping is. | 所以,解释什么是现场购物。 |
| 920 | It's QVC on social media. | 腾讯社交媒体QVC. |
| 921 | That's right. | 没错 |
| 922 | Not complicated. | 不复杂。 |
| 923 | It is go on TikTok right now and scroll for a while. | 它现在正在TikTok上 并滚动一段时间。 |
| 924 | Inevitably, within your first 15 scrolls, somebody is literally, instead of a piece of content, | 不可避免,在你的前15卷里, 有人字面上,而不是一个内容, |
| 925 | there's somebody who's actually live selling normally some tchotchkes that you don't need. | 有人真的活在卖一些你不需要的东西 |
| 926 | Okay? | 好吗? |
| 927 | But Mel, exactly where social media was, you said you stumbled on me 14 years ago. | 但Mel 社交媒体在哪里 你说你14年前就踩到我了 |
| 928 | So we're talking 12. | 所以我们是12。 |
| 929 | 2012? | 2012年吗? |
| 930 | 2012. | 2012 (英语). |
| 931 | I had already been making content about social for five full years every day. | 我每天已经做了整整5年关于社交的内容。 |
| 932 | No kidding. | 别开玩笑了 |
| 933 | Social, social, social. | 社会,社会,社会。 |
| 934 | Wine Library TV. | 酒库电视台. |
| 935 | Yeah. | 对 |
| 936 | Wine Library TV was 06. | 酒馆电视台06岁. |
| 937 | By 07, I'm making content of like, you can change your life on | 到了07年,我正在制作内容 像,你可以改变你的生活 |
| 938 | social. | 社会 |
| 939 | Everyone can do this. | 每个人都可以做到这一点。 |
| 940 | YouTube, Twitter, Facebook (中文(简体) ). | |
| 941 | Then a year later, I write this book. | 一年之后 我写了这本书 |
| 942 | It comes out a year later. | 一年后出来. |
| 943 | 09. | 09 (英语). |
| 944 | That really puts me on. | 这真的让我上。 |
| 945 | Where live shopping is right this second is exactly where social was in 2014. | 这第二秒正好是2014年社交地点。 |
| 946 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 947 | People know it. | 众生知之. |
| 948 | We've accepted that it's out there. | 我们已经接受它的存在。 |
| 949 | Yep. | 对 |
| 950 | You've heard of it. | 汝闻已. |
| 951 | People know what TikTok shop is. | 人们知道TikTok店是什么。 |
| 952 | People maybe have heard of what not. | 人们可能听说过什么没有。 |
| 953 | People have seen the headlines. | 人们已经看到了头条新闻。 |
| 954 | It's not like everyone who's listening is like, what is that? | 并不是每个人都在听,这是什么? |
| 955 | They might be like, what is that? | 他们可能像,那是什么? |
| 956 | But also a lot of people listening right now are like, oh, I know what that is. | 但也有很多人现在在听 我知道那是什么 |
| 957 | I know what that is. | 我知道这是什么。 |
| 958 | It's the shop now button. | 现在是商店的按钮。 |
| 959 | It's the this button. | 这是这个按钮。 |
| 960 | And a lot of people think they've already missed it. | 很多人认为他们已经错过了 |
| 961 | Like, oh, darn. | 像,哦,该死。 |
| 962 | Or like, I don't get it. | 或者说,我不明白 |
| 963 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 964 | This is a big theme. | 这是一个大的主题。 |
| 965 | Now, as you're listening to Gary right now, I want you to pay attention | 现在,当你正在听加里的话, 我要你注意 |
| 966 | because he may be talking about live shopping. | 因为他可能说的是现场购物 |
| 967 | This is what's meant for you. | 这是对你的意义。 |
| 968 | This notion of I missed it. | 我错过了这个概念。 |
| 969 | I'm too late. | 我太迟了 |
| 970 | I missed the window. | 我错过了窗户。 |
| 971 | Somebody else is doing it. | 别人正在这么做 |
| 972 | Now I can't do it. | 现在不行了 |
| 973 | There's too many people selling too many people already on shopping. | 有太多的人卖太多的人 已经在购物。 |
| 974 | I can't crazy. | 我不能疯了。 |
| 975 | Because of out there, your internal dialogue goes not me. | 因为在那里,你的内部对话不是我。 |
| 976 | And a lot of times it sounds like I'm too old. | 很多时候听起来我太老了 |
| 977 | I'm too late. | 我太迟了 |
| 978 | There's too many other people and you're about to say you're wrong. | 还有太多人,你会说你错了 |
| 979 | Not only are you wrong, we represent it. | 你不仅错了,我们代表它。 |
| 980 | I've been podcasting since 2007. | 我从2007年开始播客。 |
| 981 | From 2014 to 19, I had a top 100 podcast. | 从2014年到19年,我拥有100位播客排行榜前列. |
| 982 | Mine was different. | 我的不一样 |
| 983 | It was ripping audio out of things that I were doing. | 它从我正在做的事情中撕裂音频。 |
| 984 | And in two seconds, because you did it better, it didn't matter how many years | 再过两秒钟,因为你做得更好 几年都无所谓 |
| 985 | of a head start. | 开始。 |
| 986 | Do you want to know something crazy though, Gary? | 你想知道什么是疯狂的,盖瑞? |
| 987 | In 2018, I remember seeing your podcast. | 2018年,我记得见过你的播客。 |
| 988 | I remember seeing other people's podcasts. | 我记得见过别人的播客 |
| 989 | I wanted to do a podcast because I had gotten my start in the media business | 我想做播客 因为我开始从事媒体业务 |
| 990 | by hosting a local radio show Saturday morning here in Boston. | 周六早上在波士顿 主持当地电台节目 |
| 991 | You know what I told myself? | 你知道我对自己说了什么吗? |
| 992 | As I'm standing on the sideline, | 当我站在侧线上, |
| 993 | watching your ass do your podcast and I'm feeling the just do it hesitation. | 看着你的屁股做播客 我感觉只是犹豫而已 |
| 994 | Oh my God. | 天呐 |
| 995 | I said, well, Gary's already done it. | 我说 加里已经做了 |
| 996 | The motivation and that kind of thing that I want to do, it's already taken. | 动机和那种事情,我想做, 它已经采取了。 |
| 997 | It would be another six years before I stopped talking myself out of it and actually did it. | 再过六年,我就不再自言自语了 |
| 998 | How about this? | 这个怎么样? |
| 999 | How about in this podcast, I said very clearly there are 10,000 listeners | 如何在这个播客,我说非常清楚 有10,000个听众 |
| 1000 | that are nice people too and want good for others that actually can do it. | 也是好人 想要对别人好 能够做到这一点。 |
| 1001 | Of course. | 当然 |
| 1002 | But do you know how crazy that is? | 你知道这有多疯狂吗? |
| 1003 | Just this listener group. | 只有这个听众组 |
| 1004 | There's 10,000 people that can start right now. | 有一万人现在可以开始。 |
| 1005 | They're in dead zero. | 他们在死零。 |
| 1006 | Everybody starts at dead zero. | 每个人都从零开始。 |
| 1007 | No shit, Sherlock. | 不会吧,夏洛克 |
| 1008 | And in a year, they could have a totally different life. | 一年后,他们可以过完全不同的生活。 |
| 1009 | The actual message to the person listening is there is something that you are on the cusp of. | 给听众的讯息是 你正在忙着处理 |
| 1010 | There is something you are amazing at. | 有件事你令人惊讶。 |
| 1011 | And the more you sit around and watch everybody else do it, | 你越是坐着看着别人这么做 |
| 1012 | the more you are going to rot inside because you're not doing anything. | 你越是腐烂 里面 因为你没有做任何事情。 |
| 1013 | The more you get your two index fingers and put them in your ears and you can't hear others | 你越是得到你的两个指数手指 并把它们在你的耳朵,你无法听到别人 |
| 1014 | and you take these risks and do things, the more likely your life will be joyful. | 你冒着这些风险做一些事情 你的生活就更可能快乐了 |
| 1015 | You are literally, I'm thinking about this woman right now. | 你是字面意思, 我现在在想这个女人。 |
| 1016 | I could just see her. | 我能看见她 |
| 1017 | You're not going to do this because you go on TikTok and you sell something. | 你不会这样做 因为你去TikTok 卖东西。 |
| 1018 | You're concerned about the looks of the fellow moms when you drop off your | 你关心的是那些妈妈的外表 当你放下你的 |
| 1019 | junior high daughter because you for some reason value if they think | 初中生的女儿,因为你 某些原因的价值 如果他们认为 |
| 1020 | that you're doing it because you don't have enough money or all these. | 你这样做是因为你没有足够的钱或所有这些。 |
| 1021 | Or you're trying to be an influencer. | 或者你试图成为一个影响者。 |
| 1022 | You're stuck in sixth grade. | 你被卡在六年级。 |
| 1023 | And my thing is when the alpha of your group, because you're not, | 而我的事情是当你的团体的阿尔法, 因为你不是, |
| 1024 | comes up to you and says, hey, Mel, saw your little TikTok thing. | 来到你面前说,嘿,梅尔,看到你的小TikTok的事情。 |
| 1025 | What's going on? | 这是怎么回事? |
| 1026 | Is John not bringing enough money home? | 约翰带的钱不够吗? |
| 1027 | You guys need a couple of bucks. | 你们需要几块钱。 |
| 1028 | We're happy to give you a couple of dollars. | 我们很乐意给你几块钱 |
| 1029 | When she goes there, my brain goes to that basketball game. | 当她去那里, 我的大脑去参加篮球比赛。 |
| 1030 | And you say to Susan or Sally McGee or Jocelyn, hey, Joss, how about X, Y, and Z? | 你对苏珊或莎莉麦吉或乔斯琳说,嘿,乔斯,那X,Y,和Z呢? |
| 1031 | Because the thought that Jocelyn, the alpha that's going to razz you, | 因为Jocelyn的念头 让你毛骨悚然的阿尔法 |
| 1032 | has everything perfect is insanity. | 完美无缺就是疯狂 |
| 1033 | Well, the other thing that's insanity is that you're allowing | 另一件疯狂的事情是 你允许 |
| 1034 | another person's opinion to stop you from living your life. | 其他人的意见 阻止你的生活。 |
| 1035 | And this goes to regret, Mel. | 很遗憾,梅尔 |
| 1036 | And it goes to you're going to die. | 则归命. |
| 1037 | That's right. | 没错 |
| 1038 | And is the eulogies at your funeral going to be, well, she had all these | 在你的葬礼上 尤洛吉夫妇会拥有这些吗? |
| 1039 | dreams in her heart, but she was afraid of Jocelyn. | 她心里有梦 但她害怕乔斯琳 |
| 1040 | That's right. | 没错 |
| 1041 | And so instead she kind of lived a small thing and didn't take any risks | 所以她过着小日子,没有冒险 |
| 1042 | and lived with a lot of regret. | 和生活的很多遗憾。 |
| 1043 | That's right. | 没错 |
| 1044 | Really, you know, at the end, Jocelyn moved on to a different friend group. | 真的,你知道,最后,乔斯琳 转到另一个朋友团体。 |
| 1045 | That's right. | 没错 |
| 1046 | She thought a lot about how she should have done it. | 她想了很多她应该怎么做 |
| 1047 | And then she beat herself up about regret. | 然后她因为后悔而自责 |
| 1048 | That's right. | 没错 |
| 1049 | And so if we've learned anything in this podcast, it's fuck Jocelyn. | 所以如果我们在播客中学到了什么 那就是他妈的乔斯琳 |
| 1050 | I mean, like, really, though, like friends winner. | 我的意思是,像,真的,虽然, 像朋友赢家。 |
| 1051 | And again, this is what intoxicates me about being here. | 再说一遍,这就是我在这里沉醉的原因。 |
| 1052 | You are not choosing as a human being to listen to this podcast over tuning | 你没有选择作为一个人 听播客的调音 |
| 1053 | into CNN and Fox and scaring yourself. | 进入CNN和Fox 吓着自己 |
| 1054 | Or celebrity, like interviews or whatever. | 或者名人,比如采访之类的 |
| 1055 | Or the reunion show of like reality. | 或者像现实般的重聚 |
| 1056 | And by the way, oh, that's fine. | 顺便说一句 没关系 |
| 1057 | I watch sports like that doesn't mean anything. | 我这样看运动没什么意义 |
| 1058 | It's an escapism. | 以是因缘. |
| 1059 | It brings me joy. | 它带给我欢乐。 |
| 1060 | It's a balance to all the other stuff. | 这是其他东西的平衡 |
| 1061 | But I know this. | 但我知道这一点。 |
| 1062 | If you've decided to listen to this podcast, you're close. | 如果你决定听这个播客的话,你就很接近了. |
| 1063 | I can't get over this. | 我无法克服这一点。 |
| 1064 | This is what keeps running in my head. | 我脑子里一直在想这个 |
| 1065 | I know they're close. | 我知道他们很近 |
| 1066 | I know it because I've lived it my whole life. | 我知道是因为我一辈子都活在其中 |
| 1067 | Also, the last 20 years, people that consume my stuff are close to action. | 另外,在过去20年里, 食用我的东西的人已经接近行动。 |
| 1068 | And here's you want it. | 这是你想要的。 |
| 1069 | You don't pass time listening to this. | 你没有时间听到这个。 |
| 1070 | You make it because there is something in you that you know needs to be unearthed. | 你之所以能成功 是因为你体内有些东西需要解开 |
| 1071 | And you listen to this because you're looking for the encouragement. | 你听这个是因为你在找鼓励。 |
| 1072 | You're looking for somebody like Gary, who has been there | 你在找像加里这样的人 一直在那里 |
| 1073 | and who does this every day to say you can do this. | 谁每天都这样做 说你可以做到这一点。 |
| 1074 | But you have to stop listening to everybody else's opinion. | 但你必须停止听别人的意见 |
| 1075 | You have to stop letting fear stand in your way. | 你必须停止让恐惧阻碍你 |
| 1076 | It is about action. | 这是关于行动。 |
| 1077 | Talk is so cheap. | 说话太便宜了 |
| 1078 | By the way, listen, friends. | 对了,听着,朋友们。 |
| 1079 | I know Mel and I have been really jamming like a rock band | 我知道梅尔和我像摇滚乐队一样 一直干扰着 |
| 1080 | in our garage for an hour on this one thing. | 在车库里呆了一个小时 |
| 1081 | Listen to me, friends. | 听我说,朋友们。 |
| 1082 | It is not lost on me on how hard this is. | 我并不觉得这有多难。 |
| 1083 | When you are fully bought into other people's opinions, | 当你被完全接受别人的意见时, |
| 1084 | you've probably been there for 20 to 30 years to just be like, | 你可能在那里呆了20到30年 就为了像, |
| 1085 | oh, yeah, Gary and Mel, like a ranting now and I'm going to do it. | 哦,是的,加里和梅尔, 像一个叫现在,我要去做到这一点。 |
| 1086 | It's not, quote unquote, that easy. | 说不出口 没那么容易 |
| 1087 | And yet it is. | 然则亦然. |
| 1088 | And I will say it. | 我会说的 |
| 1089 | I can speak from personal experience. | 我可以从个人经验谈起。 |
| 1090 | At some point, I just jumped in the pool. | 在某个时候,我刚刚跳进泳池。 |
| 1091 | At some point, you're just going to jump. | 在某个时候,你只是要去跳。 |
| 1092 | You just are. | 你就是这样 |
| 1093 | Here's my big one. | 这是我的大块头 |
| 1094 | Here's my big one tactically. | 这是我的一个大战术。 |
| 1095 | You need to start surrounding yourself with people | 你得开始跟人在一起 |
| 1096 | that are cheering for you to jump in the pool, | 为你跳进泳池欢呼 |
| 1097 | not making fun of you for not being in the pool. | 而不是嘲笑你没有在游泳池。 |
| 1098 | How do you do that when in the physical world, | 在现实世界里,你怎么做到的? |
| 1099 | they're not around you? | 他们不在你身边? |
| 1100 | Because we get a lot of questions about this. | 因为我们对此有很多疑问. |
| 1101 | I bet you do, too. | 我敢打赌,你也一样。 |
| 1102 | So how do you build the cheering group online? | 那么,你是如何建立 欢呼组在线? |
| 1103 | 当梅尔在Instagram上发帖时, | |
| 1104 | reply to other people's replies to her post | 回应其他人对她文章的答复 |
| 1105 | and start becoming friends, all of you. | 开始成为你们的朋友 |
| 1106 | Mel Mafia, start becoming friends with each other | 梅尔黑手党,开始成为朋友 |
| 1107 | in Mel's comments. | 在梅尔的评论。 |
| 1108 | Here's what's going to happen, Mel. | 接下来会发生什么,梅尔。 |
| 1109 | Sally reads all the comments from your post. | 莎莉读了你文章上的评论 |
| 1110 | She finds Kristen's comment that she associates with. | 她发现克莉丝汀的评论 她同意 |
| 1111 | She replies, Kristen, I couldn't agree with you more. | 她回答,克莉丝汀,我完全同意你的观点 |
| 1112 | She also clicks Kristen's profile and looks at her profile | 她也点击了克莉丝汀的简介,看看她的简介 |
| 1113 | and says, PS, your dog is so cute. | 并说,PS,你的狗是如此可爱。 |
| 1114 | Got it? | 明白了吗? |
| 1115 | We're putting a little effort into positivity. | 我们正在投入一点精力去实现实心主义。 |
| 1116 | Kristen is just a regular good old Kristen. | 克莉丝汀只是个普通的好老克莉丝汀 |
| 1117 | She's not accustomed to people liking her comment | 她不习惯别人喜欢她的评论 |
| 1118 | and replying to it. | 并报应. |
| 1119 | She sees it in her notification. | 她从通知中看到了 |
| 1120 | She then goes looks. | 然后她去寻找。 |
| 1121 | She's on the receiving end of love and warmth. | 她在爱和温暖的接收端。 |
| 1122 | She reads that comment. | 她读了这个评论。 |
| 1123 | She looks at the first person's comment | 她看第一人称的评论 |
| 1124 | and says, oh my God, I love your backyard. | 说,哦,我的上帝,我爱你的后院。 |
| 1125 | You know what happens next? | 你知道接下来会发生什么吗? |
| 1126 | One of them DMs each other. | 其中一个是DMs彼此。 |
| 1127 | You know what happens next? | 你知道接下来会发生什么吗? |
| 1128 | That goes on for a couple of weeks. | 持续了几个星期 |
| 1129 | You know what happens next? | 你知道接下来会发生什么吗? |
| 1130 | A phone call, a Zoom. | 一个电话,一个缩放。 |
| 1131 | You know what happens next? | 你知道接下来会发生什么吗? |
| 1132 | They actually meet in person. | 他们实际上是当面见面的。 |
| 1133 | I love this. | 我喜欢这个 |
| 1134 | Our slogan in Be Friends is strangers become acquaintances. | 我们在"朋友"的口号是陌生人成为熟人 |
| 1135 | Acquaintances become friends and friends become family. | 爱奇艺成为朋友,朋友成为家人. |
| 1136 | I'm obsessed with this. | 我对这个很着迷 |
| 1137 | Do you know why I love collectibles | 你知道我为什么喜欢收藏品吗? |
| 1138 | and believe it's a huge trend | 并相信这是一个巨大的趋势 |
| 1139 | and that it's about to join fashion and sports | 并且它即将加入时尚和体育 |
| 1140 | and music as a lifestyle genre? | 和音乐作为一个生活方式流派? |
| 1141 | Because collectibles, you don't need the cardboard | 因为收藏品,你不需要纸板 |
| 1142 | of a baseball card that's worth $2 million. | 价值200万美元的棒球卡 |
| 1143 | It's worth nothing. | 值无量. |
| 1144 | You don't need the pieces of paper of a comic book | 你不需要漫画的纸片 |
| 1145 | that ends up being worth $10,000. | 最终价值一万美元。 |
| 1146 | The actual intrinsic value is nothing. | 真正的内在价值是虚无的。 |
| 1147 | You definitely don't need collectibles. | 你绝对不需要收藏品 |
| 1148 | It is not a necessity. | 这不是必要的。 |
| 1149 | The only necessity about collectibles is community. | 收集物品的唯一必要性是社区。 |
| 1150 | Do you know why sports works? | 你知道为什么体育工作吗? |
| 1151 | It's something that's not the most important thing | 这是不是最重要的事情 |
| 1152 | in the world that brings everyone together | 将每个人聚集在一起的世界 |
| 1153 | and we're talking about the same thing. | 我们说的是同样的事情。 |
| 1154 | Do you know why music works? | 你知道音乐为什么起作用吗? |
| 1155 | You all like, it's tribalism on something that's positive. | 你们都喜欢,这是部落主义 在某方面是积极的。 |
| 1156 | Do you know what Comic-Con looks like? | 你知道动漫展是什么样子吗? |
| 1157 | Oh my God, if you wear a Spider-Man outfit | 哦,我的上帝,如果你穿蜘蛛侠的衣服 |
| 1158 | and someone else loves Spider-Man, | 还有别人喜欢蜘蛛侠 |
| 1159 | these are two strangers that hug it out | 这些是两个陌生人抱出来 |
| 1160 | like they're long lost best friends. | 就像他们已经失去最好的朋友一样 |
| 1161 | Collectibles are important | 收藏品很重要 收藏品很重要 |
| 1162 | because when I go to the trade show in Chicago | 因为当我去芝加哥的贸易展 |
| 1163 | for four days, hundreds of thousands of people, | 四天,数十万人, |
| 1164 | we just all like cardboard with athletes on it, right? | 我们只是喜欢纸板 有运动员在上面,对不对? |
| 1165 | I want to take this because there is something | 我想拿这个,因为有东西 |
| 1166 | about your life that you love. | 关于你所爱的生活 |
| 1167 | Needle pointing, gardening, it could be tractor pulling. | 针头指向,园艺, 它可能是拖拉机拉。 |
| 1168 | It could be anything. | 它可以是任何东西。 |
| 1169 | People around you misunderstand you. | 周围的人误会你了 |
| 1170 | You can find a community of people that are in it | 你可以找到一个社区里的人 |
| 1171 | and if you put yourself intentionally in it, | 如果你故意让自己卷入其中, |
| 1172 | get up to the line, just do it, hesitate, hesitate, | 站到线上,做它,犹豫,犹豫, |
| 1173 | I'm doing it and you jump into that community, | 我这样做,你跳进社区, |
| 1174 | you now feel lifted up. | 你现在觉得升起。 |
| 1175 | Mel, this whole little rant is why I believe | 梅尔,这整个小叫声 是为什么我相信 |
| 1176 | social media is the greatest, not the worst. | 社交媒体是最伟大的,而不是最糟糕的。 |
| 1177 | Everybody has become infatuated with talking about | 每个人都对谈论着 |
| 1178 | all the bad of social. | 所有的坏社会。 |
| 1179 | You said something very important earlier. | 你刚才说了很重要的话 |
| 1180 | You said for the people here | 你说这里的人 |
| 1181 | who can't physically find it around them. | 他们身体上找不到它 |
| 1182 | Yes. | 对 |
| 1183 | They were in a neighborhood, | 他们在附近, |
| 1184 | all their family members, negative Nellies, | 他们的家属, 负面的内莉斯, |
| 1185 | all their friend group, cynical cats. | 他们的朋友团体 玩世不恭的猫 |
| 1186 | The fact that they can open their phone | 他们可以打开手机的事实 |
| 1187 | 并在Mel的Instagram文章中发表评论 | |
| 1188 | and find her people. | 并找到她的人。 |
| 1189 | Friends, all of you that love this podcast, | 朋友们,你们这些爱播客的人 |
| 1190 | the biggest mistake you're doing | 你犯的最大错误 |
| 1191 | is not interacting with each other in Mel's comments. | 在Mel的评论中并没有相互影响。 |
| 1192 | That is a huge gift to me and the person listening. | 这是给我和听众的礼物 |
| 1193 | Mel, it's actually the number one thing | 梅尔,其实是头号 |
| 1194 | that I want to happen with content. | 我想随心所欲 |
| 1195 | I want, one of the things that's not happening | 我想,一件事是没有发生 |
| 1196 | is I want everyone to start using the comments | 我希望大家开始使用评论 |
| 1197 | like Facebook groups. | 像脸书组。 |
| 1198 | Rather than talking to me | 而不是跟我说话 |
| 1199 | and commenting to me comment to each other. | 并评论我, |
| 1200 | Yes, because it's bigger than us. | 是的,因为它比我们大。 |
| 1201 | Yes. | 对 |
| 1202 | What we do for a living is so uncomfortably bigger than us. | 我们的生计比我们大得多 |
| 1203 | I don't think it's about me at all. | 我觉得这根本不是我的事 |
| 1204 | Nor do I. | 我也一样。 |
| 1205 | I want to ask you some rapid fire questions. | 我想问你一些火速问题 |
| 1206 | Please. | 请 |
| 1207 | Because this is what people, | 因为这就是人们, |
| 1208 | when people are looking for advice from you online, | 当人们在网上寻求你的建议时, |
| 1209 | these are the top things people ask you. | 这些是人们最关心的 |
| 1210 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 1211 | What's one thing the person listening can do today | 今天听的人能做什么呢? |
| 1212 | to build self-confidence? | 建立自信? |
| 1213 | Make a video that tells everybody all their shortcomings. | 制作一段视频,告诉所有人自己的缺点. |
| 1214 | What? | 你说什么? |
| 1215 | Mel, everything is the last scene of Eight Mile, | 梅尔,一切都是八英里的最后一幕 |
| 1216 | Eminem's movie. | 埃米内姆的电影. |
| 1217 | Eminem's movie Eight Mile, | 埃米内姆的电影"八英里" |
| 1218 | the last scene is a battle rap. | 最后一幕是战斗说唱 |
| 1219 | Eminem goes first, | 埃米内姆先走 |
| 1220 | which is actually a disadvantage in battle rap. | 这其实是战斗说唱的缺点 |
| 1221 | So what does he do? | 那他怎么办? |
| 1222 | He flips the script. | 他翻转剧本。 |
| 1223 | He makes fun of himself the entire time. | 他总是取笑自己 |
| 1224 | And then at the tail end, he goes, | 然后在尾端,他去, |
| 1225 | but I know something about you to Clarence. | 但我对克拉伦斯很了解你 |
| 1226 | I believe the number one thing that most people watching | 我相信大多数人看的第一 |
| 1227 | or listening to this podcast should do | 或者听这个播客应该做的 |
| 1228 | is make a video and tell the world what they suck at. | 拍个视频 告诉全世界他们讨厌什么 |
| 1229 | Wow. | 珃 |
| 1230 | It is the great liberating piece of content | 这是伟大的解放内容 |
| 1231 | that is sitting on the fingertips of society | 坐在社会指尖上 |
| 1232 | that no one's doing. | 没有人在做。 |
| 1233 | Because once you take control of it, | 因为一旦你控制了它, |
| 1234 | they don't have control of it. | 他们不能控制它。 |
| 1235 | Oh, the thing you're afraid to say actually owns you. | 哦,你害怕说的东西 实际上拥有你。 |
| 1236 | Owns your fucking ass. | 操你妈的 |
| 1237 | It's your jail. | 这是你的监狱。 |
| 1238 | Almost everyone is not posting | 几乎每个人都没有张贴 |
| 1239 | because of something like that. | 因为类似的事情。 |
| 1240 | And almost everybody is not posting | 几乎每个人都没有张贴 |
| 1241 | because they think there's a perfect thing to post. | 因为他们认为有 完美的事情张贴。 |
| 1242 | Correct. | 没错 |
| 1243 | And the only thing to post | 唯一可以贴出的东西 |
| 1244 | is the thing you're afraid to say. | 你不敢说 |
| 1245 | And the reason I'm brand new at posting music videos | 和原因我全新的 发布音乐视频 |
| 1246 | and I'm scared to death to do this. | 我吓得要死 |
| 1247 | And some of you may think this sucks | 你们有些人可能觉得这很糟 |
| 1248 | and I've been talking myself out of it for 17 months. | 我自言自语了17个月 |
| 1249 | But here goes. | 但这样 |
| 1250 | And everybody's not posting and I mean everybody. | 每个人的不张贴 我的意思是每个人。 |
| 1251 | Almost no one's actually posting | 几乎没有人真的张贴 |
| 1252 | and they're all not posting. | 他们都不张贴。 |
| 1253 | You know why? | 你知道为什么吗? |
| 1254 | They like their little facade. | 他们喜欢他们的小外表。 |
| 1255 | They're safe in their fakeness. | 他们的假象是安全的。 |
| 1256 | They want everyone to think it's awesome. | 他们希望每个人都觉得这很棒。 |
| 1257 | Johnny and me are doing great. | 强尼和我做得很好。 |
| 1258 | My kids are perfect. | 我的孩子是完美的。 |
| 1259 | Everyone's fucking great. | 每个人都他妈的很棒。 |
| 1260 | No one's great. | 没有人是伟大的。 |
| 1261 | And that's what's great. | 且道甚么为妙. |
| 1262 | Everyone's got something. | 每个人都有东西。 |
| 1263 | Geez. | 天呐 |
| 1264 | What's the piece of advice you would give to somebody | 你给别人的建议是什么? |
| 1265 | who wants to start a business? | 谁想创业? |
| 1266 | And what's the worst? | 什么是最糟糕的吗? |
| 1267 | The best advice is are you actually capable? | 最好的建议是 你真的有能力吗? |
| 1268 | You know I got scared. | 你知道我吓坏了。 |
| 1269 | You know I am one of the proud things I am | 你知道我是骄傲的人之一 |
| 1270 | is I definitely feel like I'm in a very small group of people | 我确实觉得自己是一群人 |
| 1271 | that made being a business person | 成为商人 |
| 1272 | or entrepreneur cool 20 years ago. | 或企业家酷20年前。 |
| 1273 | It feels really neat you know. | 感觉很整洁,你知道吗? |
| 1274 | Yeah you inspired so what does it feel like to know | 是啊,你启发了,所以什么感觉 它喜欢知道 |
| 1275 | that you've inspired millions and millions | 你激励了数百万人 |
| 1276 | and millions of people around the world | 全世界数百万人 |
| 1277 | to lean in, start, change your life, start a business? | 倾斜,开始,改变你的生活, 创业? |
| 1278 | Well you know it's so funny. | 你知道这很有趣 |
| 1279 | You represent something even cooler | 你代表了更酷的东西 |
| 1280 | which is I got to do it so early | 我要早点动手 |
| 1281 | that so many people came along were inspired by me | 这么多人来了 灵感来自我 |
| 1282 | that have inspired more people than even I did. | 这启发了更多的人 甚至比我。 |
| 1283 | It feels so good. | 感觉真好 |
| 1284 | All I want is the world to wake up. | 我只想让世界醒过来 |
| 1285 | That's all I want. | 这就是我想要的。 |
| 1286 | And what? | 还有呢? |
| 1287 | And realize it's awesome. | 并意识到这是真棒。 |
| 1288 | Like it is. | 犹如是. |
| 1289 | Now it might not be awesome right now | 现在可能不棒了 |
| 1290 | because you're $80,000 in debt. | 因为你欠了八万块 |
| 1291 | Your marriage is falling apart. | 你的婚姻要崩溃了 |
| 1292 | Like your kid is struggling. | 就像你孩子在挣扎 |
| 1293 | But it is. | 但它确实是。 |
| 1294 | Like this is the brain fuck. | 碞钩硂福 |
| 1295 | It's awesome because you have a chance to change it. | 这是真棒 因为你有机会改变它。 |
| 1296 | I think the big mistake that people make is thinking | 我想人们最大的错误是想 |
| 1297 | that there is some perfect life. | 有一些完美的生活。 |
| 1298 | There is some life where you're going to be happy all the time | 有些生活你会一直快乐 |
| 1299 | and that that's the point of life. | 这就是生命的意义。 |
| 1300 | And the goal is not perfection or happiness. | 目标不是完美或幸福 |
| 1301 | What is perfect? | 什么是完美的吗? |
| 1302 | It's aliveness. | 谓众生性. |
| 1303 | What's perfect? | 什么是完美的吗? |
| 1304 | By whose fucking definition? | 谁他妈的定义? |
| 1305 | So when you say awesome, life is awesome, | 所以当你说真棒, 生活真棒, |
| 1306 | I think what you're saying is you don't actually | 我想你的意思是 你其实不是 |
| 1307 | have to feel like it's awesome | 一定要感觉好棒 |
| 1308 | for you to call your life beautiful and good. | 让你将你的生活称为美丽和美好 |
| 1309 | Mel, the New York Knicks, | 梅尔,纽约尼克斯, |
| 1310 | do you know how much joy I still feel | 你知不知道我仍然感到多么快乐 |
| 1311 | and most of New York City feels | 和大部分纽约市感觉 |
| 1312 | about what happened a couple months ago? | 几个月前发生了什么? |
| 1313 | Do you understand that the Knicks were losing | 你知道尼克斯队输了吗? |
| 1314 | by 29 points late in an NBA finals | 在NBA总决赛落后29分 |
| 1315 | and no team had ever done it before? | 之前没有团队做过吗? |
| 1316 | And guess what? | 你猜怎么着? |
| 1317 | We did. | 我们做到了。 |
| 1318 | There is someone right now who's down 29 points, | 现在有个人跌了29点 |
| 1319 | down 29 points in the fourth quarter | 第四季度下降29点 |
| 1320 | and can win. | 并可以赢得。 |
| 1321 | Do you know how cool that is? | 你知道这有多酷吗? |
| 1322 | Do you know how awesome that is? | 你知道这有多棒吗? |
| 1323 | Everything's gone wrong and one smart decision, | 一切都出问题了 一个明智的决定 |
| 1324 | but it starts with this is on me. | 但从这个开始,我负责 |
| 1325 | And this is where the politicians have been brilliant. | 这就是政治家们的辉煌之处。 |
| 1326 | This is where the bosses have been brilliant | 老板们都在这里很聪明 |
| 1327 | and this is where the parents have been brilliant. | 这是父母们的辉煌之处 |
| 1328 | They've weaponized and manipulated their subjects | 他们已经武器化和操纵他们的臣民 |
| 1329 | into thinking they can help them. | 思考他们能帮助他们。 |
| 1330 | Mel, do you know what's really cool? | 梅尔 你知道什么很酷吗? |
| 1331 | Tell me. | 告诉我 |
| 1332 | I don't think I can help anyone. | 我不认为我能帮助任何人。 |
| 1333 | I do not believe that Gary Vee content or me, the human, can help anyone, but I can | 我不相信Gary Vee的满足 或我,人类,可以帮助任何人, 但我可以 |
| 1334 | help them realize that they can help themselves. | 帮助他们意识到他们可以自助。 |
| 1335 | Correct. | 没错 |
| 1336 | So if someone's looking for a job right now, whether they lost it or they're in a new grad | 所以,如果有人现在在找工作, 无论他们失去了它,还是他们进入了一个新的研究生 |
| 1337 | in this market, Gary, what is the number one skill that you think they should be focusing | 在市场上,加里,什么是头号 技能,你认为他们应该专注于 |
| 1338 | on? | 继续? |
| 1339 | 在LinkedIn上制作内容. | |
| 1340 | 在LinkedIn上做内容? | |
| 1341 | How about that one? | 那个怎么样? |
| 1342 | You know why? | 你知道为什么吗? |
| 1343 | I'm obsessed with optionality. | 迷着可选性. |
| 1344 | What does that mean? | 这是什么意思? |
| 1345 | Let me explain. | 让我解释一下 |
| 1346 | If you lost your job and you're debating, do I want another job similar or do I want | 如果你失业了,你正在辩论, 我想要另一个类似的工作 还是我想要 |
| 1347 | to do something on my own? | 独自做点什么? |
| 1348 | If everyone understood what I understood, which is LinkedIn is exactly the same thing | 如果每个人都明白我所理解的, 即LinkedIn 完全一样的事情 |
| 1349 | as Facebook and Instagram, except the audience perspective and mentality when they're on | 除了观众的视角和心态 |
| 1350 | it is different. | 这是不同的。 |
| 1351 | If you put out content on LinkedIn, whether it's about the things you think about your | 如果你在LinkedIn上发布内容, 是否与你思考的东西有关 |
| 1352 | industry, so you're an executive assistant and so you're making content on LinkedIn | 工业,所以你是一个执行助理 所以你正在制作内容 关于链接 内 |
| 1353 | about five rules. | 大约五条规则。 |
| 1354 | Hey, everyone, it's Susan. | 嘿,大家好,这是苏珊。 |
| 1355 | I'm in between gigs. | 我在演出间 |
| 1356 | I've been doing executive assistant work for the last nine years, just going to make this | 过去九年我一直在做行政助理的工作, 只是为了做这个 |
| 1357 | video five things every executive assistant or someone getting into it should know about | 视频五件事 每个执行助理或某人 进入它应该知道 |
| 1358 | the game. | 游戏。 |
| 1359 | Now, I want to point something out. | 现在,我想指出一些事情。 |
| 1360 | Notice he said, I'm in between gigs. | 注意,他说, 我在演出之间。 |
| 1361 | Most people wouldn't say that because you don't want people to know that. | 大多数人不会这么说 因为你不想让人知道 |
| 1362 | And Gary is telling you saying the thing you don't want to say is not a sign that you're | 盖瑞在告诉你 你不想说的话 不是一个迹象 |
| 1363 | a loser. | 一个失败者。 |
| 1364 | It's a sign that you're a winner and that you're securing yourself and you're still | 示现如来胜身安住亦复如是. |
| 1365 | showing up. | 出现. |
| 1366 | Mel, your embarrassment is your advantage. | 梅尔,你的尴尬是你的优势。 |
| 1367 | What do you mean? | 你说什么? |
| 1368 | I mean, your embarrassment is your uniqueness. | 我的意思是,你的尴尬是你的独有。 |
| 1369 | It's your nuance. | 这是你的细微。 |
| 1370 | It's your snowflake. | 这是你的雪花。 |
| 1371 | I just don't know how people can't see this. | 我只是不知道 人们怎么看不到这个。 |
| 1372 | Your unique situation is your biggest advantage, regardless of the world currently thinks it's | 你的独特处境是你最大的优势, 不管现在的世界认为这是 |
| 1373 | right. | 对 |
| 1374 | Let me give you a big one for me. | 让我给你一个大的给我。 |
| 1375 | Yes. | 对 |
| 1376 | I pounded against college for a decade in my content in the early 2000s and got completely | 在20世纪初,我对大学 进行了十年的打击 内容在2000年代初,并得到了完全 |
| 1377 | shit on by everyone. | 所有人都在胡说八道 |
| 1378 | Like he what he's talking about is that for a decade, Gary was questioning 2005 seven | 就像他所说的 十年来 加里一直在质疑2005年7月 |
| 1379 | nine college is a waste for a lot of people. | 九所大学对很多人来说都是浪费. |
| 1380 | Do you need to go to college? | 你需要上大学吗? |
| 1381 | You do not need to go to college. | 你不需要上大学。 |
| 1382 | The world is changing. | 世界正在改变。 |
| 1383 | 2007. | 2007 (英语). |
| 1384 | I'm making a video saying college isn't right. | 我在录影说大学不对 |
| 1385 | And I always was nuanced. | 我一直很细微 |
| 1386 | If you're creative or entrepreneurial and your parents can't afford to pay for it, I | 如果你有创造力或创业能力 父母付不起钱,我 |
| 1387 | do not think you should go take $120,000 in debt to have a piece of paper that I'm projecting | 你不该拿12万块的债 来买我预测的纸 |
| 1388 | in 20 years won't matter. | 20年也没关系 |
| 1389 | And Mel, I got destroyed. | 梅尔 我被摧毁了 |
| 1390 | Well, no, really, Mel, like it was probably the subject matter that I most got the most | 嗯,不,真的,梅尔, 像它可能是 主题事项,我得到了最多 |
| 1391 | private and public comment heat of for a decade. | 私人和公共评论热了十年。 |
| 1392 | Wow. | 珃 |
| 1393 | Gary, you're saying this because you were a bad student. | 加里,你这么说是因为你是个坏学生 |
| 1394 | You suck. | 你烂透了 |
| 1395 | You're not smart. | 你不聪明。 |
| 1396 | You curse and you're bad at school. | 你诅咒你在学校很坏。 |
| 1397 | You don't have intellect, blah, blah, blah. | 你没有智慧,等等,等等。 |
| 1398 | And then miraculously, 15 years later, people like, wait a minute. | 然后奇迹般地,15年后, 人们喜欢,等待一分钟。 |
| 1399 | And so what I'm saying is, if it's your truth, my truth was I thought a lot of kids were | 所以我想说的是,如果这是你的真理, 我的真理是,我以为很多孩子是 |
| 1400 | getting screwed by college. | 被大学搞砸。 |
| 1401 | Yes, I agree with you. | 是的,我同意你的观点。 |
| 1402 | But man, was I on an island in 2007. | 但是,2007年我在岛上。 |
| 1403 | I'm telling you, I was in a really lonely place and I would not stop because I believed | 告诉你,我在一个非常孤独的地方,我不会停止 因为我相信 |
| 1404 | in my soul. | 在我的灵魂里 |
| 1405 | And you think I want to tell the world that I sucked a candor for 20 years and was horrible | 你以为我想告诉世界 我吸了20年的罐头,很可怕 |
| 1406 | at firing and that there's people out there that are still mad at me because I pulled | 在那里有人还生我的气 因为我拉 |
| 1407 | the rug from out. | 地毯从外面。 |
| 1408 | I'm embarrassed. | 我很尴尬。 |
| 1409 | Mel, I don't think all my other success high. | 梅尔,我不认为 我的其他成功都很高。 |
| 1410 | What do you do with those failures? | 你对这些失败做了什么? |
| 1411 | Adjust, own and adjust. | 调整、拥有和调整。 |
| 1412 | And then by the way, my friends, pay attention to your relationship with should. | 顺便说一句 朋友们 注意你和应该的关系 |
| 1413 | My relationship with should is remarkable. | 我和他的关系很显著 |
| 1414 | I don't use it. | 我不使用它。 |
| 1415 | I don't think I should have anything. | 我觉得我不应该有任何东西。 |
| 1416 | In fact, I think if I'm working 15 hours a day, let me say this slow. | 事实上,我想如果我每天工作15小时, 让我说这个慢。 |
| 1417 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}三年来 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}我想我不应该有任何东西 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}因为如果我不是 | |
| 1418 | working effectively or something that's bringing value to someone, I should get nothing. | 有效工作或者给人带来价值的东西,我什么也得不到. |
| 1419 | Cause and effect. | 果报因果. |
| 1420 | That's a tough one. | 这是一个艰难的。 |
| 1421 | You know, like, okay, Gary, Mel, I've been working on my podcast for nine years, 12 hours | 你知道,像,好吧,加里,梅尔,我已经工作 我的播客9年,12小时 |
| 1422 | a day. | 一天时间 |
| 1423 | Like what's up? | 怎么样? |
| 1424 | What's up as you stink? | 你臭得什么样? |
| 1425 | I'm sorry. | 对不起 |
| 1426 | I mean, I don't know. | 我是说,我不知道。 |
| 1427 | Like it's okay. | 犹如无碍. |
| 1428 | Like, by the way, like I stink a lot. | 就像,顺便说一句, 就像我臭了很多。 |
| 1429 | There's a lot of things I've done that stink, which is why I don't do them anymore. | 我做过很多臭事 所以我不再做 |
| 1430 | Correct. | 没错 |
| 1431 | Now we're getting into like, like, are you navigating? | 瞷и璶秈 钩, 暗盾? |
| 1432 | How self aware are you? | 你对自己有多了解? |
| 1433 | Where's your humility? | 你的谦卑呢? |
| 1434 | But I'm going to say it again. | 但我会再说一遍。 |
| 1435 | There's a lot of people exhausted because they are not realizing how much envy and jealousy | 很多人都精疲力尽了 因为他们不知道 嫉妒和嫉妒有多深 |
| 1436 | is eating up their soul. | 正在吃他们的灵魂。 |
| 1437 | I'm going to say it nice and slow. | 我今当说善慢. |
| 1438 | As of this moment that most people are listening, obviously people will listen years from now, | 从大多数人在听的这一刻开始, 很明显,人们会听几年以后, |
| 1439 | but knowing when this is going to air, they just went through June, July and August and | 但知道什么时候会播出 他们刚刚经历了六月、七月和八月 |
| 1440 | they got triggered by someone else's happiness. | 他们被别人的幸福触发了 |
| 1441 | We need to talk about this more. | 我们得多谈谈这件事 |
| 1442 | I had a moment in my life where I just got tired of myself. | 我有一个时刻,我刚刚厌倦了自己。 |
| 1443 | I got so sick of being a person that thought life should be different and thought I should | 我厌倦了作为一个人 认为生活应该不同 认为我应该 |
| 1444 | have the things other people did that was jealous of people I wanted to be happy for. | 别人做的那些事 是嫉妒那些我想为之高兴的人 |
| 1445 | And I realized, wait, if I don't like the person I am and if I don't like how I feel, | 我意识到,等待,如果我不喜欢我的人 如果我不喜欢我的感受, |
| 1446 | I'm not stuck as this version of myself. | 我并不是被困在这种版本的自己。 |
| 1447 | In the realest way. | 以最真实之法. |
| 1448 | I need to change this. | 我需要改变这一点。 |
| 1449 | If I don't like the way my life feels. | 如果我不喜欢我的生活感受 |
| 1450 | Even in the most competitive place I am as a professional, like I do business the way | 即使在竞争最激烈的地方,我还是专业的 就像我做生意一样 |
| 1451 | like athletes do athlete. | 像运动员做运动员。 |
| 1452 | I know I love that about you. | 我知道我喜欢你这样 |
| 1453 | You know, like they're like in real life, they're very sweet, but when they get on the | 你知道,就像他们在现实生活中一样, 他们非常甜蜜,但当他们得到 |
| 1454 | field, they want to crush. | 球场,他们想要粉碎。 |
| 1455 | Yes. | 对 |
| 1456 | Even in my most competitive domain, my professional career, if you knew how much joy I have for | 即使在我最竞争的领域 我的职业生涯 如果你知道我有多快乐 |
| 1457 | people that are seemingly on paper competing with me when they are winning, what many of | 似乎在纸上和我竞争的人 当他们赢了,什么是很多 |
| 1458 | my contemporaries view as coming out of them, it does not even register. | 我同时期的人认为它们都出来了 甚至没有登记 |
| 1459 | I could not be happier for people that pass me in following count, pass me in financial | 我无法为那些 追随计数 背负经济责任的人高兴 |
| 1460 | status, pass me in listener count. | 状态,通过我的听众数。 |
| 1461 | I could not be more happy for all of you. | 我不能再为你们高兴了 |
| 1462 | Why? | 为什么? |
| 1463 | Because the world is abundant and your joy has nothing to do with me. | 因为世界是丰富的, 你的快乐与我无关。 |
| 1464 | My joy is my joy and your joy is your joy and friends, there's unlimited stuff. | 我的欢乐就是我的欢乐,你的欢乐是你的欢乐和朋友,有无限的东西. |
| 1465 | There's unlimited happiness. | 有无限快乐. |
| 1466 | There's unlimited love. | 有无限爱. |
| 1467 | There's unlimited joy. | 有无限欢喜. |
| 1468 | There's unlimited materialistic things. | 有无限的唯物主义的东西. |
| 1469 | And just like no one's taking out of you, you're taking out of you. | 就像没人要带走你 你就要除掉你 |
| 1470 | If this were the last thing that you could share with somebody, the one message that | 如果这是你最后可以和别人分享的 唯一一个信息 |
| 1471 | you wanted the person who's been listening to this to remember, what would it be? | 你想让一直在听这个的人记住 会是什么? |
| 1472 | Then nothing in the end. | 然后最后什么都没有。 |
| 1473 | In the end, none of the shit that you're worried about is going to actually matter. | 最终,你担心的狗屎 都不会真正重要。 |
| 1474 | So if that is true, and guess what, I know everyone knows I'm right, then why not start | 所以,如果这是真的,你猜怎么着, 我知道每个人都知道我是对的, 那么为什么不开始 |
| 1475 | living your life that way right this second? | 就这么过日子吗? |
| 1476 | What are your parting words? | 你讲什么话? |
| 1477 | That life can be so much better than the way it is right now. | 生活会比现在好得多 |
| 1478 | I think there's a confusion in the system. | 我觉得系统有点混乱 |
| 1479 | I really, really love you and it's time you love yourself. | 我真的,真的爱你 是时候你爱自己了 |
| 1480 | Gary, I really love you. | 盖瑞,我真的爱你 |
| 1481 | I do and I know you don't do a lot of interviews. | 我知道,我知道你不做 很多采访。 |
| 1482 | And so the fact that you wanted to be here, that you made the time to be here, that you | 所以,你想在这里, 你创造了时间在这里,你 |
| 1483 | did that both for me as somebody who I truly, when I tell you this, I am where I am in my | 都是为了我这个真正的人 当我告诉你这些时 我身处 |
| 1484 | life because of the content that you put out and the message that you put out and the way | 生活,因为你发布的内容, 你发布的信息和方式 |
| 1485 | that you've changed the way that I think. | 你改变了我的想法 |
| 1486 | And I really have always felt in everything that you've done that there is this incredible | 我真的一直觉得 你所做的一切 都有一个不可思议的 |
| 1487 | combination of ambition and confidence and fun and business and go and build and chase | 将野心和信心、娱乐和生意结合起来 去建设和追求 |
| 1488 | and how fucking cool is this? | 这他妈的有多酷? |
| 1489 | And at the same time, this humble, connected, profound understanding of what is true in | 同时,这种谦卑的,相连的,对真实事物的深刻理解 |
| 1490 | life. | 活着 |
| 1491 | And I feel like you are a twin flame and a huge bright light. | 我感到你就像双火焰 和巨大的光芒 |
| 1492 | And I just want to thank you for truly changing my life and inspiring me. | 我只想感谢你真正改变了我的生活,激励了我。 |
| 1493 | That is incredibly humbling. | 令人难以置信的叫声。 |
| 1494 | And, you know, to me, it honors what I most believe in the world that is so much bigger | 你知道,对我来说,它尊重 我最相信的世界 如此之大 |
| 1495 | than me, which is like this is real. | 比我,这是真实的。 |
| 1496 | There's so much right now. | 有这么多现在。 |
| 1497 | The world is very confused that hate is winning. | 世界非常困惑,仇恨正在赢得胜利。 |
| 1498 | My friends, hate's in trouble. | 朋友们,仇恨有麻烦了 |
| 1499 | Love is always lurking, you know, and I'm really just uncomfortably proud of you. | 爱情总是潜伏着,你知道的, 我真的不愉快地为你骄傲。 |
| 1500 | And more importantly, in this moment, there's just a lot of people listening that are on | 更重要的是,在这个时刻, 只是很多人在听 |
| 1501 | the cusp. | 胸围。 |
| 1502 | I am I am so proud and pumped for you, but I am here strictly because I know one person's | 我为你感到骄傲和兴奋 但我在这里绝对是因为我知道一个人 |
| 1503 | ready to tip and I know our combination today will do that. | 准备给小费 我知道我们今天的组合会做到这一点。 |
| 1504 | Well, Gary Vee, I love you. | 盖瑞·维 我爱你 |
| 1505 | I love you back. | 我爱你 |
| 1506 | Thank you for coming here and partnering with me on behalf of the person who spent all this | 谢谢你来这里 和我合作 代表所有这一切的人 |
| 1507 | time with us. | 时间与我们。 |
| 1508 | And I just want to say to you, thank you for making the time to be with me and Gary. | 我只想告诉你 谢谢你让我和加里在一起 |
| 1509 | Go follow him. | 跟着他 |
| 1510 | Go comment with the other people in the comments for God's sakes and get off the damn | 和别人一起评论 看在上帝的份上 滚开 |
| 1511 | line and get into the game. | 并进入游戏。 |
| 1512 | Your life depends on it. | 你的生命取决于它。 |
| 1513 | In case nobody else tells you as your friend, I'm going to be sure to remind you that I | 如果没人告诉你 作为你的朋友, 我会提醒你,我 |
| 1514 | love you. | 我爱你 |
| 1515 | I know Gary loves you and we both believe in your ability to create a better | 我知道Gary爱你 我们都相信你有能力创造更好的 |
| 1516 | life. | 活着 |
| 1517 | Now, go fucking do it. | 现在,去他妈的做到这一点。 |
| 1518 | So go fucking do it. | 所以,去他妈的做到这一点。 |
| 1519 | And before you do that, though, I just want to thank you. | 在你这么做之前 我只想谢谢你 |
| 1520 | Thank you for watching all the way to the end here on YouTube. | 感谢你们在YouTube上 一路观看到最后 |
| 1521 | Thank you for being generous. | 谢谢你的慷慨 |
| 1522 | This was Gary at his best. | 这是加里最好的。 |
| 1523 | This was so profound. | 这是如此深刻。 |
| 1524 | This is a gift that you can share with everybody in your family. | 这是一份礼物 你可以和家人分享 |
| 1525 | So I hope you will. | 我希望你会的。 |
| 1526 | And if that subscribe button is lit up, Gary will yell at me if I do not do the best | 如果那个订阅按钮亮了 加里会骂我 如果我不做最好的 |
| 1527 | practice and say the best way to support me for supporting you hit subscribe. | 并说出最好的支持方法 支持你点击订阅。 |
| 1528 | That way you don't miss a thing. | 这样你就不会错过任何东西。 |
| 1529 | And it also tells us you fricking love what we're doing here because we love you. | 它也告诉我们你他妈的爱 我们在这里做什么,因为我们爱你。 |
| 1530 | All right. | 好吧,我们走。 |
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