英语播客: 关于爱情，我终于学会了这四件事 | The Jo
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| 0:00 | I didn't find true love until I was 40, and I think the reason is because the way I look at love | 直到40岁我才找到真爱 我觉得是因为我看爱的方式 |
| 0:06 | and relationships is much different now than when I was younger. | 而现在的关系 和我年轻的时候大不相同 |
| 0:11 | And today, I want to share some | 今天,我想分享一些 |
| 0:12 | thoughts on love, as well as four tips for you to maintain a healthy relationship. | 以及四条提示 让你保持健康的关系 |
| 0:21 | Hello, everyone, | 你们好,各位 |
| 0:22 | and welcome to the John Peng Podcast. | 欢迎来到约翰・彭・波德卡斯 |
| 0:24 | I'm very happy to see all of you all here today. | 我很高兴你们今天都在这里 |
| 0:27 | Don't forget, before we begin our episode, you can listen and watch everywhere podcasts are | 别忘了,在我们开始节目之前 你可以到处听和看播客 |
| 0:32 | available. | 可用。 |
| 0:34 | Now, today is a very special episode, and I feel very nervous. | 现在,今天是一个非常特殊的插曲,我感到非常紧张。 |
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| 1 | I didn't find true love until I was 40, and I think the reason is because the way I look at love | 直到40岁我才找到真爱 我觉得是因为我看爱的方式 |
| 2 | and relationships is much different now than when I was younger. | 而现在的关系 和我年轻的时候大不相同 |
| 3 | And today, I want to share some | 今天,我想分享一些 |
| 4 | thoughts on love, as well as four tips for you to maintain a healthy relationship. | 以及四条提示 让你保持健康的关系 |
| 5 | Hello, everyone, | 你们好,各位 |
| 6 | and welcome to the John Peng Podcast. | 欢迎来到约翰・彭・波德卡斯 |
| 7 | I'm very happy to see all of you all here today. | 我很高兴你们今天都在这里 |
| 8 | Don't forget, before we begin our episode, you can listen and watch everywhere podcasts are | 别忘了,在我们开始节目之前 你可以到处听和看播客 |
| 9 | available. | 可用。 |
| 10 | Now, today is a very special episode, and I feel very nervous. | 现在,今天是一个非常特殊的插曲,我感到非常紧张。 |
| 11 | I feel very vulnerable | 我感觉很脆弱 |
| 12 | because for the first time publicly, I am announcing I am a married man. | 因为我第一次公开宣布我已婚 |
| 13 | Now, I know | 现在,我知道了 |
| 14 | what you're thinking. | 汝所念处. |
| 15 | Oh, I lost my chance. | 哦,我失去了我的机会。 |
| 16 | Oh, no, how could he be taken? | 哦,不,他怎么能被带走? |
| 17 | I'll never be able | 我永远无法 |
| 18 | to get with him now. | 现在和他在一起 |
| 19 | Well, don't worry, we can still be friends. | 别担心 我们还是朋友 |
| 20 | Anyways, all jokes aside, | 无论如何,所有的笑话, |
| 21 | yes, I'm a married man. | 是的,我是一个已婚男人。 |
| 22 | I got married about a year and a half ago. | 我一年半前就结婚了 |
| 23 | But actually, currently, | 但实际上,目前, |
| 24 | right now, I am almost 40, about 39 and a half right now. | 现在,我差不多40,大约39 半现在。 |
| 25 | And this is the first time in my life | 这是我人生中第一次 |
| 26 | that I can say that I found my soulmate, that I really found true love. | 我可以说我找到了我的灵魂伴侣, 我真的找到了真爱。 |
| 27 | And I think a big | 我觉得一个大 |
| 28 | reason for that is because now that I'm older, a bit more mature, I got a bit more experience | 这是因为现在我年纪大了, 成熟一点,我有更多的经验 |
| 29 | under my belt, the way I look at relationships, the way I look at people, needs, the things I | 在我的腰带下,我看 关系的方式,我看 人,需要,东西我 |
| 30 | want in a partner are very different compared to when I was in my 20s or 30s. | 与我20到30岁时相比, 想要成为伴侣是完全不同的。 |
| 31 | And I can tell you | 我可以告诉你 |
| 32 | that I've never been happier. | 我从未快乐过 |
| 33 | I am a very, very happy man. | 我是一个非常,非常快乐的人。 |
| 34 | And today I want to share some | 今天我想分享一些 |
| 35 | thoughts and opinions and also some tips that I believe can help you maintain a good relationship | 思想和观点 以及一些小费 我相信可以帮助你保持良好的关系 |
| 36 | and a good love life. | 和良好的爱情生活。 |
| 37 | So the first thing I want to talk to you about is partnership. | 所以,我首先想和你谈谈的是伙伴关系。 |
| 38 | And what do I mean by that? | 这是什么意思? |
| 39 | You and your partner are a team. | 你和你的搭档是团队 |
| 40 | Let me repeat that. | 让我重复一遍。 |
| 41 | You and your partner are a team. | 你和你的搭档是团队 |
| 42 | Now, what does that mean? | 这是什么意思? |
| 43 | That means that your girlfriend, | 这意味着你的女朋友, |
| 44 | your boyfriend, your husband, your wife, whatever it may be, you two should always be working | 你的男朋友,你的丈夫,你的妻子, 不管是什么,你们两个应该总是工作 |
| 45 | together. | 一起来 |
| 46 | It should never be me versus you. | 不应该是我和你对决 |
| 47 | It should never be your partner is the opposing team. | 它不应该是你的搭档 是对立的团队。 |
| 48 | It should never be this person is your enemy. | 不应该是这个人是你的敌人 |
| 49 | No, no, no. | 不,不,没有。 |
| 50 | You and your partner are a team. | 你和你的搭档是团队 |
| 51 | And the stronger a team you are, the more you will achieve together, the happier you will be | 团队越强壮 你们在一起越幸福 |
| 52 | in life, the better your love will be. | 在生活中,你的爱会越好。 |
| 53 | You see, when I was younger, | 你看,当我年轻的时候, |
| 54 | I approached this very differently. | 我处理这件事的方式非常不同 |
| 55 | When I was younger, everything was about me, me, me. | 当我年轻的时候,一切都是我,我,我。 |
| 56 | And that meant, well, as long as I'm good, that's all that matters. | 这意味着,好吧,只要我很好, 那才是最重要的。 |
| 57 | As long as I'm happy, | 只要我高兴 |
| 58 | as long as I'm satisfied, as long as I feel good, as long as my needs are met, | 只要我满意 只要我感觉好 只要我的需求得到满足 |
| 59 | that everything's great. | 一切都是伟大的。 |
| 60 | But of course, in time, through a lot of breakups, | 但当然,在时间, 通过很多分手, |
| 61 | a lot of sadness, a lot of arguing for sure, a lot of unnecessary drama, I learned the hard way that | 很多悲伤,很多争辩是肯定的, 很多不必要的戏剧,我学会了艰难的方式 |
| 62 | when you're in a relationship like that, things usually don't work out. | 当你在这样的关系中, 事情通常不工作。 |
| 63 | Or one of the people in | 或一个在 |
| 64 | that relationship will feel trapped. | 那段感情会觉得被困住了 |
| 65 | This is why in time, I learned again that | 这就是为什么及时,我再次得知 |
| 66 | it should never be when there's a problem, it's that person's fault. | 永远不应该是 当有问题, 这是那个人的错。 |
| 67 | It should never be | 它不应该是 |
| 68 | one on one a battle. | 一对一的战斗。 |
| 69 | No, your perspective in a relationship when there's a problem should be | 不,你对感情的看法 应该有问题 |
| 70 | honey, my dear baby, it's us versus the problem. | 亲爱的,亲爱的,这是我们面对的问题。 |
| 71 | And I think that mindset is very important because | 我认为这种心态非常重要,因为 |
| 72 | if we play the blame game, it's very easy to do. | 如果我们玩怪罪游戏, 这很容易做。 |
| 73 | Why didn't you do this? | 你为什么不这样做? |
| 74 | Why didn't you do that? | 你为什么不这样做? |
| 75 | Why is this not done? | 为什么还没完成呢? |
| 76 | Of course, it is necessary at times, of course, right? | 当然,它是必要的 有时,当然,对不对? |
| 77 | I can understand that. | 我能理解这一点。 |
| 78 | I'm not going to pretend that fights don't happen. | 我不会假装战斗不会发生 |
| 79 | But when you shift your perspective | 但当你改变你的观点 |
| 80 | and when you communicate with your partner that, sweetheart, I'm not angry with you because I hate | 当你和你搭档沟通时,亲爱的,我不生你的气 因为我讨厌 |
| 81 | you. | 你们 |
| 82 | I'm angry at you or I'm disappointed with you because I love you. | 我对你生气或因为爱你而失望. |
| 83 | And what is happening | 发生了什么事 |
| 84 | right now is creating a problem. | 现在正在制造一个问题。 |
| 85 | And if this problem gets bigger and bigger and bigger, | 如果这个问题越来越严重, |
| 86 | well, then that affects us, us as a team. | 那么,这影响到我们,我们作为一个团队。 |
| 87 | And because of that, my sweetheart, the love of my | 因为这个 亲爱的 我的爱 |
| 88 | life, we are a team and we need to beat this problem. | 生活,我们是一个团队 我们需要克服这个问题。 |
| 89 | So once I learned that, things became | 所以,一旦我得知, 事情变成了 |
| 90 | much better in my love life because I also realized something as well. | 我的爱情生活也好得多 因为我也意识到一些事情 |
| 91 | It is always us versus a | 总是我们对一个 |
| 92 | But in order to be a strong team, what do you need? | 但是为了成为一支强大的队伍,你需要什么? |
| 93 | You need support, right? | 你需要支持 对吧? |
| 94 | In any team sport, | 在任何团队运动中, |
| 95 | it is not just one person doing everything. | 它不只是一个人做的一切。 |
| 96 | No, it is very much dependent upon all the teammates, | 不,它非常依赖 所有队友, |
| 97 | your partner, working together to make sure everybody can win. | 你的搭档 一起确保每个人都能赢 |
| 98 | And with that said, | 这么说 |
| 99 | I want you to understand something that is very important. | 我要你明白一些很重要的事 |
| 100 | Your partner's success is your success. | 你的搭档的成功就是你的成功 |
| 101 | That sounded so good. | 听起来不错 |
| 102 | I got to repeat it one more time. | 我得再说一遍 |
| 103 | Listen to me again. | 再听我说一遍 |
| 104 | Your partner's success | 你搭档的成功 |
| 105 | is your success. | 是你的成功。 。 。 |
| 106 | And what that means is that the better your boyfriend or girlfriend or husband or | 也就是说 你的男朋友或女朋友或丈夫 |
| 107 | does, the more they succeed in life, the more they can excel. | 他们越是成功 他们就越是优秀 |
| 108 | That makes your team, | 这让你的团队, |
| 109 | your relationship, your family that much stronger. | 你的关系,你的家人是如此强大。 |
| 110 | You see, I think in the past, | 你看,我想在过去, |
| 111 | I was always in hustle mode. | 我总是在捉迷藏 |
| 112 | In my twenties, I was just trying to survive, just really | 20多岁时,我只是想活下去,真的 |
| 113 | faking it till I made it. | 假装我做到了。 |
| 114 | And I still don't believe I made it. | 我仍然不相信我来了 |
| 115 | But I'm definitely in a | 但我绝对在 |
| 116 | better place than I was before. | 比我以前还好 |
| 117 | But because I had so much ambition, so many things I wanted | 但因为我有这么多的野心,这么多的事情我想要 |
| 118 | to accomplish, I had to work so many hours, make so many sacrifices. | 为了完成这个任务,我不得不工作很多小时 做出很多牺牲 |
| 119 | Unfortunately, the women in | 可惜的是,这些女人 |
| 120 | my past life possibly did not feel like they were a part of that mission. | 我过去的生活可能不觉得 他们是任务的一部分。 |
| 121 | They were not a part of | 他们没有参与 |
| 122 | that team. | 那个团队。 |
| 123 | And for that, I am very sorry and I apologize to all the women in my past. | 为此,我非常抱歉,我向过去所有的女人道歉。 |
| 124 | But now | 但现在 |
| 125 | that things have said a little bit, now that I'm getting a bit older, now I realize that that was | 事情已经说了一点点, 现在我越来越老了, 现在我意识到那是 |
| 126 | unfair. | 不公平。 不公平。 |
| 127 | It was selfish of me. | 这是自私的我。 |
| 128 | It was selfish of me to not consider what are the hopes and aspirations | 我自私地不考虑什么是希望和愿望 |
| 129 | that my partner has in their life. | 我的搭档有在他们的生活。 |
| 130 | What do they want to do? | 他们想做什么? |
| 131 | What do they want to accomplish? | 他们想做什么? |
| 132 | And more importantly, what can I do to help them make it happen? | 更重要的是,我能做些什么来帮助他们实现呢? |
| 133 | What can I do to help my partner | 我能做什么来帮助我的搭档 |
| 134 | accomplish their dreams? | 完成他们的梦想? |
| 135 | This is so, so important because you will eventually learn in life that | 这是如此如此,如此重要 因为你最终会学到 |
| 136 | the real definition of true love, in my opinion, is sacrificing for the people you love. | 真正的真爱定义,在我看来, 是牺牲你爱的人。 |
| 137 | Whether that means doing the little things every day so that they can make their life easier, | 是否意味着每天做一些小事 让他们的生活更加轻松 |
| 138 | doing hard stuff that nobody wants to do so they can sleep more, so they can be happier, | 做一些没人想做的事 让他们睡得更舒服 让他们更快乐 |
| 139 | so they can focus on what it is they need to do. | 这样他们就可以专注于他们需要做什么。 |
| 140 | Because that, my friends, is what a partnership is. | 因为,我的朋友,这就是一个伙伴关系。 |
| 141 | That's what a good teammate does. | 好队友就是这样 |
| 142 | And for you, you need to consider how can you | 对于你,你需要考虑 你如何能 |
| 143 | lighten each other's loads? | 减轻彼此的负担? |
| 144 | Remember I talked to you about your partner's success is your success? | 记得我跟你说过 你的搭档的成功是你的成功吗? |
| 145 | Well, in order to be successful, you need a good team, a good support system behind you. | 为了成功,你需要一个好的团队 一个很好的支持系统 |
| 146 | So what are the things that you can do in your relationship to make your partner's life easier? | 那么,在你的关系中,你能做些什么 让你的伴侣的生活更容易? |
| 147 | Can you help them study? | 你能帮助他们学习吗? |
| 148 | Can you do the chores? | 你能做家务吗? |
| 149 | Can you encourage them? | 你能鼓励他们吗? |
| 150 | Can you be | 你会是 |
| 151 | more supportive in any way whatsoever? | 更支持任何方式吗? |
| 152 | Consider this and think about how you can strengthen | 考虑一下,想想怎么加强 |
| 153 | your team, aka your relationship with the love of your life. | 你的团队,你的关系 与你的爱的生活。 |
| 154 | The next thing I want to talk about is | 接下来我要说的是 |
| 155 | communication. | 交流。 |
| 156 | Communicate and listen. | 沟通并听. |
| 157 | It's strange for me to say this because it feels like | 我这样说很奇怪,因为我觉得 |
| 158 | communicating and listening should be such an easy thing to do. | 沟通和倾听应该是一件容易的事。 |
| 159 | And yet, when you watch TV shows, | 然而,当你看电视节目时, |
| 160 | when you hear about relationship drama, usually the one thing that always comes up is, | 当你听到关于关系剧情, 通常一件事总是出现, |
| 161 | he doesn't listen. | 他不听话 |
| 162 | She doesn't understand me. | 她听不懂我的话 |
| 163 | He's always thinking about himself. | 常自念处. |
| 164 | Communicating and listening is the key component, I think, to all of it. | 我认为,沟通和倾听是所有这些的关键要素。 |
| 165 | And you know what the | 而且你知道什么是 |
| 166 | biggest problem is? | 最大的问题是? |
| 167 | We simply don't communicate anymore. | 我们只是不再沟通。 |
| 168 | And if you are in a relationship, | 如果你有恋爱关系 |
| 169 | one that you want to work, one that you want to be healthy, you must communicate and listen. | 你想工作,你想要健康, 你必须沟通和倾听。 |
| 170 | So let's talk about this. | 所以,让我们谈谈这个。 |
| 171 | If there is a problem, if there is a problem in your relationship, | 如果有问题,如果有问题 在你们的关系, |
| 172 | 说 about. | |
| 173 | For the love of God, talk about it. | 看在上帝的份上 说说看 |
| 174 | Sit down, talk about it like adults, | 坐下,像成年人一样谈论它, |
| 175 | like mature people, because you are a team and you want this relationship to work. | 像成熟的人, 因为你是一个团队, 你希望这种关系工作。 |
| 176 | Because you know what happens when you don't talk about a problem? | 你知道不谈问题会怎样吗? |
| 177 | It grows. | 其生长. |
| 178 | It festers | 它会腐烂 |
| 179 | like a ticking time bomb. | 就像一颗滴答定时炸弹 |
| 180 | And then one day when you've had enough, you become resentful | 然后有一天,当你受够了, 你变得怨恨 |
| 181 | and you explode. | 你就会爆炸 |
| 182 | You argue. | 你争辩。 |
| 183 | You yell. | 你大叫起来 |
| 184 | You do something stupid that can jeopardize | 你做傻事会危害到我们 |
| 185 | your relationship. | 你的关系。 |
| 186 | And all this could have been avoided if you'd simply just communicate | 这一切本来是可以避免的 如果你只是沟通 |
| 187 | and listen to what the problems in your relationship might be. | 听听你们关系中的问题是什么 |
| 188 | Sometimes I go online | 有时候我会上网 |
| 189 | and I see people writing social media posts about, what do I do about this relationship problem? | 我看到人们写社交媒体文章, |
| 190 | What do I do about my husband? | 我丈夫怎么办? |
| 191 | What do I do about my wife? | 我妻子怎么办? |
| 192 | And the first thing that comes | 第一件事情来了 |
| 193 | to my mind is, why are you talking to a bunch of strangers on the internet? | 在我看来, 你为什么在互联网上跟一群陌生人说话? |
| 194 | Why are you not | 你为什么不 |
| 195 | communicating with your partner? | 和你搭档沟通? |
| 196 | And you may say, well, I'm embarrassed. | 你可能会说 我很尴尬 |
| 197 | They will get angry with | 他们会生气的 |
| 198 | me. | 来啊 |
| 199 | You may say, well, I feel uncomfortable doing that. | 你可以说,嗯,我觉得不舒服这样做。 |
| 200 | And I would in turn ask you this question, | 我又会问你这个问题, |
| 201 | why are you in this relationship to begin with them? | 为什么你要从他们开始? |
| 202 | Don't get trapped in a situation | 别被困在那种情况下 |
| 203 | where you find that you can't be happy. | 在那里你发现你无法快乐。 |
| 204 | You're trapped. | 你被困住了 你被困住了吗? |
| 205 | Communicate, listen, be careful before | 沟通,听着,小心点 |
| 206 | you end up with someone that you can never talk to. | 你最后和永远无法交谈的人在一起 |
| 207 | Now, besides communicating, avoiding problems | 现在,除了沟通,避免问题 |
| 208 | before they begin, I also want to say to you that you also need to pick your battles. | 在他们开始之前,我还要告诉你,你还需要选择你的战斗。 |
| 209 | And it seems to me that it's always that the man of the relationship. | 在我看来 关系的人总是这样 |
| 210 | Now, again, | 现在,再次, |
| 211 | I don't really view traditional male roles and female roles. | 我并不真正看待传统的男性角色和女性角色. |
| 212 | I believe in today's world, | 我相信今天的世界, |
| 213 | 2026, that every relationship is different. | 2026年,每个关系都是不同的. |
| 214 | But I will say that traditionally it has always been | 但我会说,传统上,它一直是 |
| 215 | the joke that a man should just sometimes pick their battles and know when it's worth arguing. | 笑话,男人应该 只是选择他们的战斗, 知道什么时候值得争论。 |
| 216 | And I will tell you this as well, because sometimes it is just easier to not fight back, | 我也会告诉你的 因为有时不反击会比较容易 |
| 217 | not argue, and just to listen and accept, go with the flow, and do whatever it is your partner | 不要争吵,而只是听和接受, 随流而去,做任何是你的伙伴 |
| 218 | wants of you. | 想要你们 |
| 219 | Because remember what I told you, your partner's success is your success. | 因为记住我说的话 你的搭档的成功就是你的成功 |
| 220 | How can you make their life easier? | 你怎么能让他们的生活变得轻松? |
| 221 | How can you lighten their load? | 你怎么能减轻他们的负担? |
| 222 | That is not only a physical | 这不仅仅是身体上的 |
| 223 | thing, that also is emotionally as well. | 这同样也是感情上的 |
| 224 | How can you support them emotionally so that they | 你怎能在感情上支持他们? |
| 225 | are in a good place to be the best version of themselves? | 是否在合适的地方 成为自己最好的版本? |
| 226 | And sometimes they made me nagging. | 有时他们让我喘口气。 |
| 227 | Sometimes they may be wrong. | 有时他们可能错了。 |
| 228 | Sometimes they may be annoying. | 有时他们可能很烦人。 |
| 229 | But maybe you are in a better place | 但也许你在更好的地方 |
| 230 | mentally that day where you can kind of take in. | 在精神上,你可以接受的那一天。 |
| 231 | Remember, love is sacrificing. | 记住,爱在牺牲 |
| 232 | You don't need to win every battle. | 你不必每场战斗都赢 |
| 233 | You don't need to always be right, even when you are. | 你不需要总是对的, 即使当你是。 |
| 234 | You don't always need to let the other person know that you are right and they are wrong. | 你不必总是让别人知道你是对的 他们错了 |
| 235 | It is okay to pick your battles. | 选择你的战斗是正常的。 |
| 236 | It is perfectly okay to lose. | 输完全可以 |
| 237 | It is perfectly okay at times to | 有时候完全可以 |
| 238 | simply say, honey, you're right. | 这么说吧,亲爱的,你说得对 |
| 239 | I'm sorry. | 对不起 |
| 240 | Let me take care of it. | 让我来处理 |
| 241 | I'll do better next time, | 下次我会做得更好 |
| 242 | even when you are right. | 即使你是对的 |
| 243 | And always remember too that actions speak louder than words, okay? | 永远记住行动比言语更响亮,好吗? |
| 244 | Now, listen. | 听着 |
| 245 | No, I mean really listen. | 不,我的意思是,真的听着。 |
| 246 | And this applies to actually so much of your life. | 这适用于你生命中的大部分时间 |
| 247 | I remember a few relationships I had in the past where I just didn't listen. | 我还记得我过去有过的几段关系,我就是不听 |
| 248 | I remember an ex of | 我记得一个前 |
| 249 | mine, she had so many issues, so many complaints about stuff. | 我的,她有这么多的问题, 这么多抱怨的东西。 |
| 250 | And the first thing I thought in | 我第一个想到的是 |
| 251 | my mind was, is it my fault? | 我的想法,是我的错吗? |
| 252 | I'm perfect, okay? | 我是完美的,好吗? |
| 253 | No, I'm not. | 不,我没有。 |
| 254 | I'm not perfect. | 我没有完美的。 |
| 255 | But at the time, | 但当时, |
| 256 | as she was telling me her complaints, her issues and how she felt, I recall that after every | 她告诉我她的抱怨, 她的问题和她的感受, 我还记得,在每一个 |
| 257 | sentence, I would say, well, you could do this. | 这句话,我想说,嗯, 你可以做到这一点。 |
| 258 | Why not that? | 为什么不呢? |
| 259 | Well, that's not my fault. | 那不是我的错 |
| 260 | Why not | 为什么不呢 |
| 261 | try this? | 试试这个? |
| 262 | And she stopped me and she said to me something really important. | 她阻止了我 对我说了一些很重要的事 |
| 263 | She told me, | 她告诉我, |
| 264 | I'm not talking to you right now because I want your opinion. | 我现在不跟你说话 因为我需要你的意见 |
| 265 | I'm talking to you right now because | 我现在跟你说话是因为 |
| 266 | I like you, I love you, and I need you to be my emotional support, my sounding board, my rock. | 我喜欢你 我爱你 我需要你做我的情感支持 我的音板 我的摇滚 |
| 267 | I need to get these things out of me, but I can't because you keep battling with me. | 我需要把这些东西从我身上弄出来, 但我不能,因为你继续和我战斗。 |
| 268 | So sometimes, | 所以有时 |
| 269 | my friends, we just need to listen. | 朋友们,我们只需要听。 |
| 270 | We don't always need to give our opinion. | 我们并不总是需要给出我们的意见。 |
| 271 | We don't always | 我们并不总是 |
| 272 | need to fight back. | 需要反击。 |
| 273 | You don't always need to say what you think it should be or how to fix things. | 你并不总需要说出你认为应该做什么,或者如何修复事情. |
| 274 | Sometimes people just need someone to listen. | 有时候人们只需要有人听 |
| 275 | And I'm not saying you can't give any advice | 我不是说你不能给任何建议 |
| 276 | or give an opinion, but listen first. | 或发表意见,但先听。 |
| 277 | If they ask for it, kindly give it. | 如果他们要,请给它。 |
| 278 | Or you can simply say, | 或者你可以简单地说, |
| 279 | is it okay if I tell you what I think you should do or how I feel? | 如果我告诉你,我认为你应该做什么 或者我的感觉怎么样,好吗? |
| 280 | Play it out. | 播放出来。 |
| 281 | Let it handle itself | 让它自己处理 |
| 282 | and then say what you have to say. | 然后说你要说的话。 |
| 283 | Now, I'm not saying again to you that | 现在,我不会再对你说 |
| 284 | you're not going to argue. | 你不会争吵的 |
| 285 | No, no, no, no, no, no. | ○[标]僧问. |
| 286 | You will have lots of arguments and that's normal. | 你会有很多争论 这是正常的。 |
| 287 | Listen, I love my mom. | 听着 我爱我妈妈 |
| 288 | We argue all the time because I love her so much. | 我们一直争吵 因为我太爱她了 |
| 289 | There's something | 有东西 |
| 290 | in the air, something in that relationship. | 在空气中,某种关系。 |
| 291 | I don't know. | 师曰. |
| 292 | It's so primal and that will occur | 它是如此的原始 并且会发生 |
| 293 | too in all your relationships. | 在你们所有的关系里 |
| 294 | Hopefully not so much. | 希望不会那么多。 |
| 295 | Now, it is perfectly fine to argue. | 现在,这是完全好的争论。 |
| 296 | It is perfectly fine to battle. | 战斗是完美的。 |
| 297 | But remember, it is not me versus you. | 但记住 这不是我和你对决 |
| 298 | It is us versus the problem. | 这是我们面对的问题。 |
| 299 | And with that said, if you're going to argue, fine. | 这么说吧,如果你要争辩的话,好吧 |
| 300 | But there must be a solution. | 但必须有解决办法。 |
| 301 | You cannot | 你不能这样 |
| 302 | simply argue with your partner, hurt each other's feelings and then leave it at that. | 只是跟你的搭档争吵 伤害对方的感情 然后就离开 |
| 303 | No, no, no. | 不,不,没有。 |
| 304 | There must be a solution because you are a team and you will not let this problem | 一定有办法的,因为你是一个团队,你不会让这个问题发生 |
| 305 | fester and become bigger, become worse and let it destroy your relationship. | 越发衰弱,越变越严重 让它毁了你的关系 |
| 306 | Because if you | 因为如果你 |
| 307 | really love this person, if you two really love each other, you are going to go to battle | 真的很爱这个人,如果你们真的爱对方, 你们要去战斗 |
| 308 | and you're going to figure it out and you're going to fix the problem and become stronger | 你会想出办法 解决问题并变得更强 |
| 309 | together. | 一起来 |
| 310 | The last thing I want to say about communicating and listening is that that not | 我最不想说的就是沟通和倾听 |
| 311 | only applies to just you communicating and listening with your partner. | 仅仅适用于你和你搭档沟通和倾听 |
| 312 | A lot of people | 许多人 |
| 313 | like me have very strong personalities. | 就像我有很强的个性 |
| 314 | If you are my employee or if you are in a partnership | 如果你是我的员工,或者你是合伙人 |
| 315 | relationship with me, I tend to like to control everything. | 我总是喜欢控制一切 |
| 316 | I don't mean like in a bad way. | 我不是说在坏的方式。 |
| 317 | I | 一、导 言 |
| 318 | just mean that usually I tend to sail the ship. | 意思是我通常会开船 |
| 319 | That's just the way I've always been. | 我一直都是这样 |
| 320 | I think the way I've been raised, I just like to kind of be the leader, control things. | 我认为我长大了, 我只是喜欢做领导者,控制事物。 |
| 321 | And I | 还有我 |
| 322 | listen to what my partner says, but that's just kind of like the role that I'm usually in. | 听我搭档的话 但这就像我通常扮演的角色 |
| 323 | That's just who I am. | 这就是我是谁。 |
| 324 | And I found that in my past relationships, I was always trying to be in | 我发现在过去的关系中 我总是想加入 |
| 325 | control. | 控制系统 |
| 326 | And what happened sometimes would be that because I was always trying to be in control, | 有时候会因为我一直想控制自己 |
| 327 | emotionally stable, just like cool and collected all the time, like nothing could be wrong, | 情绪稳定,就像酷和收集 所有的时间, 像没有什么会出错, |
| 328 | I would end up breaking up with people. | 我会和别人分手 |
| 329 | These relationships would always kind of turn bad | 这些关系总是会变坏 |
| 330 | because my exes felt that I was cold, that I really had no emotion, that everything was just so | 因为我的前任觉得我很冷漠, 我真的没有情感,一切都是如此 |
| 331 | black and white and that's it. | 黑白两色 就是这样 |
| 332 | The problem is life is colorful and complicated. | 问题在于生活是多彩而复杂的. |
| 333 | And so I think | 所以我觉得 |
| 334 | in time, once I met the right person, my wife, I allowed myself to be vulnerable. | 一旦我遇到合适的人 我的妻子 我允许自己变得脆弱 |
| 335 | And I think this is really important because when things are not going good in your life, | 我认为这很重要 因为当你的生活不顺利的时候 |
| 336 | when you are sad, when you are not happy, when you are not fulfilled, if you try to put up this | 当你伤心的时候,当你不快乐的时候,当你不满足的时候,如果你试图忍受 |
| 337 | wall, if you try to block everything out, it's not good. | 墙壁,如果你试图阻止一切, 这是不好的。 |
| 338 | It's not healthy for you mentally, | 这对你精神不好 |
| 339 | physically, emotionally. | 身体上,情绪上 |
| 340 | It's not good for your mind, your soul, your wellbeing. | 这对你的思想、灵魂、福祉都不好 |
| 341 | And in the past, | 过去, |
| 342 | this was always the type of person I was. | 我一直都是这种人 |
| 343 | I would just sort of just block everything out and not | 我会把一切都堵住 而不是 |
| 344 | listen. | 听着 |
| 345 | But it was really my wife that allowed me to be vulnerable, to really have a shoulder to | 但正是我妻子让我变得脆弱 真正有肩膀 |
| 346 | cry on, to really express when I was sad or not being happy about something, to express my regret, | 哭起来,真正表达 当我伤心或不高兴的东西, 表达我的遗憾, |
| 347 | my disappointment, and my failure, and to really have a shoulder to lean on. | 我的失望,我的失败, 并有一个真正的肩膀靠。 |
| 348 | I'm getting emotional talking about it right now. | 我现在在谈论这件事 |
| 349 | Right now, you are being my emotional support, | 现在,你是我的情感支持, |
| 350 | my audience right now. | 我现在的观众。 |
| 351 | But I think in my life, I always felt like I was the person that | 但我想,在我的生活中,我总是 感觉我是那个人, |
| 352 | had to take care of things, always had to be in control, always had to be that person for | 一定要照顾好事情, 总是要控制, 永远必须是那个人为 |
| 353 | someone else. | 别人 |
| 354 | And it wasn't until I met my wife that I realized that I don't always need to be | 直到我遇见我妻子 我才意识到我不必总是 |
| 355 | the rock. | 石头。 |
| 356 | I don't always need to be the strong one. | 我不总是需要成为强者。 |
| 357 | I always try because that's the man I am, | 我总是尝试 因为这就是我的男人, |
| 358 | and that's the way I was raised. | 我就是这样长大的 |
| 359 | But I know for a fact that if I can't be that, if I need someone, | 但我知道一个事实,如果我不能是, 如果我需要一个人, |
| 360 | I can be vulnerable. | 我可以变得脆弱 |
| 361 | And the love of my life, my wife, will be the one to hold me, support me, | 我一生的爱 我的妻子 将会是抱着我 支持我的人 |
| 362 | and walk me through it. | 并让我通过它。 |
| 363 | Okay? | 好吗? |
| 364 | Let's move on to the next one before I start crying like a baby | 在哭得像个婴儿一样之前,我们继续往下走 |
| 365 | on camera right now. | 摄像头现在。 |
| 366 | If you're listening right now, the reason why I started talking so slowly, | 如果你现在在听 我开始说话这么慢的原因 |
| 367 | I got a tear in my eye. | 我眼睛有眼泪 |
| 368 | This is not a super serious podcast. | 这不是一个超级严肃的播客。 |
| 369 | This is like a learning, | 这就像一个学习, |
| 370 | funny podcast. | 有趣的播客节目。 |
| 371 | But man, I love her, dang it. | 但男人,我爱她,该死。 |
| 372 | And I hope that you all can also, I hope you all have | 我希望你们也能,我希望你们都能 |
| 373 | someone in your life that you also feel the same way about. | 在你的生活中,你也有同样的感觉 |
| 374 | The next thing I want to talk to you | 接下来我想和你谈谈 |
| 375 | guys and girls is that in order to really have a strong relationship, you need to be reliable. | 男人和女孩是,为了真正有 一个牢固的关系, 你需要可靠。 |
| 376 | You need to be a reliable partner. | 你需要成为一个可靠的伙伴。 |
| 377 | And now this also applies to everything in life, | 这也适用于生活中的一切 |
| 378 | your friendships, your work, business. | 你的友谊,你的工作,生意。 |
| 379 | You need to be reliable. | 你得可靠点 |
| 380 | And it's very simple. | 而且很简单。 |
| 381 | If you're | 如果你喜欢 |
| 382 | going to commit your life to someone, if you're going to decide this is the person I want to be | 把你的生命献给某人 如果你要决定 |
| 383 | with for the rest of my life, if something were to go wrong, can you guarantee that that person | 如果有问题 你能保证那个人 |
| 384 | will be there for you? | 你会在那里吗? |
| 385 | Will be there to take care of you? | 会在那里照顾你吗? |
| 386 | Will be there when things are at that | 当事情到来的时候,会在那里 |
| 387 | are they reliable? | 他们可靠吗? |
| 388 | This is super, super, super important, my friends. | 这是超级,超级,超级重要,我的朋友。 |
| 389 | You know, it's funny, you know, thinking about my relationship, my marriage right now, | 你知道,这很有趣,你知道, 想着我的关系,我的婚姻现在, |
| 390 | we've had our ups and downs, you know, career wise. | 我们已经有过我们的升降, 你知道,事业明智。 |
| 391 | We've tried many things and luckily now | 我们试过很多事,现在很幸运 |
| 392 | we're having some decent success. | 我们正在取得一些体面的成功。 |
| 393 | But there were many times the last five years where we | 但在过去的五年里,我们有很多次 |
| 394 | weren't sure if we were going to be successful. | 不确定我们是否会成功 |
| 395 | We weren't sure if things would work out. | 我们不确定事情会怎样 |
| 396 | And recently, within the last two years, I experienced a lot of detrimental things in | 最近,在过去两年里,我经历了很多有害的事情 |
| 397 | my career. | 我的事业。 |
| 398 | I thought my career was almost over. | 我以为我的事业快结束了 |
| 399 | I thought I was going to have everything taken | 我以为我会把所有东西都拿走 |
| 400 | away from me. | 离我远点 |
| 401 | And it wasn't my fault. | 这不是我的错。 |
| 402 | That's the worst thing about it. | 这是最糟糕的事情。 |
| 403 | But I remember when | 但我记得 |
| 404 | all that went down, my wife gave up some of her dreams to help me make mine happen. | 我妻子放弃了自己的梦想 帮助我实现我的梦想 |
| 405 | I remember she at the time when this bad stuff happened to me in my career and my work that | 我记得她当时 坏事发生在我身上 在我的职业和工作 |
| 406 | she had some product she was working on and she quit that to help me focus on what I needed to do | 她有一些产品,她正在工作 她退出了,帮助我 专注于我需要做什么 |
| 407 | because I had a team before that ended. | 因为我有一个团队 在结束之前。 |
| 408 | I had support before that ended. | 在此之前我得到了支持。 |
| 409 | And she decided that | 她决定 |
| 410 | she was going to come work on our projects, my social media, and work on the production, | 她打算来我们的项目工作 我的社交媒体 和制作, |
| 411 | the editing, the business side, the operations side, the live streaming. | 编辑 商业 业务 直播 |
| 412 | And that's because | 因为... |
| 413 | she's reliable. | 她很可靠 她很可靠 她很可靠 |
| 414 | I know that in my life that if I ever experience failure, | 我知道在我的生活中,如果我经历了失败, |
| 415 | if I need help, if I need something, she will be there for me. | 如果我需要帮助 如果我需要什么 她会陪我 |
| 416 | And this is so, so key for you | 这是如此,如此关键为你 |
| 417 | when you are trying to find the person you want to be with for the rest of your life, your true | 当你在寻找你余生想要在一起的人时 你的真实身份 |
| 418 | soulmate. | 灵魂伴侣。 |
| 419 | Now, that doesn't just mean that you need to find that person. | 这不代表你需要找到那个人 |
| 420 | You need to be that | 你需要这样 |
| 421 | person. | 个人。 |
| 422 | You need to be the person that when you see things are not what they should be. | 你需要成为一个人,当你看到的东西 不应该是。 |
| 423 | The house is a mess. | 这房子一团糟 |
| 424 | This needs to be taken care of. | 这需要处理。 |
| 425 | We need more of this. | 我们需要更多的这个。 |
| 426 | It shouldn't even need | 它甚至不应该 |
| 427 | to be asked. | 将被问及。 |
| 428 | Do it. | 做到这一点。 |
| 429 | Do some chores. | 做一些家务。 |
| 430 | Take care of these tasks. | 照顾好这些任务. |
| 431 | Make sure the house is nice and clean. | 令舍宅清净. |
| 432 | Or make sure the bills are paid. | 或确保支付账单。 |
| 433 | Make sure everyone and everything is taken care of to the | 确保大家和所有事情都得到照顾 |
| 434 | best of your extent. | 尽你所能 |
| 435 | Be the person in that relationship that the other person knows, | 成为对方所认识的人 |
| 436 | even if they're doing the same thing. | 即使他们也一样 |
| 437 | Okay, I can take a break. | 好吧,我可以休息一会儿。 |
| 438 | I can relax. | 我可以放松点 |
| 439 | I have this net beneath | 我下面有个网 |
| 440 | me, which is this amazing partnership, this amazing relationship I am in with this person. | 我,这就是这个惊人的伙伴关系, 这个惊人的关系 我与这个人。 |
| 441 | I'm not only telling you to just do the dishes and do things like cooking and cleaning, | 我不只是要你洗碗 做烹饪和清洁 |
| 442 | and I'm also saying that if you know something needs to be done in a relationship, | 我还想说 如果你知道在恋爱中需要做点什么 |
| 443 | your daily life, daily tasks that would make each other's lives and your family's life easier. | 你们的日常生活, 日常任务 将会让彼此的生活 和家人的生活更容易。 |
| 444 | Usually when fights occur is when someone says, why didn't you do this? | 通常战斗发生时就是有人说,你为什么不这样做? |
| 445 | How come you haven't done | 你怎么还没做呢? |
| 446 | that? | 那个? |
| 447 | Well, if it's already been done, you can avoid a lot of problems. | 好吧,如果它已经做了, 你可以避免很多问题。 |
| 448 | Be reliable. | 可靠点 |
| 449 | Don't wait | 别等了 |
| 450 | to be asked. | 将被问及。 |
| 451 | Know that you can count on your partner and that they can count on you as well. | 知道你可以指望你的搭档,他们也可以指望你。 |
| 452 | Ladies and gentlemen, again, our podcast is available everywhere. | 女士们先生们 我们的播客到处都是 |
| 453 | You listen and watch the | 你听着,看着 |
| 454 | podcast. | 播客们 |
| 455 | If you're enjoying my podcast, I please ask you to do me a favor. | 如果你喜欢我的播客 请帮我个忙 |
| 456 | Please comment, like, | 请评论,像, |
| 457 | and subscribe. | 并订阅。 |
| 458 | Actually, my favorite part about the podcast is looking at all your comments. | 其实,我最喜欢的关于播客的部分 是看你的所有评论。 |
| 459 | Now, | 现在, |
| 460 | they're not always good. | 他们并不总是很好的。 |
| 461 | Some of you really don't like me, but that's okay because a lot | 你们有些人真的不喜欢我,但没关系 因为很多 |
| 462 | of you do like me, but seeing your comments and you discussing all these things really, | 你确实喜欢我,但看到你的评论 你讨论这些事情真的, |
| 463 | really makes me happy. | 真的很让我高兴 |
| 464 | I apologize. | 对不起 |
| 465 | I can't get back to all of you, but please know that I love | 我无法回到你们所有,但请知道我爱 |
| 466 | you and I appreciate your support. | 感谢你们的支持 |
| 467 | Here's the last thing I want to say about how to maintain | 这是我最不想说的 关于如何维持 |
| 468 | a good, healthy love life and relationship. | 一个良好,健康的爱情生活和关系。 |
| 469 | If you can, if possible, marry your best friend. | 如果你可以,如果可能的话,嫁给你最好的朋友。 |
| 470 | You know, in the past, when I would enter a relationship or just date around, mess around, | 你知道,在过去, 当我会进入一个关系 或者只是约会周围, 乱搞, |
| 471 | I'll admit I was kind of a playboy back in the day. | 我承认我以前是个花花公子 |
| 472 | I know it doesn't seem like it, | 我知道这看起来不像 |
| 473 | this goofy looking bald guy, but Mr. Bang did okay, all right? | 这个傻逼秃头,但邦先生还不错,好吗? |
| 474 | But none of that lasted. | 但这一切都没有持续。 |
| 475 | I | 一、导 言 |
| 476 | remember after so many years of being single, messing around and really being a jerk, | 记得这么多年 单身 乱搞 和真正的混蛋, |
| 477 | and I'll admit it, I wasn't the best kind of guy back in the day. | 我承认 我当时不是最棒的人 |
| 478 | I remember one day, | 我记得有一天 |
| 479 | it was a weekend on a Sunday. | 那是星期天的一个周末 |
| 480 | It was a Sunday night. | 这是一个星期天晚上。 |
| 481 | It was autumn. | 当时是秋天 |
| 482 | I was walking home after | 我走回家之后, |
| 483 | having a couple of drinks. | 喝了两杯 |
| 484 | I was walking back to my apartment and I realized something. | 我走回我的公寓,我意识到一些事情。 |
| 485 | Something | 东西 |
| 486 | hit me really hard. | 打我真的很厉害。 |
| 487 | That was, God, I'm lonely. | 那是,上帝,我很孤独。 |
| 488 | And I realized that the relationships I had been | 我意识到我曾经的关系 |
| 489 | in before were all really kind of transactional for me. | 之前都是我真正的交易 |
| 490 | And what that meant is that all I really | 意思是说我真的 |
| 491 | wanted out of it was just fun to mess around, to feel good physically and emotionally. | 希望从它只是乐趣 乱搞, 感觉良好的身体和情感。 |
| 492 | And the problem with that is that that's not a relationship. | 问题是那不是关系 |
| 493 | That's not a best friend. | 这不是一个最好的朋友。 |
| 494 | That's | 这是 |
| 495 | fun. | 开心 |
| 496 | Now, I'm not telling you right now that you have to get married, have to be in a relationship. | 我现在不告诉你 你必须结婚,必须有关系 |
| 497 | No, listen to me. | 不,听我说。 |
| 498 | Listen to me. | 听我说 |
| 499 | This is very important. | 这很重要。 |
| 500 | You got to find your best friend | 你必须找到你最好的朋友 |
| 501 | first, right? | 首先,对不对? |
| 502 | And having a best friend, that is years upon years, lots of time to cultivate | 并且有一个最好的朋友, 即多年的, 很多时间培育 |
| 503 | such a relationship. | 这种关系。 |
| 504 | So what I want to say to you, and this is very important, take your time. | 所以,我想对你说, 这是非常重要的, 慢慢来。 |
| 505 | Take your time. | 慢慢来 |
| 506 | My wife and I got married about a year and a half ago. | 我妻子和我大约一年半前就结婚了 |
| 507 | We'd been dating for about | 我们约会很久了 |
| 508 | six years before that. | 之前6年,你还不知道 |
| 509 | You may say it's long. | 你可以说它很长。 |
| 510 | You may say that's too much. | 你可以说太过分了 |
| 511 | But you have to | 但你必须 |
| 512 | realize something as well. | 也意识到一些事情。 |
| 513 | Society, cultures, countries, depends where you are. | 社会,文化,国家,取决于你在哪里。 |
| 514 | But for the | 但为了 |
| 515 | most part, people are being pushed to get married and have kids as soon as possible. | 大部分,人们被逼结婚 并尽快有孩子。 |
| 516 | And the problem is divorce rate is increasing at a very alarming speed. | 问题是离婚率以惊人的速度上升。 |
| 517 | In fact, a city like | 事实上,一个城市像 |
| 518 | Los Angeles, a city I believe like Shanghai, I believe the divorce rate is somewhere over 45%. | 洛杉矶,我相信一个城市 像上海, 我相信离婚率 超过45%。 |
| 519 | What I want to tell you is that don't rush. | 我想告诉你的是 不要急 |
| 520 | Take your time. | 慢慢来 |
| 521 | Really understand someone. | 真的很了解别人 |
| 522 | Really find out if the person you're in a relationship with, can you live together? | 真的要知道你和谁有关系 你们能住在一起吗? |
| 523 | And I understand for a lot of religious reasons, a lot of traditional reasons, | 我理解很多宗教原因 很多传统原因 |
| 524 | you probably can't live together. | 你也许不能住在一起。 |
| 525 | I understand. | 我理解,我懂你说什么 |
| 526 | But you all have to understand as well. | 但你们也要明白 |
| 527 | Dating | 约会 |
| 528 | someone on the weekends is very different than living with someone for 24 hours. | 周末的某个人 和和某个人共度24小时是完全不同的 |
| 529 | Really get to | 痷 |
| 530 | someone. | 有人吗? |
| 531 | Take your time with them. | 慢慢来 |
| 532 | Can you cooperate? | 你能合作吗? |
| 533 | Can you coexist? | 你能共存吗? |
| 534 | You know, | 你知道吗, |
| 535 | my wife and I, when the pandemic occurred, we got locked down together for a very long time. | 我妻子和我,当流行病发生时, 我们被锁在一起很长一段时间。 |
| 536 | I'd say about three months together. | 我想说大约三个月在一起。 |
| 537 | Yes, three months we were. | 是的,三个月了 |
| 538 | And I think honestly, | 我觉得老实说, |
| 539 | this is crazy to say, one of the biggest reasons we got married during those three months of being | 这是疯狂的说,一个最大的原因 我们结婚在这三个月 |
| 540 | locked in together, we didn't fight once. | 锁在一起,我们没有打过一次。 |
| 541 | Not one argument. | 没有一个争论。 |
| 542 | And as horrible as a situation as that | 和可怕的情况一样 |
| 543 | was, as horrible as a global travesty the whole situation was, one shining thing that came out of | 整个局势就像一个可怕的全球滑稽, 一个闪亮的东西,从 |
| 544 | it was that I found my best friend. | 是我找到我最好的朋友了 我找到了我最好的朋友 |
| 545 | I found my soul mate. | 我找到我的灵魂伴侣了 |
| 546 | And I'm not saying this to diminish | 我这么说不是为了减少 |
| 547 | all that. | 这一切。 |
| 548 | I'm just telling you that don't rush in. | 我只是告诉你,不要冲进来。 |
| 549 | Take your time. | 慢慢来 |
| 550 | Don't be pressured into marrying | 别被逼要结婚 |
| 551 | the wrong person. | 错人了 |
| 552 | Just because mom and dad push you, give you pressure, try to force you into | 只是因为爸爸妈妈推你,给你压力, 试图强迫你进入 |
| 553 | situations. | 情况 |
| 554 | Well, you know, it's even worse than not finding a husband or wife. | 嗯,你知道, 比没有找到丈夫或妻子更糟。 |
| 555 | What's even worse | 更惨的是 |
| 556 | is being pushed into a relationship too fast and then ending it in divorce and causing a lot of | 两人的关系太快 离婚后就结束了 |
| 557 | harm, a lot of wasted money, and a lot of pain for all parties involved. | 伤害,大量浪费的钱, 和很多痛苦 有关各方。 |
| 558 | I understand what I'm | 我了解我是谁 |
| 559 | saying does not apply to everyone for, again, religious reasons, cultural reasons, different | 也因为宗教原因、文化原因、不同 |
| 560 | countries, different societies, but I just urge you, whoever it is you choose, marry your best | 国家,不同的社会, 但我只是敦促你, 不管你选谁, 嫁给你最好的 |
| 561 | friend. | 哥们儿 |
| 562 | Think about what a best friend means to you. | 想想一个最好的朋友对你意味着什么 |
| 563 | Your bro, your best girl, your sis, | 你的兄弟,你最好的女孩, 你的妹妹, |
| 564 | your best homie, that person that will go to war with you and for you, that person that will always | 你最好的朋友,那个和你开战的人, 为了你,那个永远 |
| 565 | have your back, marry your best friend. | 背着你,嫁给你最好的朋友。 |
| 566 | And luckily, that's what I did. | 幸运的是,这就是我所做的。 |
| 567 | And my wife will probably | 我的妻子可能会 |
| 568 | check the final edit of this video and I want to say, honey, I'm sorry I was talking so much | 检查这段视频的最后编辑结果 我想说,亲爱的,我很抱歉我说了这么多 |
| 569 | about you today and I love you, sweetheart, okay? | 关于你今天,我爱你,亲爱的,好吗? |
| 570 | Hey, friends, what do you think about what I said | 嘿 朋友们 你觉得我说的话怎么样? |
| 571 | to you today? | 今天给你? |
| 572 | Again, we're all in different situations. | 再说一遍 我们都处于不同的情况 |
| 573 | We're all at different age groups. | 我们都是不同年龄段的 |
| 574 | I have a very young audience, actually, and a very older audience as well, ranging from middle school | 我有一个非常年轻的观众,实际上, 和非常老的观众,从中学。 |
| 575 | all the way to 50 plus. | 一直到50岁 |
| 576 | And I would ask all of you, please let me know your thoughts on the things | 我会问你们所有人, 请让我知道你对事情的想法 |
| 577 | you heard in today's podcast. | 你在今天播客里听说了 |
| 578 | What are some tips you have to maintain a healthy relationship, | 保持健康的关系有什么建议? |
| 579 | to keep a strong marriage, to find true love? | 保持强烈的婚姻 找到真爱? |
| 580 | Please let me know in the comments. | 请在评论中告诉我。 |
| 581 | And I do | 我也这么想 |
| 582 | want to say one last thing to everyone listening right now. | 现在想告诉大家最后一件事 |
| 583 | In my comments, I've got a lot of people | 在我的评论中,我有很多人 |
| 584 | saying, I love you and I want you to hear me. | 说我爱你 我希望你能听到我说话 |
| 585 | And if you're watching right now, I want you to really | 如果你现在在看 我希望你真的 |
| 586 | feel this, okay? | 感觉一下,好吗? |
| 587 | I love you too. | 我也爱你 |
| 588 | I truly love you. | 我真的爱你。 |
| 589 | I want the best for you. | 我想给你最好的。 |
| 590 | I want you to be the best | 我要你成为最棒的 |
| 591 | version of you that you can be. | 你可以成为你的版本。 |
| 592 | And I hope that my words, my content, whatever it may be, my comedic | 我希望我的话,我的内容, 不管是什么,我的喜剧演员 |
| 593 | stuff, my podcast, whatever it may be, I hope that it is helping you move closer to where you want to | 我的播客 不管是什么 我希望这能帮助你更接近你想去的地方 |
| 594 | and thank you for your support. | 谢谢你的支持 |
| 595 | I love you. | 我爱你 |
| 596 | Thank you very much. | 谢谢 |
| 597 | I will see you next time. | 下次见 |
| 598 | Take care. | 小心点 |
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