英语播客: 40岁的我，希望30岁的我能学会的事，一定要看看
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| 0:00 | I'm about to turn 40, and today I want to share some useful lessons, advice, and experience | 我快40岁了 今天我想分享一些有用的教训、建议和经验 |
| 0:06 | that I learned in my 30s. | 我30多岁时学到的 |
| 0:09 | If you are in your 30s or 20s, you definitely need to do these things and avoid the mistakes | 如果你是30或20多岁, 你绝对需要做这些 避免错误 |
| 0:13 | that I made. | 我做了这个 |
| 0:16 | Hello, everyone, and welcome to the John Pang Podcast. | 大家好 欢迎收看约翰·庞·波德卡斯 |
| 0:19 | I'm very happy to see all of you all here today. | 我很高兴你们今天都在这里 |
| 0:22 | Don't forget our podcast is available everywhere. | 别忘了我们的播客到处都是 |
| 0:25 | Just search for John Pang and you can listen or watch. | 去找潘约翰 你可以听或者看 |
| 0:30 | And don't forget to follow and subscribe, and let's get on with our episode today. | 不要忘了跟随和订阅, 让我们今天继续我们的剧集。 |
| 0:34 | So today's episode is very bittersweet, and it's because I am turning 40 soon. | 所以今天的剧集非常苦涩, 这是因为我快40岁了。 |
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| 1 | I'm about to turn 40, and today I want to share some useful lessons, advice, and experience | 我快40岁了 今天我想分享一些有用的教训、建议和经验 |
| 2 | that I learned in my 30s. | 我30多岁时学到的 |
| 3 | If you are in your 30s or 20s, you definitely need to do these things and avoid the mistakes | 如果你是30或20多岁, 你绝对需要做这些 避免错误 |
| 4 | that I made. | 我做了这个 |
| 5 | Hello, everyone, and welcome to the John Pang Podcast. | 大家好 欢迎收看约翰·庞·波德卡斯 |
| 6 | I'm very happy to see all of you all here today. | 我很高兴你们今天都在这里 |
| 7 | Don't forget our podcast is available everywhere. | 别忘了我们的播客到处都是 |
| 8 | Just search for John Pang and you can listen or watch. | 去找潘约翰 你可以听或者看 |
| 9 | And don't forget to follow and subscribe, and let's get on with our episode today. | 不要忘了跟随和订阅, 让我们今天继续我们的剧集。 |
| 10 | So today's episode is very bittersweet, and it's because I am turning 40 soon. | 所以今天的剧集非常苦涩, 这是因为我快40岁了。 |
| 11 | And to me, I know I look like a 40-year-old man, but I will admit that some of your comments | 对我来说,我知道我看起来像一个40岁的男人, 但我会承认你的一些评论 |
| 12 | are very flattering. | 很受宠若惊 |
| 13 | Sometimes I get, oh, early 30s, late 20s. | 有时候,哦,30多岁,20多岁。 |
| 14 | I've gotten 23 recently, and I know you're all just lying, you're all just trying to | 最近我得到了23, 我知道你们都在撒谎,你们都在试图 |
| 15 | flatter me, but I do appreciate it. | 恭维我,但我很感激。 |
| 16 | An old guy needs some love as well, all right? | 老家伙也需要一些爱,好吗? |
| 17 | Now, besides hitting this great milestone, I'm very happy and excited and proud to reach | 现在,除了打击这个伟大的里程碑, 我非常高兴和兴奋和自豪地到达 |
| 18 | 40, almost, because it means I'm alive, means I live some life, and it means that I'm very | 40,几乎,因为这意味着我还活着, 意味着我活了一些生活, 这意味着我非常 |
| 19 | much entering the next part of my life, and it means I'm alive to tell the tale. | 进入我的下半生, 这意味着我还活着 讲故事。 |
| 20 | And remember, life is a blessing, but also because according to my demographics and the | 记住,生命是一种祝福, 但也因为根据我的人口统计和 |
| 21 | comments I see, actually, my audience is quite young. | 我看到,实际上,我的听众还很年轻。 |
| 22 | My audience ranges from 17 to probably 35, and this is like my main demographic. | 我的观众范围从17到35, 这就像我的主要人口。 |
| 23 | A lot of people in college or studying or maybe just in their mid to late 20s. | 很多人在大学或学习,或可能在20多岁左右。 |
| 24 | And I'm really excited because, listen, I'm not a perfect human being, nor will I pretend | 我真的很兴奋 因为 听着 我不是一个完美的人 我也不会假装 |
| 25 | to be some guru that knows everything. | 做个什么都知道的大师 |
| 26 | But I've made a lot of mistakes in my life, but I feel that because I learned from these | 但我这辈子犯过很多错误 但我有这种感觉 因为我从中吸取了教训 |
| 27 | mistakes, because I experienced these things, I'm maybe the man I am today. | 错误,因为我经历了这些事情, 也许我是今天的男人。 |
| 28 | And I'm happy, I have a good life, I'm very content, and that's what I want for you as | 我很高兴,我有一个良好的生活, 我非常满足, 这就是我想要你作为 |
| 29 | well. | 不错 |
| 30 | And of course, I want you to be successful. | 当然,我希望你成功 |
| 31 | So with that said, let's begin. | 所以说,让我们开始。 |
| 32 | Today, I want to share with you five lessons I learned in my 30s. | 今天,我想与大家分享我30多岁时学到的五个教训。 |
| 33 | And you must do these things as well and they'll make you a better person. | 你也必须做这些事情 让你成为一个更好的人 |
| 34 | The first thing is, in your 30s, you will realize your body does not recover like it | 第一件事是,在30多岁的时候,你会意识到 你的身体不会像它一样恢复 |
| 35 | used to. | 曾经是这样 |
| 36 | I'll give an example. | 我举个例子 |
| 37 | For example, when you're in middle school, high school, your 20s, physically, you are | 例如,在初中,高中,20多岁时,身体状况 |
| 38 | awesome. | 好厉害 |
| 39 | Superman, Superwoman, you are indestructible. | 超人,超级女神,你是不可毁灭的。 |
| 40 | I remember back in the day, I just get the gym, no warming up, get on the bench press, | 我记得以前,我只是得到 健身房,没有热身, 得到长椅媒体, |
| 41 | ooh, ha, ooh, ha, start benching some crazy weight like it was nothing. | 哦,哈,哦,哈,开始长凳 一些疯狂的重量,就像它什么都没有。 |
| 42 | The problem is now for me, when I go to the gym these days or when I exercise, I don't | 现在的问题是我, 当我去健身房 这些天,或者当我锻炼,我不 |
| 43 | dare do any exercise without stretching or warming up, without taking my time. | 敢做任何运动,不拉伸或暖和,不花我的时间。 |
| 44 | I never ego lived. | 我从来没有过自我。 |
| 45 | Why? | 为什么? |
| 46 | Because now at this later stage of my life, I've realized that I can injure myself | 因为现在在我生命的后期 我意识到我可以伤害自己 |
| 47 | a lot easier. | 简单多了 |
| 48 | And if I do, I won't bounce back like I used to because, well, simply put, my body is | 如果我这样做,我不会像以前一样反弹 因为我的身体是 |
| 49 | breaking down in certain ways. | 以某种方式打破。 |
| 50 | It is what it is. | 这是它是什么。 |
| 51 | So your body will not recover like it used to. | 所以你的身体不会像以前那样恢复 |
| 52 | And let's talk about this from a few elements. | 让我们从几个方面来谈谈这个问题。 |
| 53 | OK, first of all, of course, is in the gym, right? | 好吧,首先,当然, 在健身房,对不对? |
| 54 | As you go forward, you probably hope, I hope not. | 当你向前走时,你也许希望,我希望不会。 |
| 55 | I hope that you never injure yourself in the gym or playing sports, right? | 我希望你在体育馆或运动场上不要伤害自己,对吧? |
| 56 | But what I found is that usually most of the time, unless it's like a freak accent or | 但我发现的是,通常大多数时候, 除非它像一个怪胎口音或 |
| 57 | unless someone else deliberately hurts you, sometimes or most of the time when you hurt | 除非别人故意伤害你 有时候或大多数时候你伤害你 |
| 58 | yourself in the gym is because you did something stupid, right? | 你在健身房是因为你做了蠢事 对吧? |
| 59 | And what that usually means is that you just didn't properly warm up or you feel a pain | 这通常意味着 你只是没有好好热身 或者感到疼痛 |
| 60 | and you decide I'm just going to push through it because when you're younger in your | 你却决定我推过去 因为你年轻的时候 |
| 61 | 20s, whatever, right, just clang and bang, do what you want. | 20多岁,随便你,对,只是一团糟,随便你 |
| 62 | Right. | 对 |
| 63 | But I'm telling you, going forward, pushing through sometimes is not the smartest | 但我告诉你,前进, 推进有时不是最聪明的 |
| 64 | thing to do. | 事情做起来。 |
| 65 | So the few things I want to talk about, first of all, I highly encourage all | 所以我想谈的几件事 首先 我大力鼓励所有人 |
| 66 | of you to develop a good warm up routine, a good stretching routine, something that | 你们可以做一个很好的热身常规, 一个很好的伸展常规, 一些东西 |
| 67 | will get your body mentally ready, physically ready before you start doing something very | 让你的身体做好心理准备 在你开始做一些事情之前 |
| 68 | athletic, very taxing on your body, because if you don't develop that habit or know what | 运动,对身体课税, 因为如果你不发展 习惯或知道什么 |
| 69 | to do in your 20s, even when you're destructible, I'm sorry, not destructible, indestructible | 20多岁的时候,即使你被摧毁, 我很抱歉,不是毁灭,是无法摧毁 |
| 70 | and in your 30s as well, when that time comes, when you're getting close to 40 and, you | 30多岁的时候 当你接近40岁的时候 |
| 71 | know, things just aren't what they used to be, you most likely will injure yourself. | 事情不是以前那样的 你最有可能伤害自己 |
| 72 | OK, so learn now instead of when it's too late. | 好了,现在学着点 而不是太迟的时候 |
| 73 | And of course, when I do five lessons in my 50s, I'm sure I'll still be saying that. | 当然,当我在五十多岁的时候做五个课时,我肯定还是会这么说的. |
| 74 | All right. | 好吧,我们走。 |
| 75 | Now, physical warm up can be a number of things. | 现在,物理热身可以是一些东西。 |
| 76 | Just as an example, doing a quick little bit of cardio before your workout, doing the | 举个例子 在你锻炼前做一点心律 |
| 77 | proper motions with no weight, very lightweight, just to get your body, your tendons, your | 适当的运动,没有重量, 非常轻, 只是为了得到你的身体, 你的阴茎,你的 |
| 78 | muscles ready for the workout you're going to encounter. | 肌肉已经准备好了,准备去健身 |
| 79 | All right. | 好吧,我们走。 |
| 80 | I promise you this will be very useful for you going forward. | 我保证这对你继续前进很有帮助 |
| 81 | You know, for me, honestly, before I do any of my workouts, anything in the gym, I will | 你知道,对我来说,说实话, 在我做我的任何锻炼之前, 任何在健身房,我会 |
| 82 | probably warm up at least for a good 15 or 20 minutes before I do anything, because I | 可能至少要15到20分钟才能暖身 因为我 |
| 83 | just don't want to injure myself. | 只是不想伤害自己。 |
| 84 | And unfortunately, you know, I used to be some do some really big lifts in my mid 30s, | 不幸的是,你知道,我曾经是一些 做一些真正的大电梯 在我30年代中期, |
| 85 | right, my early 30s. | 对,我30多岁 |
| 86 | But then in the last year or two, I kind of went for something big. | 但在过去一两年里, 我做了一件大事。 |
| 87 | And, you know, it just wasn't as smooth as it used to be. | 而且,你知道, 它只是没有过去那么光滑。 |
| 88 | And unfortunately, you know, time comes for us all. | 不幸的是,我们所有人都到了时间。 |
| 89 | OK, now, besides the workout part, there's also just your general mobility and flexibility. | 好吧,现在,除了锻炼部分之外, 还有你的一般机动性和灵活性。 |
| 90 | So I know guys and girls in their 40s that have a lot of back pain, that have a lot of | 所以我知道40多岁的男生和女生 背部很疼,很多 |
| 91 | neck pain. | 颈痛。 |
| 92 | There's this, they're cramped, they're sore, blah, blah, blah. | 有这样,他们抽筋, 他们疼痛,等等,等等。 |
| 93 | And I simply ask them, well, do you do any stretches or do you, you know, do you do any | 我只是问他们, 好吧,你做任何拉伸 或者你,你知道,你做任何 |
| 94 | like any sort of exercise? | 喜欢什么运动? |
| 95 | No. | 没有 |
| 96 | OK, well, here's the problem. | 好吧,问题就在这里 |
| 97 | A lot of times, for example, when you have like a lot of back pain, you're sore. | 很多时候,比如说,当你像很多的背痛的时候,你会很痛. |
| 98 | It's just about your general flexibility or strengthening some of your tendons or, for | 它只是关于你的一般灵活性 或者加强你的一些趋势,或者,为了 |
| 99 | example, strengthening some minor muscles on your body, right, some of the underdeveloped | 举个例子,加强一些小肌肉 在你的身上,对,一些不发达 |
| 100 | ones. | 这些 |
| 101 | But a lot of people, because they kind of go through life, you know, ignoring things | 但很多人,因为他们 有点经历生活, 你知道,忽略事物 |
| 102 | like stretching or mobility, it catches up with you. | 像伸展或移动, 它赶上了你。 |
| 103 | And so, for example, I know a guy, like I said, his back is always hurting, but he can't | 所以,比如说,我认识一个人,就像我说的, 他的背总是很疼, 但他不能 |
| 104 | touch his toes. | 摸他的脚趾. |
| 105 | He can't do the simplest of stretches. | 他不能做最简单的拉伸。 |
| 106 | That mobility just is not there. | 流动就是不在那里。 |
| 107 | This is why you see a lot of older people, they do yoga. | 这就是为什么你看到很多老年人, 他们做瑜伽。 |
| 108 | Yoga is amazing. | 瑜伽不可思议. |
| 109 | Your flexibility, strengthening your tendons, all these things are very important for your | 你的灵活性,加强你的习惯, 所有这些事情对你非常重要 |
| 110 | longevity. | 长寿. |
| 111 | That's the key word, longevity, because, for example, if you were someone that likes to | 这是关键词,长寿, 因为,例如,如果你是喜欢的人 |
| 112 | be mobile, if you're someone that likes to work out, you like to be fit, you like to | 移动,如果你喜欢工作, 你喜欢适合,喜欢 |
| 113 | be physical, good, great. | 身体上好,很好,很好。 |
| 114 | You want to live in motion. | 你想活在运动中 |
| 115 | That's very important because when you stop moving, when you stop that motion, that's | 这很重要,因为当你停止移动, 当你停止运动,这就是 |
| 116 | when things start to break down, especially as you get older. | 当事情开始崩溃, 特别是当你变老。 |
| 117 | So I encourage you work on your flexibility. | 因此,我鼓励你灵活行事。 |
| 118 | Stretch often when you wake up, before you go to bed, after you work out, stretch the | 起床后 睡觉前 工作后 伸展 |
| 119 | muscles that you worked out. | 肌肉,你锻炼出来。 |
| 120 | Make sure you can do things like touch your toes. | 确保你可以做一些事,如摸脚趾。 |
| 121 | You can do these movements because as you get older, maybe you have kids, you got to | 你可以做这些运动 因为你长大了,也许你有孩子,你必须 |
| 122 | pick them up all the time. | 常来接他们. |
| 123 | Well, I hope you have the right muscles and tendons and strength to support you for that. | 我希望你有合适的肌肉 手势和力量来支撑你 |
| 124 | All righty. | 好吧,我们走。 |
| 125 | Now, there are other things as well. | 现在,还有其他的事情。 |
| 126 | As an example, I remember I used to be an amazing drinker and I actually would say I | 举个例子,我记得我曾经是 一个惊人的饮酒者,我实际上会说我 |
| 127 | still am. | 现在还是 |
| 128 | I'm pretty dang good. | 我很厉害 |
| 129 | If you see me, let's have a drink or 10 or 20. | 如果你看到我,让我们喝一杯或10或20。 |
| 130 | We'll see. | 等着瞧吧 |
| 131 | Last man standing. | 最后一个站着的人。 |
| 132 | All right, but something crazy happened in my thirties and that is I remember the first | 好吧,但我30多岁时 发生了一件疯狂的事 我记得第一次 |
| 133 | time I experienced the multi-day hangover. | 我经历了多日宿醉 |
| 134 | What is the multi-day hangover? | 什么是多日宿醉吗? |
| 135 | That means before in my twenties, right? | 这意味着在我二十多岁之前,对不对? |
| 136 | I remember, OK, I would just drink, drink, drink next day, take a shower, shake myself | 我记得,OK,我只是喝,喝, 第二天喝,洗澡,摇自己 |
| 137 | off, get at it again, maybe go drink in the next day, go clubbing a party two or three | 下车 再来一次 第二天去喝酒 去泡两三个 |
| 138 | days in a row. | 连续几天 |
| 139 | Now, my old butt is hung over probably two to three days and it's awful. | 现在,我的老屁股被挂 可能两到三天,这是可怕的。 |
| 140 | It sucks. | 烂透了 |
| 141 | All right. | 好吧,我们走。 |
| 142 | So if you do enjoy drinking, this is bound to happen to you, right? | 所以,如果你确实喜欢喝酒, 这肯定会发生在你身上,对不对? |
| 143 | You will one day experience the multi-day hangover. | 总有一天你会经历多日的宿醉 |
| 144 | Now, here's my tip for you, right? | 现在,这是我给你的小费,对不对? |
| 145 | If you do like that pace yourself, that's very important. | 如果你喜欢这个速度, 那是非常重要的。 |
| 146 | The reason we usually have hangovers and we feel like crap, right, is because we are | 我们通常有宿醉,我们感觉像废话,没错,因为我们是 |
| 147 | dehydrated. | 脱水。 |
| 148 | We just don't drink enough water in general, especially if you're drinking, right? | 我们只是没有喝足够的水 一般,特别是如果你在喝酒,对不对? |
| 149 | So my old guy tip for you is have one beer or a cocktail and then follow that up with | 所以,我的老家伙给你的小费 是喝一瓶啤酒或鸡尾酒 然后跟随 |
| 150 | a glass of water. | 一杯水 来一杯 |
| 151 | Get that glass of water in between each drink. | 每杯酒之间拿杯水来 |
| 152 | Or if you like mixed drinks like I do, something like soda water will help a lot to keep | 或者,如果你喜欢混合饮料像我一样, 类似苏打水的东西会帮助很多保留 |
| 153 | you dehydrated, right? | 你脱水,对不对? |
| 154 | So again, your body will not recover like it used to. | 所以,你的身体不会像以前那样恢复 |
| 155 | Work on warming up, work on improving the strength of minor muscles, muscles you might | 暖和工作 提高小肌肉和肌肉的强度 |
| 156 | have ignored in the past. | 过去被忽略了 |
| 157 | So this way you do not have a muscular imbalance that causes injuries and pain. | 这样你就不会有造成伤害和痛苦的肌肉失衡。 |
| 158 | Work on your stretching, your mobility, always stay in motion. | 锻炼你的伸展能力 运动能力 保持运动力 |
| 159 | And again, you will one day experience bad hangovers. | 你总有一天会遇到糟糕的宿醉 |
| 160 | I encourage you to stay hydrated, my friends. | 我鼓励你保持水分,我的朋友。 |
| 161 | Now, that is the physical aspect of important lessons I learned in my 30s. | 这是我30多岁时学到的重要教训的物理方面。 |
| 162 | Here's the next one. | 下个 |
| 163 | This is very important. | 这很重要。 |
| 164 | Relationships will come and go in your 20s, in your 30s. | 20多岁,30多岁时 关系会来来去去 |
| 165 | You will meet many, many different kinds of people in your life. | 你会遇到很多不同的人 |
| 166 | You will make many different friends. | 你会交很多不同的朋友 |
| 167 | You will meet many different types of coworkers, acquaintances, girlfriends, | 你会遇到很多不同类型的同事 熟人 女朋友 |
| 168 | boyfriends, heck, you might even get married and I hope it stays the same. | 男朋友们 你们甚至可以结婚 我希望它保持不变 |
| 169 | I hope you live happily ever after, but it's quite common too that people get married | 我希望你从此过上幸福的生活 但人们结婚也很常见 |
| 170 | way too early and then they divorce. | 太早了 然后他们就离婚了 |
| 171 | It is a very common occurrence, unfortunately. | 不幸的是,这是非常常见的情况。 |
| 172 | But I'm here to tell you that relationships will come and go. | 但我要告诉你 关系会来去去。 |
| 173 | And the reason I bring this up is because I do recall that somebody left me a comment | 我之所以提这个 是因为我记得有人给我留了一条评论 |
| 174 | on one of my videos recently. | 最近我的一个视频。 |
| 175 | They said, I used to love going out, partying with my friends, hanging out with them | 他们说,我曾经喜欢出去, 与我的朋友聚会,和他们在一起 |
| 176 | every single weekend, but these days I find that I kind of don't want to do that anymore. | 每一个周末,但现在我发现 我有点不想这样做了。 |
| 177 | I still like these people. | 我还是喜欢这些人 |
| 178 | I'm not mad at them, but I kind of prefer to hang out by myself, do my own thing, work | 我不生他们的气 但我更喜欢一个人玩 做我自己的事 工作 |
| 179 | on some other hobbies I have. | 我还有别的爱好 |
| 180 | Why am I like this? | 为什么我这样? |
| 181 | Is there something wrong with me? | 我有问题吗? |
| 182 | Am I a bad person? | 我是坏人吗? |
| 183 | Do I hate my friends? | 我恨我的朋友吗? |
| 184 | No, you don't. | 不,你没有。 |
| 185 | Because what's happening here is that people are always changing and when they change, | 因为这里发生的事情是 人们总是在改变 当他们改变了, |
| 186 | they will come and go in and out of your life. | 他们会进出你的生活 |
| 187 | And as people are always changing, so are you. | 人们总是在改变,你也是 |
| 188 | Sometimes people stay the same, but you change, you change and you become a new person | 有时人不变,但你改变,你改变,你变成一个新人 |
| 189 | with new hobbies and new interests and you transition to the next part of your life. | 有了新的爱好和新的兴趣, 你过渡到你的下半生。 |
| 190 | And it can hurt a lot trying to discover all the things you left behind and all these | 它会伤害很多 试图发现所有的东西 你留下和所有这些 |
| 191 | new experiences that make the new person that is you. | 新的经验 使新的人,即你。 |
| 192 | And you, my friend, you are going to change a lot in your life. | 而你,我的朋友, 你会改变很多你的生活。 |
| 193 | In fact, me, I can tell you right now that even at almost 40, I still feel like every | 事实上,我,我可以告诉你,现在, 即使近40,我仍然感觉像每一个 |
| 194 | year I'm still changing a little ways. | 我仍然在改变一些方式 |
| 195 | Now, granted, what usually happens, I find, is that towards your mid 30s, you kind of | 现在,当然,通常会发生什么,我发现, 是在你的30年代中期,你有点 |
| 196 | start to solidify the person you're going to be for the rest of your life. | 开始巩固你一生中将要成为的人。 |
| 197 | And I know this because I recall whenever I visit my grandparents, I tell them to do | 我知道这一点,因为我记得 每次我拜访我的祖父母, 我告诉他们做 |
| 198 | certain things they never listen, right? | 有些事情他们从来不听,对不对? |
| 199 | Grandma, grandpa, do this. | 奶奶,爷爷,照做 |
| 200 | Don't do that. | 别这样 |
| 201 | Do it this way. | 这样做。 |
| 202 | This way is better. | 这样更好 |
| 203 | They still prefer to do it the old way. | 他们还是喜欢用老方法 |
| 204 | Their way, they are stuck in their old ways. | 他们的方式,他们被困在 他们的老方式。 |
| 205 | All old people do this. | 所有的老人都这样做。 |
| 206 | And I am finding at 39 right now, there are things that I just won't change. | 我现在39岁的时候发现 有些事情我无法改变 |
| 207 | I have my method. | 我有办法了 |
| 208 | I know how it works. | 我知道这是怎么回事。 |
| 209 | I like to do it. | 我喜欢这样做。 |
| 210 | It's what works for me. | 这对我来说是有用的。 |
| 211 | It's starting to settle in and sink in and become my old habits. | 它开始沉淀和沉没 成为我的旧习惯。 |
| 212 | And for you, like I said before, in your 30s is when you're going to start becoming | 对你来说,就像我之前说过的, 30多岁时,你将开始成为 |
| 213 | who you kind of will be for the rest of your life, and that is okay. | 你一辈子都会是什么样的人,那也没关系 |
| 214 | There is nothing wrong with you. | 你没有错 |
| 215 | You are amazing. | 你是惊人的。 |
| 216 | You are great. | 你真厉害 |
| 217 | And more importantly, because this is very important, a lot of people never | 更重要的是,因为这是非常重要的,很多人从来没有 |
| 218 | find their passion in life. | 在生活中找到他们的激情 |
| 219 | A lot of people have no passion because they don't know what their passion is. | 很多人没有激情,因为他们不知道自己的激情是什么. |
| 220 | So if you are able to find it, you change, your other friends don't, you drift off. | 所以,如果你能找到它, 你改变, 你的其他朋友没有, 你漂了。 |
| 221 | That's okay. | 没关系 |
| 222 | And that is amazing because when your passion leads you in life, that is extremely | 这是惊人的,因为当你的激情 引导你的生活,这是极其 |
| 223 | powerful, it will affect your friends circle, your relationships, your love life. | 强大的,它会影响你的朋友圈, 你的关系,你的爱情生活。 |
| 224 | Hopefully you can make your passion, your career and make money off of it. | 希望你能创造你的激情 你的事业 并从中赚钱 |
| 225 | Because when your job is your passion, it's like you're never working a day in your life. | 因为当你的工作是你的激情, 它就像你从来没有工作 在你的生活中一天。 |
| 226 | So relationships will come and go. | 所以,关系会来来去去。 |
| 227 | People are going to change. | 人们会改变的 |
| 228 | And so will you. | 你也一样 |
| 229 | If you find you're in a situation where everybody else is changing, or maybe you're | 如果你发现你的处境 其他人正在改变, 或者也许你正在 |
| 230 | changing, you don't know what to do. | 改变,你不知道该怎么办。 |
| 231 | You don't know what to hang out with them. | 你不知道该怎么跟他们在一起 |
| 232 | That's okay. | 没关系 |
| 233 | Keep the good people. | 留善众生. |
| 234 | Keep in touch. | 保持联系 |
| 235 | That's very important as well. | 这也很重要 |
| 236 | But as you progress, find new people, find new circles, find a new tribe as well. | 但随着你的进步,寻找新人,寻找新圈子,也寻找新部落. |
| 237 | Because when you surround yourself with people that have a same common interest as | 因为当你身边的人 有着相同的共同利益 |
| 238 | you, a same passion as you, when you're directed towards the same goal, when people | 你,和你一样的激情 当你朝同一个目标,当人们 |
| 239 | support you and love you, that my friend is very good energy that I hope everybody | 支持你 爱你 我的朋友是非常好的能量 我希望每个人都能 |
| 240 | has in their life. | 他们的一生 |
| 241 | And as it occurs, remember again, like I told you, don't give up on those old friends. | 就像我告诉你的,不要放弃那些老朋友。 |
| 242 | Keep the ones that really matter to you. | 留着那些对你很重要的 |
| 243 | Try your best to make it work. | 试尽其功. |
| 244 | And you will also find as well, the people that want to stay with you on your journey, | 你也会发现 那些想和你一起旅行的人 |
| 245 | even though you're both different or at different parts of your life, different | 虽然你们的生活是不同的 或不同的,不同的 |
| 246 | paths, different stages, they will make the effort to stay with you and continue to be | 道路,不同阶段,他们会努力 与你在一起,继续 |
| 247 | friends with you as well. | 跟你也一样 |
| 248 | Remember, recognize the ones that give you the same amount of effort that you do. | 记住 认清那些给你 和你一样努力的人 |
| 249 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 250 | Now, my friends, here's the next thing I want to share with you. | 朋友们,接下来我要跟大家分享一件事 |
| 251 | Don't take things too seriously. | 别太认真了 |
| 252 | When I was in my twenties, somebody would say something to me and it would piss me off. | 当我20多岁的时候 有人会对我说些什么 让我很生气 |
| 253 | I would get offended or just angry about things so easily. | 我会很生气的,或只是生气 事情这么容易。 |
| 254 | People could really, really, really push my buttons and make me get so defensive about | 人们可以真的,真的, 真的,真的推我的按钮 让我变得如此防御 |
| 255 | so much. | 这么多。 |
| 256 | But as I've gotten older, as I kind of passed the 35 year mark, I started not to take | 但随着我变老 过了35岁 我开始不去 |
| 257 | things too seriously. | 事情太严重了 |
| 258 | Why? | 为什么? |
| 259 | Because who cares? | 因为谁在乎? |
| 260 | Honestly, who cares? | 老实说,谁在乎呢? |
| 261 | When I was a little boy, a little kid, I was relentlessly bullied a lot for multiple | 当我还是个小男孩,一个小男孩, 我被无情的欺负了很多个多 |
| 262 | reasons, the way I look, who I was, just being a nerd, not being very cool, being the | 理由,我的样子,我是谁, 只是作为一个书呆子, 不非常酷,是 |
| 263 | small guy, I was bullied a lot. | 小家伙,我经常被欺负 |
| 264 | But luckily, my mother raised me to always be confident, always care about who I am and | 但幸运的是,我母亲养育我 总是自信,总是关心我是谁 |
| 265 | not care about what other people think so much. | 不在乎别人怎么想 |
| 266 | Because when you don't take things so seriously, you can live your life in peace. | 因为当你不把事情当回事的时候,你可以过上平静的生活. |
| 267 | Somebody might say, hey, you're stupid. | 有人可能会说,嘿,你是愚蠢的。 |
| 268 | So what? | 那又怎样? |
| 269 | Somebody might say, oh, you're ugly. | 有人会说,你很丑 |
| 270 | So somebody might say, you're dumb. | 也许有人会说,你是哑巴。 |
| 271 | You don't amount to anything. | 汝等无量无边. |
| 272 | Who cares about what other people have to say? | 谁在乎别人说什么? |
| 273 | Don't take things too seriously. | 别太认真了 |
| 274 | You have to realize too, especially the people that say bad things about you online. | 你也必须意识到, 特别是那些在网上说坏话的人。 |
| 275 | And trust me, me as a content creator and influencer, I get hundreds, hundreds, hundreds | 相信我,作为一个内容的创造者和影响者, 我得到数百,数百,数百 |
| 276 | of messages, people saying bad things about me. | 有人对我说坏话 |
| 277 | I've gotten private messages of people that want me to, well, I can't say it in our podcast, | 我得到了一些私人信息 希望我,嗯,我不能在播客说, |
| 278 | but they want me to not live anymore, I guess is the best way to say it. | 但他们希望我不再活着, 我想这是最好的说法。 |
| 279 | But who cares? | 但谁在乎呢? |
| 280 | These are sad, pathetic people. | 这些是可悲的可怜人。 |
| 281 | And the reason why people will go out of their way to say bad things about you is | 而人们之所以会走出他们的路 说关于你的坏事 |
| 282 | because they generally are bad people. | 因为他们一般都是坏人 |
| 283 | They are sad people. | 他们是悲伤的人。 |
| 284 | They are people that have no happiness or joy in their life or somebody else treats | 他们是没有幸福和快乐的人 或者别人对待 |
| 285 | them badly, so they need to take it out on someone else and that may be you. | 所以他们得去对付别人 可能是你 |
| 286 | But who cares? | 但谁在乎呢? |
| 287 | I am telling you, don't put your time and energy about caring about what these negative | 我告诉你,不要花时间和精力 关心这些负面的东西 |
| 288 | people have to say. | 人们不得不说。 |
| 289 | Don't take these things too seriously. | 别太认真了 |
| 290 | And when they do, just remember they probably don't have things going on for them. | 当他们这样做, 只是记住,他们可能没有 事情为他们。 |
| 291 | They're probably not in a good spot in their life. | 他们可能人生中并不理想 |
| 292 | And they say these things, do those things because they simply need to make | 他们说这些话,做那些事 因为他们只需要做 |
| 293 | themselves feel better. | 他们自己感觉更好。 |
| 294 | So don't take things too seriously. | 所以别太认真了 |
| 295 | As you get older, you're going to soften a bit. | 越老越会软化 |
| 296 | You see it a lot. | 汝见之甚多. |
| 297 | You hear about, for example, oh, well, when this guy was younger, when he was a dad, he | 你听说过,比如,哦,嗯, 当这家伙年轻, 当他是一个爸爸,他 |
| 298 | was so angry, he was so like strict. | 他很生气,他很严格 |
| 299 | He used to punish me. | 他经常惩罚我 |
| 300 | And then when he becomes a grandpa, he softens up, he sees some grandkids. | 然后当他成为一个爷爷, 他软化,他看到一些孙子。 |
| 301 | He becomes a nice grandpa, a nice soft mushy guy because age will do that to you. | 他变成一个好爷爷, 一个好柔软的家伙 因为年龄会这样做你。 |
| 302 | It will soften you up. | 它会软化你。 |
| 303 | Now, besides the aspect of people trying to bring you down or people trying to make | 现在,除了人们试图 让你失望或人们试图制造 |
| 304 | you feel bad, not everything is an attack. | 你感觉不好,不是一切都是攻击。 |
| 305 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 306 | This is very important, very, very important. | 这很重要,非常,非常重要。 |
| 307 | Sometimes we think we know everything, especially when we're younger or teenagers | 有时我们觉得我们什么都知道, 尤其是当我们年轻或青少年的时候 |
| 308 | or twenties, we think we know everything. | 或二十几岁, 我们认为我们都知道一切。 |
| 309 | The problem is when you have that kind of attitude in life, you think you know | 问题是当你有那种态度 在生活中,你认为你知道 |
| 310 | everything, well, that means you won't listen to anybody else and you most likely | 意味着你不会听别人的话 而且你很可能 |
| 311 | will not learn something as well. | 也不会学到什么 |
| 312 | You don't know everything. | 汝不识一切. |
| 313 | You don't, you don't know everything. | 你没有,你不知道一切。 |
| 314 | It's impossible to know everything. | 知一切众生皆不可得. |
| 315 | And just because you read about it, you asked AI, which is probably what most | 就因为你读到了,你问AI, 这可能是最 |
| 316 | people do these days, that's not exactly the real answer as well. | 人们现在做的, 这不是真正的答案了。 |
| 317 | A lot of AI generated answers is simply a compilation of what hundreds of different | 许多AI生成的答案 仅仅是一个汇编 数百种不同的 |
| 318 | people said, sorry, thousands of people, different things they said that probably | 人们说,对不起,成千上万的人, 不同的事情,他们可能说 |
| 319 | is not right or wrong as well. | 既不对也不对。 |
| 320 | So you never know the real answer. | 所以你永远不知道真正的答案 |
| 321 | So when you find yourself in a situation when you are with somebody that maybe can | 所以当你发现自己处于一种情况 当你与某人,也许可以 |
| 322 | teach you something, maybe they offer you some critique, maybe they may be able to, | 教你一些东西,也许他们给你一些批评, 也许他们可以, |
| 323 | you know, share some wisdom with you. | 你知道,分享一些智慧与你。 |
| 324 | Listen. | 听着 |
| 325 | No, I'm not saying that they will always be right. | 不 我不是说他们永远是对的 |
| 326 | No, there's a lot of dumb people out there as well. | 不 外面也有很多蠢货 |
| 327 | Yes, I get a lot of dumb information and opinions and suggestions all the time. | 是的,我得到很多愚蠢的信息 和意见 和建议所有的时间。 |
| 328 | But very important, a lot of times I do learn something new. | 但非常重要的是,很多时候我确实学到了一些新东西。 |
| 329 | And if you are not open to that, that's the key, my friends. | 如果你对此不持开放态度,这就是关键,我的朋友。 |
| 330 | If you are not open to learning something new, you will never know. | 如果你不对学习新事物持开放态度,你永远不会知道. |
| 331 | You will never experience, you will never get that wisdom. | 你永远不会经历,你永远不会得到这种智慧。 |
| 332 | You will never have the chance to grow. | 你永远不会有成长的机会。 |
| 333 | Very important. | 非常重要的,我需要你帮忙 |
| 334 | Because again, in my twenties, when someone would tell me, well, I think | 因为再次,在我的20多岁, 当有人告诉我,嗯,我想 |
| 335 | you should do it this way and I think your job would be better this way. | 你应该这样做 我想你的工作会更好 |
| 336 | What about trying this? | 试试这个怎么样? |
| 337 | I would be like, who are you, bro? | 我想,你是谁,兄弟? |
| 338 | What are you telling me? | 你说什么? |
| 339 | You don't know more than I do. | 你比我知道的还多 |
| 340 | I know everything. | 我对一切了如指掌 |
| 341 | No, I don't. | 不,我没有。 |
| 342 | I definitely didn't know back in my twenties and my early thirties. | 我20多岁和30多岁时绝对不知道 |
| 343 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 344 | So remember, put the ego aside and try to learn something new. | 所以,记住,把自我放在一边 尝试学习新的东西。 |
| 345 | There's a lot of wisdom, a lot of great things in this world. | 众生有大智,众生有大智. |
| 346 | And the moment you start learning more, being open to more of these | 当你开始学习更多, 打开更多的这些 |
| 347 | interactions, you're going to find that your circle, your experience, your | 互动,你会发现 你的圈子,你的经验,你的 |
| 348 | knowledge will increase as well. | 知识也会增加。 |
| 349 | And hopefully you can pass that on as well. | 希望你们也能传下去 |
| 350 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 351 | So remember, please don't take things so seriously. | 记住,别把事情当回事 |
| 352 | Remember not everything is an attack. | 记住不要把一切都当攻击 |
| 353 | There is plenty of good information and suggestions out there. | 那里有许多好的信息和建议。 |
| 354 | And like I said before, that doesn't mean listen to everyone. | 正如我之前说过的,这并不意味着要听每个人的话。 |
| 355 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 356 | There's a lot of dumb stuff out there. | 众生种种愚痴. |
| 357 | A lot of people that are wrong as well, but at least be open to the chance. | 很多人也是错的,但至少是有机会的。 |
| 358 | Unless you're absolutely sure this person's an idiot. | 除非你确信这个人是个白痴 |
| 359 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 360 | Now, my friends, lesson number four, a very important lesson that I learned | 现在,我的朋友,第四课, 一个非常重要的教训,我学到 |
| 361 | in my late twenties and thirties, pivot, pivot and adapt. | 在我的20年代末和30年代末, 支点,支点和适应。 |
| 362 | You see, we are living in very uncertain times right now. | 你看,我们现在生活在非常不确定的时代。 |
| 363 | You know, I think we hear that every single generation, but I will tell you | 你知道,我认为我们听到 每一个世代, 但我会告诉你 |
| 364 | right now, as I'm filming this podcast with the way the world economy is going | 现在,当我拍摄这个播客 用世界经济的方式 |
| 365 | with the rise of AI and automation, with the general, in my opinion, the | 随着AI的崛起和自动化, 将军,我认为, |
| 366 | general decrease in human communication in EQ in general, in my opinion, | 我认为,EQ中人类交流普遍减少, |
| 367 | because the newest generations don't communicate like they used to. | 因为最新一代的人不像以前那样沟通 |
| 368 | I think things are very uncertain right now, but things have always been uncertain. | 我认为现在的事情是十分不确定的,但事情总是不确定的. |
| 369 | It's not just you. | 不仅仅是你 |
| 370 | Remember our ancestors went through a lot, war, right? | 记得我们的祖先经历了很多战争吗? |
| 371 | Starvation, real poverty, real crazy, uncertain times, but the people that | 饥饿,真正的贫穷, 真正的疯狂,不确定的时代, |
| 372 | tend to find success in life are the ones that can pivot, the ones that can | 在生活中找到成功的人 是那些能够支点,能够 |
| 373 | adapt to new situations in their life. | 适应他们生活中的新情况。 |
| 374 | You see, I've had a lot of situations in my life where my career was going | 你看,我有很多情况 在我的生活,我的职业生涯去 |
| 375 | great and then all of a sudden down the toilet, whether because of legal | 好极了 然后突然从厕所下来 不管是因为法律原因 |
| 376 | situations or the economy or the company going under or personal situations, | 情况、经济或公司或个人情况, |
| 377 | sometimes things are just not in your control. | 有时候事情不是由你控制的 |
| 378 | Unfortunately, that's life. | 不幸的是,这就是生活。 |
| 379 | You're going to experience all these random occurrences in your | 你会经历所有这些随机事件 在你的 |
| 380 | life that will affect you. | 生命会影响你 |
| 381 | But when failure comes, when these bad things happen, how are you going to approach it? | 但当失败降临,当这些坏事发生时,你将如何去接近它? |
| 382 | Are you simply going to say, well, that's it. | 你只是说,好吧,就这样。 |
| 383 | I guess it's over. | 我猜结束了 |
| 384 | Guess I'm going to quit. | 看来我要退出了 |
| 385 | Or are you going to pivot? | 还是你要去支点? |
| 386 | Are you going to say, well, my direction used to be this way. | 你会说,嗯,我的方向 曾经是这样。 |
| 387 | Now with this new occurrence, we got to pivot this way. | 现在有了这个新事件,我们必须以这种方式为中心。 |
| 388 | And then how can you adapt to change? | 那你怎么能适应变化呢? |
| 389 | Very important. | 非常重要的,我需要你帮忙 |
| 390 | It's good to be comfortable when things are uncomfortable, a very, very difficult | 当事情变得不舒服的时候 感觉舒服是件好事 非常非常困难 |
| 391 | skill in life because sure, you can blame your failure on this or that or that or | 生活中的技巧,因为肯定的,你可以将你的失败归咎于这个或者那个或者那个或者那个. |
| 392 | the economy or some external situation. | 经济或某些外部情况。 |
| 393 | And I don't blame you. | 我不会怪你 |
| 394 | That's fine. | 没关系 |
| 395 | But here's the real truth about life. | 但这里是生活的真实真相. |
| 396 | Life sucks and then you die. | 生活烂透了 然后你就死了 |
| 397 | So you could spend the one life you have just complaining about it or trying to | 这样你就可以度过你所抱怨的一生 或者试图 |
| 398 | figure out how do I move in a different direction than what's being presented to | 想想我该如何向不同方向前进 |
| 399 | me right now. | 我现在。 |
| 400 | If things are not going good, if something is going really bad right now, how can you | 如果事情不顺利,如果 事情真的坏现在,你怎么能 |
| 401 | pivot move to another direction that will move you closer to what you want to be? | 向另一个方向移动 让你更接近你想成为什么? |
| 402 | The goals you have in your life, you have to pivot, you have to adapt. | 你生活中的目标,你必须选择,你必须适应。 |
| 403 | I will tell you right now, filming this podcast right now in 2026, that two years ago, I | 我马上告诉你,拍摄这个播客 现在2026年,两年前,我 |
| 404 | almost had everything taken away from me. | 几乎把一切都从我身边夺走了 |
| 405 | And the funny thing is when it happened, I thought I was on top of the world. | 有趣的是,当它发生的时候, 我以为我是在世界的顶端。 |
| 406 | I almost had all of the work I had put into my social media accounts for 20 plus years | 我几乎有我所有的工作 在我的社交媒体账户 20多年 |
| 407 | taken away from me just like that. | 就这么从我身边带走了 |
| 408 | There were a few months that were very bad, half a year of uncertainty, not knowing what | 几个月来非常糟糕 半年的不确定 不知什么 |
| 409 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}我们得去 | |
| 410 | But my team and I, a very small team, I will say, we pivoted, we figured out, OK, what | 但是,我和我的团队, 一个非常小的团队, 我会说,我们选择了,我们想通了,OK,什么 |
| 411 | are some other types of content we can make? | 我们能做其他种类的内容吗? |
| 412 | What are some other channels we can create? | 我们能创造哪些其他频道? |
| 413 | What are some other products we can offer? | 我们可以提供哪些其他产品? |
| 414 | Is there another way to do this? | 还有别的办法吗? |
| 415 | Is there another way to do that? | 还有别的办法吗? |
| 416 | How can we, and I'm proud to say to you right now that if you're sitting here watching | 我们怎么能,我自豪地告诉你,现在 如果你坐在这里看 |
| 417 | this, listen to me right now, that fortunately, I was able to get back from that situation. | 现在听我说 幸好我能从那种局面中恢复过来 |
| 418 | I was able to pivot and adapt and luckily be where I am today. | 我能够引导和适应,幸运的是,我今天在哪里。 |
| 419 | And it's not easy. | 则不易也. |
| 420 | It takes a lot of time and effort. | 这需要很多时间和努力。 |
| 421 | It takes a lot of self-reflection. | 这需要很多自我反省。 |
| 422 | It takes a lot to realize that there's nothing you can do. | 要意识到你无所不能 |
| 423 | You can't control everything, but you can control the controllables. | 你无法控制一切 但你可以控制可控物 |
| 424 | Let me say that one more time. | 让我再说一遍。 |
| 425 | Control the controllables. | 控制控制器 |
| 426 | That means the things that are out of your hands that no one can do, that no one has | 这意味着你手中的东西 没有人能做, 没有人有 |
| 427 | control over, let it be. | 控制它,让它。 |
| 428 | And only focus on the things that you can do, that you can control because that's life. | 并且只专注于你能做的事情, 你可以控制,因为那是生活。 |
| 429 | Pivot and adapt. | 支点和适应。 |
| 430 | All right. | 好吧,我们走。 |
| 431 | Now, with that said, again, if you have not subscribed, everyone, please remember the | 现在,再次说,如果你没有订阅, 请记住, |
| 432 | John Peng podcast is available everywhere you listen or watch. | John Peng播客随时随地都可以收看 |
| 433 | Please like, subscribe, and I would appreciate it. | 请,订阅,我会很感激。 |
| 434 | Most importantly, if you leave a comment, that would make my day a lot better. | 最重要的是,如果你留下一个评论, 那会让我的一天好多了。 |
| 435 | I try to read all of them. | 我试着读他们的全部。 |
| 436 | I also try not to because I don't want to ruin my day because unfortunately, there could | 我也尽量不要 因为我不想毁了我的一天 因为不幸的是,有 |
| 437 | be a thousand good comments and one could ruin your day because again, I'm just trying | 千篇一律的好评 可能会毁了你的一天 因为... |
| 438 | not to ruin my day and just be happy. | 不要毁了我的一天,只是高兴。 |
| 439 | All right. | 好吧,我们走。 |
| 440 | But anyways, let's get on to our final lesson for today. | 但无论如何,让我们开始今天的最后课。 |
| 441 | Ladies and gentlemen, one of the most important lessons I learned in my thirties is that | 女士们,先生们,我30多岁时学到的最重要教训之一是 |
| 442 | business is business. | 业务是业务。 |
| 443 | This is very, very, very important. | 这非常重要 |
| 444 | And unfortunately, most people, they learn, they understand that business is business | 不幸的是,大多数人,他们学习, 他们明白生意是生意 |
| 445 | when they get screwed. | 当他们得到性交。 |
| 446 | When somebody they trusted, when a company they thought was reliable, when a deal seemed | 当他们信任的人 当他们认为可靠的公司 当交易似乎 |
| 447 | to be so legitimate, when it goes sour, when it completely turns on you, that's | 如此合法,当它去酸, 当它完全转向你,这就是 |
| 448 | unfortunately when you realize that business is business. | 很不幸 当你意识到生意是生意时 |
| 449 | So what do I mean by that? | 我这是什么意思? |
| 450 | You see, in life, you might encounter a lot of situations where you might try a new job, | 你看,在生活中,你可能会遇到很多情况 在那里你可能会尝试一个新的工作, |
| 451 | you might explore a new career, you might get exciting opportunities. | 你可能探索新的事业, 你会得到令人兴奋的机会。 |
| 452 | And sometimes these will come from people you trust, friends, family, friends of friends, | 有时这些会来自你信任的人 朋友 家人 朋友的朋友 |
| 453 | acquaintances, maybe a person or company you've admired for a long time. | 熟人,也许你很崇拜的人或公司 |
| 454 | And they may give you an opportunity to do something, to sell something, to work together | 他们可能会给你一个机会 做一些事情, 卖一些东西,一起工作 |
| 455 | or to work for them. | 或者为他们工作。 |
| 456 | And what might happen is that initially, wow, things are great. | 可能发生的事情是, 最初,哇,事情是伟大的。 |
| 457 | Things are amazing. | 事情是惊人的。 |
| 458 | And I trust this person. | 而且我相信这个人。 |
| 459 | I trust this company. | 我相信这家公司。 |
| 460 | I trust this organization. | 我相信这个组织。 |
| 461 | But if things go bad, for example, a company goes bankrupt and they can't pay you. | 但是,如果事情变糟,比如说,一个公司破产了,他们无法支付你。 |
| 462 | Well, I thought we were friends. | 我以为我们是朋友 |
| 463 | I thought we were friends. | 我以为我们是朋友 |
| 464 | I trusted you. | 我相信你们 |
| 465 | What do you want me to do? | 你要我怎么办? |
| 466 | What can I do? | 我能怎么办? |
| 467 | Right. | 对 |
| 468 | Sorry. | 对不起 |
| 469 | Because a really important thing you need to understand in life is that money changes | 因为生活中你需要明白的一件很重要的事 就是金钱会改变 |
| 470 | people and as much as you want to say it would never change you, I think that you | 人们,尽管你想说 它永远不会改变你,我认为你 |
| 471 | need to be more honest with yourself because at the end of the day, money always | 需要对自己更诚实 因为最后,钱总是 |
| 472 | complicates things. | 事情变得复杂。 |
| 473 | And if you are dealing with someone that for them, if they can't afford to take care of | 如果你在和他们打交道 如果他们付不起钱 |
| 474 | what they have to, well, I can guarantee you right now, 99% of the time, that person is | 他们需要什么,我可以保证,现在,99%的时间,那个人是 |
| 475 | going to look out after themselves before they even consider you. | 在他们考虑你之前会照顾好自己 |
| 476 | Absolutely. | 当然 |
| 477 | And if you were in the same situation, I think we'd all like to say morally, where if we | 如果你是在同一情况下, 我想我们都想说道德上, 如果我们 |
| 478 | had some sort of business and we said, OK, I have two choices. | 有某种业务,我们说, 好吧,我有两个选择。 |
| 479 | First, I can take care of my family, my immediate circle, my business partner, or I can pay | 首先,我可以照顾我的家人, 我的直圈,我的生意伙伴, 或者我可以支付 |
| 480 | my employees and I'll starve. | 我的员工和我会饿死。 |
| 481 | Let's be honest here. | 老实说吧 |
| 482 | In most situations, unfortunately, I think we're going to choose our family over other | 在多数情况下,不幸的是,我想我们选择 我们的家庭而不是其他 |
| 483 | people. | 人们 |
| 484 | That's just the way of the world. | 世间之道而已. |
| 485 | OK, I've never done that, but luckily, I've never been in that situation. | 好吧,我从来没有这样做, 但幸运的是,我从来没有 在那种情况下。 |
| 486 | I can tell you right now, I may say I never do that. | 我可以告诉你,现在, 我可以说我从来没有这样做。 |
| 487 | I don't know. | 师曰. |
| 488 | I don't know because I'm only human. | 我不知道 因为我只是人 |
| 489 | And so what I want to say to you is always look over your contracts, always have a good | 所以我想对你说的就是 总是在看合同,总是有好的 |
| 490 | contract, no matter what kind of business you do, no matter what kind of work you do, | 无论你做什么生意 做什么样的工作 |
| 491 | have a lawyer look over it. | 让律师来看一下 |
| 492 | And you may say, well, that's expensive. | 你可以说,这很贵。 |
| 493 | Well, not necessarily. | 嗯,并不一定。 |
| 494 | There are different ranges of lawyers you can look for. | 你可以找的律师范围不同 |
| 495 | You don't necessarily need an expensive attorney. | 你不一定需要一个昂贵的律师。 |
| 496 | There are lots of services where they'll just charge you a small fee to look over a | 有很多服务 他们只收你小费看一看 |
| 497 | contract because I am telling you right now, if you don't have a contract that will | 合约,因为我告诉你 现在,如果你没有合同 将会 |
| 498 | protect you, if the day ever comes where some business you're doing gets in trouble, I | 保护你,如果有一天你正在做一些生意 遇到麻烦,我 |
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| 500 | beginning will be way less than the money and trouble in time you will lose in the | 开始会比钱和麻烦少很多 时间,你会失去在 |
| 501 | future if something bad happens. | 如果有坏事发生的话,未来 |
| 502 | Don't trust your family. | 别相信你的家人 |
| 503 | I'm sorry. | 对不起 |
| 504 | I'm sorry to say it. | 叹曰. |
| 505 | I know way too many people that go into business with their family. | 我知道太多人和家人做生意了 |
| 506 | And then when things are unfair, when things aren't working out, when you should be | 然后当事情是不公平的, 当事情不起作用, 当你应该 |
| 507 | getting X, Y, Z, but because of ABC reason, it's not going on. | 得到X,Y,Z,但由于ABC的原因,它不会继续. |
| 508 | Well, it's family. | 嗯,这是家庭。 |
| 509 | We're family, right? | 我们是一家人 对吧? |
| 510 | Well, if we had a solid contract and we were not family, we were just acquaintances. | 好吧,如果我们有一个坚实的合同 而且我们不是家人, 我们只是熟人。 |
| 511 | Well, I'd be paid and taken care of right now. | 好吧,我会得到报酬和照顾 现在。 |
| 512 | Unfortunately, when you do business with family, sometimes you say, we don't need a | 不幸的是,当你与家人做生意, 有时你说,我们不需要一个 |
| 513 | contract. | 合同。 |
| 514 | Why? | 为什么? |
| 515 | You do business with your best friend. | 你和你最好的朋友做生意。 |
| 516 | No, we're friends. | 不 我们是朋友 |
| 517 | Nothing would ever happen. | 不会有事的 |
| 518 | No, we're good. | 不,我们很好。 |
| 519 | No, don't worry about it. | 不,不用担心。 |
| 520 | Nothing bad will ever happen. | 不会有事的 |
| 521 | If nothing bad will ever happen in the business you're going to do with somebody you | 如果在生意上没有坏事发生 你会和某人在一起 |
| 522 | trust, then what's the problem with having a contract, right? | 信任,那么有什么问题 有合同,对不对? |
| 523 | Right? | 对吧? |
| 524 | Think about this for a second. | 考虑一下 |
| 525 | If you ever encounter someone like that, we don't need a contract. | 如果你遇到这样的人 我们不需要合同 |
| 526 | Why go through the trouble? | 为甚么却恁么事. |
| 527 | Let's just shake hands and we'll do business with them. | 我们握个手和他们做生意 |
| 528 | Don't worry about it. | 别着急 |
| 529 | You trust that person? | 你相信那个人? |
| 530 | Well, if you trust them and they're trustworthy, then they should be happy and | 如果你相信他们,他们值得信赖, 那么他们应该快乐, |
| 531 | glad to do a contract because as they said, nothing will go wrong. | 很高兴能签个合同 因为正如他们说的 不会有事的 |
| 532 | It's not disrespectful to ask someone to write a contract to honor your business | 要求别人写合同 以尊重你的生意,这不是不尊重 |
| 533 | agreement, my friends. | 同意,我的朋友们。 |
| 534 | Business is business. | 业是业. |
| 535 | And I am telling you right now, right now, heed my words, do not make the same | 我现在告诉你,现在, 听我的话,不要这样 |
| 536 | mistake I made in my mid thirties when I almost got everything taken away from me | 我30多岁时犯的错误 差点把一切都夺走 |
| 537 | because I trusted someone and they ended up getting in trouble and looking out | 因为我信任某人 结果他们惹上麻烦了 看着别人 |
| 538 | for their own interest to save their own butt. | 为了保护自己的利益 |
| 539 | Have a solid contract, have a lawyer or service. | 有坚实的合同,有律师或服务。 |
| 540 | Look over to make sure you're okay. | 看那边,确保你没事。 |
| 541 | If you see, if you feel things are not right, consult a lawyer, usually a lot of | 如果你看到,如果你觉得事情不对, 咨询律师,通常很多 |
| 542 | times for free because no legal actions being taken, consult them in advance. | 由于未采取任何法律行动,请事先咨询。 |
| 543 | Be prepared. | 准备好 |
| 544 | And remember most of the time, I hate to say it, people you trust when it comes | 记得大部分时间,我不想说,当你信任的人来的时候 |
| 545 | down to you or them, they are going to look out for themselves first. | 他们首先会照顾自己 |
| 546 | I don't care how well you know somebody, how much you love them. | 我不在乎你有多了解某人 你有多爱他们 |
| 547 | Look at the history of mankind. | 看看人类的历史. |
| 548 | Ask around. | 问左右曰. |
| 549 | If you could share your experience in the comments, cause I'm sure you've | 如果你能在评论中分享你的经验, 因为我相信你已经 |
| 550 | been here before too, let me know. | 之前也来过这里,告诉我 |
| 551 | Do not make that mistake. | 不要犯那个错误。 |
| 552 | Business is business. | 业是业. |
| 553 | And remember, because it's business, don't take it personally. | 记住,因为是生意,不要拿它个人。 |
| 554 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 555 | When it comes to law, contracts, these kinds of things, don't be emotional about it. | 当涉及到法律,合同,这些事情时,不要对此情绪化. |
| 556 | It's not an emotional thing. | 这不是感情问题 |
| 557 | You see, you may be like me, I'm a very emotional person. | 你看,你可能像我, 我是一个非常情绪化的人。 |
| 558 | So I get upset very easily. | 所以,我很容易心烦意乱。 |
| 559 | I try not to, right? | 我尽量不这样做,对不对? |
| 560 | Like I said, I try and take these two seriously, but I get emotional very easy. | 就像我说的,我试着认真对待这两个人,但我情绪变得非常容易. |
| 561 | That's why I'm not good at sales because I'm afraid of rejection. | 这就是为什么我因为害怕被拒绝,所以不擅长销售. |
| 562 | That's just me. | 这只是我。 |
| 563 | I'm an emotional guy, but my business partner, she's very cold and calculated. | 我是一个情绪化的家伙, 但我的商业伙伴, 她非常冷酷和计算。 |
| 564 | That's why she handles these sales for our accounts because it's not personal. | 这就是为什么她处理这些销售 我们的账户,因为它不是个人的。 |
| 565 | It's business, my friends. | 这是生意,我的朋友。 |
| 566 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 567 | Now I just talked about business deals and big companies and whatnot for you as well. | 现在,我刚刚谈到 商业交易和大公司 和什么不为你。 |
| 568 | Listen, you may be looking for a job. | 听着,你可能在找工作。 |
| 569 | And I think, unfortunately, we look for a job because we're just beginning. | 我认为,不幸的是,我们在找工作,因为我们才刚刚开始。 |
| 570 | We get trapped in a lot of situations, right? | 我们被困在很多情况下,对不对? |
| 571 | Sometimes you just have to take it, right? | 有时你只需要接受,对不对? |
| 572 | You may look over the contract. | 你可以看看合同。 |
| 573 | Originally the interview, they said, yes, this and that will be great. | 最初的采访,他们说,是的, 这将是伟大的。 |
| 574 | It'll be good. | 这将是很好的。 |
| 575 | And you get the contract and you say, wait, what's this? | 你拿到合同,然后说,等等,这是什么? |
| 576 | What's that? | 这是什么? |
| 577 | That's all different before, right? | 这以前都不一样,对吧? |
| 578 | And from there you will have to make a decision. | 从那里你必须做决定。 |
| 579 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 580 | If you will accept this contract or if you say, you know what, I think | 如果你接受这个合同 或者说,你知道什么,我想 |
| 581 | I'm going to look somewhere else. | 我要去别的地方找 |
| 582 | But of course that depends entirely on what you need to do in your life. | 但当然这完全取决于你生活中需要做什么 |
| 583 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 584 | Always do what's best for you. | 常为汝作如是事. |
| 585 | That's the most important thing. | 这是最重要的事情。 |
| 586 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 587 | But just remember if you ever do get in that situation where, man, I wish this | 但只要记住,如果你有 得到在那种情况下,男人,我希望这一点 |
| 588 | contract would have been written a little bit better, I wish that what's happening | 合同本来会写得更好一点 我希望现在发生的事 |
| 589 | right now would have been put in writing to legally protect me at the end of the | 现在本可以写成书面保护我 |
| 590 | day, because again, my friends, you never know, don't take it personally. | 我的朋友们,你永远不知道,别拿它个人。 |
| 591 | Business is business and people will try to screw you and they will screw you | 生意就是生意,人们会试图搞你,他们会搞你 |
| 592 | unless you protect yourself. | 除非你保护自己。 |
| 593 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 594 | My friends, with that said, ladies and gentlemen, five lessons I learned in | 朋友们,说到这里,女士们,先生们,我学到了五个教训 |
| 595 | my thirties and in my twenties as well. | 我三十多岁,我二十多岁 |
| 596 | Your body will not recover like it used to. | 你的身体不会像以前那样恢复 |
| 597 | Remember your flexibility, your mobility, stretching, improving | 记住你的灵活性,你的机动性,伸展,提高 |
| 598 | minor muscles, you know, working on your weaknesses in your body so that | 小肌肉,你知道,工作 在身体的弱点,这样 |
| 599 | you don't get injured very easily. | 你很容易受伤 |
| 600 | Remember that relationships will come and go. | 记住,关系会来来去去。 |
| 601 | You will change. | 你会改变的 |
| 602 | People will change. | 人会变的 |
| 603 | Find new interests, hobbies, move towards that. | 寻找新的兴趣,爱好者,朝着这个方向前进. |
| 604 | Don't feel bad because you're becoming different. | 别因为你变得不同而感到难过 |
| 605 | It's great. | 赞曰. |
| 606 | Find your passion. | 寻找你的激情。 |
| 607 | It's very good. | 甚为精进. |
| 608 | But also again, maintain those amazing relationships. | 但同样,保持这些惊人的关系。 |
| 609 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 610 | And don't take things so seriously. | 别把事情当回事 |
| 611 | People will say things about you all the time. | 人们会一直说起你 |
| 612 | They will insult you. | 他们会侮辱你的 |
| 613 | They will try to bring you down. | 他们会试着把你打倒 |
| 614 | Don't worry about it. | 别着急 |
| 615 | These people are losers. | 这些人是失败者。 |
| 616 | And also as well, don't get so mad about everything. | 还有,别对一切都那么生气 |
| 617 | There's a lot of great wisdom and knowledge out there. | 众生广大智慧知识. |
| 618 | If people give you criticism, if people are trying to help you, teach you | 如果有人批评你 如果有人想帮助你 教你 |
| 619 | something, well, don't take that as, Hey, I know it all. | 某事,好了,不要认为, 嘿,我知道这一切。 |
| 620 | You probably don't give it a chance. | 你可能不给它一个机会。 |
| 621 | You never know. | 你永远不知道。 |
| 622 | And of course, my friends pivot and adapt in your life. | 当然,我的朋友们在你的生活中 以适应为中心 |
| 623 | You will experience so many bad things all the time. | 你会经历这么多坏事 |
| 624 | This will happen. | 这会发生的。 |
| 625 | That will happen. | 这会发生的。 |
| 626 | Bad things, ups and downs, life and death, catastrophes, failure. | 坏事,升降,生死,灾难,失败. |
| 627 | It's inevitable. | 这是不可避免的。 |
| 628 | Pivot and adapt. | 支点和适应。 |
| 629 | If you choose to stay here on this failing path, woe is me. | 如果你选择留在这 这条失败的道路, 悲哀是我。 |
| 630 | That's up to you. | 这取决于你。 |
| 631 | You're right. | 你说得对 |
| 632 | Life is unfair. | 生活是不公平的。 |
| 633 | It sucks and you will die. | 糟透了,你会死的 |
| 634 | Unfortunately. | 很遗憾 |
| 635 | So it's up to you, change your trajectory and adapt. | 所以这取决于你, 改变你的轨道和适应。 |
| 636 | And finally, my friends remember the most important lesson in my opinion today. | 最后,我的朋友记得我今天认为最重要的教训。 |
| 637 | Business is business. | 业是业. |
| 638 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 639 | Always make sure that whatever you do in life, hopefully you are legally protected | 永远确保无论你做了什么 在生活中,希望你得到法律保护 |
| 640 | by what could happen to you and everyone tells you, no, it's okay. | 可能发生在你身上,每个人都告诉你, 不,没关系。 |
| 641 | If it's okay, what's the problem with the contract? | 如果可以的话,合同有什么问题? |
| 642 | Don't get taken advantage of. | 别被利用 |
| 643 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 644 | With that said, my friends, we are at the end of another episode today. | 说到这里,朋友们,我们今天是另一集的结尾。 |
| 645 | I want to say to all of you that I'm very, very honored and very, I'm very | 我想对大家说,我非常,非常荣幸,非常非常 |
| 646 | excited for what's next in my life. | 我对接下来的生活感到兴奋 |
| 647 | I have a lot of big changes coming that I'm not ready. | 我有很多大的改变,我还没有准备好。 |
| 648 | I'm not ready to announce yet, but I'm, I'm very excited and I have a lot to | 我还没准备好宣布 但我非常兴奋 我有很多事要做 |
| 649 | share with you soon and I want to say to all of you, because especially in the | 很快与你们分享 我想对你们所有人说 因为特别是... |
| 650 | past month, the John Payne podcast has grown tremendously and I like this podcast | 上个月,约翰·佩恩播客成长迅速 我喜欢这个播客 |
| 651 | because for a long time I wanted to kind of share the real me and this is very | 因为我很久以来 一直想分享真实的我 这非常 |
| 652 | much the real me. | 大部分真实的我。 |
| 653 | What you're getting is what you're getting right now. | 你得到的就是你现在得到的 |
| 654 | What you see is what you get, baby. | 你看到的是你得到的,宝贝 |
| 655 | And it's a great way for me to communicate with you. | 我和你交流的方式很好 |
| 656 | And I want to say to everybody that there's so many comments, a lot of amazing | 我想对大家说, 有这么多的评论, 很多惊人的 |
| 657 | ones, a lot of ones for support for me. | 有很多支持我的东西 |
| 658 | A lot of people too that are, don't like me as well, but I want to say to all of | 很多人都不喜欢我 但我想告诉大家 |
| 659 | you, even the ones that leave hateful comments for me, thank you. | 你,即使是那些为我留下仇恨评论的人,谢谢. |
| 660 | Thank you for being a part of my journey. | 谢谢你成为我旅程的一部分 |
| 661 | Thank you for being a part of the growth of this podcast. | 谢谢你成为这个播客成长的一部分 |
| 662 | We've, we've experienced record numbers in the last month and I'm just excited | 我们过去一个月来有过创纪录的数字 我只是很兴奋 |
| 663 | and thrilled and I couldn't have done this without all of your support. | 和激动,我不能做到这一点 没有所有的你的支持。 |
| 664 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 665 | So everyone, please remember to like comment, please leave a comment. | 所以大家请记住喜欢评论 请留下评论 |
| 666 | Very important. | 非常重要的,我需要你帮忙 |
| 667 | Your comments are, are, are very important. | 你的评论很重要 |
| 668 | I would say, yes, subscribing, liking is great too, but your comments, that's | 我会说,是的,签署, 喜欢也是伟大的, 但你的评论,这就是 |
| 669 | really what helps get my podcast to the next level. | 真正能帮助我的播客 进入下一个层次。 |
| 670 | So please share your thoughts with me. | 所以请跟我分享你的想法。 |
| 671 | Let me know for you, what are some important lessons you learn in your life? | 告诉你,你这辈子学到了什么重要教训? |
| 672 | It doesn't matter how old you are. | 何等为岁. |
| 673 | Please share your wisdom and knowledge with me because I want to grow as well. | 请与我分享你的智慧和知识 因为我也想成长 |
| 674 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 675 | Everyone. | 诸人. |
| 676 | All right. | 好吧,我们走。 |
| 677 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 678 | Thanks everyone. | 谢谢大家。 |
| 679 | I'll see you next time. | 下次见 |
| 680 | Bye. | 再见。 |
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