油管精读316：被喜欢的人喜欢后，为何我们就不喜欢他们了？
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| P1 | 油管精读316：被喜欢的人喜欢后，为何我们就不喜欢他们了？ | 2:44 |
| P2 | 油管精读316：被喜欢的人喜欢后，为何我们就不喜欢他们了？ | 2:44 |
P1 · 油管精读316：被喜欢的人喜欢后，为何我们就不喜欢他们了？ | 自我提升 | 外刊精读 | 中英+文稿 p01 中英 (P1)
字幕摘录
| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:00 | Ostensibly, we all want love. | 可以说,我们都想要爱 |
| 0:02 | But oddly, one of the hardest things to do is not hold it against people when they do actually turn around and reciprocate our feelings. | 但奇怪的是,最难做到的一件事是, 当人们确实转过身来回应我们的感受时, 他们不会拿它来对付我们。 |
| 0:11 | It can be immensely hard not to think that those who offer us love are in some ways weak, mistaken, needy, craven or just defective. | 很难不认为那些向我们提供爱的人在某些方面是软弱的、错误的、需要的、渴望的或只是缺陷的。 |
| 0:22 | It can feel a lot easier when love was unrequited, when our primary preoccupation was a thrilling dread that the admired person hadn't even noticed us. | 当爱情得不到回报的时候 感觉会好很多 当我们主要关心的是令人惊叹的恐惧 被崇拜的人甚至没有注意到我们 |
| 0:32 | But now there's finally no doubt anymore. | 但现在已经毫无疑问了 |
| 0:35 | It's really clear they do like us. | 显然他们喜欢我们 |
| 0:37 | And something troubling has arisen. | 发生了一些令人不安的事情。 |
| 0:40 | We're feeling a bit sick. | 我们有点不舒服。 |
| 0:42 | We're tempted to say we got them wrong. | 我们想说我们弄错了 |
| 0:44 | They can't be the admirable people we thought they were. | 他们不可能是我们以为的令人钦佩的人 |
展开字幕全文（29 条）
| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | Ostensibly, we all want love. | 可以说,我们都想要爱 |
| 2 | But oddly, one of the hardest things to do is not hold it against people when they do actually turn around and reciprocate our feelings. | 但奇怪的是,最难做到的一件事是, 当人们确实转过身来回应我们的感受时, 他们不会拿它来对付我们。 |
| 3 | It can be immensely hard not to think that those who offer us love are in some ways weak, mistaken, needy, craven or just defective. | 很难不认为那些向我们提供爱的人在某些方面是软弱的、错误的、需要的、渴望的或只是缺陷的。 |
| 4 | It can feel a lot easier when love was unrequited, when our primary preoccupation was a thrilling dread that the admired person hadn't even noticed us. | 当爱情得不到回报的时候 感觉会好很多 当我们主要关心的是令人惊叹的恐惧 被崇拜的人甚至没有注意到我们 |
| 5 | But now there's finally no doubt anymore. | 但现在已经毫无疑问了 |
| 6 | It's really clear they do like us. | 显然他们喜欢我们 |
| 7 | And something troubling has arisen. | 发生了一些令人不安的事情。 |
| 8 | We're feeling a bit sick. | 我们有点不舒服。 |
| 9 | We're tempted to say we got them wrong. | 我们想说我们弄错了 |
| 10 | They can't be the admirable people we thought they were. | 他们不可能是我们以为的令人钦佩的人 |
| 11 | But the issue isn't really to do with them at all. | 但这个问题与它们完全无关。 |
| 12 | It lies somewhere else entirely, in our relationship with ourselves. | 它完全存在于别的地方, 在我们与我们自己的关系中。 |
| 13 | Their affection seems suspicious, incomprehensible and a touch repulsive, | 他们的感情似乎很可疑 难以理解 也令人厌恶 |
| 14 | because at some level this isn't what we're used to. | 因为在某种程度上,这不是我们习惯的。 |
| 15 | It doesn't tally with our view of ourselves. | 这不符合我们对自己的看法。 |
| 16 | Love can be hard to receive when we're not fundamentally convinced of our own lovability. | 爱情可能很难接受,因为我们根本不相信自己的爱. |
| 17 | We spend our time seeking out those who can make us suffer in ways that feel familiar. | 我们花时间寻找那些能让我们感到熟悉的人。 |
| 18 | And it becomes natural to assume that a kind lover has missed something and perhaps then to try to behave in disgusting ways just to make sure they understand we're really not who they thought we were | 假设一个善良的爱人错过了什么 然后再试图以恶心的方式行事 以确保他们明白我们真的不是他们认为的那样 |
| 19 | and that they will therefore leave us in painful but somehow psychologically gratifying ways. | 因此,他们将使我们在痛苦中,但不知何故,在心理上是令人满意的。 |
| 20 | In short, how could anyone be so great if they have the bad taste to think well of someone like us? | 简言之,如果有人有坏的品味去想我们这样的人,怎么会那么伟大呢? |
| 21 | But we have to allow ourselves to entertain another option. | 但我们必须允许自己考虑另一种选择。 |
| 22 | Perhaps this affection we're receiving is not a sign that our kind lover is weak or wrong or has no other options. | 也许我们得到的这种感情 并不是我们善良的爱人软弱或错 或者没有其他选择 |
| 23 | Perhaps it's a sign that they've seen something in us which poignantly and tragically we don't yet quite see in ourselves | 也许这是一个迹象,他们已经看到的东西 在我们身上,令人发指和悲哀 我们还没有完全看到自己 |
| 24 | and have never been allowed to believe in by figures in our past that we are deserving of love. | 我们从未被过去的数字所允许相信,我们应当得到爱。 |
| 25 | There is hope in all this. | 这一切是有希望的。 |
| 26 | Hope that we can come to trust our lovers more than we trust our own first nervous self-destructive impulses. | 希望我们能更信任我们的爱人 而不是相信我们自己的第一次 神经自毁的冲动 |
| 27 | We can interpret their love not as a sign of their delusion or weakness but as evidence of an inherent lovability in ourselves to which our past histories have blinded us | 我们可以把他们的爱理解为 不是他们妄想或软弱的征兆 而是我们自己内在的爱的证据 我们过去的历史使我们蒙蔽 |
| 28 | yet to which their love and tenderness can now awaken us. | 然而,他们的爱和温柔现在能够唤醒我们。 |
| 29 | We don't invariably have to hold it against others when they see some point in us. | 我们并不总得在别人觉得我们有道理的时候 来对付他们 |
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P2 · 油管精读316：被喜欢的人喜欢后，为何我们就不喜欢他们了？ | 自我提升 | 外刊精读 | 中英+文稿 p02 英文 (P2)
字幕摘录
| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:00 | Ostensibly, we all want love. | 可以说,我们都想要爱 |
| 0:02 | But oddly, one of the hardest things to do is not hold it against people when they do actually turn around and reciprocate our feelings. | 但奇怪的是,最难做到的一件事是, 当人们确实转过身来回应我们的感受时, 他们不会拿它来对付我们。 |
| 0:11 | It can be immensely hard not to think that those who offer us love are in some ways weak, mistaken, needy, craven or just defective. | 很难不认为那些向我们提供爱的人在某些方面是软弱的、错误的、需要的、渴望的或只是缺陷的。 |
| 0:22 | It can feel a lot easier when love was unrequited, when our primary preoccupation was a thrilling dread that the admired person hadn't even noticed us. | 当爱情得不到回报的时候 感觉会好很多 当我们主要关心的是令人惊叹的恐惧 被崇拜的人甚至没有注意到我们 |
| 0:32 | But now there's finally no doubt anymore. | 但现在已经毫无疑问了 |
| 0:35 | It's really clear they do like us. | 显然他们喜欢我们 |
| 0:37 | And something troubling has arisen. | 发生了一些令人不安的事情。 |
| 0:40 | We're feeling a bit sick. | 我们有点不舒服。 |
| 0:42 | We're tempted to say we got them wrong. | 我们想说我们弄错了 |
| 0:44 | They can't be the admirable people we thought they were. | 他们不可能是我们以为的令人钦佩的人 |
展开字幕全文（29 条）
| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | Ostensibly, we all want love. | 可以说,我们都想要爱 |
| 2 | But oddly, one of the hardest things to do is not hold it against people when they do actually turn around and reciprocate our feelings. | 但奇怪的是,最难做到的一件事是, 当人们确实转过身来回应我们的感受时, 他们不会拿它来对付我们。 |
| 3 | It can be immensely hard not to think that those who offer us love are in some ways weak, mistaken, needy, craven or just defective. | 很难不认为那些向我们提供爱的人在某些方面是软弱的、错误的、需要的、渴望的或只是缺陷的。 |
| 4 | It can feel a lot easier when love was unrequited, when our primary preoccupation was a thrilling dread that the admired person hadn't even noticed us. | 当爱情得不到回报的时候 感觉会好很多 当我们主要关心的是令人惊叹的恐惧 被崇拜的人甚至没有注意到我们 |
| 5 | But now there's finally no doubt anymore. | 但现在已经毫无疑问了 |
| 6 | It's really clear they do like us. | 显然他们喜欢我们 |
| 7 | And something troubling has arisen. | 发生了一些令人不安的事情。 |
| 8 | We're feeling a bit sick. | 我们有点不舒服。 |
| 9 | We're tempted to say we got them wrong. | 我们想说我们弄错了 |
| 10 | They can't be the admirable people we thought they were. | 他们不可能是我们以为的令人钦佩的人 |
| 11 | But the issue isn't really to do with them at all. | 但这个问题与它们完全无关。 |
| 12 | It lies somewhere else entirely, in our relationship with ourselves. | 它完全存在于别的地方, 在我们与我们自己的关系中。 |
| 13 | Their affection seems suspicious, incomprehensible and a touch repulsive, | 他们的感情似乎很可疑 难以理解 也令人厌恶 |
| 14 | because at some level this isn't what we're used to. | 因为在某种程度上,这不是我们习惯的。 |
| 15 | It doesn't tally with our view of ourselves. | 这不符合我们对自己的看法。 |
| 16 | Love can be hard to receive when we're not fundamentally convinced of our own lovability. | 爱情可能很难接受,因为我们根本不相信自己的爱. |
| 17 | We spend our time seeking out those who can make us suffer in ways that feel familiar. | 我们花时间寻找那些能让我们感到熟悉的人。 |
| 18 | And it becomes natural to assume that a kind lover has missed something and perhaps then to try to behave in disgusting ways just to make sure they understand we're really not who they thought we were | 假设一个善良的爱人错过了什么 然后再试图以恶心的方式行事 以确保他们明白我们真的不是他们认为的那样 |
| 19 | and that they will therefore leave us in painful but somehow psychologically gratifying ways. | 因此,他们将使我们在痛苦中,但不知何故,在心理上是令人满意的。 |
| 20 | In short, how could anyone be so great if they have the bad taste to think well of someone like us? | 简言之,如果有人有坏的品味去想我们这样的人,怎么会那么伟大呢? |
| 21 | But we have to allow ourselves to entertain another option. | 但我们必须允许自己考虑另一种选择。 |
| 22 | Perhaps this affection we're receiving is not a sign that our kind lover is weak or wrong or has no other options. | 也许我们得到的这种感情 并不是我们善良的爱人软弱或错 或者没有其他选择 |
| 23 | Perhaps it's a sign that they've seen something in us which poignantly and tragically we don't yet quite see in ourselves | 也许这是一个迹象,他们已经看到的东西 在我们身上,令人发指和悲哀 我们还没有完全看到自己 |
| 24 | and have never been allowed to believe in by figures in our past that we are deserving of love. | 我们从未被过去的数字所允许相信,我们应当得到爱。 |
| 25 | There is hope in all this. | 这一切是有希望的。 |
| 26 | Hope that we can come to trust our lovers more than we trust our own first nervous self-destructive impulses. | 希望我们能更信任我们的爱人 而不是相信我们自己的第一次 神经自毁的冲动 |
| 27 | We can interpret their love not as a sign of their delusion or weakness but as evidence of an inherent lovability in ourselves to which our past histories have blinded us | 我们可以把他们的爱理解为 不是他们妄想或软弱的征兆 而是我们自己内在的爱的证据 我们过去的历史使我们蒙蔽 |
| 28 | yet to which their love and tenderness can now awaken us. | 然而,他们的爱和温柔现在能够唤醒我们。 |
| 29 | We don't invariably have to hold it against others when they see some point in us. | 我们并不总得在别人觉得我们有道理的时候 来对付他们 |
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