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发布于 2026-10-07 · 时长 33:49

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时间	英文	中文
0:00	Hello, everyone.	大家好,你们好
0:01	Welcome to our podcast.	欢迎来到我们的播客。
0:03	My name is Anna, and I am so happy you are here	我叫安娜,很高兴你来了
0:06	with us today.	与我们今天。
0:07	This podcast is made for beginner English learners, and every episode is simple,	这个播客是为初学者而制作 每集都很简单
0:13	friendly, and very useful.	友好的,非常有用。
0:15	Today we have a really important and meaningful topic.	今天,我们有一个真正重要和有意义的议题。
0:19	Stop	停下来
0:20	comparing your life to other people.	把你的生活和别人相比
0:22	This is something almost everyone does, and it	这几乎是每个人都做,它

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序号	英文	中文
1	Hello, everyone.	大家好,你们好
2	Welcome to our podcast.	欢迎来到我们的播客。
3	My name is Anna, and I am so happy you are here	我叫安娜,很高兴你来了
4	with us today.	与我们今天。
5	This podcast is made for beginner English learners, and every episode is simple,	这个播客是为初学者而制作 每集都很简单
6	friendly, and very useful.	友好的,非常有用。
7	Today we have a really important and meaningful topic.	今天,我们有一个真正重要和有意义的议题。
8	Stop	停下来
9	comparing your life to other people.	把你的生活和别人相比
10	This is something almost everyone does, and it	这几乎是每个人都做,它
11	can make us feel very unhappy.	可以让我们感到非常不快乐。
12	Comparing yourself to others is one of the most common habits in	把自己和别人比起来是最常见的习惯之一
13	modern life, and one of the most harmful.	现代生活 也是最有害的
14	I am joined by my wonderful co-host, Mark.	我和我的好搭档马克一起
15	Mark,	马克
16	say hello and tell us, do you ever compare your life to other people?	跟我们打个招呼,告诉我们, 你曾经比过别人吗?
17	Hello, hello.	哈罗,哈罗。
18	Thank you,	谢谢
19	Anna.	安娜,请问安娜
20	Hi to all our wonderful listeners.	嗨,我们所有伟大的听众。
21	Do I compare my life to others?	难道我把我的生活和别人相比吗?
22	Honestly, yes,	老实说 是的
23	I used to do it constantly.	我以前经常这样
24	I would look at someone's career, their house, their relationship,	我会看一个人的事业, 他们的房子,他们的关系,
25	or their lifestyle, and think, why don't I have that?	或他们的生活方式, 和思考,为什么不我拥有吗?
26	It made me feel small, inadequate, and	这让我觉得小,不足,和
27	unhappy.	不开心
28	But over time, I learned why comparison is so harmful and how to stop doing it.	但随着时间的推移,我了解到为什么比较如此有害,以及如何停止比较。
29	Today,	今天,我们...
30	Anna and I are going to talk about what comparison is, why we do it, what damage it causes, and most	安娜和我要谈谈什么是比较, 为什么我们做它, 是什么损害,
31	importantly, how to live your own life with confidence and joy.	重要的是,如何用自信和快乐来过自己的生活.
32	We will also share lots of	我们还会分享很多
33	English vocabulary.	英语词汇.
34	Let's begin.	让我们开始。
35	Let's start with some key vocabulary for today's topic.	让我们从今天的主题开始一些关键词汇.
36	To compare means to look at two or more things and notice how they are the same or different.	比较是指看两个或两个以上的事物,注意它们是如何的相同或不同的.
37	When we compare our lives to others, we often focus on what we lack, what we do not have that	当我们将我们的生活与其他人进行比较时,我们常常关注我们缺乏的,我们没有的
38	they seem to have.	他们似乎有。
39	The word inadequate means feeling not good enough.	不足一词意味着感觉不够好。
40	Insecurity is a feeling	不安全感是一种感觉
41	of not being confident about yourself.	对自己没有信心
42	Self-worth is the value you place on yourself as a person.	自我价值是作为一个人你对自己的价值。
43	Envy means wanting something that someone else has.	Envy的意思是想要别人拥有的东西
44	Jealousy is a similar feeling,	嫉妒是一种类似的感觉,
45	often including a fear of losing what you have.	包括害怕失去你拥有的东西
46	And contentment means feeling happy and satisfied	满足意味着快乐和满足
47	with your life.	与你的人生。
48	Mark, can you give example sentences using these words?	马克,你能用这些词来举例句子吗?
49	Of course.	当然
50	Here	给
51	are natural example sentences.	是自然的例子句子。
52	After scrolling through social media, she felt inadequate compared	在通过社交媒体滚动后,她觉得比不上
53	to everyone else's highlight reel.	给其他人的亮点
54	His constant comparison to his brother's success was a source	他经常和他哥哥的功绩作比较 是一个来源
55	of deep insecurity.	极度不安全。
56	True self-worth does not depend on what other people think of you.	真正的自我价值并不取决于别人对你的看法
57	She felt a pang of envy when she saw her friend's new car.	她看到朋友的新车时,感到一阵嫉妒.
58	Comparison is the thief of joy, a very	比较是快乐的贼,非常
59	famous and true quote.	著名的和真实的引用。
60	He practiced gratitude every day until contentment replaced his constant	他每天都在练习感激 直到满足取代恒定
61	desire for more.	渴望更多东西。
62	Stop measuring your success by other people's achievements.	别用别人的成就来衡量你的成功
63	Your journey is	你的旅程是
64	unique.	独一无二
65	No two paths in life are the same.	生活中没有两条路是相同的。
66	These sentences are all very natural and useful for	这些句子都是非常自然和有用的
67	everyday English conversations about emotions and self-improvement.	每天的英语对话都涉及情感和自我改善.
68	Comparison is the thief of joy.	比较是欢喜之贼.
69	That quote is from American President Teddy Roosevelt, and it is one of the most powerful	这是来自美国总统泰迪·罗斯福的引文,它是最强大的
70	sentences about this topic.	关于这一主题的句子。
71	Now let's talk about why we compare ourselves to others in the first	现在,让我们谈谈为什么 我们比较自己 与其他人在第一
72	place, because this is a very human and very natural tendency.	这个地方,因为这是一个非常人性和非常自然的倾向。
73	Psychologists tell us that	心理学家告诉我们
74	humans have always compared themselves to the people around them.	人类总是把自己比作周围的人
75	In ancient times, this was	在古代,这是
76	actually useful.	实际上有用。
77	Comparing yourself to others helped you understand your social position and	把自己和别人比起来 有助于你理解你的社会地位
78	motivated you to work harder for survival.	让你更努力地工作求生存
79	But in the modern world, especially with social media,	但是在现代世界 特别是社交媒体
80	this natural instinct has become toxic and destructive.	这种自然的本能 已经变得有毒和破坏性。
81	Mark, can you explain more about	马克,你能解释一下吗?
82	why the modern world makes comparisons so much worse?	为什么现代世界会让比较更糟糕?
83	Social media has made comparison dramatically	社会媒体已经做了惊人的对比
84	worse for a very specific reason.	更糟糕的是 一个非常具体的原因。
85	In the past, you compared yourself to the people in your immediate	过去,你把自己比作眼前的人们
86	environment, your neighbors, classmates, and coworkers.	环境 邻居 同学 同事
87	The comparison was at least realistic.	这种比较至少是现实的。
88	Today, social media exposes you to millions of people showing only the very best moments of	今天,社交媒体将你暴露在 数百万人面前 只展示最好的时刻
89	their lives, their most beautiful photos, their greatest achievements, their happiest moments.	他们的生活, 他们最美丽的照片, 他们最大的成就, 他们最快乐的时刻。
90	Nobody posts pictures of their ordinary Tuesday afternoon or their difficult times.	周二下午或困难时期,
91	This creates	这创造了
92	a completely false impression.	一个完全错误的印象。
93	You see everyone's highlight reel while living through your own	你看每个人的亮点 和通过自己的生活
94	behind-the-scenes reality.	幕后现实.
95	You compare your ordinary, unfiltered daily life to thousands	你将你平凡无奇的日常生活 比作成千上万
96	of other people's carefully curated, filtered, perfect-looking moments.	被别人精心整理 过滤 完美的瞬间
97	It's an unfair and	这是不公平的
98	impossible comparison that almost always makes you feel worse.	几乎总是让你感觉更糟
99	Highlight reel versus behind-the-scenes,	突出画面对幕后,
100	such a perfect way to describe social media.	如此完美地描述社交媒体。
101	Now let's talk about the damage that constant	现在,让我们谈谈 破坏的恒定
102	comparison causes to our mental health and happiness.	比较我们心理健康和幸福的原因。
103	When you constantly measure your	当你不断测量你的
104	life against other people's, several things happen.	生活与别人的, 几件事发生。
105	First, you stop appreciating what you	首先,你不再欣赏你
106	have because you are always focused on what you lack.	因为你总是专注于你缺乏的东西。
107	Second, you feel constant dissatisfaction.	第二,你总是感到不满。
108	Nothing ever feels enough because there is always someone who seems to have more.	没有什么比这更能感觉到的 因为总有人看起来有更大的感觉
109	Third,	第三个
110	you lose your sense of direction.	你失去了你的方向感。
111	Instead of pursuing your own goals and values, you start	与其追求自己的目标和价值,不如开始
112	chasing what other people have.	追寻别人拥有的东西
113	And fourth, it damages your self-esteem, your belief in your own	第四,它损害你的自尊, 你对自己的信心
114	worth and ability.	价值和能力。
115	Mark, what other damage does comparison do to people?	马克,比较对人有什么影响?
116	Comparison causes so much damage.	比较造成如此多的破坏.
117	Here are more serious effects.	这是更严重的影响。
118	It creates a cycle of never	它造就了永无止境的循环
119	feeling good enough that can lead to anxiety and depression.	足够好的感觉 会导致焦虑和抑郁
120	It makes relationships difficult.	这使得关系变得困难.
121	You	你们
122	start feeling resentment towards successful friends instead of genuine happiness for them.	开始对成功的朋友感到怨恨 而不是真正的幸福
123	It kills creativity.	它杀死了创造力。
124	When you're constantly measuring yourself against other's standards,	当你不断根据别人的标准衡量自己
125	you're too afraid to be original or take risks.	你害怕成为原创或冒险。
126	And it paralyzes you with indecision.	它使你无法决定。
127	If someone	如果有人
128	else already does something better than you, why even try?	更别提已经比你们做得更好了 为什么还要试?
129	And perhaps most damaging of all,	也许最有害的是,
130	it stops you from recognizing and appreciating your own unique strengths and gifts.	它阻止你认识和欣赏 你独特的优势和天赋。
131	The phrase	该短语
132	the grass is always greener on the other side means other people's lives always look better	另一边的草总是更绿 意味着别人的生活总是更好看
133	from the outside.	从外.
134	But this is almost never the truth once you look closely.	但只要仔细观察,这几乎永远不是事实。
135	The grass is always	草总是
136	greener on the other side.	在另一边更绿色。
137	Such a perfect English idiom for this topic.	这么完美的英语规范 这个话题。
138	Now, let's talk about	现在,让我们谈谈
139	something very important.	一件很重要的事 很重要的一件东西
140	What are you actually comparing?	你到底在比较什么?
141	When we compare our lives to others,	当我们把生活和别人相比
142	we almost never have the full picture.	我们几乎从来没有 完整的画面。
143	We see someone's beautiful home, but not their mortgage	我们看到某人的美丽家园,但不是他们的抵押
144	stress.	压力
145	We see someone's perfect relationship on social media, but not the arguments behind closed	在社交媒体上,我们看到某人的完美关系, 但不是关闭背后的争论
146	doors.	门。
147	We see someone's successful career, but not the years of struggle and sacrifice that built	我们看到一个人成功的事业, 但不是多年的奋斗和牺牲
148	it.	这个
149	We see someone's confident smile, but not the anxiety they feel inside.	我们看到某人自信的微笑,但不是他们内心的焦虑.
150	In English, we say	用英语说
151	never judge a book by its cover, meaning you cannot know the truth of something just by how	绝不以书的封面来评判它, 意思是,你不可能知道 事物的真相,只是如何
152	it appears on the surface.	它出现在表面。
153	Mark, can you give more examples of this hidden reality?	马克,你能举出更多 隐藏现实的例子吗?
154	Hidden reality is so important to understand.	隐藏的现实是如此重要 了解。
155	Think about these examples.	想想这些例子。
156	The person with the	当事人
157	luxury car may be deep in debt.	豪华汽车可能负债累累
158	The person who seems to have a perfect body may be struggling	似乎身体完美的人 可能正在挣扎
159	with an eating disorder.	与饮食障碍。
160	The person who just got promoted may be working 80-hour weeks and	刚刚升职的人可能要工作80小时
161	barely seeing their family.	很少见到他们的家人。
162	在Instagram上关系完美的人
163	deeply unhappy at home.	在家里很不高兴
164	The entrepreneur who seems like an overnight success probably failed multiple	似乎一夜之间成功的企业家 可能多次失败
165	times before succeeding.	成功前的时代。
166	The friend who always seems happy and confident may be fighting battles	总是很快乐很自信的朋友 可能会在打仗
167	you know nothing about.	你对此一无所知
168	We only ever see a fraction of other people's lives, and always the most	我们只见过别人生命的一小部分 永远是
169	selected fraction.	选定分数。
170	Comparing your whole complex real life to this tiny selected glimpse of someone	把你整个复杂的现实生活 和这个小的 选择的某人的一瞥比起来
171	else's is never accurate or fair.	其它的永远不准确或公平。
172	Such important and honest examples.	这些重要和诚实的例子。
173	Now let's talk about something that many people realize only after years of unnecessary suffering.	现在我们来谈谈一些 许多人在经历了多年不必要的痛苦之后才意识到的事情。
174	The only person you should ever compare yourself to is your past self.	你唯一应该把自己比喻的人 就是你过去的自我
175	This is called personal	这叫做个人的
176	growth.	增长。
177	Measuring yourself not against others but against who you were yesterday, last month,	不是针对别人而是针对昨天的你
178	or last year.	或去年。 (笑声) (掌声)
179	Ask yourself, am I learning more than I was?	问问你自己,我学得比我多吗?
180	Am I kinder than I was?	我比我还善良吗?
181	Am I healthier,	我健康吗?
182	stronger, wiser, or more skilled than before?	更强,更聪明,还是更熟练?
183	Am I moving toward my own goals?	我朝自己的目标前进吗?
184	These are the	这些是
185	meaningful comparisons.	有意义的比较。
186	Measuring your progress against your own previous self is motivating,	衡量你的进步 与你自己的过去,
187	fair, and entirely within your control.	公平 完全在你控制范围内
188	Mark, how does this shift in comparison	马克,这个比喻怎么变的
189	change the way you feel and act?	改变你的感受和行为方式?
190	Shifting from comparing yourself to others to comparing yourself	从比较自己到比较自己
191	to your past self is genuinely life-changing.	对你过去的自我来说,是真正改变生命的。
192	When I focus on my own progress, I feel motivated	当我专注于自己的进步,我觉得有动力
193	rather than defeated.	而不是被打败。
194	I can celebrate small improvements, running a little further, speaking	我可以庆祝小改进,跑得更远,说话
195	English a little more fluently, being a little more patient.	英语更流利一点 耐心一点
196	These wins feel real and meaningful.	这些胜利者感到真实而有意义。
197	When I compared myself to others, I always felt behind.	当我把自己和别人比的时候,我总是感觉落后。
198	But when I compare myself to who I was a	但当我把自己比作自己
199	year ago, I almost always feel proud and encouraged.	一年前,我几乎总是感到骄傲和鼓舞。
200	The phrase, be the best version of yourself,	这句话,做你自己最好的版本,
201	captures this perfectly.	完美地捕捉到这个
202	Not the best version compared to someone else, but the best version	和别人相比不是最好的版本,而是最好的版本
203	compared to who you were and what you are capable of becoming.	比起你曾经是谁,你有能力成为什么。
204	Your only real competition is yourself.	你唯一真正的竞争对手是你自己
205	I want everyone to write that on their wall.	我希望每个人都写在他们的墙上。
206	Now, let's talk about gratitude, because practicing gratitude is one of the most	现在,让我们谈谈感激, 因为练习感激是最
207	powerful ways to stop the comparison habit.	强大的方法阻止比较习惯。
208	When you focus on what you are grateful for,	当你专注于你所感谢的
209	your attention naturally shifts from what you lack to what you already have.	你的注意力自然地从你缺乏的转移到你已经拥有的。
210	And almost all of us	几乎我们所有人
211	have more than we realize when we actually stop and look.	比我们意识到的更多 当我们真正停下来看。
212	In English, useful gratitude phrases,	在英语,有用的感恩词,
213	I am grateful for, I appreciate, I feel fortunate to have, I am thankful for.	我很感激,我很感激,我很幸运,我很感激。
214	Simple daily practices like writing three things you are grateful for every morning can completely	每天简单的练习,比如写三件事 你每天早上都感激
215	transform your mindset over time.	改变你的心态 随着时间的推移。
216	Mark, how has gratitude practice changed your relationship	马克,感谢练习如何改变了你的关系
217	with comparison?	与比较?
218	Gratitude has been one of the most transformative practices in my life.	感谢是我一生中最有变革性的做法之一。
219	When I began writing three things I was grateful for every morning,	当我开始写三件事 我每天早上感激,
220	I noticed something remarkable happening within just a few weeks.	我注意到几周内发生了一件大事
221	The urge to scroll through	冲刺的冲动
222	social media and compare myself to others weakened significantly.	社会媒体,
223	When you regularly	当你经常
224	acknowledge what is already good in your life, your health, your friendships, the small pleasures	承认你生命中已经美好的事物 健康 友谊 小小的快乐
225	of an ordinary day, comparison loses its power.	比较会失去它的力量
226	You start to feel rich in what matters rather	你开始觉得 富于什么重要
227	than poor in what you lack.	比你们所缺乏的穷。
228	The famous quote says, gratitude turns what we have into enough.	著名的引言说,感谢 把我们拥有的足够。
229	This is not just a nice saying, it is psychologically true.	这不仅仅是一句好话,在心理上是真实的。
230	A grateful mind simply	感谢之心
231	does not have room for destructive comparison.	没有进行破坏性比较的余地。
232	Practice it daily.	每日练习.
233	Gratitude turns what we have	感恩转身
234	into enough, one of the most beautiful sentences in the English language.	足够了,英语中最美丽的句子之一。
235	Now let's talk about	现在让我们谈谈
236	social media and how to use it more healthily, because simply deleting all social media is not	社交媒体以及如何更健康地使用,因为简单地删除所有社交媒体并不是
237	realistic for most people.	对大多数人来说都是现实的
238	But there are ways to use it without falling into the comparison trap.	但有一些方法可以使用它而不落入比较陷阱.
239	First, be aware that what you see is curated, carefully chosen and filtered to look as good	首先,要知道,你所看到的是 精心选择和过滤的,看起来不错
240	as possible.	尽可能。
241	Second, follow accounts that inspire and educate rather than accounts that make you	第二,遵循激励和教育的叙述而不是使你
242	feel inadequate.	感觉不足。
243	Third, set time limits for social media use.	三,设定社交媒体使用时限.
244	Many phones have built in tools for	许多手机都建在工具里了
245	this.	这个
246	Fourth, never browse social media first thing in the morning or last thing at night.	第四,永远不要浏览社交媒体 第一事情在上午或最后一件事在晚上。
247	These are your most emotionally vulnerable times.	这是你最情绪脆弱的时候
248	Mark, what other healthy social media	马克,什么其他健康社交媒体
249	habits help?	习惯有用吗?
250	More healthy social media habits?	更健康的社交媒体习惯?
251	Fifth, when you notice yourself feeling envy or	第五,当你发现自己 感到嫉妒或
252	inadequacy while scrolling, pause and remind yourself this is not their whole life, it is	在卷卷、暂停和提醒自己 这并非他们的一生,而是
253	their highlight reel.	他们的亮点卷轴。
254	Sixth, take regular social media breaks.	第六,定期举行社交媒体休息.
255	One day a week with no social media	每周一天没有社交媒体
256	is wonderfully refreshing.	令人振奋
257	Seventh, unfollow or mute accounts that consistently make you feel bad	第七,不跟随或不听 总是让你难过的叙述
258	about yourself, even if they belong to people you know.	即使他们属于你认识的人
259	You can still care about someone without	你仍然可以关心一个人没有
260	constantly seeing their curated life.	经常看到他们被管理的生活。
261	Eighth, replace passive scrolling with active creative	第八,将被动滚动替换为主动创意
262	activities.	活动。
263	Learning something, creating something, talking to real people.	学习一些东西,创造一些东西,和真实的人交谈.
264	And ninth, ask yourself	第九,问你自己
265	before opening any app, why am I opening this?	我为什么要打开这个?
266	What do I hope to feel?	我希望我有什么感觉?
267	Conscious use of social	有意识地利用
268	media is dramatically healthier than automatic mindless scrolling.	媒体比自动无脑卷轴更健康
269	Conscious use versus mindless	意识使用与无意识
270	卷 scroll.
271	Such a clear and practical distinction.	这种明确和实际的区分。
272	Now let's talk about the importance of knowing	现在我们来谈谈了解的重要性
273	your own values.	自己的价值。
274	Because one of the main reasons we compare ourselves to others is that we are not	因为我们与他人比较的一个主要原因是 我们不是
275	clear about what we actually want.	清楚我们到底想要什么。
276	When you do not know your own values, what truly matters to you,	当你不知道自己的价值, 什么是真正重要的是你,
277	you borrow other people's definitions of success and measure yourself against them.	你借用别人对成功的定义 并衡量自己与他们。
278	But other	但别的东西
279	people's idea of success may be completely different from yours.	人们对成功的看法可能与你完全不同
280	Someone might define success	有人可以定义成功
281	as having a lot of money.	作为一大笔钱。
282	Another person might define it as creative freedom.	另一人可能将其定义为创作自由。
283	Another might define	另一个可能定义
284	it as a close family.	它是一个亲密的家庭。
285	When you get clear on your own values, other people's lives become much less	当你明白自己的价值, 别人的生活变得少得多
286	relevant.	相关。
287	Mark, how do you discover and clarify your own values?	马克 你怎么发现和澄清自己的价值?
288	Clarifying your values is such	澄清你的价值观就是这样
289	important work.	重要的工作,我们的工作
290	Here's some helpful questions to ask yourself.	这里有一些有用的问题 问自己。
291	What makes me feel most alive	是什么让我觉得最活着
292	and fulfilled?	并完成吗?
293	What would I do if money were not a consideration?	如果不考虑钱,我该怎么办?
294	What do I want to be remembered	我要记住什么
295	for?	因为?
296	What activities make me lose track of time because I love them so much?	什么活动让我失去时间 因为我非常爱他们?
297	What kind of person	什么样的人
298	do I want to be?	我想成为吗?
299	Not what job title do I want, but what character qualities do I want to have?	不是我想要什么职称,而是我想要什么品格?
300	When you can answer these questions honestly, you start to understand what success means	当你能诚实地回答这些问题 你开始明白成功意味着什么
301	specifically for you.	特别为你。
302	And once you know that, comparing yourself to someone with completely	一旦你知道这一点, 比较自己和某人完全
303	different values starts to feel meaningless.	不同的价值观开始感到毫无意义。
304	It's like comparing a bird to a fish.	如鸟比鱼.
305	They live in	他们住在
306	completely different worlds, both perfectly suited to their own path.	完全不同的世界 都完全适合自己的道路
307	Comparing a bird to a fish,	把鸟比作鱼
308	what a perfect and memorable image.	多么完美和难忘的形象。
309	Now let's talk about envy, because envy is the emotion most	现在让我们谈谈羡慕, 因为羡慕是最大的情感
310	closely linked to comparison.	与比较密切相关。
311	Envy is the painful feeling of wanting what someone else has.	Envy是一种痛苦的渴望别人的感受.
312	In English, there's an interesting distinction.	在英语中,有一个有趣的区分.
313	Green with envy is an idiom meaning extremely	羡慕的绿色是极品
314	jealous.	妒忌之心.
315	And there are actually two types of envy that psychologists describe.	事实上,心理学家描述的嫉妒有两种。
316	Malicious envy,	恶意的嫉妒,
317	where you want to take from or diminish the other person.	在那里,你想从另一个人那里 或减少对方。
318	And benign envy, where the other person's	和良性嫉妒, 在那里,另一个人
319	success inspires and motivates you to work toward your own goals.	成功激励和激励你们为自己的目标而努力。
320	The first type is destructive.	第一类具有破坏性。
321	The second can actually be useful.	第二个可能实际上有用。
322	The trick is transforming envy from a painful, destructive	诀窍是把嫉妒从痛苦的 破坏性的
323	feeling into a source of personal inspiration.	感觉成为个人灵感的来源
324	Mark, how do you transform envy into something	马克,你怎么把嫉妒变成什么
325	positive?	肯定吗?
326	Transforming envy is a really practical and important skill.	改变嫉妒是一种非常实用和重要的技能。
327	When I notice envy, I now	当我发现羡慕,我现在
328	use it as useful information rather than letting it poison my mood.	而不是让它毒害我的心情
329	I ask myself, what specifically	我问自己,具体是什么
330	am I envious of?	我羡慕吗?
331	Often the answer reveals something important, a value or desire I was	答案往往揭示了重要的东西 价值或愿望
332	not consciously aware of.	没有意识地意识到。
333	For example, if I feel envious of someone's creative career, that tells	例如,如果我觉得羡慕某人的创作生涯,那就说明
334	me creative work matters deeply to me.	创作工作对我很重要
335	Instead of resenting that person, I can ask, what can I learn	而不是怨恨那个人 我可以问,我能学到什么
336	from how they got there?	他们是怎么到那儿的?
337	What action can I take towards my own creative goals?	我能为自己的创造性目标采取什么行动?
338	Envy从
339	being a painful comparison to being a helpful compass pointing toward what I genuinely want	一个痛苦的比喻 是一个有用的指南针 指向我真正想要的东西
340	from my own life.	从我自己的生活。
341	Use it as a signal, not as suffering.	用它作为信号,而不是痛苦。
342	Use envy as a compass, not as	用嫉妒作为指南针,而不是像
343	suffering.	受苦受难。
344	What a brilliant reframe.	多么辉煌的重组。
345	Now let's do a quiz for our listeners.	现在让我们做一个测试 我们的听众。
346	I will describe	我会描述
347	a situation, and Mark will say whether the person is comparing themselves harmfully or	马克会说这个人是在作有害的比较 还是
348	growing healthfully, and explain why.	健康成长 解释原因
349	Ready?	准备好了吗?
350	Situation 1.	情况1。
351	Maria sees a photo of her school	玛丽亚看到她学校的照片
352	friend's beautiful new house on social media.	朋友的新房子在社交媒体上。
353	She immediately feels bad about her small apartment.	她马上对她的小公寓感到难过.
354	She spends the next hour scrolling through her friend's posts feeling increasingly unhappy,	她花了一个小时 翻遍她朋友的帖子 觉得越来越不开心
355	and thinking that her own life is a failure.	以为她自己的生活是失败的
356	Listeners, is Maria comparing herself in a	听着,是玛丽亚比较自己在一个
357	healthy way or an unhealthy way?	健康还是不健康?
358	Think about everything we've discussed.	想想我们讨论过的一切
359	Mark, what is your	马克,你是什么?
360	verdict?	判决?
361	Maria is absolutely comparing herself in an unhealthy and harmful way.	玛利亚绝对是用不健康和有害的方式比较自己.
362	Let's analyze what	我们来分析一下
363	she's doing.	她这样做。
364	First, she's comparing her full, complex, real life to one carefully selected photo	首先,她把她的完整,复杂,真实的生活 比作一个精心挑选的照片
365	on social media.	在社交媒体。
366	She doesn't know anything about her friend's mortgage, stress, or life challenges.	她对朋友的抵押贷款,压力或生活挑战一无所知.
367	Second, she's spending an hour spiraling deeper into negative comparison instead of stepping away.	第二,她花了一个小时 螺旋式的更深的负面对比 而不是走开。
368	This is the comparison trap in action.	这就是行动中的比较陷阱。
369	Third, she's using one person's external success to define	第三,她用一个人的外部成功来定义
370	herself as a failure.	她是一个失败者。
371	This is deeply unfair to herself.	这对她来说是不公平的。
372	What should Maria do instead?	玛利亚应该怎么做?
373	Close the	关闭
374	app immediately.	即时应用.
375	Write three things she appreciates about her own home and remind herself that a	写三件事 她欣赏自己的家 并提醒自己
376	beautiful house does not equal a beautiful life.	美丽的房子不等于美丽的生活。
377	Her path is completely different from her friends	她的道路和朋友完全不同
378	and equally valid.	并且同样有效。
379	Excellent analysis.	非常好的分析。
380	Now, situation 2.	二号情况
381	David has been learning to draw	大卫一直在学习画画
382	for six months.	六个月。
383	He looks at the work of a professional artist he admires and thinks,	他看着一个专业艺术家的作品 他钦佩并认为,
384	I want to draw like that one day.	我想画这样的一天。
385	He studies what techniques the artist uses.	他研究艺术家使用的技巧.
386	He practices every day.	他每天都在练习
387	He looks at his drawing from six months ago and feels proud of how much he has improved.	他看着六个月前的画,并对他进步了多少感到骄傲.
388	He's excited to keep going.	他兴奋地继续前进。
389	Listeners, is David comparing himself healthily or unhealthily?	听者,是大卫比较自己健康还是不健康?
390	What	什麽?
391	do you think?	你觉得呢?
392	Consider whether David is being inspired or diminished by what he sees.	想想大卫是否因所见所闻而受到启发或削弱.
393	Mark,	马克
394	please analyze David's situation for us.	请分析一下大卫的情况
395	David is using comparison in a completely healthy	大卫在用比较 完全健康
396	and productive way.	和生产方式。
397	Let me explain why.	让我解释为什么。
398	First, he uses one person's skill as inspiration rather	首先,他把一个人的技巧作为灵感
399	than as a reason to feel bad about himself.	而不是作为为自己感到难过的理由。
400	Admiring someone's achievement and wanting	欣赏某人的成就和渴望
401	to reach a similar level is benign envy, the positive kind.	达到同样水平是善意的嫉妒,是积极的。
402	Second, he studies what the	第二,他学习什么是
403	admired artist does, which turns comparison into learning.	被赞美的艺术家做的, 这把比较转化为学习。
404	Third, and most importantly,	第三,最重要的是,
405	he compares himself to his past self, looking at his work from six months ago and feeling proud	他把自己比作过去 看着半年前的作品 感到骄傲
406	of real personal progress.	真正的个人进步。
407	This is exactly the right way to use comparison.	这是使用比较的正确方法。
408	David is competing	大卫在竞争
409	with his own previous self, not with a professional who has practiced for years.	和他之前的自己, 不是与一个专业 谁已经练习多年。
410	His mindset is	他的心态是
411	growing, curious, patient, and self-referential.	成长,好奇,耐心,和自我偏好。
412	David is our role model for healthy comparison.	大卫是我们健康比较的榜样。
413	David is indeed a wonderful role model.	大卫的确是一个出色的榜样。
414	Now let's talk about something that connects deeply to	现在,让我们谈谈一些 连接到
415	comparison, other people's opinions of you.	别人对你的看法
416	Many people live their whole lives trying to meet other	很多人一生都在试图遇见其他人
417	people's expectations, their parents' idea of a good career, their society's idea of the right	人们的期望,他们的父母对一个好事业的想法, 他们的社会对权利的想法
418	lifestyle, their friends' idea of success.	生活方式,他们朋友的成功理念。
419	This is closely related to comparison because it means	这与比较密切相关,因为它意味着
420	you are constantly measuring yourself against external standards rather than your own.	你总是按照外部标准而不是自己的标准衡量自己。
421	In	内
422	English, living for other people's approval or people-pleasing.	英文,为他人的认可或人情所迫而生活.
423	The famous saying by Dr. Seuss	苏斯博士的名言
424	captures this perfectly.	完美地捕捉到这个
425	You have to be odd to be number one.	得奇才为第一.
426	And another, be yourself.	又一个,做你自己。
427	Everyone	每个人
428	else is already taken.	其它的已经被带走了
429	Mark, how do we stop living for other people's approval?	马克,我们如何停止生活 别人的认可?
430	Stopping people	拦住人
431	is one of the most liberating things you can do.	这是你能做的最解放的事之一
432	Here are the steps.	这是台阶。
433	First, recognize that you cannot	首先,承认你不能
434	please everyone.	请大家
435	It is literally impossible.	这根本是不可能的。
436	Every life choice you make will disappoint someone.	你所做的一切选择 都会让人失望
437	Accepting this removes enormous pressure.	接受这个会消除巨大的压力。
438	Second, ask yourself before any major decision,	第二,在做出重大决定之前问问你自己
439	am I doing this because I truly want to or because I want someone's approval?	我这样做是因为我真心想要 还是因为我想要别人的认可?
440	Honest self-awareness breaks the people-pleasing pattern.	诚实的自我意识打破了人们的悲哀模式.
441	Third, practice making small decisions	第三,做出小决定的做法
442	based on your own preferences without explaining yourself, what you want to eat, what you want to	基于你自己的喜好 不解释自己,你想吃什么,你想吃什么
443	wear, where you want to spend your time.	穿,你想花时间的地方。
444	Small acts of self-authority build confidence gradually.	小规模的自我授权行为逐步建立信任。
445	Fourth, remember that the people who truly love and respect you want you to be authentically	第四,记住,真正爱和尊重你的人希望你真正
446	yourself, not a perfect performance of what others expect.	你自己,不是完美的表现 别人期望。
447	A perfect performance of what	完美表现什么
448	others expect.	其他人期待着
449	That description of people-pleasing is so clear.	对人情味的描述是如此清楚。
450	Now let's talk about the concept of	现在让我们谈谈
451	your own lane.	你自己的车道。
452	Staying in your own lane is a wonderful English metaphor from driving.	留在自己的车道上是英国人驾驶的一个美妙的比喻.
453	When you drive on a road, you stay in your own lane.	在路上行驶时,要保持自己的车道.
454	You do not swerve into other people's lanes,	你别走别人的路
455	and you do not worry about whether other drivers are going faster or slower.	你不用担心其他车手是开得快还是慢
456	You focus on your own road, your own speed, and your own destination.	你专注于自己的道路,自己的速度,以及自己的目的地.
457	In life, this means focusing	在生活中,这意味着集中注意力
458	on your own goals, your own pace, and your own journey, without constantly watching what others	目标,步调和旅程, 不经常看别人
459	are doing.	正在这样做。
460	In English, stay in your lane, run your own race, focus on your own path, and keep your	在英语中,停留在你的车道,运行自己的种族, 专注于自己的路径,并保持你的
461	eyes on your own paper.	看着你自己的报纸
462	Mark, what does staying in your lane look like in real life?	马克,在你的车道 看起来像什么?
463	Staying in your lane in real life looks like this.	在你的车道在现实生活中是这样。
464	It means not checking your salary against	就是不检查你的薪水
465	your colleague's salaries and feeling resentful.	你同事的薪水和怨恨
466	It means celebrating when a friend gets promoted	就是庆祝朋友升职
467	rather than feeling threatened.	而不是感觉受到威胁。
468	It means not comparing your relationship's timeline,	意思是不能比较你们的关系时间表
469	when you get married, when you have children, to anyone else's.	当你结婚, 当你有孩子, 到别人的。
470	It means pursuing the career	就是追求事业
471	that excites you, not the one that looks impressive to others.	让你兴奋的, 而不是那个看起来令人印象深刻的。
472	It means living in	这意味着生活
473	the home that suits your actual life, not the home that looks best on social media.	适合你实际生活的家 而不是社交媒体上最漂亮的家
474	It means moving at the pace that is right for you, whether that is fast or slow.	它意味着以适合你的速度前进,无论是速度还是速度。
475	Every person's road is different in length, direction, and terrain.	每个人的道路在长度,方向和地形上都有所不同.
476	The only person who	只有一个人
477	needs to be satisfied with your journey is you.	需要满足你的旅程 是你。
478	The only person who needs to be satisfied with	唯一需要满足的人
479	your journey is you.	你的旅程是你。
480	So true and so freeing.	如此真实而解脱.
481	Now let's talk about something powerful,	现在,让我们谈谈 强大的东西,
482	celebrating other people's success.	庆祝别人的成功
483	When we are trapped in comparison, we feel threatened by other	当我们被困在比较中, 我们感到受到其他的威胁
484	success.	成功吗?
485	We want them to fail because their success makes us feel bad about ourselves.	我们希望他们失败,因为他们的成功使我们对自己感到难过。
486	But when we are free from comparison, we can genuinely celebrate others and feel happy for	但是,当我们没有比较, 我们可以真正地庆祝别人, 并感到快乐
487	them.	他们。
488	This is called abundance mindset, the belief that there is enough success, happiness,	这叫做丰盛的心态, 相信有足够的成功,幸福,
489	and goodness in the world for everyone.	和善良的世界 为每个人。
490	The opposite is scarcity mindset, the belief that	相反的是稀缺的心态,认为
491	if someone else has something, there is less for you.	如果别人有东西,你少了点
492	Mark, how do you shift from a scarcity	马克,你如何摆脱匮乏
493	mindset to an abundance mindset?	* 心态与丰富的心态?
494	Shifting from scarcity to abundance mindset takes deliberate	从稀缺转向富足的心态需要深思熟虑
495	Here are some strategies.	这里有一些策略。
496	First, practice genuinely celebrating other's success.	第一,真正地庆祝他人的成功。
497	Say it out loud.	大声说出来。
498	I am so happy for her.	我为她高兴
499	She worked so hard for this.	她为此付出了很大努力.
500	The more you practice this, the more natural it	你越练越自然
501	becomes.	变成。
502	Second, remind yourself that someone else's success does not reduce your opportunities.	第二,提醒自己,别人的成功不会减少你的机会.
503	If a friend becomes a successful writer, that does not prevent you from also becoming a writer.	如果一个朋友成为一名成功的作家,那并不妨碍你成为一名作家.
504	If a colleague gets promoted, that does not block your own growth.	如果一个同事得到晋升,那并不妨碍你的成长。
505	Success is not a finite resource.	成功不是有限的资源。
506	Third, surround yourself with people who celebrate each other	第三,你身边的人 互相庆祝
507	rather than compete destructively.	而不是进行破坏性的竞争。
508	Generous, supportive communities are enormously good for	慷慨、支持的社区对
509	your mindset.	你的心态。
510	And fourth, notice when you feel genuinely happy for someone's success.	第四,当你为某人的成功感到真正快乐时,请注意。
511	That feeling is the abundance mindset working.	这种感觉是丰富的心态起作用的。
512	Success is not a finite resource.	成功不是有限的资源。
513	What a liberating	何等的解脱
514	empowering belief.	增强信仰能力。
515	Now let's talk about some beautiful English phrases and quotes that help	让我们来谈谈一些美丽的英语短语 和引用帮助
516	with the comparison habit.	与比较习惯。
517	Run your own race.	跑你自己的比赛。
518	Focus on your journey, not others.	专心你的旅程,而不是别人。
519	Bloom where	布鲁姆在哪里
520	you are planted.	你被栽赃了
521	Grow and flourish in your own circumstances.	在你自己的环境下成长繁荣.
522	Comparison is the thief of joy.	比较是欢喜之贼.
523	We have said this before, but it bears repeating.	我们以前说过,但必须重复。
524	Different does not mean less.	不同并不意味着更少。
525	Being different from others is not a disadvantage.	与他人不同并不是一种不利因素。
526	Everyone's path is different.	每个人都有不同的路
527	There is no	没有
528	single right way to live a life.	过着正常的生活
529	Your time will come.	尔时世尊.
530	Trust your own timing.	相信自己的时机
531	And be a first-rate	成为一流的
532	version of yourself rather than a second-rate version of someone else, attributed to Judy	而不是别人的二流版本
533	Garland.	迦兰.
534	Mark, which of these resonates most with you?	马克,这其中哪一个最有共鸣?
535	I love all of these, but the one that resonates	我喜欢这些,但有共鸣的
536	most with me personally is your time will come.	和我在一起的大部分时间都是你的时间
537	I spent years feeling behind, comparing my life	我花了多年的感情 比较我的生活
538	timeline to people around me who seem to reach milestones faster.	我身边的人似乎更快到达里程碑
539	But gradually, I learned that	但逐渐地,我学会了
540	life does not operate on a single schedule.	生命不是在一个单一的时间表上运行的。
541	Some people find their calling at 20, others at 40 or	有些人在20岁时发现他们的电话 其他人在40岁时发现的
542	60.	60. 联合国
543	Some build careers steadily, others take winding paths.	一些人稳步地建立事业,另一些人走顺风路。
544	The diversity of human journeys	人类旅行的多样性
545	is beautiful, not something to be anxious about.	是美丽的,不是需要担心的东西。
546	Every time I feel the impulse to compare my	每次我感到冲动来比较我
547	timeline to someone else's, I remind myself, your time will come.	我提醒自己 你的时间会到的
548	It is patient, kind, and true.	这是耐心、善良和真实的。
549	Your path has its own perfect timing that no one else's life can tell you anything about.	你的道路有它自己 完美的时机, 没有人能告诉你任何事情。
550	Your time will come.	尔时世尊.
551	Patient, kind, and true.	病人,善良,真实。
552	I love that.	我喜欢
553	Now let's give our listeners some	现在让我们给听众一些
554	very practical exercises to stop the comparison habit in daily life.	在日常生活中停止比较习惯的非常实用的练习.
555	Exercise one, the gratitude	练习一,感谢
556	journal.	日记。
557	Every morning, write three things you are grateful for in your own life.	每天早上,写三件事 你感激在自己的生活中。
558	This anchors your	这个会固定你
559	attention in what you have rather than what you lack.	注意你拥有的 而不是你缺乏的
560	Exercise two, the social media audit.	练习二,社交媒体审核.
561	Go	走开
562	through everyone you follow and honestly ask, does this account inspire me or make me feel inadequate?	通过你所跟踪的所有人 诚实的问道, 这个账户激励我 还是让我觉得不足?
563	Unfollow or mute anyone who consistently makes you feel worse about yourself.	不跟随或哑巴任何人 谁总是让你觉得自己更糟。
564	Exercise three,	三号练习
565	the self-comparison diary.	自比日记.
566	Once a week, write one way you have grown since last week.	每周写一篇 你从上周开始成长的书
567	Mark,	马克
568	can you share exercises four through seven?	你能分享4到7号练习吗?
569	Continuing the practical exercises, exercise	继续实际练习、练习
570	four, the values clarification.	四,价值澄清.
571	Write down five things that truly matter to you in life,	写下五件对你很重要的事
572	not what should matter or what others say should matter, but what genuinely does.	无关紧要的 或别人说的无关紧要 但真正要做的事
573	Keep this list	保留此列表
574	visible.	可见。
575	Exercise five, the envy journal.	锻炼五,羡慕日记.
576	When you feel envious, write it down.	当感羡时写下.
577	I feel envious of,	我觉得羡慕
578	then ask, what does this tell me about what I want for my own life?	然后问,这告诉我什么 我想要什么我自己的生活?
579	Exercise six, the celebration	第六场,庆祝会
580	practice.	实践。
581	Every time a friend or colleague achieves something, write them a genuine	每次朋友或同事有成就,就写个真
582	congratulation in a message, a comment, or just in your own mind.	祝贺在一条消息,一个评论,或只是在你自己的头脑。
583	Practice being happy for others.	练习为他人欢乐.
584	Exercise seven, the lane check.	7号演习,检查车道
585	Once a day, ask yourself, am I in my own lane today or am I	一天一次,问问你自己, 今天我是在我自己的车道上还是我
586	distracted by what others are doing?	被别人在干嘛?
587	These seven exercises are practical, simple, and genuinely	这七项练习是实际的、简单的和真实的。
588	transformative.	转型。
589	Seven practical exercises.	七实际修行.
590	What a complete toolkit.	真是一个完整的工具包。
591	Now let's talk about how	现在让我们谈谈如何
592	comparison relates to English learning specifically, because many of our listeners are learning	比较与英语学习特别相关,因为我们的许多听众都在学习
593	English, and this topic is very relevant to their experience.	英语,这个话题与他们的经验非常相关.
594	Many language learners compare	许多语言学习者比较
595	themselves to other learners and feel discouraged.	并感到沮丧。
596	She started three months after me, but already	她从我三个月后就开始了,但已经
597	speaks much better.	说得好多了
598	He seems to learn so quickly.	他好像学得这么快
599	Why am I so slow?	为什么我这么慢?
600	Everyone else in the class seems	班上其他人似乎都这样
601	more confident.	更自信一点
602	These comparisons are just as harmful in learning as in any other area of life.	这些比较在学习上和在生活的其他领域一样有害。
603	Every learner has a different background, different native language, different amount	每个学习者都有不同的背景,不同的母语,不同的数量
604	of practice time, and different learning style.	练习时间,和不同的学习风格。
605	Mark, what advice do you have for English learners	马克,你对英语学习者有什么建议?
606	who compare themselves to other learners?	谁比较自己 与其他学习者?
607	Such an important point for our English learning	这对我们的英语学习很重要
608	listeners.	听众
609	Here's the truth about language learning comparison.	以下是语言学习比较的真相.
610	Every learner's journey	每个学习者的旅程
611	is unique and incomparable.	是独一无二和不可比拟的。
612	Someone who speaks a language related to English, like Dutch or German,	一个会说英语语言的人 比如荷兰语或德语
613	will naturally progress faster than someone whose native language is completely different,	自然会比本地语言完全不同的人 进步更快
614	like Korean, Arabic, or Uzbek.	如朝鲜语,阿拉伯语,或乌兹别克语.
615	Someone who practices speaking every day will improve	每天练习演讲的人会好起来的
616	faster than someone who only reads.	比只看书的人快
617	Someone who lives in an English-speaking environment	住在英语环境中的人
618	has different advantages than someone learning from home.	和从家里学东西的人不同
619	None of these differences mean one	这些区别都意味着
620	learner is smarter or better.	学习者更聪明或更好。
621	They mean each person has a different starting point and different	意思是每个人都有不同的起点 不同的起点
622	circumstances.	环境。
623	Compare yourself only to your own past performance.	只把自己和过去的表现比起来
624	Do I understand more than I did	我理解的比我还多
625	last month is the only comparison that matters for your English learning journey.	上个月是你们学习英语的唯一比较
626	Do I understand	明白了吗?
627	more than I did last month?	比我上个月还多?
628	The perfect comparison for every English learner.	完美比较每个英语学习者。
629	Now let's talk about	现在让我们谈谈
630	self-acceptance because the ultimate goal of stopping comparison is to genuinely accept and	自我接受,因为停止比较的最终目标是真正接受和
631	embrace who you are.	拥抱你
632	Self-acceptance does not mean you stop growing or improving.	自我接受并不意味着你停止生长或改善。
633	It means you stop	意思是你停下来
634	hating yourself while you grow.	恨自己长大。
635	It means recognizing that you are enough right now,	这意味着承认你现在够了,
636	in this moment, as you are, while also moving toward who you want to become.	此时此刻,就像你一样, 同时也朝着你想成为的人前进。
637	In English,	英语
638	beautiful phrases for self-acceptance.	美丽的句子 自我接受。
639	I am enough.	够了
640	I am worthy exactly as I am.	我和现在一样值得
641	I accept myself completely.	我完全接受自己 完全接受自己吗?
642	I am doing my best.	我尽力了
643	I am a work in progress.	我的工作正在进行中。
644	I am proud of how far	我为多远感到骄傲
645	I have come.	我来了。
646	Mark, what does genuine self-acceptance feel like in daily life?	马克,真正的自我接受在日常生活中是什么感觉?
647	Genuine self-acceptance	真正的自我接受
648	feels like a quiet, calm confidence that does not need external validation to exist.	感觉像一个安静,平静的信心,不需要外部验证的存在.
649	It means	这意味着
650	you can receive a compliment without dismissing it and receive criticism without being destroyed	你可以接受赞美而不被开除 也可以接受批评而不被摧毁
651	by it.	由它来。
652	It means your happiness is not dependent on being better than someone else or being	也就是说你的幸福并不取决于 是否比别人好
653	approved of by someone else.	经他人批准。
654	It means you can be happy for others without feeling threatened.	意思是你可以为他人高兴而不受威胁
655	It means you can pursue your goals for the joy and meaning of the pursuit itself,	这意味着你可以追求你的目标 为了追求的快乐和意义本身,
656	not to prove anything to anyone.	不向任何人证明什么。
657	The phrase I am enough sounds simple but carries enormous	这句话我听上去很简单,但很巨大
658	power when you truly believe it.	当你真正相信它时, 力量。
659	It takes time to get there.	到达那里需要时间。
660	Self-acceptance is a practice,	自我接受是一种惯例,
661	not a destination.	不是一个目的地。
662	But every day you choose your own path over comparison, you move a little	但你每天选择自己的路 而不是比较, 你移动一点点
663	closer to that quiet, unshakable peace.	更接近那种安静的,不可动摇的和平.
664	A quiet, unshakable peace.	一个安静的,不可动摇的和平。
665	What a beautiful description	多美的描述
666	of the freedom that comes from stopping comparison.	自由来自停止比较。
667	Now let me give our listeners a final summary of	现在让我给我们的听众一个最后的总结
668	all the key ideas from today's episode.	所有关键的想法 从今天的插曲。
669	First, comparison is natural, but modern life, especially	首先,比较是自然的,但现代生活,尤其是
670	social media, has made it toxic.	社会媒体,已经使它有毒。
671	Second, you only ever see other people's highlight reel,	第二,你只见过别人的亮点
672	not their full, messy, real life.	而不是他们的完整,混乱,真实的生活。
673	Third, the only healthy comparison is to your past self,	第三,唯一健康的比较 就是你过去的自我,
674	measure your own progress.	测量自己的进展。
675	Fourth, gratitude is the antidote to comparison, appreciate what you	第四,感谢是比较的解药 欣赏你
676	already have.	已经是了
677	Fifth, know your own values so other people's definitions of success lose their power	第五,了解你自己的价值观 这样别人对成功的定义就失去了他们的力量
678	over you.	在你身边。
679	Sixth, transform envy into a compass pointing toward your own desires.	第六,把嫉妒变成指南针 指向自己的欲望
680	And seventh,	还有第七
681	stay in your own lane and run your own race.	留在自己的车道上,运行自己的种族。
682	Mark, final thoughts?	马克,最后的想法?
683	Thank you so much, Anna.	非常感谢,安娜。
684	This has been one of the most meaningful and important episodes we've made.	这是我们所创造的 最有意义和最重要的事件之一。
685	And a huge thank	和巨大的感谢
686	you to every single listener who joined us today.	你给今天加入我们的每一个听众
687	Remember, the people you compare yourself to are	记住,你比较自己的人
688	comparing themselves to other people.	把自己和其他人比起来
689	Everyone is playing this game and nobody wins.	每个人都在玩这个游戏 没人能赢
690	The way out is	出去的路是,我们...
691	to stop playing entirely, to turn your eyes from other people's lives back to your own extraordinary,	停止玩耍, 把你的眼睛 从别人的生活回到自己的非凡,
692	unique, one-of-a-kind journey.	独具一格的旅程
693	You have your own strengths, your own story, your own timeline,	你有自己的长处,你自己的故事,你自己的时间表,
694	and your own destination.	以及你们自己的目的地
695	Nobody else can live your life, only you, and that means nobody else's	没有人能过你的生活,只有你, 这意味着没有人的
696	life can be the right standard for yours.	生活可以是你的正确标准。
697	Be yourself, trust your path.	做你自己,相信你的道路。
698	You are enough,	你够了,
699	exactly as you are.	跟你一样
700	Goodbye, everyone.	再见,各位
701	What a truly wonderful and liberating episode	多么美妙和解放的一集
702	this has been.	这是一直以来。
703	I feel lighter just from having this conversation.	谈话让我感觉轻松
704	Let me leave our listeners	让我离开我们的听众
705	with one final thought.	只有一个最后的想法。
706	The next time you feel the urge to compare your life to someone else's,	下次你觉得有冲动想把自己的生活和别人的生活比起来
707	because we all do, pause for just one moment, breathe, and ask yourself,	因为我们都是,暂停一分钟,呼吸,问自己,
708	whose life am I living right now, mine or the life I think I should have based on someone else?	我现在的生活是属于谁的 还是属于别人的?
709	Then gently return your attention to your own path, your own growth, your own blessings,	然后轻轻地把注意力 回到你的道路, 你自己的成长, 你自己的祝福,
710	your beautiful, imperfect, entirely sufficient life.	你的美丽,不完美, 完全足够的生活。
711	That is where your real happiness lives,	这就是你真正的幸福生活的地方
712	not in someone else's story.	不是别人的故事
713	Thank you so much for listening today.	非常感谢你今天的聆听。
714	We will see you in the very next episode.	下集再见
715	Take great care.	小心点

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时间	英文	中文
0:00	Hello, everyone.	大家好,你们好
0:01	Welcome to our podcast.	欢迎来到我们的播客。
0:03	My name is Anna, and I am so happy you are here	我叫安娜,很高兴你来了
0:06	with us today.	与我们今天。
0:07	This podcast is made for beginner English learners, and every episode is simple,	这个播客是为初学者而制作 每集都很简单
0:13	friendly, and very useful.	友好的,非常有用。
0:15	Today we have a really important and meaningful topic.	今天,我们有一个真正重要和有意义的议题。
0:19	Stop	停下来
0:20	comparing your life to other people.	把你的生活和别人相比
0:22	This is something almost everyone does, and it	这几乎是每个人都做,它

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序号	英文	中文
1	Hello, everyone.	大家好,你们好
2	Welcome to our podcast.	欢迎来到我们的播客。
3	My name is Anna, and I am so happy you are here	我叫安娜,很高兴你来了
4	with us today.	与我们今天。
5	This podcast is made for beginner English learners, and every episode is simple,	这个播客是为初学者而制作 每集都很简单
6	friendly, and very useful.	友好的,非常有用。
7	Today we have a really important and meaningful topic.	今天,我们有一个真正重要和有意义的议题。
8	Stop	停下来
9	comparing your life to other people.	把你的生活和别人相比
10	This is something almost everyone does, and it	这几乎是每个人都做,它
11	can make us feel very unhappy.	可以让我们感到非常不快乐。
12	Comparing yourself to others is one of the most common habits	把自己和别人比起来是最常见的习惯之一
13	in modern life, and one of the most harmful.	在现代生活中,也是最有害的。
14	I am joined by my wonderful co-host, Mark.	我和我的好搭档马克一起
15	Mark, say hello and tell us, do you ever compare your life to other people?	马克,打个招呼,告诉我们, 你曾经比过别人吗?
16	Hello, hello.	哈罗,哈罗。
17	Thank you, Anna.	谢谢你,安娜。
18	Hi to all our wonderful listeners.	嗨,我们所有伟大的听众。
19	Do I compare my life	难道我比较我的生活
20	to others?	对别人?
21	Honestly, yes.	说实话,是的。
22	I used to do it constantly.	我以前经常这样
23	I would look at someone's career,	我会看一个人的事业,
24	their house, their relationship, or their lifestyle and think, why don't I have that?	他们的房子,他们的关系, 或他们的生活方式和思考, 为什么不我拥有?
25	It made me feel small, inadequate, and unhappy.	这让我觉得自己小、不足和不快乐
26	But over time, I learned why comparison is so	但随着时间的推移,我知道为什么比较如此
27	harmful and how to stop doing it.	和如何停止这样做。
28	Today, Anna and I are going to talk about what comparison is,	今天,安娜和我要谈谈 比较是什么,
29	why we do it, what damage it causes, and most importantly, how to live your own life with	为什么我们这样做, 造成什么损害, 最重要的是,如何生活你自己的生活
30	confidence and joy.	信心与欢喜.
31	We will also share lots of useful English vocabulary.	我们还将分享许多有用的英语词汇。
32	Let's begin.	让我们开始。
33	Let's start with some key vocabulary for today's topic.	让我们从今天的主题开始一些关键词汇.
34	To compare means to look at two or more	比较看两个或两个以上
35	things and notice how they are the same or different.	事物,注意它们是如何是相同的或不同的。
36	When we compare our lives to others,	当我们把生活和别人相比
37	we often focus on what we lack, what we do not have that they seem to have.	我们常常把注意力集中在我们所缺乏的,我们所没有的,他们似乎拥有的。
38	The word inadequate means feeling not good enough.	不足一词意味着感觉不够好。
39	Insecurity is a feeling of not being	不安全是一种感觉,不是
40	confident about yourself.	对自己有信心
41	Self-worth is the value you place on yourself as a person.	自我价值是作为一个人你对自己的价值。
42	Envy	爱慕
43	means wanting something that someone else has.	意思是想要别人拥有的东西
44	Jealousy is a similar feeling, often including	嫉妒是一种类似的感觉,常常包括
45	a fear of losing what you have.	害怕失去你所拥有的一切
46	And contentment means feeling happy and satisfied with your life.	而满足意味着对生活感到快乐和满足.
47	Mark, can you give example sentences using these words?	马克,你能用这些词来举例句子吗?
48	Of course.	当然
49	Here are natural example sentences.	这是自然的例子句子。
50	After scrolling through social media,	在通过社交媒体滚动后,
51	she felt inadequate compared to everyone else's highlight reel.	她觉得跟其他人的亮点相比不够
52	His constant comparison to his	他的不断的比较 与他的
53	brother's success was a source of deep insecurity.	弟弟的成功是造成极度不安全的根源。
54	True self-worth does not depend on what other	真正的自我价值并不取决于什么
55	people think of you.	人们会想到你
56	She felt a pang of envy when she saw her friend's new car.	她看到朋友的新车时,感到一阵嫉妒.
57	Comparison is the	比较是
58	thief of joy, a very famous and true quote.	欢乐的贼, 一个非常有名和真实的引言。
59	He practiced gratitude every day until contentment	他每天练习感激 直到满足
60	replaced his constant desire for more.	取代了他不断追求更多
61	Stop measuring your success by other people's	别靠别人衡量你的成功
62	achievements.	成绩。
63	Your journey is unique.	你的旅程很独特
64	No two paths in life are the same.	生活中没有两条路是相同的。
65	These sentences are all very	这些句子都是非常
66	natural and useful for everyday English conversations about emotions and self-improvement.	自然的,对日常的英语对话,关于情感和自我改进很有帮助.
67	Comparison is the thief of joy.	比较是欢喜之贼.
68	That quote is from American President Teddy Roosevelt,	引用自美国总统泰迪·罗斯福
69	and it is one of the most powerful sentences about this topic.	这是关于这个话题最有力的句子之一。
70	Now let's talk about why we compare	现在我们来谈谈我们为什么比较
71	ourselves to others in the first place, because this is a very human and very natural tendency.	首先,我们自己与他人, 因为这是非常人性和非常自然的倾向。
72	Psychologists tell us that humans have always compared themselves to the people around them.	心理学家告诉我们,人类总是把自己比作周围的人.
73	In ancient times, this was actually useful.	在古代,这其实是有用的.
74	Comparing yourself to others helped you understand	把自己和别人比起来有助于你理解
75	your social position and motivated you to work harder for survival.	您的社会地位 激励您更加努力地为生存而工作。
76	But in the modern world,	但在现代世界,
77	especially with social media, this natural instinct has become toxic and destructive.	特别是社交媒体,这种自然本能已经变得有毒和破坏性.
78	Mark, can you explain more about why the modern world makes comparisons so much worse?	马克 你能解释一下为什么现代世界 比较会更糟吗?
79	Social media has made comparison dramatically worse for a very specific reason.	由于非常具体的原因,社交媒体使比较严重恶化。
80	In the past,	过去,
81	you compared yourself to the people in your immediate environment, your neighbors, classmates,	你把自己和周围环境的人,你的邻居,同学比起来
82	and co-workers.	还有同事
83	The comparison was at least realistic.	这种比较至少是现实的。
84	Today, social media exposes you to	今天,社交媒体让你暴露在
85	millions of people showing only the very best moments of their lives, their most beautiful	数百万人只展示他们生命中最美好的时刻 他们最美丽的时刻
86	photos, their greatest achievements, their happiest moments.	照片,他们最大的成就, 他们最快乐的时刻。
87	Nobody posts pictures of their	没有人张贴他们的照片
88	ordinary Tuesday afternoon or their difficult times.	星期二下午或者他们的困难时期
89	This creates a completely false impression.	这造成了一个完全错误的印象。
90	You see everyone's highlight reel while living through your own behind-the-scenes reality.	你可以看到每个人的亮点,同时通过自己的幕后现实生活.
91	You compare your ordinary, unfiltered daily life to thousands of other people's carefully curated,	你将你平凡的,没有被过滤的日常生活 与成千上万的其他人的精心管理相比较
92	filtered, perfect-looking moments.	过滤的, 完美的瞬间。
93	It's an unfair and impossible comparison	这是不公平和不可能的比较
94	that almost always makes you feel worse.	这几乎总是让你觉得更糟。
95	Highlight reel versus behind-the-scenes,	突出画面对幕后,
96	such a perfect way to describe social media.	如此完美地描述社交媒体。
97	Now let's talk about the damage that constant	现在,让我们谈谈 破坏的恒定
98	comparison causes to our mental health and happiness.	比较我们心理健康和幸福的原因。
99	When you constantly measure your	当你不断测量你的
100	life against other people's, several things happen.	生活与别人的, 几件事发生。
101	First, you stop appreciating what you already have	首先,你不再欣赏你已经拥有的
102	because you are always focused on what you lack.	因为你总是专注于你缺乏的东西。
103	Second, you feel constant dissatisfaction.	第二,你总是感到不满。
104	Nothing ever feels enough because there is always someone who seems to have more.	没有什么比这更能感觉到的 因为总有人看起来有更大的感觉
105	Third,	第三个
106	you lose your sense of direction.	你失去了你的方向感。
107	Instead of pursuing your own goals and values,	而不是追求自己的目标和价值观,
108	you start chasing what other people have.	你开始追寻别人拥有的东西
109	And fourth, it damages your self-esteem,	第四,它损害你的自尊,
110	your belief in your own worth and ability.	相信自己的价值和能力
111	Mark, what other damage does comparison do to people?	马克,比较对人有什么影响?
112	Comparison causes so much damage.	比较造成如此多的破坏.
113	Here are more serious effects.	这是更严重的影响。
114	It creates a cycle of	它创造了循环
115	never feeling good enough that can lead to anxiety and depression.	永远感觉不够好 会导致焦虑和抑郁
116	It makes relationships	造就关系
117	difficult.	很难
118	You start feeling resentment towards successful friends instead of genuine happiness	你开始对成功的朋友不满 而不是真正的幸福
119	for them.	为了他们
120	It kills creativity.	它杀死了创造力。
121	When you're constantly measuring yourself against other	当你不停地测量自己 相对于其他
122	standards, you're too afraid to be original or take risks.	标准,你太害怕 原创或冒险。
123	And it paralyzes you with indecision.	它使你无法决定。
124	If someone else already does something better than you, why even try?	如果别人已经做了 比你更好的事情, 为什么甚至尝试?
125	And perhaps most damaging of	也许最有害的
126	all, it stops you from recognizing and appreciating your own unique strengths and gifts.	所有,它阻止你 承认和欣赏 你独特的长处和天赋。
127	The phrase,	这句话,
128	the grass is always greener on the other side, means other people's lives always look better	草总是在另一边更绿 意味着别人的生活总是更好看
129	from the outside.	从外.
130	But this is almost never the truth once you look closely.	但只要仔细观察,这几乎永远不是事实。
131	The grass is always	草总是
132	greener on the other side.	在另一边更绿色。
133	Such a perfect English idiom for this topic.	这么完美的英语规范 这个话题。
134	Now, let's talk about	现在,让我们谈谈
135	something very important.	一件很重要的事 很重要的一件东西
136	What are you actually comparing?	你到底在比较什么?
137	When we compare our lives to others,	当我们把生活和别人相比
138	we almost never have the full picture.	我们几乎从来没有 完整的画面。
139	We see someone's beautiful home, but not their mortgage	我们看到某人的美丽家园,但不是他们的抵押
140	stress.	压力
141	We see someone's perfect relationship on social media, but not the arguments behind closed	在社交媒体上,我们看到某人的完美关系, 但不是关闭背后的争论
142	doors.	门。
143	We see someone's successful career, but not the years of struggle and sacrifice that built	我们看到一个人成功的事业, 但不是多年的奋斗和牺牲
144	it.	这个
145	We see someone's confident smile, but not the anxiety they feel inside.	我们看到某人自信的微笑,但不是他们内心的焦虑.
146	In English, we say,	在英语中,我们说,
147	never judge a book by its cover, meaning you cannot know the truth of something just by how	绝不以书的封面来评判它, 意思是,你不可能知道 事物的真相,只是如何
148	it appears on the surface.	它出现在表面。
149	Mark, can you give more examples of this hidden reality?	马克,你能举出更多 隐藏现实的例子吗?
150	Hidden reality is so important to understand.	隐藏的现实是如此重要 了解。
151	Think about these examples.	想想这些例子。
152	The person with the	当事人
153	luxury car may be deep in debt.	豪华汽车可能负债累累
154	The person who seems to have a perfect body may be struggling	似乎身体完美的人 可能正在挣扎
155	with an eating disorder.	与饮食障碍。
156	The person who just got promoted may be working 80-hour weeks and	刚刚升职的人可能要工作80小时
157	barely seeing their family.	很少见到他们的家人。
158	在Instagram上关系完美的人
159	deeply unhappy at home.	在家里很不高兴
160	The entrepreneur who seems like an overnight success probably failed multiple	似乎一夜之间成功的企业家 可能多次失败
161	times before succeeding.	成功前的时代。
162	The friend who always seems happy and confident may be fighting battles	总是很快乐很自信的朋友 可能会在打仗
163	you know nothing about.	你对此一无所知
164	We only ever see a fraction of other people's lives, and always the most	我们只见过别人生命的一小部分 永远是
165	selected fraction.	选定分数。
166	Comparing your whole complex real life to this tiny selected glimpse of someone	把你整个复杂的现实生活 和这个小的 选择的某人的一瞥比起来
167	else's is never accurate or fair.	其它的永远不准确或公平。
168	Such important and honest examples.	这些重要和诚实的例子。
169	Now let's talk about something that many people realize only after years of unnecessary suffering.	现在我们来谈谈一些 许多人在经历了多年不必要的痛苦之后才意识到的事情。
170	The only person you should ever compare yourself to is your past self.	你唯一应该把自己比喻的人 就是你过去的自我
171	This is called personal	这叫做个人的
172	growth.	增长。
173	Measuring yourself not against others but against who you were yesterday, last month,	不是针对别人而是针对昨天的你
174	or last year.	或去年。 (笑声) (掌声)
175	Ask yourself, am I learning more than I was?	问问你自己,我学得比我多吗?
176	Am I kinder than I was?	我比我还善良吗?
177	Am I healthier,	我健康吗?
178	stronger, wiser, or more skilled than before?	更强,更聪明,还是更熟练?
179	Am I moving toward my own goals?	我朝自己的目标前进吗?
180	These are the	这些是
181	meaningful comparisons.	有意义的比较。
182	Measuring your progress against your own previous self is motivating,	衡量你的进步 与你自己的过去,
183	fair, and entirely within your control.	公平 完全在你控制范围内
184	Mark, how does this shift in comparison	马克,这个比喻怎么变的
185	change the way you feel and act?	改变你的感受和行为方式?
186	Shifting from comparing yourself to others to comparing yourself	从比较自己到比较自己
187	to your past self is genuinely life-changing.	对你过去的自我来说,是真正改变生命的。
188	When I focus on my own progress, I feel motivated	当我专注于自己的进步,我觉得有动力
189	rather than defeated.	而不是被打败。
190	I can celebrate small improvements, running a little further, speaking	我可以庆祝小改进,跑得更远,说话
191	English a little more fluently, being a little more patient.	英语更流利一点 耐心一点
192	These wins feel real and meaningful.	这些胜利者感到真实而有意义。
193	When I compared myself to others, I always felt behind.	当我把自己和别人比的时候,我总是感觉落后。
194	But when I compare myself to who I was a	但当我把自己比作自己
195	year ago, I almost always feel proud and encouraged.	一年前,我几乎总是感到骄傲和鼓舞。
196	The phrase, be the best version of yourself,	这句话,做你自己最好的版本,
197	captures this perfectly.	完美地捕捉到这个
198	Not the best version compared to someone else, but the best version	和别人相比不是最好的版本,而是最好的版本
199	compared to who you were and what you are capable of becoming.	比起你曾经是谁,你有能力成为什么。
200	Your only real competition is yourself.	你唯一真正的竞争对手是你自己
201	I want everyone to write that on their wall.	我希望每个人都写在他们的墙上。
202	Now, let's talk about gratitude, because practicing gratitude is one of the most	现在,让我们谈谈感激, 因为练习感激是最
203	powerful ways to stop the comparison habit.	强大的方法阻止比较习惯。
204	When you focus on what you are grateful for,	当你专注于你所感谢的
205	your attention naturally shifts from what you lack to what you already have.	你的注意力自然地从你缺乏的转移到你已经拥有的。
206	And almost all of us	几乎我们所有人
207	have more than we realize when we actually stop and look.	比我们意识到的更多 当我们真正停下来看。
208	In English, useful gratitude phrases,	在英语,有用的感恩词,
209	I am grateful for, I appreciate, I feel fortunate to have, I am thankful for.	我很感激,我很感激,我很幸运,我很感激。
210	Simple daily practices like writing three things you are grateful for every morning can completely	每天简单的练习,比如写三件事 你每天早上都感激
211	transform your mindset over time.	改变你的心态 随着时间的推移。
212	Mark, how has gratitude practice changed your relationship	马克,感谢练习如何改变了你的关系
213	with comparison?	与比较?
214	Gratitude has been one of the most transformative practices in my life.	感谢是我一生中最有变革性的做法之一。
215	When I began writing three things I was grateful for every morning, I noticed something remarkable	当我开始写三件事 我每天早上感激, 我注意到一些了不起的事情
216	happening within just a few weeks.	几周内就发生了
217	The urge to scroll through social media and compare myself	在社交媒体上滚动和比较的冲动
218	to others weakened significantly.	对其他人来说是大大削弱了。
219	When you regularly acknowledge what is already good in your life,	当你经常承认你生活中已经好的事物时
220	your health, your friendships, the small pleasures of an ordinary day, comparison loses its power.	你的健康,你的友谊, 一个普通的一天的小乐趣, 比较失去了它的力量。
221	You start to feel rich in what matters rather than poor in what you lack.	你开始觉得自己在重要的事物中富足 而不是在缺乏的东西中贫穷
222	The famous quote says,	著名的引文说,
223	gratitude turns what we have into enough.	感激之情已经足够了
224	This is not just a nice saying, it is psychologically true.	这不仅仅是一句好话,在心理上是真实的。
225	A grateful mind simply does not have room for destructive comparison.	感激之心根本无法进行破坏性的比较。
226	Practice it daily.	每日练习.
227	Gratitude turns what we have into enough, one of the most beautiful sentences in the English	感激之情 将我们拥有的 变成了足够的, 最美丽的句子之一 在英语
228	language.	语言。
229	Now let's talk about social media and how to use it more healthily because simply deleting	现在让我们谈谈社交媒体 以及如何更健康地使用它 因为简单的删除
230	all social media is not realistic for most people, but there are ways to use it without falling into	所有社交媒体对大多数人来说都不现实,
231	the comparison trap.	比较陷阱。
232	First, be aware that what you see is curated, carefully chosen and filtered	首先,要意识到你所看到的是经过精心挑选和过滤的
233	to look as good as possible.	以看起来尽可能好。
234	Second, follow accounts that inspire and educate rather than	第二,遵循激励和教育而不是
235	accounts that make you feel inadequate.	使你感觉不足的账户。
236	Third, set time limits for social media use.	三,设定社交媒体使用时限.
237	Many phones have	许多手机
238	built-in tools for this.	用于此的内置工具 。
239	Fourth, never browse social media first thing in the morning or last	第四,永远不要浏览社交媒体 在早上或最后一件事
240	thing at night.	晚上的东西。
241	These are your most emotionally vulnerable times.	这是你最情绪脆弱的时候
242	Mark, what other healthy social	马克,什么其他健康的社会
243	media habits help?	媒体习惯有帮助吗?
244	More healthy social media habits?	更健康的社交媒体习惯?
245	Fifth, when you notice yourself feeling	第五,当你注意到自己的感觉
246	envy or inadequacy while scrolling, pause and remind yourself this is not their whole life,	嫉妒或不足 同时滚动,暂停和提醒自己 这不是他们的整个生活,
247	it is their highlight reel.	这是他们的亮点。
248	Sixth, take regular social media breaks.	第六,定期举行社交媒体休息.
249	One day a week with no social	每周一天,没有社交
250	media is wonderfully refreshing.	媒体非常新鲜。
251	Seventh, unfollow or mute accounts that consistently make you feel	第七,不跟随或不听 总是让你感觉
252	bad about yourself, even if they belong to people you know.	对自己不好,即使他们属于你认识的人。
253	You can still care about someone without	你仍然可以关心一个人没有
254	constantly seeing their curated life.	经常看到他们被管理的生活。
255	Eighth, replace passive scrolling with active creative	第八,将被动滚动替换为主动创意
256	activities.	活动。
257	Learning something, creating something, talking to real people.	学习一些东西,创造一些东西,和真实的人交谈.
258	And ninth, ask yourself	第九,问你自己
259	before opening any app, why am I opening this?	我为什么要打开这个?
260	What do I hope to feel?	我希望我有什么感觉?
261	Conscious use of social	有意识地利用
262	media is dramatically healthier than automatic mindless scrolling.	媒体比自动无脑卷轴更健康
263	Conscious use versus mindless	意识使用与无意识
264	卷 scroll.
265	Such a clear and practical distinction.	这种明确和实际的区分。
266	Now let's talk about the importance of knowing your	现在让我们谈谈了解你的重要性
267	own values.	本身的价值观。
268	Because one of the main reasons we compare ourselves to others is that we are not	因为我们与他人比较的一个主要原因是 我们不是
269	clear about what we actually want.	清楚我们到底想要什么。
270	When you do not know your own values, what truly matters to you,	当你不知道自己的价值, 什么是真正重要的是你,
271	you borrow other people's definitions of success and measure yourself against them.	你借用别人对成功的定义 并衡量自己与他们。
272	But other	但别的东西
273	people's idea of success may be completely different from yours.	人们对成功的看法可能与你完全不同
274	Someone might define success	有人可以定义成功
275	as having a lot of money.	作为一大笔钱。
276	Another person might define it as creative freedom.	另一人可能将其定义为创作自由。
277	Another might define	另一个可能定义
278	it as a close family.	它是一个亲密的家庭。
279	When you get clear on your own values, other people's lives become much less	当你明白自己的价值, 别人的生活变得少得多
280	relevant.	相关。
281	Mark, how do you discover and clarify your own values?	马克 你怎么发现和澄清自己的价值?
282	Clarifying your values is such	澄清你的价值观就是这样
283	important work.	重要的工作,我们的工作
284	Here's some helpful questions to ask yourself.	这里有一些有用的问题 问自己。
285	What makes me feel most alive	是什么让我觉得最活着
286	and fulfilled?	并完成吗?
287	What would I do if money were not a consideration?	如果不考虑钱,我该怎么办?
288	What do I want to be remembered	我要记住什么
289	for?	因为?
290	What activities make me lose track of time because I love them so much?	什么活动让我失去时间 因为我非常爱他们?
291	What kind of person	什么样的人
292	do I want to be?	我想成为吗?
293	Not what job title do I want, but what character qualities do I want to have?	不是我想要什么职称,而是我想要什么品格?
294	When you can answer these questions honestly, you start to understand what success means	当你能诚实地回答这些问题 你开始明白成功意味着什么
295	specifically for you.	特别为你。
296	And once you know that, comparing yourself to someone with completely	一旦你知道这一点, 比较自己和某人完全
297	different values starts to feel meaningless.	不同的价值观开始感到毫无意义。
298	It's like comparing a bird to a fish.	如鸟比鱼.
299	They live in	他们住在
300	completely different worlds, both perfectly suited to their own path.	完全不同的世界 都完全适合自己的道路
301	Comparing a bird to a fish,	把鸟比作鱼
302	what a perfect and memorable image.	多么完美和难忘的形象。
303	Now let's talk about envy, because envy is the emotion	现在让我们谈谈羡慕, 因为羡慕是情感
304	most closely linked to comparison.	与比较关系最密切。
305	Envy is the painful feeling of wanting what someone else has.	Envy是一种痛苦的渴望别人的感受.
306	In English, there's an interesting distinction.	在英语中,有一个有趣的区分.
307	Green with envy is an idiom meaning extremely	羡慕的绿色是极品
308	jealous.	妒忌之心.
309	And there are actually two types of envy that psychologists describe.	事实上,心理学家描述的嫉妒有两种。
310	Malicious envy,	恶意的嫉妒,
311	where you want to take from or diminish the other person.	在那里,你想从另一个人那里 或减少对方。
312	And benign envy, where the other person's	和良性嫉妒, 在那里,另一个人
313	success inspires and motivates you to work toward your own goals.	成功激励和激励你们为自己的目标而努力。
314	The first type is destructive.	第一类具有破坏性。
315	The second can actually be useful.	第二个可能实际上有用。
316	The trick is transforming envy from a painful, destructive	诀窍是把嫉妒从痛苦的 破坏性的
317	feeling into a source of personal inspiration.	感觉成为个人灵感的来源
318	Mark, how do you transform envy into something	马克,你怎么把嫉妒变成什么
319	positive?	肯定吗?
320	Transforming envy is a really practical and important skill.	改变嫉妒是一种非常实用和重要的技能。
321	When I notice envy, I now	当我发现羡慕,我现在
322	use it as useful information rather than letting it poison my mood.	而不是让它毒害我的心情
323	I ask myself, what specifically	我问自己,具体是什么
324	am I envious of?	我羡慕吗?
325	Often the answer reveals something important, a value or desire I was	答案往往揭示了重要的东西 价值或愿望
326	not consciously aware of.	没有意识地意识到。
327	For example, if I feel envious of someone's creative career, that tells	例如,如果我觉得羡慕某人的创作生涯,那就说明
328	me creative work matters deeply to me.	创作工作对我很重要
329	Instead of resenting that person, I can ask, what can I learn	而不是怨恨那个人 我可以问,我能学到什么
330	from how they got there?	他们是怎么到那儿的?
331	What action can I take towards my own creative goals?	我能为自己的创造性目标采取什么行动?
332	Envy从
333	being a painful comparison to being a helpful compass pointing toward what I genuinely want	一个痛苦的比喻 是一个有用的指南针 指向我真正想要的东西
334	from my own life.	从我自己的生活。
335	Use it as a signal, not as suffering.	用它作为信号,而不是痛苦。
336	Use envy as a compass, not as	用嫉妒作为指南针,而不是像
337	suffering.	受苦受难。
338	What a brilliant reframe.	多么辉煌的重组。
339	Now let's do a quiz for our listeners.	现在让我们做一个测试 我们的听众。
340	I will describe	我会描述
341	a situation and Mark will say whether the person is comparing themselves harmfully or growing	马克会说这个人是 比较自己是有害的还是成长的
342	healthfully and explain why.	健康地解释原因
343	Ready?	准备好了吗?
344	Situation one.	第一情况
345	Maria sees a photo of her school friend's	Maria看到她学校朋友的照片
346	beautiful new house on social media.	社交媒体上美丽的新房子.
347	She immediately feels bad about her small apartment.	她马上对她的小公寓感到难过.
348	She spends the next hour scrolling through her friend's posts, feeling increasingly unhappy	她花一个小时 翻遍她朋友的帖子 感觉越来越不开心
349	and thinking that her own life is a failure.	以为她自己的生活是失败的
350	Listeners, is Maria comparing herself in a healthy	听者,是玛丽亚比较自己 在健康
351	way or an unhealthy way?	还是不健康?
352	Think about everything we've discussed.	想想我们讨论过的一切
353	Mark, what is your verdict?	马克,你有什么判断?
354	Maria is absolutely comparing herself in an unhealthy and harmful way.	玛利亚绝对是用不健康和有害的方式比较自己.
355	Let's analyze what	我们来分析一下
356	she's doing.	她这样做。
357	First, she's comparing her full complex real life to one carefully selected photo	首先 她把整个复杂的现实生活 比作一个精心挑选的照片
358	on social media.	在社交媒体。
359	She doesn't know anything about her friend's mortgage, stress or life challenges.	她对朋友的抵押,压力或生活挑战一无所知.
360	Second, she's spending an hour spiraling deeper into negative comparison instead of stepping away.	第二,她花了一个小时 螺旋式的更深的负面对比 而不是走开。
361	This is the comparison trap in action.	这就是行动中的比较陷阱。
362	Third, she's using one person's external success to define	第三,她用一个人的外部成功来定义
363	as a failure.	作为失败。
364	This is deeply unfair to herself.	这对她来说是不公平的。
365	What should Maria do instead?	玛利亚应该怎么做?
366	Close the app	关闭应用程序
367	immediately.	马上
368	Write three things she appreciates about her own home and remind herself that a	写三件事 她欣赏自己的家 并提醒自己
369	beautiful house does not equal a beautiful life.	美丽的房子不等于美丽的生活。
370	Her path is completely different from her friends	她的道路和朋友完全不同
371	and equally valid.	并且同样有效。
372	Excellent analysis.	非常好的分析。
373	Now situation two.	第二情况
374	David has been learning to draw	大卫一直在学习画画
375	for six months.	六个月。
376	He looks at the work of a professional artist he admires and thinks,	他看着一个专业艺术家的作品 他钦佩并认为,
377	I want to draw like that one day.	我想画这样的一天。
378	He studies what techniques the artist uses.	他研究艺术家使用的技巧.
379	He practices every	他经常练习
380	day.	日报.
381	He looks at his drawing from six months ago and feels proud of how much he has improved.	他看着六个月前的画,并对他进步了多少感到骄傲.
382	He's excited to keep going.	他兴奋地继续前进。
383	Listeners, is David comparing himself healthily or unhealthily?	听者,是大卫比较自己健康还是不健康?
384	What	什麽?
385	do you think?	你觉得呢?
386	Consider whether David is being inspired or diminished by what he sees.	想想大卫是否因所见所闻而受到启发或削弱.
387	Mark,	马克
388	please analyze David's situation for us.	请分析一下大卫的情况
389	David is using comparison in a completely healthy	大卫在用比较 完全健康
390	and productive way.	和生产方式。
391	Let me explain why.	让我解释为什么。
392	First, he uses one person's skill as inspiration rather	首先,他把一个人的技巧作为灵感
393	than as a reason to feel bad about himself.	而不是作为为自己感到难过的理由。
394	Admiring someone's achievement and wanting	欣赏某人的成就和渴望
395	to reach a similar level is benign envy, the positive kind.	达到同样水平是善意的嫉妒,是积极的。
396	Second, he studies what the	第二,他学习什么是
397	admired artist does, which turns comparison into learning.	被赞美的艺术家做的, 这把比较转化为学习。
398	Third, and most importantly,	第三,最重要的是,
399	he compares himself to his past self, looking at his work from six months ago and feeling proud	他把自己比作过去 看着半年前的作品 感到骄傲
400	of real personal progress.	真正的个人进步。
401	This is exactly the right way to use comparison.	这是使用比较的正确方法。
402	David is competing	大卫在竞争
403	with his own previous self, not with a professional who has practiced for years.	和他之前的自己, 不是与一个专业 谁已经练习多年。
404	His mindset is	他的心态是
405	growing, curious, patient, and self-referential.	成长,好奇,耐心,和自我偏好。
406	David is our role model for healthy comparison.	大卫是我们健康比较的榜样。
407	David is indeed a wonderful role model.	大卫的确是一个出色的榜样。
408	Now let's talk about something that connects deeply to	现在,让我们谈谈一些 连接到
409	comparison, other people's opinions of you.	别人对你的看法
410	Many people live their whole lives trying to meet other	很多人一生都在试图遇见其他人
411	people's expectations, their parents' idea of a good career, their society's idea of the right	人们的期望,他们的父母对一个好事业的想法, 他们的社会对权利的想法
412	lifestyle, their friends' idea of success.	生活方式,他们朋友的成功理念。
413	This is closely related to comparison because it means	这与比较密切相关,因为它意味着
414	you are constantly measuring yourself against external standards rather than your own.	你总是按照外部标准而不是自己的标准衡量自己。
415	In	内
416	English, living for other people's approval or people pleasing.	英语,为他人的认可而生活,或令人愉快的人.
417	The famous saying by Dr. Seuss	苏斯博士的名言
418	captures this perfectly.	完美地捕捉到这个
419	You have to be odd to be number one.	得奇才为第一.
420	And another, be yourself.	又一个,做你自己。
421	Everyone	每个人
422	else is already taken.	其它的已经被带走了
423	Mark, how do we stop living for other people's approval?	马克,我们如何停止生活 别人的认可?
424	Stopping people	拦住人
425	pleasing is one of the most liberating things you can do.	欢乐是你能做的最自由的事情之一
426	Here are the steps.	这是台阶。
427	First, recognize	首先,承认
428	that you cannot please everyone.	你无法取悦所有人
429	It is literally impossible.	这根本是不可能的。
430	Every life choice you make will	你所做的一切选择
431	disappoint someone.	让人失望
432	Accepting this removes enormous pressure.	接受这个会消除巨大的压力。
433	Second, ask yourself before any major	第二,在主修之前问问你自己
434	decision, am I doing this because I truly want to or because I want someone's approval?	我这么做是因为我真心想要 还是因为我想得到别人的认可?
435	Honest	诚实
436	decisions based on your own preferences without explaining yourself, what you want to eat, what	根据自己的喜好做决定,而不解释自己,你想吃什么,什么
437	you want to wear, where you want to spend your time.	你想穿, 你想花时间的地方。
438	Small acts of self-authority build confidence	小规模的自我授权行为建立信任
439	gradually.	渐渐.
440	Fourth, remember that the people who truly love and respect you want you to be	第四,记住真正爱和尊重你的人希望你成为
441	authentically yourself, not a perfect performance of what others expect.	真正的你自己,不是完美表现 别人期望的。
442	A perfect performance of	完美表现
443	others expect.	其他人期待着
444	That description of people pleasing is so clear.	对人们的描述是如此的清晰。
445	Now let's talk about the concept of	现在让我们谈谈
446	your own lane.	你自己的车道。
447	Staying in your own lane is a wonderful English metaphor from driving.	留在自己的车道上是英国人驾驶的一个美妙的比喻.
448	When you drive on a road, you stay in your own lane.	在路上行驶时,要保持自己的车道.
449	You do not swerve into other people's lanes	你别走别人的路
450	and you do not worry about whether other drivers are going faster or slower.	你不用担心其他车手是开得快还是慢
451	You focus on your	你专心于你的
452	own road, your own speed, and your own destination.	自己的道路,你自己的速度,你自己的目的地。
453	In life, this means focusing on your own goals,	在生活中,这意味着专注于你自己的目标,
454	your own pace, and your own journey without constantly watching what others are doing.	自己的步调 自己的旅程 却不时地看别人在做什么
455	In English, stay in your lane, run your own race, focus on your own path, and keep your eyes on your	在英语中,留在你的车道,运行自己的种族, 专注于自己的路径, 并保持你的眼睛
456	own paper.	自己的报纸。
457	Mark, what does staying in your lane look like in real life?	马克,在你的车道 看起来像什么?
458	Staying in your lane in	呆在你的车道里
459	not checking your salary against your colleague's salaries and feeling resentful.	没有检查你的薪水 与你同事的薪水 并感到怨恨。
460	It means celebrating	就是庆祝
461	when a friend gets promoted rather than feeling threatened.	当朋友被提升而不是被威胁的时候
462	It means not comparing your relationship's	意思是不要比较你们的关系
463	timeline when you get married, when you have children, to anyone else's.	当你结婚, 当你有孩子, 任何人的。
464	It means pursuing	这意味着追求
465	the career that excites you, not the one that looks impressive to others.	让你兴奋的事业 而不是别人印象深刻的事业
466	It means living in the home	意思是住在家里 住在这里
467	that suits your actual life, not the home that looks best on social media.	适合你的实际生活 而不是社交媒体上最漂亮的家
468	It means moving at	这意味着移动在
469	the pace that is right for you, whether that is fast or slow.	无论速度是快还是慢
470	Every person's road is different in	每个人的道路都是不同的
471	length, direction, and terrain.	长度、方向和地形。
472	The only person who needs to be satisfied with your journey is you.	唯一需要满足你旅程的人就是你
473	So true and so freeing.	如此真实而解脱.
474	Now, let's talk about something powerful, celebrating other people's success.	现在,让我们来谈谈一些强大的东西,庆祝别人的成功.
475	When we	当我们
476	are trapped in comparison, we feel threatened by other's success.	我们感到别人成功的威胁
477	We want them to fail because	我们希望他们失败 因为
478	their success makes us feel bad about ourselves.	他们的成功让我们对自己感到难过。
479	But when we are free from comparison, we can	但是,当我们没有比较, 我们可以
480	genuinely celebrate others and feel happy for them.	真正地庆祝别人,为他们高兴。
481	This is called abundance mindset, the belief that	这叫做丰盛的心态,相信
482	there is enough success, happiness, and goodness in the world for everyone.	世界上每个人都有足够的成功、幸福和善良。
483	The opposite is scarcity	情况正好相反
484	mindset, the belief that if someone else has something, there is less for you.	认为如果别人有东西 对你来说就更少了
485	Mark, how do	马克,你好吗?
486	you shift from a scarcity mindset to an abundance mindset?	你从稀缺的心态转向丰富的心态?
487	Shifting from scarcity to abundance	从稀缺转向富足
488	mindset takes deliberate practice.	思维方式是故意的。
489	Here are some strategies.	这里有一些策略。
490	First, practice genuinely celebrating	第一,真正庆祝
491	other's success.	别人的成功。
492	Say it out loud.	大声说出来。
493	I am so happy for her.	我为她高兴
494	She worked so hard for this.	她为此付出了很大努力.
495	The more you	你越来越多
496	practice this, the more natural it becomes.	练习这个,它变得越自然。
497	Second, remind yourself that someone else's success does	第二,提醒自己,别人的成功是
498	not reduce your opportunities.	不减少你的机会。
499	If a friend becomes a successful writer, that does not prevent you from	如果一个朋友成为一名成功的作家 那并不妨碍你
500	also becoming a writer.	也成为一名作家。
501	If a colleague gets promoted, that does not block your own growth.	如果一个同事得到晋升,那并不妨碍你的成长。
502	Success is not a finite resource.	成功不是有限的资源。
503	Third, surround yourself with people who celebrate each other	第三,你身边的人 互相庆祝
504	rather than compete destructively.	而不是进行破坏性的竞争。
505	Generous, supportive communities are enormously good for	慷慨、支持的社区对
506	your mindset.	你的心态。
507	And fourth, notice when you feel genuinely happy for someone's success.	第四,当你为某人的成功感到真正快乐时,请注意。
508	That feeling	那种感觉
509	is the abundance mindset working.	丰盛的心态是否起作用。
510	Success is not a finite resource.	成功不是有限的资源。
511	What a liberating and empowering	解放和赋予权力
512	belief.	相信这些
513	Now let's talk about some beautiful English phrases and quotes that help with the	让我们来谈谈一些美丽的英语短语 和引言,帮助
514	comparison habit.	比较习惯。
515	Run your own race.	跑你自己的比赛。
516	Focus on your journey, not others.	专心你的旅程,而不是别人。
517	Bloom where you are planted.	布鲁姆,你被种植的地方。
518	Grow and flourish in your own circumstances.	在你自己的环境下成长繁荣.
519	Comparison is the thief of joy.	比较是欢喜之贼.
520	We have said this	我们说过
521	before, but it bears repeating.	以前,但它值得重复。
522	Different does not mean less.	不同并不意味着更少。
523	Being different from others is not a	和别人不一样不是
524	disadvantage.	缺点。
525	Everyone's path is different.	每个人都有不同的路
526	There is no single right way to live a life.	生活没有单一的正确方式。
527	Your time	你的时间
528	will come.	会来的
529	Trust your own timing.	相信自己的时机
530	And be a first-rate version of yourself rather than a	做一个第一流的版本 而不是一个
531	second-rate version of someone else, attributed to Judy Garland.	二流版本的人, 归咎于朱迪・加兰。
532	Mark, which of these resonates	马克,这其中哪一个有共鸣
533	most with you?	大部分和你在一起吗?
534	I love all of these, but the one that resonates most with me personally is	我很喜欢这些,但最能引起我个人共鸣的是
535	your time will come.	你的时间会到来的
536	I spent years feeling behind, comparing my life timeline to people around me who	我花了多年的时间 感觉落后, 比较我的生活时间线 和我身边的人 谁
537	reach milestones faster.	更快地达到里程碑。
538	But gradually, I learned that life does not operate on a single schedule.	但逐渐地,我了解到生命并不是在一个单一的日程上运行的.
539	Some people find their calling at 20.	有些人发现他们的电话是20。
540	Others at 40 or 60.	其他40或60岁。
541	Some build careers steadily.	有些人稳步地建立事业。
542	Others	其他人员
543	take winding paths.	走顺风路。
544	The diversity of human journeys is beautiful, not something to be	人类旅行的多样性是美丽的 而不是什么
545	anxious about.	担心什么?
546	Every time I feel the impulse to compare my timeline to someone else's,	每次我感觉我的冲动 比较我的时间表与别人的,
547	I remind myself your time will come.	我提醒自己你的时间会到来。
548	It is patient, kind, and true.	这是耐心、善良和真实的。
549	Your path has its own	你的道路有自己的
550	perfect timing that no one else's life can tell you anything about.	完美的时机,没有人能告诉你任何事情。
551	Your time will come.	尔时世尊.
552	Patient,	病人们
553	kind, and true.	善良 真实
554	I love that.	我喜欢
555	Now let's give our listeners some very practical exercises to stop	现在让我们给听众一些非常实际的练习 停止
556	the comparison habit in daily life.	日常生活中的比较习惯。
557	Exercise one, the gratitude journal.	练习一,感恩日记。
558	Every morning, write three	每天早上写三个
559	things you are grateful for in your own life.	在自己的生活中你感激的东西。
560	This anchors your attention in what you have	这让你的注意力扎根于你所拥有的
561	rather than what you lack.	而不是你所缺乏的。
562	Exercise two, the social media audit.	练习二,社交媒体审核.
563	Go through everyone you follow	检查所有跟踪的人
564	and honestly ask, does this account inspire me or make me feel inadequate?	老实问,这个账户是激励我 还是让我觉得不够充分?
565	Unfollow or mute	未跟随或哑音
566	anyone who consistently makes you feel worse about yourself.	总是让你感觉更糟糕的人
567	Exercise three, the self-comparison diary.	锻炼三,自比日记.
568	Once a week, write one way you have grown since last week.	每周写一篇 你从上周开始成长的书
569	Mark, can you share exercises four	马克,你可以分享练习四
570	through seven?	7个?
571	Continuing the practical exercises, exercise four, the values clarification.	继续实际工作,演练四,价值澄清.
572	Write down five things that truly matter to you in life.	写下你生活中真正重要的五件事
573	Not what should matter or what others say	无关紧要 或别人说什么
574	should matter, but what genuinely does.	应该有关系, 但真正的做。
575	Keep this list visible.	保持此列表可见 。
576	Exercise five, the envy journal.	锻炼五,羡慕日记.
577	When you feel envious, write it down.	当感羡时写下.
578	I feel envious of, then ask, what does this tell me	我羡慕,然后问, 这告诉我什么
579	about what I want for my own life?	关于我想要的我自己的生活?
580	Exercise six, the celebration practice.	练习六,庆祝练习.
581	Every time a friend or	每当朋友或
582	colleague achieves something, write them a genuine congratulation in a message, a comment, or just in	同事有所成就,在留言、评论中或仅仅在
583	your own mind.	你自己的头脑。
584	Practice being happy for others.	练习为他人欢乐.
585	Exercise seven, the lane check.	7号演习,检查车道
586	Once a day,	一天一个
587	ask yourself, am I in my own lane today or am I distracted by what others are doing?	问问你自己,我是在我自己的路上 今天还是我被别人在做的事所分心?
588	These seven exercises are practical, simple, and genuinely transformative.	这七项练习是实用的,简单的,真正具有变革性的.
589	Seven practical exercises.	七实际修行.
590	What a complete toolkit.	真是一个完整的工具包。
591	Now let's talk about how comparison	现在让我们谈谈如何比较
592	relates to English learning specifically, because many of our listeners are learning English,	特别是英语学习, 因为我们的许多听众正在学习英语,
593	and this topic is very relevant to their experience.	这个问题与他们的经验密切相关。
594	Many language learners compare	许多语言学习者比较
595	themselves to other learners and feel discouraged.	并感到沮丧。
596	She started three months after me, but already	她从我三个月后就开始了,但已经
597	speaks much better.	说得好多了
598	He seems to learn so quickly.	他好像学得这么快
599	Why am I so slow?	为什么我这么慢?
600	Everyone else in the class	班上的其他人
601	seems more confident.	似乎比较自信。
602	These comparisons are just as harmful in learning as in any other area of	这些比较在学习方面与在任何其他领域一样有害。
603	life.	活着
604	Every learner has a different background, different native language, different amount of	每个学习者都有不同的背景,不同的母语,不同的数量
605	time, and different learning style.	时间,和不同的学习风格。
606	Mark, what advice do you have for English learners who	马克,你对英语学习者有什么建议?
607	compare themselves to other learners?	与其他学习者相比?
608	Such an important point for our English learning listeners.	这对我们的英语学习听众来说很重要。
609	Here's the truth about language learning comparison.	以下是语言学习比较的真相.
610	Every learner's journey is unique	每个学习者的旅程都是独一无二的
611	and incomparable.	和无可比拟。
612	Someone who speaks a language related to English, like Dutch or German,	一个会说英语语言的人 比如荷兰语或德语
613	will naturally progress faster than someone whose native language is completely different,	自然会比本地语言完全不同的人 进步更快
614	like Korean, Arabic, or Uzbek.	如朝鲜语,阿拉伯语,或乌兹别克语.
615	Someone who practices speaking every day will improve	每天练习演讲的人会好起来的
616	faster than someone who only reads.	比只看书的人快
617	Someone who lives in an English speaking environment	住在英语环境中的人
618	has different advantages than someone learning from home.	和从家里学东西的人不同
619	None of these differences mean one	这些区别都意味着
620	learner is smarter or better.	学习者更聪明或更好。
621	They mean each person has a different starting point and different	意思是每个人都有不同的起点 不同的起点
622	circumstances.	环境。
623	Compare yourself only to your own past performance.	只把自己和过去的表现比起来
624	Do I understand more than I did	我理解的比我还多
625	last month is the only comparison that matters for your English learning journey.	上个月是你们学习英语的唯一比较
626	Do I understand more than I did last month?	我理解得比我上个月还多吗?
627	The perfect comparison for every English learner.	完美比较每个英语学习者。
628	Now let's talk about self-acceptance because the ultimate goal of stopping comparison is to	现在让我们谈谈自我接受 因为停止比较的最终目标是
629	genuinely accept and embrace who you are.	真心实意地接受和拥抱你
630	Self-acceptance does not mean you stop growing	自我接受并不意味着你停止生长
631	or improving.	或改进。
632	It means you stop hating yourself while you grow.	这意味着你不再恨自己 当你成长。
633	It means recognizing that you	意思是承认你
634	are enough right now, in this moment, as you are, while also moving toward who you want to become.	此时此刻,你已经足够了 同时你也要走向你想成为的人
635	In English, beautiful phrases for self-acceptance.	在英语中,美丽的短语用于自我接受.
636	I am proud of how far I have come.	我为我走了多远感到自豪。
637	Mark, what does genuine self-acceptance feel like in daily life?	马克,真正的自我接受在日常生活中是什么感觉?
638	Genuine self-acceptance feels like a quiet, calm confidence that does not need external validation	真正的自我接受 感觉像一个安静,平静的信心 不需要外部验证
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640	It means you can receive a compliment without dismissing it and receive criticism	意思是,你可以接受赞美,而不被开除,并受到批评
641	without being destroyed by it.	没有被它摧毁。
642	It means your happiness is not dependent on being better than	也就是说你的幸福并不取决于比好
643	or being approved of by someone else.	或被别人批准。
644	It means you can be happy for others without feeling	意思是你可以为别人高兴而不感觉
645	threatened.	威胁。
646	It means you can pursue your goals for the joy and meaning of the pursuit itself,	这意味着你可以追求你的目标 为了追求的快乐和意义本身,
647	not to prove anything to anyone.	不向任何人证明什么。
648	The phrase I am enough sounds simple but carries enormous power	这句话我听上去很简单,但有巨大的力量
649	when you truly believe it.	当你真正相信它。
650	It takes time to get there.	到达那里需要时间。
651	Self-acceptance is a practice,	自我接受是一种惯例,
652	not a destination.	不是一个目的地。
653	But every day you choose your own path over comparison, you move a little closer	但每天你选择自己的道路 而不是比较,你走得更近一点
654	to that quiet, unshakable peace.	为了那安静的 不可动摇的和平
655	A quiet, unshakable peace.	一个安静的,不可动摇的和平。
656	What a beautiful description	多美的描述
657	of the freedom that comes from stopping comparison.	自由来自停止比较。
658	Now let me give our listeners a final summary of	现在让我给我们的听众一个最后的总结
659	all the key ideas from today's episode.	所有关键的想法 从今天的插曲。
660	First, comparison is natural, but modern life, especially	首先,比较是自然的,但现代生活,尤其是
661	social media, has made it toxic.	社会媒体,已经使它有毒。
662	Second, you only ever see other people's highlight reel, not their	第二,你只见过别人的亮点,而不是他们的
663	messy, real life.	混乱,真实的生活。
664	Third, the only healthy comparison is to your past self.	第三,唯一健康的比较 就是你过去的自我。
665	Measure your	测量你的
666	own progress.	自己的进步。
667	Fourth, gratitude is the antidote to comparison.	第四,感谢是比较的解药。
668	Appreciate what you already have.	感谢你已经拥有的
669	Fifth, know your own values so other people's definitions of success lose their power over you.	第五,了解你自己的价值观 所以其他人的成功定义 失去了他们的力量 对你。
670	Sixth, transform envy into a compass pointing toward your own desires.	第六,把嫉妒变成指南针 指向自己的欲望
671	And seventh,	还有第七
672	stay in your own lane and run your own race.	留在自己的车道上,运行自己的种族。
673	Mark, final thoughts?	马克,最后的想法?
674	Thank you so much,	非常感谢
675	Anna.	安娜,请问安娜
676	This has been one of the most meaningful and important episodes we've made.	这是我们所创造的 最有意义和最重要的事件之一。
677	And a huge	一个巨大的
678	thank you to every single listener who joined us today.	感谢今天加入我们的每一个听众。
679	Remember, the people you compare yourself	记住,你比较的那些人
680	to are also comparing themselves to other people.	还把自己比作别人
681	Everyone is playing this game and nobody wins.	每个人都在玩这个游戏 没人能赢
682	The	那个
683	way out is to stop playing entirely, to turn your eyes from other people's lives back to your own	出路是停止玩耍 将你的眼睛从别人的生活回到你自己
684	extraordinary, unique, one-of-a-kind journey.	非同寻常 独一无二 独一无二的旅程
685	You have your own strengths, your own story,	你有自己的优势,你自己的故事,
686	your own timeline, and your own destination.	自己的时间和目的地
687	Nobody else can live your life, only you,	没有人能过着你的生活 只有你
688	and that means nobody else's life can be the right standard for yours.	也就是说 其他人的生活 都无法成为你的正确标准
689	Be yourself.	做你自己。 做你自己。
690	Trust your path.	相信你的路径。
691	You are enough, exactly as you are.	你足够了,就像你一样
692	Goodbye, everyone.	再见,各位
693	What a truly wonderful and liberating episode this has been.	多么精彩和解放的一集。
694	I feel lighter just from having	我从小就觉得轻松
695	this conversation.	这次谈话
696	Let me leave our listeners with one final thought.	让我留给我们的听众一个最后的想法。
697	The next time you feel the urge	下次你觉得有冲动
698	to compare your life to someone else's, and you will because we all do, pause for just one moment,	把你的生活和别人的生活比起来, 你会因为我们都这样做,暂停一分钟,
699	breathe, and ask yourself, whose life am I living right now?	呼吸 问问你自己 我现在活在谁的生活中?
700	Mine or the life I think I should have	我的还是我的生活 我想我应该有
701	based on someone else?	根据别人?
702	Then gently return your attention to your own path, your own growth,	然后轻轻的把注意力 回到你的道路,你的成长,
703	your own blessings, your beautiful, imperfect, entirely sufficient life.	你的祝福,你的美丽,不完美, 完全足够的生活。
704	That is where your	这就是你的
705	real happiness lives, not in someone else's story.	真正的幸福生活,而不是别人的故事。
706	Thank you so much for listening today.	非常感谢你今天的聆听。
707	We will see you in the very next episode.	下集再见
708	Take great care.	小心点

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