TED演讲：为什么获胜不总意味着成功？
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| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:04 | OK, I have a question for all of us. | 好吧,我有一个问题 我们所有人。 |
| 0:06 | You ready? | 你准备好了吗? |
| 0:08 | Is all winning success? | 都赢了吗? |
| 0:12 | Oh. | 瓳 |
| 0:16 | Oh, OK. | 哦,没事。 |
| 0:18 | I am the recently retired head coach of the UCLA women's gymnastics team, | 我是加州大学洛杉矶分校女子体操队最近退休的主教练 |
| 0:23 | a position that I held for 29 years. | 一个我担任了29年的职位 |
| 0:26 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
| 0:29 | And during my tenure, I experienced a lot of winning. | 在我任职期间,我经历了许多胜利。 |
| 0:33 | I led our team to seven national championships, | 我带领我们的队伍参加了7次全国冠军赛 |
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| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | OK, I have a question for all of us. | 好吧,我有一个问题 我们所有人。 |
| 2 | You ready? | 你准备好了吗? |
| 3 | Is all winning success? | 都赢了吗? |
| 4 | Oh. | 瓳 |
| 5 | Oh, OK. | 哦,没事。 |
| 6 | I am the recently retired head coach of the UCLA women's gymnastics team, | 我是加州大学洛杉矶分校女子体操队最近退休的主教练 |
| 7 | a position that I held for 29 years. | 一个我担任了29年的职位 |
| 8 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
| 9 | And during my tenure, I experienced a lot of winning. | 在我任职期间,我经历了许多胜利。 |
| 10 | I led our team to seven national championships, | 我带领我们的队伍参加了7次全国冠军赛 |
| 11 | I was inducted into the UCLA Athletic Hall of Fame, | 我被引入加州大学洛杉矶分校 名人堂, |
| 12 | and I was even voted the coach of the century | 我甚至被选为本世纪的教练 |
| 13 | by the Pac-12 Conference. | 由Pac-12会议主持。 |
| 14 | (*Applause*) | (*鼓掌*) |
| 15 | Winning is really, really, | 赢是真的,真的 |
| 16 | like, really, really fun. | 喜欢,真的,真的很有趣。 |
| 17 | But I am here to share my insight. | 但我来到这里是为了分享我的见解。 |
| 18 | Winning does not always equal success. | 胜利并不总是同样成功。 |
| 19 | All across America and around the world, | 在美国和世界各地, |
| 20 | we have a crisis in the win-at-all-cost cultures | 我们有一个危机 在共赢所有成本文化 |
| 21 | that we have created. | 那是我们所创造的。 |
| 22 | In our schools, in our businesses, in politics, | 在我们的学校,在我们的企业, 在政治, |
| 23 | winning at all costs has become acceptable. | 获得不惜一切代价的胜利是可以接受的。 |
| 24 | As a society, we honor the people at the top of the pyramid. | 作为一个社会,我们尊崇金字塔顶部的人民. |
| 25 | We effusively applaud those people | 我们为这些人鼓掌 |
| 26 | who win championships and elections and awards. | 谁赢得冠军和选举和奖项。 |
| 27 | But sadly, quite often, | 但可悲的是,经常 |
| 28 | those same people are leaving their institutions | 这些人正在离开他们的机构 |
| 29 | as damaged human beings. | 和被伤害的人一样 |
| 30 | Sadly, with straight A's, | 可悲的是,以直A's, |
| 31 | kids are leaving school damaged. | 孩子们要离开学校了 |
| 32 | With awards and medals, | 有奖和奖章, |
| 33 | athletes often leave their teams damaged, | 运动员经常让自己的队伍受损, |
| 34 | emotionally, mentally, not just physically. | 感情上,精神上,不只是身体上. |
| 35 | And with huge profits, | 以巨大的利润, |
| 36 | employees often leave their companies damaged. | 雇员往往离开他们的公司。 |
| 37 | We have become so hyper-focused on that end result, | 我们越来越注重最终结果 |
| 38 | and when the end result is a win, | 当结局是胜利的时候, |
| 39 | the human component of how we got there | 我们如何到达那里的人的因素 |
| 40 | often gets swept under the proverbial rug, | 经常被扫荡 在谚语地毯下, |
| 41 | and so does the damage. | 损害也一样。 |
| 42 | So, I'm calling for a timeout. | 所以,我呼吁暂停。 |
| 43 | Timeout. | 超时. |
| 44 | We need to redefine success. | 我们需要重新定义成功。 |
| 45 | Real success is developing champions in life for our world | 真正的成功就是为我们的世界 培养生命的拥护者 |
| 46 | win or lose. | 赢或输。 |
| 47 | Real success is developing champions in life. | 真正的成功就是在生活中发展冠军。 |
| 48 | Not for your team, not for your business, | 不是为了你的团队 不是为了你的生意 |
| 49 | and I'm sad to tell you, | 我很难过地告诉你, |
| 50 | not even for your Christmas card bragging rights. | 甚至连你的圣诞卡 吹嘘的权利。 |
| 51 | Sorry. | 对不起 |
| 52 | So how do we do this? | 那么,我们如何做到这一点? |
| 53 | First of all, you may be able to dictate your way to a win, | 首先,你也许可以决定你赢的路 |
| 54 | but you can't dictate your way to success. | 但你不能决定自己的成功之路。 |
| 55 | Let me take you back to 1990, | 让我带你回1990年 |
| 56 | when I was first appointed the head coach | 我第一次被任命为主教练时 |
| 57 | of the UCLA Women's Gymnastics team. | 加州大学洛杉矶分校女子体操队 |
| 58 | And I would like to share with you that I've never done gymnastics. | 我想告诉大家 我从来没有做过体操 |
| 59 | I grew up in the world of ballet. | 我在芭蕾舞的世界里长大的 |
| 60 | I have never done a cartwheel, | 我从来没有做过一个车轮, |
| 61 | and I couldn't teach you how to do a proper cartwheel. | 我不能教你如何做一个合适的车轮。 |
| 62 | It's sadly true. | 这是可悲的。 |
| 63 | And I knew nothing about how to develop a team culture. | 我对如何培养团队文化一无所知。 |
| 64 | The best I could do was mimic other coaches who had won. | 我所能做的就是模仿其他的教练 谁赢了。 |
| 65 | And so I became tough-talking, tough-minded, | 于是我变得说话强硬 思想强硬 |
| 66 | relentless, | 无情, |
| 67 | unsympathetic, | 毫无同情心, |
| 68 | bullish, | 恶言, |
| 69 | unempathetic | 无悲观 |
| 70 | and oftentimes downright mean. | 并且经常是直线的。 |
| 71 | I acted like a head coach | 我像个教练一样 |
| 72 | whose only thought was to figure out how to win. | 他们唯一的想法就是想出怎么赢 |
| 73 | My first few seasons as a head coach were abysmal. | 我作为主教练的最初几个赛季非常糟糕. |
| 74 | And after putting up with my brash coaching style for a few years, | 在忍受了几年的烂教练后 |
| 75 | our team asked me for a team meeting. | 我们的团队要求我召开团队会议。 |
| 76 | Well, I love team meetings, so I said, | 我喜欢团队会议 所以我说 |
| 77 | yay, let's have a team meeting. | 是的,让我们有一个团队会议。 |
| 78 | And for two solid hours, | 两小时后 |
| 79 | they gave me examples of how my arrogance was hurtful and demeaning. | 他们举出了我傲慢 多么伤人和贬低人格的例子 |
| 80 | Yeah, not yay. | 是啊,没有耶。 |
| 81 | They explained to me that they wanted to be supported, | 他们向我解释,他们想得到支持, |
| 82 | not belittled. | 不贬低。 |
| 83 | They wanted to be coached up, not torn down. | 他们想成为教练,而不是被撕毁。 |
| 84 | They wanted to be motivated, | 他们想要有动机 |
| 85 | not pressured or bullied. | 没有压力或欺负。 |
| 86 | That was my time out, | 那是我的时间了, |
| 87 | and I chose to change. | 我选择了改变 |
| 88 | Being a dogmatic dictator | 作为一个教条主义独裁者 |
| 89 | may produce compliant, good little soldiers, | 或将产生忠于职守的、善良的士兵, |
| 90 | but it doesn't develop champions in life. | 但它不会在生活中发展冠军。 |
| 91 | It is so much easier in any walk of life | 在任何生命的步调中都容易得多 |
| 92 | to dictate and give orders | 命令和命令 |
| 93 | than to actually figure out how to motivate someone | 而不是想出如何激励别人 |
| 94 | to want to be better. | 想要变得更好。 |
| 95 | And the reason is, we all know this, | 原因是,我们都知道, |
| 96 | motivation takes a really long time. | 动机需要很长时间 |
| 97 | To take root. | 为生根. |
| 98 | But when it does, | 但当它发生时, |
| 99 | it is character-building and life-altering. | 这是性格建设和改变生命。 |
| 100 | I realized that I needed to fortify our student-athletes | 我意识到,我需要强化我们的学生 - 运动员 |
| 101 | as whole human beings, | 作为整个人类, |
| 102 | not just athletes who won. | 不只是那些赢了的运动员 |
| 103 | So success for me shifted | 所以,我的成功改变了 |
| 104 | from only focusing on winning | 从只注重赢 |
| 105 | to developing my coaching philosophy, | 培养我的教练哲学, |
| 106 | which is developing champions in life through sport. | 在生活中通过运动培养冠军。 |
| 107 | And I knew if I did this well enough, | 我知道如果我做得够好 |
| 108 | that champion mentality would translate to the competition floor, | 冠军的心态会变成比赛场面 |
| 109 | and it did. | 它确实如此。 |
| 110 | The key ingredient was to develop trust | 关键要素是发展信任 |
| 111 | through patience, | 以坚忍的态度发誓, |
| 112 | respectful honesty | 尊重诚实 |
| 113 | and accountability, | 问责制, |
| 114 | all of the ingredients that go into tough love. | 所有进入强硬爱情的成分 |
| 115 | Speaking of tough love, | 说到坚强的爱情 |
| 116 | Kaitlyn Ohashi是这方面的一个完美例子。 | |
| 117 | You may have all seen her floor routine. | 你们可能都看过她的地板 |
| 118 | It has had over 150 million views. | 它的浏览量超过1.5亿次。 |
| 119 | And the consensus is, her performance is pure joy. | 而共识是,她的表演是纯粹的喜悦. |
| 120 | However, when Kaitlyn came to UCLA, she was broken | 然而,当凯特琳来到加州大学洛杉矶分校时,她被打破了 |
| 121 | in body, mind and spirit. | 在身体,心灵和精神。 |
| 122 | She had grown up in a stereotypical, very high-level athletic world. | 她成长在一个陈规定型、非常高级的体育界。 |
| 123 | And she was damaged. | 她受到伤害。 |
| 124 | So when Kaitlyn came to UCLA her freshman year, | 当凯特琳来到加州大学洛杉矶分校时 她的大一 |
| 125 | she found her inner rebel quite well, | 她发现她的内在叛逆相当好, |
| 126 | to the point where she was no longer able to do gymnastics | 以至于她已经无法体操了 |
| 127 | at the level at which she was recruited. | 她被录用时的级别。 |
| 128 | And I will never forget a team meeting we had | 我永远不会忘记一个团队会议 我们曾经 |
| 129 | halfway through her freshman season. | 在她大一赛季中途 |
| 130 | We were in there with the team, the coaching staff, the support staff, | 我们在那里与团队,教练人员, 支助人员, |
| 131 | sports psychologist, | 体育心理学家, |
| 132 | and Kaitlyn very clearly and unapologetically said, | 凯特琳说得非常清楚 毫不乐观 |
| 133 | I just don't want to be great again. | 我只是不想再次成为伟大的。 |
| 134 | I felt like I got sucker-punched. | 我觉得自己被耍了 |
| 135 | My first thought was, | 我的第一个想法是, |
| 136 | then why the heck am I going to honor your scholarship? | 那为什么我要尊重你的奖学金? |
| 137 | It was a really snarky thought, | 这是一个非常恶心的想法, |
| 138 | and thankfully I didn't say it out loud, | 幸好我没有大声说出来 |
| 139 | because then I had clarity. | 因为我有清楚。 |
| 140 | Kaitlyn didn't hate gymnastics. | 凯特琳并不讨厌体操. |
| 141 | Kaitlyn hated everything associated with being great. | Kaitlyn讨厌一切与伟大有关的东西 |
| 142 | Kaitlyn didn't want to be a winner, | 凯特琳不想成为赢家 |
| 143 | because winning at all cost had cost her her joy. | 因为不惜一切代价赢得比赛 让她失去了欢乐 |
| 144 | My job was to figure out how to motivate her to want to be great again | 我的工作是想出办法 让她重新成为伟大的人 |
| 145 | by helping her redefine success. | 帮助她重新定义成功 |
| 146 | My enthusiasm for that challenge turned to determination | 我对挑战的热情变成了决心 |
| 147 | when one day Kaitlyn looked me in the eye and said, | 有一天凯特琳看着我的眼睛说 |
| 148 | Miss Vowell, I just want you to know, | ̅ Vowell, 我只是想让你知道, |
| 149 | everything you tell me to do, I do the exact opposite. | 你让我做的,我做完全相反。 |
| 150 | Yeah, I was like, yeah, Kaitlyn, challenge accepted. | 是的,我就像,是的,凯特琳,接受挑战。 |
| 151 | OK. | 摆 |
| 152 | And further proof that dictating was not going to win. | 进一步证明 独裁是不会赢的 |
| 153 | So I embarked on the painfully slow process of building trust | 所以我开始了痛苦缓慢的建立信任的过程 |
| 154 | and proving to her that first and foremost, | 并向她证明,首先, |
| 155 | I cared about her as a whole human being. | 我关心她整个人。 |
| 156 | Part of my strategy was to only talk to Kaitlyn about gymnastics in the gym. | 我的策略之一是只和凯特琳谈谈健身房的体操 |
| 157 | Outside of the gym, we talked about everything else. | 在健身房外面 我们谈了其他一切 |
| 158 | School, boys, families, friends, | 学校,男孩,家庭,朋友, |
| 159 | hobbies, I encouraged her to find things outside of her sport | 爱好者,我鼓励她 找到她运动之外的东西 |
| 160 | that brought her joy. | 带给她欢乐 |
| 161 | And it was so cool | 实在太酷了 |
| 162 | to see the process of Kaitlyn Ohashi literally blossom before our eyes. | 看着凯特琳·奥哈希在眼前开花 |
| 163 | And through that process, | 通过这个过程 |
| 164 | she rediscovered her self-love and self-worth. | 她重新发现了她的自我爱和自我价值。 |
| 165 | And slowly, she was able to bring that joy back to her gymnastics. | 慢慢地,她把快乐带回了体操 |
| 166 | She went on to earn the NCAA title on floor, | 她继续获得NCAA的头衔 在地板上, |
| 167 | and she helped our team win our seventh NCAA championship in 2018. | 她帮助我们队赢得了2018年的第七届NCAA冠军. |
| 168 | So, thank you. | 所以,谢谢你。 |
| 169 | So let's think about the Kaitlyn Ohashi's in your life. | 让我们想想你生活中的奥哈希家族 |
| 170 | Let's think about those people under your care and your guidance. | 想想那些在你照顾和引导下的人 |
| 171 | What are you telling your kids on the car ride home? | 你在开车回家时对孩子说了什么? |
| 172 | That car ride home has much more impact than you know. | 开车回家的影响比你想象的要大得多 |
| 173 | Are you focusing on the end result, | 你在关注最终结果吗? |
| 174 | or are you excited to use that time to help your child develop into a champion? | 还是你兴奋地利用那时间 帮助你的孩子成长为一个冠军? |
| 175 | It's very simple. | 很简单 |
| 176 | You will know you're focusing on the end result | 你会知道 你专注于最终结果 |
| 177 | if you ask questions about the end result. | 如果你询问最终结果。 |
| 178 | Did you win? | 你赢了吗? |
| 179 | How many points did you score? | 你得过多少分? |
| 180 | Did you get an A? | 你拿到A了吗? |
| 181 | If you truly are motivated about helping your child develop into a champion, | 如果你真的想帮助你的孩子成为冠军 |
| 182 | you will ask questions about the experience and the process | 你将询问经验和过程 |
| 183 | like, what did you learn today? | 今天你学到了什么? |
| 184 | Did you help a teammate? | 你帮了一个队友? |
| 185 | And my favorite question, | 我最喜欢的问题 |
| 186 | did you figure out how to have fun at working really, really hard? | 你有没有想过如何在工作上有乐趣 真的,真的很辛苦? |
| 187 | And then the key is to be very still and listen to their response. | 然后关键是保持非常静静,倾听他们的反应。 |
| 188 | I believe that one of the greatest gifts we can give another human being | 我相信,一个伟大的礼物 我们可以给另一个人 |
| 189 | is to silence our minds from the need to be right | 就是让我们的心灵沉寂 不再需要正确 |
| 190 | or the need to formulate the appropriate response | 制定适当对策的必要性 |
| 191 | and truly listen when someone else is talking. | 并真正听 当别人说话。 |
| 192 | And in silencing our minds, | 在沉默中我们的思想, |
| 193 | we actually hear our own fears and inadequacies | 我们实际上听到 我们自己的恐惧和不足 |
| 194 | which can help us formulate our response with more clarity and empathy. | 能够帮助我们以更明确和同情的方式制定对策。 |
| 195 | Kyla Ross, another one of our gymnasts, | Kyla Ross,我们另一个体操运动员, |
| 196 | is one of the greatest gymnasts in the history of the sport. | 是运动史上最伟大的体操运动员之一. |
| 197 | She's the only athlete to have earned the trifecta. | 她是唯一一个赢得三重赛的运动员. |
| 198 | She's a national champion, | 她是全国冠军 |
| 199 | a world champion | 世界冠军 |
| 200 | and an Olympic champion. | 和奥运冠军。 |
| 201 | She's also not one for small talk. | 她也不是一个 谈小。 |
| 202 | So I was a bit surprised one day when she came to my office, | 有一天她来我办公室时 我有点惊讶 |
| 203 | sat on the couch and just started talking. | 坐在沙发上 开始说话 |
| 204 | First about her major, then about graduate school | 首先是她主修的,然后是研究生 |
| 205 | and then about everything else that seemed to pop into her mind. | 然后谈她脑海中的其他一切 |
| 206 | My inner voice whispered to me that something was on her mind. | 我内心的声音悄悄地对我说 她心里有东西 |
| 207 | And if I was still and gave her enough time, | 如果我还在 给她足够的时间 |
| 208 | it would come out. | 它会出来。 |
| 209 | And it did. | 它确实如此。 |
| 210 | It was the first time that Kyla had shared with anyone | 这是凯拉第一次和别人分享 |
| 211 | that she had been sexually abused by Larry Nassar, | 她受到拉里·纳萨尔的性虐待 |
| 212 | the former USA Gymnastics team doctor | 前美国体操队医生 |
| 213 | who was later convicted of being a serial child molester. | 他后来被判犯有连环猥亵儿童罪。 |
| 214 | Kyla came forward and joined the army of Nassar survivors | Kyla挺身而出,加入Nassar幸存者的军队 |
| 215 | who shared their stories | 他们分享自己的故事, |
| 216 | and used their voices | 用他们的声音 |
| 217 | to invoke positive change for our world. | 为我们的世界带来积极的变化。 |
| 218 | I felt it was extremely important at that time | 当时我觉得这很重要 |
| 219 | to provide a safe space for Kyla and our team. | 为凯拉和我们团队提供安全的空间 |
| 220 | And so I chose to talk about this in a few team meetings. | 所以我决定在几个小组会议上讨论这个问题。 |
| 221 | Later that year, we won the national championship. | 当年晚些时候,我们赢得了全国冠军. |
| 222 | And after we did, Kyla came up to me and shared with me the fact | 然后凯拉来找我 和我分享事实 |
| 223 | that she felt one reason that we'd won | 她觉得我们赢了 |
| 224 | was because we had addressed the elephant in the room, | 因为我们在房间里对大象说话 |
| 225 | the tragedy that had not only rocked the world, | 不仅震撼世界的悲剧, |
| 226 | but that had liberated the truths and the memories in herself | 但是这解放了真相和记忆 |
| 227 | and in so many of her friends and her peers. | 在她的朋友和同行中 |
| 228 | As Kyla said, | 正如凯拉所说, |
| 229 | Miss Valle, I literally felt myself walk taller as the season went on. | 瓦莱小姐,我真的觉得自己走得比赛季还高 |
| 230 | And when I walked onto that championship floor, I felt invincible. | 当我走进锦标赛的地板时,我感到无敌。 |
| 231 | Simply, simply because she had been heard, | 仅仅因为她被听到 |
| 232 | as parents, as coaches, as leaders, | 作为父母,作为教练,作为领导者, |
| 233 | we can no longer lead from a place | 我们不能再从一个地方领导 |
| 234 | where winning is our only metric of success, | 赢是我们唯一成功的标准 |
| 235 | where our ego sits center stage, | 我们的自我站在中心舞台 |
| 236 | because it has been proven that that process produces broken human beings. | 因为已经证明,这个过程会产生破碎的人。 |
| 237 | And I emphatically know | 我清楚地知道 |
| 238 | that it is absolutely possible to produce and train champions in life | 绝对有可能 生产和培养 冠军在生活中 |
| 239 | in every single walk of life | 在生命的每一步中, |
| 240 | without compromising the human spirit. | 而不损害人的精神。 |
| 241 | It starts with defining success | 它从定义成功开始 |
| 242 | for yourself and those under your care, | 为了你自己和那些你照顾的人 |
| 243 | and then consistently self-examining | 然后不断进行自我审查 |
| 244 | whether your actions are in alignment with your goals. | 您的行动是否符合您的目标 。 |
| 245 | We are all coaches in some capacity. | 我们都以某种身份担任教练。 |
| 246 | We all have a collective responsibility | 我们都有集体的责任 |
| 247 | to develop champions in life for our world. | 为我们的世界培养生命中的冠军 |
| 248 | That is what real success looks like. | 这就是真正成功的样子。 |
| 249 | And in the world of athletics, | 在体育界, |
| 250 | that is what we call a win-win. | 这就是我们所谓的双赢。 |
| 251 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
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