TED演讲：12个最宝贵的人生经验
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| 0:13 | My seven-year-old grandson sleeps just down the hall from me, | 我七岁的孙子就睡在走廊下面 |
| 0:16 | and he wakes up a lot of mornings and he says, | 他醒来 很多早晨,他说, |
| 0:19 | you know, this could be the best day ever. | 你知道,这可能是有史以来最好的一天。 |
| 0:22 | And other times, in the middle of the night, | 其他时候,在半夜, |
| 0:24 | he calls out in a tremulous voice, | 他以震撼的声音喊叫, |
| 0:27 | Nana, will you ever get sick and die? | 娜娜,你会病死吗? |
| 0:31 | I think this pretty much says it for me and most of the people I know, | 我觉得我和大多数认识的人都这么说 |
| 0:35 | that we're a mixed grill of happy anticipation | 我们是一个混合的 快乐的期待 |
| 0:38 | and not just about to die, | 不仅仅是要死, |
| 0:39 | and dread. | 和恐惧。 |
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| 1 | My seven-year-old grandson sleeps just down the hall from me, | 我七岁的孙子就睡在走廊下面 |
| 2 | and he wakes up a lot of mornings and he says, | 他醒来 很多早晨,他说, |
| 3 | you know, this could be the best day ever. | 你知道,这可能是有史以来最好的一天。 |
| 4 | And other times, in the middle of the night, | 其他时候,在半夜, |
| 5 | he calls out in a tremulous voice, | 他以震撼的声音喊叫, |
| 6 | Nana, will you ever get sick and die? | 娜娜,你会病死吗? |
| 7 | I think this pretty much says it for me and most of the people I know, | 我觉得我和大多数认识的人都这么说 |
| 8 | that we're a mixed grill of happy anticipation | 我们是一个混合的 快乐的期待 |
| 9 | and not just about to die, | 不仅仅是要死, |
| 10 | and dread. | 和恐惧。 |
| 11 | So I sat down a few days before my 61st birthday, | 所以我在61岁生日前几天坐下 |
| 12 | and I decided to compile a list of everything I know for sure. | 我决定整理一份清单 列出我所知道的一切 |
| 13 | There's so little truth in the popular culture, | 大众文化的真相太少了 |
| 14 | and it's good to be sure of a few things. | 确定几件事是件好事 |
| 15 | For instance, I am no longer 47, | 比如说我不再是47岁了 |
| 16 | although this is the age I feel | 虽然这时候我觉得 |
| 17 | and the age I like to think of myself as being. | 和年龄 我喜欢认为自己是。 |
| 18 | My friend Paul used to say in his late 70s | 我朋友保罗70多岁时常说 |
| 19 | that he felt like a young man with something really wrong with him. | 他觉得自己是个年轻人 有点不对劲 |
| 20 | Our true person is outside of time and space, | 我们的真人不在时间和空间之外 |
| 21 | but looking at the paperwork, | 但看着文件, |
| 22 | I can in fact see that I was born in 1954. | 事实上,我可以看到我出生于1954年。 |
| 23 | My inside self is outside of time and space. | 我的内心在时间和空间之外 |
| 24 | It doesn't have an age. | 它没有年龄。 |
| 25 | I'm every age I've ever been, and so are you. | 我每一岁,你也是 |
| 26 | Although I can't help mentioning as an aside | 虽然我不能不提及作为一个例外 |
| 27 | that it might have been helpful if I hadn't followed | 如果我没有跟踪的话 可能会有帮助 |
| 28 | the skincare rules of the 60s, | 60年代的护肤规则, |
| 29 | which involved getting as much sun as possible, | 这需要尽可能多的阳光, |
| 30 | or slathered in baby oil, | 或者在婴儿的油中, |
| 31 | and basking in the glow of a tinfoil reflector shield. | 闪闪发光 闪闪发光 闪闪发光 闪闪发光 |
| 32 | It was so liberating, though, to face the truth | 面对真相是那么自由 |
| 33 | that I was no longer in the last throes of middle age, | 我不再处于中年的最后时期 |
| 34 | that I decided to write down every single true thing I know. | 我决定写下我所知道的每件事 |
| 35 | People feel really doomed and overwhelmed these days, | 人们现在觉得自己是注定的 不堪重负 |
| 36 | and they keep asking me what's true. | 他们一直问我真相 |
| 37 | So I hope that my list of things I'm almost positive about | 所以我希望我的列表 我几乎肯定 |
| 38 | might offer some basic operating instructions | 可能会提供一些基本操作指令 |
| 39 | to anyone who's feeling really overwhelmed or beleaguered. | 任何感到不堪重负或困扰的人 |
| 40 | Number one. | 一号 |
| 41 | The first and truest thing is that all truth is a paradox. | 第一也是最真实的是,所有真理都是一个悖论. |
| 42 | Life is both a precious and fathomably beautiful gift, | 生活既是珍贵又美极了的礼物 |
| 43 | and it's impossible here on the incarnational side of things. | 并且不可能是这里的化身 |
| 44 | It's been a very bad match for those of us who were born extremely sensitive. | 和我们这些天生非常敏感的人相比,这是非常糟糕的比赛. |
| 45 | It's so hard and weird that we sometimes wonder if we're being punked. | 它是如此艰难和奇怪,我们有时会怀疑 我们是否被朋克。 |
| 46 | It's filled simultaneously with heartbreaking sweetness and beauty, | 它同时充满了令人心碎的甜美 |
| 47 | desperate poverty, floods and babies and acne and Mozart, | 绝望的贫困,洪水和婴儿 以及疮疮和莫扎特, |
| 48 | all swirled together. | 一起旋转。 |
| 49 | I don't think it's an ideal system. | 我不认为这是一个理想的制度. |
| 50 | Number two. | 第二义. |
| 51 | Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, | 几乎一切都会再次工作 如果你解开它几分钟, |
| 52 | including you. | 包括你在内 |
| 53 | Three. | 三个 |
| 54 | There is almost nothing outside of you that will help in any kind of lasting way | 你身外几乎什么也帮不了你 |
| 55 | unless you're waiting for an organ. | 除非你在等风琴 |
| 56 | You can't buy, achieve or date serenity and peace of mind. | 你不能买,实现或约会 平静和平静。 |
| 57 | This is the most horrible truth, and I so resent it. | 这是最可怕的事实 我非常讨厌 |
| 58 | But it's an inside job. | 但它是一个内部工作。 |
| 59 | And we can't arrange peace or lasting improvement | 我们不能安排和平或持久的改善 |
| 60 | for the people we love most in the world. | 为了我们最爱的人 |
| 61 | They have to find their own ways, their own answers. | 他们必须找到自己的方法 自己的答案 |
| 62 | You can't run alongside your grown children | 你不能跟大人一起跑 |
| 63 | with sunscreen and chapstick on their hero's journey. | 在他们的英雄之旅中用防晒霜和小弟弟 |
| 64 | You have to release them. | 你必须释放他们。 |
| 65 | It's disrespectful not to. | 这是不尊重不尊重。 |
| 66 | And if it's someone else's problem, you probably don't have the answer anyway. | 如果这是别人的问题, 你也许没有答案。 |
| 67 | Our help is usually not very helpful. | 我们的帮助通常没有多大帮助。 |
| 68 | Our help is often toxic. | 我们的帮助往往是有毒的。 |
| 69 | And help is the sunny side of control. | 帮助是控制阳光的一面。 |
| 70 | Stop helping so much. | 别帮那么多忙了 |
| 71 | Don't get your help and goodness all over everybody. | 不要得到你的帮助和善良 遍及所有人。 |
| 72 | This brings us to number four. | 由此至第四义. |
| 73 | Everyone is screwed up, broken, clingy and scared, | 每个人都被搞砸了,破碎, 粘着和害怕, |
| 74 | even the people who seem to have it most together. | 即使是那些似乎拥有它的人 |
| 75 | They are much more like you than you would believe, | 他们比你想象的更像你 |
| 76 | so try not to compare your insides to other people's outsides. | 尽量不要把内心和别人的外表比起来 |
| 77 | It will only make you worse than you already are. | 这只会令你比现在更糟 |
| 78 | Also, you can't save, fix or rescue any of them, | 而且,你无法拯救,修复或营救任何他们, |
| 79 | or get anyone sober. | 或者让任何人清醒 |
| 80 | What helped me get clean and sober 30 years ago | 30年前什么让我戒酒戒酒 |
| 81 | was the catastrophe of my behavior and thinking. | 那是我行为和思想的灾难 |
| 82 | So I asked some sober friends for help, and I turned to a higher power. | 于是我向一些清醒的朋友寻求帮助,我转向了更高的力量. |
| 83 | One acronym for God is the gift of desperation, | 神的缩写是绝望的天赋 |
| 84 | G -O | |
| 85 | Or as a sober friend put it, | 或者一个清醒的朋友说, |
| 86 | by the end, I was deteriorating faster than I could lower my standards. | 到最后,我恶化的速度 比我能降低我的标准。 |
| 87 | So God might mean, in this case, me running out of any more good ideas. | 因此,上帝可能意味着,在这种情况下,我失去了任何更好的想法。 |
| 88 | While fixing and saving and trying to rescue is futile, | 虽然修复和拯救 和试图营救是徒劳的, |
| 89 | radical self-care is quantum, | 激进的自我护理是量子, |
| 90 | and it radiates out from you into the atmosphere, | 它从你身上向大气中辐射 |
| 91 | like a little fresh air. | 就像新鲜空气一样 |
| 92 | It's a huge gift to the world. | 向世尊大礼. |
| 93 | When people respond by saying, | 当人们回答说, |
| 94 | well, isn't she full of herself, | 她不是充满了自我吗? |
| 95 | just smile obliquely like Mona Lisa | 就像蒙娜丽莎一样笑得直白 |
| 96 | and make both of you a nice cup of tea. | 给你们俩泡杯茶 |
| 97 | Being full of affection for one's goofy, self-centered, | 充满了对一个人的愚蠢,自我中心, |
| 98 | cranky, annoying self is home. | 狂躁,烦人的自我是家。 |
| 99 | It's where world peace begins. | 即是世界安乐之始. |
| 100 | Number five. | 五号 |
| 101 | Chocolate with 75 percent cacao is not actually a food. | 巧克力加75%的可可其实不是食物。 |
| 102 | Its best use is as a bait in snake traps | 最好用它做蛇陷阱的诱饵 |
| 103 | or to balance the legs of wobbly chairs. | 或者平衡摇椅的腿部 |
| 104 | It was never meant to be considered inedible. | 它从未被视作不可食用。 |
| 105 | Number six. | 六号 |
| 106 | Writing. | 写作. |
| 107 | Every writer you know writes really terrible first drafts, | 你认识的每个作家 都会写非常糟糕的初稿 |
| 108 | but they keep their butt in the chair. | 但他们把屁股放在椅子上 |
| 109 | That's the secret of life. | 这就是生命的秘密 |
| 110 | That's probably the main difference between you and them. | 这可能是你和他们的主要区别。 |
| 111 | They just do it. | 他们只是这样做。 |
| 112 | They do it by prearrangement with themselves. | 他们通过预先安排自己来完成. |
| 113 | They do it as a debt of honor. | 他们这样做是一种荣誉债务。 |
| 114 | They tell stories that come through them one day at a time, | 一天到晚讲故事 |
| 115 | little by little. | 一点一点 |
| 116 | When my older brother was in fourth grade, | 我哥哥四年级的时候 |
| 117 | he had to report a term paper on bird's dew the next day. | 他不得不在第二天报告一篇关于鸟露露的术语论文. |
| 118 | Yeah, he hadn't started. | 是啊,他还没有开始。 |
| 119 | So my dad sat down with him with an Audubon book, paper, pencils and brads | 我爸爸和他坐在一起 拿着一本奥杜邦书 纸 铅笔和胸罩 |
| 120 | for those of you who have gotten a little less young and remember brads. | 你们中那些年轻一点 记得Brads的人 |
| 121 | And he said to my brother, | 他对我哥哥说: |
| 122 | just take it bird by bird, buddy. | 把它逐鸟,伙计。 |
| 123 | Just read about pelicans, | 刚刚读到关于 p, |
| 124 | and then write about pelicans in your own voice. | 然后用自己的声音来写肽. |
| 125 | And then find out about chickadees and tell us about them in your own voice. | 然后找出一些小鸡尾酒 用你的声音告诉我们 |
| 126 | And then geese. | 然后鹅. |
| 127 | So the two most important things about writing are bird by bird | 所以写作最重要的两件事就是鸟儿 |
| 128 | and really god-awful first drafts. | 和真正糟糕的初稿。 |
| 129 | If you don't know where to start, | 如果你不知道从哪里开始 |
| 130 | remember that every single thing that happened to you is yours, | 记住你身上发生的每件事都是你的 |
| 131 | and you get to tell it. | 你就可以告诉它。 |
| 132 | If people wanted you to write more warmly about them, | 如果人们希望你写得更热烈一些 |
| 133 | they should have behaved better. | 他们应该表现得更好 |
| 134 | You're going to feel like hell if you wake up some day | 你总有一天会觉得像地狱一样 |
| 135 | and you never wrote the stuff that is tugging on the sleeves of your heart, | 你从来没有写的东西 拖在你的心脏袖子上, |
| 136 | your stories, memories, visions and songs, | 你的故事,记忆, 视觉和歌曲, |
| 137 | your truth, your version of things in your own voice. | 你的真情,你用自己的声音表达的 |
| 138 | That's really all you have to offer us, | 这就是你唯一能给我们的 |
| 139 | and that's also why you were born. | 这也是你出生的原因 |
| 140 | Seven, publication and temporary creative successes | 7,出版和暂时的创造性成就. |
| 141 | are something you have to recover from. | 这是你必须恢复的东西。 |
| 142 | They kill as many people as not. | 他们杀了很多人 |
| 143 | They will hurt, damage and change you in ways you cannot imagine. | 他们会伤害,伤害和改变你的方式 你无法想象。 |
| 144 | The most degraded and evil people I've ever known | 我见过最卑劣最邪恶的人 |
| 145 | are male writers who've had huge bestsellers. | 是男作家 谁拥有巨大的畅销书。 |
| 146 | And yet, returning to number one, that all truth is paradox, | 然而,回到第一, 所有真理都是矛盾的, |
| 147 | it's also a miracle to get your work published, | 这也是一个奇迹 让你的作品出版, |
| 148 | to get your stories read and heard. | 让你的故事读和听到。 |
| 149 | Just try to bust yourself gently of the fantasy that publication will heal you, | 试着轻轻地打破那些 出版物会治愈你的幻想 |
| 150 | that it will fill the Swiss cheesy holes inside of you. | 它会填满你内心的瑞士俗气 |
| 151 | It can't. | 无法. |
| 152 | It won't. | 不会的 |
| 153 | But writing can. | 但写作可以。 |
| 154 | So can singing in a choir or a bluegrass band. | 所以可以在合唱团或蓝草乐队演唱. |
| 155 | So can painting community murals or birding | 也可以画社区壁画或鸟类 |
| 156 | or fostering old dogs that no one else will. | 或养老狗 别人不会的。 |
| 157 | Number eight, families. | 第八 诸眷属. |
| 158 | Families are hard, hard, hard, | 家庭是艰难的,艰难的, |
| 159 | no matter how cherished and astonishing they may also be. | 无论他们多么珍视和惊讶 |
| 160 | Again, see number one. | 又,见第一. |
| 161 | At family gatherings where you suddenly feel homicidal or suicidal, | 在家庭聚会上 你突然感到杀人或自杀 |
| 162 | remember that in all cases, it's a miracle | 记住,在所有情况下,这是一个奇迹 |
| 163 | that any of us specifically were conceived and born. | 我们中任何人都是被孕育和出生的。 |
| 164 | Earth is forgiveness school. | 地球就是宽恕学校 |
| 165 | It begins with forgiving yourself. | 它开始于原谅自己。 |
| 166 | And then you might as well start at the dinner table. | 那你还是从晚餐桌开始吧 |
| 167 | That way, you can do this work in comfortable pants. | 这样,你就可以在舒适的裤子里做这个工作. |
| 168 | When William Blake said that we are here to learn to endure the beams of love, | 当威廉 布莱克说,我们在这里学习 忍受爱的梁, |
| 169 | he knew that your family would be an intimate part of this, | 他知道你的家人会 成为这个亲密的一部分, |
| 170 | even as you want to run screaming for your cute little life. | 即使你想为可爱的人生而尖叫 |
| 171 | But I promise you are up to it. | 但我保证你愿意 |
| 172 | You can do it, Cinderella, you can do it. | 你可以的,灰姑娘,你可以做到这一点。 |
| 173 | And you will be amazed. | 你会惊讶的 |
| 174 | Nine, food. | 九,进食. |
| 175 | Try to do a little better. | 试着做得好一点。 |
| 176 | I think you know what I mean. | 我想你应该明白我的意思 |
| 177 | Number 10, grace. | 第十号,恩典。 |
| 178 | Grace是精神的WD-40或水翼. | |
| 179 | The mystery of grace is that God loves Henry Kissinger and Vladimir Putin and me | 仁慈之谜是上帝爱亨利·基辛格 弗拉基米尔·普京和我 |
| 180 | exactly as much as he or she loves your new grandchild. | 就像他或她爱你的新孙子一样 |
| 181 | Go figure. | 试试看 |
| 182 | The movement of grace is what changes us, heals us and heals our world. | 仁义之运动,正是改变我们,治愈我们,治愈我们的世界。 |
| 183 | To summon grace, say, help, and then buckle up. | 召唤恩典,说,帮助,然后扣上安全带。 |
| 184 | Grace finds you exactly where you are, | 格蕾丝找到你的位置 |
| 185 | but it doesn't leave you where it found you. | 但它不会离开你的地方 它发现了你。 |
| 186 | And grace won't look like Casper the friendly ghost, regrettably, | 和恩典不会看起来像卡斯珀 友好的幽灵,遗憾的是, |
| 187 | but the phone will ring or the mail will come, | 但是电话会响 或者邮件会来 |
| 188 | and then against all odds, you'll get your sense of humor about yourself back. | 面对各种困难,你会恢复你的幽默感 |
| 189 | Laughter really is carbonated holiness. | 笑声其实是碳化的圣洁。 |
| 190 | It helps us breathe again and again and gives us back to ourselves, | 它帮助我们呼吸 一次又一次,让我们回到自己, |
| 191 | and this gives us faith in life and each other. | 这让我们相信生命和彼此 |
| 192 | And remember, grace always bats last. | 记住,恩典总是最后的 |
| 193 | Eleven. | 十一门. |
| 194 | God just means goodness. | 上帝只是意味着善良。 |
| 195 | It's really not all that scary. | 其实没那么可怕 |
| 196 | It means the divine or a loving, animating intelligence, | 它意味着神 或爱,动画智能, |
| 197 | or as we learned from the great deteriorata, | 或如我们从大别墅学到的 |
| 198 | the cosmic muffin. | 宇宙松饼。 |
| 199 | A good name for God is not me. | 上帝的好名声不是我 |
| 200 | Emerson said that the happiest person on earth | 爱默生说 世上最快乐的人 |
| 201 | is the one who learns from nature the lessons of worship. | 是人从自然中吸取崇拜的教训。 |
| 202 | So go outside a lot and look up. | 所以经常出去看看 |
| 203 | My pastor said you can trap bees on the bottom of mason jars | 我的牧师说你可以把蜜蜂困在泥浆罐底 |
| 204 | without lids because they don't look up. | 没有盖子,因为他们不抬头。 |
| 205 | So they just walk around bitterly, bumping into the glass walls. | 所以,他们只是走来走去 痛苦地,碰上玻璃墙。 |
| 206 | Go outside, look up, secret of life. | 出去,抬头看,生命的秘密。 |
| 207 | And finally, death. | 临Τ |
| 208 | Number 12. | 12号 |
| 209 | Wow and yikes. | 哇,还有你 |
| 210 | It's so hard to bear when the few people you cannot live without die. | 当少数你无法活着的人不死的时候 很难忍受 |
| 211 | You'll never get over these losses, | 你永远无法克服这些损失, |
| 212 | and no matter what the culture says, you're not supposed to. | 不管文化怎么说 你都不应该这样 |
| 213 | We Christians like to think of death as a major change of address, | 我们基督徒喜欢把死亡看作是一个重大改变, |
| 214 | but in any case, the person will live again fully in your heart | 但无论如何,这个人会再次完全活在你的心中 |
| 215 | if you don't seal it off. | 如果你不把它封起来。 |
| 216 | Like Leonard Cohen said, | 正如伦纳德·科恩所说, |
| 217 | there are cracks in everything, and that's how the light gets in, | 一切都有裂缝 光是这样进来的 |
| 218 | and that's how we feel, our people again, fully alive. | 这就是我们的感受, 我们的人民再次, 完全活着。 |
| 219 | Also, the people will make you laugh out loud | 还有,人民会让你大笑 |
| 220 | at the most inconvenient times. | 在最不方便的时候。 |
| 221 | And that's the great good news. | 这是好消息 |
| 222 | But their absence will also be a lifelong nightmare of homesickness for you. | 但他们的缺席 也会成为你一生的梦魇 |
| 223 | Grief and friends, time and tears will heal you to some extent. | 悲伤和朋友,时间和眼泪将在某种程度上治愈你。 |
| 224 | Tears will bathe and baptize and hydrate and moisturize you | 泪水会沐浴 洗礼 水合水和湿润你 |
| 225 | in the ground on which you walk. | 在你们所行走的地面上。 |
| 226 | Do you know the first thing that God says to Moses? | 你知道上帝告诉摩西的第一件事吗? |
| 227 | He says, | 他说, |
| 228 | take off your shoes, | 脱掉你的鞋, |
| 229 | because this is holy ground, all evidence to the contrary. | 因为这是圣地 所有相反的证据 |
| 230 | It's hard to believe, but it's the truest thing I know. | 虽然很难相信 但这是我知道的最真实的事情 |
| 231 | When you're a little bit older, like my tiny personal self, | 当你年纪大一点 就像我小小的个人 |
| 232 | you realize that death is as sacred as birth. | 你知道死亡和出生一样神圣 |
| 233 | And don't worry, get on with your life. | 别担心,继续你的生活 |
| 234 | Almost every single death is easy and gentle, | 几乎每一个死亡都是容易和温柔的, |
| 235 | with the very best people surrounding you. | 和身边最好的人在一起 |
| 236 | For as long as you need, you won't be alone. | 只要你需要,你就不会孤单 |
| 237 | They'll help you cross over to whatever awaits us. | 他们会帮你越狱的 |
| 238 | As Ram Dass said, | 正如拉姆·达斯所说, |
| 239 | when all is said and done, | 当一切言行如实的时候, |
| 240 | we're really just all walking each other home. | 我们真的只是走 彼此回家。 |
| 241 | I think that's it. | 我想就这样 |
| 242 | But if I think of anything else, I'll let you know. | 但如果我再想点别的 我会告诉你的 |
| 243 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
| 244 | I was very surprised to be asked to come, | 我被邀请前来很惊讶 |
| 245 | because it is not my realm, | 因为它不是我的王国, |
| 246 | technology or design or entertainment. | 技术或设计或娱乐。 |
| 247 | I mean, my realm is sort of phase and writing | 我的意思是,我的王国 有点阶段和写作 |
| 248 | and kind of lurching along together. | 并互相碰撞, |
| 249 | And I was surprised, but they said I could give a talk, | 我很惊讶,但他们说我可以谈谈, |
| 250 | and I said I'd love to. | 我说我很愿意 |
| 251 | If you don't know where to start, | 如果你不知道从哪里开始 |
| 252 | remember that every single thing that happened to you is yours, | 记住你身上发生的每件事都是你的 |
| 253 | and you get to tell it. | 你就可以告诉它。 |
| 254 | People are very, very frightened and feel really doomed in America, | 人们非常,非常害怕,感到在美国真的注定要失败, |
| 255 | and I just wanted to help people get their sense of humor about it | 我只是想帮助人们 得到他们的幽默感 |
| 256 | and to realize how much isn't a problem | 并意识到多少 不是一个问题 |
| 257 | if you take an action | 如果你采取行动 |
| 258 | and take a really healthy or loving or friendly action, | 并采取真正健康或爱或友好的行动, |
| 259 | you'll have loving and friendly feelings. | 你会有亲切的感情 |
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