如何摆脱内心的自我打压，改变你的人生【TED演讲】
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| 0:01 | What if you were limitless? | 如果你是无限的呢? |
| 0:03 | What if every single day you knew that nothing | 狦–ぱ常笵 |
| 0:06 | or no one would get you down? | 还是没人能把你弄下来? |
| 0:08 | What if self-doubt was replaced with unshakable conviction? | 如果自我怀疑被不可动摇的信念所取代呢? |
| 0:12 | Imagine how your life would play out over a week, | 想象一下你一周后的生活会怎样 |
| 0:14 | a month, or even a year. | 一个月甚至一年 |
| 0:16 | Imagine the snowball of momentum and confidence, | 想象一下 势头和信心的雪球, |
| 0:20 | regardless of external setbacks. | 不论外部的挫折。 |
| 0:22 | We all know those remarkable, even obsessive people | 我们都知道那些了不起的, 甚至是迷恋的人 |
| 0:25 | that really go for it. | 这真的去它。 |
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| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | What if you were limitless? | 如果你是无限的呢? |
| 2 | What if every single day you knew that nothing | 狦–ぱ常笵 |
| 3 | or no one would get you down? | 还是没人能把你弄下来? |
| 4 | What if self-doubt was replaced with unshakable conviction? | 如果自我怀疑被不可动摇的信念所取代呢? |
| 5 | Imagine how your life would play out over a week, | 想象一下你一周后的生活会怎样 |
| 6 | a month, or even a year. | 一个月甚至一年 |
| 7 | Imagine the snowball of momentum and confidence, | 想象一下 势头和信心的雪球, |
| 8 | regardless of external setbacks. | 不论外部的挫折。 |
| 9 | We all know those remarkable, even obsessive people | 我们都知道那些了不起的, 甚至是迷恋的人 |
| 10 | that really go for it. | 这真的去它。 |
| 11 | They truly live their potential with conviction. | 他们真正以信念来发挥潜力。 |
| 12 | What's the key difference between this tiny subset | 这个小子集的关键区别是什么 |
| 13 | of movers and shakers and a majority | 移动者和摇动者及多数 |
| 14 | with equally lofty aspirations that never really get there? | 有着同样崇高的愿望,却从未真正到达? |
| 15 | I've had the good fortune of working with thousands | 我有幸和上千人合作 |
| 16 | of leaders at some of the most influential companies | 一些最有影响力的公司的领导人 |
| 17 | around the globe. | 环绕全球 |
| 18 | My business helps them to boost their performance, | 我的生意能帮助他们提升自己的表现 |
| 19 | and part of the process includes identifying | 进程的一部分包括: |
| 20 | and removing obstacles that get in their way. | 并消除阻碍他们的障碍。 |
| 21 | As I engaged with more and more leaders, | 随着我与越来越多的领导人接触, |
| 22 | I started to notice a pattern emerging | 我开始注意到一种模式 |
| 23 | among those that operated with a limited mindset | 在心态有限的人当中 |
| 24 | versus the limitless minority. | 与无限少数相对. |
| 25 | It turns out what held back most of these otherwise | 原来是什么东西 挡住了大部分这些 否则 |
| 26 | exceptional and talented people wasn't a lack of skill, | 才能非凡的人不是缺乏技能, |
| 27 | experience, or even resources. | 经验,甚至资源 |
| 28 | It was often rooted in a relationship with the closest | 它常常根植于与最亲密的 |
| 29 | and most influential person in their lives. | 他们生活中最有影响力的人 |
| 30 | And this person would always appear to care, | 这个人似乎总是在乎 |
| 31 | but instead would sabotage their progress and growth. | 反而会破坏他们的进步和成长 |
| 32 | You have such a person in your life too. | 你生命中也有这样的人 |
| 33 | They're much closer than what you realize | 他们比你知道的要近得多 |
| 34 | because they exist up here in your mind. | 因为它们存在于你的脑海里 |
| 35 | I am not talking imaginary friends, | 我不是在说想象中的朋友 |
| 36 | I'm talking about your inner deceiver. | 我说的是你的内在欺骗者 |
| 37 | It's that insistent voice in your head | 你脑子里一直有声音 |
| 38 | that judges you, demeans you, | 审判你,贬低你, |
| 39 | shines a spotlight on your weaknesses. | 点亮你的弱点 |
| 40 | And because most aren't even aware of it, | 因为大多数人甚至不知道这一点, |
| 41 | it can lead to destructive self-doubt | 它会导致破坏性的自我怀疑 |
| 42 | and even self-sabotage. | 乃至自毁. |
| 43 | It was clear to me that the happiest, | 我很清楚最快乐的是 |
| 44 | most fulfilled, and highest performers | 成绩最好,表现最好 |
| 45 | had figured out how to subdue their inner deceiver. | 已经想通如何制服他们的内奸 |
| 46 | In fact, in the patterns I observed, | 事实上,在我观察到的模式中, |
| 47 | there wasn't just one inner deceiver. | 不只是一个内在的骗子 |
| 48 | I identified five of the most common archetypes, | 我发现了五种最常用的型号 |
| 49 | and now I'm going to expose them to you | 现在我要揭发他们 |
| 50 | because you won't be able to subdue them | 因为你无法征服他们 |
| 51 | without first recognizing them. | 不首先认出他们。 |
| 52 | And the prerequisite to operating | 和操作的先决条件 |
| 53 | with a truly limitless mindset | 有着无限的心态 |
| 54 | is that you first need to free yourself | 是你们首先需要解放自己 |
| 55 | from their clutches. | 从他们的离合器。 |
| 56 | Let's start with the deceiver I call the classic judge. | 先从我叫经典法官的骗子开始 |
| 57 | As the name suggests, the judge likes to judge you. | 法官喜欢审判你 |
| 58 | What you did, what you didn't do, | 你做了什么,你没有做什么, |
| 59 | what you should have done, criticizing every decision | 你本该做的事 批评每个决定 |
| 60 | and blaming you for things outside of your control. | 并责备你的事情 超出你的控制。 |
| 61 | When you ruminate on past failures | 当你追寻过去的失败 |
| 62 | with an unforgiving lens, that's not you. | 带着无法原谅的镜头,那不是你。 |
| 63 | That's the classic judge preventing you | 这是典型的裁判阻止你 |
| 64 | from learning from the past. | 从学习过去。 |
| 65 | And instead, beating you down. | 而不是把你打下来 |
| 66 | Most psychology researchers agree that these deceivers | 大多数心理学研究者都认为这些骗子 |
| 67 | begin to emerge based on the parenting you received | 根据你得到的养育关系开始出现 |
| 68 | when you were a child. | 当你还是个孩子的时候 |
| 69 | If you had a critical, controlling or demanding parent, | 如果你有一个批评,控制或要求的父母, |
| 70 | you come to internalize this judgment | 你是来把判决内部化的 |
| 71 | and it manifests within you as an adult. | 它显示在你的体内 作为一个成年人。 |
| 72 | So you give yourself the same critical judgment. | 所以你给自己同样的批判。 |
| 73 | You develop an inability to acknowledge | 你无法承认 |
| 74 | anything positive about yourself or your performance, | 任何关于你或你表现的积极, |
| 75 | and it's extremely damaging. | 它的破坏非常严重。 |
| 76 | The second deceiver is the victimizer. | 第二惑者为害者. |
| 77 | She has a way of convincing you that the universe | 她可以说服你宇宙 |
| 78 | is rigged to conspire against you. | 是用来谋反的 |
| 79 | She fills your mind with excuses | 她给你添了借口 |
| 80 | and robs you of your willpower. | 并剥夺你的意志力。 |
| 81 | Conversations with the victimizer sound like, | 与受害者交谈 听起来像, |
| 82 | see, this always happens to you. | 你看,这总是发生在你身上。 |
| 83 | Every time an opportunity comes up, | 每次机会出现 |
| 84 | somehow you get screwed over. | 不知怎的,你被骗了 |
| 85 | You're never going to be good enough for them. | 你永远也配不上他们 |
| 86 | So what do you do? | 那你怎么办? |
| 87 | You give up. | 你放弃吧 |
| 88 | You stop trying because your victimizer reminds you, | 你停止尝试 因为你的牺牲者提醒你, |
| 89 | what's the point anyway? | 有什么意义呢? |
| 90 | You can't win. | 你不能赢 |
| 91 | You never win. | 你从没赢过 |
| 92 | Next we have the deceiver I call the misguided protector. | 接下来,我们有 欺骗者我叫错误的保护者。 |
| 93 | Your protector says things like, | 你的保护者说, |
| 94 | whoa, whoa, whoa, slow down. | 慢点 |
| 95 | Did you think this through? | 你有没有想清楚? |
| 96 | You don't know enough. | 你不够清楚 |
| 97 | You're not qualified. | 你没有资格 |
| 98 | You're too old, too young. | 你太老了 太年轻了 |
| 99 | You'll mess up. | 你会搞砸的 |
| 100 | Don't do it. | 别 |
| 101 | It tries to protect you from a risk of failure, | 它试图保护你 避免失败的风险, |
| 102 | judgment or criticism. | 判断或批评。 |
| 103 | How? | 怎么会? |
| 104 | By keeping you paralyzed so you don't take any action | 让你瘫痪 这样你就不会采取任何行动 |
| 105 | because then you're safe, but you're also stuck. | 因为那时你很安全 但你也被困住了 |
| 106 | If your parents set high standards for you | 如果你的父母为你设定了高标准 |
| 107 | and excessively criticized you | 并且过分批评你, |
| 108 | when you failed to meet these standards, | 当你没有达到这些标准, |
| 109 | for example, you got an A, | 例如,你有一个A, |
| 110 | why couldn't you get an A plus | 为什么你不能得到一个A+ |
| 111 | like your perfect cousin Julio? | 就像你完美的表弟朱利奥? |
| 112 | You may hear it as your misguided protector up here, | 你可以在这里听到你被误导的守护者的声音 |
| 113 | which leads you to fear failure and never feel ready. | 这让你害怕失败 永远无法做好准备 |
| 114 | Second to last is the ringmaster. | 第二至最后是戒师. |
| 115 | The ringmaster is all about productivity guilt. | 掌门人讲的是生产力的内疚 |
| 116 | If you're not familiar with the term, | 如果你对术语不熟悉 |
| 117 | it's when you have an unhealthy drive to keep working | 是当你有一个不健康的驱动器 继续工作 |
| 118 | because you feel guilty when you stop. | 因为你停止的时候感到内疚 |
| 119 | The ringmaster is very good at brainwashing you | 掌门人很擅长洗脑 |
| 120 | into believing that your worth and merit as a person | 相信你作为一个人的价值和功绩 |
| 121 | are directly correlated to how productive you are. | 和你的生产力直接相关 |
| 122 | You achieve a goal, feel no satisfaction | 你达到目的,不满意 |
| 123 | and immediately jump to the next goal, | 并立即跳到下一个进球, |
| 124 | the unfulfilling treadmill of achievement addiction. | 无法完成的脚步车 成就成瘾。 |
| 125 | But the thing is, no matter how hard you push yourself | 但问题是,无论你如何努力 |
| 126 | or what you achieve, you will never be good enough | 或你的成就,你永远也不够好 |
| 127 | or have done enough for the ringmaster. | 或者已经做了足够的 指使。 |
| 128 | Our survey of two and a half thousand people globally | 我们对全球2.5万人的调查 |
| 129 | found an overwhelming 93% experienced this guilt frequently, | 发现93%的人 经常经历这种罪责 |
| 130 | putting themselves at risk of burnout. | 让自己面临燃烧的危险 |
| 131 | Maybe you haven't met any of these deceivers yet, | 也许你还没有见过这些骗子 |
| 132 | but instead are well acquainted with this last one. | 却对这最后一篇很熟悉 |
| 133 | Closely related to the ringmaster, it's the neglector. | 与戒师关系密切,是疏忽者. |
| 134 | When you feel insecure in your worth, | 当你觉得没有安全感 你的价值, |
| 135 | you anticipate rejection. | 你将拒绝。 |
| 136 | So you constantly seek validation | 所以你不断寻求验证 |
| 137 | by prioritizing the needs of everyone else. | 通过优先考虑其他人的需要。 |
| 138 | If you didn't receive emotional validation as a child | 如果你小时候没有得到情感鉴定 |
| 139 | or you had a parent that was hard to please, | 或者你有一个很难取悦的父母 |
| 140 | you might work really hard as an adult to try | 你可能真的努力 作为一个成年人尝试 |
| 141 | and seek approval from everyone around you, | 并征求你周围所有人的同意, |
| 142 | partners, peers, coworkers, your boss. | 合伙人,同伴,同事,你的老板。 |
| 143 | And then whenever you don't receive it, | 然后每当你没有得到它, |
| 144 | it's an automatic trigger | 自动触发 |
| 145 | and you have a conditioned need to win it back. | 并且你有一个条件 需要赢得它回来。 |
| 146 | The neglector drives you to give beyond your capacity, | 忽视者驱使你超越你的能力 |
| 147 | leaving you exhausted, drained and overwhelmed. | 让你精疲力竭 精疲力竭 不堪重负 |
| 148 | So the stakes are high. | 故其利害甚高. |
| 149 | If you listen to these deceivers, | 如果你听这些骗子的话 |
| 150 | you buy into their narrative and give them power over you. | 你买进他们的叙述 并赋予他们权力 对你。 |
| 151 | The good news is that change is possible. | 好消息是改变是可能的。 |
| 152 | You can break free from these limits. | 你可以打破这些限制。 |
| 153 | The first step is awareness. | 第一步是提高认识。 |
| 154 | If you have a classic judge hurling judgment | 如果你有一个典型的法官 抛出判断 |
| 155 | and criticism at you for everything that you do, | 批评你所做的一切, |
| 156 | call it out. | 调用它。 |
| 157 | Classic judge, I know you're trying to convince me | 经典法官 我知道你想说服我 |
| 158 | that I'm incompetent right now, | 我现在无能 |
| 159 | but I'm choosing not to listen. | 但我选择不听 |
| 160 | Calling it out in this way | 这样叫出来 |
| 161 | is a form of psychological distancing | 是一种心理疏远的形式 |
| 162 | where you're referring to this part of yourself | 你指的是你自己的这部分 |
| 163 | in the third person. | 在第三人称。 |
| 164 | We know from science that third person self-talk | 我们从科学上知道第三人称自言自语 |
| 165 | helps you gain emotional distance from your deceiver, | 帮助你与你的欺骗者保持感情上的距离, |
| 166 | allowing you to think with more rationality. | 让你更理性地思考 |
| 167 | If you notice your victimizer, | 如果你注意到你的伤害者, |
| 168 | making you feel like you should just give up | 让你觉得你应该放弃 |
| 169 | because the world is against you, | 因为世界反对你, |
| 170 | shift to an internal locus of control, | 转向内部控制中心, |
| 171 | except the fact that you can choose | 除了你可以选择 |
| 172 | what you focus on at any moment. | 你随时关注的 |
| 173 | You can choose to focus on things outside of your control | 你可以选择专注于你无法控制的事情 |
| 174 | and feel powerless, | 并且感觉无力, |
| 175 | or you control what you have control over. | 或者你控制你拥有的一切 |
| 176 | Instead of saying, look at what happened to me, | 而不是说,看看我发生了什么事, |
| 177 | look at what they did to me, | 看看他们对我做了什么 |
| 178 | use a technique called cognitive shifting | 使用一种叫做认知转变的技术 |
| 179 | and consciously redirect your attention to, | 并自觉地将注意力转向, |
| 180 | okay, this is what's happening in my life. | 好吧,这就是发生在我的生活中。 |
| 181 | This is where I want to be | 这就是我想要的地方 |
| 182 | and this is what I'm going to do about it. | 这就是我要做的 |
| 183 | Now you're speaking from a position of personal power. | 现在你从个人权力的角度说话 |
| 184 | You take responsibility for what's within your control | 你对自己控制的一切负责 |
| 185 | and choose to take action. | 并选择采取行动。 |
| 186 | What if you hear your misguided protector in your psyche | 如果你在你的心理中听到你错误的保护者 |
| 187 | trying to convince you that you'll fail | 试图说服你 你会失败 |
| 188 | so you shouldn't try at all? | 所以,你不应该尝试吗? |
| 189 | I have my own experience with my misguided protector. | 我有自己的经验 与我的误导保护者。 |
| 190 | Chances are I wouldn't even be here | 我可能不会在这里 |
| 191 | or where I am today if I listened to it. | 或我今天所在的地方 如果我听它。 |
| 192 | Back in March of 2020, | 回到2020年3月时, |
| 193 | when the world was suddenly in lockdowns, | 当世界突然被封锁的时候, |
| 194 | all of our business bookings | 我们所有的商务预订 |
| 195 | were either canceled or postponed | 被取消或推迟 |
| 196 | and our business was dead in the water. | 我们的生意就死在水里 |
| 197 | So I was curious about experimenting | 所以我对实验感到好奇 |
| 198 | with an app called TikTok. | 有个叫TikTok的应用程序 |
| 199 | I wanted to create content | 我想创造内容 |
| 200 | and see if we could help people through that platform. | 看看我们能不能通过这个平台帮助人们。 |
| 201 | But then my protector woke up and said, | 但后来我的守护者醒来说, |
| 202 | people will think you're ridiculous. | 人们会认为你很可笑 |
| 203 | You're way too old for that. | 你年纪太大了 |
| 204 | It's going to ruin your reputation. | 这会毁了你的声誉 |
| 205 | And I listened to my protector for two months | 我听了两个月的保护者的话 |
| 206 | until I didn't anymore. | 直到我不再这样 |
| 207 | I decided to take action instead. | 我决定采取行动 |
| 208 | I created 40 pieces of video content in one day. | 我一天内创造了40个视频内容. |
| 209 | This way I couldn't back down for 40 days | 这样我40天都回不来了 |
| 210 | no matter what my protector said. | 不管我的保护者怎么说 |
| 211 | And you know what? | 你知道吗? |
| 212 | All it took was 40 days to see tens of thousands | 只花了40天才看到数万人 |
| 213 | of followers start to accumulate. | 追随者开始积累。 |
| 214 | I didn't make perfection the goal. | 我没有让完美的目标。 |
| 215 | I made the process the goal. | 我让过程成为目标 |
| 216 | And nearly two years later, | 两年后, |
| 217 | we have a million followers on that platform | 这个平台上有百万的追随者 |
| 218 | and over 2 million across all major social media platforms, | 和超过200万 在所有主要的社交媒体平台, |
| 219 | which has been the best marketing for our business, | 这一直是我们企业最好的营销, |
| 220 | taking us global and allowing us to help people | 带我们走向全球,让我们帮助人民 |
| 221 | all around the world. | 到处都是 |
| 222 | And none of that would have happened | 这一切都不会发生 |
| 223 | if I'd listened to my protector and stayed safe. | 如果我听了保护者的话 并保持安全 |
| 224 | So if you ever feel your protector taking over, | 所以如果你觉得你的保护者接管 |
| 225 | grab a blank sheet of paper | 抓一张空白的纸 |
| 226 | and write down all the protector's arguments. | 并记录所有的保护者的论点。 |
| 227 | Then ask, is this scenario likely to happen? | 那么,问,这种情景 有可能发生吗? |
| 228 | What's the worst that could happen realistically? | 最糟糕的会发生什么? |
| 229 | Take time to rationally risk assess | 花时间进行合理的风险评估 |
| 230 | and you'll likely find it's just your protector | 你会发现它只是你的保护者 |
| 231 | being overly dramatic. | 过于戏剧化。 |
| 232 | Given the protector tries to keep you safe | 保护者想保护你 |
| 233 | by keeping you stuck, the best antidote is to take action. | 最好的解药就是采取行动 |
| 234 | Don't worry about getting things right the first go. | 不用担心先把事情搞好 |
| 235 | Don't make perfection the standard. | 别让标准完美 |
| 236 | Just act, be consistent and be open to growth. | 行动起来,保持一贯,向增长开放。 |
| 237 | Make the process the goal. | 让过程成为目标。 |
| 238 | Now the ringmaster, if you feel undeserving | 现在的掌声,如果你觉得不值得 |
| 239 | of taking a break and feel guilt or shame when you do, | 当你休息,感到内疚或羞耻, |
| 240 | change the narrative in your head. | 改变你脑袋里的叙事 |
| 241 | Value yourself for who you are, not what you've done. | 珍视自己是谁,而不是你做了什么。 |
| 242 | Stop wearing busy as a badge of honor. | 别忙着戴着荣誉徽章 |
| 243 | Remind yourself of your qualities, | 提醒自己你的素质, |
| 244 | the value you add to the lives of others, | 你给别人的生活带来的价值, |
| 245 | how you make a difference, write this down. | 写下来 写下来 |
| 246 | And with this sense of empowerment, | 有了这种赋予权力的感觉, |
| 247 | pragmatically set healthy boundaries | 务实地确定健康的界限 |
| 248 | so that you have a more balanced life. | 以便你们过上更加平衡的生活。 |
| 249 | Working hard at times is not a bad thing, | 有时努力工作不是坏事 |
| 250 | but risking burnout is counterproductive to performance. | 但冒着被烧死的风险,对业绩是适得其反的。 |
| 251 | And finally, those of you who have a loud neglector, | 最后,你们中那些有明显的疏忽者, |
| 252 | I know what you're going through. | 我知道你在经历什么。 |
| 253 | Early in my career, my neglector was loud. | 职业生涯初期,我的忽视者声大. |
| 254 | I would constantly over-apologize | 我会不断的过度道歉 |
| 255 | when I hadn't done anything wrong, | 当我没有做错什么, |
| 256 | agree with people when I actually disagreed on principle, | 同意人们的意见,其实我不同意原则, |
| 257 | avoid any possibility of conflict and would say, | 并会说, |
| 258 | yes, of course, when I really meant no. | 是的,当然,当我真的意思不是。 |
| 259 | I was a people pleaser to the point | 我是一个民意喜悦的人 |
| 260 | of sacrificing who I truly was. | 牺牲我的真面目 |
| 261 | I gave away so much of myself | 我放弃了这么多自己 |
| 262 | in my efforts to be approved of | 我为批准 |
| 263 | that I no longer knew who I was. | 我不再知道我是谁。 |
| 264 | But you can't be limitless | 但你不能无穷无尽 |
| 265 | if you have nothing left inside to give. | 如果你里面没有东西可以给你 |
| 266 | If you have a strong neglector like I did, | 如果你像我一样有很强的疏忽者 |
| 267 | you need to overcome the codependency and acknowledge | 您需要克服 编码和承认 |
| 268 | your worth is not linked to how you think others see you. | 你的价值与你的看法无关 |
| 269 | If you let people's perception of you dictate your behavior, | 如果你让别人对你的看法 支配你的行为 |
| 270 | you will never grow as a person. | 你永远不会成长为一个人。 |
| 271 | And when you do choose to give of yourself in the future, | 当你选择在未来献身时 |
| 272 | ask, am I doing this out of compulsion for approval | 问,我这样做是不是出于强迫 批准 |
| 273 | or is it in a true spirit of service? | 还是真正的服务精神? |
| 274 | So these are the five inner critical deceivers, | 这五个内在的欺骗者, |
| 275 | the archetypes I've identified cross-culturally | 从文化角度上来说,我所发现的古老类型 |
| 276 | with people all around the world. | 与世界各地的人。 |
| 277 | And what's really interesting is that we've observed | 有趣的是,我们观察到 |
| 278 | that many high performers believe | 许多优秀的艺人相信 |
| 279 | that these inner deceivers are central | 这些内在的欺骗者是核心 |
| 280 | to driving their performance. | 驾驶他们的表演。 |
| 281 | While outwardly they appear successful, | 虽然他们表面上看起来很成功, |
| 282 | allowing their core driving force to emanate | 允许其核心动力出现 |
| 283 | from the fear of failure, envy, greed, | 远离失败 嫉妒 贪婪 |
| 284 | seeking approval and status is a proven source | 寻求批准和身份证明是一个来源 |
| 285 | of unhappiness, constant stress and a lack of fulfillment. | 幸福、压力和缺乏满足 |
| 286 | What they failed to realize was that they've become trapped | 他们没意识到 他们被困住了 |
| 287 | in the obsessive prison of self. | 在自恋的监狱里 |
| 288 | My needs, my pain, my success, how people see me. | 我的需要,我的痛苦,我的成功, 人们如何看待我。 |
| 289 | So they continue to operate through a desire | 所以他们继续通过欲望运作 |
| 290 | to avoid negative states and outcomes | 避免消极状态和结果 |
| 291 | instead of being in a limitless mindset. | 而不是陷入无限的心态。 |
| 292 | It's a bad deal. | 交易不顺. |
| 293 | Here is a better deal. | 这是更好的交易。 |
| 294 | If our reality is indeed our thoughts, | 如果我们的现实确实是我们的想法, |
| 295 | emotions and how we uniquely experience the world, | 情感和我们如何独特的体验世界, |
| 296 | then I invite you to acknowledge | 那我请你们承认 |
| 297 | that there is a second side to us, | 我们还有另一面, |
| 298 | our higher nature, if you will. | 我们的天性,如果你愿意的话。 |
| 299 | One that is intrinsically motivated by a desire | 一个内在的动机是欲望 |
| 300 | to express excellence, confidence, being of service, | 表达卓越、自信、服务 |
| 301 | love, creativity, courage and justice. | 爱、创造力、勇气和正义 |
| 302 | This is the limitless aspect of our nature | 这是我们本性无限的一面 |
| 303 | that is liberated from the prison of the insistent self. | 从牢狱中解放出来 |
| 304 | And as you consistently put in the work | 就像你一直以来把工作放在 |
| 305 | to decouple from your inner deceivers, | 与你的内在欺骗者决裂, |
| 306 | integrating the practices I've shared with daily routines | 将我分享的日常做法结合起来 |
| 307 | of meditation, journaling, prayer and reflection, | 以便你们记念、记念、祈祷和思维, |
| 308 | I want you to remember that each one of us | 我要你记住我们每个人 |
| 309 | has the power to operate from our higher, | 有能力从我们的上级行动, |
| 310 | our limitless nature. | 我们无限的本性 |
| 311 | The struggle to keep them at bay is a lifelong one, | 阻止他们的斗争是终身的 |
| 312 | but I promise you, as you've distanced yourself | 但我答应你,因为你已经疏远了自己 |
| 313 | from these voices, your life will begin to transform. | 从这些声音, 你的生活将开始改变。 |
| 314 | So I have a challenge for you. | 所以我有一个挑战给你。 |
| 315 | Seriously commit to reframing your relationship | 认真承诺重塑你们的关系 |
| 316 | with your inner deceivers. | 与你的内在欺骗者。 |
| 317 | Acknowledge they exist, be aware of them | 承认他们的存在, 了解他们 |
| 318 | and learn to discern between rational thought | 学会辨别理性的思想 |
| 319 | and the voices of the ego. | 和自我的声音。 |
| 320 | Your prison of self, it limits you. | 你的自我监狱,它限制了你。 |
| 321 | When you break free, your thoughts become limitless. | 当你打破自由, 你的思想变得无限。 |
| 322 | You become limitless. | 你变得无限。 |
| 323 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
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| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
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| 0:01 | What if you were limitless? | 如果你是无限的呢? |
| 0:03 | What if every single day you knew that nothing | 狦–ぱ常笵 |
| 0:06 | or no one would get you down? | 还是没人能把你弄下来? |
| 0:08 | What if self-doubt was replaced with unshakable conviction? | 如果自我怀疑被不可动摇的信念所取代呢? |
| 0:12 | Imagine how your life would play out over a week, | 想象一下你一周后的生活会怎样 |
| 0:14 | a month, or even a year. | 一个月甚至一年 |
| 0:16 | Imagine the snowball of momentum and confidence, | 想象一下 势头和信心的雪球, |
| 0:20 | regardless of external setbacks. | 不论外部的挫折。 |
| 0:22 | We all know those remarkable, even obsessive people | 我们都知道那些了不起的, 甚至是迷恋的人 |
| 0:25 | that really go for it. | 这真的去它。 |
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| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
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| 1 | What if you were limitless? | 如果你是无限的呢? |
| 2 | What if every single day you knew that nothing | 狦–ぱ常笵 |
| 3 | or no one would get you down? | 还是没人能把你弄下来? |
| 4 | What if self-doubt was replaced with unshakable conviction? | 如果自我怀疑被不可动摇的信念所取代呢? |
| 5 | Imagine how your life would play out over a week, | 想象一下你一周后的生活会怎样 |
| 6 | a month, or even a year. | 一个月甚至一年 |
| 7 | Imagine the snowball of momentum and confidence, | 想象一下 势头和信心的雪球, |
| 8 | regardless of external setbacks. | 不论外部的挫折。 |
| 9 | We all know those remarkable, even obsessive people | 我们都知道那些了不起的, 甚至是迷恋的人 |
| 10 | that really go for it. | 这真的去它。 |
| 11 | They truly live their potential with conviction. | 他们真正以信念来发挥潜力。 |
| 12 | What's the key difference between this tiny subset | 这个小子集的关键区别是什么 |
| 13 | of movers and shakers and a majority | 移动者和摇动者及多数 |
| 14 | with equally lofty aspirations that never really get there? | 有着同样崇高的愿望,却从未真正到达? |
| 15 | I've had the good fortune of working with thousands | 我有幸和上千人合作 |
| 16 | of leaders at some of the most influential companies | 一些最有影响力的公司的领导人 |
| 17 | around the globe. | 环绕全球 |
| 18 | My business helps them to boost their performance, | 我的生意能帮助他们提升自己的表现 |
| 19 | and part of the process includes identifying | 进程的一部分包括: |
| 20 | and removing obstacles that get in their way. | 并消除阻碍他们的障碍。 |
| 21 | As I engaged with more and more leaders, | 随着我与越来越多的领导人接触, |
| 22 | I started to notice a pattern emerging | 我开始注意到一种模式 |
| 23 | among those that operated with a limited mindset | 在心态有限的人当中 |
| 24 | versus the limitless minority. | 与无限少数相对. |
| 25 | It turns out what held back most of these otherwise | 原来是什么东西 挡住了大部分这些 否则 |
| 26 | exceptional and talented people wasn't a lack of skill, | 才能非凡的人不是缺乏技能, |
| 27 | experience, or even resources. | 经验,甚至资源 |
| 28 | It was often rooted in a relationship with the closest | 它常常根植于与最亲密的 |
| 29 | and most influential person in their lives. | 他们生活中最有影响力的人 |
| 30 | And this person would always appear to care, | 这个人似乎总是在乎 |
| 31 | but instead would sabotage their progress and growth. | 反而会破坏他们的进步和成长 |
| 32 | You have such a person in your life too. | 你生命中也有这样的人 |
| 33 | They're much closer than what you realize | 他们比你知道的要近得多 |
| 34 | because they exist up here in your mind. | 因为它们存在于你的脑海里 |
| 35 | I am not talking imaginary friends, | 我不是在说想象中的朋友 |
| 36 | I'm talking about your inner deceiver. | 我说的是你的内在欺骗者 |
| 37 | It's that insistent voice in your head | 你脑子里一直有声音 |
| 38 | that judges you, demeans you, | 审判你,贬低你, |
| 39 | shines a spotlight on your weaknesses. | 点亮你的弱点 |
| 40 | And because most aren't even aware of it, | 因为大多数人甚至不知道这一点, |
| 41 | it can lead to destructive self-doubt | 它会导致破坏性的自我怀疑 |
| 42 | and even self-sabotage. | 乃至自毁. |
| 43 | It was clear to me that the happiest, | 我很清楚最快乐的是 |
| 44 | most fulfilled, and highest performers | 成绩最好,表现最好 |
| 45 | had figured out how to subdue their inner deceiver. | 已经想通如何制服他们的内奸 |
| 46 | In fact, in the patterns I observed, | 事实上,在我观察到的模式中, |
| 47 | there wasn't just one inner deceiver. | 不只是一个内在的骗子 |
| 48 | I identified five of the most common archetypes, | 我发现了五种最常用的型号 |
| 49 | and now I'm going to expose them to you | 现在我要揭发他们 |
| 50 | because you won't be able to subdue them | 因为你无法征服他们 |
| 51 | without first recognizing them. | 不首先认出他们。 |
| 52 | And the prerequisite to operating | 和操作的先决条件 |
| 53 | with a truly limitless mindset | 有着无限的心态 |
| 54 | is that you first need to free yourself | 是你们首先需要解放自己 |
| 55 | from their clutches. | 从他们的离合器。 |
| 56 | Let's start with the deceiver I call the classic judge. | 先从我叫经典法官的骗子开始 |
| 57 | As the name suggests, the judge likes to judge you. | 法官喜欢审判你 |
| 58 | What you did, what you didn't do, | 你做了什么,你没有做什么, |
| 59 | what you should have done, criticizing every decision | 你本该做的事 批评每个决定 |
| 60 | and blaming you for things outside of your control. | 并责备你的事情 超出你的控制。 |
| 61 | When you ruminate on past failures | 当你追寻过去的失败 |
| 62 | with an unforgiving lens, that's not you. | 带着无法原谅的镜头,那不是你。 |
| 63 | That's the classic judge preventing you | 这是典型的裁判阻止你 |
| 64 | from learning from the past and instead beating you down. | 从学习过去 而不是打倒你。 |
| 65 | Most psychology researchers agree that these deceivers | 大多数心理学研究者都认为这些骗子 |
| 66 | begin to emerge based on the parenting you received | 根据你得到的养育关系开始出现 |
| 67 | when you were a child. | 当你还是个孩子的时候 |
| 68 | If you had a critical, controlling, or demanding parent, | 如果你有一个批评,控制,或要求父母, |
| 69 | you come to internalize this judgment | 你是来把判决内部化的 |
| 70 | and it manifests within you as an adult. | 它显示在你的体内 作为一个成年人。 |
| 71 | So you give yourself the same critical judgment. | 所以你给自己同样的批判。 |
| 72 | You develop an inability to acknowledge anything positive | 你变得无法承认什么是积极的 |
| 73 | about yourself or your performance. | 关于你自己或你的表演。 |
| 74 | And it's extremely damaging. | 并极具破坏力. |
| 75 | The second deceiver is the victimizer. | 第二惑者为害者. |
| 76 | She has a way of convincing you that the universe | 她可以说服你宇宙 |
| 77 | is rigged to conspire against you. | 是用来谋反的 |
| 78 | She fills your mind with excuses | 她给你添了借口 |
| 79 | and robs you of your willpower. | 并剥夺你的意志力。 |
| 80 | Conversations with the victimizer sound like, | 与受害者交谈 听起来像, |
| 81 | see, this always happens to you. | 你看,这总是发生在你身上。 |
| 82 | Every time an opportunity comes up, | 每次机会出现 |
| 83 | somehow you get screwed over. | 不知怎的,你被骗了 |
| 84 | You're never going to be good enough for them. | 你永远也配不上他们 |
| 85 | So what do you do? | 那你怎么办? |
| 86 | You give up. | 你放弃吧 |
| 87 | You stop trying because your victimizer reminds you, | 你停止尝试 因为你的牺牲者提醒你, |
| 88 | what's the point anyway? | 有什么意义呢? |
| 89 | You can't win. | 你不能赢 |
| 90 | You never win. | 你从没赢过 |
| 91 | Next we have the deceiver I call the misguided protector. | 接下来,我们有 欺骗者我叫错误的保护者。 |
| 92 | Your protector says things like, | 你的保护者说, |
| 93 | whoa, whoa, whoa, slow down. | 慢点 |
| 94 | Did you think this through? | 你有没有想清楚? |
| 95 | You don't know enough. | 你不够清楚 |
| 96 | You're not qualified. | 你没有资格 |
| 97 | You're too old, too young. | 你太老了 太年轻了 |
| 98 | You'll mess up. | 你会搞砸的 |
| 99 | Don't do it. | 别 |
| 100 | It tries to protect you from a risk of failure, | 它试图保护你 避免失败的风险, |
| 101 | judgment, or criticism. | 判断或批评。 |
| 102 | How? | 怎么会? |
| 103 | By keeping you paralyzed so you don't take any action | 让你瘫痪 这样你就不会采取任何行动 |
| 104 | because then you're safe, but you're also stuck. | 因为那时你很安全 但你也被困住了 |
| 105 | If your parents set high standards for you | 如果你的父母为你设定了高标准 |
| 106 | and excessively criticized you | 并且过分批评你, |
| 107 | when you failed to meet these standards, | 当你没有达到这些标准, |
| 108 | for example, you got an A, | 例如,你有一个A, |
| 109 | why couldn't you get an A plus | 为什么你不能得到一个A+ |
| 110 | like your perfect cousin Julio? | 就像你完美的表弟朱利奥? |
| 111 | You may hear it as your misguided protector up here, | 你可以在这里听到你被误导的守护者的声音 |
| 112 | which leads you to fear failure and never feel ready. | 这让你害怕失败 永远无法做好准备 |
| 113 | Second to last is the ringmaster. | 第二至最后是戒师. |
| 114 | The ringmaster is all about productivity guilt. | 掌门人讲的是生产力的内疚 |
| 115 | If you're not familiar with the term, | 如果你对术语不熟悉 |
| 116 | it's when you have an unhealthy drive to keep working | 是当你有一个不健康的驱动器 继续工作 |
| 117 | because you feel guilty when you stop. | 因为你停止的时候感到内疚 |
| 118 | The ringmaster is very good at brainwashing you | 掌门人很擅长洗脑 |
| 119 | into believing that your worth and merit as a person | 相信你作为一个人的价值和功绩 |
| 120 | are directly correlated to how productive you are. | 和你的生产力直接相关 |
| 121 | You achieve a goal, feel no satisfaction, | 你实现了一个目标,感觉不满足, |
| 122 | and immediately jump to the next goal, | 并立即跳到下一个进球, |
| 123 | the unfulfilling treadmill of achievement addiction. | 无法完成的脚步车 成就成瘾。 |
| 124 | But the thing is, no matter how hard you push yourself | 但问题是,无论你如何努力 |
| 125 | or what you achieve, you will never be good enough | 或你的成就,你永远也不够好 |
| 126 | or have done enough for the ringmaster. | 或者已经做了足够的 指使。 |
| 127 | Our survey of two and a half thousand people globally | 我们对全球2.5万人的调查 |
| 128 | found an overwhelming 93% experience this guilt frequently, | 发现93%的人经常有这种罪恶感 |
| 129 | putting themselves at risk of burnout. | 让自己面临燃烧的危险 |
| 130 | Maybe you haven't met any of these deceivers yet, | 也许你还没有见过这些骗子 |
| 131 | but instead are well acquainted with this last one. | 却对这最后一篇很熟悉 |
| 132 | Closely related to the ringmaster, it's the neglector. | 与戒师关系密切,是疏忽者. |
| 133 | When you feel insecure in your worth, | 当你觉得没有安全感 你的价值, |
| 134 | you anticipate rejection. | 你将拒绝。 |
| 135 | So you constantly seek validation | 所以你不断寻求验证 |
| 136 | by prioritizing the needs of everyone else. | 通过优先考虑其他人的需要。 |
| 137 | If you didn't receive emotional validation as a child, | 如果你小时候没有得到情感验证 |
| 138 | or you had a parent that was hard to please, | 或者你有一个很难取悦的父母 |
| 139 | you might work really hard as an adult | 成年以后你可能会很努力工作 |
| 140 | to try and seek approval from everyone around you, | 尝试寻求你周围每个人的同意, |
| 141 | partners, peers, coworkers, your boss. | 合伙人,同伴,同事,你的老板。 |
| 142 | And then whenever you don't receive it, | 然后每当你没有得到它, |
| 143 | it's an automatic trigger, | 这是自动触发器 |
| 144 | and you have a conditioned need to win it back. | 并且你有一个条件 需要赢得它回来。 |
| 145 | The neglector drives you to give beyond your capacity, | 忽视者驱使你超越你的能力 |
| 146 | leaving you exhausted, drained, and overwhelmed. | 让你精疲力竭 疲惫不堪 |
| 147 | So the stakes are high. | 故其利害甚高. |
| 148 | If you listen to these deceivers, | 如果你听这些骗子的话 |
| 149 | you buy into their narrative and give them power over you. | 你买进他们的叙述 并赋予他们权力 对你。 |
| 150 | The good news is that change is possible. | 好消息是改变是可能的。 |
| 151 | You can break free from these limits. | 你可以打破这些限制。 |
| 152 | The first step is awareness. | 第一步是提高认识。 |
| 153 | If you have a classic judge hurling judgment | 如果你有一个典型的法官 抛出判断 |
| 154 | and criticism at you for everything that you do, | 批评你所做的一切, |
| 155 | call it out. | 调用它。 |
| 156 | Classic judge, I know you're trying to convince me | 经典法官 我知道你想说服我 |
| 157 | that I'm incompetent right now, | 我现在无能 |
| 158 | but I'm choosing not to listen. | 但我选择不听 |
| 159 | Calling it out in this way | 这样叫出来 |
| 160 | is a form of psychological distancing, | 是一种心理疏远的形式, |
| 161 | where you're referring to this part of yourself | 你指的是你自己的这部分 |
| 162 | in the third person. | 在第三人称。 |
| 163 | We know from science that third-person self-talk | 我们从科学中知道第三人称自言自语 |
| 164 | helps you gain emotional distance from your deceiver, | 帮助你与你的欺骗者保持感情上的距离, |
| 165 | allowing you to think with more rationality. | 让你更理性地思考 |
| 166 | If you notice your victimizer | 如果你注意到你的伤害者 |
| 167 | making you feel like you should just give up | 让你觉得你应该放弃 |
| 168 | because the world is against you, | 因为世界反对你, |
| 169 | shift to an internal locus of control, | 转向内部控制中心, |
| 170 | except the fact that you can choose | 除了你可以选择 |
| 171 | what you focus on at any moment. | 你随时关注的 |
| 172 | You can choose to focus on things outside of your control | 你可以选择专注于你无法控制的事情 |
| 173 | and feel powerless, | 并且感觉无力, |
| 174 | or you control what you have control over. | 或者你控制你拥有的一切 |
| 175 | Instead of saying, look at what happened to me, | 而不是说,看看我发生了什么事, |
| 176 | look at what they did to me, | 看看他们对我做了什么 |
| 177 | use a technique called cognitive shifting | 使用一种叫做认知转变的技术 |
| 178 | and consciously redirect your attention to, | 并自觉地将注意力转向, |
| 179 | okay, this is what's happening in my life, | 好吧,这就是发生在我的生活中, |
| 180 | this is where I want to be, | 这就是我想要的地方, |
| 181 | and this is what I'm going to do about it. | 这就是我要做的 |
| 182 | Now you're speaking from a position of personal power. | 现在你从个人权力的角度说话 |
| 183 | You take responsibility for what's within your control | 你对自己控制的一切负责 |
| 184 | and choose to take action. | 并选择采取行动。 |
| 185 | What if you hear your misguided protector in your psyche | 如果你在你的心理中听到你错误的保护者 |
| 186 | trying to convince you that you'll fail | 试图说服你 你会失败 |
| 187 | so you shouldn't try at all? | 所以,你不应该尝试吗? |
| 188 | I have my own experience with my misguided protector. | 我有自己的经验 与我的误导保护者。 |
| 189 | Chances are I wouldn't even be here | 我可能不会在这里 |
| 190 | or where I am today if I listened to it. | 或我今天所在的地方 如果我听它。 |
| 191 | Back in March of 2020, | 回到2020年3月时, |
| 192 | when the world was suddenly in lockdowns, | 当世界突然被封锁的时候, |
| 193 | all of our business bookings | 我们所有的商务预订 |
| 194 | were either canceled or postponed, | 要么被取消 要么被推迟 |
| 195 | and our business was dead in the water. | 我们的生意就死在水里 |
| 196 | So I was curious about experimenting | 所以我对实验感到好奇 |
| 197 | with an app called TikTok. | 有个叫TikTok的应用程序 |
| 198 | I wanted to create content | 我想创造内容 |
| 199 | and see if we could help people through that platform. | 看看我们能不能通过这个平台帮助人们。 |
| 200 | But then my protector woke up and said, | 但后来我的守护者醒来说, |
| 201 | people will think you're ridiculous. | 人们会认为你很可笑 |
| 202 | You're way too old for that. | 你年纪太大了 |
| 203 | It's going to ruin your reputation. | 这会毁了你的声誉 |
| 204 | And I listened to my protector for two months | 我听了两个月的保护者的话 |
| 205 | until I didn't anymore. | 直到我不再这样 |
| 206 | I decided to take action instead. | 我决定采取行动 |
| 207 | I created 40 pieces of video content in one day. | 我一天内创造了40个视频内容. |
| 208 | This way I couldn't back down for 40 days | 这样我40天都回不来了 |
| 209 | no matter what my protector said. | 不管我的保护者怎么说 |
| 210 | And you know what? | 你知道吗? |
| 211 | All it took was 40 days to see tens of thousands | 只花了40天才看到数万人 |
| 212 | of followers start to accumulate. | 追随者开始积累。 |
| 213 | I didn't make perfection the goal. | 我没有让完美的目标。 |
| 214 | I made the process the goal. | 我让过程成为目标 |
| 215 | And nearly two years later, | 两年后, |
| 216 | we have a million followers on that platform | 这个平台上有百万的追随者 |
| 217 | and over 2 million across all major social media platforms, | 和超过200万 在所有主要的社交媒体平台, |
| 218 | which has been the best marketing for our business, | 这一直是我们企业最好的营销, |
| 219 | taking us global and allowing us to help people | 带我们走向全球,让我们帮助人民 |
| 220 | all around the world. | 到处都是 |
| 221 | And none of that would have happened | 这一切都不会发生 |
| 222 | if I'd listened to my protector and stayed safe. | 如果我听了保护者的话 并保持安全 |
| 223 | So if you ever feel your protector taking over, | 所以如果你觉得你的保护者接管 |
| 224 | grab a blank sheet of paper | 抓一张空白的纸 |
| 225 | and write down all the protector's arguments. | 并记录所有的保护者的论点。 |
| 226 | Then ask, is this scenario likely to happen? | 那么,问,这种情景 有可能发生吗? |
| 227 | What's the worst that could happen realistically? | 最糟糕的会发生什么? |
| 228 | Take time to rationally risk assess | 花时间进行合理的风险评估 |
| 229 | and you'll likely find it's just your protector | 你会发现它只是你的保护者 |
| 230 | being overly dramatic. | 过于戏剧化。 |
| 231 | Given the protector tries to keep you safe | 保护者想保护你 |
| 232 | by keeping you stuck, the best antidote is to take action. | 最好的解药就是采取行动 |
| 233 | Don't worry about getting things right the first go. | 不用担心先把事情搞好 |
| 234 | Don't make perfection the standard. | 别让标准完美 |
| 235 | Just act, be consistent and be open to growth. | 行动起来,保持一贯,向增长开放。 |
| 236 | Make the process the goal. | 让过程成为目标。 |
| 237 | Now the ringmaster. | 现为戒师. |
| 238 | If you feel undeserving of taking a break | 如果你觉得不值得休息 |
| 239 | and feel guilt or shame when you do, | 并感到内疚或羞愧 当你这样做, |
| 240 | change the narrative in your head. | 改变你脑袋里的叙事 |
| 241 | Value yourself for who you are, not what you've done. | 珍视自己是谁,而不是你做了什么。 |
| 242 | Stop wearing busy as a badge of honor. | 别忙着戴着荣誉徽章 |
| 243 | Remind yourself of your qualities, | 提醒自己你的素质, |
| 244 | the value you add to the lives of others, | 你给别人的生活带来的价值, |
| 245 | how you make a difference, write this down. | 写下来 写下来 |
| 246 | And with this sense of empowerment, | 有了这种赋予权力的感觉, |
| 247 | pragmatically set healthy boundaries | 务实地确定健康的界限 |
| 248 | so that you have a more balanced life. | 以便你们过上更加平衡的生活。 |
| 249 | Working hard at times is not a bad thing, | 有时努力工作不是坏事 |
| 250 | but risking burnout is counterproductive to performance. | 但冒着被烧死的风险,对业绩是适得其反的。 |
| 251 | And finally, those of you who have a loud neglector, | 最后,你们中那些有明显的疏忽者, |
| 252 | I know what you're going through. | 我知道你在经历什么。 |
| 253 | Early in my career, my neglector was loud. | 职业生涯初期,我的忽视者声大. |
| 254 | I would constantly over-apologize | 我会不断的过度道歉 |
| 255 | when I hadn't done anything wrong, | 当我没有做错什么, |
| 256 | agree with people when I actually disagreed on principle, | 同意人们的意见,其实我不同意原则, |
| 257 | avoid any possibility of conflict and would say, | 并会说, |
| 258 | yes, of course, when I really meant no. | 是的,当然,当我真的意思不是。 |
| 259 | I was a people pleaser to the point | 我是一个民意喜悦的人 |
| 260 | of sacrificing who I truly was. | 牺牲我的真面目 |
| 261 | I gave away so much of myself | 我放弃了这么多自己 |
| 262 | in my efforts to be approved of | 我为批准 |
| 263 | that I no longer knew who I was. | 我不再知道我是谁。 |
| 264 | But you can't be limitless | 但你不能无穷无尽 |
| 265 | if you have nothing left inside to give. | 如果你里面没有东西可以给你 |
| 266 | If you have a strong neglector like I did, | 如果你像我一样有很强的疏忽者 |
| 267 | you need to overcome the codependency and acknowledge | 您需要克服 编码和承认 |
| 268 | your worth is not linked to how you think others see you. | 你的价值与你的看法无关 |
| 269 | If you let people's perception of you dictate your behavior, | 如果你让别人对你的看法 支配你的行为 |
| 270 | you will never grow as a person. | 你永远不会成长为一个人。 |
| 271 | And when you do choose to give of yourself in the future, | 当你选择在未来献身时 |
| 272 | ask, am I doing this out of compulsion for approval | 问,我这样做是不是出于强迫 批准 |
| 273 | or is it in a true spirit of service? | 还是真正的服务精神? |
| 274 | So these are the five inner critical deceivers, | 这五个内在的欺骗者, |
| 275 | the archetypes I've identified cross-culturally | 从文化角度上来说,我所发现的古老类型 |
| 276 | with people all around the world. | 与世界各地的人。 |
| 277 | And what's really interesting is that we've observed | 有趣的是,我们观察到 |
| 278 | that many high performers believe | 许多优秀的艺人相信 |
| 279 | that these inner deceivers are central | 这些内在的欺骗者是核心 |
| 280 | to driving their performance. | 驾驶他们的表演。 |
| 281 | While outwardly they appear successful, | 虽然他们表面上看起来很成功, |
| 282 | allowing their core driving force to emanate | 允许其核心动力出现 |
| 283 | from the fear of failure, envy, greed, | 远离失败 嫉妒 贪婪 |
| 284 | seeking approval and status is a proven source | 寻求批准和身份证明是一个来源 |
| 285 | of unhappiness, constant stress and a lack of fulfillment. | 幸福、压力和缺乏满足 |
| 286 | What they failed to realize was that they've become trapped | 他们没意识到 他们被困住了 |
| 287 | in the obsessive prison of self. | 在自恋的监狱里 |
| 288 | My needs, my pain, my success, how people see me. | 我的需要,我的痛苦,我的成功, 人们如何看待我。 |
| 289 | So they continue to operate through a desire | 所以他们继续通过欲望运作 |
| 290 | to avoid negative states and outcomes | 避免消极状态和结果 |
| 291 | instead of being in a limitless mindset. | 而不是陷入无限的心态。 |
| 292 | It's a bad deal. | 交易不顺. |
| 293 | Here is a better deal. | 这是更好的交易。 |
| 294 | If our reality is indeed our thoughts, | 如果我们的现实确实是我们的想法, |
| 295 | emotions and how we uniquely experience the world, | 情感和我们如何独特的体验世界, |
| 296 | then I invite you to acknowledge | 那我请你们承认 |
| 297 | that there is a second side to us, | 我们还有另一面, |
| 298 | our higher nature, if you will. | 我们的天性,如果你愿意的话。 |
| 299 | One that is intrinsically motivated by a desire | 一个内在的动机是欲望 |
| 300 | to express excellence, confidence, being of service, | 表达卓越、自信、服务 |
| 301 | love, creativity, courage and justice. | 爱、创造力、勇气和正义 |
| 302 | This is the limitless aspect of our nature | 这是我们本性无限的一面 |
| 303 | that is liberated from the prison of the insistent self. | 从牢狱中解放出来 |
| 304 | And as you consistently put in the work | 就像你一直以来把工作放在 |
| 305 | to decouple from your inner deceivers, | 与你的内在欺骗者决裂, |
| 306 | integrating the practices I've shared with daily routines | 将我分享的日常做法结合起来 |
| 307 | of meditation, journaling, prayer and reflection, | 以便你们记念、记念、祈祷和思维, |
| 308 | I want you to remember that each one of us | 我要你记住我们每个人 |
| 309 | has the power to operate from our higher, | 有能力从我们的上级行动, |
| 310 | our limitless nature. | 我们无限的本性 |
| 311 | The struggle to keep them at bay is a lifelong one, | 阻止他们的斗争是终身的 |
| 312 | but I promise you, as you've distanced yourself | 但我答应你,因为你已经疏远了自己 |
| 313 | from these voices, your life will begin to transform. | 从这些声音, 你的生活将开始改变。 |
| 314 | So I have a challenge for you. | 所以我有一个挑战给你。 |
| 315 | Seriously commit to reframing your relationship | 认真承诺重塑你们的关系 |
| 316 | with your inner deceivers. | 与你的内在欺骗者。 |
| 317 | Acknowledge they exist, be aware of them | 承认他们的存在, 了解他们 |
| 318 | and learn to discern between rational thought | 学会辨别理性的思想 |
| 319 | and the voices of the ego. | 和自我的声音。 |
| 320 | Your prison of self, it limits you. | 你的自我监狱,它限制了你。 |
| 321 | When you break free, your thoughts become limitless. | 当你打破自由, 你的思想变得无限。 |
| 322 | You become limitless. | 你变得无限。 |
| 323 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
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| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:01 | What if you were limitless? | 如果你是无限的呢? |
| 0:03 | What if every single day you knew that nothing | 狦–ぱ常笵 |
| 0:06 | or no one would get you down? | 还是没人能把你弄下来? |
| 0:08 | What if self-doubt was replaced with unshakable conviction? | 如果自我怀疑被不可动摇的信念所取代呢? |
| 0:12 | Imagine how your life would play out over a week, | 想象一下你一周后的生活会怎样 |
| 0:14 | a month, or even a year. | 一个月甚至一年 |
| 0:16 | Imagine the snowball of momentum and confidence, | 想象一下 势头和信心的雪球, |
| 0:20 | regardless of external setbacks. | 不论外部的挫折。 |
| 0:22 | We all know those remarkable, even obsessive people | 我们都知道那些了不起的, 甚至是迷恋的人 |
| 0:25 | that really go for it. | 这真的去它。 |
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| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
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| 1 | What if you were limitless? | 如果你是无限的呢? |
| 2 | What if every single day you knew that nothing | 狦–ぱ常笵 |
| 3 | or no one would get you down? | 还是没人能把你弄下来? |
| 4 | What if self-doubt was replaced with unshakable conviction? | 如果自我怀疑被不可动摇的信念所取代呢? |
| 5 | Imagine how your life would play out over a week, | 想象一下你一周后的生活会怎样 |
| 6 | a month, or even a year. | 一个月甚至一年 |
| 7 | Imagine the snowball of momentum and confidence, | 想象一下 势头和信心的雪球, |
| 8 | regardless of external setbacks. | 不论外部的挫折。 |
| 9 | We all know those remarkable, even obsessive people | 我们都知道那些了不起的, 甚至是迷恋的人 |
| 10 | that really go for it. | 这真的去它。 |
| 11 | They truly live their potential with conviction. | 他们真正以信念来发挥潜力。 |
| 12 | What's the key difference between this tiny subset | 这个小子集的关键区别是什么 |
| 13 | of movers and shakers and a majority | 移动者和摇动者及多数 |
| 14 | with equally lofty aspirations that never really get there? | 有着同样崇高的愿望,却从未真正到达? |
| 15 | I've had the good fortune of working with thousands | 我有幸和上千人合作 |
| 16 | of leaders at some of the most influential companies | 一些最有影响力的公司的领导人 |
| 17 | around the globe. | 环绕全球 |
| 18 | My business helps them to boost their performance, | 我的生意能帮助他们提升自己的表现 |
| 19 | and part of the process includes identifying | 进程的一部分包括: |
| 20 | and removing obstacles that get in their way. | 并消除阻碍他们的障碍。 |
| 21 | As I engaged with more and more leaders, | 随着我与越来越多的领导人接触, |
| 22 | I started to notice a pattern emerging | 我开始注意到一种模式 |
| 23 | among those that operated with a limited mindset | 在心态有限的人当中 |
| 24 | versus the limitless minority. | 与无限少数相对. |
| 25 | It turns out what held back most of these otherwise | 原来是什么东西 挡住了大部分这些 否则 |
| 26 | exceptional and talented people wasn't a lack of skill, | 才能非凡的人不是缺乏技能, |
| 27 | experience, or even resources. | 经验,甚至资源 |
| 28 | It was often rooted in a relationship with the closest | 它常常根植于与最亲密的 |
| 29 | and most influential person in their lives. | 他们生活中最有影响力的人 |
| 30 | And this person would always appear to care, | 这个人似乎总是在乎 |
| 31 | but instead would sabotage their progress and growth. | 反而会破坏他们的进步和成长 |
| 32 | You have such a person in your life too. | 你生命中也有这样的人 |
| 33 | They're much closer than what you realize | 他们比你知道的要近得多 |
| 34 | because they exist up here in your mind. | 因为它们存在于你的脑海里 |
| 35 | I am not talking imaginary friends, | 我不是在说想象中的朋友 |
| 36 | I'm talking about your inner deceiver. | 我说的是你的内在欺骗者 |
| 37 | It's that insistent voice in your head | 你脑子里一直有声音 |
| 38 | that judges you, demeans you, | 审判你,贬低你, |
| 39 | shines a spotlight on your weaknesses. | 点亮你的弱点 |
| 40 | And because most aren't even aware of it, | 因为大多数人甚至不知道这一点, |
| 41 | it can lead to destructive self-doubt | 它会导致破坏性的自我怀疑 |
| 42 | and even self-sabotage. | 乃至自毁. |
| 43 | It was clear to me that the happiest, | 我很清楚最快乐的是 |
| 44 | most fulfilled, and highest performers | 成绩最好,表现最好 |
| 45 | had figured out how to subdue their inner deceiver. | 已经想通如何制服他们的内奸 |
| 46 | In fact, in the patterns I observed, | 事实上,在我观察到的模式中, |
| 47 | there wasn't just one inner deceiver. | 不只是一个内在的骗子 |
| 48 | I identified five of the most common archetypes, | 我发现了五种最常用的型号 |
| 49 | and now I'm going to expose them to you | 现在我要揭发他们 |
| 50 | because you won't be able to subdue them | 因为你无法征服他们 |
| 51 | without first recognizing them. | 不首先认出他们。 |
| 52 | And the prerequisite to operating | 和操作的先决条件 |
| 53 | with a truly limitless mindset | 有着无限的心态 |
| 54 | is that you first need to free yourself | 是你们首先需要解放自己 |
| 55 | from their clutches. | 从他们的离合器。 |
| 56 | Let's start with the deceiver I call the classic judge. | 先从我叫经典法官的骗子开始 |
| 57 | As the name suggests, the judge likes to judge you. | 法官喜欢审判你 |
| 58 | What you did, what you didn't do, | 你做了什么,你没有做什么, |
| 59 | what you should have done, criticizing every decision | 你本该做的事 批评每个决定 |
| 60 | and blaming you for things outside of your control. | 并责备你的事情 超出你的控制。 |
| 61 | When you ruminate on past failures | 当你追寻过去的失败 |
| 62 | with an unforgiving lens, that's not you. | 带着无法原谅的镜头,那不是你。 |
| 63 | That's the classic judge preventing you | 这是典型的裁判阻止你 |
| 64 | from learning from the past. | 从学习过去。 |
| 65 | And instead, beating you down. | 而不是把你打下来 |
| 66 | Most psychology researchers agree that these deceivers | 大多数心理学研究者都认为这些骗子 |
| 67 | begin to emerge based on the parenting you received | 根据你得到的养育关系开始出现 |
| 68 | when you were a child. | 当你还是个孩子的时候 |
| 69 | If you had a critical, controlling or demanding parent, | 如果你有一个批评,控制或要求的父母, |
| 70 | you come to internalize this judgment | 你是来把判决内部化的 |
| 71 | and it manifests within you as an adult. | 它显示在你的体内 作为一个成年人。 |
| 72 | So you give yourself the same critical judgment. | 所以你给自己同样的批判。 |
| 73 | You develop an inability to acknowledge | 你无法承认 |
| 74 | anything positive about yourself or your performance, | 任何关于你或你表现的积极, |
| 75 | and it's extremely damaging. | 它的破坏非常严重。 |
| 76 | The second deceiver is the victimizer. | 第二惑者为害者. |
| 77 | She has a way of convincing you that the universe | 她可以说服你宇宙 |
| 78 | is rigged to conspire against you. | 是用来谋反的 |
| 79 | She fills your mind with excuses | 她给你添了借口 |
| 80 | and robs you of your willpower. | 并剥夺你的意志力。 |
| 81 | Conversations with the victimizer sound like, | 与受害者交谈 听起来像, |
| 82 | see, this always happens to you. | 你看,这总是发生在你身上。 |
| 83 | Every time an opportunity comes up, | 每次机会出现 |
| 84 | somehow you get screwed over. | 不知怎的,你被骗了 |
| 85 | You're never going to be good enough for them. | 你永远也配不上他们 |
| 86 | So what do you do? | 那你怎么办? |
| 87 | You give up. | 你放弃吧 |
| 88 | You stop trying because your victimizer reminds you, | 你停止尝试 因为你的牺牲者提醒你, |
| 89 | what's the point anyway? | 有什么意义呢? |
| 90 | You can't win. | 你不能赢 |
| 91 | You never win. | 你从没赢过 |
| 92 | Next we have the deceiver I call the misguided protector. | 接下来,我们有 欺骗者我叫错误的保护者。 |
| 93 | Your protector says things like, | 你的保护者说, |
| 94 | whoa, whoa, whoa, slow down. | 慢点 |
| 95 | Did you think this through? | 你有没有想清楚? |
| 96 | You don't know enough. | 你不够清楚 |
| 97 | You're not qualified. | 你没有资格 |
| 98 | You're too old, too young. | 你太老了 太年轻了 |
| 99 | You'll mess up. | 你会搞砸的 |
| 100 | Don't do it. | 别 |
| 101 | It tries to protect you from a risk of failure, | 它试图保护你 避免失败的风险, |
| 102 | judgment or criticism. | 判断或批评。 |
| 103 | How? | 怎么会? |
| 104 | By keeping you paralyzed so you don't take any action | 让你瘫痪 这样你就不会采取任何行动 |
| 105 | because then you're safe, but you're also stuck. | 因为那时你很安全 但你也被困住了 |
| 106 | If your parents set high standards for you | 如果你的父母为你设定了高标准 |
| 107 | and excessively criticized you | 并且过分批评你, |
| 108 | when you failed to meet these standards, | 当你没有达到这些标准, |
| 109 | for example, you got an A, | 例如,你有一个A, |
| 110 | why couldn't you get an A plus | 为什么你不能得到一个A+ |
| 111 | like your perfect cousin Julio? | 就像你完美的表弟朱利奥? |
| 112 | You may hear it as your misguided protector up here, | 你可以在这里听到你被误导的守护者的声音 |
| 113 | which leads you to fear failure and never feel ready. | 这让你害怕失败 永远无法做好准备 |
| 114 | Second to last is the ringmaster. | 第二至最后是戒师. |
| 115 | The ringmaster is all about productivity guilt. | 掌门人讲的是生产力的内疚 |
| 116 | If you're not familiar with the term, | 如果你对术语不熟悉 |
| 117 | it's when you have an unhealthy drive to keep working | 是当你有一个不健康的驱动器 继续工作 |
| 118 | because you feel guilty when you stop. | 因为你停止的时候感到内疚 |
| 119 | The ringmaster is very good at brainwashing you | 掌门人很擅长洗脑 |
| 120 | into believing that your worth and merit as a person | 相信你作为一个人的价值和功绩 |
| 121 | are directly correlated to how productive you are. | 和你的生产力直接相关 |
| 122 | You achieve a goal, feel no satisfaction | 你达到目的,不满意 |
| 123 | and immediately jump to the next goal, | 并立即跳到下一个进球, |
| 124 | the unfulfilling treadmill of achievement addiction. | 无法完成的脚步车 成就成瘾。 |
| 125 | But the thing is, no matter how hard you push yourself | 但问题是,无论你如何努力 |
| 126 | or what you achieve, you will never be good enough | 或你的成就,你永远也不够好 |
| 127 | or have done enough for the ringmaster. | 或者已经做了足够的 指使。 |
| 128 | Our survey of two and a half thousand people globally | 我们对全球2.5万人的调查 |
| 129 | found an overwhelming 93% experienced this guilt frequently, | 发现93%的人 经常经历这种罪责 |
| 130 | putting themselves at risk of burnout. | 让自己面临燃烧的危险 |
| 131 | Maybe you haven't met any of these deceivers yet, | 也许你还没有见过这些骗子 |
| 132 | but instead are well acquainted with this last one. | 却对这最后一篇很熟悉 |
| 133 | Closely related to the ringmaster, it's the neglector. | 与戒师关系密切,是疏忽者. |
| 134 | When you feel insecure in your worth, | 当你觉得没有安全感 你的价值, |
| 135 | you anticipate rejection. | 你将拒绝。 |
| 136 | So you constantly seek validation | 所以你不断寻求验证 |
| 137 | by prioritizing the needs of everyone else. | 通过优先考虑其他人的需要。 |
| 138 | If you didn't receive emotional validation as a child | 如果你小时候没有得到情感鉴定 |
| 139 | or you had a parent that was hard to please, | 或者你有一个很难取悦的父母 |
| 140 | you might work really hard as an adult to try | 你可能真的努力 作为一个成年人尝试 |
| 141 | and seek approval from everyone around you, | 并征求你周围所有人的同意, |
| 142 | partners, peers, coworkers, your boss. | 合伙人,同伴,同事,你的老板。 |
| 143 | And then whenever you don't receive it, | 然后每当你没有得到它, |
| 144 | it's an automatic trigger | 自动触发 |
| 145 | and you have a conditioned need to win it back. | 并且你有一个条件 需要赢得它回来。 |
| 146 | The neglector drives you to give beyond your capacity, | 忽视者驱使你超越你的能力 |
| 147 | leaving you exhausted, drained and overwhelmed. | 让你精疲力竭 精疲力竭 不堪重负 |
| 148 | So the stakes are high. | 故其利害甚高. |
| 149 | If you listen to these deceivers, | 如果你听这些骗子的话 |
| 150 | you buy into their narrative and give them power over you. | 你买进他们的叙述 并赋予他们权力 对你。 |
| 151 | The good news is that change is possible. | 好消息是改变是可能的。 |
| 152 | You can break free from these limits. | 你可以打破这些限制。 |
| 153 | The first step is awareness. | 第一步是提高认识。 |
| 154 | If you have a classic judge hurling judgment | 如果你有一个典型的法官 抛出判断 |
| 155 | and criticism at you for everything that you do, | 批评你所做的一切, |
| 156 | call it out. | 调用它。 |
| 157 | Classic judge, I know you're trying to convince me | 经典法官 我知道你想说服我 |
| 158 | that I'm incompetent right now, | 我现在无能 |
| 159 | but I'm choosing not to listen. | 但我选择不听 |
| 160 | Calling it out in this way | 这样叫出来 |
| 161 | is a form of psychological distancing | 是一种心理疏远的形式 |
| 162 | where you're referring to this part of yourself | 你指的是你自己的这部分 |
| 163 | in the third person. | 在第三人称。 |
| 164 | We know from science that third person self-talk | 我们从科学上知道第三人称自言自语 |
| 165 | helps you gain emotional distance from your deceiver, | 帮助你与你的欺骗者保持感情上的距离, |
| 166 | allowing you to think with more rationality. | 让你更理性地思考 |
| 167 | If you notice your victimizer, | 如果你注意到你的伤害者, |
| 168 | making you feel like you should just give up | 让你觉得你应该放弃 |
| 169 | because the world is against you, | 因为世界反对你, |
| 170 | shift to an internal locus of control, | 转向内部控制中心, |
| 171 | except the fact that you can choose | 除了你可以选择 |
| 172 | what you focus on at any moment. | 你随时关注的 |
| 173 | You can choose to focus on things outside of your control | 你可以选择专注于你无法控制的事情 |
| 174 | and feel powerless, | 并且感觉无力, |
| 175 | or you control what you have control over. | 或者你控制你拥有的一切 |
| 176 | Instead of saying, look at what happened to me, | 而不是说,看看我发生了什么事, |
| 177 | look at what they did to me, | 看看他们对我做了什么 |
| 178 | use a technique called cognitive shifting | 使用一种叫做认知转变的技术 |
| 179 | and consciously redirect your attention to, | 并自觉地将注意力转向, |
| 180 | okay, this is what's happening in my life. | 好吧,这就是发生在我的生活中。 |
| 181 | This is where I want to be | 这就是我想要的地方 |
| 182 | and this is what I'm going to do about it. | 这就是我要做的 |
| 183 | Now you're speaking from a position of personal power. | 现在你从个人权力的角度说话 |
| 184 | You take responsibility for what's within your control | 你对自己控制的一切负责 |
| 185 | and choose to take action. | 并选择采取行动。 |
| 186 | What if you hear your misguided protector in your psyche | 如果你在你的心理中听到你错误的保护者 |
| 187 | trying to convince you that you'll fail | 试图说服你 你会失败 |
| 188 | so you shouldn't try at all? | 所以,你不应该尝试吗? |
| 189 | I have my own experience with my misguided protector. | 我有自己的经验 与我的误导保护者。 |
| 190 | Chances are I wouldn't even be here | 我可能不会在这里 |
| 191 | or where I am today if I listened to it. | 或我今天所在的地方 如果我听它。 |
| 192 | Back in March of 2020, | 回到2020年3月时, |
| 193 | when the world was suddenly in lockdowns, | 当世界突然被封锁的时候, |
| 194 | all of our business bookings | 我们所有的商务预订 |
| 195 | were either canceled or postponed | 被取消或推迟 |
| 196 | and our business was dead in the water. | 我们的生意就死在水里 |
| 197 | So I was curious about experimenting | 所以我对实验感到好奇 |
| 198 | with an app called TikTok. | 有个叫TikTok的应用程序 |
| 199 | I wanted to create content | 我想创造内容 |
| 200 | and see if we could help people through that platform. | 看看我们能不能通过这个平台帮助人们。 |
| 201 | But then my protector woke up and said, | 但后来我的守护者醒来说, |
| 202 | people will think you're ridiculous. | 人们会认为你很可笑 |
| 203 | You're way too old for that. | 你年纪太大了 |
| 204 | It's going to ruin your reputation. | 这会毁了你的声誉 |
| 205 | And I listened to my protector for two months | 我听了两个月的保护者的话 |
| 206 | until I didn't anymore. | 直到我不再这样 |
| 207 | I decided to take action instead. | 我决定采取行动 |
| 208 | I created 40 pieces of video content in one day. | 我一天内创造了40个视频内容. |
| 209 | This way I couldn't back down for 40 days | 这样我40天都回不来了 |
| 210 | no matter what my protector said. | 不管我的保护者怎么说 |
| 211 | And you know what? | 你知道吗? |
| 212 | All it took was 40 days to see tens of thousands | 只花了40天才看到数万人 |
| 213 | of followers start to accumulate. | 追随者开始积累。 |
| 214 | I didn't make perfection the goal. | 我没有让完美的目标。 |
| 215 | I made the process the goal. | 我让过程成为目标 |
| 216 | And nearly two years later, | 两年后, |
| 217 | we have a million followers on that platform | 这个平台上有百万的追随者 |
| 218 | and over 2 million across all major social media platforms, | 和超过200万 在所有主要的社交媒体平台, |
| 219 | which has been the best marketing for our business, | 这一直是我们企业最好的营销, |
| 220 | taking us global and allowing us to help people | 带我们走向全球,让我们帮助人民 |
| 221 | all around the world. | 到处都是 |
| 222 | And none of that would have happened | 这一切都不会发生 |
| 223 | if I'd listened to my protector and stayed safe. | 如果我听了保护者的话 并保持安全 |
| 224 | So if you ever feel your protector taking over, | 所以如果你觉得你的保护者接管 |
| 225 | grab a blank sheet of paper | 抓一张空白的纸 |
| 226 | and write down all the protector's arguments. | 并记录所有的保护者的论点。 |
| 227 | Then ask, is this scenario likely to happen? | 那么,问,这种情景 有可能发生吗? |
| 228 | What's the worst that could happen realistically? | 最糟糕的会发生什么? |
| 229 | Take time to rationally risk assess | 花时间进行合理的风险评估 |
| 230 | and you'll likely find it's just your protector | 你会发现它只是你的保护者 |
| 231 | being overly dramatic. | 过于戏剧化。 |
| 232 | Given the protector tries to keep you safe | 保护者想保护你 |
| 233 | by keeping you stuck, the best antidote is to take action. | 最好的解药就是采取行动 |
| 234 | Don't worry about getting things right the first go. | 不用担心先把事情搞好 |
| 235 | Don't make perfection the standard. | 别让标准完美 |
| 236 | Just act, be consistent and be open to growth. | 行动起来,保持一贯,向增长开放。 |
| 237 | Make the process the goal. | 让过程成为目标。 |
| 238 | Now the ringmaster, if you feel undeserving | 现在的掌声,如果你觉得不值得 |
| 239 | of taking a break and feel guilt or shame when you do, | 当你休息,感到内疚或羞耻, |
| 240 | change the narrative in your head. | 改变你脑袋里的叙事 |
| 241 | Value yourself for who you are, not what you've done. | 珍视自己是谁,而不是你做了什么。 |
| 242 | Stop wearing busy as a badge of honor. | 别忙着戴着荣誉徽章 |
| 243 | Remind yourself of your qualities, | 提醒自己你的素质, |
| 244 | the value you add to the lives of others, | 你给别人的生活带来的价值, |
| 245 | how you make a difference, write this down. | 写下来 写下来 |
| 246 | And with this sense of empowerment, | 有了这种赋予权力的感觉, |
| 247 | pragmatically set healthy boundaries | 务实地确定健康的界限 |
| 248 | so that you have a more balanced life. | 以便你们过上更加平衡的生活。 |
| 249 | Working hard at times is not a bad thing, | 有时努力工作不是坏事 |
| 250 | but risking burnout is counterproductive to performance. | 但冒着被烧死的风险,对业绩是适得其反的。 |
| 251 | And finally, those of you who have a loud neglector, | 最后,你们中那些有明显的疏忽者, |
| 252 | I know what you're going through. | 我知道你在经历什么。 |
| 253 | Early in my career, my neglector was loud. | 职业生涯初期,我的忽视者声大. |
| 254 | I would constantly over-apologize | 我会不断的过度道歉 |
| 255 | when I hadn't done anything wrong, | 当我没有做错什么, |
| 256 | agree with people when I actually disagreed on principle, | 同意人们的意见,其实我不同意原则, |
| 257 | avoid any possibility of conflict and would say, | 并会说, |
| 258 | yes, of course, when I really meant no. | 是的,当然,当我真的意思不是。 |
| 259 | I was a people pleaser to the point | 我是一个民意喜悦的人 |
| 260 | of sacrificing who I truly was. | 牺牲我的真面目 |
| 261 | I gave away so much of myself | 我放弃了这么多自己 |
| 262 | in my efforts to be approved of | 我为批准 |
| 263 | that I no longer knew who I was. | 我不再知道我是谁。 |
| 264 | But you can't be limitless | 但你不能无穷无尽 |
| 265 | if you have nothing left inside to give. | 如果你里面没有东西可以给你 |
| 266 | If you have a strong neglector like I did, | 如果你像我一样有很强的疏忽者 |
| 267 | you need to overcome the codependency and acknowledge | 您需要克服 编码和承认 |
| 268 | your worth is not linked to how you think others see you. | 你的价值与你的看法无关 |
| 269 | If you let people's perception of you dictate your behavior, | 如果你让别人对你的看法 支配你的行为 |
| 270 | you will never grow as a person. | 你永远不会成长为一个人。 |
| 271 | And when you do choose to give of yourself in the future, | 当你选择在未来献身时 |
| 272 | ask, am I doing this out of compulsion for approval | 问,我这样做是不是出于强迫 批准 |
| 273 | or is it in a true spirit of service? | 还是真正的服务精神? |
| 274 | So these are the five inner critical deceivers, | 这五个内在的欺骗者, |
| 275 | the archetypes I've identified cross-culturally | 从文化角度上来说,我所发现的古老类型 |
| 276 | with people all around the world. | 与世界各地的人。 |
| 277 | And what's really interesting is that we've observed | 有趣的是,我们观察到 |
| 278 | that many high performers believe | 许多优秀的艺人相信 |
| 279 | that these inner deceivers are central | 这些内在的欺骗者是核心 |
| 280 | to driving their performance. | 驾驶他们的表演。 |
| 281 | While outwardly they appear successful, | 虽然他们表面上看起来很成功, |
| 282 | allowing their core driving force to emanate | 允许其核心动力出现 |
| 283 | from the fear of failure, envy, greed, | 远离失败 嫉妒 贪婪 |
| 284 | seeking approval and status is a proven source | 寻求批准和身份证明是一个来源 |
| 285 | of unhappiness, constant stress and a lack of fulfillment. | 幸福、压力和缺乏满足 |
| 286 | What they failed to realize was that they've become trapped | 他们没意识到 他们被困住了 |
| 287 | in the obsessive prison of self. | 在自恋的监狱里 |
| 288 | My needs, my pain, my success, how people see me. | 我的需要,我的痛苦,我的成功, 人们如何看待我。 |
| 289 | So they continue to operate through a desire | 所以他们继续通过欲望运作 |
| 290 | to avoid negative states and outcomes | 避免消极状态和结果 |
| 291 | instead of being in a limitless mindset. | 而不是陷入无限的心态。 |
| 292 | It's a bad deal. | 交易不顺. |
| 293 | Here is a better deal. | 这是更好的交易。 |
| 294 | If our reality is indeed our thoughts, | 如果我们的现实确实是我们的想法, |
| 295 | emotions and how we uniquely experience the world, | 情感和我们如何独特的体验世界, |
| 296 | then I invite you to acknowledge | 那我请你们承认 |
| 297 | that there is a second side to us, | 我们还有另一面, |
| 298 | our higher nature, if you will. | 我们的天性,如果你愿意的话。 |
| 299 | One that is intrinsically motivated by a desire | 一个内在的动机是欲望 |
| 300 | to express excellence, confidence, being of service, | 表达卓越、自信、服务 |
| 301 | love, creativity, courage and justice. | 爱、创造力、勇气和正义 |
| 302 | This is the limitless aspect of our nature | 这是我们本性无限的一面 |
| 303 | that is liberated from the prison of the insistent self. | 从牢狱中解放出来 |
| 304 | And as you consistently put in the work | 就像你一直以来把工作放在 |
| 305 | to decouple from your inner deceivers, | 与你的内在欺骗者决裂, |
| 306 | integrating the practices I've shared with daily routines | 将我分享的日常做法结合起来 |
| 307 | of meditation, journaling, prayer and reflection, | 以便你们记念、记念、祈祷和思维, |
| 308 | I want you to remember that each one of us | 我要你记住我们每个人 |
| 309 | has the power to operate from our higher, | 有能力从我们的上级行动, |
| 310 | our limitless nature. | 我们无限的本性 |
| 311 | The struggle to keep them at bay is a lifelong one, | 阻止他们的斗争是终身的 |
| 312 | but I promise you, as you've distanced yourself | 但我答应你,因为你已经疏远了自己 |
| 313 | from these voices, your life will begin to transform. | 从这些声音, 你的生活将开始改变。 |
| 314 | So I have a challenge for you. | 所以我有一个挑战给你。 |
| 315 | Seriously commit to reframing your relationship | 认真承诺重塑你们的关系 |
| 316 | with your inner deceivers. | 与你的内在欺骗者。 |
| 317 | Acknowledge they exist, be aware of them | 承认他们的存在, 了解他们 |
| 318 | and learn to discern between rational thought | 学会辨别理性的思想 |
| 319 | and the voices of the ego. | 和自我的声音。 |
| 320 | Your prison of self, it limits you. | 你的自我监狱,它限制了你。 |
| 321 | When you break free, your thoughts become limitless. | 当你打破自由, 你的思想变得无限。 |
| 322 | You become limitless. | 你变得无限。 |
| 323 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
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