成功的秘诀【TED演讲】
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剧集目录
| 集 | 标题 | 时长 |
|---|---|---|
| P1 | 成功的秘诀【TED演讲】 中英双语 | 12:33 |
| P2 | 成功的秘诀【TED演讲】 英文字幕(注释+中文外挂) | 12:33 |
| P3 | 成功的秘诀【TED演讲】 无字幕(中英外挂) | 12:33 |
P1 · 成功的秘诀【TED演讲】 p01 中英双语 (P1)
字幕摘录
| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:01 | So I have a question for you to get started today. | 我今天有个问题要问你 |
| 0:05 | Have any of you ever in this fast pace hustle environment | 你们有谁在这么快的环境下 |
| 0:10 | questioned when is enough enough? | 问到什么时候就够了? |
| 0:14 | Because I have, and I'm gonna share with you my story today. | 因为我有 今天我要跟你分享我的故事 |
| 0:19 | So imagine the thermostat red 33 degrees, one degree Celsius. | 想象一下恒温器红33度,摄氏1度 |
| 0:27 | I vividly remember being nine years old, | 我生动地记得9岁时 |
| 0:30 | having no heat, no food in the fridge, | 没有热, 没有食物在冰箱里, |
| 0:33 | and my dad's truck had just been repossessed. | 我爸爸的卡车被收回了 |
| 0:37 | No matter how hard he tried, we kept falling behind. | 不管他怎么努力,我们总是落在后面 |
| 0:41 | We lost everything. | 我们失去了一切。 |
展开字幕全文（256 条）
| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | So I have a question for you to get started today. | 我今天有个问题要问你 |
| 2 | Have any of you ever in this fast pace hustle environment | 你们有谁在这么快的环境下 |
| 3 | questioned when is enough enough? | 问到什么时候就够了? |
| 4 | Because I have, and I'm gonna share with you my story today. | 因为我有 今天我要跟你分享我的故事 |
| 5 | So imagine the thermostat red 33 degrees, one degree Celsius. | 想象一下恒温器红33度,摄氏1度 |
| 6 | I vividly remember being nine years old, | 我生动地记得9岁时 |
| 7 | having no heat, no food in the fridge, | 没有热, 没有食物在冰箱里, |
| 8 | and my dad's truck had just been repossessed. | 我爸爸的卡车被收回了 |
| 9 | No matter how hard he tried, we kept falling behind. | 不管他怎么努力,我们总是落在后面 |
| 10 | We lost everything. | 我们失去了一切。 |
| 11 | As a kid, I watched all of this unfold | 小时候,我看过这一切 |
| 12 | and I felt the weight of it on my small shoulders. | 我感觉到它在我的小肩膀上的重量。 |
| 13 | One day I said to my mom, | 有一天我对我妈说 |
| 14 | I'll make sure our family never suffers again. | 我会确保我们家不再受苦 |
| 15 | I will find a way to be successful. | 我会想办法成功 |
| 16 | That's become my fuel. | 这将成为我的燃料。 |
| 17 | That promise became my fuel. | 这个承诺成了我的燃料 |
| 18 | It powered me through college. | 它为我提供了大学的动力 |
| 19 | It lifted me past every setback | 它使我摆脱每一次挫折 |
| 20 | and carried me up the ladder, one promotion after another. | 把我抬到梯子上 一次又一次升职 |
| 21 | I kept climbing, succeeding by every metric. | 我不停攀登,成功的每一度度。 |
| 22 | But then last year, everything came crashing down. | 但去年,一切都崩溃了 |
| 23 | I was at home in bed working | 我在家睡觉 |
| 24 | when I started having another asthma attack. | 当我又开始哮喘发作时 |
| 25 | My pulse, my oxygen, everything started dropping. | 我的脉搏 我的氧气 一切开始下降 |
| 26 | Well, except my productivity. | 除了我的生产力 |
| 27 | I would never let that go down. | 我绝对不会放过你的 |
| 28 | At the time, I was heading a business division | 当时我领导一个商业部门 |
| 29 | at a Fortune 500 company | 在一个财富500公司 |
| 30 | going through a major reorganization. | 经历了重大重组。 |
| 31 | I was responsible for the livelihoods | 我负责生计 |
| 32 | of close to a thousand people, | 以一千人盟誓, |
| 33 | not to mention my three children at home. | 更别说我家里的三个孩子了 |
| 34 | But my asthma kept getting worse | 但我的哮喘越来越严重 |
| 35 | and my inhaler and all the medications stopped working. | 我的吸入器和所有的药物都失效了 |
| 36 | I called a friend who was a nurse and she stated my reality. | 我给一个护士的朋友打电话 她陈述了我的现实 |
| 37 | If you don't go to the hospital right now, | 如果你现在不去医院 |
| 38 | your children are gonna watch you being rolled away | 你的孩子会看着你被卷走 |
| 39 | on a gurney to a place way worse than the ER. | 到比急诊室更糟糕的地方 |
| 40 | I was rushed to the hospital. | 我被赶到医院 |
| 41 | Doctors thought I had a severe blood infection. | 医生以为我有严重的血液感染 |
| 42 | They tested me for pneumonia, internal bleeding, | 他们检测我肺炎 内出血 |
| 43 | kidney function, autoimmune disease and leukemia. | 肾功能,自体免疫疾病和白血病. |
| 44 | No one could figure out why I was so sick | 没人知道为什么我病得这么重 |
| 45 | and that was really freaking me out. | 这真的吓死我了。 |
| 46 | That's nothing compared to what happened next. | 这跟接下来发生的事没什么比 |
| 47 | Imagine struggling to breathe with extreme fogginess. | 想象一下在极度雾霾中挣扎呼吸 |
| 48 | But when you try to tell the doctor, | 但当你试图告诉医生, |
| 49 | you not only can't speak the words, you can't recall them. | 你不仅不能说这些话 也不能回忆起 |
| 50 | Instantly, I lost the ability to communicate | 瞬间,我失去了沟通的能力 |
| 51 | and there was my husband, panic-stricken, | 我的丈夫,惊慌失措, |
| 52 | trying to convey to the doctors what I was trying to say. | 试图向医生传达我想说的话。 |
| 53 | Before this hospital visit, | 在这医院来之前 |
| 54 | I could rattle off every important number from last quarter | 上个季度的每个重要号码我都可以敲响 |
| 55 | but at this very moment, | 但此时此刻, |
| 56 | I couldn't even tell you my address. | 我甚至不能告诉你我的地址 |
| 57 | Something terrifying was happening to my mind. | 我脑海中发生了可怕的事 |
| 58 | How could I function like this? | 我怎么会这样? |
| 59 | Was this how I was gonna spend the rest of my life? | 这就是我打算如何度过我的余生吗? |
| 60 | Death felt less scary. | 死亡感觉不那么可怕。 |
| 61 | I'm a numbers person and during this period, | 我是一个数字人物 在这期间, |
| 62 | I had two sets of numbers telling me very different things. | 我有两组数字告诉我非常不同的事情。 |
| 63 | At my job, I showed numbers of success, | 在我工作的时候,我表现出了成功 |
| 64 | hundreds of millions of dollars in a P&L | 亿元的P&L |
| 65 | and six successful company-wide reorganizations. | 和6次成功的全公司重组。 |
| 66 | However, six was also the number of times | 然而,六次也是次数 |
| 67 | I had been in the ER last year alone. | 去年我一个人在急诊室 |
| 68 | My weekly, sometimes daily blood tests and checkups | 我的每周,有时是每天的血液检查和检查 |
| 69 | concerning my health were showing a terrible decline. | 关于我的健康 显示一个可怕的下降。 |
| 70 | My physician pled and warned me, | 我的医生告诉我, |
| 71 | if you don't stop working like this, it will kill you. | 如果你不停止这样的工作, 它会杀了你。 |
| 72 | Then leaving the hospital one night, | 然后有一天晚上离开医院 |
| 73 | my husband who was frustrated | 我丈夫很沮丧 |
| 74 | and really needed to get through to me, | 并且真的需要 通通给我, |
| 75 | said, Erica, when is enough enough? | 艾丽卡 什么时候够了 |
| 76 | And I stopped, I thought about it | 我停下来,我考虑过 |
| 77 | and I didn't know what was enough or when was enough. | 我不知道什么是足够的,什么时候是足够的。 |
| 78 | But maybe there's a way to figure it out | 但也许有办法解决 |
| 79 | and you could catch yourself | 你可以抓住自己,你就会找到自己 |
| 80 | before you get to the terrifying place I did or worse. | 在你到达我之前 或者更糟的地方 |
| 81 | I've created a blueprint that answers | 我已经创造了一个蓝图 答案 |
| 82 | when is enough enough? | 什么时候足够? |
| 83 | It starts with three simple yet powerful questions. | 它从三个简单而有力的问题开始。 |
| 84 | The first is what is my body telling me? | 第一,我的身体告诉我什么? |
| 85 | Our bodies are designed to signal when something's wrong, | 我们的身体被设计成在有问题时发出信号, |
| 86 | when we're hungry, tired, in pain or sick. | 当我们饿了,累了, 在痛苦或生病。 |
| 87 | But how often do we push past these signs, | 但是我们多久一次地通过这些迹象, |
| 88 | push through our discomfort and keep going? | 继续前进? |
| 89 | For me, this was a habit, almost like second nature. | 对我来说,这是一个习惯, 几乎像第二大自然。 |
| 90 | And why wouldn't it be? | 为什么不呢? |
| 91 | We get rewarded for it. | 我们为此得到奖励。 |
| 92 | Study all night, honor roll. | 通宵修习,荣誉卷. |
| 93 | Never take a sick day, employee of the year. | 永远不要生病,一年的雇员。 |
| 94 | Outwork everybody else, get promoted. | 别管别人,升职 |
| 95 | This mindset of pushing through, the hustle mindset, | 这种推进的心态, 狡猾的心态, |
| 96 | is so ingrained in us that when it was time for me | 我们深陷其中 以至于我到了时间 |
| 97 | to stop and listen to my body, | 停下来听我的身体, |
| 98 | it felt like laziness and failure. | 感觉像懒惰和失败。 |
| 99 | This was my way of life. | 这是我的生活方式。 |
| 100 | The body whispers, but when ignored, it begins to scream. | 尸体轻声低语,但被忽略后开始尖叫. |
| 101 | And when I didn't listen for far too long, | 当我很久没听了 |
| 102 | I ended up in the ER. | 我最终在急诊室。 |
| 103 | Here's the thing. | 事情是这样的 |
| 104 | Ignoring these signals comes at a cost. | 忽略这些信号是代价高昂的. |
| 105 | The research from the American Institute of Stress | 美国压力研究所的研究 |
| 106 | shows that 77% of people experience physical symptoms | 77%的人有身体症状 |
| 107 | from stress, but only a fraction address them | 压力,但只有一小部分解决他们 |
| 108 | before they escalate a fraction. | 在他们升级之前 |
| 109 | The Associations of Psychological Science | 心理科学协会 |
| 110 | states interoception, the brain's ability | 大脑的能力 |
| 111 | to interpret signals from the body, | 解释来自身体的信号, |
| 112 | is a key factor in managing our emotions, | 是管理我们情绪的关键因素, |
| 113 | making decisions and responding to strips. | 做决定和回应条条。 |
| 114 | Yet we've trained ourselves to override it | 但是我们训练了自己来控制它 |
| 115 | and just push through. | 推过去 |
| 116 | Your heart races, your shoulders tense and your gut churns, | 你的心跳,你的肩膀紧张 你的直觉, |
| 117 | but instead of listening, we plow ahead. | 而不是听,我们前进。 |
| 118 | Does this sound familiar to anybody? | 听起来有人熟悉吗? |
| 119 | Anybody else can relate with this? | 还有谁能和这个有关吗? |
| 120 | And yet our gut instinct literally, quite literally | 然而,我们的直觉 字面上,相当字面上 |
| 121 | is often our best guide. | 常常是我们最好的向导。 |
| 122 | The well-known hospital in the Americas, | 美洲著名医院 |
| 123 | the Cleveland Clinic estimates the gut contains | 克利夫兰诊所估计 肠道包含 |
| 124 | 500 million neurons and communicates directly | 5亿个神经元和直接通信 |
| 125 | with the brain through the vagus nerve. | 大脑通过阴道神经。 |
| 126 | This connection is so strong that our reactions | 这种联系是如此的强烈,以至于我们的反应 |
| 127 | often predict stress and danger | 经常预测压力和危险 |
| 128 | before we're even consciously aware of them. | 之前,我们甚至有意识地意识到他们。 |
| 129 | For me, the turning point came when my health | 对我来说, 转折点来了 当我的健康 |
| 130 | was at its absolute lowest. | 是绝对最低的。 |
| 131 | I had to relearn to listen to my body | 我不得不重新学习 倾听我的身体 |
| 132 | the way I used to when my kids were little, | 就像我小时候一样 |
| 133 | when they couldn't talk but their signals were clear. | 但他们的信号很清晰 |
| 134 | Crying meant food, a fever meant doctor, | 哭泣意味着食物 发烧意味着医生 |
| 135 | and lying down meant rest. | 躺下意味着休息 |
| 136 | I didn't overthink it, I just reacted. | 我没有想太多,我只是反应。 |
| 137 | What would it look like if we started treating ourselves | 如果我们开始治疗自己会是什么样子 |
| 138 | the way we did our children? | 我们对待孩子的方式? |
| 139 | If we listened to our bodies | 如果我们听我们的身体 |
| 140 | the way we instinctively listened to theirs. | 我们本能地听他们的话 |
| 141 | The next time you feel a signal in your body | 下次你感觉到你体内的信号 |
| 142 | that's telling you something, pause, reflect, take action. | 告诉你一些事情,暂停,反射,采取行动。 |
| 143 | That's what I'm learning to do now, | 这就是我现在学的 |
| 144 | listening to my body before everything else | 听到我的身体之前的一切 |
| 145 | stills my attention. | 仍为我关注 |
| 146 | The next question is what are my loved ones telling me? | 下一个问题是 我的爱人告诉我什么? |
| 147 | I alone cannot define enough. | 我一个人不能定义足够的。 |
| 148 | Every time I come up with something concrete, | 每次我拿出具体的东西 |
| 149 | every time an accomplishment, a figure, | 每一次成就,一个数字, |
| 150 | or a limit to what I can take on, | 或限制我能承担的, |
| 151 | I find a way pushed right past it and set a new target. | 我找到一个方法 推过它并设置一个新的目标。 |
| 152 | Anybody else do this? | 其他人会这么做吗? |
| 153 | It's just me. | 只有我一个人 |
| 154 | It's like an addiction. | 犹如上瘾. |
| 155 | In fact, the Harvard Business Review | 事实上,哈佛商报 |
| 156 | compared the dopamine levels of achieving | 多巴胺含量比较 |
| 157 | at high levels to a drug, | 在高水平的药物, |
| 158 | where withdrawal can lead one anxious or depressed. | 其中退出会导致一个焦虑或沮丧。 |
| 159 | This is why we need the inputs of our loved ones the most. | 这就是为什么我们最需要我们亲人的投入。 |
| 160 | If I can't sense where my limits are, | 如果我感觉不到我的极限 |
| 161 | my family and my friends can. | 我的家人和朋友们可以。 |
| 162 | One day I came home from a work trip | 有一天我下班回来 |
| 163 | and my 11 year old, the ultimate mama's boy, | 还有我11岁的妈妈的终极儿子 |
| 164 | acted like I didn't even exist. | 假装我根本不存在 |
| 165 | He didn't feel like he was a priority to me. | 他不觉得自己是我的首要任务 |
| 166 | It was so painful, but like a mirror, | 它是如此痛苦,但像镜子, |
| 167 | he was reflecting back to me that he was hurting. | 他对我回想起他受伤了 |
| 168 | He wasn't getting enough from me. | 他从我这里得到的还不够。 |
| 169 | As brutal as they are, | 和他们一样残酷 |
| 170 | these are the moments that helped me find my limits. | 这是帮助我找到极限的时刻 |
| 171 | Research out of UC Berkeley proves | 加州大学伯克利分校的研究证明 |
| 172 | that strong relationships are as important | 强烈的关系同样重要 |
| 173 | to physical health as diet and exercise. | 身体健康作为饮食和锻炼。 |
| 174 | But now my kids are older and they have all the words, | 但现在我的孩子年纪大了 他们有所有的话 |
| 175 | sometimes way too many words. | 有时会说太多话 |
| 176 | But the beauty of that is that they've also gotten very good | 但它的美丽在于,他们也变得非常好 |
| 177 | at telling me what they think I need. | 告诉我他们觉得我需要什么 |
| 178 | Mom, maybe it's time for a break. | 妈妈,也许是时候休息了 |
| 179 | I have a long time friend who once told me | 我有个很长一段时间的朋友曾经告诉我 |
| 180 | if you never made another sell in your entire life, | 如果你这辈子再没卖过 |
| 181 | I'm a seller, if you haven't figured that out, | 我是卖家,如果你还不知道 |
| 182 | you never made another sell your entire life, | 你这辈子从没卖过别的 |
| 183 | you would still have value. | 你还有价值 |
| 184 | But I didn't believe him. | 但我没有相信他 |
| 185 | This has always been my struggle. | 这一直是我的斗争 |
| 186 | I've never felt like enough. | 我从来没有觉得像足够。 |
| 187 | So I pushed back and I told him | 所以我推了回去,告诉他 |
| 188 | I was gonna hit my targets. | 我本来想打中目标 |
| 189 | But then he pushed back harder. | 但后来他更用力地推后. |
| 190 | He needed me to know that I had value just by being me. | 他需要我知道我的价值 只是因为我。 |
| 191 | I have value. | 我有价值。 |
| 192 | I love those three words. | 我喜欢这三句话 |
| 193 | Say them with me. | 和我一起说 |
| 194 | I have value. | 我有价值。 |
| 195 | I didn't realize it then, | 当时我还没意识到 |
| 196 | but he was telling me I was enough. | 但他告诉我我够了。 |
| 197 | Who are the mirrors in your life? | 你生活中的镜子是谁? |
| 198 | And are you open to them? | 你对他们开放吗? |
| 199 | The people that can reflect back to you, | 那些可以反射给你的人, |
| 200 | what you can't or won't see for yourself. | 你无法或不愿亲眼看到的 |
| 201 | So the third and last important question | 所以第三个也是最后一个重要问题 |
| 202 | I have to ask myself is what are the numbers telling me? | 我得问问自己 数字告诉我什么? |
| 203 | I train salespeople to live and die by their numbers. | 我训练售货员 死活靠他们的号码 |
| 204 | But in reality, we all live and die by our numbers. | 但在现实中,我们都靠自己的数字而生死. |
| 205 | That is how I've measured success, | 这就是我衡量成功的方式 |
| 206 | however, my entire career. | 然而,我的整个职业生涯。 |
| 207 | And don't get me wrong, I love the work I do. | 别误会,我喜欢我做的工作 |
| 208 | I thrive on setting ambitious goals and achieving them. | 我以制定宏伟目标并实现这些目标为生。 |
| 209 | But again, we all live and die by our numbers. | 但再说一遍,我们都是靠自己的数字而生死存亡的。 |
| 210 | But there is another number that truly matters. | 但另一个数字确实很重要。 |
| 211 | The one that reflects how present and connected we are | 反映我们是如何现身和联系的 |
| 212 | to the people and moments that matter. | 给人民和时刻 这很重要。 |
| 213 | For every one of us, there's a finite amount of time | 对于我们每个人来说 时间是有限的 |
| 214 | in a day and on this planet. | 在一天之内 在这个星球上 |
| 215 | Think back to the last time you were with your loved ones. | 回想上次你和亲人在一起的时候 |
| 216 | How were you spending that time? | 你这段时间过得怎么样? |
| 217 | I want you to count the memories in your mind | 我要你把记忆数到脑海里 |
| 218 | just really quick, but here's the catch. | 只是非常快, 但这里的捕获。 |
| 219 | You can't count the amount of times | 你无法数出次数 |
| 220 | you were buried in your phone, like so many of us do, | 你被埋在你的手机里 就像我们很多人一样 |
| 221 | or your mind was on something else. | 或者你脑子有问题 |
| 222 | How present were you? | 你怎么样的礼物? |
| 223 | If you had to put a number or a percentage on it, | 如果你必须加一个数字或一个百分比, |
| 224 | what would it be? | 会是什么? |
| 225 | Can you live with that number? | 你能接受那个号码吗? |
| 226 | And the bigger question is, can you die with it? | 更大的问题是 你能随它而死吗? |
| 227 | I calculated that number for this year for me, | 我计算了今年的数字 |
| 228 | and I only made it to 68% of all of my major family events. | 而我只完成了我所有重大家庭活动的68%。 |
| 229 | For a really and highly ambitious person like myself, | 对于一个真正和高度雄心勃勃的人 像我一样, |
| 230 | 68% doesn't sound too great, but here is what I've done. | 68%听起来不怎么好,但这是我所做的。 |
| 231 | At those events, I'm 100% present with the people I love, | 在那些事件中,我100%地与我爱的人在一起, |
| 232 | body, mind, and spirit. | 身体 心灵和精神 |
| 233 | No distractions, no divided attention, just presence. | 没有分散注意力,没有分散注意力,只有存在。 |
| 234 | Throughout the last year, I've learned | 在过去一年里,我学会了 |
| 235 | that numbers do matter, | 数字确实很重要, |
| 236 | but they're not the only metric of success. | 但它们不是衡量成功的唯一尺度 |
| 237 | They tell one story, but the deeper truth | 他们只讲一个故事 但更深的真相 |
| 238 | lies in how we live those numbers, | 取决于我们如何生活这些数字, |
| 239 | how deeply we connect with the people | 我们与人民的关系有多深 |
| 240 | and the moments that matter, | 和重要的时刻, |
| 241 | moments like being here with you. | 就像和你在一起一样 |
| 242 | Now I ask you, when is enough enough? | 现在我问你,什么时候够了? |
| 243 | What is your body whispering or screaming for you to hear? | 你的身体在低声或尖叫 让你听到什么? |
| 244 | What truths are your loved ones reflecting back to you? | 你的爱人对你有什么反射? |
| 245 | And if you had to put a number on it, | 如果你必须写一个号码, |
| 246 | how present have you been? | 你怎么样的礼物? |
| 247 | Would you be proud of that number? | 你会为这个号码感到骄傲吗? |
| 248 | Because at the end of the day, | 因为最后 |
| 249 | it's not about how much we've done, | 这不是关于我们做了多少, |
| 250 | but how deeply you've lived and the impact you've made. | 但你的生活有多深 和你的影响力。 |
| 251 | So I'll leave you with this. | 我把这个留给你 |
| 252 | Success isn't about having it all. | 成功不在于拥有一切. |
| 253 | It's about knowing what truly matters | 这是关于知道什么才是真正重要的 |
| 254 | and showing up for it fully and unapologetically. | 并完全和不乐观地表现出来。 |
| 255 | That you see, is more than enough. | 你看,已经足够了。 |
| 256 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
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| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:01 | So I have a question for you to get started today. | 我今天有个问题要问你 |
| 0:05 | Have any of you ever in this fast pace hustle environment | 你们有谁在这么快的环境下 |
| 0:10 | questioned when is enough enough? | 问到什么时候就够了? |
| 0:14 | Because I have, and I'm gonna share with you my story today. | 因为我有 今天我要跟你分享我的故事 |
| 0:19 | So imagine the thermostat red 33 degrees, one degree Celsius. | 想象一下恒温器红33度,摄氏1度 |
| 0:27 | I vividly remember being nine years old, | 我生动地记得9岁时 |
| 0:30 | having no heat, no food in the fridge, | 没有热, 没有食物在冰箱里, |
| 0:33 | and my dad's truck had just been repossessed. | 我爸爸的卡车被收回了 |
| 0:37 | No matter how hard he tried, we kept falling behind. | 不管他怎么努力,我们总是落在后面 |
| 0:41 | We lost everything. | 我们失去了一切。 |
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| 1 | So I have a question for you to get started today. | 我今天有个问题要问你 |
| 2 | Have any of you ever in this fast pace hustle environment | 你们有谁在这么快的环境下 |
| 3 | questioned when is enough enough? | 问到什么时候就够了? |
| 4 | Because I have, and I'm gonna share with you my story today. | 因为我有 今天我要跟你分享我的故事 |
| 5 | So imagine the thermostat red 33 degrees, one degree Celsius. | 想象一下恒温器红33度,摄氏1度 |
| 6 | I vividly remember being nine years old, | 我生动地记得9岁时 |
| 7 | having no heat, no food in the fridge, | 没有热, 没有食物在冰箱里, |
| 8 | and my dad's truck had just been repossessed. | 我爸爸的卡车被收回了 |
| 9 | No matter how hard he tried, we kept falling behind. | 不管他怎么努力,我们总是落在后面 |
| 10 | We lost everything. | 我们失去了一切。 |
| 11 | As a kid, I watched all of this unfold | 小时候,我看过这一切 |
| 12 | and I felt the weight of it on my small shoulders. | 我感觉到它在我的小肩膀上的重量。 |
| 13 | One day I said to my mom, | 有一天我对我妈说 |
| 14 | I'll make sure our family never suffers again. | 我会确保我们家不再受苦 |
| 15 | I will find a way to be successful. | 我会想办法成功 |
| 16 | That's become my fuel. | 这将成为我的燃料。 |
| 17 | That promise became my fuel. | 这个承诺成了我的燃料 |
| 18 | It powered me through college. | 它为我提供了大学的动力 |
| 19 | It lifted me past every setback | 它使我摆脱每一次挫折 |
| 20 | and carried me up the ladder, one promotion after another. | 把我抬到梯子上 一次又一次升职 |
| 21 | I kept climbing, succeeding by every metric. | 我不停攀登,成功的每一度度。 |
| 22 | But then last year, everything came crashing down. | 但去年,一切都崩溃了 |
| 23 | I was at home in bed working | 我在家睡觉 |
| 24 | when I started having another asthma attack. | 当我又开始哮喘发作时 |
| 25 | My pulse, my oxygen, everything started dropping. | 我的脉搏 我的氧气 一切开始下降 |
| 26 | Well, except my productivity. | 除了我的生产力 |
| 27 | I would never let that go down. | 我绝对不会放过你的 |
| 28 | At the time, I was heading a business division | 当时我领导一个商业部门 |
| 29 | at a Fortune 500 company | 在一个财富500公司 |
| 30 | going through a major reorganization. | 经历了重大重组。 |
| 31 | I was responsible for the livelihoods | 我负责生计 |
| 32 | of close to a thousand people, | 以一千人盟誓, |
| 33 | not to mention my three children at home. | 更别说我家里的三个孩子了 |
| 34 | But my asthma kept getting worse | 但我的哮喘越来越严重 |
| 35 | and my inhaler and all the medications stopped working. | 我的吸入器和所有的药物都失效了 |
| 36 | I called a friend who was a nurse | 我打给一个做护士的朋友 |
| 37 | and she stated my reality. | 她陈述了我的现实 |
| 38 | If you don't go to the hospital right now, | 如果你现在不去医院 |
| 39 | your children are gonna watch you being rolled away | 你的孩子会看着你被卷走 |
| 40 | on a gurney to a place way worse than the ER. | 到比急诊室更糟糕的地方 |
| 41 | I was rushed to the hospital. | 我被赶到医院 |
| 42 | Doctors thought I had a severe blood infection. | 医生以为我有严重的血液感染 |
| 43 | They tested me for pneumonia, internal bleeding, | 他们检测我肺炎 内出血 |
| 44 | kidney function, autoimmune disease and leukemia. | 肾功能,自体免疫疾病和白血病. |
| 45 | No one could figure out why I was so sick | 没人知道为什么我病得这么重 |
| 46 | and that was really freaking me out. | 这真的吓死我了。 |
| 47 | That's nothing compared to what happened next. | 这跟接下来发生的事没什么比 |
| 48 | Imagine struggling to breathe with extreme fogginess. | 想象一下在极度雾霾中挣扎呼吸 |
| 49 | But when you try to tell the doctor, | 但当你试图告诉医生, |
| 50 | you not only can't speak the words, you can't recall them. | 你不仅不能说这些话 也不能回忆起 |
| 51 | Instantly, I lost the ability to communicate | 瞬间,我失去了沟通的能力 |
| 52 | and there was my husband, panic-stricken, | 我的丈夫,惊慌失措, |
| 53 | trying to convey to the doctors what I was trying to say. | 试图向医生传达我想说的话。 |
| 54 | Before this hospital visit, | 在这医院来之前 |
| 55 | I could rattle off every important number from last quarter | 上个季度的每个重要号码我都可以敲响 |
| 56 | but at this very moment, | 但此时此刻, |
| 57 | I couldn't even tell you my address. | 我甚至不能告诉你我的地址 |
| 58 | Something terrifying was happening to my mind. | 我脑海中发生了可怕的事 |
| 59 | How could I function like this? | 我怎么会这样? |
| 60 | Was this how I was gonna spend the rest of my life? | 这就是我打算如何度过我的余生吗? |
| 61 | Death felt less scary. | 死亡感觉不那么可怕。 |
| 62 | I'm a numbers person and during this period, | 我是一个数字人物 在这期间, |
| 63 | I had two sets of numbers telling me very different things. | 我有两组数字告诉我非常不同的事情。 |
| 64 | At my job, I showed numbers of success, | 在我工作的时候,我表现出了成功 |
| 65 | hundreds of millions of dollars in a P&L | 亿元的P&L |
| 66 | and six successful company-wide reorganizations. | 和6次成功的全公司重组。 |
| 67 | However, six was also the number of times | 然而,六次也是次数 |
| 68 | I had been in the ER last year alone. | 去年我一个人在急诊室 |
| 69 | My weekly, sometimes daily blood tests and checkups | 我的每周,有时是每天的血液检查和检查 |
| 70 | concerning my health were showing a terrible decline. | 关于我的健康 显示一个可怕的下降。 |
| 71 | My physician pled and warned me, | 我的医生告诉我, |
| 72 | if you don't stop working like this, it will kill you. | 如果你不停止这样的工作, 它会杀了你。 |
| 73 | Then leaving the hospital one night, | 然后有一天晚上离开医院 |
| 74 | my husband, who was frustrated | 我丈夫很沮丧 |
| 75 | and really needed to get through to me, | 并且真的需要 通通给我, |
| 76 | said, Erica, when is enough enough? | 艾丽卡 什么时候够了 |
| 77 | And I stopped, I thought about it | 我停下来,我考虑过 |
| 78 | and I didn't know what was enough or when was enough. | 我不知道什么是足够的,什么时候是足够的。 |
| 79 | But maybe there's a way to figure it out | 但也许有办法解决 |
| 80 | and you could catch yourself | 你可以抓住自己,你就会找到自己 |
| 81 | before you get to the terrifying place I did or worse. | 在你到达我之前 或者更糟的地方 |
| 82 | I've created a blueprint that answers | 我已经创造了一个蓝图 答案 |
| 83 | when is enough enough. | 什么时候足够了? |
| 84 | It starts with three simple yet powerful questions. | 它从三个简单而有力的问题开始。 |
| 85 | The first is what is my body telling me? | 第一,我的身体告诉我什么? |
| 86 | Our bodies are designed to signal when something's wrong, | 我们的身体被设计成在有问题时发出信号, |
| 87 | when we're hungry, tired, in pain or sick. | 当我们饿了,累了, 在痛苦或生病。 |
| 88 | But how often do we push past these signs, | 但是我们多久一次地通过这些迹象, |
| 89 | push through our discomfort and keep going? | 继续前进? |
| 90 | For me, this was a habit, almost like second nature. | 对我来说,这是一个习惯, 几乎像第二大自然。 |
| 91 | And why wouldn't it be? | 为什么不呢? |
| 92 | We get rewarded for it. | 我们为此得到奖励。 |
| 93 | Study all night, honor roll. | 通宵修习,荣誉卷. |
| 94 | Never take a sick day, employee of the year. | 永远不要生病,一年的雇员。 |
| 95 | Outwork everybody else, get promoted. | 别管别人,升职 |
| 96 | This mindset of pushing through, | 这种推动的心态, |
| 97 | the hustle mindset is so ingrained in us | 花招的心态 已经深深植根于我们 |
| 98 | that when it was time for me to stop and listen to my body, | 当我停下来倾听我的身体的时候, |
| 99 | it felt like laziness and failure. | 感觉像懒惰和失败。 |
| 100 | This was my way of life. | 这是我的生活方式。 |
| 101 | The body whispers, but when ignored, it begins to scream. | 尸体轻声低语,但被忽略后开始尖叫. |
| 102 | And when I didn't listen for far too long, | 当我很久没听了 |
| 103 | I ended up in the ER. | 我最终在急诊室。 |
| 104 | Here's the thing. | 事情是这样的 |
| 105 | Ignoring these signals comes at a cost. | 忽略这些信号是代价高昂的. |
| 106 | The research from the American Institute of Stress | 美国压力研究所的研究 |
| 107 | shows that 77% of people experience physical symptoms | 77%的人有身体症状 |
| 108 | from stress, but only a fraction address them | 压力,但只有一小部分解决他们 |
| 109 | before they escalate a fraction. | 在他们升级之前 |
| 110 | The Associations of Psychological Science | 心理科学协会 |
| 111 | states interoception, the brain's ability | 大脑的能力 |
| 112 | to interpret signals from the body, | 解释来自身体的信号, |
| 113 | is a key factor in managing our emotions, | 是管理我们情绪的关键因素, |
| 114 | making decisions and responding to strips. | 做决定和回应条条。 |
| 115 | Yet we've trained ourselves to override it | 但是我们训练了自己来控制它 |
| 116 | and just push through. | 推过去 |
| 117 | Your heart races, your shoulders tense and your gut churns, | 你的心跳,你的肩膀紧张 你的直觉, |
| 118 | but instead of listening, we plow ahead. | 而不是听,我们前进。 |
| 119 | Does this sound familiar to anybody? | 听起来有人熟悉吗? |
| 120 | Anybody else can relate with this? | 还有谁能和这个有关吗? |
| 121 | And yet our gut instinct literally, | 然而我们的直觉, |
| 122 | quite literally is often our best guide. | 从字面上讲,常常是我们最好的指导。 |
| 123 | The well-known hospital in the Americas, | 美洲著名医院 |
| 124 | the Cleveland Clinic estimates | 克利夫兰诊所估计 |
| 125 | the gut contains 500 million neurons | 肠道含有5亿个神经元 |
| 126 | and communicates directly with the brain | 直接与大脑沟通 |
| 127 | through the vagus nerve. | 穿过阴险的神经 |
| 128 | This connection is so strong | 联系这么紧密 |
| 129 | that our reactions often predict stress and danger | 我们的反应往往预测压力和危险 |
| 130 | before we're even consciously aware of them. | 之前,我们甚至有意识地意识到他们。 |
| 131 | For me, the turning point came | 对我来说,转折点来了 |
| 132 | when my health was at its absolute lowest. | 当我的健康处于绝对最低水平时 |
| 133 | I had to relearn to listen to my body | 我不得不重新学习 倾听我的身体 |
| 134 | the way I used to when my kids were little, | 就像我小时候一样 |
| 135 | when they couldn't talk but their signals were clear. | 但他们的信号很清晰 |
| 136 | Crying meant food, a fever meant doctor, | 哭泣意味着食物 发烧意味着医生 |
| 137 | and lying down meant rest. | 躺下意味着休息 |
| 138 | I didn't overthink it, I just reacted. | 我没有想太多,我只是反应。 |
| 139 | What would it look like if we started treating ourselves | 如果我们开始治疗自己会是什么样子 |
| 140 | the way we did our children? | 我们对待孩子的方式? |
| 141 | If we listened to our bodies | 如果我们听我们的身体 |
| 142 | the way we instinctively listened to theirs. | 我们本能地听他们的话 |
| 143 | The next time you feel a signal in your body | 下次你感觉到你体内的信号 |
| 144 | that's telling you something, pause, reflect, take action. | 告诉你一些事情,暂停,反射,采取行动。 |
| 145 | That's what I'm learning to do now, | 这就是我现在学的 |
| 146 | listening to my body | 听从我的身体 |
| 147 | before everything else steals my attention. | 趁别的事还没引起我的注意 |
| 148 | The next question is what are my loved ones telling me? | 下一个问题是 我的爱人告诉我什么? |
| 149 | I alone cannot define enough. | 我一个人不能定义足够的。 |
| 150 | Every time I come up with something concrete, | 每次我拿出具体的东西 |
| 151 | every time an accomplishment, a figure or a limit | 每次成就、数字或极限 |
| 152 | to what I can take on, | 对于我能承担的一切, |
| 153 | I find a way pushed right past it and set a new target. | 我找到一个方法 推过它并设置一个新的目标。 |
| 154 | Anybody else do this? | 其他人会这么做吗? |
| 155 | It's just me. | 只有我一个人 |
| 156 | It's like an addiction. | 犹如上瘾. |
| 157 | In fact, the Harvard Business Review | 事实上,哈佛商报 |
| 158 | compared the dopamine levels of achieving | 多巴胺含量比较 |
| 159 | at high levels to a drug | 高水平毒品 |
| 160 | where withdrawal can lead one anxious or depressed. | 其中退出会导致一个焦虑或沮丧。 |
| 161 | This is why we need the inputs of our loved ones the most. | 这就是为什么我们最需要我们亲人的投入。 |
| 162 | If I can't sense where my limits are, | 如果我感觉不到我的极限 |
| 163 | my family and my friends can. | 我的家人和朋友们可以。 |
| 164 | One day I came home from a work trip | 有一天我下班回来 |
| 165 | and my 11 year old, the ultimate mama's boy, | 还有我11岁的妈妈的终极儿子 |
| 166 | acted like I didn't even exist. | 假装我根本不存在 |
| 167 | He didn't feel like he was a priority to me. | 他不觉得自己是我的首要任务 |
| 168 | It was so painful, but like a mirror, | 它是如此痛苦,但像镜子, |
| 169 | he was reflecting back to me that he was hurting. | 他对我回想起他受伤了 |
| 170 | He wasn't getting enough from me. | 他从我这里得到的还不够。 |
| 171 | As brutal as they are, | 和他们一样残酷 |
| 172 | these are the moments that helped me find my limits. | 这是帮助我找到极限的时刻 |
| 173 | Research out of UC Berkeley proves | 加州大学伯克利分校的研究证明 |
| 174 | that strong relationships are as important | 强烈的关系同样重要 |
| 175 | to physical health as diet and exercise. | 身体健康作为饮食和锻炼。 |
| 176 | But now my kids are older and they have all the words, | 但现在我的孩子年纪大了 他们有所有的话 |
| 177 | sometimes way too many words. | 有时会说太多话 |
| 178 | But the beauty of that is that they've also gotten very good | 但它的美丽在于,他们也变得非常好 |
| 179 | at telling me what they think I need. | 告诉我他们觉得我需要什么 |
| 180 | Mom, maybe it's time for a break. | 妈妈,也许是时候休息了 |
| 181 | I have a long time friend who once told me | 我有个很长一段时间的朋友曾经告诉我 |
| 182 | if you never made another sell in your entire life, | 如果你这辈子再没卖过 |
| 183 | I'm a seller, if you haven't figured that out, | 我是卖家,如果你还不知道 |
| 184 | you never made another sell your entire life, | 你这辈子从没卖过别的 |
| 185 | you would still have value. | 你还有价值 |
| 186 | But I didn't believe him. | 但我没有相信他 |
| 187 | This has always been my struggle. | 这一直是我的斗争 |
| 188 | I've never felt like enough. | 我从来没有觉得像足够。 |
| 189 | So I pushed back and I told him I was gonna hit my targets. | 所以我推后,我告诉他我要去打击我的目标。 |
| 190 | But then he pushed back harder. | 但后来他更用力地推后. |
| 191 | He needed me to know that I had value just by being me. | 他需要我知道我的价值 只是因为我。 |
| 192 | I have value. | 我有价值。 |
| 193 | I love those three words. | 我喜欢这三句话 |
| 194 | Say them with me. | 和我一起说 |
| 195 | I have value. | 我有价值。 |
| 196 | I didn't realize it then, | 当时我还没意识到 |
| 197 | but he was telling me I was enough. | 但他告诉我我够了。 |
| 198 | Who are the mirrors in your life and are you open to them? | 你生活中的镜子是谁 你对他们开放吗? |
| 199 | The people that can reflect back to you, | 那些可以反射给你的人, |
| 200 | what you can't or won't see for yourself. | 你无法或不愿亲眼看到的 |
| 201 | So the third and last important question | 所以第三个也是最后一个重要问题 |
| 202 | I have to ask myself is what are the numbers telling me? | 我得问问自己 数字告诉我什么? |
| 203 | I train salespeople to live and die by their numbers. | 我训练售货员 死活靠他们的号码 |
| 204 | But in reality, we all live and die by our numbers. | 但在现实中,我们都靠自己的数字而生死. |
| 205 | That is how I've measured success. | 这就是我衡量成功的方式。 |
| 206 | However, my entire career. | 然而,我的整个职业生涯。 |
| 207 | And don't get me wrong, I love the work I do. | 别误会,我喜欢我做的工作 |
| 208 | I thrive on setting ambitious goals and achieving them. | 我以制定宏伟目标并实现这些目标为生。 |
| 209 | But again, we all live and die by our numbers. | 但再说一遍,我们都是靠自己的数字而生死存亡的。 |
| 210 | But there is another number that truly matters. | 但另一个数字确实很重要。 |
| 211 | The one that reflects how present and connected we are | 反映我们是如何现身和联系的 |
| 212 | to the people and moments that matter. | 给人民和时刻 这很重要。 |
| 213 | For every one of us, there's a finite amount of time | 对于我们每个人来说 时间是有限的 |
| 214 | in a day and on this planet. | 在一天之内 在这个星球上 |
| 215 | Think back to the last time you were with your loved ones. | 回想上次你和亲人在一起的时候 |
| 216 | How were you spending that time? | 你这段时间过得怎么样? |
| 217 | I want you to count the memories in your mind | 我要你把记忆数到脑海里 |
| 218 | just really quick, but here's the catch. | 只是非常快, 但这里的捕获。 |
| 219 | You can't count the amount of times | 你无法数出次数 |
| 220 | you were buried in your phone, like so many of us do, | 你被埋在你的手机里 就像我们很多人一样 |
| 221 | or your mind was on something else. | 或者你脑子有问题 |
| 222 | How present were you? | 你怎么样的礼物? |
| 223 | If you had to put a number or a percentage on it, | 如果你必须加一个数字或一个百分比, |
| 224 | what would it be? | 会是什么? |
| 225 | Can you live with that number? | 你能接受那个号码吗? |
| 226 | And the bigger question is, can you die with it? | 更大的问题是 你能随它而死吗? |
| 227 | I calculated that number for this year for me, | 我计算了今年的数字 |
| 228 | and I only made it to 68% of all of my major family events. | 而我只完成了我所有重大家庭活动的68%。 |
| 229 | For a really and highly ambitious person like myself, | 对于一个真正和高度雄心勃勃的人 像我一样, |
| 230 | 68% doesn't sound too great. | 68%听起来不太妙 |
| 231 | But here is what I've done. | 但这就是我所做的。 |
| 232 | At those events, I'm 100% present with the people I love, | 在那些事件中,我100%地与我爱的人在一起, |
| 233 | body, mind, and spirit. | 身体 心灵和精神 |
| 234 | No distractions, no divided attention, just presence. | 没有分散注意力,没有分散注意力,只有存在。 |
| 235 | Throughout the last year, | 在过去一年中, |
| 236 | I've learned that numbers do matter, | 我知道数字很重要 |
| 237 | but they're not the only metric of success. | 但它们不是衡量成功的唯一尺度 |
| 238 | They tell one story, | 他们讲一个故事 |
| 239 | but the deeper truth lies in how we live those numbers, | 但更深层的真相在于 我们如何生活这些数字, |
| 240 | how deeply we connect with the people | 我们与人民的关系有多深 |
| 241 | and the moments that matter. | 还有那些重要的时刻 |
| 242 | Moments like being here with you. | 就像和你在一起一样 |
| 243 | Now I ask you, when is enough enough? | 现在我问你,什么时候够了? |
| 244 | What is your body whispering or screaming for you to hear? | 你的身体在低声或尖叫 让你听到什么? |
| 245 | What truths are your loved ones reflecting back to you? | 你的爱人对你有什么反射? |
| 246 | And if you had to put a number on it, | 如果你必须写一个号码, |
| 247 | how present have you been? | 你怎么样的礼物? |
| 248 | Would you be proud of that number? | 你会为这个号码感到骄傲吗? |
| 249 | Because at the end of the day, | 因为最后 |
| 250 | it's not about how much we've done, | 这不是关于我们做了多少, |
| 251 | but how deeply you've lived and the impact you've made. | 但你的生活有多深 和你的影响力。 |
| 252 | So I'll leave you with this. | 我把这个留给你 |
| 253 | Success isn't about having it all. | 成功不在于拥有一切. |
| 254 | It's about knowing what truly matters | 这是关于知道什么才是真正重要的 |
| 255 | and showing up for it fully and unapologetically. | 并完全和不乐观地表现出来。 |
| 256 | That you see is more than enough. | 你看到的已经足够了。 |
| 257 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
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| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:01 | So I have a question for you to get started today. | 我今天有个问题要问你 |
| 0:05 | Have any of you ever in this fast pace hustle environment | 你们有谁在这么快的环境下 |
| 0:10 | questioned when is enough enough? | 问到什么时候就够了? |
| 0:14 | Because I have, and I'm gonna share with you my story today. | 因为我有 今天我要跟你分享我的故事 |
| 0:19 | So imagine the thermostat red 33 degrees, one degree Celsius. | 想象一下恒温器红33度,摄氏1度 |
| 0:27 | I vividly remember being nine years old, | 我生动地记得9岁时 |
| 0:30 | having no heat, no food in the fridge, | 没有热, 没有食物在冰箱里, |
| 0:33 | and my dad's truck had just been repossessed. | 我爸爸的卡车被收回了 |
| 0:37 | No matter how hard he tried, we kept falling behind. | 不管他怎么努力,我们总是落在后面 |
| 0:41 | We lost everything. | 我们失去了一切。 |
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| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | So I have a question for you to get started today. | 我今天有个问题要问你 |
| 2 | Have any of you ever in this fast pace hustle environment | 你们有谁在这么快的环境下 |
| 3 | questioned when is enough enough? | 问到什么时候就够了? |
| 4 | Because I have, and I'm gonna share with you my story today. | 因为我有 今天我要跟你分享我的故事 |
| 5 | So imagine the thermostat red 33 degrees, one degree Celsius. | 想象一下恒温器红33度,摄氏1度 |
| 6 | I vividly remember being nine years old, | 我生动地记得9岁时 |
| 7 | having no heat, no food in the fridge, | 没有热, 没有食物在冰箱里, |
| 8 | and my dad's truck had just been repossessed. | 我爸爸的卡车被收回了 |
| 9 | No matter how hard he tried, we kept falling behind. | 不管他怎么努力,我们总是落在后面 |
| 10 | We lost everything. | 我们失去了一切。 |
| 11 | As a kid, I watched all of this unfold | 小时候,我看过这一切 |
| 12 | and I felt the weight of it on my small shoulders. | 我感觉到它在我的小肩膀上的重量。 |
| 13 | One day I said to my mom, | 有一天我对我妈说 |
| 14 | I'll make sure our family never suffers again. | 我会确保我们家不再受苦 |
| 15 | I will find a way to be successful. | 我会想办法成功 |
| 16 | That's become my fuel. | 这将成为我的燃料。 |
| 17 | That promise became my fuel. | 这个承诺成了我的燃料 |
| 18 | It powered me through college. | 它为我提供了大学的动力 |
| 19 | It lifted me past every setback | 它使我摆脱每一次挫折 |
| 20 | and carried me up the ladder, one promotion after another. | 把我抬到梯子上 一次又一次升职 |
| 21 | I kept climbing, succeeding by every metric. | 我不停攀登,成功的每一度度。 |
| 22 | But then last year, everything came crashing down. | 但去年,一切都崩溃了 |
| 23 | I was at home in bed working | 我在家睡觉 |
| 24 | when I started having another asthma attack. | 当我又开始哮喘发作时 |
| 25 | My pulse, my oxygen, everything started dropping. | 我的脉搏 我的氧气 一切开始下降 |
| 26 | Well, except my productivity. | 除了我的生产力 |
| 27 | I would never let that go down. | 我绝对不会放过你的 |
| 28 | At the time, I was heading a business division | 当时我领导一个商业部门 |
| 29 | at a Fortune 500 company | 在一个财富500公司 |
| 30 | going through a major reorganization. | 经历了重大重组。 |
| 31 | I was responsible for the livelihoods | 我负责生计 |
| 32 | of close to a thousand people, | 以一千人盟誓, |
| 33 | not to mention my three children at home. | 更别说我家里的三个孩子了 |
| 34 | But my asthma kept getting worse | 但我的哮喘越来越严重 |
| 35 | and my inhaler and all the medications stopped working. | 我的吸入器和所有的药物都失效了 |
| 36 | I called a friend who was a nurse and she stated my reality. | 我给一个护士的朋友打电话 她陈述了我的现实 |
| 37 | If you don't go to the hospital right now, | 如果你现在不去医院 |
| 38 | your children are gonna watch you being rolled away | 你的孩子会看着你被卷走 |
| 39 | on a gurney to a place way worse than the ER. | 到比急诊室更糟糕的地方 |
| 40 | I was rushed to the hospital. | 我被赶到医院 |
| 41 | Doctors thought I had a severe blood infection. | 医生以为我有严重的血液感染 |
| 42 | They tested me for pneumonia, internal bleeding, | 他们检测我肺炎 内出血 |
| 43 | kidney function, autoimmune disease and leukemia. | 肾功能,自体免疫疾病和白血病. |
| 44 | No one could figure out why I was so sick | 没人知道为什么我病得这么重 |
| 45 | and that was really freaking me out. | 这真的吓死我了。 |
| 46 | That's nothing compared to what happened next. | 这跟接下来发生的事没什么比 |
| 47 | Imagine struggling to breathe with extreme fogginess. | 想象一下在极度雾霾中挣扎呼吸 |
| 48 | But when you try to tell the doctor, | 但当你试图告诉医生, |
| 49 | you not only can't speak the words, you can't recall them. | 你不仅不能说这些话 也不能回忆起 |
| 50 | Instantly, I lost the ability to communicate | 瞬间,我失去了沟通的能力 |
| 51 | and there was my husband, panic-stricken, | 我的丈夫,惊慌失措, |
| 52 | trying to convey to the doctors what I was trying to say. | 试图向医生传达我想说的话。 |
| 53 | Before this hospital visit, | 在这医院来之前 |
| 54 | I could rattle off every important number from last quarter | 上个季度的每个重要号码我都可以敲响 |
| 55 | but at this very moment, | 但此时此刻, |
| 56 | I couldn't even tell you my address. | 我甚至不能告诉你我的地址 |
| 57 | Something terrifying was happening to my mind. | 我脑海中发生了可怕的事 |
| 58 | How could I function like this? | 我怎么会这样? |
| 59 | Was this how I was gonna spend the rest of my life? | 这就是我打算如何度过我的余生吗? |
| 60 | Death felt less scary. | 死亡感觉不那么可怕。 |
| 61 | I'm a numbers person and during this period, | 我是一个数字人物 在这期间, |
| 62 | I had two sets of numbers telling me very different things. | 我有两组数字告诉我非常不同的事情。 |
| 63 | At my job, I showed numbers of success, | 在我工作的时候,我表现出了成功 |
| 64 | hundreds of millions of dollars in a P&L | 亿元的P&L |
| 65 | and six successful company-wide reorganizations. | 和6次成功的全公司重组。 |
| 66 | However, six was also the number of times | 然而,六次也是次数 |
| 67 | I had been in the ER last year alone. | 去年我一个人在急诊室 |
| 68 | My weekly, sometimes daily blood tests and checkups | 我的每周,有时是每天的血液检查和检查 |
| 69 | concerning my health were showing a terrible decline. | 关于我的健康 显示一个可怕的下降。 |
| 70 | My physician pled and warned me, | 我的医生告诉我, |
| 71 | if you don't stop working like this, it will kill you. | 如果你不停止这样的工作, 它会杀了你。 |
| 72 | Then leaving the hospital one night, | 然后有一天晚上离开医院 |
| 73 | my husband who was frustrated | 我丈夫很沮丧 |
| 74 | and really needed to get through to me, | 并且真的需要 通通给我, |
| 75 | said, Erica, when is enough enough? | 艾丽卡 什么时候够了 |
| 76 | And I stopped, I thought about it | 我停下来,我考虑过 |
| 77 | and I didn't know what was enough or when was enough. | 我不知道什么是足够的,什么时候是足够的。 |
| 78 | But maybe there's a way to figure it out | 但也许有办法解决 |
| 79 | and you could catch yourself | 你可以抓住自己,你就会找到自己 |
| 80 | before you get to the terrifying place I did or worse. | 在你到达我之前 或者更糟的地方 |
| 81 | I've created a blueprint that answers | 我已经创造了一个蓝图 答案 |
| 82 | when is enough enough? | 什么时候足够? |
| 83 | It starts with three simple yet powerful questions. | 它从三个简单而有力的问题开始。 |
| 84 | The first is what is my body telling me? | 第一,我的身体告诉我什么? |
| 85 | Our bodies are designed to signal when something's wrong, | 我们的身体被设计成在有问题时发出信号, |
| 86 | when we're hungry, tired, in pain or sick. | 当我们饿了,累了, 在痛苦或生病。 |
| 87 | But how often do we push past these signs, | 但是我们多久一次地通过这些迹象, |
| 88 | push through our discomfort and keep going? | 继续前进? |
| 89 | For me, this was a habit, almost like second nature. | 对我来说,这是一个习惯, 几乎像第二大自然。 |
| 90 | And why wouldn't it be? | 为什么不呢? |
| 91 | We get rewarded for it. | 我们为此得到奖励。 |
| 92 | Study all night, honor roll. | 通宵修习,荣誉卷. |
| 93 | Never take a sick day, employee of the year. | 永远不要生病,一年的雇员。 |
| 94 | Outwork everybody else, get promoted. | 别管别人,升职 |
| 95 | This mindset of pushing through, the hustle mindset, | 这种推进的心态, 狡猾的心态, |
| 96 | is so ingrained in us that when it was time for me | 我们深陷其中 以至于我到了时间 |
| 97 | to stop and listen to my body, | 停下来听我的身体, |
| 98 | it felt like laziness and failure. | 感觉像懒惰和失败。 |
| 99 | This was my way of life. | 这是我的生活方式。 |
| 100 | The body whispers, but when ignored, it begins to scream. | 尸体轻声低语,但被忽略后开始尖叫. |
| 101 | And when I didn't listen for far too long, | 当我很久没听了 |
| 102 | I ended up in the ER. | 我最终在急诊室。 |
| 103 | Here's the thing. | 事情是这样的 |
| 104 | Ignoring these signals comes at a cost. | 忽略这些信号是代价高昂的. |
| 105 | The research from the American Institute of Stress | 美国压力研究所的研究 |
| 106 | shows that 77% of people experience physical symptoms | 77%的人有身体症状 |
| 107 | from stress, but only a fraction address them | 压力,但只有一小部分解决他们 |
| 108 | before they escalate a fraction. | 在他们升级之前 |
| 109 | The Associations of Psychological Science | 心理科学协会 |
| 110 | states interoception, the brain's ability | 大脑的能力 |
| 111 | to interpret signals from the body, | 解释来自身体的信号, |
| 112 | is a key factor in managing our emotions, | 是管理我们情绪的关键因素, |
| 113 | making decisions and responding to strips. | 做决定和回应条条。 |
| 114 | Yet we've trained ourselves to override it | 但是我们训练了自己来控制它 |
| 115 | and just push through. | 推过去 |
| 116 | Your heart races, your shoulders tense and your gut churns, | 你的心跳,你的肩膀紧张 你的直觉, |
| 117 | but instead of listening, we plow ahead. | 而不是听,我们前进。 |
| 118 | Does this sound familiar to anybody? | 听起来有人熟悉吗? |
| 119 | Anybody else can relate with this? | 还有谁能和这个有关吗? |
| 120 | And yet our gut instinct literally, quite literally | 然而,我们的直觉 字面上,相当字面上 |
| 121 | is often our best guide. | 常常是我们最好的向导。 |
| 122 | The well-known hospital in the Americas, | 美洲著名医院 |
| 123 | the Cleveland Clinic estimates the gut contains | 克利夫兰诊所估计 肠道包含 |
| 124 | 500 million neurons and communicates directly | 5亿个神经元和直接通信 |
| 125 | with the brain through the vagus nerve. | 大脑通过阴道神经。 |
| 126 | This connection is so strong that our reactions | 这种联系是如此的强烈,以至于我们的反应 |
| 127 | often predict stress and danger | 经常预测压力和危险 |
| 128 | before we're even consciously aware of them. | 之前,我们甚至有意识地意识到他们。 |
| 129 | For me, the turning point came when my health | 对我来说, 转折点来了 当我的健康 |
| 130 | was at its absolute lowest. | 是绝对最低的。 |
| 131 | I had to relearn to listen to my body | 我不得不重新学习 倾听我的身体 |
| 132 | the way I used to when my kids were little, | 就像我小时候一样 |
| 133 | when they couldn't talk but their signals were clear. | 但他们的信号很清晰 |
| 134 | Crying meant food, a fever meant doctor, | 哭泣意味着食物 发烧意味着医生 |
| 135 | and lying down meant rest. | 躺下意味着休息 |
| 136 | I didn't overthink it, I just reacted. | 我没有想太多,我只是反应。 |
| 137 | What would it look like if we started treating ourselves | 如果我们开始治疗自己会是什么样子 |
| 138 | the way we did our children? | 我们对待孩子的方式? |
| 139 | If we listened to our bodies | 如果我们听我们的身体 |
| 140 | the way we instinctively listened to theirs. | 我们本能地听他们的话 |
| 141 | The next time you feel a signal in your body | 下次你感觉到你体内的信号 |
| 142 | that's telling you something, pause, reflect, take action. | 告诉你一些事情,暂停,反射,采取行动。 |
| 143 | That's what I'm learning to do now, | 这就是我现在学的 |
| 144 | listening to my body before everything else | 听到我的身体之前的一切 |
| 145 | stills my attention. | 仍为我关注 |
| 146 | The next question is what are my loved ones telling me? | 下一个问题是 我的爱人告诉我什么? |
| 147 | I alone cannot define enough. | 我一个人不能定义足够的。 |
| 148 | Every time I come up with something concrete, | 每次我拿出具体的东西 |
| 149 | every time an accomplishment, a figure, | 每一次成就,一个数字, |
| 150 | or a limit to what I can take on, | 或限制我能承担的, |
| 151 | I find a way pushed right past it and set a new target. | 我找到一个方法 推过它并设置一个新的目标。 |
| 152 | Anybody else do this? | 其他人会这么做吗? |
| 153 | It's just me. | 只有我一个人 |
| 154 | It's like an addiction. | 犹如上瘾. |
| 155 | In fact, the Harvard Business Review | 事实上,哈佛商报 |
| 156 | compared the dopamine levels of achieving | 多巴胺含量比较 |
| 157 | at high levels to a drug, | 在高水平的药物, |
| 158 | where withdrawal can lead one anxious or depressed. | 其中退出会导致一个焦虑或沮丧。 |
| 159 | This is why we need the inputs of our loved ones the most. | 这就是为什么我们最需要我们亲人的投入。 |
| 160 | If I can't sense where my limits are, | 如果我感觉不到我的极限 |
| 161 | my family and my friends can. | 我的家人和朋友们可以。 |
| 162 | One day I came home from a work trip | 有一天我下班回来 |
| 163 | and my 11 year old, the ultimate mama's boy, | 还有我11岁的妈妈的终极儿子 |
| 164 | acted like I didn't even exist. | 假装我根本不存在 |
| 165 | He didn't feel like he was a priority to me. | 他不觉得自己是我的首要任务 |
| 166 | It was so painful, but like a mirror, | 它是如此痛苦,但像镜子, |
| 167 | he was reflecting back to me that he was hurting. | 他对我回想起他受伤了 |
| 168 | He wasn't getting enough from me. | 他从我这里得到的还不够。 |
| 169 | As brutal as they are, | 和他们一样残酷 |
| 170 | these are the moments that helped me find my limits. | 这是帮助我找到极限的时刻 |
| 171 | Research out of UC Berkeley proves | 加州大学伯克利分校的研究证明 |
| 172 | that strong relationships are as important | 强烈的关系同样重要 |
| 173 | to physical health as diet and exercise. | 身体健康作为饮食和锻炼。 |
| 174 | But now my kids are older and they have all the words, | 但现在我的孩子年纪大了 他们有所有的话 |
| 175 | sometimes way too many words. | 有时会说太多话 |
| 176 | But the beauty of that is that they've also gotten very good | 但它的美丽在于,他们也变得非常好 |
| 177 | at telling me what they think I need. | 告诉我他们觉得我需要什么 |
| 178 | Mom, maybe it's time for a break. | 妈妈,也许是时候休息了 |
| 179 | I have a long time friend who once told me | 我有个很长一段时间的朋友曾经告诉我 |
| 180 | if you never made another sell in your entire life, | 如果你这辈子再没卖过 |
| 181 | I'm a seller, if you haven't figured that out, | 我是卖家,如果你还不知道 |
| 182 | you never made another sell your entire life, | 你这辈子从没卖过别的 |
| 183 | you would still have value. | 你还有价值 |
| 184 | But I didn't believe him. | 但我没有相信他 |
| 185 | This has always been my struggle. | 这一直是我的斗争 |
| 186 | I've never felt like enough. | 我从来没有觉得像足够。 |
| 187 | So I pushed back and I told him | 所以我推了回去,告诉他 |
| 188 | I was gonna hit my targets. | 我本来想打中目标 |
| 189 | But then he pushed back harder. | 但后来他更用力地推后. |
| 190 | He needed me to know that I had value just by being me. | 他需要我知道我的价值 只是因为我。 |
| 191 | I have value. | 我有价值。 |
| 192 | I love those three words. | 我喜欢这三句话 |
| 193 | Say them with me. | 和我一起说 |
| 194 | I have value. | 我有价值。 |
| 195 | I didn't realize it then, | 当时我还没意识到 |
| 196 | but he was telling me I was enough. | 但他告诉我我够了。 |
| 197 | Who are the mirrors in your life? | 你生活中的镜子是谁? |
| 198 | And are you open to them? | 你对他们开放吗? |
| 199 | The people that can reflect back to you, | 那些可以反射给你的人, |
| 200 | what you can't or won't see for yourself. | 你无法或不愿亲眼看到的 |
| 201 | So the third and last important question | 所以第三个也是最后一个重要问题 |
| 202 | I have to ask myself is what are the numbers telling me? | 我得问问自己 数字告诉我什么? |
| 203 | I train salespeople to live and die by their numbers. | 我训练售货员 死活靠他们的号码 |
| 204 | But in reality, we all live and die by our numbers. | 但在现实中,我们都靠自己的数字而生死. |
| 205 | That is how I've measured success, | 这就是我衡量成功的方式 |
| 206 | however, my entire career. | 然而,我的整个职业生涯。 |
| 207 | And don't get me wrong, I love the work I do. | 别误会,我喜欢我做的工作 |
| 208 | I thrive on setting ambitious goals and achieving them. | 我以制定宏伟目标并实现这些目标为生。 |
| 209 | But again, we all live and die by our numbers. | 但再说一遍,我们都是靠自己的数字而生死存亡的。 |
| 210 | But there is another number that truly matters. | 但另一个数字确实很重要。 |
| 211 | The one that reflects how present and connected we are | 反映我们是如何现身和联系的 |
| 212 | to the people and moments that matter. | 给人民和时刻 这很重要。 |
| 213 | For every one of us, there's a finite amount of time | 对于我们每个人来说 时间是有限的 |
| 214 | in a day and on this planet. | 在一天之内 在这个星球上 |
| 215 | Think back to the last time you were with your loved ones. | 回想上次你和亲人在一起的时候 |
| 216 | How were you spending that time? | 你这段时间过得怎么样? |
| 217 | I want you to count the memories in your mind | 我要你把记忆数到脑海里 |
| 218 | just really quick, but here's the catch. | 只是非常快, 但这里的捕获。 |
| 219 | You can't count the amount of times | 你无法数出次数 |
| 220 | you were buried in your phone, like so many of us do, | 你被埋在你的手机里 就像我们很多人一样 |
| 221 | or your mind was on something else. | 或者你脑子有问题 |
| 222 | How present were you? | 你怎么样的礼物? |
| 223 | If you had to put a number or a percentage on it, | 如果你必须加一个数字或一个百分比, |
| 224 | what would it be? | 会是什么? |
| 225 | Can you live with that number? | 你能接受那个号码吗? |
| 226 | And the bigger question is, can you die with it? | 更大的问题是 你能随它而死吗? |
| 227 | I calculated that number for this year for me, | 我计算了今年的数字 |
| 228 | and I only made it to 68% of all of my major family events. | 而我只完成了我所有重大家庭活动的68%。 |
| 229 | For a really and highly ambitious person like myself, | 对于一个真正和高度雄心勃勃的人 像我一样, |
| 230 | 68% doesn't sound too great, but here is what I've done. | 68%听起来不怎么好,但这是我所做的。 |
| 231 | At those events, I'm 100% present with the people I love, | 在那些事件中,我100%地与我爱的人在一起, |
| 232 | body, mind, and spirit. | 身体 心灵和精神 |
| 233 | No distractions, no divided attention, just presence. | 没有分散注意力,没有分散注意力,只有存在。 |
| 234 | Throughout the last year, I've learned | 在过去一年里,我学会了 |
| 235 | that numbers do matter, | 数字确实很重要, |
| 236 | but they're not the only metric of success. | 但它们不是衡量成功的唯一尺度 |
| 237 | They tell one story, but the deeper truth | 他们只讲一个故事 但更深的真相 |
| 238 | lies in how we live those numbers, | 取决于我们如何生活这些数字, |
| 239 | how deeply we connect with the people | 我们与人民的关系有多深 |
| 240 | and the moments that matter, | 和重要的时刻, |
| 241 | moments like being here with you. | 就像和你在一起一样 |
| 242 | Now I ask you, when is enough enough? | 现在我问你,什么时候够了? |
| 243 | What is your body whispering or screaming for you to hear? | 你的身体在低声或尖叫 让你听到什么? |
| 244 | What truths are your loved ones reflecting back to you? | 你的爱人对你有什么反射? |
| 245 | And if you had to put a number on it, | 如果你必须写一个号码, |
| 246 | how present have you been? | 你怎么样的礼物? |
| 247 | Would you be proud of that number? | 你会为这个号码感到骄傲吗? |
| 248 | Because at the end of the day, | 因为最后 |
| 249 | it's not about how much we've done, | 这不是关于我们做了多少, |
| 250 | but how deeply you've lived and the impact you've made. | 但你的生活有多深 和你的影响力。 |
| 251 | So I'll leave you with this. | 我把这个留给你 |
| 252 | Success isn't about having it all. | 成功不在于拥有一切. |
| 253 | It's about knowing what truly matters | 这是关于知道什么才是真正重要的 |
| 254 | and showing up for it fully and unapologetically. | 并完全和不乐观地表现出来。 |
| 255 | That you see is more than enough. | 你看到的已经足够了。 |
| 256 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
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