【双语音】（恋爱指南）那些能让女性产生这种感受的男人才算约会
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| 0:00 | Have you ever noticed how some guys can be good-looking, well-dressed, even charming, | 你有没有注意到一些男人 如何长得漂亮, 穿得漂亮,甚至迷人, |
| 0:04 | and women still walk away from the date feeling absolutely nothing? | 女人仍然远离约会 感觉完全没有? |
| 0:08 | Meanwhile, another guy who | 同时,另一个家伙 |
| 0:10 | isn't trying nearly as hard can make a woman feel instantly at ease, and suddenly the whole vibe | 没有那么努力 能让一个女人立即感到轻松 突然整个气氛 |
| 0:15 | shifts. | 换班。 |
| 0:16 | There's actually data that explains this in a huge national survey from Match. | 在Match的一次全国调查中,有数据可以解释这一点。 |
| 0:20 | Over 5,000 | 超过5 000人 |
| 0:21 | singles were asked what matters most on a first date, and nearly 8 out of 10 women said the most | 第一次约会被问及什么是最重要的,近十分之八的妇女说 |
| 0:26 | thing, more than being impressed, more than being excited, even more than feeling liked by the guy, | 不只是被打动 更像是被兴奋 更像是被他喜欢 |
| 0:32 | was simply feeling comfortable. | 感觉很舒服 |
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| 1 | Have you ever noticed how some guys can be good-looking, well-dressed, even charming, | 你有没有注意到一些男人 如何长得漂亮, 穿得漂亮,甚至迷人, |
| 2 | and women still walk away from the date feeling absolutely nothing? | 女人仍然远离约会 感觉完全没有? |
| 3 | Meanwhile, another guy who | 同时,另一个家伙 |
| 4 | isn't trying nearly as hard can make a woman feel instantly at ease, and suddenly the whole vibe | 没有那么努力 能让一个女人立即感到轻松 突然整个气氛 |
| 5 | shifts. | 换班。 |
| 6 | There's actually data that explains this in a huge national survey from Match. | 在Match的一次全国调查中,有数据可以解释这一点。 |
| 7 | Over 5,000 | 超过5 000人 |
| 8 | singles were asked what matters most on a first date, and nearly 8 out of 10 women said the most | 第一次约会被问及什么是最重要的,近十分之八的妇女说 |
| 9 | thing, more than being impressed, more than being excited, even more than feeling liked by the guy, | 不只是被打动 更像是被兴奋 更像是被他喜欢 |
| 10 | was simply feeling comfortable. | 感觉很舒服 |
| 11 | That one word says everything. | 那个字说一切. |
| 12 | Because from a woman's perspective | 因为从女人的角度看 |
| 13 | here, when women talk about comfort, they're really talking about safety. | 在这里,当女人谈论舒适, 他们真的在谈论安全。 |
| 14 | Not just physical safety, | 不只是身体安全, |
| 15 | but emotional safety. | 但情绪安全。 |
| 16 | That sense of, I can breathe around this person. | 这种感觉,我可以在这个人周围呼吸。 |
| 17 | And the reason so many guys | 这么多人的原因 |
| 18 | get this wrong is because they're trying to be memorable or impressive or interesting, | 搞错了是因为他们想难忘 或令人印象深刻或有趣 |
| 19 | but they're not tuned into whether she actually feels at ease in their presence. | 但他们并不知道她是否真的在他们面前感到轻松 |
| 20 | If you're new here, hi, I'm Courtney Ryan, and in today's video, I want to break down what really | 如果你是新来的 我是Courtney Ryan 在今天的录影带里 我想打破什么 |
| 21 | makes a man feel safe to women. | 让男人对女人有安全感 |
| 22 | Not the cliches that you've heard before, but the deeper signals, | 不是以前听到的陈词滥调 而是更深层次的信号 |
| 23 | the subtle behaviors, and the mindset shifts that genuinely change how a woman perceives you. | 那些微妙的行为, 和心态的转变 真正改变一个女人对你的看法。 |
| 24 | Once | 一次 |
| 25 | you understand this, I think everything else in dating will feel a little bit easier. | 你明白的,我觉得其他的约会 都会觉得容易一些。 |
| 26 | The connection, | 连接 |
| 27 | the conversation, all of it starts here. | 谈话从这里开始 |
| 28 | So let's get started. | 因此,让我们开始。 |
| 29 | The first thing on my list here today | 今天我在这里的第一件事 |
| 30 | is emotional predictability. | 是情感的可预测性。 |
| 31 | When women talk about feeling safe with a man, they're usually | 当女人谈论 感觉安全的男人,她们通常 |
| 32 | describing emotional safety more than anything else. | 描述情感安全比其他任何东西都多。 |
| 33 | And emotional safety really starts with | 和情感安全 真正开始 |
| 34 | predictability, not boring predictability, just the sense that your reactions and your energy | 可预测性,而不是无聊的可预测性, 只是感觉你的反应和精力 |
| 35 | are steady and stable. | 稳定稳定。 |
| 36 | A woman wants to know the man she's getting from one moment to the next is | 一个女人想知道 从一个时刻到另一个时刻 |
| 37 | basically the same person. | 基本上就是同一个人 |
| 38 | If you're warm and attentive one day and distant or irritated the | 如果有一天你温暖细心 远离或烦恼 |
| 39 | next, or if your mood flips unexpectedly, she feels like she has to sort of brace herself around | 接下来,或者如果你的心情突然翻转, 她觉得她必须 有点自己周围 |
| 40 | you. | 你们 |
| 41 | And that is when she's going to tense up, overthink everything she's saying, or start trying | 那时她会紧张起来 过度思考她所说的一切 或者开始尝试 |
| 42 | to manage your emotions for you, which is not a good thing. | 来帮你处理你的情绪 这不是一件好事 |
| 43 | But when a man has this calm consistency, | 但是,当一个人有这种平静的一致性, |
| 44 | everything changes. | 一切都变了 |
| 45 | She knows your general temperament. | 她知道你总的脾气 |
| 46 | She knows that you don't lash out, | 她知道你不会乱动 |
| 47 | withdraw suddenly, give the silent treatment, or turn cold without explanation. | 突然退出,给予沉默的治疗,或者变冷而不解释. |
| 48 | She doesn't feel | 她不觉得 |
| 49 | she has to walk on eggshells around you. | 她必须走在 蛋壳周围你。 |
| 50 | That steadiness might seem really subtle to you as a | 你可能觉得这种态度很微妙 |
| 51 | man, but to women, it is a massive signal of safety. | 男人,但对于女人来说, 这是一个巨大的安全信号。 |
| 52 | This is why anxious texting patterns, | 这就是为什么焦虑的短信模式, |
| 53 | emotional whiplash, love bombing, and then pulling away, all of those behaviors instantly make a | 情感鞭策,爱情爆炸, 然后拉走, 所有这些行为 立即 |
| 54 | woman feel unsafe because deep down, predictability is what tells her, I can let my guard down here. | 女人感到不安全,因为从内心深处, 可预测性是告诉她, 我可以让我的警惕下来在这里。 |
| 55 | And that is the foundation for any connection that feels good to her. | 这是任何对她有利的联系的基础。 |
| 56 | When it comes to making | 说到制作 |
| 57 | women feel safe, consistency and emotional steadiness are key, but that kind of reliability | 妇女感到安全、一致和情绪的准备是关键,但这种可靠性 |
| 58 | starts with really knowing yourself. | 从真正了解自己开始 |
| 59 | Understanding your own patterns, managing your reactions, | 了解自己的规律, 管理你的反应, |
| 60 | and building self-discipline are what allow you to show up the same way every day, not just for | 而建立自律 让你每天以同样的方式出现 不仅仅是为了 |
| 61 | others, but for yourself too. | 其他人,但为你自己。 |
| 62 | And building that kind of consistency in your life doesn't happen | 在你生活中建立这种一致性是不会发生的 |
| 63 | overnight. | 过夜 |
| 64 | Most New Year's resolutions fade by February, right? | 大部分新年决议在二月前都消失了,对吧? |
| 65 | But real change doesn't come | 但真正的改变不会来 |
| 66 | from trying to become a completely new person. | 从试图成为一个全新的人。 |
| 67 | It comes from small, consistent habits that add up | 它来自小的,一贯的习惯 加起来 |
| 68 | over time. | 随着时间的推移。 |
| 69 | For me, one habit that's made a huge difference this past year in 2025 is working out | 对我来说,一个在2025年的一年里 发生了巨大变化的习惯正在形成 |
| 70 | consistently. | 始终如一 |
| 71 | It's not just about looking better. | 不只是看起来更好。 |
| 72 | It's about feeling stronger, managing stress, | 而是感觉更强壮 承受压力 |
| 73 | and keeping the promises that I make to myself. | 并履行我对自己的承诺 |
| 74 | And making daily exercise a part of my routine | 并且使日常的锻炼 一部分我的常规 |
| 75 | has been a total game changer. | 已经完全改变了游戏。 |
| 76 | It's helped me carry that same focus and consistency into every | 帮助我把同样的焦点和一致性 带到每一个 |
| 77 | other part of my life too. | 我生命的其他部分也一样。 |
| 78 | Therapy works in the same way. | 疗法亦复如是. |
| 79 | It's not a quick fix, but a steady | 这不是一个快速的,而是稳定的 |
| 80 | practice that helps you understand your patterns, process your emotions, and build real lasting | 帮助你理解你的模式, 处理你的情绪, 建立真正的持久 |
| 81 | support for your wellbeing. | 为您的福祉提供支持。 |
| 82 | Number two, presence instead of performance. | 第二,存在而不是表现。 |
| 83 | Presence is one of the | 存在是其中之一 |
| 84 | most attractive and safe feeling qualities that a man can have. | 最有吸引力和安全的感觉 男人可以拥有。 |
| 85 | And it's something that most guys | 而这是大多数男人 |
| 86 | don't even realize that they're missing. | 连他们不见了都不知道 |
| 87 | A lot of men slip into performance mode on dates without | 很多男人没有约会就滑进表演模式 |
| 88 | ever noticing. | 从来没有注意到。 |
| 89 | They're trying to be funny. | 他们想搞笑 |
| 90 | They're trying to be charming. | 他们试图变得迷人。 |
| 91 | They're trying to fill | 他们试图填补 |
| 92 | every moment of silence. | 默默无声 |
| 93 | And even though their intention is probably good, the effect is the | 尽管他们的用意可能很好 但效果是 |
| 94 | opposite. | 反着. |
| 95 | It makes the moment feel pressured and a little bit chaotic because she can tell that | 这让那一刻感到压力和 有点混乱 因为她能看出来 |
| 96 | you're trying to control how she perceives you. | 你想控制她对你的看法 |
| 97 | Women can relax around men who are simply present. | 女人可以放松在男人身边,他们只是在场。 |
| 98 | That means that you're listening to her deeply rather than waiting to jump in with something | 意思是你在深思熟虑地听她说话 而不是等着跳进去 |
| 99 | impressive. | 厉害 |
| 100 | You're taking breaths. | 你在喘气,你没呼吸 |
| 101 | You're not rushing the pace of the date or overloading the | 你没有赶时间,也没有超载 |
| 102 | conversation out of nervousness. | 紧张的谈话 |
| 103 | You're not overly tense or scanning her face for validation with | 你没有太紧张 也没有扫描她的脸来验证 |
| 104 | every single sentence. | 每一个句子。 |
| 105 | Presence communicates confidence. | 在场代表信心 |
| 106 | Performance communicates insecurity. | 表现表明不安全。 |
| 107 | When you're truly present, she feels like she can just settle in. | 当你真正在场的时候 她觉得自己可以安顿下来 |
| 108 | She doesn't feel like she has to | 她不觉得她必须 |
| 109 | match your energy or react a certain way to make you feel okay. | 配合你的能量 或做出某种反应 让你感觉好起来 |
| 110 | It gives the entire interaction | 它让整个互动 |
| 111 | this sort of grounded, calm tone. | 那种禁闭,平静的语气。 |
| 112 | And that's where real connection starts. | 这就是真正的连接开始的地方。 |
| 113 | Number three, respecting | 三号,尊重 |
| 114 | boundaries in a natural, normal way. | 以自然、正常的方式划分界限。 |
| 115 | Women feel incredibly safe when a man knows how to respect | 女人觉得非常安全 当男人懂得尊重 |
| 116 | boundaries without making things awkward or overly formal. | 而不是让事情变得尴尬或过于正式 |
| 117 | There's a way to be considerate | 有办法能体谅 |
| 118 | without being stiff. | 没有僵硬。 |
| 119 | It's about noticing her cues, the way she shifts her body if she feels | 这是关于注意她的提示, 她改变身体的方式,如果她觉得 |
| 120 | uncomfortable, the way her tone changes when she needs space, the signal she gives when she's not | 不舒服的是,她的语气在她需要空间时会改变 她没有空间时会发出信号 |
| 121 | ready to move further physically or emotionally. | 准备在身体上或情感上进一步移动。 |
| 122 | But it's also about how you respond to those cues. | 但这也是你如何回应这些提示。 |
| 123 | Safe men don't take boundaries personally or turn them into a moment. | 安全的人不会把界限 个人或把它们变成一个瞬间。 |
| 124 | They just flow with the pace | 他们只是随着速度而流动 |
| 125 | she's comfortable with. | 她觉得很舒服 |
| 126 | When she sees that you won't push, pressure, or guilt trip, she immediately | 当她看到你不会推 压力 或内疚之旅, 她立刻 |
| 127 | will trust you more. | 会更信任你 |
| 128 | What a lot of men also don't realize here is that women feel even safer when | 很多男人也不明白的是 当女人觉得安全的时候 |
| 129 | you have boundaries too. | 你也有界限 |
| 130 | A guy who just goes along with everything she says, who never expresses his | 一个人只要同意她说的一切, 他从来不表达他的 |
| 131 | own needs, and who avoids conflict at all costs, doesn't actually make her feel more comfortable. | 而且不惜一切代价避免冲突 并不让她感觉更舒服 |
| 132 | He makes her feel like she's responsible for all of his emotions. | 他让她觉得她应该为他所有的情绪负责. |
| 133 | Women feel more comfortable | 女人更舒服一点 |
| 134 | around men who can hold their own space and stay in line with their values. | 他们可以拥有自己的空间 并保持与他们的价值观一致 |
| 135 | Communication is one of the biggest predictors of whether a woman feels safe. | 沟通是女性是否感到安全的最大的预测者之一. |
| 136 | Because confusion | 因为混乱 |
| 137 | creates anxiety. | 制造焦虑。 |
| 138 | And when a woman is anxious, she can't relax into the connection with you. | 当一个女人感到焦虑时,她无法放松与你的联系. |
| 139 | A man | 一个男人 |
| 140 | who communicates clearly without being overly intense or overly distant creates the sense of | 他们清楚的沟通 而不过于紧张或过于遥远 产生一种感觉 |
| 141 | stability. | 稳定。 |
| 142 | If something comes up in his schedule, he says so. | 如果他的日程上有问题,他就这么说。 |
| 143 | If he likes her, he expresses it in a | 如果他喜欢她,他用一种 |
| 144 | balanced way. | 平衡的方法。 |
| 145 | If he needs time to think about something, he communicates that instead of | 如果他需要时间去思考一些事情, 他沟通,而不是 |
| 146 | ghosting. | 幽灵 |
| 147 | And it's not about constantly updating her or blowing up her phone. | 也不是不断更新她或炸毁她的手机 |
| 148 | It's just about not | 只是没有 |
| 149 | leaving her in the dark. | 在黑暗中离开她。 |
| 150 | Women feel unsafe around men who give mixed signals. | 男人发出混合信号,妇女感到不安全。 |
| 151 | The warm one minute, | 温暖的一分钟, |
| 152 | cold the next dynamic makes her feel like she's guessing. | 接下来的动静让她感觉像是在猜测 |
| 153 | And guessing never feels comfortable. | 猜想从不觉得舒服 |
| 154 | But when your communication style is calm, steady, and honest, she doesn't have to decode | 但当你的交流风格冷静,稳定,诚实, 她不必解码 |
| 155 | everything that you're doing. | 所行一切众生. |
| 156 | She doesn't have to worry that you're playing games or hiding | 她不必担心你在玩游戏或躲藏 |
| 157 | something. | 东西。 |
| 158 | She can simply just be present with you because she feels like the foundation | 她可以只是和你在一起 因为她觉得像基金会 |
| 159 | is solid. | 不错 |
| 160 | Number five, a man's relationship with anger and frustration. | 第五,一个人与愤怒和挫折的关系. |
| 161 | Now this is one of the | 现在这是其中之一 |
| 162 | biggest and least talked about areas where women decide whether a man feels safe or not. | 女性决定男人是否感到安全。 |
| 163 | Women watch | 妇女观察 |
| 164 | very closely how men respond to stress. | 男人如何应对压力 |
| 165 | If you get irritated over tiny things, you slam doors, | 如果你对一些小事感到烦恼 你就把门关上 |
| 166 | you raise your voice, you tense your body, or you snap at people, even if it seems minor to you, | 你大声说话,你紧张你的身体, 或者你冲人发脾气, 即使它看起来微不足道, |
| 167 | it is a huge red flag to her and probably to everyone else because she's thinking | 这对她来说是巨大的红旗 对其他人来说可能是 因为她想 |
| 168 | if this is how he reacts to traffic or wrong order, what happens when something bigger comes along? | 如果这是他如何反应 交通或错误的秩序, 会发生什么 当更大的事情出现? |
| 169 | Contrary to popular belief, women don't need men to be emotionless. | 与流行的信仰相反,女性不需要男人的无情感. |
| 170 | They just need to feel | 他们只需要感觉 |
| 171 | like your emotions don't control you. | 就像你的情绪不能控制你 |
| 172 | A man who can acknowledge frustration without losing control | 一个人可以承认挫折而不失去控制 |
| 173 | is incredibly calming to be around. | 令人难以置信的平静 周围。 |
| 174 | It's not about suppressing anger. | 这不是要压制愤怒 |
| 175 | It's just about regulating it. | 仅是调节. |
| 176 | This is where men can stand out instantly. | 这就是男人可以立即站出来的地方。 |
| 177 | If you can stay composed under pressure, | 如果你能承受压力 |
| 178 | if your tones stay steady, if you handle setbacks with patience and perspective, | 如果你的音量保持稳定, 如果你用耐心和眼光处理挫折, |
| 179 | she feels like she's around someone safe, someone reliable, someone who won't turn volatile when | 她觉得自己在安全的地方 一个可靠的人 一个不会变不稳定的人 |
| 180 | things get challenging. | 事情变得具有挑战性。 |
| 181 | That steadiness is unbelievably attractive to women and I promise | 我答应你,这对女人来说 实在是太有吸引力了 |
| 182 | you, we notice. | 你,我们注意到了。 |
| 183 | Number six, how he moves through the world. | 第六,他如何穿过世界。 |
| 184 | Women pay attention to how a man treats | 女人会注意男人的感受 |
| 185 | people that he doesn't necessarily need anything from. | 这些人他不一定需要什么 |
| 186 | How he speaks to service workers, how he | 他如何对服务人员说话,如何 |
| 187 | reacts when someone bumps into him, how he handles minor inconveniences, similar to what I mentioned | 当有人碰上他时,他的反应, 他如何处理小不便, 类似于我提到 |
| 188 | in the last point. | 最后一点。 |
| 189 | Your everyday behavior sends a louder message than anything that you directly | 你的日常行为比任何你直接传达的信息都响亮 |
| 190 | say to her. | 告诉她。 |
| 191 | When a man is respectful, polite, and kind to people around him, not performatively, | 当一个人对他周围的人尊重、礼貌和善良,而不是表现得那么好, |
| 192 | but naturally, it gives her a sense of what life with him could feel like. | 但自然,这让她感觉到 与他共度生命的感觉。 |
| 193 | A guy who's patient | 一个有耐心的人 |
| 194 | with a slow cashier or understanding about a mistake on an order communicates so much more | 收银员迟缓 或对订单错误的理解 沟通更多 |
| 195 | than he realizes. | 比他意识到。 |
| 196 | Those small behaviors tell her this is someone who doesn't escalate unnecessarily. | 这些小行为告诉她 这个人不会不必要地升级 |
| 197 | This is someone who won't try to dominate a situation just to feel powerful. | 这个人不会为了强权而控制局面 |
| 198 | This is someone | 这个人 |
| 199 | that I can trust. | 我可以相信这一点。 |
| 200 | Safe men move through the world with self-control, empathy, and awareness and that | 安全的人以自我控制、同情和意识穿越世界, |
| 201 | makes women feel protected without feeling controlled. | 使妇女感到不受控制地受到保护。 |
| 202 | It is an incredibly powerful | 这是一个惊人的强大 |
| 203 | combination. | 组合。 |
| 204 | So making a woman feel safe isn't about being overly gentle, overly agreeable, | 所以,让女人感到安全 并不是要过于温柔,过度同意, |
| 205 | or trying to be this perfect guy. | 或试图成为一个完美的人。 |
| 206 | It's about being steady, present, communicating, being | 这是关于稳定, 在场,沟通,是 |
| 207 | emotionally aware. | 情感意识 |
| 208 | I think when a woman feels safe, she can actually show up fully. | 我觉得当一个女人感到安全时 她可以完全出现 |
| 209 | She becomes | 她变成这样 |
| 210 | lighter, softer, more open, more connected, and that is what creates connection and attraction | 更轻,更柔软,更开放,更连接,这就是产生连接和吸引力的原因 |
| 211 | that last. | 最后一个 |
| 212 | Most men focus on their looks, their jokes, or their confidence, but emotional safety | 大部分男人专注于他们的外表,笑话, 或自信,但情感安全 |
| 213 | is the thing that actually makes a woman want to stay. | 是真正让女人想要留下的东西 |
| 214 | And when you can embody these qualities | 当你能够体现这些品质 |
| 215 | sincerely, you immediately separate yourself from almost every other man. | 老实说,你马上把自己和几乎每个男人分开 |
| 216 | So guys, that is | 所以,伙计们,这是 |
| 217 | all I have for this one. | 我只有这个了 |
| 218 | If you liked it or found it helpful, be sure to give it a thumbs up and | 如果你喜欢或觉得有帮助, 请给它一个拇指竖起 |
| 219 | subscribe to be in the loop for when I release new content. | 订阅为我发布新内容时的循环. |
| 220 | I would love to hear from you guys down | 我很想听到你们的消息 |
| 221 | below. | 见下文。 |
| 222 | What are some things you do to make women feel more comfortable or safe around you? | 你做了什么 让女人在你身边感觉更舒适或安全? |
| 223 | Again, | 再说一遍 |
| 224 | I just wanted to provide a woman's perspective on this and really just try to drive home | 我只是想给女人一个视角 试着开车回家 |
| 225 | how important this is to make a woman feel. | 这对女人来说有多重要 |
| 226 | I've mentioned it in previous videos before, | 我以前在之前的录像中提到过 |
| 227 | but I thought it was important enough that it deserved its own video. | 但我认为这已经足够重要了 它值得自己的视频。 |
| 228 | So I would love to hear | 所以我很想听到你的声音 |
| 229 | from you guys down in the comments if you're open to sharing per usual, if you haven't already as | 如果你们愿意分享,如果你们还没有 |
| 230 | well. | 不错 |
| 231 | As always, thank you all so much for watching and I will see you all next time. | 和往常一样,非常感谢大家的观看,我下次再见你们。 |
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