【双语音+文稿】当有人越界时该如何应对：分三步，而不是内耗自
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P2 · 【双语音+文稿】当有人越界时该如何应对：分三步，而不是内耗自己！ p02 英文版 (P2)
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| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:00 | 98% of people say they have personally experienced rudeness at work. | 98%的人说,他们在工作中亲身经历过粗鲁. |
| 0:06 | Being excluded, being dismissed, being disrespectful. | 被排斥,被开除,不尊重. |
| 0:09 | You tell yourself it's not a big deal as you're lying in your bed at 11 p.m. | 你告诉自己这没什么大不了的 你晚上11点躺在床上 |
| 0:14 | replaying the exact sentence they said. | 重放准确的句子 他们说。 |
| 0:16 | It's a pattern and patterns either get challenged or they get normalized. | 它是一种模式和模式 要么受到挑战 要么他们得到正常化。 |
| 0:22 | Ask yourself one question. | 问自己一个问题 |
| 0:24 | Somebody disrespected you this week, maybe today, maybe an hour ago. | 这周,也许今天,也许一小时前 有人不尊重你 |
| 0:28 | Cut you off mid-sentence, rolled the ice, made a joke at your expanse in front of other people. | 把你从中刑中截断, 滚冰块, 开个玩笑 在你的扩展 在别人面前。 |
| 0:34 | Took credit for something you built and in that moment you did one of two things. | 在那一刻 你做了两件事之一 |
| 0:39 | You either froze and said nothing or you snapped and said too much. | 你要么冷冻了 什么都不说 要么就崩溃了 说了太多 |
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| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | 98% of people say they have personally experienced rudeness at work. | 98%的人说,他们在工作中亲身经历过粗鲁. |
| 2 | Being excluded, being dismissed, being disrespectful. | 被排斥,被开除,不尊重. |
| 3 | You tell yourself it's not a big deal as you're lying in your bed at 11 p.m. | 你告诉自己这没什么大不了的 你晚上11点躺在床上 |
| 4 | replaying the exact sentence they said. | 重放准确的句子 他们说。 |
| 5 | It's a pattern and patterns either get challenged or they get normalized. | 它是一种模式和模式 要么受到挑战 要么他们得到正常化。 |
| 6 | Ask yourself one question. | 问自己一个问题 |
| 7 | Somebody disrespected you this week, maybe today, maybe an hour ago. | 这周,也许今天,也许一小时前 有人不尊重你 |
| 8 | Cut you off mid-sentence, rolled the ice, made a joke at your expanse in front of other people. | 把你从中刑中截断, 滚冰块, 开个玩笑 在你的扩展 在别人面前。 |
| 9 | Took credit for something you built and in that moment you did one of two things. | 在那一刻 你做了两件事之一 |
| 10 | You either froze and said nothing or you snapped and said too much. | 你要么冷冻了 什么都不说 要么就崩溃了 说了太多 |
| 11 | And then you spent the rest of the day, maybe the rest of the week, replaying it and overthinking. | 然后,你花了其余的一天, 也许剩下的一个星期, 重放它和过度思考。 |
| 12 | Here is what nobody told you. | 这是没有人告诉你的。 |
| 13 | Staying calm in that moment isn't a personality trait. | 在那一刻保持冷静不是个个性特征 |
| 14 | It's not something you either have or you don't. | 这不是你拥有或没有的东西。 |
| 15 | It's a skill. | 师作么生. |
| 16 | And the reason most people are bad at it is in weakness. | 大部分人之所以不好 是因为软弱 |
| 17 | It's not that nobody ever handed them an actual script for what to do in the 15 seconds after it happens. | 事情发生后15秒 没人给他们写过真正的剧本 |
| 18 | Today, I'm handing you that script. | 今天我要把剧本交给你 |
| 19 | Three moves backed by real research, not motivational poster advice, actual studies. | 三招以真研究为后盾,而非动机海报建议,实际研究. |
| 20 | And by the end of this video, you will know exactly what to say, | 到这段视频结束时 你会知道该说什么 |
| 21 | when to say and exactly how to tell the difference between someone having a bad day | 什么时候说,怎么分辨 一个人有一个糟糕的一天 |
| 22 | and someone who is never going to respect you unless you make them. | 和一个不会尊重你的人 除非你创造了他们 |
| 23 | Stay to the end this video because I'm going to give you the exact words to use word for word | 留下这段录像 因为我要给你准确的字 逐字逐句 |
| 24 | so you are never scrambling again. | 所以你再也不会乱跑了 |
| 25 | Welcome back to the channel. | 欢迎回到频道 |
| 26 | Thank you for being here. | 谢谢你能来 |
| 27 | I am Alia Rosa, a former Secret Agent, | 我是阿丽亚·罗莎 前特工 |
| 28 | turn to behavioral analyst, mentor, women empowerment coach. | 转向行为分析师,导师,妇女赋权教练. |
| 29 | And if you're new here, this is where we take psychology | 如果你是新来的 我们就在这里接受心理学 |
| 30 | and actually turn it into something usable. | 把它变成有用的东西 |
| 31 | Not theory, not just set boundaries without telling you how. | 不是理论,不是不告诉你就划定界限 |
| 32 | Usable. | 可用 |
| 33 | So let's talk about disrespect for a second because I think most people are fighting it wrong. | 所以,让我们谈谈不尊重的一秒钟,因为我认为大多数人在反对它是错误的。 |
| 34 | So there are two responses I see over and over. | 因此,我反复看到两种反应。 |
| 35 | The first is the blow up. | 第一种是炸毁. |
| 36 | You say something sharp, maybe you regret, maybe you don't, but now you are. | 你说一些尖锐的话,也许你后悔了,也许你没有,但现在你是。 |
| 37 | The dramatic one. | 那个戏剧性的 |
| 38 | And somehow they still come out looking fine. | 不知何故,他们还是出来 寻找好。 |
| 39 | The second is the swallow. | 第二为燕. |
| 40 | You smile, you laugh it off. | 你笑,你笑它关闭。 |
| 41 | You tell yourself it's not a big deal. | 你告诉自己这没什么大不了的 |
| 42 | And here is the thing both of those have in common. | 这是他们的共同之处。 |
| 43 | They get you the exact same result. | 他们得到的结果完全一样。 |
| 44 | It happens again almost every single time. | 几乎每次都这样 |
| 45 | So today I want to walk you through a third option. | 所以今天我想告诉你第三个选择。 |
| 46 | Not passive, not explosive, precise. | 不是被动的,不是爆炸性的,精确的。 |
| 47 | Three moves and I'm going to bag every single one of them with actual research | 3个动作,我每一次都用实际研究 |
| 48 | because I don't want you doing this on faith. | 因为我不想你这么做 |
| 49 | I want you doing this because you understand exactly why it works on a human brain. | 我希望你这样做是因为 你完全理解它为什么在人脑上起作用。 |
| 50 | Let's start with something that happened in a lab in California in 2003 | 我们从2003年发生在加利福尼亚的一个实验室里的事开始 |
| 51 | because it explains something about disrespect that most people get completely wrong. | 因为它解释了一些不尊重的东西 大多数人完全错了。 |
| 52 | In 2003, researchers at UCLA ran an experiment that sounds almost too simple to matter. | 2003年,加州大学洛杉矶分校的研究人员进行了一项实验,听起来几乎太简单了,不重要. |
| 53 | They put people into an fMRI scanner, the machine that watches which parts | 他们把人放进一个FMRI扫描仪, 一台看哪部分的机器 |
| 54 | of your brain are lighting up in real time and had them play a basic game. | 你脑部的光线是实时的 让他们玩一个基本游戏 |
| 55 | A ball tossing game over a screen with two other players. | 与另外两名球员在屏幕上掷球比赛. |
| 56 | Except the other two players weren't real people reacting naturally. | 除了另外两位球员并不是真正有自然反应的人. |
| 57 | At a certain point in the game one queue they just stops throwing the ball to the other person | 在比赛的某一时刻,一个队列 他们只是停止向另一个人扔球 |
| 58 | in the scanner, no insult, no argument, no conflict of any kind. | 在扫描仪中,没有侮辱,没有争论,没有任何冲突. |
| 59 | Just left out. | 刚刚忘了。 |
| 60 | And here are some examples. | 这里有一些例子。 |
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