如何弄清楚你真正想要什么 | Ashley Stahl
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| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
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| 0:03 | It was 2.45 p.m. on a rainy Friday in Los Angeles. | 在洛杉矶的雨季是下午2点45分 |
| 0:09 | My dad was just brewing a cup of coffee in the kitchen | 我爸爸刚在厨房泡咖啡 |
| 0:15 | when he answered a call from an unknown number. | 当时,他应答了一个不知名的电话。 |
| 0:19 | He froze as he heard a woman violently crying | 当他听到一个女人暴力哭泣时 他冻住了 |
| 0:23 | and screaming on the other side of the line. | 在另一边尖叫着 |
| 0:27 | Next, a strong masculine voice came on | 接下来是强烈的男性声音 |
| 0:33 | and he said to my dad, we have your daughter | 他对我爸爸说,我们有你的女儿 |
| 0:38 | and if you don't listen to every single word that we say, | 如果你不听我们说的每一个字, |
| 0:43 | we're gonna kill her. | 我们要杀了她。 |
| 0:45 | My dad paused, he lost his breath for a moment | 我爸停了一会,气喘吁吁 |
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| 1 | It was 2.45 p.m. on a rainy Friday in Los Angeles. | 在洛杉矶的雨季是下午2点45分 |
| 2 | My dad was just brewing a cup of coffee in the kitchen | 我爸爸刚在厨房泡咖啡 |
| 3 | when he answered a call from an unknown number. | 当时,他应答了一个不知名的电话。 |
| 4 | He froze as he heard a woman violently crying | 当他听到一个女人暴力哭泣时 他冻住了 |
| 5 | and screaming on the other side of the line. | 在另一边尖叫着 |
| 6 | Next, a strong masculine voice came on | 接下来是强烈的男性声音 |
| 7 | and he said to my dad, we have your daughter | 他对我爸爸说,我们有你的女儿 |
| 8 | and if you don't listen to every single word that we say, | 如果你不听我们说的每一个字, |
| 9 | we're gonna kill her. | 我们要杀了她。 |
| 10 | My dad paused, he lost his breath for a moment | 我爸停了一会,气喘吁吁 |
| 11 | and he managed to ask, can I talk to her? | 他问了,我能和她谈谈吗? |
| 12 | Do you want us to break her arm? | 你想让我们打断她的手臂吗? |
| 13 | They taunted him. | 他们欺负了他。 |
| 14 | Now you have to understand, I'm one of two daughters | 现在你必须明白,我是两个女儿中的一个 |
| 15 | and sadly, just six months before this phone call came in, | 可悲的是,在这通电话出现前六个月, |
| 16 | we took my big sister off of life support. | 我们把我姐姐从生命维系中抢走了 |
| 17 | I'll never forget the day that she died. | 我永远不会忘记她死的那天 |
| 18 | My dad looked at me with this grief, | 我爸这么悲伤地看着我 |
| 19 | with this heartbreak bigger than the entire sky | 心碎比整个天空都大 |
| 20 | and he kept repeating to me saying, | 他不停地对我重复说, |
| 21 | now I only have one daughter left. | 现在我只有一个女儿了 |
| 22 | So as anyone would when they're in fear, | 所以,任何人都会 当他们在恐惧, |
| 23 | he gave his power away and he desperately said | 他放弃了他的力量,他绝望地说 |
| 24 | to the kidnappers, this is my only daughter. | 绑匪,这是我唯一的女儿。 |
| 25 | I'll do whatever you want. | 随你便 |
| 26 | Are you alone? | 你一个人吗? |
| 27 | The kidnappers asked him and in that moment, | 绑匪问他 那一刻, |
| 28 | he locked eyes with my mom across the kitchen, | 他把眼睛锁在厨房对面的我妈妈身上 |
| 29 | pressed his finger to his lips, | 用手指按住嘴唇, |
| 30 | silently begging her to remain quiet | 默默地求她保持安静 |
| 31 | and he said to them, yep, I'm alone | 他对他们说,是啊,我一个人 |
| 32 | as he scribbled on a napkin. | 就像他在餐巾上写的那样 |
| 33 | He wrote, go outside, quiet, call 911, | 他写信,出去,安静,打911 |
| 34 | Ashley被绑架了 | |
| 35 | My sweet mom, she hurried outside with her hands trembling | 我亲爱的妈妈 她急忙跑出去 手颤抖 |
| 36 | and she managed to call 911. | 她设法打911 |
| 37 | Meanwhile, my dad was being commanded by the kidnappers, | 同时,我爸爸被绑匪指挥 |
| 38 | get in your car, they said to him, | 上车,他们说, |
| 39 | you're going to the bank, you're keeping us on the phone | 你要去银行,你让我们保持电话 |
| 40 | and you're gonna pay a ransom and if you don't cooperate, | 你要付赎金 如果你不合作 |
| 41 | we'll be sending you her body parts in the mail. | 我们会在邮件里发给你她的身体部分 |
| 42 | My mom let the police know to meet her at the bank | 我妈让警察知道去银行见她 |
| 43 | and she tiptoed in the car so that they wouldn't hear her. | 她偷偷地在车里 让他们听不到她的声音 |
| 44 | The conversation in the car to the bank | 车上对银行的谈话 |
| 45 | was all over the place and one minute, | 到处都是,一分钟, |
| 46 | they were asking my dad how his day was, | 他们问我爸今天过得怎么样 |
| 47 | in the next minute, they were threatening to rape me. | 他们威胁要强奸我 |
| 48 | They pulled him at the bank | 他们把他拉到银行 |
| 49 | and my mom went to meet the police officer | 我妈妈去见警察了 |
| 50 | and meanwhile, my dad stiffly walked into the bank | 同时,我爸爸走进银行 |
| 51 | with his phone on in his pocket and has promised | 他的手机在口袋里,已经答应 |
| 52 | so that the kidnapper could hear him wiring the funds. | 这样绑匪就能听到他把资金拨来 |
| 53 | Meanwhile, as all of this was unfolding, | 与此同时,随着这一切的发展, |
| 54 | I was actually sitting | 我其实坐着 |
| 55 | in my quaint little Beverly Hills office | 在我的小贝弗利山庄办公室 |
| 56 | conducting a podcast interview. | 进行播客采访。 |
| 57 | I remember throughout the conversation with my guests, | 我记得在和客人谈话期间 |
| 58 | kind of seeing my phone light up across my desk | 那种看到我的电话 光在我的桌子上 |
| 59 | and not thinking much of it and it wasn't until my guests | 也没有多想 直到我的客人 |
| 60 | left that I saw a slew of missed calls | 左,我看到一阵 错过的电话 |
| 61 | and more simply, I saw one text message | 简而言之,我看到一条短信 |
| 62 | that I'll never forget. | 我永远不会忘记 |
| 63 | It said, this is the police, I'm with your family, | 它说,这是警察, 我与你的家人, |
| 64 | please call. | 请打电话 |
| 65 | Now, in my early 20s, I worked in counterterrorism | 现在,我20多岁的时候, 我从事反恐工作 |
| 66 | at the Pentagon in Washington DC | 华盛顿五角大楼 |
| 67 | so believe me when I tell you that my imagination | 所以相信我,当我告诉你 我的想象 |
| 68 | of what could go wrong is so colorful. | 可能出错的 如此多彩 |
| 69 | But in that moment, I've never gotten a message like that | 但那一刻,我从来没有收到过这样的信息 |
| 70 | thinking that maybe whatever was on the other side | 以为也许在另一边 |
| 71 | of that text message was gonna ruin my life. | 短信会毁了我的生活 |
| 72 | So I sat there and I mustered the courage to finally call. | 于是我坐在那里,鼓起勇气,终于打来。 |
| 73 | He said, this is Officer Johnson, is this Ashley? | 他说,这是约翰逊警官, 这是阿什利? |
| 74 | I said, yes, he said, please confirm your name. | 我说,是的,他说, 请确认你的名字。 |
| 75 | I said, this is Ashley Michelle Stahl, is my family okay? | 我说,这是阿什利・米歇尔・斯塔尔, 我的家人还好吗? |
| 76 | Next thing I knew, I heard commotion. | 接下来我知道,我听到骚动。 |
| 77 | He yelled across the bank to my dad, Mr. Stahl, | 他横冲直撞地叫着我爸 Stahl先生 |
| 78 | hang up the phone, she's on the line, it's a scam. | 挂掉电话,她在电话里,这是骗局 |
| 79 | I heard a ton of commotion and then my dad grabbed the phone | 我听到一阵骚动 然后我爸抓住电话 |
| 80 | from the police officer and he came onto the phone with me | 从警官和他来 与我电话 |
| 81 | with a voice sounding more fragile | 声音更脆弱 |
| 82 | than I've ever heard him before. | 比我以前听过他 |
| 83 | And all he said to me was, is it you? | 他只跟我说 是你吗? |
| 84 | He said, yeah, it's me and for the first time ever, | 他说,是的,这是我第一次, |
| 85 | I heard my dad break down and sob. | 我听到我爸爸崩溃和哭泣。 |
| 86 | He didn't sob like that when I was a little girl. | 当我还是个小女孩的时候 他可没那样哭 |
| 87 | I remember one of his businesses went under | 我记得他的一个企业破产了 |
| 88 | and our family went through an incredibly hard time | 我们的家庭经历了一个令人难以置信的艰难时期 |
| 89 | and he didn't sob like that. | 他可没那样哭 |
| 90 | When I was in middle school, I came home one day | 我在中学的时候,有一天我回家 |
| 91 | and he told me he had stage three cancer | 他告诉我他得了三级癌症 |
| 92 | and he didn't sob like that | 他没有那样哭 |
| 93 | the day my big sister passed away, never. | 我姐姐去世的那天 从来没有 |
| 94 | He kept asking me if it was me | 他一直问我是不是我 |
| 95 | and I felt like I had to prove that it was. | 我觉得我必须证明这是真的 |
| 96 | So I said, yeah, dad, it's me. | 所以我说,是的,爸爸,是我 |
| 97 | We dressed up as hot dogs together for Halloween. | 我们打扮成热狗一起过万圣节 |
| 98 | You love cheesecake. | 你爱芝士蛋糕。 |
| 99 | I just signed my book deal, it's me, dad. | 我刚签了书,是我,爸爸 |
| 100 | And he met me with one question. | 他向我问了一个问题。 |
| 101 | He said, can you please just come home? | 他说你能回家吗? |
| 102 | So I was on my way and I remember walking | 所以我在路上,我记得走路 |
| 103 | through the front door of my parents' house. | 穿过我父母家的大门 |
| 104 | My dad rushed over to me and we hugged heart to heart | 我爸爸冲过来,我们拥抱着心 |
| 105 | and I felt his pain in a way | 我在某种程度上感觉到了他的痛苦 |
| 106 | that I've never felt on another person. | 我从来没有感觉过别人。 |
| 107 | It was in that moment that I also realized | 就在那一刻 我也意识到 |
| 108 | that parents aren't super humans, | 父母不是超级人类, |
| 109 | that they're just people like you, like me, | 他们只是像你一样的人 像我一样 |
| 110 | doing the best that they can. | 尽力而为 |
| 111 | He walked me through the phone call from start to finish | 他让我从头到尾都通过电话 |
| 112 | and I couldn't believe that for two entire hours | 我无法相信 整整两个小时 |
| 113 | he was living one reality | 他活在一个现实中 |
| 114 | while I was living a completely separate one. | 当我生活在一个完全独立的。 |
| 115 | But knowing that the truth always leaves clues, | 但知道真相总是留下线索 |
| 116 | I couldn't help but wonder, | 我忍不住想着 |
| 117 | how did my super smart dad get so duped | 我超级聪明的爸爸怎么会被骗呢? |
| 118 | and did the crying woman even sound like me? | 那个哭着的女人是不是跟我一样? |
| 119 | And how did he manage to give his power away so quickly | 他怎么这么快就放弃了权力 |
| 120 | to a bunch of strangers? | 对一群陌生人? |
| 121 | So eventually I managed to ask him, | 最后我问他 |
| 122 | did you ever doubt that this was real? | 你有没有怀疑这是真的? |
| 123 | And he gave an answer that we all tend to give | 他给出了一个答案 我们都倾向于给出 |
| 124 | when life corners us and we buy into fear. | 当生命降临我们时 我们却被恐惧所笼罩 |
| 125 | He said to me, I didn't think that there was another option. | 他对我说,我认为没有其他选择 |
| 126 | Thinking about that, he went on about how we get so scared | 想想看,他继续说我们怎么这么害怕 |
| 127 | and how somebody was screaming on the line | 然后有人在电话上尖叫 |
| 128 | and you don't really have time to think about that. | 你没有时间去想这个 |
| 129 | And that totally made sense to me. | 这对我来说是完全合理的。 |
| 130 | But throughout the rest of the night, | 但整个晚上, |
| 131 | I sat there in so much sadness and some anger | 我坐在那 充满悲伤和愤怒 |
| 132 | looking at how traumatized, | 看着如何创伤, |
| 133 | I'd never seen my 75 year old dad so traumatized, | 我从没见过我75岁的爸爸这么受创伤 |
| 134 | wondering how could somebody do this to another person? | 怀疑别人怎么能这样对待别人? |
| 135 | And it was in that moment | 在那一刻 |
| 136 | that something completely unexpected washed over me. | 完全出乎意料的东西冲过我 |
| 137 | And it was compassion. | 这是同情心。 |
| 138 | Not just for my dad, but for the fake kidnappers. | 不只是为我爸,还为假绑匪。 |
| 139 | I wondered why would somebody choose a career path | 我想知道为什么有人会选择一条职业道路 |
| 140 | of scaring people like that | 吓唬人这样的人 |
| 141 | and robbing them of their life savings? | 并剥夺他们的财产, |
| 142 | And the only answer I could come up with was, | 我唯一能想到的答案是, |
| 143 | maybe they didn't think they had a better option | 也许他们没有更好的选择 |
| 144 | or maybe this is what their parents taught them, | 也许这就是他们父母教给他们的 |
| 145 | just like my parents taught me | 就像我父母教我的那样 |
| 146 | what was possible for me in my career. | 在我的事业中,我有什么可能。 |
| 147 | Or maybe they don't have the awareness | 也许他们没有意识 |
| 148 | that there's another way. | 还有别的办法 |
| 149 | Put simply, maybe this was the best | 简单说,也许这是最好的 |
| 150 | that they thought they could do to get by, survive | 他们认为他们可以做 通过,生存 |
| 151 | and meet their needs in the world and pay their bills. | 并满足他们的需要 在世界上,支付他们的账单。 |
| 152 | Often we kidnap ourselves | 我们经常绑架自己 |
| 153 | from the lives that we actually want | 从我们真正想要的生活 |
| 154 | because we think a different path | 因为我们想的不一样 |
| 155 | is gonna help us survive, get by, pay our bills | 会帮助我们生存, 过,支付我们的账单 |
| 156 | or meet our needs in the world. | 或者满足我们的世界需要 |
| 157 | I pulled out my journal and I wrote at the top of it, | 我拿出我的日记,我写在它的顶部, |
| 158 | I'm my own kidnapper. | 我是我自己绑架的 |
| 159 | I listed all of the ways over the years | 这些年来我列举了所有的方法 |
| 160 | that I silenced the truth of what I actually want. | 我沉默了我真正想要的真相。 |
| 161 | All of the times that I took myself captive | 一直被我俘虏 |
| 162 | on soul crushing journeys that I didn't even wanna be on. | 我甚至不想踏上灵魂的旅程 |
| 163 | I thought about how so many of us choose majors | 我想到我们有多少人选择专业 |
| 164 | and college or career paths that we don't even wanna be on | 和大学或职业道路 我们甚至不想在 |
| 165 | because we think it's gonna help us survive, | 因为我们认为它能帮助我们生存下去 |
| 166 | get by or meet our needs in the world. | 或满足我们的世界需要。 |
| 167 | But it doesn't have to be that way. | 却不必如此. |
| 168 | I encourage you to ask yourself, | 我鼓励你问自己, |
| 169 | where am I kidnapping myself | 我在哪里绑架自己 |
| 170 | from the life that I really want? | 从我真正想要的生活? |
| 171 | How am I giving away my power, getting into fear | 我如何放弃我的力量 陷入恐惧 |
| 172 | just to meet my needs in the world? | 只是为了满足我在世界中的需求? |
| 173 | When we go into fear, we give away our power | 当我们陷入恐惧时,我们放弃我们的力量 |
| 174 | and we disconnect from who we really are | 我们脱离了真正的自我 |
| 175 | and what we really want. | 以及我们真正想要的 |
| 176 | But as a career coach, I've learned | 但作为职业教练,我已经学会了 |
| 177 | that there are three key steps that you can take right now | 你现在可以采取三个关键步骤 |
| 178 | to make what I love to call a U-turn, | 做我喜欢的 U 转弯, |
| 179 | which is the decision to get out of fear | 这就是摆脱恐惧的决定 |
| 180 | and come home to yourself. | 然后回到自己身边 |
| 181 | So the first step is to do a self audit. | 所以第一步是进行自我审核. |
| 182 | Really ask yourself, where am I holding myself captive? | 真的问自己,我在哪里 囚禁自己? |
| 183 | This means being honest with yourself about where you are, | 这意味着要诚实地对待自己 你在哪里, |
| 184 | what's working for you and what isn't. | 什么对你有用什么不是。 |
| 185 | And if you think about it, we come into the world, | 如果你考虑一下,我们来到这个世界, |
| 186 | our natural state is with so much love, creativity. | 我们的自然状态充满了爱和创造力 |
| 187 | Think about kids, they have inspiration. | 想想孩子们,他们有灵感 |
| 188 | And yet over time, we're taught to fear. | 然而随着时间的推移,我们被教导恐惧。 |
| 189 | And fear is a necessary inner alarm system | 恐惧是一个必要的内幕警报系统 |
| 190 | that we all need to survive in the physical world. | 我们都需要在物理世界中生存下去。 |
| 191 | Think about it. | 考虑一下 |
| 192 | We learn to look both ways before we cross the street. | 我们在过街前学会了双向看 |
| 193 | We learn not to touch the stove when it's hot. | 我们学会了不碰炉子 当它热。 |
| 194 | We learn not to talk to strangers. | 我们学会不跟陌生人说话 |
| 195 | But over time, we get hurt. | 但随着时间的推移,我们受到伤害。 |
| 196 | Life throws us curve balls. | 生活会给我们投球 |
| 197 | We learn to stop taking risks and start being afraid. | 我们学会停止冒险,开始害怕。 |
| 198 | We get afraid to put ourselves out there. | 我们害怕把自己弄出来 |
| 199 | We start calling ourselves practical or realistic | 我们开始称自己为现实或现实 |
| 200 | for making choices that seem responsible | 做出似乎有责任的选择 |
| 201 | when really we're just so scared of criticism. | 当我们真的害怕批评。 |
| 202 | And if we're being really honest with ourselves, | 如果我们真的对自己诚实 |
| 203 | people who call themselves realists | 自称现实主义者的人 |
| 204 | are often just dreamers who got their hearts broken | 经常只是梦中人 心碎了 |
| 205 | somewhere along the way. | 沿路某处. |
| 206 | So how do you make a U-turn? | 那你怎么转弯? |
| 207 | You do a self audit. | 你做一个自我审计。 |
| 208 | You come home to yourself. | 汝当自归. |
| 209 | And that's why one of my favorite questions to ask people | 这就是为什么我最喜欢问一个问题 |
| 210 | is what do you know that you wish you didn't know? | 你知道你希望自己不知道吗? |
| 211 | What do you know that you wish you didn't know? | 你知道你希望自己不知道吗? |
| 212 | Maybe some of you know | 也许有些人知道 |
| 213 | that you're hiding from the truth. | 你隐瞒了真相 |
| 214 | Deep down, you know you're hiding from the truth. | 深处自知不离真言. |
| 215 | Maybe you're hiding from the fact that you hate your job, | 也许你是在逃避你讨厌工作的事实 |
| 216 | but you don't wanna admit it because you're scared | 但你不想承认 因为你害怕 |
| 217 | and you don't know where to go next. | 而你不知道下一步该去哪 |
| 218 | Or maybe you're hiding from the fact | 或许你在逃避事实 |
| 219 | that you married the wrong person, | 你娶错了人, |
| 220 | but you're scared to admit it | 但你不敢承认 |
| 221 | because it's going to unravel your life to get a divorce. | 因为这会破坏你的生活 离婚。 |
| 222 | Or maybe you know that something's going on | 或者你知道事情正在发生 |
| 223 | with your health, but you're scared to go to the doctor | 不过你害怕去看医生 |
| 224 | because you don't wanna hear the diagnosis. | 因为你不想听诊断 |
| 225 | Whatever it is, tap into what's deeply true for you. | 不管它是什么, 挖掘什么是深深真实的你。 |
| 226 | Seeing things as they are, not worse than they are, | 看事情的原样, 不比他们更糟, |
| 227 | not better than they are, but as they actually are. | 并不比他们好,而是他们实际上。 |
| 228 | In order to figure out what you really want, | 为了找出你真正想要的 |
| 229 | you need to see the truth of where you are. | 你得看看自己身在何处的真相 |
| 230 | And maybe right now you feel pain bubbling up inside of you | 也许现在你感到疼痛 涌现在你体内 |
| 231 | as you look at what's true for you. | 看着你的真面目 |
| 232 | But know this, pain is often a trampoline | 但你知道,痛苦往往是蹦床 |
| 233 | that will launch us into our next stage of life | 这将使我们进入下一个生命阶段 |
| 234 | if we're willing to let it. | 如果我们愿意让它。 |
| 235 | The second step is to follow your freedom. | 第二步是跟着你的自由 |
| 236 | Follow your freedom. | 跟着你的自由。 |
| 237 | This means paying attention to what feels good to you | 意思是注意你感觉好 |
| 238 | so that you can finally set yourself free. | 这样你就能自由了 |
| 239 | So you're probably wondering right now, | 所以,你可能想知道 现在, |
| 240 | okay, Ashley, how do I feel what feels good? | 好吧,阿什利,我有什么感觉 感觉很好? |
| 241 | Very fair question. | 非常公平的问题。 |
| 242 | We live in a world right now of internet trolls | 我们生活在一个网络巨怪的世界 |
| 243 | and tweets and text messages, | 还有微博和短信, |
| 244 | and the data is officially in. | 数据正式输入。 |
| 245 | We are so connected that we're somehow, | 我们联系的如此紧密 不知何故 |
| 246 | according to research, more disconnected than ever. | 根据研究,比以往更加脱节。 |
| 247 | In fact, in the United States alone, | 事实上,仅仅在美国, |
| 248 | 71% of the workforce is on the job hunt, | 71%的劳动力在打工 |
| 249 | and I believe as a career expert | 我相信作为职业专家 |
| 250 | that that is because people don't like where they are. | 那是因为人们不喜欢自己在哪里。 |
| 251 | More than 70% of the United States | 美国70%以上 |
| 252 | is taking prescription drugs, | 正在服用处方药, |
| 253 | and more than half of marriages are ending in divorce. | 一半以上的婚姻以离婚告终。 |
| 254 | We've heard it all before. | 悉皆闻已. |
| 255 | Do what you love, and the money will follow. | 做你喜欢的事, 钱会跟着。 |
| 256 | Or my least favorite piece of advice, follow your passion. | 或者我最不喜欢的忠告 跟着你的激情 |
| 257 | These short expressions are often a fast track to nowhere, | 这些简短的表达方式常常是无处可去的快速通道, |
| 258 | but when you learn to really follow what feels good to you, | 但当你学会真正遵循什么 感觉对你很好, |
| 259 | your purpose is often either right in front of you | 你的目的常常是站在你面前 |
| 260 | or on the periphery of that. | 或在其边缘。 |
| 261 | So maybe you're wondering, | 所以也许你想知道, |
| 262 | well, how do I really connect to my body? | 我怎么才能真正联系到我的身体? |
| 263 | How do I feel what feels good? | 感觉怎么样? |
| 264 | You're still being with this question, | 你还在考虑这个问题 |
| 265 | and that totally makes sense to me. | 这对我来说是完全合理的。 |
| 266 | Right now, scientists are calling our gut our second brain, | 现在 科学家们称我们的肠胃为我们的第二脑 |
| 267 | and you've probably heard the research | 你可能听说过研究 |
| 268 | that suggests that there's more than 200 million neurons | 说明有超过2亿个神经元 |
| 269 | in our gut, which is equivalent to the size | 在我们的肠子里,这相当于大小 |
| 270 | of a cat or dog's brain. | 猫或狗的大脑。 |
| 271 | So what does that mean to you? | 那对你意味着什么? |
| 272 | That means if in your nervous system, | 这意味着如果你的神经系统, |
| 273 | you're feeling some sort of anxiety or disconnect, | 你感到某种焦虑或脱节, |
| 274 | some nerves, something feels off, | 有些神经,有些感觉不对劲 |
| 275 | to trust it because your body is a messenger, | 相信它 因为你的身体是一个使者, |
| 276 | and it is constantly giving you feedback. | 它不断地给你反馈。 |
| 277 | In my early 20s, when I moved to Washington, DC | 20多岁时,我搬到华盛顿 |
| 278 | to work in counterterrorism, | 反恐工作, |
| 279 | I didn't know if that was gonna be my ultimate career path, | 我不知道那会不会是我最后的职业生涯 |
| 280 | but something about it felt good to me. | 但有些事我觉得很好 |
| 281 | And guess what happened on the periphery? | 猜猜在外围发生了什么? |
| 282 | I succeeded in my career. | 事业成功. |
| 283 | I learned how to master the job hunt, | 我学会了如何掌握工作 |
| 284 | and I became a career expert. | 我成了职业专家 |
| 285 | And guess what happened on the periphery of that? | 猜猜这附近发生了什么? |
| 286 | I became a published author, my biggest dream. | 我成了一个出版的作家 我最大的梦想 |
| 287 | In a world of climbing the corporate ladder, | 在一个攀登企业阶梯的世界中, |
| 288 | five-year plans, and unnecessary degrees, | 五年计划 和不必要的学位, |
| 289 | we are all striving for something that is so unrealistic, | 我们都在为这样不现实的事而奋斗, |
| 290 | and it's perfection. | 这是完美的。 |
| 291 | But who you are at age 25 | 但你25岁时是谁 |
| 292 | isn't gonna be who you are at age 30, | 30岁时不会成为你 |
| 293 | and it certainly isn't going to be who you are at age 40. | 肯定不会是你40岁的样子 |
| 294 | And that's why I invite you to see your career | 所以我邀请你来看你的事业 |
| 295 | as an experiment that really meets you where you are, | 作为一个实验 真正满足你的地方, |
| 296 | a vehicle for your own self-expression. | 用来表达自我的载体 |
| 297 | You can start with writing down all of your ideas | 你可以从写下你所有的想法开始 |
| 298 | and checking in with your body, seeing how they feel to you. | 检查你的身体 看他们对你的感受 |
| 299 | Do you feel joy, or do you feel fear? | 你感到快乐还是恐惧? |
| 300 | Do you feel expansion, or do you feel contraction? | 你感到扩张, 还是感到收缩? |
| 301 | Do you feel liberation, or do you feel suffocation? | 你感到解放,还是感到窒息? |
| 302 | That's why one of my favorite tools | 这就是为什么我最喜欢的工具之一 |
| 303 | to recommend people that they use is called a joy journal. | 推荐他们使用的人 被称为欢乐日记。 |
| 304 | When you're feeling disconnected, for 30 days, | 当你觉得断线了30天 |
| 305 | take the time to write down every single moment, | 花点时间记下来的每一刻, |
| 306 | that moment that lit you up the most every single day. | 那个时刻 点燃了你的每一天。 |
| 307 | And I don't care if it's the woman you talk to | 我不管你跟谁说话 |
| 308 | in the bathroom line at the club, | 在俱乐部的卫生间里 |
| 309 | or the meeting you let at work, pay attention. | 或工作时的会面,请注意。 |
| 310 | And at the end of the 30 days, | 在30天结束时 |
| 311 | take note of if there's any patterns in your inspiration. | 注意你的灵感是否有规律 |
| 312 | Really ask yourself, what skillset am I using | 问问你自己,我用什么技能 |
| 313 | when I'm the most inspired? | 当我最有灵感的时候? |
| 314 | Because when you're in your inspiration, | 因为当你在你的灵感, |
| 315 | you're not being run or kidnapped by your fear. | 你并不是因为恐惧而逃跑或绑架的 |
| 316 | And the third step is to engage. | 第三步是参与 |
| 317 | So, you know, needless to say, | 所以,你知道,不用说, |
| 318 | your cute little joy journal isn't going to get you | 你可爱的小喜事日记不会给你 |
| 319 | that love interest that you've been pining over, | 爱的兴趣,你一直在纠缠, |
| 320 | or that dream job that you really want, action will. | 或你真正想要的梦想工作, 行动会。 |
| 321 | But perfectionism is the enemy of action. | 但完美主义是行动的敌人。 |
| 322 | And often I found that perfectionism is a mask | 我经常发现完美主义是面具 |
| 323 | that we all wear when we're afraid of failure. | 我们害怕失败时都会穿 |
| 324 | So ask yourself, am I a perfectionist? | 问你自己,我是一个完美主义者吗? |
| 325 | Because here's the truth of the matter. | 因为事情是这样的 |
| 326 | Clarity comes from engagement. | 明亮来自订婚。 |
| 327 | It does not come from thought. | 它不是来自思想。 |
| 328 | Limbo is powerless. | 林波无力. |
| 329 | So if you want to be powerful, look at your list, | 所以,如果你想成为强大的, 看看你的列表, |
| 330 | pick something that feels good, show up, | 挑一些感觉好的东西,出现, |
| 331 | see what feedback the universe gives you, | 看看宇宙给你的反馈 |
| 332 | make a commitment, | 作出承诺, |
| 333 | and know that you can course correct along the way. | 并知道,你可以正确 沿途前进。 |
| 334 | You know, looking back | 回头看 |
| 335 | and thinking about the fake kidnapping incident, | 想想假绑架事件 |
| 336 | I think a lot about my dad and all of the trauma | 我想了很多关于我爸爸和所有创伤 |
| 337 | that he experienced that day, | 在那日,他曾经历, |
| 338 | nearly wiring his entire life savings | 差点把他毕生的积蓄 |
| 339 | to some strangers on the phone. | 给一些陌生人打电话。 |
| 340 | I think about how the truth always really does leave clues. | 我想到真相总是留下线索 |
| 341 | How he thought to ask if it was me, | 他怎么想问我是不是我 |
| 342 | or if he could talk to me. | 或者如果他能跟我说话 |
| 343 | Because early on in the kidnapper conversation, | 因为绑架者谈话初期 |
| 344 | he wanted to talk to me for proof, some part of him knew. | 他想跟我谈证据 他有一部分知道 |
| 345 | I think about how he gave away his power | 我想到他如何放弃权力 |
| 346 | in desperation and in fear, as we all do. | 在绝望和恐惧中,像我们大家一样。 |
| 347 | And most of all, | 而最重要的是, |
| 348 | I thought about my compassion for the kidnappers | 我想起我同情绑匪 |
| 349 | and all of the lessons that I really learned. | 以及我学到的所有教训 |
| 350 | We all have the opportunity to free ourselves. | 我们都有机会解放自己。 |
| 351 | And it starts with really taking a look at who you are, | 从真正看看你是谁开始 |
| 352 | doing a self audit, following what feels good, | 做自我审计, 遵循什么感觉好, |
| 353 | and taking action. | 并采取行动。 |
| 354 | No matter where you are in your life right now, | 不管你现在在哪 |
| 355 | you have the opportunity to make a U-turn. | 你有机会转弯 |
| 356 | That means connecting to the truth, | 这意味着连接到真相, |
| 357 | connecting to your body, connecting to your joy. | 连接到你的身体 连接到你的快乐 |
| 358 | Most of all, that means making your U-turn. | 最重要的是,这意味着让你的U -转弯。 |
| 359 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
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