能放大其他所有技能的#1技能
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| 0:00 | If you were teaching a 101 course on communication and there's a student who was kind of on the fence | 如果你教101门交流课程 有个学生在围栏上 |
| 0:06 | about whether or not they should take it, whether or not they should sign up, what would you tell | 关于他们是否应该接受, 他们是否应该注册, 你会怎么说 |
| 0:11 | them to get them off the fence to take the communication class? | 让他们离开栅栏 参加交流课? |
| 0:14 | I would say to them, | 我会告诉他们, |
| 0:16 | if you ever want to influence anyone or lead anyone or advocate for anything you care about, | 如果你想影响任何人 或领导任何人 或倡导你关心的一切 |
| 0:24 | if you ever want to do any of those things, becoming an outstanding communicator | 成为杰出的通讯员 |
| 0:29 | will make you better at that. | 会让你更好 |
| 0:31 | Will make you better at that. | 会让你更好 |
| 0:32 | Or will help you do it in the | 或者会帮助你做到这一点 |
| 0:34 | first place. | 初总标. |
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| 1 | If you were teaching a 101 course on communication and there's a student who was kind of on the fence | 如果你教101门交流课程 有个学生在围栏上 |
| 2 | about whether or not they should take it, whether or not they should sign up, what would you tell | 关于他们是否应该接受, 他们是否应该注册, 你会怎么说 |
| 3 | them to get them off the fence to take the communication class? | 让他们离开栅栏 参加交流课? |
| 4 | I would say to them, | 我会告诉他们, |
| 5 | if you ever want to influence anyone or lead anyone or advocate for anything you care about, | 如果你想影响任何人 或领导任何人 或倡导你关心的一切 |
| 6 | if you ever want to do any of those things, becoming an outstanding communicator | 成为杰出的通讯员 |
| 7 | will make you better at that. | 会让你更好 |
| 8 | Will make you better at that. | 会让你更好 |
| 9 | Or will help you do it in the | 或者会帮助你做到这一点 |
| 10 | first place. | 初总标. |
| 11 | And is it just about influencing people at work or are there other like broader | 而是要影响工作上的人 还是有更宽广的 |
| 12 | situations? | 情况? |
| 13 | I think every situation benefits from better communication. | 我认为每个局势都得益于更好的沟通。 |
| 14 | Your interpersonal | 你的人际关系 |
| 15 | relationships, your family relationships, your professional relationships, whether you even | 关系,你的家庭关系,你的职业关系, 无论你甚至 |
| 16 | go and make those connections and reach those people. | 去建立这些联系 并联系到这些人。 |
| 17 | I think if you feel more at ease about | 我想如果你觉得比较放松 |
| 18 | communicating live, it is such an advantage in every aspect of your life. | 交流现场,这是你生活的各个方面的优势。 |
| 19 | Do you think most | 你觉得大部分 |
| 20 | young adults are just born good communicators or is it something that they have to learn and train? | 年轻人只是天生的好沟通者 还是他们必须学习和训练的东西? |
| 21 | I think even the best communicators need to learn and train and hone their skills. | 我认为,即使是最优秀的交流者也需要学习、训练、提高技能。 |
| 22 | I do think some | 我觉得有些 |
| 23 | people are born better at it than others. | 人比别人更擅长这个 |
| 24 | But it's not like, I always say this about, | 但这不是,我总是说, |
| 25 | people always bring up singing. | 人们总是提起唱歌。 |
| 26 | Like, oh, I can't sing. | 像,哦,我不会唱歌。 |
| 27 | I just wasn't. | 我只是没有。 |
| 28 | I do think singing is | 我觉得唱歌是 |
| 29 | something you can train and you can hone the craft and you can do a lot to make yourself a better | 你可以训练,可以修补 飞船,你可以做很多事情,让自己好起来 |
| 30 | singer. | 歌手们 |
| 31 | But singing to me seems like something that's much more you have it or you don't. | 但对我来说,唱歌似乎 更多的东西 你拥有它或你没有。 |
| 32 | Whereas communication, there's so much more room to grow and learn and improve no matter how good | 而沟通,有这么多的空间 成长,学习和改进,无论多么好 |
| 33 | you are at it. | 你是在做到这一点。 |
| 34 | Even the very best speakers have one challenge that they know. | 即使最优秀的发言者也有一个他们知道的挑战。 |
| 35 | They're like, oh, | 他们就像,哦, |
| 36 | I know I'm really long-winded. | 我知道我真的很长。 |
| 37 | I know I have to be more concise. | 我知道我必须更加简洁。 |
| 38 | They can work on that. | 他们可以做到这一点。 |
| 39 | It's really something for everybody in terms of improvement. | 在改善方面,这对每个人都很重要。 |
| 40 | And what have you seen just, I mean, you've been in this, not communication game explicitly, but | 你所看到的只是,我的意思是, 你一直在这个, 不是明确的交流游戏, |
| 41 | performance, law school. | 表演,法学院。 |
| 42 | What have you noticed about the risk of not being a good communicator? | 你注意到什么 风险是不 一个好沟通? |
| 43 | What happens if you don't actually learn how to be an effective communicator? | 如果你不真正学会如何成为一个有效的通讯员呢? |
| 44 | The things that you learn and the things that you have to offer that you bring to the table | 你学到的东西 和你必须提供的东西 你带到桌子上 |
| 45 | will stay with you. | 我会陪着你的 |
| 46 | They won't reach anyone else. | 他们不会联系到任何人。 |
| 47 | So you come up with a great idea or you | 所以你想出一个好主意,或者你 |
| 48 | land on something that might be really valuable to other people. | 地上的东西 可能是真正有价值的 对其他人。 |
| 49 | And it doesn't because maybe you're | 也不是因为也许你是 |
| 50 | not going to be willing to express it or you're not going to express it well | 不愿意表达,否则你就说不好 |
| 51 | or you're not going to bring the passion that you actually have to talking about it because you're | 或者你不会带来你实际上不得不谈论的激情 因为你是 |
| 52 | holding yourself back. | 挡住自己 |
| 53 | I think that's the risk is then it just stays with you. | 我想这是风险,然后它只是留在你身边。 |
| 54 | Then it doesn't | 那不会 |
| 55 | spread. | 展开。 |
| 56 | The human connection doesn't flourish. | 人类的连接并不繁荣. |
| 57 | I had a professor in college who told me one time that an A plus insight delivered | 我大学时有个教授曾跟我说过 一个A+的洞察力 |
| 58 | in a B plus way is always going to lose to a B insight delivered in an A plus way. | 在B+方式上,总是会输给以A+方式表达的B视角. |
| 59 | It's so true. | 如此真实. |
| 60 | And I bristle every time someone's like, it's not what you say, | 每次有人喜欢的时候 我都会说 不是你说的 |
| 61 | it's how you say it. | 这就是你说的 |
| 62 | I don't agree. | 我不这么认为 |
| 63 | I think it is what you say. | 我想这是你说的 |
| 64 | What you say is of critical | 你说的很关键 |
| 65 | importance, but I love the way that that person put it because what you say is very important | 很重要,但是我喜欢他这么说 因为你说的话很重要 |
| 66 | and how you say it will help its importance be heard. | 以及你说的会帮助人们听到它的重要性 |
| 67 | It'll help it land. | 它会帮助它着陆。 |
| 68 | Yeah. | 对 |
| 69 | And the funny thing is it's so important and yet so many of us are scared of communicating. | 有趣的是,它是如此重要, 然而我们许多人害怕沟通。 |
| 70 | I saw a stat when we were preparing for this that 75% of my generation is scared to | 我看见一个统计,当我们正在准备 这件事,我这一代75%的人害怕 |
| 71 | speak publicly, to speak in front of people. | 公开发言,在人们面前发言。 |
| 72 | And I mean, you know, that could be raising your hand | 我的意思是,你知道,这可能是举起你的手 |
| 73 | in class to ask a question. | 在课堂上问问题。 |
| 74 | It could be like contributing to seminar. | 这就像为研讨会作出贡献。 |
| 75 | It could be you're in | 你可能已经加入 |
| 76 | a job interview. | 面试 |
| 77 | But why do you think communication is so scary for us? | 但为什么你觉得沟通对我们来说如此可怕? |
| 78 | It's because we know we'll be evaluated and we're scared of being evaluated poorly. | 因为我们知道我们会被评价 我们害怕被评价不好 |
| 79 | We're scared of feeling embarrassed. | 我们害怕尴尬 |
| 80 | We're scared of misspeaking, of getting it wrong, | 我们害怕说错话 害怕弄错了 |
| 81 | of saying something someone thinks is horrible or cringeworthy. | 说一些有人认为可怕或值得信赖的话 |
| 82 | We're all scared of someone | 我们都怕别人 |
| 83 | walking away from us speaking and being like, I don't like that person. | 离开我们 说话和像, 我不喜欢那个人。 |
| 84 | That was terrible. | 这太可怕了。 |
| 85 | That's scary. | 这是可怕的。 |
| 86 | That's really scary. | 这真的很可怕。 |
| 87 | And generally when you do public speaking, | 一般来说当你公开演讲时 |
| 88 | the faces that you get because people in the audience don't know how scared you are and they | 你得到的面孔 因为观众不知道 你有多害怕,他们 |
| 89 | don't feel responsible for making you feel better generally with great exceptions. | 不觉得有责任 让你感觉更好 总的来说,除了非常例外。 |
| 90 | But usually the | 但通常情况下 |
| 91 | faces that you're getting while you're speaking are like, and that's just not natural. | 当你说话的时候,你得到的面孔是一样, 那只是不自然的。 |
| 92 | It's the | 这是 |
| 93 | worst. | 最惨了 |
| 94 | That's not natural. | 这不自然 |
| 95 | You don't get that non-verbal, the nodding and the uh-huhs and the | 你不明白那个非口头的,点头和 呃... |
| 96 | mm-hmms. | - 嗯,嗯,嗯。 - 嗯,嗯,嗯,嗯。 |
| 97 | They're all just sitting there like, what? | 他们只是坐在那里一样,什么? |
| 98 | What are you going to say? | 你想说什么? |
| 99 | Show me. | 给我看看 |
| 100 | Right. | 对 |
| 101 | It's terrifying. | 这是可怕的。 |
| 102 | It's so scary. | 惊骇不已. |
| 103 | Of course people are scared. | 当然人们害怕。 |
| 104 | Did you have like a time when you were first performing that you can remember just being | 你第一次表演的时候 你还记得 |
| 105 | terrified of stepping out on stage? | 怕上台吗? |
| 106 | The whole time. | 始终. |
| 107 | I think it's why, | 我想这就是为什么, |
| 108 | truly, I think it's why I care so much about trying to help people not go through that. | 真的,我想这就是为什么我这么关心 帮助人们不要经历。 |
| 109 | Because I thought there was something terribly wrong with me. | 因为我觉得自己有问题 |
| 110 | I would always say to people like, | 我总是对别人说, |
| 111 | oh, I just have the worst nerves. | 哦,我只是有 最糟糕的神经。 |
| 112 | I remember standing backstage and I loved nothing more | 我记得站在后台上,我只爱别的东西 |
| 113 | than performing and being on stage. | 而不是表演和在舞台上。 |
| 114 | It was all I ever wanted to do. | 这就是我一直想做的。 |
| 115 | And we would finish a month of | 我们会完成一个月 |
| 116 | rehearsals of practicing and thinking of nothing but the show. | 排练练习和思考 除了节目。 |
| 117 | And I remember standing backstage | 我记得站在后台 |
| 118 | and thinking, how do I get out of this? | 想想,我该怎么摆脱这一切? |
| 119 | Right. | 对 |
| 120 | What can I tell them? | 我能告诉他们什么? |
| 121 | I'm sick. | 我病了,我病了,我病了,我病了,我病了 |
| 122 | What can I tell | 我能说什么呢? |
| 123 | them has happened that will excuse me from having to go out there because the idea of stepping out | 他们已经发生了,那会原谅我 不得不去那里 因为的想法走出 |
| 124 | on that stage, even though it was all I wanted to do, was too scary. | 在那个舞台上,虽然我只想这么做,但太可怕了。 |
| 125 | It was too scary. | 这太可怕了。 |
| 126 | Yeah. | 对 |
| 127 | And so I just think that the whole time I was feeling that way, whether it was on stage or | 所以我想,我一直有这种感觉, 无论是在舞台上还是 |
| 128 | even then teaching a class or going into court and trying to argue something for the first time, | 即使当时教课或上法庭 并试图争吵 第一次, |
| 129 | any of those things that were making me nervous, the narrative for me at least along the way was | 任何让我紧张的事情, 对我的陈述至少是一路 |
| 130 | this is a me problem. | 我有一个问题 |
| 131 | And this is something I should not experience. | 这也是我不该经历的 |
| 132 | Not feel. | 没有感觉。 |
| 133 | I wish someone | 我希望有个人 |
| 134 | had told me that it was the most normal thing in the world and that it could be a superpower | 曾经告诉我,这是世界上最正常的事情, 它可以是超级大国 |
| 135 | to have that extra energy. | 拥有额外的能量。 |
| 136 | So wait, say more about nerves. | 等等,多讲讲神经 |
| 137 | How does being nervous connect to | 紧张与 |
| 138 | public speaking or getting in front of a crowd and saying something? | 公开演讲还是当着群众的面说些什么? |
| 139 | So most people, and I see this in every context with my clients at law firms, with my law students, | 因此,大多数人, 我从每一个背景 与我的客户 在律师事务所, 和我的法律学生, |
| 140 | with my mock trial students, certainly, most people feel nervous when they're going to stand | 与我的模拟实验学生, 当然,大多数人感到紧张 当他们要站立 |
| 141 | up in front of other people. | 在别人面前。 |
| 142 | It's like very minor exception that doesn't feel that way. | 这就像非常小的例外 没有那种感觉。 |
| 143 | And the connection is that everybody experiences it completely differently and in completely | 联系是每个人都有完全不同的体验 |
| 144 | different settings. | 不同的设置。 |
| 145 | For some people standing up in a huge room of hundreds of people is fine, | 对于有些人 站在一个巨大的房间 数百人是好的, |
| 146 | but sitting one-on-one in a setting like this would be their nightmare. | 但坐在一个一对一 这样的环境 将是他们的噩梦。 |
| 147 | And then other people, | 然后别人, |
| 148 | this is completely comfortable if it's just a conversation one-on-one, but then | 这是完全舒适的,如果它只是一个谈话 一对一,但然后 |
| 149 | other situations like a small group at a meeting or something. | 其他情况,比如一个小团体 在一个会议什么的。 |
| 150 | What are some of those inward or outward signs of nervousness? | 哪些是内向或外向的紧张迹象? |
| 151 | Oh gosh, I've heard them all. | 天啊,我都听过了 |
| 152 | Most people feel like a tightening in their throat. | 大多数人都觉得喉咙很紧 |
| 153 | That's why I see people reach for water a lot. | 故见人常伸水. |
| 154 | Tightening in throat. | 紧紧咽喉. |
| 155 | Tightening in throat, sweaty palms, shaky hands, heart beating faster. | 咽喉紧紧,手掌汗出,手摇,心跳较快. |
| 156 | A lot of people feel | 很多人都觉得 |
| 157 | warm, like feel a flush happen to them, all kinds of different things. | 温和的,像感觉 冲浪发生在他们身上, 各种各样的事情。 |
| 158 | I have people describe all | 我有个人描述一切 |
| 159 | the time that they just feel like they blank out. | 时间,他们只是感觉 像他们空白了。 |
| 160 | That nerves cause them to kind of space. | 神经会让他们进入某种空间 |
| 161 | Like forget what they're going to say. | 比如忘记他们要说的话 |
| 162 | Forget what they're going to say. | 忘了他们要说什么吧 |
| 163 | Not be able to listen to someone else who's talking if they have | 如果有人在说话 就不能听别人说话 |
| 164 | to respond. | 以回应。 |
| 165 | All of the sudden it's like the words aren't going in. | 忽然如是言语不入. |
| 166 | Oh my gosh. | 天呐 |
| 167 | It's scary. | 令人惊骇. |
| 168 | What about from a, like if I'm sitting in the audience and there's a speaker, what would be | 狦иГ芠渤 Τ扬羘羘m2 |
| 169 | some outward signs of that speaker being nervous? | 有外表显示那个演讲者紧张吗? |
| 170 | Is it like their body language is weird or they're | 他们的身体语言是怪异的还是 |
| 171 | speaking softer or something? | 说话比较柔软还是什么的? |
| 172 | Usually people race. | 通常人们会比赛。 |
| 173 | They race through it. | 他们通过它。 |
| 174 | They start speaking really quickly. | 他们说话很快 |
| 175 | I think out of in an effort to just let's get through it. | 我想尽一切办法渡过难关 |
| 176 | Yeah, let's get this going. | 是的,让我们开始吧。 |
| 177 | Let me just keep spitting out words until it's finished. | 让我继续吐口水 直到它完成。 |
| 178 | A lot of times it leads to not engaging | 很多时候,它导致没有接触 |
| 179 | to kind of just like picking a spot on the wall and just talking and going. | 就像在墙上挑个地方 聊天然后走 |
| 180 | Yeah. | 对 |
| 181 | I also, I love what you said earlier about how some people are scared of the one-on-one | 我也喜欢你刚才说的 有些人害怕一对一 |
| 182 | interactions and some people are scared of the audience. | 有些人害怕观众。 |
| 183 | I had a friend who, he told me he's, | 我有个朋友 他说他 |
| 184 | when he's in a crowd, he feels more safe because there's not like a single person that he's like, | 当他在人群中,他觉得更安全 因为没有像一个人 他喜欢, |
| 185 | oh my gosh, are they judging me right now? | 哦,我的天啊,他们现在在评判我吗? |
| 186 | But I think most people, including me, feel totally | 但我认为大多数人,包括我在内, 都完全感觉到 |
| 187 | fine with like the one-on-one stuff and where they struggle is the, oh, I got to give a presentation | 好吧,像一对一的东西 他们挣扎的地方是,哦,我必须做一个演示 |
| 188 | at work or, oh, I guess I got to get in the courtroom. | 在工作,或者,哦, 我想我必须进入法庭。 |
| 189 | Is there, do you have any like, | 有没有,你有什么喜欢, |
| 190 | can you think of any stories from people that you've coached or even from your own life where | 你能想到你所教过的人 或甚至你自己的生活中的任何故事吗? |
| 191 | not handling nerves properly really ruined our performance, our presentation and opportunity? | 没有正确处理神经 真正毁了我们的表演,我们的介绍和机会? |
| 192 | I can't think of anything specific, but I can think of rooms I've been in when a speaker clearly | 我无法想出具体的事情 但我可以想出我去过的房间 当一个发言者清楚地 |
| 193 | feels so uncomfortable that they race through and their nerves are so palpable that it makes | 感觉很不舒服,他们跑过 和他们的神经是如此明显,它使 |
| 194 | the room uncomfortable and ruins the moment, ruins the speech. | 房间很不舒服 也毁了时机 毁了演讲 |
| 195 | Only because we, as the audience | 只因为我们,作为观众 |
| 196 | members, we don't want the speaker to feel uncomfortable. | 成员们,我们不希望演讲者感到不舒服。 |
| 197 | We root for the people generally | 我们为人民着想 |
| 198 | because it's so awkward when we feel that discomfort. | 因为它是如此尴尬 当我们感到不适。 |
| 199 | So we're rooting for the speaker. | 所以我们要支持演讲者。 |
| 200 | We all want to feel like everyone's comfortable. | 我们都想觉得大家都舒服 |
| 201 | It is. | 没错 |
| 202 | We all want to feel like everyone's comfortable. | 我们都想觉得大家都舒服 |
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