【全英Vlog】Vol.100｜跟纽约女生学聊人生的地道英语
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剧集目录
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| P1 | 【全英Vlog】Vol.100｜跟纽约女生学聊人生的地道英语 | 15:09 |
| P2 | 【全英Vlog】Vol.100｜跟纽约女生学聊人生的地道英语 | 15:09 |
| P3 | 【全英Vlog】Vol.100｜跟纽约女生学聊人生的地道英语 | 15:09 |
P1 · 【全英Vlog】Vol.100｜跟纽约女生学聊人生的地道英语 p01 双语字幕版 (P1)
字幕摘录
| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:00 | Hi guys, it's Sid. | 嗨,伙计们,我是希德。 |
| 0:06 | Things are really advancing over here with the microphone. | 麦克风正在推进 |
| 0:09 | You know, I got an increase in budget | 你知道,我的预算增加了 |
| 0:11 | this last quarter. | 这最后一个季度。 |
| 0:12 | No, I actually just pulled this from my Omegle days. | 不,我其实只是从我的奥米格的日子里拉出来的。 |
| 0:16 | Um, we're not even going to | 嗯,我们甚至不会 |
| 0:18 | 说 about. | |
| 0:19 | I just wanted to chat and give advice that, to be honest, I have no qualifications | 我只是想谈谈 给建议,说实话,我没有资格 |
| 0:25 | I will say I do think I give pretty good advice. | 我会说,我确实认为 我给出了非常好的建议。 |
| 0:28 | My friends say that I give good advice. | 我的朋友说我给出了好的建议 |
展开字幕全文（311 条）
| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | Hi guys, it's Sid. | 嗨,伙计们,我是希德。 |
| 2 | Things are really advancing over here with the microphone. | 麦克风正在推进 |
| 3 | You know, I got an increase in budget | 你知道,我的预算增加了 |
| 4 | this last quarter. | 这最后一个季度。 |
| 5 | No, I actually just pulled this from my Omegle days. | 不,我其实只是从我的奥米格的日子里拉出来的。 |
| 6 | Um, we're not even going to | 嗯,我们甚至不会 |
| 7 | 说 about. | |
| 8 | I just wanted to chat and give advice that, to be honest, I have no qualifications | 我只是想谈谈 给建议,说实话,我没有资格 |
| 9 | I will say I do think I give pretty good advice. | 我会说,我确实认为 我给出了非常好的建议。 |
| 10 | My friends say that I give good advice. | 我的朋友说我给出了好的建议 |
| 11 | It's been | 已经是 |
| 12 | like a year, I think, since I did one of these. | 我想,因为我做了一个这样的。 |
| 13 | 所以我继续我的Instagram故事。 | |
| 14 | I asked you guys | 我问你们 |
| 15 | what you need advice on. | 你需要什么建议? |
| 16 | I struggle so much with procrastination and later I end up feeling so | 我为拖延而挣扎,后来我感觉如此 |
| 17 | horrible about it. | 这太可怕了 |
| 18 | That's so funny because I was going to procrastinate filming this video | 这太好笑了 因为我打算拖延拍摄这段视频 |
| 19 | because it's 11 p.m. and I was tired. | 因为是晚上11点 我累了 |
| 20 | Then I was about to get ready for bed and I was like, | 然后,我正准备上床睡觉,我想, |
| 21 | I can't go to bed feeling like this because I didn't get done what I said I was going to get | 我不能去睡觉 感觉这样 因为我没有完成 我说我要得到的东西 |
| 22 | done. | 结束了。 |
| 23 | If you procrastinate it's prioritizing how you feel in the moment and feeling worse later | 如果你拖延,这是优先 你的感受 在那一刻,感觉更糟以后 |
| 24 | versus if you get it done right away and don't procrastinate you feel worse in the moment, | 如果你马上完成 并且不要拖延 你感到更糟糕的时刻, |
| 25 | better later. | 晚点再说吧 |
| 26 | How to stop comparing other people close to you getting engaged or in a relationship. | 如何停止比较 其他人接近你 订婚或在一个关系。 |
| 27 | This really hits home to me because I went through a breakup a couple months ago. | 这真的让我回家 因为我几个月前经历了分手 |
| 28 | One of the hardest | 最难的 |
| 29 | parts I think of it when I was deeper in the trenches was just seeing all of these engagement | 当我在战壕深处的时候,我想到的只是 看到所有这些接触 |
| 30 | 整个Instagram的文章。 | |
| 31 | It almost felt like once I went through the breakup suddenly I was hyper | 几乎感觉我经历了分手 突然我超强 |
| 32 | aware of seeing everyone's engagement posts and wedding posts. | 发现每个人的订婚帖子和婚礼帖子 |
| 33 | I think in terms of social media | 我觉得社交媒体 |
| 34 | if you're struggling maybe just like limit it or get off of it for a bit but if it's people close | 如果你正在挣扎 也许只是像限制 它或离开它一点点,但如果它的人接近 |
| 35 | to you who are getting engaged I think really like your close friends getting engaged is such an | 和你订婚的人,我觉得真的 就像你的亲密朋友订婚是这样的 |
| 36 | exciting time. | 兴奋的时间。 |
| 37 | Hopefully you can almost use it as like your hope and like motivation for what you | 希望你能像希望一样 用它来激励你 |
| 38 | want in the future. | 渴望未来 |
| 39 | Focus on their happiness and like take it away from yourself and like realize | 专注于他们的幸福 喜欢把它从你身上夺走 像意识到 |
| 40 | they can be happy and engaged. | 他们可以快乐和订婚。 |
| 41 | Your friends can be having these milestones and you can also still | 你的朋友可以有这些里程碑 你也可以仍然 |
| 42 | feel sad about maybe like going through a breakup or being single and knowing that your time will | 感觉难过,也许喜欢 经历分手或单身 并且知道你的时间会 |
| 43 | come. | 来 |
| 44 | Everyone just has different timelines and you can't even begin to compare. | 每个人都有不同的时间表,你甚至不能开始比较。 |
| 45 | Do you think two | 你认为两个 |
| 46 | people can be right for each other but meet at the wrong time in their lives? | 人可以对彼此 却在人生中错的时候见面? |
| 47 | Personally I believe | 我个人相信 |
| 48 | right person wrong time can definitely be a thing. | 正确的人 错误的时间肯定是一个事情。 |
| 49 | I do think though sometimes we believe too much | 我确实认为,虽然有时我们相信太多 |
| 50 | in the right person wrong time thing to the point where we think that person is perfect for us but | 在正确的人 错误的时间事物 以至于我们认为 这个人是完美的我们,但 |
| 51 | it's just the wrong time when maybe the person themselves actually isn't your person and there | 可能那个人本身不是你的人 而在那里 |
| 52 | like is never a right time. | 像从来没有一个合适的时机。 |
| 53 | I think holding on to hope in those situations where you think that | 我认为在那些你认为 |
| 54 | there's going to be a right time in the future is really detrimental when it comes to breakups | 将来有合适的时机 分手会很不利 |
| 55 | because you're just like delaying your healing process. | 因为你就像拖延你的疗伤过程 |
| 56 | I don't think for me at least I could | 我觉得我至少不能 |
| 57 | not fully grieve a breakup if in the back of my mind I'm thinking maybe there is a right time with | 如果在我脑海的后面 我想也许有合适的时机 |
| 58 | that person down the road and having this like glimmer of hope I think would just like set me | 那人走在路上 带着希望的一丝一毫 |
| 59 | back a lot. | 回来很多。 |
| 60 | I'm in a situation in which either I have to leave my friends or build my career. | 我身处这样的境地,要么离开朋友,要么建立事业. |
| 61 | Which should I choose? | 我该选哪一个? |
| 62 | Obviously I don't know the details here but I would assume that means you're | 显然我不知道这里的细节 但我会假设你就是 |
| 63 | away from your friends in order to like get a certain job opportunity and in my opinion | 远离你的朋友, 喜欢得到某种工作机会 在我看来 |
| 64 | that shouldn't mean losing your friends. | 这并不意味着失去你的朋友。 |
| 65 | Ironically one of my best friends who you guys know Rachel | 讽刺的是,我最好的朋友之一 你们认识瑞秋 |
| 66 | when I moved away from home at 18 we became even closer after moving far apart. | 当我18岁搬家的时候 我们离家更近了 |
| 67 | I think we just had | 我想我们刚刚有 |
| 68 | so much more to talk about and like catch up on what has happened in our lives and it really like | 说得更多 喜欢追上我们生活中发生的事情 |
| 69 | value our facetime calls and like when we hang out in person so much more than before. | 珍视我们的时空通话 就像我们比以前更亲自约会 |
| 70 | When you stick | 当你坚持 |
| 71 | with a friend too like that I feel like it just builds such a special friendship because as you | 与一个朋友太喜欢,我觉得它只是 建立这样一个特殊的友谊,因为你 |
| 72 | get older friendships I think do take work. | 得到更年长的友谊,我想 工作。 |
| 73 | You do have to put in effort for adult friendships more. | 你必须为成人友谊付出更多努力。 |
| 74 | Having friends that can put an effort from afar even if it's just like facetiming every now and | 有了朋友,可以把 努力从远处,即使它只是像 面对现在和 |
| 75 | then catching up on a phone call here and there. | 然后接通了电话 |
| 76 | I think the people that are really your true friends | 我认为那些真正是你真正朋友的人 |
| 77 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}也许会鼓励和支持你 | |
| 78 | new career. | 新职业 |
| 79 | I don't think you have to sacrifice one or the other. | 我不认为你必须牺牲一个或另一个。 |
| 80 | How do I not lose myself in a | 我怎么能不失去自己在一个 |
| 81 | relationship? | 关系? |
| 82 | For me it's important to just always have my independent hobbies, my independent friends | 对于我来说,重要的是 总是有我的独立爱好 我的独立朋友 |
| 83 | and my independent career. | 还有我的独立事业 |
| 84 | I feel like having those things and having your own identity still | 我想有那些东西,还有你自己的身份 |
| 85 | in those things is what helps me to not lose myself in a relationship. | 在那些事情中,帮助我 不失去自己在一个关系。 |
| 86 | Getting over a breakup | 过了分手期 |
| 87 | please. | 请 |
| 88 | Breakups suck. | 分手很烂。 |
| 89 | There's like no way to say that they don't suck. | 亦无如是说不吸. |
| 90 | I think my best advice is | 我觉得我最好的建议是 |
| 91 | firstly just going in no contact. | 首先,只是去 没有接触。 |
| 92 | I know this is like basics and everyone says this but I don't | 我知道这就像基本的东西 每个人都这么说 但我不 |
| 93 | think it's possible to get over someone if you're still talking to them. | 如果你还在和他们说话 就能摆脱别人 |
| 94 | I would say that and also | 我也会这么说,而且 |
| 95 | during the sad times remembering the reason or reasons why it ended and also I would just say | 在悲伤的时光中 想起它结束的原因 |
| 96 | letting yourself be sad because it is like a loss. | 让你自己伤心,因为它就像一个损失。 |
| 97 | It's like losing someone so important in your life | 就像失去你生命中如此重要的人一样 |
| 98 | and allowing yourself to just grieve it and move through it and then move on. | 并允许自己 仅仅悲伤和移动 通过它然后前进。 |
| 99 | Finding a balanced | 寻找平衡 |
| 100 | and healthy relationship with food and movement. | 与食物和运动的健康关系。 |
| 101 | As I've gotten older and sometimes maybe as I start | 当我长大了,有时也许当我开始 |
| 102 | to compare those things I just stop and remember I know my body better than anybody else does. | 来比较那些事情 我只是停下来 记得我比别人更了解我的身体。 |
| 103 | One size is not fits all for what you eat, how you work out. | 一种尺寸不适合你吃什么,如何工作。 |
| 104 | Like for me I hate running. | 就像我讨厌跑步一样 |
| 105 | Okay I'm | 好吧,我没事 |
| 106 | sorry to all the runners out there. | 对外面的跑者们很抱歉 |
| 107 | Walking only. | 仅行走. |
| 108 | But I love pilates and I love one of these workout | 但我喜欢皮条客 我喜欢这种锻炼 |
| 109 | cardio classes near me. | 我身边的心肺科 |
| 110 | I do those things because that's what I like. | 我这么做是因为我喜欢这样 |
| 111 | So you just have to find like | 所以,你只需要找到像 |
| 112 | what you enjoy because that's also what's going to make it sustainable. | 你所享受的,因为那也是 如何使它的可持续性。 |
| 113 | If you're doing something | 如果你在做点什么 |
| 114 | you hate just because your friend is doing it it's not going to work or last. | 你只是因为你的朋友在做它 它不会工作或持续。 |
| 115 | How to feel at | 感觉如何 |
| 116 | peace internally. | 国内和平。 |
| 117 | I feel like I'm always looking for change or improvement. | 我觉得我总是在寻找改变或改进。 |
| 118 | Sometimes I catch myself | 有时我抓自己 |
| 119 | thinking I'll be happy once I achieve this or I'll be happy once I accomplish this goal. | 认为一旦我实现了这个目标,我会很快乐 或者一旦我完成了这个目标,我会很快乐 |
| 120 | And that | 还有 |
| 121 | is such a sad way to live because then you're basically saying that you're not allowed to be | 生活太悲哀了 因为你根本就是说 你不允许 |
| 122 | content in the moment. | 内容在此刻。 |
| 123 | Sometimes I just really don't appreciate all of the blessings that I have. | 有时候我真的不欣赏我所有的祝福 |
| 124 | Sometimes it just takes me like writing down three things a day what I'm grateful for to really | 有时候我每天要写三件事 我很感激 |
| 125 | be more present and realize I have beyond everything I could have ever dreamed. | 更现身 并意识到我拥有超越一切 我曾经梦想。 |
| 126 | How are | 怎么样 |
| 127 | you able to handle missing your family when you went to college? | 你上大学时能处理失去家人的问题吗? |
| 128 | I was not good at this and I'm | 我不擅长这个,我 |
| 129 | honestly still not good at this. | 老实说,还是不擅长这个。 |
| 130 | Like I just got home from Minnesota yesterday and I was so sad | 就像我昨天刚从明尼苏达回来,我好伤心 |
| 131 | last night going to bed because I missed them. | 昨晚睡觉是因为我错过了 |
| 132 | I think things shifted for me when I realized I'm | 我觉得事情变了 当我意识到我 |
| 133 | so lucky to feel like I miss my family. | 幸好我觉得我想念我的家人 |
| 134 | So many people don't miss their family because they don't | 所以很多人不想念家人,因为他们不想念 |
| 135 | have a good relationship with them and how lucky am I to have such an amazing family and relationship | 和他们有良好的关系 我是多么幸运 有这样一个惊人的家庭和关系 |
| 136 | with my family to miss them. | 和我的家人一起怀念他们 |
| 137 | More reasonably to your question planning trips and having trips | 更合理地回答你的问题 计划旅行和有旅行 |
| 138 | pre-planned. | 预先计划。 |
| 139 | So like when I leave them I know when I'm gonna see them next exactly. | 所以,当我离开他们,我知道 当我要去看到他们 下一个确切的。 |
| 140 | Found out my | 发现我的 |
| 141 | boyfriend lied about something small. | 男朋友撒了个小谎 |
| 142 | What do I do help? | 我能帮什么忙? |
| 143 | From my experience you have to communicate | 根据我的经验 你必须沟通 |
| 144 | everything. | 一切众生. |
| 145 | Small things lead into big things if you don't address it right away and brush it under | 小东西引向大东西,如果你不马上解决,并刷在下面 |
| 146 | the rug. | 地毯 地毯 |
| 147 | I just think you need to have an open honest conversation about how you're feeling | 我只是觉得你需要开诚布公地谈谈你的感觉 |
| 148 | before things snowball. | 雪球之前,你应该知道 |
| 149 | How do you feel about friendships where you drift apart? | 你对友谊的感觉如何? |
| 150 | I think we | 我觉得我们 |
| 151 | actually kind of need to normalize it. | 实际上,它需要正常化。 |
| 152 | Not that it's a great thing I think it can be seen as very | 这并不是说这是一件伟大的事情 我认为它可以被视为非常 |
| 153 | sad but I think sometimes we just outgrow people and like sometimes nobody does anything wrong | 悲伤,但我觉得有时我们只是 超越人,有时 像没有人做错任何事 |
| 154 | but there have been a few people that I was friends with years ago and I'm not as close | 但几年前我和几个人曾是朋友 但我没有那么亲密 |
| 155 | with anymore and like nothing really happened like no one did anything wrong but we just didn't | 和现在一样,没有真的发生 像没有人做错什么,但我们只是没有 |
| 156 | really click anymore and I think it's something that you kind of see slowly over time that one of | 真的点击了,我觉得这是一些东西 你慢慢地看到,一个 |
| 157 | you is growing in one direction and the other person's kind of going another. | 你向着一个方向发展,另一个人又向另一个方向发展。 |
| 158 | It can be really | 这可能是真的 |
| 159 | sad to grieve a friendship that you had with them but that's when I just try to value the time that | 悲伤地哀悼你与他们的友谊... ...但那时我正试着珍惜时间 |
| 160 | we had together and appreciate all the good memories and the relationship that I had with | 我们在一起 并欣赏所有美好的回忆 和我的关系 |
| 161 | them because they like helped form me into the person that I am today. | 因为他们喜欢帮助我 形成我今天的人。 |
| 162 | They were maybe just in | 他们也许只是 |
| 163 | my life for a season. | 我的生活是一个季节。 |
| 164 | Does it truly get better after high school? | 高中毕业后真的好点了吗? |
| 165 | High school for me was the worst | 高中对我来说是最糟糕的 |
| 166 | four years of my life and it has gotten unimaginably better. | 四年来我的生活, 它已经变得不可思议的更好。 |
| 167 | If you're going through | 如果你正在经历 |
| 168 | a tough time and you're in high school just hang on it gets better. | 一个艰难的时期,你正在高中 只是坚持它得到更好。 |
| 169 | I have trust issues and it makes | 我有信任的问题,它使 |
| 170 | everything so hard in life like I can't even trust my own mom. | 生活中的一切 如此艰难 我甚至不能相信自己的妈妈。 |
| 171 | I think you just really need to learn | 我觉得你只是需要学习 |
| 172 | yourself and find the root of that to like discover why why you feel that way and I'm sure there's a | 找到它的根源来发现 为什么你会有这种感觉 我敢肯定有一个 |
| 173 | good reason. | 理由不错 |
| 174 | I'm sure someone probably disappointed you in the past and that's horrible but it's about | 我敢肯定,有人可能失望 你在过去,这是可怕的,但这是关于 |
| 175 | understanding it and realizing that just because one person did it not everybody is going to betray | 理解它,意识到 仅仅因为一个人这样做 不是每个人都会背叛 |
| 176 | you because you don't want to be tainted forever and you want to be able to trust people again | 你因为不想永远被玷污 而你又想重新相信别人 |
| 177 | just the right people. | 只是对的人。 |
| 178 | How to start enjoying your own company. | 如何开始享受自己的公司。 |
| 179 | I think you have to almost treat | 我想你几乎要请客 |
| 180 | sometimes your time alone as a date. | 有时候你一个人约会 |
| 181 | Why are we not getting dressed to go out to dinner for ourselves? | 我们为什么不穿好衣服出去吃饭呢? |
| 182 | So I just started doing that you know I was like wait why don't I take myself to dinner? | 所以我才开始做,你知道我在等 为什么我不去吃晚饭? |
| 183 | Who am I | 我是谁 |
| 184 | waiting for? | 等着? |
| 185 | I think there's such a sense of empowerment that comes with that. | 我认为有这种赋予权力的感觉 伴随着这一点。 |
| 186 | It's so empowering | 它是如此的赋权 |
| 187 | to realize that you can give yourself all the things that you want. | 以意识到你可以给自己 所有你想要的东西。 |
| 188 | I think it makes the time | 我觉得是时候了 |
| 189 | with yourself even more enjoyable. | 与你自己更快乐。 |
| 190 | How to make friends in a big city. | 如何是大城交友处. |
| 191 | Moving to new work was | 转向新工作 |
| 192 | really tough for me. | 对我来说真的很艰难。 |
| 193 | I would say around the six month mark I almost backed out. | 六个月左右我差点退缩了 |
| 194 | I almost broke my | 我差点弄坏了 |
| 195 | I was really struggling because I moved here knowing zero people and I'm not exaggerating | 我真的很挣扎,因为我搬到这里 认识零人,我没有夸张 |
| 196 | zero. | 零点。 |
| 197 | I really went in completely cold. | 我真的非常的冷,我感觉很冷 |
| 198 | I lived alone. | 我一个人住 |
| 199 | I just tried to put myself out there a lot | 我只是试图把自己 在那里很多 |
| 200 | and I think it's kind of like dating. | 我觉得这有点像约会 |
| 201 | You kind of have to meet a few people see who you mesh with | 你得见几个人 看看你和谁在一起 |
| 202 | see who you don't. | 看看你没有谁。 |
| 203 | I remember meeting so many people and I would just ask them hey like do you | 我记得我见过这么多人,我会问他们,就像你一样 |
| 204 | want to get coffee next week? | 下周想喝咖啡吗? |
| 205 | You know I just moved here and a lot of the times people were more | 你知道,我刚搬到这里 和很多时候的人是更多的 |
| 206 | receptive than I anticipated. | 比我预想的要好 |
| 207 | I think we underestimate how other people are also probably | 我觉得我们低估了别人可能也是 |
| 208 | maybe feeling lonely and also looking for friends. | 也许觉得寂寞 也在找朋友 |
| 209 | Sometimes all it takes is just putting yourself | 有时候,它只需要 仅仅把自己 |
| 210 | out there and someone might be just as receptive. | 外面的人可能也会接受 |
| 211 | What other self-care activities do you do to keep | 你们还做了哪些自我护理活动? |
| 212 | yourself well besides journaling and exercising? | 除了日记和锻炼之外,你还行吧? |
| 213 | Hanging out with my friends is a big one. | 和我的朋友们一起玩是件大事 |
| 214 | Facetiming my family always makes me so happy. | 面对家人总是让我高兴 |
| 215 | I love getting massages. | 我喜欢按摩 |
| 216 | It's like my guilty pleasure. | 这就像我的罪恶快乐。 |
| 217 | I do spend a lot of my money on that. | 我花了很多钱 |
| 218 | Oh I also love facials. | 我也喜欢面部表情 |
| 219 | How do you navigate a relationship | 如何引导关系 |
| 220 | without seeing it as a threat to your independence? | 却不认为这是对你的独立的威胁? |
| 221 | I think if you're with the right person it won't | 我想如果你和对的人在一起 就不会了 |
| 222 | seem like there is any threat to your independence. | 看来你的独立性受到威胁了 |
| 223 | Obviously just being aware to keep your own hobbies | 显然,只是意识到 保持自己的爱好 |
| 224 | and keep your own friends and relationships with your family. | 并保持自己的朋友 和你的家人的关系。 |
| 225 | Making sure that those are still just | 确保这些仍然是公正的 |
| 226 | as much of a priority and your career. | 以及你的事业 |
| 227 | Don't forget about those things especially in the beginning of | 不要忘记那些东西 尤其是开始的时候 |
| 228 | relationship when the honeymoon stage is there because you don't want to lose friendships over | 蜜月舞台上的关系 因为你不想失去友谊 |
| 229 | dating someone and you shouldn't have to sacrifice that. | 和别人约会 你不应该牺牲它 |
| 230 | So this is so interesting. | 因此,这是非常有趣的。 |
| 231 | Is maturing | 正在成熟 |
| 232 | mentally a subconscious phenomenon as you grow or an active choice? | 精神上的一种潜意识现象 当你成长还是积极的选择? |
| 233 | I think it's both. | 我觉得两者都是 |
| 234 | I don't think | 我不觉得 |
| 235 | it's just one or the other. | 它只是一个或另一个。 |
| 236 | I do think there's truth of course to your brain. | 我认为你的大脑当然有道理 |
| 237 | Scientifically | 科学 |
| 238 | developing as you grow into your mid-20s and late-20s I totally felt that shift when I turned 25 and | 随着你成长到20世纪20年代中期 20世纪20年代末 我完全感受到了25岁时的转变 |
| 239 | people around me would say when you turn 25 you're gonna feel like everything just clicks and you | 我周围的人会说 当你25岁的时候 你会觉得一切都像 点击,你 |
| 240 | see the world differently and I don't know a specific moment when but it really just showed | 不同的世界,我不知道一个具体的时刻 当它真的显示 |
| 241 | me that a lot of my problems really don't matter and it really made me see what's truly important | 我的很多问题真的不重要 这让我看到了什么才是真正重要的 |
| 242 | and not just these like minuscule little things that I thought were so important. | 不只是这些小事 我认为很重要 |
| 243 | So it really | 原来如此 |
| 244 | put things into perspective for me. | 把事情讲给我听 |
| 245 | Aside from the science of your brain maturing I do think | 除了你的大脑成熟科学外 我想 |
| 246 | there is a choice involved and I do think it's mature to take time to self-reflect on maybe | 我确实认为需要时间才能自我反思 |
| 247 | mistakes you make and what you want for your life, where you're headed. | 你犯了错误,你想要什么 你的生活,你要去哪里。 |
| 248 | So financial advice, | 因此,财务建议, |
| 249 | how to earn more money and how to manage your money? | 如何赚更多的钱 如何管理你的钱? |
| 250 | This is a great question and I don't really | 这是一个伟大的问题,我不真的 |
| 251 | talk about finances very often on here. | 经常在这里谈论金融 |
| 252 | From my experience my parents always encouraged me to | 根据我的经验 我父母一直鼓励我 |
| 253 | start saving at an early age. | 从小就开始储蓄 |
| 254 | I am in a very fortunate position where I started my career | 我身处一个非常幸运的位置 我开始我的职业生涯 |
| 255 | super young. | 超级年轻。 |
| 256 | I was like 15, 14, 13, I don't know. | 我当时15,14,13,我不知道。 |
| 257 | But ever since I started making money at a really | 但自从我开始赚钱 真的 |
| 258 | young age doing YouTube I just saved and my parents set me up with a financial advisor who | 年轻时在YouTube工作 我刚刚救了 我的父母给我安排了一个财务顾问 |
| 259 | helped me from a young age start saving for retirement. | 帮助我从小开始为退休储蓄。 |
| 260 | There's obviously rules and how much | 显然有规则和多少 |
| 261 | you can allocate each year and things. | 您可以每年分配一些东西。 |
| 262 | There's so many different investment funds and stocks and | 有很多不同的投资基金和股票 |
| 263 | portfolios and things that you can invest in. | 投资组合和可以投资的东西。 |
| 264 | I'm not an expert on that so I decided to hand that | 我不是这方面的专家 所以我决定交出 |
| 265 | off to someone who I believe is the expert and helps me and guides me with my money. | 帮助我 用我的钱指引我 |
| 266 | So I mean | 所以我说 |
| 267 | if that's something you're really interested in and passionate about I think investing is a very | 如果这是你真正感兴趣和热情的东西 我认为投资是一个非常 |
| 268 | smart thing to do especially when you're young. | 年轻时特别聪明 |
| 269 | No matter what the amount is, big or small, | 无论多少,无论大小, |
| 270 | investing and saving for your future if you're able to do it. | 如果你能做到的话 投资并节省你的未来 |
| 271 | I feel so lucky and privileged | 我感到如此幸运和特权 |
| 272 | of course to have been able to do this so I do just want to stress that any amount that you can | 当然可以,所以我只想强调,你可以提供多少 |
| 273 | save and even just put in an account that builds interest versus sitting in an account that doesn't | 存起来,甚至放进一个账户 建立利息 相对于坐在一个账户 不 |
| 274 | build interest is very smart. | 建立兴趣是非常聪明的。 |
| 275 | How to have a really good relationship with food. | 如何有一个真正的良好 与食物的关系。 |
| 276 | Some of you guys know | 你们有些人知道 |
| 277 | I had ARFID, an eating disorder, a few years ago. | 几年前我患了ARFID 一种饮食障碍 |
| 278 | Very hard time of my life. | 我生命中非常艰难 |
| 279 | I went to treatment | 我去治疗了 |
| 280 | for it and I am like fully on the other side now. | 我完全站在另一边 |
| 281 | Looking back I cannot believe that I went through | 回想起来 我不敢相信我经历了 |
| 282 | that and how much has drastically changed in my life since then. | 从那时起,我的生活发生了多大的巨变 |
| 283 | That's definitely a loaded | 绝对是满载的 |
| 284 | question and something that you need to really work on within yourself and I think sometimes | 问题和一些你需要 真正工作在自己内部,我觉得有时 |
| 285 | professional treatments if they're accessible are the best for that. | 专业治疗,如果可以使用,是最好的。 |
| 286 | So I guess instead of answering | 所以,我猜 而不是回答 |
| 287 | how to have a good relationship with food I'm more coming at it from the stance that it is possible | 如何与食物保持良好的关系 我更希望从这个立场上说,这是可能的 |
| 288 | and I just saw this and I just wanted to answer this because I just wanted to give people hope | 我刚刚看到这个 我想回答这个 因为我只是想给人们希望 |
| 289 | because I remember being at the depths of this eating disorder and feeling like I'm never | 因为我记得在这种饮食障碍的深处 感觉我从来没有 |
| 290 | going to be able to eat normally ever again and for a long time it really felt like that and coming | 能够继续正常地吃下去 很久以来 感觉就像那样 |
| 291 | out on the other end now after years and hard work I feel like I've not even thought about those | 在另一端 经过多年的辛勤工作 我觉得我甚至没有想过那些 |
| 292 | things in years. | 多年来的事情 |
| 293 | I guess I saw this and I just wanted to give people hope that it is possible. | 我想我看到了这个 我只是想给人们希望 这是可能的。 |
| 294 | How to stay consistent in reading my Bible. | 如何在阅读我的圣经时保持一致. |
| 295 | For me something as simple as like literally just | 对我来说 简单的东西 就像字面上 |
| 296 | having it on my nightstand has helped. | 把它放在我的睡台上帮助。 |
| 297 | If I find it's like tucked underneath my desk in a drawer | 如果我发现它就像 放在我桌子下面的抽屉里 |
| 298 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}所以我一直想把书放在方便的地方 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}我一直想着 | |
| 299 | and to be honest that has helped a lot so maybe maybe that'll help help you too. | 老实说,这帮了大忙 也许这也会帮你 |
| 300 | Okay guys I think | 好吧,伙计们,我想 |
| 301 | that's everything I have for today. | 这就是我今天的一切。 |
| 302 | We are at 57 minutes so it's going to be a long one to edit | 已经57分钟了,要编辑很久了 |
| 303 | me tomorrow. | 我明天来 |
| 304 | Definitely take this with a grain of salt. | 绝对要用一粒盐 |
| 305 | I am no expert but I did just want to | 我不是专家 但我只是想 |
| 306 | give my two cents and chat with you guys. | 给我两美分 和你们聊天 |
| 307 | Love you so much. | 爱你这么多。 |
| 308 | Stay on the lookout. | 留心观察. |
| 309 | I have some | 我有点 |
| 310 | really fun videos coming soon. | 很有趣的视频即将到来。 |
| 311 | I'll see you in my next video. | 下部影片见. |
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| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:00 | Hi guys, it's Sid. | 嗨,伙计们,我是希德。 |
| 0:06 | Things aren't really advancing over here | 事情没有真正推进到这里 |
| 0:07 | with the microphone, you know, | 用麦克风,你知道, |
| 0:09 | I got an increase in budget this last quarter. | 最后一个季度我的预算增加了 |
| 0:12 | No, I actually just pulled this from my Omegle days. | 不,我其实只是从我的奥米格的日子里拉出来的。 |
| 0:17 | We're not even gonna talk about it. | 我们甚至不会谈论它。 |
| 0:19 | I just wanted to chat and give advice | 我只是想谈谈 给建议 |
| 0:21 | that to be honest, I have no qualifications of giving. | 老实说,我没有资格给你 |
| 0:25 | I will say, I do think I give pretty good advice. | 我会说,我觉得我给 相当好的建议。 |
| 0:28 | My friends say that I give good advice. | 我的朋友说我给出了好的建议 |
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| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | Hi guys, it's Sid. | 嗨,伙计们,我是希德。 |
| 2 | Things aren't really advancing over here | 事情没有真正推进到这里 |
| 3 | with the microphone, you know, | 用麦克风,你知道, |
| 4 | I got an increase in budget this last quarter. | 最后一个季度我的预算增加了 |
| 5 | No, I actually just pulled this from my Omegle days. | 不,我其实只是从我的奥米格的日子里拉出来的。 |
| 6 | We're not even gonna talk about it. | 我们甚至不会谈论它。 |
| 7 | I just wanted to chat and give advice | 我只是想谈谈 给建议 |
| 8 | that to be honest, I have no qualifications of giving. | 老实说,我没有资格给你 |
| 9 | I will say, I do think I give pretty good advice. | 我会说,我觉得我给 相当好的建议。 |
| 10 | My friends say that I give good advice. | 我的朋友说我给出了好的建议 |
| 11 | It's been like a year, I think since I did one of these. | 已经一年了,我想自从我做了其中之一。 |
| 12 | 所以我继续我的Instagram故事。 | |
| 13 | I asked you guys what you need advice on. | 我问你们需要什么建议 |
| 14 | I struggle so much with procrastination | 我为拖延而挣扎 |
| 15 | and later I ended up feeling so horrible about it. | 后来我感觉很恐怖 |
| 16 | That's so funny because I was going to procrastinate | 这太好笑了 因为我要拖延 |
| 17 | filming this video because it's 11 p.m. and I was tired. | 拍这段录像是因为我累了 |
| 18 | Then I was about to get ready for bed | 然后我就准备睡觉了 |
| 19 | and I was like, I can't go to bed feeling like this | 我就像,我不能去睡觉 这样的感觉 |
| 20 | because I didn't get done what I said | 因为我没按我说的做 |
| 21 | I was gonna get done. | 我本来要完成的 |
| 22 | If you procrastinate, it's prioritizing how you feel | 如果你拖拖拉拉的,这是优先 你的感觉 |
| 23 | in the moment and feeling worse later | 此时此刻 以后感觉更糟糕 |
| 24 | versus if you get it done right away and don't procrastinate | 如果你马上完成,不要拖延 |
| 25 | you feel worse in the moment, better later. | 你现在感觉更糟 以后更好 |
| 26 | How to stop comparing other people close to you | 如何不再比较你身边的其他人 |
| 27 | getting engaged or in a relationship. | 订婚或交往 |
| 28 | This really hits home to me | 这真的让我想起家 |
| 29 | because I went through a breakup a couple months ago. | 因为我几个月前分手了 |
| 30 | One of the hardest parts I think of it | 我最难想到的一件事 |
| 31 | when I was deeper in the trenches | 当我在壕沟深处 |
| 32 | was just seeing all of these engagement posts, | 只是看到所有这些 参与帖子, |
| 33 | 整个Instagram。 | |
| 34 | It almost felt like once I went through the breakup | 感觉就像我经历了分手 |
| 35 | suddenly I was hyper aware of seeing | 忽然我意识到 |
| 36 | everyone's engagement posts and wedding posts. | 每个人的订婚帖子和婚礼帖子。 |
| 37 | I think in terms of social media, if you're struggling | 我想在社交媒体方面 如果你在挣扎 |
| 38 | maybe just like limit it or get off of it for a bit. | 也许只是像限制 或离开它一点点。 |
| 39 | But if it's people close to you who are getting engaged | 但如果是你亲近的人 |
| 40 | I think really like your close friends getting engaged | 我觉得真的很喜欢你的亲密朋友订婚 |
| 41 | is such an exciting time. | 真是令人兴奋的时刻 |
| 42 | Hopefully you can almost use it as like your hope | 希望你能像希望一样使用它 |
| 43 | and like motivation for what you want in the future. | 喜欢未来的动机 |
| 44 | Focus on their happiness and like take it away from yourself | 专心于他们的幸福,喜欢把它从你身上夺走 |
| 45 | and like realize they can be happy and engaged. | 就像意识到他们可以幸福和订婚 |
| 46 | Your friends can be having these milestones | 你的朋友可以有这些里程碑 |
| 47 | and you can also still feel sad about maybe like | 你也可以为也许像 |
| 48 | going through a breakup or being single | 分手或单身 |
| 49 | and knowing that your time will come. | 并知道你的时间将来临。 |
| 50 | Everyone just has different timelines | 每个人都有不同的时间安排 |
| 51 | and you can't even begin to compare. | 你甚至不能开始比较。 |
| 52 | Do you think two people can be right for each other | 你觉得两个人能对彼此合适吗? |
| 53 | but meet at the wrong time in their lives? | 却在他们生活中错误的时间相遇? |
| 54 | Personally, I believe right person wrong time | 就我个人而言,我认为对的人是错的 |
| 55 | can definitely be a thing. | 绝对是一件事情。 |
| 56 | I do think though sometimes we believe too much | 我确实认为,虽然有时我们相信太多 |
| 57 | in the right person wrong time thing | 在正确的人 错误的时间的事情 |
| 58 | to the point where we think that person | 以至于我们觉得那个人 |
| 59 | is perfect for us but it's just the wrong time | 对我们来说是完美的 但时间不对 |
| 60 | when maybe the person themselves actually isn't your person | 也许那个人自己其实不是你的人 |
| 61 | and there like is never a right time. | 也永远没有合适的时机 |
| 62 | I think holding on to hope in those situations | 我觉得在那种情况下,我还是坚持希望 |
| 63 | where you think that there's gonna be a right time | 你觉得会有合适的时机 |
| 64 | in the future is really detrimental | 将来会很有害的 |
| 65 | when it comes to breakups | 当分手的时候 |
| 66 | because you're just like delaying your healing process. | 因为你就像拖延你的疗伤过程 |
| 67 | I don't think for me at least | 我至少不认为我 |
| 68 | I could not fully grieve a breakup | 我无法完全哀悼分手 |
| 69 | if in the back of my mind I'm thinking | 如果在我的脑后 我想 |
| 70 | maybe there is a right time with that person down the road | 也许有合适的时机 与那个人在路上 |
| 71 | and having this like glimmer of hope | 和像一线希望 |
| 72 | I think would just like set me back a lot. | 我想只是想让我回去很多。 |
| 73 | I'm in a situation in which either | 我的处境是,无论是在 |
| 74 | I have to leave my friends or build my career. | 我必须离开我的朋友 或建立我的事业。 |
| 75 | Which should I choose? | 我该选哪一个? |
| 76 | Obviously I don't know the details here | 显然我不知道这里的细节 |
| 77 | but I would assume that means you're moving away | 但我会认为这意味着 你要搬走 |
| 78 | from your friends in order to like | 从你的朋友为了喜欢 |
| 79 | get a certain job opportunity. | 获得一定的工作机会。 |
| 80 | And in my opinion that shouldn't mean losing your friends. | 在我看来,这并不意味着失去你的朋友。 |
| 81 | Ironically, one of my best friends who you guys know Rachel | 讽刺的是,我最好的朋友之一 你们认识瑞秋 |
| 82 | when I moved away from home at 18 | 当我18岁搬家的时候 |
| 83 | we became even closer after moving far apart. | 我们走得更远了 |
| 84 | I think we just had so much more to talk about | и稱и琌Τㄆ璶酵 |
| 85 | and like catch up on what has happened in our lives. | 就像追上我们生活中发生的事 |
| 86 | And it really like makes us value our FaceTime calls | 它真的像让我们重视 我们的FaceTime通话 |
| 87 | and like when we hang out in person | 就像我们亲自出去玩 |
| 88 | so much more than before. | 比以前还多 |
| 89 | When you stick with a friend too like that | 当你跟一个朋友也这样 |
| 90 | I feel like it just builds such a special friendship | 我觉得它只是 建立这样一个特殊的友谊 |
| 91 | because as you get older friendships | 因为随着你的友谊 |
| 92 | I think do take work. | 我觉得你应该去上班 |
| 93 | You do have to put in effort for adult friendships more. | 你必须为成人友谊付出更多努力。 |
| 94 | Having friends that can put an effort from afar | 交朋友可以把 努力从远处 |
| 95 | even if it's just like FaceTiming every now and then | 即使它只是像脸蒂明 时不时 |
| 96 | catching up on a phone call here and there. | 在这里和那里接通了电话 |
| 97 | I think the people that are really your true friends | 我认为那些真正是你真正朋友的人 |
| 98 | would stick by you through it | 会坚持你通过它 |
| 99 | and would probably encourage and support you | 并且可能鼓励和支持你 |
| 100 | to go after this like new career. | 像新的事业一样去追寻 |
| 101 | I don't think you have to sacrifice one or the other. | 我不认为你必须牺牲一个或另一个。 |
| 102 | How do I not lose myself in a relationship? | 我怎么会在恋爱中失去自我? |
| 103 | For me it's important to just always have | 对我来说,重要的是只要有 |
| 104 | my independent hobbies, my independent friends | 我的独立爱好,我的独立朋友 |
| 105 | and my independent career. | 还有我的独立事业 |
| 106 | I feel like having those things | 我想吃这些东西 |
| 107 | and having your own identity still in those things | 和拥有自己的身份 仍然在这些东西 |
| 108 | is what helps me to not lose myself in a relationship. | 帮助我避免在恋爱中失去自我 |
| 109 | Getting over a breakup, please. | 过一段分手,请。 |
| 110 | Breakups suck. | 分手很烂。 |
| 111 | There's like no way to say that they don't suck. | 亦无如是说不吸. |
| 112 | I think my best advice is firstly just going in no contact. | 我觉得我最好的建议是 先不要接触 |
| 113 | I know this is like basics and everyone says this | 我知道这跟基础一样 大家都这么说 |
| 114 | but I don't think it's possible to get over someone | 但我不认为它可能 过一个人 |
| 115 | if you're still talking to them. | 如果你还在跟他们说话 |
| 116 | I would say that and also during the sad times | 我会说,在悲伤的时代 |
| 117 | remembering the reason or reasons why it ended | 记住它结束的原因 |
| 118 | and also I would just say letting yourself be sad | 我也只想说 让自己伤心 |
| 119 | because it is like a loss. | 因为它就像一个损失。 |
| 120 | It's like losing someone so important in your life | 就像失去你生命中如此重要的人一样 |
| 121 | and allowing yourself to just grieve it | 并让自己只是悲伤 |
| 122 | and move through it and then move on. | 然后继续前进 |
| 123 | Finding a balanced and healthy relationship | 建立平衡和健康的关系 |
| 124 | with food and movement. | 与食物和移动。 |
| 125 | As I've gotten older and sometimes maybe | 当我长大了,有时也许 |
| 126 | as I start to compare those things, | 当我开始比较这些东西时, |
| 127 | I just stop and remember | 我只是停下来,记住 |
| 128 | I know my body better than anybody else does. | 我比别人更了解我的身体 |
| 129 | One size is not fits all for what you eat, | 一个尺寸不适合你吃的东西 |
| 130 | how you work out. | 工作怎么样? |
| 131 | Like for me, I hate running, okay? | 对我来说,我讨厌跑步,好吗? |
| 132 | I'm sorry to all the runners out there walking only | 很抱歉所有跑步的人只走着 |
| 133 | but I love Pilates and I love one of these workout | 但我喜欢彼拉多 我喜欢这种锻炼 |
| 134 | cardio classes near me. | 我身边的心肺科 |
| 135 | I do those things because that's what I like. | 我这么做是因为我喜欢这样 |
| 136 | So you just have to find like what you enjoy | 所以,你只要找到喜欢的东西 |
| 137 | because that's also what's gonna make it sustainable. | 因为这也会使它持久 |
| 138 | If you're doing something you hate | 如果你做了你讨厌的事 |
| 139 | just because your friend is doing it, | 只是因为你的朋友正在做, |
| 140 | it's not gonna work or last. | 它不会工作或持续。 |
| 141 | How to feel at peace internally. | 如何感受内心平静. |
| 142 | I feel like I'm always looking for change or improvement. | 我觉得我总是在寻找改变或改进。 |
| 143 | Sometimes I catch myself thinking | 有时候我会想起来 |
| 144 | I'll be happy once I achieve this | 我一有这个就高兴了 |
| 145 | or I'll be happy once I accomplish this goal. | 或者我完成这个目标后会很高兴的 |
| 146 | And that is such a sad way to live | 这是如此可悲的生活方式 |
| 147 | because then you're basically saying | 因为你基本上说 |
| 148 | that you're not allowed to be content in the moment. | 你暂时不能满足 |
| 149 | Sometimes I just really don't appreciate | 有时候我真的不欣赏 |
| 150 | all of the blessings that I have. | 所有我拥有的祝福 |
| 151 | Sometimes it just takes me like writing down | 有时候只是让我写下来 |
| 152 | three things a day, what I'm grateful for | 一天三件事,我很感激你们 |
| 153 | to really be more present and realize | 真正更现身 并意识到 |
| 154 | I have beyond everything I could have ever dreamed. | 我超越了一切 我曾经梦想。 |
| 155 | How are you able to handle missing your family | 你怎么能处理失去家人的问题 |
| 156 | when you went to college? | 你上大学的时候? |
| 157 | I was not good at this | 我不擅长这个 |
| 158 | and I'm honestly still not good at this. | 老实说,我还是不擅长这个。 |
| 159 | Like I just got home from Minnesota yesterday | 就像昨天刚从明尼苏达回家一样 |
| 160 | and I was so sad last night going to bed | 我昨晚很伤心要睡觉 |
| 161 | because I missed them. | 因为我想念他们。 |
| 162 | I think things shifted for me when I realized | 我觉得事情变了 当我意识到 |
| 163 | I'm so lucky to feel like I miss my family. | 幸好觉得想念家人 |
| 164 | So many people don't miss their family | 这么多人不想念家人 |
| 165 | because they don't have a good relationship with them | 因为他们的关系不好 |
| 166 | and how lucky am I to have such an amazing family | 我多么幸运有一个如此惊人的家庭 |
| 167 | and relationship with my family to miss them? | 和关系 我的家人怀念他们? |
| 168 | More reasonably to your question, | 更合理的是,你的问题, |
| 169 | planning trips and having trips pre-planned. | 计划出行和预先计划出行。 |
| 170 | So like when I leave them, | 就像我离开他们的时候 |
| 171 | I know when I'm gonna see them next exactly. | 我知道下次什么时候能见到他们 |
| 172 | Found out my boyfriend lied about something small. | 发现我男朋友撒了些小谎 |
| 173 | What do I do help? | 我能帮什么忙? |
| 174 | And from my experience, you have to communicate everything. | 根据我的经验,你必须沟通一切 |
| 175 | Small things lead into big things | 小事一桩 |
| 176 | if you don't address it right away | 如果你不马上处理 |
| 177 | and brush it under the rug. | 把它刷在地毯底下 |
| 178 | I just think you need to have an open, honest conversation | 我只是觉得你需要开诚布公的谈话 |
| 179 | about how you're feeling before things snowball. | 关于你感觉如何 事情雪球。 |
| 180 | How do you feel about friendships where you drift apart? | 你对友谊的感觉如何? |
| 181 | I think we actually kind of need to normalize it. | 我认为我们实际上需要 使它正常化。 |
| 182 | Not that it's a great thing. | 不是说这是件好事 |
| 183 | I think it can be seen as very sad, | 我认为这可以被看作是非常悲伤的, |
| 184 | but I think sometimes we just outgrow people | 但我认为有时我们只是 超越人 |
| 185 | and like sometimes nobody does anything wrong, | 就像有时候没有人做错任何事一样 |
| 186 | but there have been a few people | 但有几个人 |
| 187 | that I was friends with years ago | 几年前我曾是朋友 |
| 188 | and I'm not as close with anymore | 我不再那么亲近 |
| 189 | and like nothing really happened. | 并且好像什么都没发生 |
| 190 | Like no one did anything wrong, | 就像没人做错什么一样 |
| 191 | but we just didn't really click anymore. | 但我们只是没有真正点击了。 |
| 192 | And I think it's something that you kind of see slowly over time | 我觉得这是你慢慢看到的 |
| 193 | that one of you is growing in one direction | 你们中的一个正在向一个方向发展 |
| 194 | and the other person's kind of going another. | 和另一个人的那种去另一个。 |
| 195 | It can be really sad to grieve a friendship | 悲伤的友情会很伤心的 |
| 196 | that you had with them, | 你曾与他们在一起, |
| 197 | but that's when I just try to value the time | 但那时我只是想珍惜时间 |
| 198 | that we had together and appreciate all the good memories | 我们在一起 并欣赏所有美好的回忆 |
| 199 | and the relationship that I had with them | 我和他们的关系 |
| 200 | because they like helped form me | 因为他们喜欢帮助我 |
| 201 | into the person that I am today. | 进入我今天的人。 |
| 202 | They were maybe just in my life for a season. | 他们可能只是在我的生活中一个季节。 |
| 203 | Does it truly get better after high school? | 高中毕业后真的好点了吗? |
| 204 | High school for me was the worst four years of my life | 高中对我来说是我一生中最糟糕的四年 |
| 205 | and it has gotten unimaginably better. | 它已经变得不可思议的更好。 |
| 206 | If you're going through a tough time | 如果你要经历一段艰难的时光 |
| 207 | and you're in high school, just hang on, it gets better. | 而你在高中,只是坚持, 它变得更好。 |
| 208 | I have trust issues and it makes everything so hard in life. | 我有信任问题,这让生活变得如此艰难。 |
| 209 | Like I can't even trust my own mom. | 就像我不能相信自己的妈妈 |
| 210 | I think you just really need to learn yourself | 我觉得你只需要学会自己 |
| 211 | and find the root of that to like discover why, | 找到它的根源 喜欢发现为什么, |
| 212 | why you feel that way. | 你为什么这样想? |
| 213 | And I'm sure there's a good reason. | 且知有因缘. |
| 214 | I'm sure someone probably disappointed you in the past | 我敢肯定,有人可能会失望 过去你 |
| 215 | and that's horrible, but it's about understanding it | 这太可怕了,但这是关于理解它 |
| 216 | and realizing that just because one person did it, | 并意识到 仅仅因为一个人这样做, |
| 217 | not everybody is going to betray you | 不是每个人都会背叛你 |
| 218 | because you don't wanna be tainted forever | 因为你不想永远被玷污 |
| 219 | and you wanna be able to trust people again, | 你想重新相信别人 |
| 220 | just the right people. | 只是对的人。 |
| 221 | I think you have to almost treat sometimes | 我想你有时要请客 |
| 222 | your time alone as a date. | 一个人约会 |
| 223 | Why are we not getting dressed | 我们为什么不穿衣服? |
| 224 | to go out to dinner for ourselves? | 出去吃晚饭? |
| 225 | So I just started doing that, you know? | 所以我才开始这么做,你知道吗? |
| 226 | I was like, wait, why don't I take myself to dinner? | 我想,等等,我为什么不自己去吃晚饭? |
| 227 | Who am I waiting for? | 我等谁? |
| 228 | I think there's such a sense of empowerment | 我觉得有种增强能力的感觉 |
| 229 | that comes with that. | 随它而来 |
| 230 | It's so empowering to realize that you can give yourself | 它是如此的增强能力 以意识到你可以给自己 |
| 231 | all of the things that you want. | 所有你想要的东西 |
| 232 | I think it makes the time with yourself even more enjoyable. | 我觉得这会让你的时间更加快乐 |
| 233 | How to make friends in a big city. | 如何是大城交友处. |
| 234 | Moving to Newark was really tough for me. | 搬到纽瓦克对我来说真的很艰难。 |
| 235 | I would say around the six month mark, I almost backed out. | 六个月左右,我几乎退出了 |
| 236 | I almost broke my lease. | 我差点毁了我的租约 |
| 237 | I was really struggling because I moved here | 我真的很挣扎,因为我搬到这里 |
| 238 | knowing zero people and I'm not exaggerating, zero. | 认识零人,我不夸张,零。 |
| 239 | I really went in completely cold. | 我真的非常的冷,我感觉很冷 |
| 240 | I lived alone. | 我一个人住 |
| 241 | I just tried to put myself out there a lot. | 我只是试图把自己 在那里很多。 |
| 242 | And I think it's kind of like dating. | 我觉得这有点像约会 |
| 243 | You kind of have to meet a few people, | 你得见几个人 |
| 244 | see who you mesh with, see who you don't. | 看看你跟谁在一起 看看你不跟谁 |
| 245 | I remember meeting so many people | 我记得见过这么多人 |
| 246 | and I would just ask them, | 我会问他们, |
| 247 | hey, do you want to get coffee next week? | 嘿,你想得到咖啡 下周吗? |
| 248 | You know, I just moved here. | 我刚刚搬过来 |
| 249 | And a lot of the times people were more receptive | 很多时候人们更能接受 |
| 250 | than I anticipated. | 比我预期的要好 |
| 251 | I think we underestimate how other people | 我想我们低估了别人 |
| 252 | are also probably maybe feeling lonely | 也可能感到孤独 |
| 253 | and also looking for friends. | 还在找朋友 |
| 254 | Sometimes all it takes is just putting yourself out there | 有时候,它只需要把自己 在那里 |
| 255 | and someone might be just as receptive. | 也许有人也会接受 |
| 256 | What other self care activities do you do | 你还有其他的自我护理活动吗? |
| 257 | to keep yourself well besides journaling and exercising? | 除了日记和锻炼之外 还能保持身体健康吗? |
| 258 | Hanging out with my friends is a big one. | 和我的朋友们一起玩是件大事 |
| 259 | Face timing my family always makes me so happy. | 脸时间,我的家人总是让我如此快乐。 |
| 260 | I love getting massages. | 我喜欢按摩 |
| 261 | It's like my guilty pleasure. | 这就像我的罪恶快乐。 |
| 262 | I do spend a lot of my money on that. | 我花了很多钱 |
| 263 | Oh, I also love facials. | 哦,我也爱面部。 |
| 264 | How do you navigate a relationship | 如何引导关系 |
| 265 | without seeing it as a threat to your independence? | 却不认为这是对你的独立的威胁? |
| 266 | I think if you're with the right person, | 我想如果你和对的人在一起 |
| 267 | it won't seem like there is any threat | 似乎没有威胁 |
| 268 | to your independence. | 敬你的独立 |
| 269 | Obviously, just being aware to keep your own hobbies | 显然,只是意识到 保持自己的爱好 |
| 270 | and keep your own friends | 并保持自己的朋友们 |
| 271 | and relationships with your family, | 和你家人的关系, |
| 272 | making sure that those are still just as much | 确保那些仍然是同样多 |
| 273 | of a priority and your career. | 和你的事业。 |
| 274 | Don't forget about those things, | 别忘了那些东西 |
| 275 | especially in the beginning of a relationship | 特别是在关系开始时 |
| 276 | when the honeymoon stage is there | 当蜜月的舞台在那里 |
| 277 | because you don't want to lose friendships | 因为你不想失去友谊 |
| 278 | over dating someone and you shouldn't have to sacrifice that. | 你不应该牺牲这个 |
| 279 | So this is so interesting. | 因此,这是非常有趣的。 |
| 280 | Is maturing mentally a subconscious phenomenon | 智力成熟是一种潜意识现象 |
| 281 | as you grow or an active choice? | 你长大还是积极的选择? |
| 282 | I think it's both. | 我觉得两者都是 |
| 283 | I don't think it's just one or the other. | 岂可一一而一. |
| 284 | I do think there's truth, of course, to your brain. | 我认为,当然,你的大脑有真理。 |
| 285 | Scientifically developing as you grow | 科学发展随着你的成长 |
| 286 | into your mid-20s and late-20s, | 进入你的20年代中期和20年代末, |
| 287 | I totally felt that shift when I turned 25. | 我25岁时完全感受到了这种转变. |
| 288 | And people around me would say when you turn 25, | 我周围的人会说 当你25岁, |
| 289 | you're gonna feel like everything just clicks | 你会觉得一切只是点击 |
| 290 | and you see the world differently. | 你对这个世界的看法不同 |
| 291 | And I don't know a specific moment when, | 我不知道什么时候 |
| 292 | but it really just showed me | 但它真的告诉我 |
| 293 | that a lot of my problems really don't matter. | 我的很多问题都无所谓 |
| 294 | And it really made me see what's truly important | 这真的让我看到了什么才是真正重要的 |
| 295 | and not just these like minuscule little things | 不只是这些小东西 |
| 296 | that I thought were so important. | 我认为这是如此重要。 |
| 297 | So it really put things into perspective for me. | 所以它真的把事情 放在我的角度。 |
| 298 | Aside from the science of your brain maturing, | 除了你的大脑成熟科学之外 |
| 299 | I do think there is a choice involved | 我觉得有选择 |
| 300 | and I do think it's mature to take time to self-reflect | 我确实认为成熟 需要时间来自我反思 |
| 301 | on maybe mistakes you make and what you want | 可能你犯了错误,你想要什么 |
| 302 | for your life, where you're headed. | 为了你的生活,你要去哪里。 |
| 303 | So financial advice, how to earn more money | 所以财务建议,如何赚更多的钱 |
| 304 | and how to manage your money. | 如何管理你的钱。 |
| 305 | This is a great question. | 这是一个伟大的问题。 |
| 306 | And I don't really talk about finances very often on here. | 我并不经常在这里谈论金融。 |
| 307 | From my experience, my parents always encouraged me | 根据我的经验,我父母一直鼓励我 |
| 308 | to start saving at an early age. | 从小开始储蓄 |
| 309 | I am in a very fortunate position | 我非常幸运 |
| 310 | where I started my career super young. | 在那里我开始了我的职业生涯 超级年轻。 |
| 311 | I was like 15, 14, 13, I don't know. | 我当时15,14,13,我不知道。 |
| 312 | But ever since I started making money | 但自从我开始赚钱以来 |
| 313 | at a really young age doing YouTube, I just saved. | 在很年轻的时候做YouTube, 我刚刚救了。 |
| 314 | And my parents set me up with a financial advisor | 我父母给我安排了一个财务顾问 |
| 315 | who helped me from a young age | 他从小帮助我 |
| 316 | start saving for retirement. | 开始储蓄退休。 |
| 317 | There's obviously rules | 很明显有规矩 |
| 318 | and how much you can allocate each year and things. | 以及你每年能分配多少 |
| 319 | There's so many different investment funds and stocks | 有很多不同的投资基金和股票 |
| 320 | and portfolios and things that you can invest in. | 投资组合和可以投资的东西。 |
| 321 | I'm not an expert on that. | 我不是这方面的专家。 |
| 322 | So I decided to hand that off to someone | 所以我决定把它交给别人 |
| 323 | who I believe is the expert and helps me | 我相信谁是专家,帮助我 |
| 324 | and guides me with my money. | 用我的钱指引我 |
| 325 | So, I mean, if that's something you're really interested | 所以,我的意思是,如果这是 你真的感兴趣 |
| 326 | in and passionate about, I think investing | 充满激情,我想投资 |
| 327 | is a very smart thing to do, especially when you're young. | 这是非常聪明的事情, 特别是当你年轻。 |
| 328 | No matter what the amount is, big or small, | 无论多少,无论大小, |
| 329 | investing and saving for your future, | 为你的未来投资储蓄, |
| 330 | if you're able to do it. | 如果你能做到这一点。 |
| 331 | I feel so lucky and privileged, of course, | 我觉得如此幸运和特权, 当然, |
| 332 | to have been able to do this. | 能够做到这一点。 |
| 333 | So I do just wanna stress that any amount that you can save | 所以我只想强调,你可以节省多少 |
| 334 | and even just put in an account that builds interest | 甚至只是放进一个账户 建立利息 |
| 335 | versus sitting in an account that doesn't build interest | 而不是在没有利息的账户里 |
| 336 | is very smart. | 非常聪明 |
| 337 | How to have a really good relationship with food. | 如何有一个真正的良好 与食物的关系。 |
| 338 | Some of you guys know I had Orphid | 你们中有些人知道我有Orphid |
| 339 | and eating disorder a few years ago, | 几年前还吃杂乱无章 |
| 340 | very hard time of my life. | 我生命中非常艰难 |
| 341 | I went to treatment for it | 我去治疗了 |
| 342 | and I am like fully on the other side now. | 我现在完全站在另一边 |
| 343 | Looking back, I cannot believe that I went through that | 回想起来,我不能相信 我经历了 |
| 344 | and how much has drastically changed in my life since then. | 从那时起,我的生命发生了多大的巨变 |
| 345 | That's definitely a loaded question | 这绝对是个大问题 |
| 346 | and something that you need to really work on | 和一些你需要真正工作的东西 |
| 347 | within yourself and I think sometimes | 在你内心,我觉得有时 |
| 348 | professional treatments, if they're accessible, | 专业治疗,如果可以使用, |
| 349 | are the best for that. | 这是最好的。 |
| 350 | So I guess instead of answering | 所以,我猜 而不是回答 |
| 351 | how to have a good relationship with food, | 如何与食物保持良好的关系, |
| 352 | I'm more coming at it from the stance that it is possible. | 我更想从可能的立场出发 |
| 353 | And I just saw this and I just wanted to answer this | 我刚刚看到这个 我想回答这个 |
| 354 | because I just wanted to give people hope. | 因为我只是想给大家带来希望 |
| 355 | Because I remember being at the depths | 因为我记得在深处 |
| 356 | of this eating disorder and feeling like | 饮食紊乱的感觉 |
| 357 | I'm never gonna be able to eat normally ever again. | 我再也不能正常地吃东西了 |
| 358 | And for a long time, it really felt like that. | 在很长一段时间里,它真的有这种感觉。 |
| 359 | And coming out on the other end now, | 在另一端出现 |
| 360 | after years and hard work, | 经过多年的努力, |
| 361 | I feel like I've not even thought about | 我觉得我甚至没有想过 |
| 362 | those things in years. | 这些东西在多年。 |
| 363 | I guess I saw this and I just wanted to give people hope | 我想我看到了这个 我只是想给大家希望 |
| 364 | that it is possible. | 这是可能的。 |
| 365 | How to stay consistent in reading my Bible. | 如何在阅读我的圣经时保持一致. |
| 366 | For me, something as simple as literally | 对我来说,简单如字面 |
| 367 | just having it on my nightstand has helped. | 只是把它在我的床头柜 帮助。 |
| 368 | If I find it's tucked underneath my desk | 如果我发现它藏在我的桌子下面 |
| 369 | in a drawer very deep, I will not read it as much. | 在很深的抽屉里,我不会读那么多。 |
| 370 | So I've tried to just keep it really conveniently placed | 所以我试着把它放在方便的地方 |
| 371 | and to be honest, that has helped a lot. | 老实说 这帮了大忙 |
| 372 | So maybe that'll help you too. | 所以也许这也会帮助你 |
| 373 | Okay guys, I think that's everything I have for today. | 好了,伙计们,我想这是我今天的一切。 |
| 374 | We are at 57 minutes. | 我们在57分钟。 |
| 375 | So it's gonna be a long one to edit for me tomorrow. | 所以明天给我编辑会很长 |
| 376 | Definitely take this with a grain of salt. | 绝对要用一粒盐 |
| 377 | I am no expert, but I did just wanna give my two cents | 我不是专家 但我只是想给我两分钱 |
| 378 | and chat with you guys. | 和你们聊天。 |
| 379 | Love you so much. | 爱你这么多。 |
| 380 | Stay on the lookout. | 留心观察. |
| 381 | I have some really fun videos coming soon. | 我有一些非常有趣的视频 即将来临。 |
| 382 | We'll see you in my next video. | 下段录像见 |
| 383 | Bye. | 再见。 |
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| 0:00 | Hi guys, it's Sid. | 嗨,伙计们,我是希德。 |
| 0:06 | Things are really advancing over here with the microphone. | 麦克风正在推进 |
| 0:09 | You know, I got an increase in budget this last quarter. | 你知道,我得到了预算增加 这最后一个季度。 |
| 0:12 | No, I actually just pulled this from my Omegle days. | 不,我其实只是从我的奥米格的日子里拉出来的。 |
| 0:17 | We're not even gonna talk about it. | 我们甚至不会谈论它。 |
| 0:19 | I just wanted to chat and give advice | 我只是想谈谈 给建议 |
| 0:21 | that to be honest, I have no qualifications of giving. | 老实说,我没有资格给你 |
| 0:25 | I will say, I do think I give pretty good advice. | 我会说,我觉得我给 相当好的建议。 |
| 0:28 | My friends say that I give good advice. | 我的朋友说我给出了好的建议 |
| 0:31 | It's been like a year, I think, since I did one of these. | 一年了,我想, 自从我做了一个这样的。 |
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| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | Hi guys, it's Sid. | 嗨,伙计们,我是希德。 |
| 2 | Things are really advancing over here with the microphone. | 麦克风正在推进 |
| 3 | You know, I got an increase in budget this last quarter. | 你知道,我得到了预算增加 这最后一个季度。 |
| 4 | No, I actually just pulled this from my Omegle days. | 不,我其实只是从我的奥米格的日子里拉出来的。 |
| 5 | We're not even gonna talk about it. | 我们甚至不会谈论它。 |
| 6 | I just wanted to chat and give advice | 我只是想谈谈 给建议 |
| 7 | that to be honest, I have no qualifications of giving. | 老实说,我没有资格给你 |
| 8 | I will say, I do think I give pretty good advice. | 我会说,我觉得我给 相当好的建议。 |
| 9 | My friends say that I give good advice. | 我的朋友说我给出了好的建议 |
| 10 | It's been like a year, I think, since I did one of these. | 一年了,我想, 自从我做了一个这样的。 |
| 11 | 所以我继续我的Instagram故事。 | |
| 12 | I asked you guys what you need advice on. | 我问你们需要什么建议 |
| 13 | I struggle so much with procrastination | 我为拖延而挣扎 |
| 14 | and later I end up feeling so horrible about it. | 之后,我最终感到如此可怕。 |
| 15 | That's so funny because I was going to procrastinate | 这太好笑了 因为我要拖延 |
| 16 | filming this video because it's 11 p.m. and I was tired. | 拍这段录像是因为我累了 |
| 17 | Then I was about to get ready for bed | 然后我就准备睡觉了 |
| 18 | and I was like, I can't go to bed feeling like this | 我就像,我不能去睡觉 这样的感觉 |
| 19 | because I didn't get done what I said | 因为我没按我说的做 |
| 20 | I was gonna get done. | 我本来要完成的 |
| 21 | If you procrastinate, it's prioritizing how you feel | 如果你拖拖拉拉的,这是优先 你的感觉 |
| 22 | in the moment and feeling worse later | 此时此刻 以后感觉更糟糕 |
| 23 | versus if you get it done right away and don't procrastinate, | 如果你马上完成而不拖延 |
| 24 | you feel worse in the moment, better later. | 你现在感觉更糟 以后更好 |
| 25 | How to stop comparing other people close to you | 如何不再比较你身边的其他人 |
| 26 | getting engaged or in a relationship. | 订婚或交往 |
| 27 | This really hits home to me | 这真的让我想起家 |
| 28 | because I went through a breakup a couple months ago. | 因为我几个月前分手了 |
| 29 | One of the hardest parts I think of it | 我最难想到的一件事 |
| 30 | when I was deeper in the trenches | 当我在壕沟深处 |
| 31 | was just seeing all of these engagement posts, | 只是看到所有这些 参与帖子, |
| 32 | 整个Instagram。 | |
| 33 | It almost felt like once I went through the breakup | 感觉就像我经历了分手 |
| 34 | suddenly I was hyper aware of seeing | 忽然我意识到 |
| 35 | everyone's engagement posts and wedding posts. | 每个人的订婚帖子和婚礼帖子。 |
| 36 | I think in terms of social media, if you're struggling, | 我认为在社交媒体方面, 如果你挣扎, |
| 37 | maybe just limit it or get off of it for a bit. | 也许只是限制 或离开它一点点。 |
| 38 | But if it's people close to you who are getting engaged, | 但如果是你亲近的人订婚了 |
| 39 | I think really your close friends getting engaged | 我觉得你的亲密朋友真的订婚了 |
| 40 | is such an exciting time. | 真是令人兴奋的时刻 |
| 41 | Hopefully you can almost use it as your hope | 希望你能把它当作希望 |
| 42 | and motivation for what you want in the future. | 以及未来你想要的动机 |
| 43 | Focus on their happiness and take it away from yourself | 专注于他们的幸福 并把它从自己身上夺走 |
| 44 | and realize they can be happy and engaged. | 并意识到他们可以快乐和接触。 |
| 45 | Your friends can be having these milestones | 你的朋友可以有这些里程碑 |
| 46 | and you can also still feel sad about maybe like | 你也可以为也许像 |
| 47 | going through a breakup or being single | 分手或单身 |
| 48 | and knowing that your time will come. | 并知道你的时间将来临。 |
| 49 | Everyone just has different timelines | 每个人都有不同的时间安排 |
| 50 | and you can't even begin to compare. | 你甚至不能开始比较。 |
| 51 | Do you think two people can be right for each other | 你觉得两个人能对彼此合适吗? |
| 52 | but meet at the wrong time in their lives? | 却在他们生活中错误的时间相遇? |
| 53 | Personally, I believe right person wrong time | 就我个人而言,我认为对的人是错的 |
| 54 | can definitely be a thing. | 绝对是一件事情。 |
| 55 | I do think though sometimes we believe too much | 我确实认为,虽然有时我们相信太多 |
| 56 | in the right person wrong time thing | 在正确的人 错误的时间的事情 |
| 57 | to the point where we think that person | 以至于我们觉得那个人 |
| 58 | is perfect for us but it's just the wrong time | 对我们来说是完美的 但时间不对 |
| 59 | when maybe the person themselves actually isn't your person | 也许那个人自己其实不是你的人 |
| 60 | and there like is never a right time. | 也永远没有合适的时机 |
| 61 | I think holding on to hope in those situations | 我觉得在那种情况下,我还是坚持希望 |
| 62 | where you think that there's gonna be a right time | 你觉得会有合适的时机 |
| 63 | in the future is really detrimental | 将来会很有害的 |
| 64 | when it comes to breakups because you're just like | 当你分手的时候 因为你就像 |
| 65 | delaying your healing process. | 推迟你的疗伤过程。 |
| 66 | I don't think for me at least, | 至少我并不认为 |
| 67 | I could not fully grieve a breakup | 我无法完全哀悼分手 |
| 68 | if in the back of my mind I'm thinking | 如果在我的脑后 我想 |
| 69 | maybe there is a right time with that person down the road | 也许有合适的时机 与那个人在路上 |
| 70 | and having this like glimmer of hope | 和像一线希望 |
| 71 | I think would just like set me back a lot. | 我想只是想让我回去很多。 |
| 72 | I'm in a situation in which either I have to leave | 我身处一种情况 要么我必须离开 |
| 73 | my friends or build my career, which should I choose? | 我的朋友或建立我的事业, 我应该选择什么? |
| 74 | Obviously I don't know the details here | 显然我不知道这里的细节 |
| 75 | but I would assume that means you're moving away | 但我会认为这意味着 你要搬走 |
| 76 | from your friends in order to like | 从你的朋友为了喜欢 |
| 77 | get a certain job opportunity. | 获得一定的工作机会。 |
| 78 | And in my opinion, that shouldn't mean losing your friends. | 在我看来,这并不意味着失去你的朋友。 |
| 79 | Ironically, one of my best friends who you guys know, Rachel, | 讽刺的是,我最好的朋友之一 你们认识的,瑞秋, |
| 80 | when I moved away from home at 18, | 我18岁搬家的时候 |
| 81 | we became even closer after moving far apart. | 我们走得更远了 |
| 82 | I think we just had so much more to talk about | и稱и琌Τㄆ璶酵 |
| 83 | and like catch up on what has happened in our lives. | 就像追上我们生活中发生的事 |
| 84 | And it really like makes us value our FaceTime calls | 它真的像让我们重视 我们的FaceTime通话 |
| 85 | and like when we hang out in person | 就像我们亲自出去玩 |
| 86 | so much more than before. | 比以前还多 |
| 87 | When you stick with a friend too, like that, | 当你也和朋友在一起的时候,像这样 |
| 88 | I feel like it just builds such a special friendship | 我觉得它只是 建立这样一个特殊的友谊 |
| 89 | because as you get older friendships, | 因为随着你得到更年长的友谊, |
| 90 | I think do take work. | 我觉得你应该去上班 |
| 91 | You do have to put in effort for adult friendships more. | 你必须为成人友谊付出更多努力。 |
| 92 | Having friends that can put an effort from afar, | 有了朋友,可以 努力从远处, |
| 93 | 即使这就像Face Timing 偶尔, | |
| 94 | catching up on a phone call here and there. | 在这里和那里接通了电话 |
| 95 | I think the people that are really your true friends | 我认为那些真正是你真正朋友的人 |
| 96 | would stick by you through it | 会坚持你通过它 |
| 97 | and would probably encourage and support you | 并且可能鼓励和支持你 |
| 98 | to go after this like new career. | 像新的事业一样去追寻 |
| 99 | I don't think you have to sacrifice one or the other. | 我不认为你必须牺牲一个或另一个。 |
| 100 | How do I not lose myself in a relationship? | 我怎么会在恋爱中失去自我? |
| 101 | For me, it's important to just always have | 对我来说,重要的是只要有 |
| 102 | my independent hobbies, my independent friends, | 我的独立爱好,我的独立朋友, |
| 103 | and my independent career. | 还有我的独立事业 |
| 104 | I feel like having those things | 我想吃这些东西 |
| 105 | and having your own identity still in those things | 和拥有自己的身份 仍然在这些东西 |
| 106 | is what helps me to not lose myself in a relationship. | 帮助我避免在恋爱中失去自我 |
| 107 | Getting over a breakup, please, breakups suck. | 分手了,请,分手很烂。 |
| 108 | There's like no way to say that they don't suck. | 亦无如是说不吸. |
| 109 | I think my best advice is firstly, | 我认为我最好的建议是, |
| 110 | just going in no contact. | 只是没有联系 |
| 111 | I know this is like basics and everyone says this, | 我知道这就像基础, 每个人都说, |
| 112 | but I don't think it's possible to get over someone | 但我不认为它可能 过一个人 |
| 113 | if you're still talking to them. | 如果你还在跟他们说话 |
| 114 | I would say that and also during the sad times, | 我要说,在悲伤的时期, |
| 115 | remembering the reason or reasons why it ended. | 记得它结束的原因 |
| 116 | And also I would just say letting yourself be sad | 我还想说 让自己伤心 |
| 117 | because it is like a loss. | 因为它就像一个损失。 |
| 118 | It's like losing someone so important in your life | 就像失去你生命中如此重要的人一样 |
| 119 | and allowing yourself to just grieve it | 并让自己只是悲伤 |
| 120 | and move through it and then move on. | 然后继续前进 |
| 121 | Finding a balanced and healthy relationship | 建立平衡和健康的关系 |
| 122 | with food and movement. | 与食物和移动。 |
| 123 | As I've gotten older and sometimes maybe | 当我长大了,有时也许 |
| 124 | as I start to compare those things, | 当我开始比较这些东西时, |
| 125 | I just stop and remember, | 我只是停下来并记住, |
| 126 | I know my body better than anybody else does. | 我比别人更了解我的身体 |
| 127 | One size is not fits all for what you eat, | 一个尺寸不适合你吃的东西 |
| 128 | how you work out. | 工作怎么样? |
| 129 | Like for me, I hate running, okay? | 对我来说,我讨厌跑步,好吗? |
| 130 | I'm sorry to all the runners out there walking only, | 很抱歉所有跑步的人只走着 |
| 131 | but I love Pilates and I love one of these workout | 但我喜欢彼拉多 我喜欢这种锻炼 |
| 132 | cardio classes near me. | 我身边的心肺科 |
| 133 | I do those things because that's what I like. | 我这么做是因为我喜欢这样 |
| 134 | So you just have to find like what you enjoy | 所以,你只要找到喜欢的东西 |
| 135 | because that's also what's gonna make it sustainable. | 因为这也会使它持久 |
| 136 | If you're doing something you hate | 如果你做了你讨厌的事 |
| 137 | just because your friend is doing it, | 只是因为你的朋友正在做, |
| 138 | it's not gonna work or last. | 它不会工作或持续。 |
| 139 | How to feel at peace internally. | 如何感受内心平静. |
| 140 | I feel like I'm always looking for change or improvement. | 我觉得我总是在寻找改变或改进。 |
| 141 | Sometimes I catch myself thinking, | 有时候我觉得 |
| 142 | I'll be happy once I achieve this | 我一有这个就高兴了 |
| 143 | or I'll be happy once I accomplish this goal. | 或者我完成这个目标后会很高兴的 |
| 144 | And that is such a sad way to live | 这是如此可悲的生活方式 |
| 145 | because then you're basically saying | 因为你基本上说 |
| 146 | that you're not allowed to be content in the moment. | 你暂时不能满足 |
| 147 | Sometimes I just really don't appreciate | 有时候我真的不欣赏 |
| 148 | all of the blessings that I have. | 所有我拥有的祝福 |
| 149 | Sometimes it just takes me like writing down | 有时候只是让我写下来 |
| 150 | three things a day, what I'm grateful for | 一天三件事,我很感激你们 |
| 151 | to really be more present and realize | 真正更现身 并意识到 |
| 152 | I have beyond everything I could have ever dreamed. | 我超越了一切 我曾经梦想。 |
| 153 | How are you able to handle missing your family | 你怎么能处理失去家人的问题 |
| 154 | when you went to college? | 你上大学的时候? |
| 155 | I was not good at this | 我不擅长这个 |
| 156 | and I'm honestly still not good at this. | 老实说,我还是不擅长这个。 |
| 157 | Like I just got home from Minnesota yesterday | 就像昨天刚从明尼苏达回家一样 |
| 158 | and I was so sad last night going to bed | 我昨晚很伤心要睡觉 |
| 159 | because I missed them. | 因为我想念他们。 |
| 160 | I think things shifted for me when I realized | 我觉得事情变了 当我意识到 |
| 161 | I'm so lucky to feel like I miss my family. | 幸好觉得想念家人 |
| 162 | So many people don't miss their family | 这么多人不想念家人 |
| 163 | because they don't have a good relationship with them | 因为他们的关系不好 |
| 164 | and how lucky am I to have such an amazing family | 我多么幸运有一个如此惊人的家庭 |
| 165 | and relationship with my family to miss them? | 和关系 我的家人怀念他们? |
| 166 | More reasonably to your question, | 更合理的是,你的问题, |
| 167 | planning trips and having trips pre-planned. | 计划出行和预先计划出行。 |
| 168 | So like when I leave them, | 就像我离开他们的时候 |
| 169 | I know when I'm gonna see them next exactly. | 我知道下次什么时候能见到他们 |
| 170 | Found out my boyfriend lied about something small. | 发现我男朋友撒了些小谎 |
| 171 | What do I do help? | 我能帮什么忙? |
| 172 | And from my experience, you have to communicate everything. | 根据我的经验,你必须沟通一切 |
| 173 | Small things lead into big things | 小事一桩 |
| 174 | if you don't address it right away | 如果你不马上处理 |
| 175 | and brush it under the rug. | 把它刷在地毯底下 |
| 176 | I just think you need to have an open, honest conversation | 我只是觉得你需要开诚布公的谈话 |
| 177 | about how you're feeling before things snowball. | 关于你感觉如何 事情雪球。 |
| 178 | How do you feel about friendships where you drift apart? | 你对友谊的感觉如何? |
| 179 | I think we actually kind of need to normalize it. | 我认为我们实际上需要 使它正常化。 |
| 180 | Not that it's a great thing. | 不是说这是件好事 |
| 181 | I think it can be seen as very sad, | 我认为这可以被看作是非常悲伤的, |
| 182 | but I think sometimes we just outgrow people | 但我认为有时我们只是 超越人 |
| 183 | and like sometimes nobody does anything wrong, | 就像有时候没有人做错任何事一样 |
| 184 | but there have been a few people | 但有几个人 |
| 185 | that I was friends with years ago | 几年前我曾是朋友 |
| 186 | and I'm not as close with anymore | 我不再那么亲近 |
| 187 | and like nothing really happened. | 并且好像什么都没发生 |
| 188 | Like no one did anything wrong, | 就像没人做错什么一样 |
| 189 | but we just didn't really click anymore. | 但我们只是没有真正点击了。 |
| 190 | And I think it's something that you kind of see slowly over time | 我觉得这是你慢慢看到的 |
| 191 | that one of you is growing in one direction | 你们中的一个正在向一个方向发展 |
| 192 | and the other person's kind of going another. | 和另一个人的那种去另一个。 |
| 193 | It can be really sad to grieve a friendship | 悲伤的友情会很伤心的 |
| 194 | that you had with them, | 你曾与他们在一起, |
| 195 | but that's when I just try to value the time | 但那时我只是想珍惜时间 |
| 196 | that we had together and appreciate all the good memories | 我们在一起 并欣赏所有美好的回忆 |
| 197 | and the relationship that I had with them | 我和他们的关系 |
| 198 | because they helped form me into the person that I am today. | 因为他们帮助我 形成我今天的人。 |
| 199 | They were maybe just in my life for a season. | 他们可能只是在我的生活中一个季节。 |
| 200 | Does it truly get better after high school? | 高中毕业后真的好点了吗? |
| 201 | High school for me was the worst four years of my life | 高中对我来说是我一生中最糟糕的四年 |
| 202 | and it has gotten unimaginably better. | 它已经变得不可思议的更好。 |
| 203 | If you're going through a tough time | 如果你要经历一段艰难的时光 |
| 204 | and you're in high school, just hang on, it gets better. | 而你在高中,只是坚持, 它变得更好。 |
| 205 | I have trust issues and it makes everything so hard in life. | 我有信任问题,这让生活变得如此艰难。 |
| 206 | Like I can't even trust my own mom. | 就像我不能相信自己的妈妈 |
| 207 | I think you just really need to learn yourself | 我觉得你只需要学会自己 |
| 208 | and find the root of that to like discover why, | 找到它的根源 喜欢发现为什么, |
| 209 | why you feel that way. | 你为什么这样想? |
| 210 | And I'm sure there's a good reason. | 且知有因缘. |
| 211 | I'm sure someone probably disappointed you in the past | 我敢肯定,有人可能会失望 过去你 |
| 212 | and that's horrible, but it's about understanding it | 这太可怕了,但这是关于理解它 |
| 213 | and realizing that just because one person did it, | 并意识到 仅仅因为一个人这样做, |
| 214 | not everybody is going to betray you | 不是每个人都会背叛你 |
| 215 | because you don't wanna be tainted forever | 因为你不想永远被玷污 |
| 216 | and you wanna be able to trust people again, | 你想重新相信别人 |
| 217 | just the right people. | 只是对的人。 |
| 218 | I think you have to almost treat sometimes | 我想你有时要请客 |
| 219 | your time alone as a date. | 一个人约会 |
| 220 | Why are we not getting dressed | 我们为什么不穿衣服? |
| 221 | to go out to dinner for ourselves? | 出去吃晚饭? |
| 222 | So I just started doing that, you know? | 所以我才开始这么做,你知道吗? |
| 223 | I was like, wait, why don't I take myself to dinner? | 我想,等等,我为什么不自己去吃晚饭? |
| 224 | Who am I waiting for? | 我等谁? |
| 225 | I think there's such a sense of empowerment | 我觉得有种增强能力的感觉 |
| 226 | that comes with that. | 随它而来 |
| 227 | It's so empowering to realize that you can give yourself | 它是如此的增强能力 以意识到你可以给自己 |
| 228 | all of the things that you want. | 所有你想要的东西 |
| 229 | I think it makes the time with yourself even more enjoyable. | 我觉得这会让你的时间更加快乐 |
| 230 | How to make friends in a big city. | 如何是大城交友处. |
| 231 | Moving to Newark was really tough for me. | 搬到纽瓦克对我来说真的很艰难。 |
| 232 | I would say around the six month mark, I almost backed out. | 六个月左右,我几乎退出了 |
| 233 | I almost broke my lease. | 我差点毁了我的租约 |
| 234 | I was really struggling because I moved here | 我真的很挣扎,因为我搬到这里 |
| 235 | knowing zero people and I'm not exaggerating, zero. | 认识零人,我不夸张,零。 |
| 236 | I really went in completely cold. | 我真的非常的冷,我感觉很冷 |
| 237 | I lived alone. | 我一个人住 |
| 238 | I just tried to put myself out there a lot. | 我只是试图把自己 在那里很多。 |
| 239 | And I think it's kind of like dating. | 我觉得这有点像约会 |
| 240 | You kind of have to meet a few people, | 你得见几个人 |
| 241 | see who you mesh with, see who you don't. | 看看你跟谁在一起 看看你不跟谁 |
| 242 | I remember meeting so many people | 我记得见过这么多人 |
| 243 | and I would just ask them, | 我会问他们, |
| 244 | hey, do you want to get coffee next week? | 嘿,你想得到咖啡 下周吗? |
| 245 | You know, I just moved here. | 我刚刚搬过来 |
| 246 | And a lot of the times people were more receptive | 很多时候人们更能接受 |
| 247 | than I anticipated. | 比我预期的要好 |
| 248 | I think we underestimate how other people | 我想我们低估了别人 |
| 249 | are also probably maybe feeling lonely | 也可能感到孤独 |
| 250 | and also looking for friends. | 还在找朋友 |
| 251 | Sometimes all it takes is just putting yourself out there | 有时候,它只需要把自己 在那里 |
| 252 | and someone might be just as receptive. | 也许有人也会接受 |
| 253 | What other self care activities do you do | 你还有其他的自我护理活动吗? |
| 254 | to keep yourself well besides journaling and exercising? | 除了日记和锻炼之外 还能保持身体健康吗? |
| 255 | Hanging out with my friends is a big one. | 和我的朋友们一起玩是件大事 |
| 256 | Face timing my family always makes me so happy. | 脸时间,我的家人总是让我如此快乐。 |
| 257 | I love getting massages. | 我喜欢按摩 |
| 258 | It's like my guilty pleasure. | 这就像我的罪恶快乐。 |
| 259 | I do spend a lot of my money on that. | 我花了很多钱 |
| 260 | Oh, I also love facials. | 哦,我也爱面部。 |
| 261 | How do you navigate a relationship | 如何引导关系 |
| 262 | without seeing it as a threat to your independence? | 却不认为这是对你的独立的威胁? |
| 263 | I think if you're with the right person, | 我想如果你和对的人在一起 |
| 264 | it won't seem like there is any threat | 似乎没有威胁 |
| 265 | to your independence. | 敬你的独立 |
| 266 | Obviously just being aware to keep your own hobbies | 显然,只是意识到 保持自己的爱好 |
| 267 | and keep your own friends | 并保持自己的朋友们 |
| 268 | and relationships with your family, | 和你家人的关系, |
| 269 | making sure that those are still | 以确保这些仍然是 |
| 270 | just as much of a priority and your career. | 同样的优先 和你的事业。 |
| 271 | Don't forget about those things, | 别忘了那些东西 |
| 272 | especially in the beginning of a relationship | 特别是在关系开始时 |
| 273 | when the honeymoon stage is there | 当蜜月的舞台在那里 |
| 274 | because you don't want to lose friendships | 因为你不想失去友谊 |
| 275 | over dating someone and you shouldn't have to sacrifice that. | 你不应该牺牲这个 |
| 276 | So this is so interesting. | 因此,这是非常有趣的。 |
| 277 | Is maturing mentally a subconscious phenomenon | 智力成熟是一种潜意识现象 |
| 278 | as you grow or an active choice? | 你长大还是积极的选择? |
| 279 | I think it's both. | 我觉得两者都是 |
| 280 | I don't think it's just one or the other. | 岂可一一而一. |
| 281 | I do think there's truth, of course, to your brain. | 我认为,当然,你的大脑有真理。 |
| 282 | Scientifically developing as you grow | 科学发展随着你的成长 |
| 283 | into your mid-20s and late-20s, | 进入你的20年代中期和20年代末, |
| 284 | I totally felt that shift when I turned 25. | 我25岁时完全感受到了这种转变. |
| 285 | And people around me would say when you turn 25, | 我周围的人会说 当你25岁, |
| 286 | you're gonna feel like everything just clicks | 你会觉得一切只是点击 |
| 287 | and you see the world differently. | 你对这个世界的看法不同 |
| 288 | And I don't know a specific moment when, | 我不知道什么时候 |
| 289 | but it really just showed me | 但它真的告诉我 |
| 290 | that a lot of my problems really don't matter | 我的很多问题真的不重要 |
| 291 | and it really made me see what's truly important | 它真的让我看到什么是真正重要的 |
| 292 | and not just these like minuscule little things | 不只是这些小东西 |
| 293 | that I thought were so important. | 我认为这是如此重要。 |
| 294 | So it really put things into perspective for me. | 所以它真的把事情 放在我的角度。 |
| 295 | Aside from the science of your brain maturing, | 除了你的大脑成熟科学之外 |
| 296 | I do think there is a choice involved | 我觉得有选择 |
| 297 | and I do think it's mature to take time to self-reflect | 我确实认为成熟 需要时间来自我反思 |
| 298 | on maybe mistakes you make | 可能你犯了错 |
| 299 | and what you want for your life, where you're headed. | 以及你想要的生活, 你要去哪里。 |
| 300 | So financial advice, how to earn more money | 所以财务建议,如何赚更多的钱 |
| 301 | and how to manage your money. | 如何管理你的钱。 |
| 302 | This is a great question | 问得好 |
| 303 | and I don't really talk about finances very often on here. | 我很少谈金融问题 |
| 304 | From my experience, my parents always encouraged me | 根据我的经验,我父母一直鼓励我 |
| 305 | to start saving at an early age. | 从小开始储蓄 |
| 306 | I am in a very fortunate position | 我非常幸运 |
| 307 | where I started my career super young. | 在那里我开始了我的职业生涯 超级年轻。 |
| 308 | I was like 15, 14, 13, I don't know. | 我当时15,14,13,我不知道。 |
| 309 | But ever since I started making money | 但自从我开始赚钱以来 |
| 310 | at a really young age doing YouTube, I just saved. | 在很年轻的时候做YouTube, 我刚刚救了。 |
| 311 | And my parents set me up with a financial advisor | 我父母给我安排了一个财务顾问 |
| 312 | who helped me from a young age | 他从小帮助我 |
| 313 | start saving for retirement. | 开始储蓄退休。 |
| 314 | There's obviously rules | 很明显有规矩 |
| 315 | and how much you can allocate each year and things. | 以及你每年能分配多少 |
| 316 | There's so many different investment funds and stocks | 有很多不同的投资基金和股票 |
| 317 | and portfolios and things that you can invest in. | 投资组合和可以投资的东西。 |
| 318 | I'm not an expert on that. | 我不是这方面的专家。 |
| 319 | So I decided to hand that off to someone | 所以我决定把它交给别人 |
| 320 | who I believe is the expert | 我相信谁是专家 |
| 321 | and helps me and guides me with my money. | 并帮助我 并引导我的钱。 |
| 322 | So, I mean, if that's something you're really interested | 所以,我的意思是,如果这是 你真的感兴趣 |
| 323 | and passionate about, I think investing | 充满激情,我想投资 |
| 324 | is a very smart thing to do, especially when you're young. | 这是非常聪明的事情, 特别是当你年轻。 |
| 325 | No matter what the amount is, big or small, | 无论多少,无论大小, |
| 326 | investing and saving for your future, | 为你的未来投资储蓄, |
| 327 | if you're able to do it. | 如果你能做到这一点。 |
| 328 | I feel so lucky and privileged, of course, | 我觉得如此幸运和特权, 当然, |
| 329 | to have been able to do this. | 能够做到这一点。 |
| 330 | So I do just wanna stress that any amount that you can save | 所以我只想强调,你可以节省多少 |
| 331 | and even just put in an account that builds interest | 甚至只是放进一个账户 建立利息 |
| 332 | versus sitting in an account that doesn't build interest | 而不是在没有利息的账户里 |
| 333 | is very smart. | 非常聪明 |
| 334 | How to have a really good relationship with food. | 如何有一个真正的良好 与食物的关系。 |
| 335 | Some of you guys know I had barfid and eating disorder | 你们中有些人知道我有巴非症和饮食障碍 |
| 336 | a few years ago, very hard time of my life. | 几年前 我生命中非常艰难 |
| 337 | I went to treatment for it | 我去治疗了 |
| 338 | and I am like fully on the other side now. | 我现在完全站在另一边 |
| 339 | Looking back, I cannot believe that I went through that | 回想起来,我不能相信 我经历了 |
| 340 | and how much has drastically changed in my life since then. | 从那时起,我的生命发生了多大的巨变 |
| 341 | That's definitely a loaded question | 这绝对是个大问题 |
| 342 | and something that you need to really work on | 和一些你需要真正工作的东西 |
| 343 | within yourself. | 在你体内。 |
| 344 | And I think sometimes professional treatments, | 我觉得有时 专业治疗, |
| 345 | if they're accessible, are the best for that. | 如果他们可以进入, 是最好的。 |
| 346 | So I guess instead of answering | 所以,我猜 而不是回答 |
| 347 | how to have a good relationship with food, | 如何与食物保持良好的关系, |
| 348 | I'm more coming at it from the stance that it is possible. | 我更想从可能的立场出发 |
| 349 | And I just saw this and I just wanted to answer this | 我刚刚看到这个 我想回答这个 |
| 350 | because I just wanted to give people hope. | 因为我只是想给大家带来希望 |
| 351 | Because I remember being at the depths | 因为我记得在深处 |
| 352 | of this eating disorder and feeling like | 饮食紊乱的感觉 |
| 353 | I'm never gonna be able to eat normally ever again. | 我再也不能正常地吃东西了 |
| 354 | And for a long time, it really felt like that. | 在很长一段时间里,它真的有这种感觉。 |
| 355 | And coming out on the other end now, | 在另一端出现 |
| 356 | after years and hard work, | 经过多年的努力, |
| 357 | I feel like I've not even thought about | 我觉得我甚至没有想过 |
| 358 | those things in years. | 这些东西在多年。 |
| 359 | I guess I saw this and I just wanted to give people hope | 我想我看到了这个 我只是想给大家希望 |
| 360 | that it is possible. | 这是可能的。 |
| 361 | How to stay consistent in reading my Bible. | 如何在阅读我的圣经时保持一致. |
| 362 | For me, something as simple as literally just having it | 对我来说,简单的东西 就像字面上只是拥有它 |
| 363 | on my nightstand has helped. | 在我的睡台上帮助。 |
| 364 | If I find it's tucked underneath my desk | 如果我发现它藏在我的桌子下面 |
| 365 | in a drawer very deep, I will not read it as much. | 在很深的抽屉里,我不会读那么多。 |
| 366 | So I've tried to just keep it really conveniently placed. | 所以,我试图保持 它真正方便的位置。 |
| 367 | And to be honest, that has helped a lot. | 老实说 这帮了大忙 |
| 368 | So maybe that'll help you too. | 所以也许这也会帮助你 |
| 369 | Okay guys, I think that's everything I have for today. | 好了,伙计们,我想这是我今天的一切。 |
| 370 | We are at 57 minutes. | 我们在57分钟。 |
| 371 | So it's gonna be a long one to edit for me tomorrow. | 所以明天给我编辑会很长 |
| 372 | Definitely take this with a grain of salt. | 绝对要用一粒盐 |
| 373 | I am no expert, but I did just wanna give my two cents | 我不是专家 但我只是想给我两分钱 |
| 374 | and chat with you guys. | 和你们聊天。 |
| 375 | Love you so much. | 爱你这么多。 |
| 376 | Stay on the lookout. | 留心观察. |
| 377 | I have some really fun videos coming soon. | 我有一些非常有趣的视频 即将来临。 |
| 378 | We'll see you in my next video. | 下段录像见 |
| 379 | ["Dreams of a New World"] | ["新世界梦"] |
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