【心理成长】为什么感觉人生还没开始 · 人生迷茫解药 中英字
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| 0:00 | We love to tell ourselves all sorts of excuses as to why we're waiting for our life to start. | 我们喜欢对自己说各种借口,说明为什么我们等待生命的开始. |
| 0:04 | We especially love to blame time, but waiting for the right time isn't really the reason. | 我们特别喜欢责怪时间,但等待合适的时间并不是真正的原因. |
| 0:09 | The reason you're waiting is because starting is terrifying. | 你等待的原因是 开始是可怕的。 |
| 0:13 | Starting means finding out. | 开始意味着发现。 |
| 0:14 | Finding out whether the dream you always imagined is as good as you hoped, | 找出你一直想象的梦想是否和你所希望的一样美好 |
| 0:18 | whether you're cut out for the challenges and the difficulties that come with it, | 无论你是否因遇到挑战 和困难而脱颖而出, |
| 0:22 | and whether you're as capable as you hope and imagine you'll be. | 以及你是否有能力 像你希望的,并想象你会是。 |
| 0:25 | So instead you stay in your head where the dream is safe. | 所以,你留在你的脑海里 在梦是安全的。 |
| 0:28 | Because it is so much easier to stay in the safety of a hypothetical future | 因为留在一个假想的未来的安全性是容易得多的 |
| 0:32 | than embark on the risk of a messy present, | 或冒着混乱的危险, |
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| 1 | We love to tell ourselves all sorts of excuses as to why we're waiting for our life to start. | 我们喜欢对自己说各种借口,说明为什么我们等待生命的开始. |
| 2 | We especially love to blame time, but waiting for the right time isn't really the reason. | 我们特别喜欢责怪时间,但等待合适的时间并不是真正的原因. |
| 3 | The reason you're waiting is because starting is terrifying. | 你等待的原因是 开始是可怕的。 |
| 4 | Starting means finding out. | 开始意味着发现。 |
| 5 | Finding out whether the dream you always imagined is as good as you hoped, | 找出你一直想象的梦想是否和你所希望的一样美好 |
| 6 | whether you're cut out for the challenges and the difficulties that come with it, | 无论你是否因遇到挑战 和困难而脱颖而出, |
| 7 | and whether you're as capable as you hope and imagine you'll be. | 以及你是否有能力 像你希望的,并想象你会是。 |
| 8 | So instead you stay in your head where the dream is safe. | 所以,你留在你的脑海里 在梦是安全的。 |
| 9 | Because it is so much easier to stay in the safety of a hypothetical future | 因为留在一个假想的未来的安全性是容易得多的 |
| 10 | than embark on the risk of a messy present, | 或冒着混乱的危险, |
| 11 | where you find out the answers whether you like them or not. | 无论你是否喜欢 都能找到答案 |
| 12 | But waiting and waiting doesn't make you feel any less scared, | 但等待和等待并不会让你觉得害怕 |
| 13 | and time just goes by and you wonder why you feel like your life hasn't started yet. | 时间流逝,你想知道 为什么你觉得你的生活还没有开始。 |
| 14 | Hi, I'm Isabel, and in this video we're going to discuss all the fears that keep you living in your head. | 嗨,我是伊莎贝尔,在这段视频中,我们将讨论 让你生活在脑海的所有恐惧。 |
| 15 | The fear of being trapped, the fear that your dream won't live up to its fantasy, | 害怕被困住 害怕你的梦想无法实现幻想 |
| 16 | and maybe the doubts that you feel that you're not the person that deserves that life that you always wanted. | 可能你觉得自己不是 值得你一直想要的生活的人 |
| 17 | And by the end of this video I hope that you can fall in love with the journey where you are right now, | 在录像结束时 我希望你能爱上你现在的旅程 |
| 18 | and make life something you can enjoy rather than enjoy. | 创造出你能够享受而不是享受的生活 |
| 19 | First let's kick off with naming this feeling, this feeling that your life hasn't really started yet. | 首先,让我们开始命名这种感觉, 这种感觉你的生活还没有真正开始。 |
| 20 | There's actually a name for this and it's called the provisional life. | 这实际上有一个名字 并称为临时生活。 |
| 21 | So the provisional life is a Jungian psychological concept | 暂时的生活是正宗的心理概念 |
| 22 | that describes how a person will live their life and treat their life as if it's a temporary placeholder. | 这描述了一个人将如何生活, 对待他们的生活就像一个临时的占位者。 |
| 23 | Constantly living in anticipation for an idealized future. | 不断生活在一个理想化的未来中。 |
| 24 | You're essentially feeling like you're in the waiting room for your real life, | 你感觉就像在等待你真正的生活 |
| 25 | not really treating real life as reality, | 并不真正把真实生活当作现实 |
| 26 | and instead just imagining all these amazing dreams and ideas in your head rather than actually living them. | 而只是想象着所有这些令人惊奇的梦想和想法 在你的脑海中,而不是真正活下来。 |
| 27 | This concept was coined in 1950 and it's a Jungian concept, | 这个概念是1950年发明的,它是一个正宗的概念, |
| 28 | and Carl Jung himself described this phenomenon as the disease of the merely imaginary life. | 而卡尔·郑(Carl Jung)自己将这一现象描述为仅仅是虚构生命的疾病. |
| 29 | Disease feels a little bit extreme but it does capture how this feeling sneaks up on you, | 疾病感觉有点极端 但它能捕捉到这种感觉是如何潜移到你身上的 |
| 30 | and years will go by where everything feels fine until you start to realize | 直到你意识到 |
| 31 | that you've never actually lived the life that you want to and it's all been in your head. | 你从来没有真正过 你想的生活, 它一直在你的脑海。 |
| 32 | This phenomenon is really describing the when I then I'll thinking. | 这个现象是真实的描述 当我再思考的时候。 |
| 33 | When I get that promotion then I'll start speaking up in meetings and saying my opinions. | 等我升职了 我就会在会议上说出我的意见 |
| 34 | When I find the right partner then I'll start working on my health, | 等我找到合适的搭档 我就会开始研究自己的健康 |
| 35 | or I'll start visiting the places I've always wanted to visit. | 或者我开始去我一直想去的地方 |
| 36 | When I change this thing about me then I'll feel confident about myself. | 当我改变这件事情,我会对自己有信心。 |
| 37 | When I don't have such a busy week then I'll start putting the time into the things and the people that I love. | 当我没有这么繁忙的一周, 我就会把时间投入我爱的东西和人民。 |
| 38 | So we're treating the present moment a bit like a rehearsal and that real life hasn't really happened yet. | 所以,我们把目前的时刻 有点像一个排练, 而真实的生活还没有真正发生。 |
| 39 | You're telling yourself that you're doing this thing for now and then when something changes | 你告诉自己,你这样做 偶尔,当事情改变 |
| 40 | you'll then start living how you actually want to live. | 然后,你开始 生活,你实际上想生活。 |
| 41 | And real life is just this vague thing in the future. | 而现实生活只是将来的模糊事物. |
| 42 | There are some telltelling signs that you're living a provisional life. | 有一些告密的迹象表明 你正在过着临时生活 |
| 43 | The first is you often say for now or just until about your life. | 首先是你经常说,现在或只是直到你的生命。 |
| 44 | Another sign is if your living space, your wardrobe, your routine, all of these things feel temporary | 另一个迹象是,如果你的生活空间,你的衣柜,你的常规, 所有这些东西都觉得暂时的 |
| 45 | even though years have passed and you keep telling yourself once my life changes then I'll make the change. | 虽然已经过去了多年,你却一直告诉自己 一旦我的生命改变了,那么我会做出改变。 |
| 46 | Another sign might be that you know a lot about the life that you want but you live very little of it. | 另一个迹象是 你对你想要的生活非常了解 但你的生活却很少 |
| 47 | So you have a very good idea of who you want to be and how you want to show up | 所以,你有一个非常好的主意 你想成为谁 和你想如何出现 |
| 48 | but you don't actually live in alignment with that and you're constantly putting it on pause | 但你实际上没有 生活与它一致, 你一直把它放在暂停 |
| 49 | and postponing who you want to be. | 并推迟你想成为谁。 |
| 50 | And the fourth and final sign is you might start a lot of things | 第四个也是最后一个标志是 你可能会开始很多事情 |
| 51 | but you never actually continue them until they get serious. | 但你绝对不会继续,直到他们变得严肃。 |
| 52 | So you love to start things, you love new ideas but the moment they become mundane or ordinary | 所以,你喜欢开始的事情,你喜欢新的想法, 但是当他们变得普通或普通 |
| 53 | or you have to face a challenge then you give up. | 或者你必须面对挑战 然后放弃 |
| 54 | The real reason and core root of the provisional life is something we all experience. | 临时生活的真正理由和核心根源是我们大家经历的东西。 |
| 55 | It is fear. | 这是恐惧。 |
| 56 | It is the fear that things won't live up to how we imagine them. | 而是害怕事情无法如我们想象的那样 |
| 57 | It is the fear of failure. | 这是对失败的恐惧。 |
| 58 | It is the fear of being trapped. | 这是被困的恐惧。 |
| 59 | But the irony is that waiting is the ultimate trap. | 但讽刺的是,等待是终极陷阱。 |
| 60 | And living a provisional life builds this false sense of endless options and endless potential | 过着临时生活 造就了这种无穷无尽的选择和潜力的假觉 |
| 61 | that actually ends up leaving you feeling anxious, feeling regret, | 结果你感到焦虑 后悔 |
| 62 | feeling like you never actually did what you wanted to do | 感觉你从未真正做你想做的事 |
| 63 | because you're always stuck in this waiting. | 因为你总是在等待。 |
| 64 | And I would say that that is the thing that you should fear most. | 我要说,这是你应该最害怕的事情。 |
| 65 | The fear that you will live all these years and one day wake up | 害怕你活了这么多年 总有一天醒来 |
| 66 | and realise that you never were the person you wanted to be. | 并意识到你从来不是你想要的人。 |
| 67 | That for sure is the thing that terrified me | 那肯定是吓到我了 |
| 68 | and why I decided this year to make content and to start showing up. | 以及为什么我今年决定 做内容和开始出现。 |
| 69 | Because I had spent so many years dreaming of doing this | 因为我做了这么多年的梦 |
| 70 | and I was letting all these fears hold me back | 我让所有这些恐惧 拖住我 |
| 71 | but the thing that switched it for me was the fear of never doing it | 但换给我的是害怕永远不做 |
| 72 | and feeling regret and feeling like I missed an opportunity. | 感到后悔 感觉我错过了机会 |
| 73 | That fear became even bigger than all the other fears that I had. | 这种恐惧比我所有的恐惧都大 |
| 74 | And these longings and dreams and amazing things that we want to do | 这些渴望和梦想 还有我们想要做的事情 |
| 75 | they don't just disappear if we don't act on them. | 如果我们不对他们采取行动 他们就不会消失 |
| 76 | They start to leak out of us as resentment, restlessness, regret, jealousy, | 他们开始从我们身上泄露出来 怨恨 不安 后悔 嫉妒 |
| 77 | even pressure on other people to live them for us. | 甚至向其他人施压 让他们为我们而生活 |
| 78 | Carl Jung actually wrote about this and the unlived life of the parent. | 卡尔·郑(Carl Jung)实际上写了这件事情和父母的不寿生活. |
| 79 | What he was describing is that as children we don't just pick up on what our parents say | 他所描述的是,作为孩子 我们不只是拿起 我们的父母说 |
| 80 | but we can also get a sense of how they're feeling and even the things that they're repressing. | 但是我们也能够感觉到他们的感受 甚至他们压制的东西 |
| 81 | And these feelings that we pick up on we start to take them as our own burden | 我们开始把这种感觉当作我们自己的负担 |
| 82 | and we start to carry that for ourselves. | 我们开始为自己携带它。 |
| 83 | When a parent chooses a provisional life they can start to subconsciously | 当父母选择临时生活时,他们可以潜意识地开始 |
| 84 | {\fn黑体\fs20\shad2\2aH82\3aH20\4aH33\fscx95\3cH592001\be1}让他们的孩子过上自己的生活 | |
| 85 | Making the child feel like they have to live out the dream | 让孩子觉得他们必须活在梦里 |
| 86 | that their parent never realised for themselves. | 他们的父母从来没有意识到自己。 |
| 87 | You might relate to this or you might know someone that behaves like this. | 你可能和这件事有关 或者你可能认识这样的人 |
| 88 | It's very much the kind of dad that wants his son to be the best footballer because he never could. | 正是那种希望儿子成为最佳足球运动员的爸爸 因为他永远做不到 |
| 89 | And I wanted to share this because when we think of our lives as a responsibility to ourselves | 我想分享这个 因为当我们把生活看作是对自己的责任时 |
| 90 | we might not necessarily feel worthy enough to go and do those things | 我们不一定觉得值得去做那些事 |
| 91 | or we might feel like we're not making any impact or harm to anyone around us | 或者我们可能觉得 我们不会对周围的人造成任何影响或伤害 |
| 92 | by not going for the life we want. | 而不是为了我们想要的生活 |
| 93 | That it actually doesn't really get us going and moving to do it. | 实际上,它并没有真正让我们 去和移动做到这一点。 |
| 94 | But I hope for some of you hearing that makes you feel like | 但我希望你们中有些人能听到这样的话 |
| 95 | postponing your life is something you should take seriously. | 推迟你的生命是应该认真对待的 |
| 96 | Because it might not feel like there are any repercussions right now | 因为现在可能不会有什么影响 |
| 97 | but it's a responsibility not only for yourself but also for the people around you | 但这不仅是你的责任 也是你身边的人的责任 |
| 98 | and for the people that you love. | 以及你们所爱的人。 |
| 99 | Because by living the life you always wanted to | 因为通过生活 你一直想 |
| 100 | you live in alignment with your values and who you really are. | 与你的价值观以及你真正的身份一致 |
| 101 | And the confidence and the self-trust and all the incredible things that come with that | 信心和自信 以及所有不可思议的东西 |
| 102 | if you inherently don't feel like you deserve that life | 如果你天生不觉得你值得这样的生活 |
| 103 | I hope all those feelings that come with it make you reconsider why you should go for it. | 我希望所有的感情 伴随着它,让你重新考虑 为什么你应该去。 |
| 104 | So that's the first fear, the fear of being trapped | 所以这是第一次害怕,害怕被困 |
| 105 | that holds us back from living the life we actually want. | 这使我们无法过上我们真正想要的生活 |
| 106 | But there is something else, something sneakier because it feels really good | 但有别的东西, 更狡猾的东西 因为感觉真的很好 |
| 107 | and that is our imagination and inspiration. | 这是我们的想象力和灵感。 |
| 108 | As I said at the beginning, making a start is really terrifying | 正如我一开始所说,开始真的太可怕了 |
| 109 | because it means that you're actually going to find out | 因为这意味着你会发现 |
| 110 | whether your dream is as what you imagined. | 你的梦想是否和你想象的一样 |
| 111 | And I can say that it is almost certain that the reality of your dream | 我可以说几乎可以肯定 你梦想的现实 |
| 112 | is going to be harder, it is going to be messier, | 它会更难, 它会更乱, |
| 113 | it is going to be less magical than you imagined. | 它不会比你想象的那么神奇 |
| 114 | And it forces you to ask yourself, is this really what I want? | 它迫使你问自己, 这真的是我想要的吗? |
| 115 | And that is really terrifying if this has been your dream for many years. | 如果这是你多年的梦想 那真的很可怕 |
| 116 | Because what happens if you find out that it isn't what you want | 因为如果你发现这不是你想要的 |
| 117 | and you spent your whole life dreaming of it? | 你一辈子都在做梦? |
| 118 | So the fear isn't just about failing, it's also the fear of losing the dream itself | 所以,恐惧不仅仅是失败, 也是害怕失去梦想本身 |
| 119 | if reality doesn't match it and the disappointment that you will feel. | 如果现实与你所感受到的失望不符 |
| 120 | Because we're always going to dream about things through rose-tinted glasses | 因为我们总是会梦到一些事情 通过玫瑰纹眼镜 |
| 121 | and we're never going to see the full reality when we're imagining things. | 我们永远不会看到 完整的现实 当我们想象的东西。 |
| 122 | There will always be challenges no matter what your dream is. | 无论你的梦想是什么 都会有挑战的 |
| 123 | So it's easier to just have it live in our head than actually have to face those. | 所以,只要它活在我们脑海里, 比实际面对这些更容易。 |
| 124 | What I do want to disclaim before I jump into this chapter | 在我跳进这个章节之前,我想否认什么 |
| 125 | is that I believe that imagination and visualisation is very important | 我认为想象力和视觉 是非常重要的 |
| 126 | and I really do believe that that is what helps you get closer to your goals. | 我真的相信,这就是帮助你接近目标的原因。 |
| 127 | Through your imagination it shows you what you want | 通过你的想象,它显示你想要什么 |
| 128 | and it gives you something to work towards. | 它给你一些工作。 |
| 129 | So this isn't a video saying that you should never daydream again. | 所以这不是一个视频说 你不应该再做白日梦。 |
| 130 | But the question that we're trying to answer here is what do you do after you imagine it? | 但是,我们想在这里回答的问题是 你想象它之后会做什么? |
| 131 | I want you to be really honest, does your dream send you out into your life | 我希望你真的诚实, 你的梦想让你 进入你的生活 |
| 132 | or is it a place you go instead of your life? | 还是你要去的地方 而不是你的生活? |
| 133 | There's a psychology professor at NYU who has spent many many years | 纽约大学有个心理学教授 已经度过了很多年 |
| 134 | exploring and researching how we think of the future. | 探索和研究我们如何看待未来。 |
| 135 | And through her research she has separated two kinds of thinking, fantasies and expectations. | 通过她的研究,她分离了两种想法,幻想和期望. |
| 136 | Fantasies is enjoying the result of the dream coming true | 幻想在享受梦想成真的结果 |
| 137 | whereas expectations is visualising and imagining how you can get from point A to B. | 而期望是想象和想象 从A点到B点 |
| 138 | How you can align what you're doing to where you want to go. | 如何调和所作所欲去处. |
| 139 | And a very similar pattern arises in a lot of her research | 她的很多研究中都出现了一个非常相似的模式 |
| 140 | that having just pure fantasy actually doesn't move you towards your goal. | 拥有纯粹的幻想 并不会让你走向你的目标 |
| 141 | Whereas dreaming with a clear look at reality drives action. | 而梦想清晰地审视现实则推动着行动。 |
| 142 | So it's not that dreaming is holding you back | 所以不是做梦会妨碍你 |
| 143 | but it's when you're dreaming without looking at what needs to be done to get there | 但是当你在做梦的时候 却不看需要做什么才能到达那里 |
| 144 | without the positive expectations and the grounded belief that you can. | 没有积极的期望 和你可以有的信念。 |
| 145 | Ettingen's own answer to the research was something that she described as mental contrasting. | Ettingen自己对研究的回答是她描述的心理对比. |
| 146 | It's essentially combining dreams with reality in a four-step approach | 根本上是用四步法把梦想和现实结合起来 |
| 147 | that she called the whoop method. | 她称呼方法。 |
| 148 | So what is the whoop method? | 那么,什么是呐喊的方法? |
| 149 | Well W stands for wish. | 好吧,W代表愿望。 |
| 150 | That is identifying the goal, the dream that you want to achieve | 那就是确定你想要实现的目标、梦想 |
| 151 | and getting very specific on what its meaning is to you | 并且非常具体地说 它对你意味着什么 |
| 152 | how you're going to find fulfillment through this | 你如何通过这个找到成就 |
| 153 | and importantly giving it a set time frame. | 并给它一个规定的时间框架。 |
| 154 | So maybe this week, this month, this year. | 所以也许本周,本月,本年。 |
| 155 | O is for outcome which is visualizing the best possible result | O是用来展示最佳结果的结果 |
| 156 | or the most positive feeling that will come from achieving this dream | 或最积极的感觉 从实现这个梦想 |
| 157 | and spend time mentally experiencing what that looks like | 并花时间在精神上 体验什么看起来像 |
| 158 | how that feels, who you are in that moment. | 感觉如何,你是谁 在那一刻。 |
| 159 | So these two parts by themselves is purely just fantasy thinking. | 所以这两个部分本身纯粹是幻想思维. |
| 160 | So it's these next two parts that you want to add on to start taking action. | 所以接下来的两部分,你想要加入,开始采取行动。 |
| 161 | The second O is obstacle. | 第二O是障碍. |
| 162 | Pinpointing the main internal obstacle or something that holds you back. | 指向主要内部障碍 或什么阻碍你的东西。 |
| 163 | So maybe that is that you speak negatively to yourself | 所以也许这就是你对自己说负面的话 |
| 164 | which means that you can never get started. | 这意味着你永远不能开始。 |
| 165 | Maybe you need to quit a bad habit or start a habit to start moving. | 也许你需要戒掉不良习惯 或者开始习惯开始移动。 |
| 166 | There are always going to be obstacles that stand between you and where you want to be. | 总是有障碍 站在你和你想要的地方。 |
| 167 | So really identifying and getting clear on what those are | 所以,真正确定和 清楚这些是什么 |
| 168 | are going to help you to know how to navigate them. | 将帮助你 知道如何导航他们。 |
| 169 | And the fourth is plan. | 第四是计划 |
| 170 | So not just dreaming about what you could do | 所以,不只是梦想你能做什么 |
| 171 | but how are you going to implement this into your day-to-day? | 但是,你将如何 执行这一点 在你的日常? |
| 172 | You still get to dream but you're not relying on the dream to make it true. | 你仍然可以做梦,但你并没有依靠梦来让梦成真. |
| 173 | You're actually putting in action to get your life started | 你实际上正在采取行动 让你的生活开始 |
| 174 | and to be where you always want to be. | 并成为你永远想要的地方。 |
| 175 | And the reason why fantasizing by itself doesn't work | 幻想本身不起作用的原因 |
| 176 | is because when we fantasize about things | 因为当我们幻想的东西 |
| 177 | it actually makes our brain believe that we've got there already | 这实际上让我们的大脑相信 我们已经到了那里 |
| 178 | and it makes our brain relax instead of gearing up. | 它让我们的大脑放松 而不是固定。 |
| 179 | So the key is to whilst also imagining the result | 所以关键是同时想象结果 |
| 180 | also think about the steps and imagine the steps | 想想台阶 想象台阶 |
| 181 | that you're going to have to take to get there. | 你将不得不去到那里。 |
| 182 | It's about not just focusing on the highlight reel | 不只是关注亮点 |
| 183 | of what it will be like when you get there | 当你到达那里时会是什么样子 |
| 184 | but also the process of getting there | 以及到达那里的过程 |
| 185 | and getting really clear on what that reality looks like. | 并且非常清楚现实是什么样子 |
| 186 | And there's an interesting study that shows this in practice. | 还有一个有趣的研究,在实践上表明了这一点. |
| 187 | There was a study in 1999 where UCLA researchers | 1999年,加州大学洛杉矶分校研究人员进行了一项研究 |
| 188 | took a group of students and asked them to visualize before a big exam. | 带了一群学生,要求他们在大考试前进行视觉化. |
| 189 | They split the group into two | 他们分成两组 |
| 190 | where one group would visualize the result | 在其中,一个群体可以想象结果 |
| 191 | that was getting the good grade and feeling proud | 得到优异的成绩 感到骄傲 |
| 192 | whereas the other group were going to visualize the process | 而另一组人则打算把过程直观化 |
| 193 | which was visualizing where they were going to study, | 描绘了他们要学习的地方, |
| 194 | when they were going to study, | 当他们要学习的时候, |
| 195 | what exactly they were going to revise and go over. | 他们到底要修改什么,然后过去 |
| 196 | Interestingly, the second group, the group that was focused on process | 有趣的是,第二个小组, 专注于过程的小组 |
| 197 | were the ones who actually did better and studied harder. | 是那些真正做得更好,学习得更努力的人。 |
| 198 | What that shows is A, how important and how powerful visualization is | 显示的是A, 有多重要和强大的视觉 |
| 199 | but B, how important it is on what you focus on when you're visualizing. | 但是,B,它有多重要 你专注于什么 当你的视觉。 |
| 200 | So there's the fear of being trapped, | 所以有被困的恐惧 |
| 201 | the fear that the fantasy won't live up to your expectations. | 害怕幻想无法满足你的期望 |
| 202 | There's another reason why you might be postponing your life | 还有另一个原因 你可能会推迟你的生活 |
| 203 | and a lot of postponing is really waiting for permission | 而很多推迟 真的很等待许可 |
| 204 | to be the person that deserves that dream. | 成为值得梦想的人 |
| 205 | Waiting for this future you, this better version of yourself | 等待未来,你,这个更好的自我 |
| 206 | who will be worthy and deserving of that life. | 谁是值得的, 值得的生活。 |
| 207 | You might feel like you're not allowed to live the life you want to live | 你可能觉得自己不能过你想过的生活 |
| 208 | because you're not there yet, | 因为你还没到那里 |
| 209 | because you're not the person that you feel deserves that. | 因为你不是自己认为应得的人 |
| 210 | When we hand our future selves all the scary parts | 当我们交出我们的未来自己 所有可怕的部分 |
| 211 | and we think in the future I will be ready, | 未来我会准备好的 |
| 212 | in the future when this and that happens, | 将来,当这一切发生的时候, |
| 213 | then I will live the life I want to. | 然后我会过上我想要的生活 |
| 214 | But we all know deep down that the future you won't be less scared. | 但我们都深知你不会害怕的未来 |
| 215 | I mean it is just you but a later version of you | 我是说只有你,但你后来的版本 |
| 216 | and unless you make a change and unless you take action | 除非你有所改变 除非你采取行动 |
| 217 | and go after those challenges | 面对那些挑战 |
| 218 | you're going to be in exactly the same position as you are now | 你会处于和你现在完全一样的地位 |
| 219 | but just time will have passed. | 但时间会过去 |
| 220 | And future you isn't going to magically wake up fearless. | 未来你不会神奇地醒来 无畏。 |
| 221 | I can definitely relate to this feeling | 我绝对可以和这种感觉有关 |
| 222 | and I think when you're beginning on a journey | 我想当你开始旅行时 |
| 223 | and you're looking at other people who are so far ahead of you | 你看着其他人 谁比你远 |
| 224 | it is really hard to believe that you can also do it. | 很难相信你也能做到这一点。 |
| 225 | But this is why I want to discuss | 但是这就是我想讨论的原因 |
| 226 | how we can use inspiration to actually move you forward | 我们如何利用灵感 真正推动你前进 |
| 227 | and how you can turn what you consume into action. | 以及如何把消费转化为行动 |
| 228 | So how can we use inspiration to actually move us towards our goals | 因此,我们如何利用灵感 真正推动我们的目标 |
| 229 | instead of just seeing someone | 而不是只见一个人 |
| 230 | that looks like they have an incredible life. | 看起来他们的生活很不可思议 |
| 231 | How can we take that a step further | 我们怎样才能进一步 |
| 232 | and use what we consume to take action? | 用我们所消耗的东西采取行动? |
| 233 | Everything you consume and come in contact with | 所有你消费和接触的东西 |
| 234 | creates your own world. | 创造自己的世界。 |
| 235 | So the more you see what is possible | 所以,你越看到什么是可能的 |
| 236 | the more you're going to feel that it's attainable for you | 越觉得自己可以实现 |
| 237 | which means who you watch | 也就是说你看着谁 |
| 238 | and the kind of person you get inspired by | 以及那种你得到灵感的人 |
| 239 | can really decide whether inspiration moves you | 能够真正决定灵感是否移动您 |
| 240 | or it just makes you feel worse | 或者让你觉得更糟 |
| 241 | or a comfortable middle where you get excited | 或一个舒适的中间 你感到兴奋 |
| 242 | you feel inspired and uplifted by watching it | 看着它你感到灵感和振奋 |
| 243 | but you don't actually do anything in your own life. | 但你没有在自己的生活中做任何事情。 |
| 244 | To start to get moving with your life | 开始搬家了 |
| 245 | you really need to build self-efficacy | 你真的需要建立自我效能 |
| 246 | which is essentially just the feeling of how capable you are | 基本上只是感觉 你是多么有能力 |
| 247 | and the belief of how capable you are to get somewhere. | 相信自己有多有能力到达某处 |
| 248 | And our belief in ourselves of what we can achieve | 我们相信自己能实现什么 |
| 249 | is really influenced by the people that we watch | 受我们看的人影响 |
| 250 | but more importantly how similar those people are to ourselves. | 但更重要的是,这些人和我们是多么相似。 |
| 251 | So when you're looking at the people that you're inspired by | 所以,当你看着人们 你灵感来自 |
| 252 | you need to feel a relevance and a connection to them | 你需要感觉到和他们有关联 |
| 253 | and you can do this in two different ways. | 你可以用两种不同的方式做到这一点。 |
| 254 | So firstly you can look at people | 所以首先你可以看人的样子 |
| 255 | who are only a step or two steps ahead of you | 他们只比你先一步两步 |
| 256 | so that you can see more of a real picture | 这样你就能看到更多真实的画面 |
| 257 | of where you're headed | 你要去的地方吗? |
| 258 | and it gets you really clear on where that is. | 它让你非常清楚它在哪里。 |
| 259 | Or if there's someone that really inspires you | 或者如果有人真正激励你 |
| 260 | that feels a lot further ahead of you | 那感觉比你更远 |
| 261 | then where were they when they were your age? | 那他们在你这个年纪的时候在哪里? |
| 262 | What were they doing? | 他们在做什么? |
| 263 | What were the choices they were making | 他们做了哪些选择 |
| 264 | that got them where they are now? | 他们现在在哪里? |
| 265 | And what we also want to do is turn inspiration into decisions | 我们也想做的是把灵感变成决定 |
| 266 | into progress that we can apply in our lives. | 进入我们生活中可以应用的进步。 |
| 267 | Not just what this inspiration makes me feel | 不只是这个灵感让我觉得 |
| 268 | but what can I do from this? | 但我能做些什么呢? |
| 269 | What can I do with this uplifting exciting energy? | 这么激动人心的能量 我能做什么? |
| 270 | Where can I channel that? | 我在哪里可以传送? |
| 271 | What I'm trying to show you here is that inspiration on its own | 我想给你们看的是 灵感本身 |
| 272 | won't necessarily move you | 不一定能动你 |
| 273 | and it's about applying that inspiration | 而是运用这个灵感 |
| 274 | into decision-making, into habits, into your way of life | 进入决策、习惯、生活方式 |
| 275 | so that you can move towards that. | 这样你就可以朝这个方向前进了。 |
| 276 | Now the fifth and final part | 现在第五段也是最后一段 |
| 277 | which is the part that I feel most deeply connected to | 这段我感到最深的关联 |
| 278 | which is how can you fall in love with your life right now | 你怎么会爱上你的生命呢? |
| 279 | and the in-between so that life doesn't feel | 与介于两者之间,以免生活感觉 |
| 280 | just like a waiting room | 就像一个候车室 |
| 281 | but something you actually experience? | 但你真的经历过什么? |
| 282 | Something I've learned is that you don't have to arrive | 我学到的东西是,你不必到达 |
| 283 | at your goal to feel good | 在你的目标 感觉好 |
| 284 | and the thing is that your goals are always going to be fleeting | 事情是,你的目标 永远是短暂的 |
| 285 | and when you hit a milestone, yes, you'll be happy for a bit | 当你撞上一个里程碑,是的, 你会高兴的一点点 |
| 286 | but then you'll come up with the next goal and the next milestone | 但你会想出下一个目标 和下一个里程碑 |
| 287 | so we can't just depend on hitting the goal | 所以我们不能只靠击球 |
| 288 | as our source of happiness. | 作为我们幸福的源泉 |
| 289 | And really what brings fulfillment is the progress | 真正的成就是进步 |
| 290 | and the small wins and the things you do day to day | 和小胜,和你们每天的行为, |
| 291 | which is really about presence and savouring things. | 这其实是关于存在和享受的东西。 |
| 292 | It really is a mindset shift to start saying | 这真的是一个心态转变 开始说 |
| 293 | that I am living a version of my dream right now. | 我现在在做梦 |
| 294 | Feeling grateful and complete and fulfilled where you are | 感恩 完成 满足 |
| 295 | actually brings more positive energy into your life | 给生活带来更多正能量 |
| 296 | actually means that you're vibrating | 其实就是说你在震动 |
| 297 | at a very high energy frequency | 在非常高的能量频率 |
| 298 | attracting more and more into your life | 吸引越来越多的人进入你的生活 |
| 299 | and showing up as best you can. | 尽你所能出现 |
| 300 | This mindset really helps to show you | 这种心态真的可以让你看到 |
| 301 | that you're making progress. | 你正在进步 |
| 302 | You can even do some journaling once a day, once a week | 你甚至可以每天做一次日记,每周一次 |
| 303 | what have I learned? | 我学到了什么? |
| 304 | What have I moved forward and progressed with? | 我前进了又取得了什么进展? |
| 305 | Shows you that yes, maybe you're not at that goal yet | 告诉你是的,也许你还没有达到那个目标 |
| 306 | but you're also making progress | 但你也有进步 |
| 307 | and you're not just stagnant and waiting for life to happen. | 而且你不只是停留 等待生命的到来。 |
| 308 | Interestingly, the conclusion that they came up with | 有趣的是,他们得出的结论 |
| 309 | for the cure of a provisional life | 治疗暂时性生命 |
| 310 | is to commit to something and stick with it | 做点什么 坚持下去 |
| 311 | which makes total sense | 这完全合理 |
| 312 | because a lot of us feel like we're waiting | 因为我们很多人都觉得我们在等待 |
| 313 | because we've started so many new ideas | 因为我们开始了很多新想法 |
| 314 | but we've never actually seen anything through. | 但我们从来没有真正看到什么 通过。 |
| 315 | People who live a provisional life | 暂时生活的人 |
| 316 | tend to always have new ideas and start new things | 总是有 新的想法和开始新的事物 |
| 317 | but never follow through with them | 但永远不要跟随他们 |
| 318 | and never give them enough time to be rooted | 永远不要给他们足够的时间扎根 |
| 319 | and actually see that progress | 并看到进步 |
| 320 | because the everyday, the unglamorous | 因为日常的,无魅力的 |
| 321 | the boring and the mundane parts | 无聊和乏味的部分 |
| 322 | they don't feel like the dream that we had in our head. | 他们不像我们想象中的梦 |
| 323 | So when things get hard | 所以当事情变得艰难 |
| 324 | when we have those challenges, those setbacks | 当我们有这些挑战,那些挫折 |
| 325 | we just want to give up | 我们只是想放弃 |
| 326 | because we find out that our dream isn't this rosy thing | 因为我们发现 我们的梦想不是一件美妙的事 |
| 327 | but actually takes a lot of hard work | 但实际上需要很多努力 |
| 328 | and a real commitment to wanting it. | 和真正的承诺 想要它。 |
| 329 | I want to get really specific here | 我想说清楚一点 |
| 330 | because the problem isn't in having too many interests | 因为问题不在于有太多的兴趣 |
| 331 | it's never arriving at any of them. | 它从来没有到达任何它们。 |
| 332 | You can have different lives | 你可以过不同的生活 |
| 333 | in fact I encourage it | 其实我鼓励它 |
| 334 | and it's good to have different careers | 和它的好 有不同的职业 |
| 335 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}你应该能尝试你生活中不同的东西 | |
| 336 | and you will have different seasons in your life | 你将拥有不同的季节 |
| 337 | different chapters | 不同章节 |
| 338 | where you're different versions of yourself. | 在那里你不同版本的自己。 |
| 339 | That isn't the issue | 这不是问题 |
| 340 | the issue is when we never fully commit to the bit. | 问题是,当我们从未充分承诺这一点时。 |
| 341 | If you are going to do one season in your life | 如果你打算做一个季节 在你的生活 |
| 342 | where say you're going to work really hard | 在那里说,你要去 真的努力工作 |
| 343 | and you're going to get that promotion | 你会得到晋升 |
| 344 | then to commit to that bit | 然后再承诺 |
| 345 | you have to sacrifice other things | 你必须牺牲其他的东西 |
| 346 | because you can be anything that you want | 因为你能成为你想要的一切 |
| 347 | it's just you can't have it all at the same time. | 只是你不能同时拥有这一切 |
| 348 | It is through fully committing to something | 这是通过充分承诺的东西 |
| 349 | and fully embracing that version of yourself | 并完全接受你的这个版本 |
| 350 | that you will find fulfillment. | 你会找到满足。 |
| 351 | Having the grass is greener mentality | 拥有草是更绿色的心态 |
| 352 | means that you will never find fulfillment in anything | 意味着你永远找不到满足 |
| 353 | because you're always looking elsewhere | 因为你总是在寻找别的地方 |
| 354 | to find satisfaction, to find happiness. | 找到满足 找到幸福 |
| 355 | So fully commit to the season that you're in | 所以全心全意投入你所在的季节 |
| 356 | fully commit to who you are right now | 全力以赴,全力以赴 |
| 357 | other versions will come | 其他版本将出现 |
| 358 | but it requires you to get through this chapter | 但这需要你度过这一章 |
| 359 | to start embarking on the next. | 开始下一个。 |
| 360 | I want to end this video on a very famous quote | 我想用一句很出名的话结束这段视频 |
| 361 | that I'm sure you've heard of | 我敢肯定,你听说过 |
| 362 | that how we spend our days is how we spend our lives. | 我们如何度过我们的日子 是我们如何度过我们的生活。 |
| 363 | So if you're feeling like you're not spending your life | 所以如果你觉得自己没有花一辈子 |
| 364 | in the way that you want to | 以你所希望的方式 |
| 365 | if you feel like you're waiting for your life to start | 如果你觉得你在等待生命的开始 |
| 366 | that you keep postponing the reality that you want | 你继续拖延你想要的现实 |
| 367 | start simple, start small | 开始简单,开始小 |
| 368 | start looking at your day to day | 一天到晚看着你 |
| 369 | start looking at how you can make your day to day | 开始思考如何让你的一天到今天 |
| 370 | more fulfilling | 较有成就 |
| 371 | more in alignment with the life that you want. | 更符合你想要的生活。 |
| 372 | So I'd love for you to tell me in the comments | 所以我希望你在评论中告诉我 |
| 373 | what is one thing that you have been waiting to start | 什么是你一直在等待开始 |
| 374 | and what do you think that fear is that's holding you back | 你觉得恐惧是什么 阻碍你 |
| 375 | because naming that fear is going to be the first step | 因为命名恐惧是第一步 |
| 376 | that awareness that's going to be the first step | 认识是第一步 |
| 377 | of getting it out of your head and into your real life. | 把它从你的脑子里 和进入你的真实生活。 |
| 378 | I hope this video helped you | 我希望这段视频能帮助你 |
| 379 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}让你更清楚为什么你会觉得被困住了 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}你可能觉得被困住了 | |
| 380 | and how you can move forward | 和如何前进 |
| 381 | and it really helps me if you leave a like and subscribe | 如果你离开一个喜欢的 并订阅,它真的帮助我 |
| 382 | and I'll see you next Sunday for the next video. | 下周日见 接下来的录像 |
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