【心理成长】好看的心理学：为什么漂亮占便宜 · 吸引力科学
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| 0:00 | As I get older the more and more I realize that being hot is a mindset and I know how ridiculous | 随着我变老,我越来越意识到 热是种心态 我知道有多荒谬 |
| 0:05 | that might sound but you have way more control over how attractive you are and how attractive | 可能听起来不错 但你更能控制自己有多有吸引力 |
| 0:10 | people see you than you think. | 人们看到你比你想象的。 |
| 0:12 | Reality is a mirror and I'm going to tell you exactly what I mean. | 现实是一面镜子 我要告诉你我到底是什么意思 |
| 0:15 | Hey friend welcome back if you're new here my name's Jill and I help women step into their | 嘿,朋友,欢迎回来 如果你是新来的,我叫吉尔,我帮助女人走进他们的 |
| 0:19 | power tap into their divine feminine and become their best self live their best life so if that's | 力量可以进入她们神圣的女神 成为她们最好的自我 过着最好的生活 |
| 0:24 | something you want to do you should subscribe and stick around. | 你想做的事,你应该订阅 并留下来。 |
| 0:27 | So beauty standards are a very real | 所以美容标准很真实 |
| 0:29 | thing and I'm not debating that but here's what I want you to notice. | 事情,我不辩论 但这里我要你注意。 |
| 0:32 | Beauty standards are different | 美容标准不同 |
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| 1 | As I get older the more and more I realize that being hot is a mindset and I know how ridiculous | 随着我变老,我越来越意识到 热是种心态 我知道有多荒谬 |
| 2 | that might sound but you have way more control over how attractive you are and how attractive | 可能听起来不错 但你更能控制自己有多有吸引力 |
| 3 | people see you than you think. | 人们看到你比你想象的。 |
| 4 | Reality is a mirror and I'm going to tell you exactly what I mean. | 现实是一面镜子 我要告诉你我到底是什么意思 |
| 5 | Hey friend welcome back if you're new here my name's Jill and I help women step into their | 嘿,朋友,欢迎回来 如果你是新来的,我叫吉尔,我帮助女人走进他们的 |
| 6 | power tap into their divine feminine and become their best self live their best life so if that's | 力量可以进入她们神圣的女神 成为她们最好的自我 过着最好的生活 |
| 7 | something you want to do you should subscribe and stick around. | 你想做的事,你应该订阅 并留下来。 |
| 8 | So beauty standards are a very real | 所以美容标准很真实 |
| 9 | thing and I'm not debating that but here's what I want you to notice. | 事情,我不辩论 但这里我要你注意。 |
| 10 | Beauty standards are different | 美容标准不同 |
| 11 | from culture to culture and beauty standards change throughout different decades and different | 从文化到文化和美貌标准在不同几十年和不同时期发生变化 |
| 12 | generations. | 几代人,他们都死了 |
| 13 | So what does that really mean about beauty? | 那对美意味着什么? |
| 14 | It means that the way we view beauty | 就是说我们看美的方式 |
| 15 | is not set in stone and if it's not set in stone that means that you have the power to influence | 如果不是石块 意味着你有权影响 |
| 16 | that. | 那个 |
| 17 | There's this whole aspect of being hot that has nothing to do with your appearance | 和你的外表毫无关系 |
| 18 | but everything to do with your self-perception. | 但与你的自我认知有关 |
| 19 | So there's this movie with Amy Schumer it's called | 和艾米·舒默一起拍的电影叫做 |
| 20 | I Feel Pretty and it's a great little happy feel-good movie and there's going to be some | 我觉得漂亮,这是一部快乐的好电影 将会有一些 |
| 21 | spoilers in here but this is important to the lesson. | 破坏者在这里,但这对教训很重要。 |
| 22 | So in the beginning of the movie Amy Schumer's | 所以在电影《艾米·舒默》的开头 |
| 23 | character has very low self-esteem she's very insecure she does not like the way that she looks | 性格的自尊心非常低 她很不安全 她不喜欢她的样子 |
| 24 | she lacks all confidence and you can see this in the way that she goes about her life. | 她缺乏所有的信心 你可以从她的生活中看到这一点 |
| 25 | You can tell | 你看得出来 |
| 26 | by the way that she's walking through New York City you can tell by the way she talks to people | 她走在纽约市的路上 你可以从她对人说话的方式看出来 |
| 27 | and how she shows up. | 和她的出现。 |
| 28 | Her body language is all hunched and meek and honestly she just acts super | 她的身体语言都是直觉和柔和 老实说 她只是表现的超级 |
| 29 | insecure. | 没有安全感。 |
| 30 | I don't even see a point in applying I have no shot. | 我甚至看不出有什么意义 应用我没有机会。 |
| 31 | But then one day she falls she | 但有一天,她坠落 |
| 32 | hits her head really hard and when she gets up and she looks in the mirror she believes that | 当她站起来,看着镜子 她相信 |
| 33 | she has become the most beautiful woman on the planet. | 她成为了地球上最美丽的女人 |
| 34 | Do I look super tall to you? | 你觉得我看起来超高吗? |
| 35 | Uh I don't know how to answer that. | 我不知道该怎么回答 |
| 36 | Now of course nothing has changed she looks exactly the same but | 现在当然没有什么改变 她看起来完全一样,但 |
| 37 | she thinks she's drop-dead gorgeous she thinks she has a beautiful face she thinks she has a | 她认为自己是 滴死华丽 她认为她有一个美丽的脸 她认为她有一个 |
| 38 | beautiful body and what happens after that is that her life completely changes. | 美丽的身体 之后发生的事情是 她的生活完全改变。 |
| 39 | Her career | 她的事业 |
| 40 | skyrockets she's not afraid to apply for the jobs that she was once afraid of she's not afraid to | 她不怕申请她曾经害怕的工作 |
| 41 | speak up in meetings she's not afraid to put herself out there she's not afraid to act like | 开个会 她不怕把自己弄出来 她不怕表现得像 |
| 42 | she belongs she goes from working in a basement to speaking on a huge stage for this big launch but | 她从在地下室工作到大舞台演讲 |
| 43 | besides that she's suddenly the life of the party suddenly everyone loves her she makes friends | 除了她突然成为派对的主人 突然大家都爱她 她交了朋友 |
| 44 | easily she gets invited to things she stands out in a way that she didn't before she gets a boyfriend | 她很容易被邀请去参加她最突出的事 在她交男朋友之前没有 |
| 45 | who really loves and cares about her and the stereotypical hot guy in the movie starts to | 谁真正爱和关心她 和定型热男 在电影开始 |
| 46 | become attracted to her and wants to get with her her life does a complete 180 not because she | 被她吸引 想要和她的生活在一起 总共180年 不是因为她 |
| 47 | actually looks different but because she feels different she truly thinks she's hot and so she | 其实看起来不一样 但因为她感觉不同 她真的觉得自己很性感 所以她 |
| 48 | shows up that way hey great dress aren't girls like us so lucky that we can shop like anywhere | 那样出现,嘿,伟大的裙子 不是女孩喜欢我们 如此幸运,我们可以在任何地方购物 |
| 49 | and still look fly as hell and it's such an interesting movie because you can see the little | 仍然看着苍蝇像地狱 它是如此有趣的电影 因为你可以看到小 |
| 50 | body language shifts that happen as she has this little transformation and as she bumps her head | 身体语言的转变,因为她有这个小转变, 当她撞到头 |
| 51 | and sees herself differently all of a sudden she starts walking differently her shoulders are back | 突然间她开始走得不一样 她的肩膀又回来了 |
| 52 | she's not afraid to talk to people when people look at her she assumes it's because she's pretty | 她不怕和别人说话 当人们看着她时 她认为是因为她漂亮 |
| 53 | or people want to be her friend not because they think she's ugly her entire self-perception changed | 或者人们想成为她的朋友 并不是因为他们认为她很丑陋 她的整个自我观念都改变了 |
| 54 | which changed her entire life and the way people saw her it's honestly the perfect movie if you want | 这改变了她的一生 人们看她的方式 说实话,这是完美的电影 如果你想 |
| 55 | like a lazy chill day or you're having a sick day it's a good watch when i was younger like way | 就像懒惰寒冷的一天,或者你生病了一天, 这是一个很好的表 当我年轻的时候喜欢的方式 |
| 56 | younger i used to feel like everyone was prettier than me better than me i felt like all those girls | 年轻时我感觉每个人都比我漂亮 比我更喜欢那些女孩 |
| 57 | were over here and i was over here it wasn't even insecurity it was just i felt like i was so | 我在这里,我在这里, 它甚至不是不安全 只是我觉得我是如此 |
| 58 | separate from them and because of that i showed up differently i unconsciously believed that these | 和他们分开... ... ...... |
| 59 | deserved more attention and deserved more than what i did and that started getting better as | 值得更多关注 值得更多 比我做了什么 开始变得更好 |
| 60 | i got older but i'm gonna be honest one of the main things that shifted things for me | 我变老了,但我要老实说 改变事情的主要之一 |
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| 62 | that he spoke to me and the way that he saw me and the way that he truly believed that i was beautiful | 他对我说话的方式 他看我的方式 他真正相信 我美丽 |
| 63 | started opening up my mind to a different self-perception because he talked me up and | 开始打开我的思想 不同的自我认知 因为他劝我 |
| 64 | he was being truthful eventually my identity started shifting and because my identity started | 他说实话,最终我的身份开始改变, 因为我的身份开始 |
| 65 | shifting my reality started shifting to reflect that when you embody an identity others start | 改变我的现实 开始改变,以反映 当你体现一个身份 别人开始 |
| 66 | to reflect it back to you it's sort of the nature of the universe the universe reflects back to you | 为了反射它回到你身上 这是宇宙的性质 宇宙反射回你 |
| 67 | what you believe one thing that i was always insecure about when i was younger is my jawline | 你相信一件我年轻时一直不安全的事 就是我的下巴 |
| 68 | because it's a little bit wider and more i guess you would say stereotypically masculine and i just | 因为它有点宽 更多的 我想你会说 陈规定型男性 我只是 |
| 69 | never really liked it but this is just genetics just everyone on my dad's side of the family we | 从来没有真正喜欢它,但这只是遗传 只是每个人在我爸爸的 家庭方面,我们 |
| 70 | all have this face i was always self-conscious about it a little bit but i decided to change | 我总是有点自觉 但我决定改变 |
| 71 | my perception my self-perception of my own beauty in the way that i looked so instead of seeing my | 我对自己的美感的自我认识 以我看起来如此 而不是看到我 |
| 72 | jawline as a flaw or something that i didn't like about myself i decided that my jawline would be | 下颚作为缺陷或我不喜欢的东西 我决定我的下颚将是 |
| 73 | a unique defining characteristic this is what makes me unique and stand out and not in a cheesy | 独具特色的特质 使我独具一格 |
| 74 | way but truly this is what makes me unique whatever you think is your flaw you can reframe | 但其实这就是我的独特之处 无论你认为你的缺陷是什么 你都可以重新塑造 |
| 75 | that as your feature you do not have to be pretty by societal standards to be pretty you do not have | 作为你的特质,你不必漂亮 以社会标准 漂亮你没有 |
| 76 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}我想让你考虑一下是什么 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}我只想着 | |
| 77 | thing that maybe you've always been a little self-conscious of because it doesn't fit society's | 可能你一直有点自觉 因为它不符合社会 |
| 78 | beauty standards right now and what if you flipped it on its head what if that thing is no longer a | 美容标准现在,如果你把它翻到头上, 如果那个东西不再是... |
| 79 | feature maybe you have a gap tooth maybe you have a lot of freckles on your face maybe you have a | 或许你脸上有很多雀斑... |
| 80 | bold roman nose okay i want you to think about something having a gap between your two front | 大胆的罗马鼻子 好,我想你想想 东西有缺口 你的两个前锋 |
| 81 | teeth did not fit the beauty standard many years ago but then what happened then all of a sudden | 牙齿不符合美容标准很多年前 但后来发生了什么 突然 |
| 82 | a bunch of models started popping up with these gaps within their front teeth and all of a sudden | 一群模特儿在前牙里 突然冒出这些缺口 |
| 83 | it stopped being ugly and it became a defining feature it became something that made them stand | 它不再丑陋,它成为一个决定性的特征 它成为一件让他们站立起来的东西 |
| 84 | freckles weren't initially the typical beauty standard but now there are people who are drawing | 雀斑最初不是典型的美观标准 但现在有人在画画 |
| 85 | freckles on their face with makeup even less and less people are getting rhinoplasties now because | 脸上的雀斑 化妆更少 越来越少的人 得到犀角的现在,因为 |
| 86 | beauty standards evolve and they change or for example if you have a mole on your face | 美容标准会改变 比如你脸上有内鬼 |
| 87 | what was once seen as a blemish and not something that you know ideally fit the beauty standard | 曾经被人看成是污点 而不是你最了解的 适合美容标准的东西 |
| 88 | Marilyn Monroe Cindy Crawford and Madonna all had moles on their face but it became a part of their | 玛丽莲·门罗·辛迪·克劳福德和麦当娜的脸上都有内鬼 但却成了他们的一部分 |
| 89 | sex appeal what was once seen as a blemish and something that they wouldn't want on their face | 性吸引力 曾经被视为污点的东西 和他们不想在脸上看到的东西 |
| 90 | became a trademark do you see what i mean the rules are being made up as we go in the 90s it | 你明白我的意思吗 90年代的规则正在被修改 |
| 91 | was all about super thin plucked eyebrows and then Cara Delevingne comes on the scene with her big | 全是超薄的眉毛 然后卡拉·德莱文恩带着她的大块头来到现场 |
| 92 | bushy eyebrows and all of a sudden that's what everybody wants in the 1950s having thin lips was | 毛茸茸的眉毛 突然间 每个人在20世纪50年代都希望 嘴唇瘦小 |
| 93 | the epitome of elegance and chic and thicker lips more plump lips were seen as un-feminine | 优雅的史诗 更厚厚的嘴唇 更丰厚的嘴唇 被视为不女性 |
| 94 | and now we are pumping ourselves with filler and over lining our lips to make them look bigger and | 而现在我们正用填充剂 压在嘴唇上 让他们看起来更大 |
| 95 | super sussful super model she had crooked teeth and a very very thin frame which actually didn't | 超级悬念的超级模特 她的牙齿弯曲 和非常薄的框 实际上是没有 |
| 96 | align with the beauty standards at the time it was first seen as unconventional but instead of | 与当时的美容标准一致, |
| 97 | deeming it as ugly it became her feature a trademark even body types changed throughout | 觉得这很丑 变成了她的特色 连体型都变了 |
| 98 | the years there was the Kardashian era where everyone wanted to be really curvy and then | 那时卡戴珊时代 大家都想变弯曲 然后 |
| 99 | it goes back and forth the pendulum always swings barbara streisand in her nose she refused to get | 总是在她鼻子里挥舞着野蛮的手势 她拒绝得到 |
| 100 | a nose job and it became a part of her signature look so if there is something about you that | 鼻子工作 也成为她签名的一部分 所以如果你有什么 |
| 101 | doesn't fit the typical beauty standard what if it's not a flaw what if it's something that | 不符合典型的美观标准 如果它不是缺陷 如果它是什么 |
| 102 | makes you unique what if it's something that makes you stand out you can either label something as | 让你变得独一无二 如果这是让你出名的东西 你要么标上什么 |
| 103 | wrong or you can decide this is the thing that makes me irresistible this is the thing that | 错了,或者你可以决定 这件事让我无法抗拒 |
| 104 | makes me unique this is the thing that makes me interesting and that decision alone shifts | 让我独具一格 这件事让我有趣 独自决定改变 |
| 105 | your entire energy so step one identify the one feature that you've always been self-conscious | 你的全部能量 第一步 确定你一直自觉的特征 |
| 106 | about and two ask what if this is the thing that actually makes me unique memorable and magnetic | 和两个问,如果这是 真正让我独特的难忘和磁性的东西 |
| 107 | beauty standards are moving targets and what was once ugly can become a defining feature of an era | 美容标准在移动目标 曾经丑陋的东西会成为时代的特征 |
| 108 | so your job is to decide ahead of time that your flaw is not a flaw it's a feature and that feature | 所以,你的工作是提前决定 你的缺陷不是一个缺陷 这是一个特征和特征 |
| 109 | is an asset and if you carry it like it's your signature society will catch up people will start | 如果你拿着它 就像你的签名会追上人 |
| 110 | to reflect that back to you so let's talk about the science behind this so we have something in | 我们来谈谈背后的科学 |
| 111 | called mirror neurons so mirror neurons are cells in our brain that fire off when we do something | 叫做镜像神经元 所以镜像神经元就是我们大脑中的细胞 当我们做一些事情时会发火 |
| 112 | or when we see someone else do something that's why when you see someone yawn it makes you want | 或者当我们看到别人 做一些事情,这就是为什么 当你看到某人打哈欠 它让你想要 |
| 113 | to yawn or when you see someone trip and fall it makes you cringe or if someone is visibly anxious | 或者当你看到有人绊倒时 它会让你痛哭 或者有人明显焦虑 |
| 114 | it makes your mirror neurons fire in a way that makes you feel uneasy and if you flip that and | 它让你的镜像神经元发火的方式 让你感到不安 如果你翻转它, |
| 115 | someone is so joyful and positive it makes you feel better it makes you feel lighter your brain | 一个人是如此快乐和积极 它让你感觉更好 它让你觉得你的大脑更轻 |
| 116 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}会反映那种状态 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}几乎开始感觉自己是人类的感觉 | |
| 117 | are wired to unconsciously copy and catch each other's emotional states so when you care yourself | 所以当你关心自己时 |
| 118 | with a lot of insecurity when you're avoiding eye contact when you're shrinking yourself when | 和很多不安全 当你在缩小自己时 避免眼睛接触 |
| 119 | you're making all these nervous gestures people start to feel a little bit uneasy around you | 你做这些紧张的姿态 人们开始感觉有点不安 |
| 120 | people's neurons pick up on that unease and feel uncomfortable even if they don't know why but when | 人们的神经元 开始不安 觉得不舒服 即使他们不知道为什么 但何时 |
| 121 | you embody confidence when you have open body language when you have warmth on your face when | 当你有开放的肢体语言 当你的脸上有温暖的时候,你就会表现出自信 |
| 122 | you're relaxed and comfortable others feel that too others feel that calm confidence and that | 你放松和舒适 别人觉得太 别人觉得 平静的信心和 |
| 123 | magnetism from you and they mirror it back to you they treat you as if you are magnetic imagine two | 从你身上得到的磁性, 他们将它反射给你 他们把你当成磁性想象中的两个 |
| 124 | different women walk into a room okay woman a thinks i hope nobody notices me i look bad today | 不同的女人走进一个房间 好女人... ...一个想法... ...我希望没有人注意到我... |
| 125 | she hunches she keeps her eyes down she kind of like moves to the corner of the room people glance | 她直觉着她把眼睛往下看 她喜欢移动到房间的角落里 |
| 126 | at her and because of mirror neurons sense that she's uncomfortable so they don't engage and what | 在她身上,由于镜子神经元 感觉她不舒服,所以他们不接触 什么 |
| 127 | this further reinforces her belief nobody notices me i'm not pretty nobody likes me but woman b | 这进一步强化了她的信念 没有人会注意到我... ...我不漂亮... |
| 128 | walks into the room and thinks i'm magnetic i'm attractive she walks slower her shoulders are | 她走得比较慢 她的肩膀很强 |
| 129 | pulled back she makes eye contact with people she smiles people's mirror neurons reflect her ease so | 向后拉,她与人的眼睛接触 她微笑人们的镜子神经元 反映她的轻松,所以 |
| 130 | they smile back they approach her they treat her as if she's attractive so here's the loop how you | 他们回头微笑 他们接近她 他们视她为有魅力 所以这里的循环 你如何 |
| 131 | feel shapes how you show up and how you behave and then that gets mirrored and reflects how the other | 感觉你如何出现 如何表现 然后被反射 并反映另一个 |
| 132 | person acts and then that reinforces either the positive self image you have of yourself or the | 人的行为,然后加强 你对自己的积极自我形象或 |
| 133 | negative self image you have of yourself there's also something in our brain called the reticular | 负面的自我形象,你拥有自己 在我们的大脑里 也有一些东西,叫做静脉 |
| 134 | activating system or raz for short and this is huge for manifesting okay so your raz is a bundle | 启动系统或拉兹短时间,这对显示来说是巨大的 所以,你的拉兹是一个捆绑 |
| 135 | of nerves in your brain that kind of acts like a filter to the world there are millions of stimuli | 神经在你的大脑 那种行为 像过滤到世界 有数百万刺激 |
| 136 | going on around you at the moment and you can't possibly take all of that in so your raz decides | 在你身边,你不可能把这些都拿走 所以你的愤怒决定 |
| 137 | what to filter in into your consciousness into your awareness and what to filter out what to | 将什么过滤到意识中 将什么过滤到意识中 |
| 138 | ignore it's why when you start thinking about buying a white bmw you start seeing white bmw's | 忽略了为什么当你开始考虑买一个白色的 bmw 你开始看到白色 bmw's |
| 139 | everywhere not because all of a sudden they took over the streets they were always there but your | 到处不是因为突然他们占领了街道 他们总是在那里,但是你 |
| 140 | raz is now tuned into them because where attention goes energy flows your attention literally | raz现在被引向它们 因为注意力的流向 能量的流向 |
| 141 | changes your perception of reality so if you believe i'm ugly your raz filters for every | 改变你对现实的看法,所以如果你认为我丑陋... ... |
| 142 | situation that supports that you remember the one guy who didn't text you back the awkward glance | 支持你记得那个没给你发短信的人 |
| 143 | with that one person the person who didn't compliment you and all of that becomes proof but | 一个人谁不恭维你 这一切成为证据 |
| 144 | if you believe i'm hot your raz filters differently it highlights different evidence you notice the | 如果你认为我热 你的激光过滤器不同 它突出了不同的证据 你注意到 |
| 145 | barista smiling longer at you the friend telling you you look great today or the way people lean | 女律师对你笑得更久 朋友告诉你,你今天看起来很棒 或者人瘦的 |
| 146 | in when you talk to them your brain starts to string all these moments together to reinforce | 当你和他们交谈时 你的大脑开始把所有这些时刻串在一起 |
| 147 | so let's go through another example two women who look exactly identical woman a thinks her freckles | 所以让我们再举个例子 两个看起来完全一样的女人 认为她的雀斑 |
| 148 | make her really unattractive her raz filters for times when people don't flirt with her and ignores | 当人们不挑逗她而忽略的时候, 就会让她失去吸引力 |
| 149 | compliments she sees herself as not hot further reinforcing that belief but woman b she thinks | 赞美她自己,她认为自己并不热衷于进一步强化这种信念,但她认为女人b |
| 150 | her freckles make her unique make her attractive her freckles are her signature look she decided | 她的雀斑让她独一无二 让她吸引人 她的雀斑是她的签名 她决定 |
| 151 | so her raz filters for all the times people told her she looked beautiful and that she was cute | 所以人们总是告诉她 她看起来很漂亮 她很可爱 |
| 152 | and that she's unique over time she builds an identity around being striking hot isn't about | 而她的独特性 随着时间的推移,她建立 身份围绕惊人的热 |
| 153 | flawlessness it's about self-perception and once you realize how much of your reality is shaped by | 完美无缺是关于自我认知 一旦你意识到自己的现实 是由 |
| 154 | what you believe you realize how much influence and power you have over your life so here's the | 你相信什么,你意识到 你有多大的影响力和力量 你的生活,所以这里是 |
| 155 | thing beauty standards are always going to exist i'm not denying that but if you make your definition | 美容标准永远存在 我并不否认 但是如果你做出你的定义 |
| 156 | being hot about hitting whatever the current standard is whether it's a little nose or big | 喜欢打什么 当前的标准是 它是一个小鼻子还是大 |
| 157 | lips or having a certain body type you are setting yourself up for failure and you are setting | 嘴唇或者有某种身体类型... ... ...... |
| 158 | yourself up to feel like you are not enough and when you feel like a failure and when you feel | 感觉自己还不够 感觉自己失败了 |
| 159 | like you're not enough you will start showing up that way and when you start showing up that way | 就像你不够,你会开始 那样出现,当你开始 那样出现 |
| 160 | people will start treating you that way what happens if your genetics don't line up with that | 人们会开始这样对待你 如果你的遗传学不顺从 |
| 161 | standard or maybe they do right now but in 10 years it completely changes you'll always be | 标准或也许他们现在这样做, 但是在十年内,它会彻底改变你永远是 |
| 162 | something that keeps moving maybe there's something about you that doesn't fit the beauty | 有些东西会不停地移动 或许你有些东西不符合美貌 |
| 163 | standard but that thing not fitting the beauty standard that means it's ugly that's a belief | 标准,但是那东西不符合 美容标准, 这意味着它是丑陋是一个信念 |
| 164 | that's a choice that's a decision that you made but here's the truth when you stop trying to fit | 这是你的决定,但当你停止尝试适应时,这是事实 |
| 165 | yourself into this narrow box you actually make space to see what makes you unique and that's the | 进入这个狭小的盒子里 你真正创造出空间 来了解是什么让你独一无二 那就是 |
| 166 | funny thing what you think makes you different or ugly is actually probably the very thing that | 有趣的是,你认为你 让你不同或丑陋 实际上可能是 |
| 167 | makes you unforgettable think about it if you look like everyone else you blend in that doesn't make | 让你难忘的思考 如果你看起来像其他人 你混进去了,这不会使 |
| 168 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}你又热又难忘 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}你就像其他人一样 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}如果你停下来 | |
| 169 | trying to be like everyone else and started owning the things that make you different | 试着和别人一样 开始拥有让你不同的东西 |
| 170 | why not what do you have to lose wouldn't you rather go about life feeling hot and once you | 为什么不失去什么 你宁愿去 生活感觉热,一旦你 |
| 171 | do this you will see reality will start to shift being hot is 90 energy 10 face but the problem is | 做这个,你会看到现实将开始转变 热是90能量10面,但问题是 |
| 172 | is that most of you spend 100 of your time stressing about the 10 why could Marilyn Monroe be | 你们大部分时间都花在 10 点上 为什么玛丽莲·门罗是 |
| 173 | in public and nobody noticed her and then all of a sudden she'd turn on her energy and everyone | 在公共场合没有人注意到她 然后突然她就把精力和每个人 |
| 174 | would come flocking to her everyone would see her as this most beautiful creature it's because | 人们会把她看成最美的生物 |
| 175 | hotness is 90 energy and people will mirror back to you the universe will mirror back to you | 热度是90 能量,人们会反射给你 宇宙会反射给你 |
| 176 | whatever you put out so i hope this is the wake-up call you needed you're not ugly you just decided | 无论你说什么,我希望这是你需要的警醒电话 并不是你刚决定的丑陋 |
| 177 | you are and that decision can change i hope you enjoyed this video i hope you got value from this | 希望你们喜欢这段视频 希望你能从这段视频中获得价值 |
| 178 | and i will see you next time in the next one bye | 下次再见 |
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| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
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| 0:00 | As I get older the more and more I realize that being hot is a mindset and I know how ridiculous | 随着我变老,我越来越意识到 热是种心态 我知道有多荒谬 |
| 0:05 | that might sound but you have way more control over how attractive you are and how attractive | 可能听起来不错 但你更能控制自己有多有吸引力 |
| 0:10 | people see you than you think. | 人们看到你比你想象的。 |
| 0:12 | Reality is a mirror and I'm going to tell you exactly what I mean. | 现实是一面镜子 我要告诉你我到底是什么意思 |
| 0:15 | Hey friend welcome back if you're new here my name's Jill and I help women step into their | 嘿,朋友,欢迎回来 如果你是新来的,我叫吉尔,我帮助女人走进他们的 |
| 0:19 | power tap into their divine feminine and become their best self live their best life so if that's | 力量可以进入她们神圣的女神 成为她们最好的自我 过着最好的生活 |
| 0:24 | something you want to do you should subscribe and stick around. | 你想做的事,你应该订阅 并留下来。 |
| 0:27 | So beauty standards are a very real | 所以美容标准很真实 |
| 0:29 | thing and I'm not debating that but here's what I want you to notice. | 事情,我不辩论 但这里我要你注意。 |
| 0:32 | Beauty standards are different | 美容标准不同 |
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| 1 | As I get older the more and more I realize that being hot is a mindset and I know how ridiculous | 随着我变老,我越来越意识到 热是种心态 我知道有多荒谬 |
| 2 | that might sound but you have way more control over how attractive you are and how attractive | 可能听起来不错 但你更能控制自己有多有吸引力 |
| 3 | people see you than you think. | 人们看到你比你想象的。 |
| 4 | Reality is a mirror and I'm going to tell you exactly what I mean. | 现实是一面镜子 我要告诉你我到底是什么意思 |
| 5 | Hey friend welcome back if you're new here my name's Jill and I help women step into their | 嘿,朋友,欢迎回来 如果你是新来的,我叫吉尔,我帮助女人走进他们的 |
| 6 | power tap into their divine feminine and become their best self live their best life so if that's | 力量可以进入她们神圣的女神 成为她们最好的自我 过着最好的生活 |
| 7 | something you want to do you should subscribe and stick around. | 你想做的事,你应该订阅 并留下来。 |
| 8 | So beauty standards are a very real | 所以美容标准很真实 |
| 9 | thing and I'm not debating that but here's what I want you to notice. | 事情,我不辩论 但这里我要你注意。 |
| 10 | Beauty standards are different | 美容标准不同 |
| 11 | from culture to culture and beauty standards change throughout different decades and different | 从文化到文化和美貌标准在不同几十年和不同时期发生变化 |
| 12 | generations. | 几代人,他们都死了 |
| 13 | So what does that really mean about beauty? | 那对美意味着什么? |
| 14 | It means that the way we view beauty | 就是说我们看美的方式 |
| 15 | is not set in stone and if it's not set in stone that means that you have the power to influence | 如果不是石块 意味着你有权影响 |
| 16 | that. | 那个 |
| 17 | There's this whole aspect of being hot that has nothing to do with your appearance | 和你的外表毫无关系 |
| 18 | but everything to do with your self-perception. | 但与你的自我认知有关 |
| 19 | So there's this movie with Amy Schumer it's called | 和艾米·舒默一起拍的电影叫做 |
| 20 | I Feel Pretty and it's a great little happy feel-good movie and there's going to be some | 我觉得漂亮,这是一部快乐的好电影 将会有一些 |
| 21 | spoilers in here but this is important to the lesson. | 破坏者在这里,但这对教训很重要。 |
| 22 | So in the beginning of the movie Amy Schumer's | 所以在电影《艾米·舒默》的开头 |
| 23 | character has very low self-esteem she's very insecure she does not like the way that she looks | 性格的自尊心非常低 她很不安全 她不喜欢她的样子 |
| 24 | she lacks all confidence and you can see this in the way that she goes about her life. | 她缺乏所有的信心 你可以从她的生活中看到这一点 |
| 25 | You can tell | 你看得出来 |
| 26 | by the way that she's walking through New York City you can tell by the way she talks to people | 她走在纽约市的路上 你可以从她对人说话的方式看出来 |
| 27 | and how she shows up. | 和她的出现。 |
| 28 | Her body language is all hunched and meek and honestly she just acts super | 她的身体语言都是直觉和柔和 老实说 她只是表现的超级 |
| 29 | insecure. | 没有安全感。 |
| 30 | I don't even see a point in applying I have no shot. | 我甚至看不出有什么意义 应用我没有机会。 |
| 31 | But then one day she falls she | 但有一天,她坠落 |
| 32 | hits her head really hard and when she gets up and she looks in the mirror she believes that | 当她站起来,看着镜子 她相信 |
| 33 | she has become the most beautiful woman on the planet. | 她成为了地球上最美丽的女人 |
| 34 | Do I look super tall to you? | 你觉得我看起来超高吗? |
| 35 | Uh I don't know how to answer that. | 我不知道该怎么回答 |
| 36 | Now of course nothing has changed she looks exactly the same but | 现在当然没有什么改变 她看起来完全一样,但 |
| 37 | she thinks she's drop-dead gorgeous she thinks she has a beautiful face she thinks she has a | 她认为自己是 滴死华丽 她认为她有一个美丽的脸 她认为她有一个 |
| 38 | beautiful body and what happens after that is that her life completely changes. | 美丽的身体 之后发生的事情是 她的生活完全改变。 |
| 39 | Her career | 她的事业 |
| 40 | skyrockets she's not afraid to apply for the jobs that she was once afraid of she's not afraid to | 她不怕申请她曾经害怕的工作 |
| 41 | speak up in meetings she's not afraid to put herself out there she's not afraid to act like | 开个会 她不怕把自己弄出来 她不怕表现得像 |
| 42 | she belongs she goes from working in a basement to speaking on a huge stage for this big launch but | 她从在地下室工作到大舞台演讲 |
| 43 | besides that she's suddenly the life of the party suddenly everyone loves her she makes friends | 除了她突然成为派对的主人 突然大家都爱她 她交了朋友 |
| 44 | easily she gets invited to things she stands out in a way that she didn't before she gets a boyfriend | 她很容易被邀请去参加她最突出的事 在她交男朋友之前没有 |
| 45 | who really loves and cares about her and the stereotypical hot guy in the movie starts to | 谁真正爱和关心她 和定型热男 在电影开始 |
| 46 | become attracted to her and wants to get with her her life does a complete 180 not because she | 被她吸引 想要和她的生活在一起 总共180年 不是因为她 |
| 47 | actually looks different but because she feels different she truly thinks she's hot and so she | 其实看起来不一样 但因为她感觉不同 她真的觉得自己很性感 所以她 |
| 48 | shows up that way hey great dress aren't girls like us so lucky that we can shop like anywhere | 那样出现,嘿,伟大的裙子 不是女孩喜欢我们 如此幸运,我们可以在任何地方购物 |
| 49 | and still look fly as hell and it's such an interesting movie because you can see the little | 仍然看着苍蝇像地狱 它是如此有趣的电影 因为你可以看到小 |
| 50 | body language shifts that happen as she has this little transformation and as she bumps her head | 身体语言的转变,因为她有这个小转变, 当她撞到头 |
| 51 | and sees herself differently all of a sudden she starts walking differently her shoulders are back | 突然间她开始走得不一样 她的肩膀又回来了 |
| 52 | she's not afraid to talk to people when people look at her she assumes it's because she's pretty | 她不怕和别人说话 当人们看着她时 她认为是因为她漂亮 |
| 53 | or people want to be her friend not because they think she's ugly her entire self-perception changed | 或者人们想成为她的朋友 并不是因为他们认为她很丑陋 她的整个自我观念都改变了 |
| 54 | which changed her entire life and the way people saw her it's honestly the perfect movie if you want | 这改变了她的一生 人们看她的方式 说实话,这是完美的电影 如果你想 |
| 55 | like a lazy chill day or you're having a sick day it's a good watch when i was younger like way | 就像懒惰寒冷的一天,或者你生病了一天, 这是一个很好的表 当我年轻的时候喜欢的方式 |
| 56 | younger i used to feel like everyone was prettier than me better than me i felt like all those girls | 年轻时我感觉每个人都比我漂亮 比我更喜欢那些女孩 |
| 57 | were over here and i was over here it wasn't even insecurity it was just i felt like i was so | 我在这里,我在这里, 它甚至不是不安全 只是我觉得我是如此 |
| 58 | separate from them and because of that i showed up differently i unconsciously believed that these | 和他们分开... ... ...... |
| 59 | deserved more attention and deserved more than what i did and that started getting better as | 值得更多关注 值得更多 比我做了什么 开始变得更好 |
| 60 | i got older but i'm gonna be honest one of the main things that shifted things for me | 我变老了,但我要老实说 改变事情的主要之一 |
| 61 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}我认识我丈夫 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}我年轻的时候认识他 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}我17岁的时候开始约会 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord | |
| 62 | that he spoke to me and the way that he saw me and the way that he truly believed that i was beautiful | 他对我说话的方式 他看我的方式 他真正相信 我美丽 |
| 63 | started opening up my mind to a different self-perception because he talked me up and | 开始打开我的思想 不同的自我认知 因为他劝我 |
| 64 | he was being truthful eventually my identity started shifting and because my identity started | 他说实话,最终我的身份开始改变, 因为我的身份开始 |
| 65 | shifting my reality started shifting to reflect that when you embody an identity others start | 改变我的现实 开始改变,以反映 当你体现一个身份 别人开始 |
| 66 | to reflect it back to you it's sort of the nature of the universe the universe reflects back to you | 为了反射它回到你身上 这是宇宙的性质 宇宙反射回你 |
| 67 | what you believe one thing that i was always insecure about when i was younger is my jawline | 你相信一件我年轻时一直不安全的事 就是我的下巴 |
| 68 | because it's a little bit wider and more i guess you would say stereotypically masculine and i just | 因为它有点宽 更多的 我想你会说 陈规定型男性 我只是 |
| 69 | never really liked it but this is just genetics just everyone on my dad's side of the family we | 从来没有真正喜欢它,但这只是遗传 只是每个人在我爸爸的 家庭方面,我们 |
| 70 | all have this face i was always self-conscious about it a little bit but i decided to change | 我总是有点自觉 但我决定改变 |
| 71 | my perception my self-perception of my own beauty in the way that i looked so instead of seeing my | 我对自己的美感的自我认识 以我看起来如此 而不是看到我 |
| 72 | jawline as a flaw or something that i didn't like about myself i decided that my jawline would be | 下颚作为缺陷或我不喜欢的东西 我决定我的下颚将是 |
| 73 | a unique defining characteristic this is what makes me unique and stand out and not in a cheesy | 独具特色的特质 使我独具一格 |
| 74 | way but truly this is what makes me unique whatever you think is your flaw you can reframe | 但其实这就是我的独特之处 无论你认为你的缺陷是什么 你都可以重新塑造 |
| 75 | that as your feature you do not have to be pretty by societal standards to be pretty you do not have | 作为你的特质,你不必漂亮 以社会标准 漂亮你没有 |
| 76 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}我想让你考虑一下是什么 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}我只想着 | |
| 77 | thing that maybe you've always been a little self-conscious of because it doesn't fit society's | 可能你一直有点自觉 因为它不符合社会 |
| 78 | beauty standards right now and what if you flipped it on its head what if that thing is no longer a | 美容标准现在,如果你把它翻到头上, 如果那个东西不再是... |
| 79 | feature maybe you have a gap tooth maybe you have a lot of freckles on your face maybe you have a | 或许你脸上有很多雀斑... |
| 80 | bold roman nose okay i want you to think about something having a gap between your two front | 大胆的罗马鼻子 好,我想你想想 东西有缺口 你的两个前锋 |
| 81 | teeth did not fit the beauty standard many years ago but then what happened then all of a sudden | 牙齿不符合美容标准很多年前 但后来发生了什么 突然 |
| 82 | a bunch of models started popping up with these gaps within their front teeth and all of a sudden | 一群模特儿在前牙里 突然冒出这些缺口 |
| 83 | it stopped being ugly and it became a defining feature it became something that made them stand | 它不再丑陋,它成为一个决定性的特征 它成为一件让他们站立起来的东西 |
| 84 | freckles weren't initially the typical beauty standard but now there are people who are drawing | 雀斑最初不是典型的美观标准 但现在有人在画画 |
| 85 | freckles on their face with makeup even less and less people are getting rhinoplasties now because | 脸上的雀斑 化妆更少 越来越少的人 得到犀角的现在,因为 |
| 86 | beauty standards evolve and they change or for example if you have a mole on your face | 美容标准会改变 比如你脸上有内鬼 |
| 87 | what was once seen as a blemish and not something that you know ideally fit the beauty standard | 曾经被人看成是污点 而不是你最了解的 适合美容标准的东西 |
| 88 | Marilyn Monroe Cindy Crawford and Madonna all had moles on their face but it became a part of their | 玛丽莲·门罗·辛迪·克劳福德和麦当娜的脸上都有内鬼 但却成了他们的一部分 |
| 89 | sex appeal what was once seen as a blemish and something that they wouldn't want on their face | 性吸引力 曾经被视为污点的东西 和他们不想在脸上看到的东西 |
| 90 | became a trademark do you see what i mean the rules are being made up as we go in the 90s it | 你明白我的意思吗 90年代的规则正在被修改 |
| 91 | was all about super thin plucked eyebrows and then Cara Delevingne comes on the scene with her big | 全是超薄的眉毛 然后卡拉·德莱文恩带着她的大块头来到现场 |
| 92 | bushy eyebrows and all of a sudden that's what everybody wants in the 1950s having thin lips was | 毛茸茸的眉毛 突然间 每个人在20世纪50年代都希望 嘴唇瘦小 |
| 93 | the epitome of elegance and chic and thicker lips more plump lips were seen as un-feminine | 优雅的史诗 更厚厚的嘴唇 更丰厚的嘴唇 被视为不女性 |
| 94 | and now we are pumping ourselves with filler and over lining our lips to make them look bigger and | 而现在我们正用填充剂 压在嘴唇上 让他们看起来更大 |
| 95 | super sussful super model she had crooked teeth and a very very thin frame which actually didn't | 超级悬念的超级模特 她的牙齿弯曲 和非常薄的框 实际上是没有 |
| 96 | align with the beauty standards at the time it was first seen as unconventional but instead of | 与当时的美容标准一致, |
| 97 | deeming it as ugly it became her feature a trademark even body types changed throughout | 觉得这很丑 变成了她的特色 连体型都变了 |
| 98 | the years there was the Kardashian era where everyone wanted to be really curvy and then | 那时卡戴珊时代 大家都想变弯曲 然后 |
| 99 | it goes back and forth the pendulum always swings barbara streisand in her nose she refused to get | 总是在她鼻子里挥舞着野蛮的手势 她拒绝得到 |
| 100 | a nose job and it became a part of her signature look so if there is something about you that | 鼻子工作 也成为她签名的一部分 所以如果你有什么 |
| 101 | doesn't fit the typical beauty standard what if it's not a flaw what if it's something that | 不符合典型的美观标准 如果它不是缺陷 如果它是什么 |
| 102 | makes you unique what if it's something that makes you stand out you can either label something as | 让你变得独一无二 如果这是让你出名的东西 你要么标上什么 |
| 103 | wrong or you can decide this is the thing that makes me irresistible this is the thing that | 错了,或者你可以决定 这件事让我无法抗拒 |
| 104 | makes me unique this is the thing that makes me interesting and that decision alone shifts | 让我独具一格 这件事让我有趣 独自决定改变 |
| 105 | your entire energy so step one identify the one feature that you've always been self-conscious | 你的全部能量 第一步 确定你一直自觉的特征 |
| 106 | about and two ask what if this is the thing that actually makes me unique memorable and magnetic | 和两个问,如果这是 真正让我独特的难忘和磁性的东西 |
| 107 | beauty standards are moving targets and what was once ugly can become a defining feature of an era | 美容标准在移动目标 曾经丑陋的东西会成为时代的特征 |
| 108 | so your job is to decide ahead of time that your flaw is not a flaw it's a feature and that feature | 所以,你的工作是提前决定 你的缺陷不是一个缺陷 这是一个特征和特征 |
| 109 | is an asset and if you carry it like it's your signature society will catch up people will start | 如果你拿着它 就像你的签名会追上人 |
| 110 | to reflect that back to you so let's talk about the science behind this so we have something in | 我们来谈谈背后的科学 |
| 111 | called mirror neurons so mirror neurons are cells in our brain that fire off when we do something | 叫做镜像神经元 所以镜像神经元就是我们大脑中的细胞 当我们做一些事情时会发火 |
| 112 | or when we see someone else do something that's why when you see someone yawn it makes you want | 或者当我们看到别人 做一些事情,这就是为什么 当你看到某人打哈欠 它让你想要 |
| 113 | to yawn or when you see someone trip and fall it makes you cringe or if someone is visibly anxious | 或者当你看到有人绊倒时 它会让你痛哭 或者有人明显焦虑 |
| 114 | it makes your mirror neurons fire in a way that makes you feel uneasy and if you flip that and | 它让你的镜像神经元发火的方式 让你感到不安 如果你翻转它, |
| 115 | someone is so joyful and positive it makes you feel better it makes you feel lighter your brain | 一个人是如此快乐和积极 它让你感觉更好 它让你觉得你的大脑更轻 |
| 116 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}会反映那种状态 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}几乎开始感觉自己是人类的感觉 | |
| 117 | are wired to unconsciously copy and catch each other's emotional states so when you care yourself | 所以当你关心自己时 |
| 118 | with a lot of insecurity when you're avoiding eye contact when you're shrinking yourself when | 和很多不安全 当你在缩小自己时 避免眼睛接触 |
| 119 | you're making all these nervous gestures people start to feel a little bit uneasy around you | 你做这些紧张的姿态 人们开始感觉有点不安 |
| 120 | people's neurons pick up on that unease and feel uncomfortable even if they don't know why but when | 人们的神经元 开始不安 觉得不舒服 即使他们不知道为什么 但何时 |
| 121 | you embody confidence when you have open body language when you have warmth on your face when | 当你有开放的肢体语言 当你的脸上有温暖的时候,你就会表现出自信 |
| 122 | you're relaxed and comfortable others feel that too others feel that calm confidence and that | 你放松和舒适 别人觉得太 别人觉得 平静的信心和 |
| 123 | magnetism from you and they mirror it back to you they treat you as if you are magnetic imagine two | 从你身上得到的磁性, 他们将它反射给你 他们把你当成磁性想象中的两个 |
| 124 | different women walk into a room okay woman a thinks i hope nobody notices me i look bad today | 不同的女人走进一个房间 好女人... ...一个想法... ...我希望没有人注意到我... |
| 125 | she hunches she keeps her eyes down she kind of like moves to the corner of the room people glance | 她直觉着她把眼睛往下看 她喜欢移动到房间的角落里 |
| 126 | at her and because of mirror neurons sense that she's uncomfortable so they don't engage and what | 在她身上,由于镜子神经元 感觉她不舒服,所以他们不接触 什么 |
| 127 | this further reinforces her belief nobody notices me i'm not pretty nobody likes me but woman b | 这进一步强化了她的信念 没有人会注意到我... ...我不漂亮... |
| 128 | walks into the room and thinks i'm magnetic i'm attractive she walks slower her shoulders are | 她走得比较慢 她的肩膀很强 |
| 129 | pulled back she makes eye contact with people she smiles people's mirror neurons reflect her ease so | 向后拉,她与人的眼睛接触 她微笑人们的镜子神经元 反映她的轻松,所以 |
| 130 | they smile back they approach her they treat her as if she's attractive so here's the loop how you | 他们回头微笑 他们接近她 他们视她为有魅力 所以这里的循环 你如何 |
| 131 | feel shapes how you show up and how you behave and then that gets mirrored and reflects how the other | 感觉你如何出现 如何表现 然后被反射 并反映另一个 |
| 132 | person acts and then that reinforces either the positive self image you have of yourself or the | 人的行为,然后加强 你对自己的积极自我形象或 |
| 133 | negative self image you have of yourself there's also something in our brain called the reticular | 负面的自我形象,你拥有自己 在我们的大脑里 也有一些东西,叫做静脉 |
| 134 | activating system or raz for short and this is huge for manifesting okay so your raz is a bundle | 启动系统或拉兹短时间,这对显示来说是巨大的 所以,你的拉兹是一个捆绑 |
| 135 | of nerves in your brain that kind of acts like a filter to the world there are millions of stimuli | 神经在你的大脑 那种行为 像过滤到世界 有数百万刺激 |
| 136 | going on around you at the moment and you can't possibly take all of that in so your raz decides | 在你身边,你不可能把这些都拿走 所以你的愤怒决定 |
| 137 | what to filter in into your consciousness into your awareness and what to filter out what to | 将什么过滤到意识中 将什么过滤到意识中 |
| 138 | ignore it's why when you start thinking about buying a white bmw you start seeing white bmw's | 忽略了为什么当你开始考虑买一个白色的 bmw 你开始看到白色 bmw's |
| 139 | everywhere not because all of a sudden they took over the streets they were always there but your | 到处不是因为突然他们占领了街道 他们总是在那里,但是你 |
| 140 | raz is now tuned into them because where attention goes energy flows your attention literally | raz现在被引向它们 因为注意力的流向 能量的流向 |
| 141 | changes your perception of reality so if you believe i'm ugly your raz filters for every | 改变你对现实的看法,所以如果你认为我丑陋... ... |
| 142 | situation that supports that you remember the one guy who didn't text you back the awkward glance | 支持你记得那个没给你发短信的人 |
| 143 | with that one person the person who didn't compliment you and all of that becomes proof but | 一个人谁不恭维你 这一切成为证据 |
| 144 | if you believe i'm hot your raz filters differently it highlights different evidence you notice the | 如果你认为我热 你的激光过滤器不同 它突出了不同的证据 你注意到 |
| 145 | barista smiling longer at you the friend telling you you look great today or the way people lean | 女律师对你笑得更久 朋友告诉你,你今天看起来很棒 或者人瘦的 |
| 146 | in when you talk to them your brain starts to string all these moments together to reinforce | 当你和他们交谈时 你的大脑开始把所有这些时刻串在一起 |
| 147 | so let's go through another example two women who look exactly identical woman a thinks her freckles | 所以让我们再举个例子 两个看起来完全一样的女人 认为她的雀斑 |
| 148 | make her really unattractive her raz filters for times when people don't flirt with her and ignores | 当人们不挑逗她而忽略的时候, 就会让她失去吸引力 |
| 149 | compliments she sees herself as not hot further reinforcing that belief but woman b she thinks | 赞美她自己,她认为自己并不热衷于进一步强化这种信念,但她认为女人b |
| 150 | her freckles make her unique make her attractive her freckles are her signature look she decided | 她的雀斑让她独一无二 让她吸引人 她的雀斑是她的签名 她决定 |
| 151 | so her raz filters for all the times people told her she looked beautiful and that she was cute | 所以人们总是告诉她 她看起来很漂亮 她很可爱 |
| 152 | and that she's unique over time she builds an identity around being striking hot isn't about | 而她的独特性 随着时间的推移,她建立 身份围绕惊人的热 |
| 153 | flawlessness it's about self-perception and once you realize how much of your reality is shaped by | 完美无缺是关于自我认知 一旦你意识到自己的现实 是由 |
| 154 | what you believe you realize how much influence and power you have over your life so here's the | 你相信什么,你意识到 你有多大的影响力和力量 你的生活,所以这里是 |
| 155 | thing beauty standards are always going to exist i'm not denying that but if you make your definition | 美容标准永远存在 我并不否认 但是如果你做出你的定义 |
| 156 | being hot about hitting whatever the current standard is whether it's a little nose or big | 喜欢打什么 当前的标准是 它是一个小鼻子还是大 |
| 157 | lips or having a certain body type you are setting yourself up for failure and you are setting | 嘴唇或者有某种身体类型... ... ...... |
| 158 | yourself up to feel like you are not enough and when you feel like a failure and when you feel | 感觉自己还不够 感觉自己失败了 |
| 159 | like you're not enough you will start showing up that way and when you start showing up that way | 就像你不够,你会开始 那样出现,当你开始 那样出现 |
| 160 | people will start treating you that way what happens if your genetics don't line up with that | 人们会开始这样对待你 如果你的遗传学不顺从 |
| 161 | standard or maybe they do right now but in 10 years it completely changes you'll always be | 标准或也许他们现在这样做, 但是在十年内,它会彻底改变你永远是 |
| 162 | something that keeps moving maybe there's something about you that doesn't fit the beauty | 有些东西会不停地移动 或许你有些东西不符合美貌 |
| 163 | standard but that thing not fitting the beauty standard that means it's ugly that's a belief | 标准,但是那东西不符合 美容标准, 这意味着它是丑陋是一个信念 |
| 164 | that's a choice that's a decision that you made but here's the truth when you stop trying to fit | 这是你的决定,但当你停止尝试适应时,这是事实 |
| 165 | yourself into this narrow box you actually make space to see what makes you unique and that's the | 进入这个狭小的盒子里 你真正创造出空间 来了解是什么让你独一无二 那就是 |
| 166 | funny thing what you think makes you different or ugly is actually probably the very thing that | 有趣的是,你认为你 让你不同或丑陋 实际上可能是 |
| 167 | makes you unforgettable think about it if you look like everyone else you blend in that doesn't make | 让你难忘的思考 如果你看起来像其他人 你混进去了,这不会使 |
| 168 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}你又热又难忘 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}你就像其他人一样 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}如果你停下来 | |
| 169 | trying to be like everyone else and started owning the things that make you different | 试着和别人一样 开始拥有让你不同的东西 |
| 170 | why not what do you have to lose wouldn't you rather go about life feeling hot and once you | 为什么不失去什么 你宁愿去 生活感觉热,一旦你 |
| 171 | do this you will see reality will start to shift being hot is 90 energy 10 face but the problem is | 做这个,你会看到现实将开始转变 热是90能量10面,但问题是 |
| 172 | is that most of you spend 100 of your time stressing about the 10 why could Marilyn Monroe be | 你们大部分时间都花在 10 点上 为什么玛丽莲·门罗是 |
| 173 | in public and nobody noticed her and then all of a sudden she'd turn on her energy and everyone | 在公共场合没有人注意到她 然后突然她就把精力和每个人 |
| 174 | would come flocking to her everyone would see her as this most beautiful creature it's because | 人们会把她看成最美的生物 |
| 175 | hotness is 90 energy and people will mirror back to you the universe will mirror back to you | 热度是90 能量,人们会反射给你 宇宙会反射给你 |
| 176 | whatever you put out so i hope this is the wake-up call you needed you're not ugly you just decided | 无论你说什么,我希望这是你需要的警醒电话 并不是你刚决定的丑陋 |
| 177 | you are and that decision can change i hope you enjoyed this video i hope you got value from this | 希望你们喜欢这段视频 希望你能从这段视频中获得价值 |
| 178 | and i will see you next time in the next one bye | 下次再见 |
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| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:00 | As I get older, the more and more I realize that being hot is a mindset. | 随着我变老,我越来越意识到 热是种心态。 |
| 0:04 | And I know how ridiculous | 我知道有多荒谬 |
| 0:05 | that might sound, but you have way more control over how attractive you are and how attractive | 不过你更能控制自己有多有魅力 |
| 0:10 | people see you than you think. | 人们看到你比你想象的。 |
| 0:12 | Reality is a mirror and I'm going to tell you exactly what I mean. | 现实是一面镜子 我要告诉你我到底是什么意思 |
| 0:15 | Hey friend, welcome back. | 嘿,朋友,欢迎回来 |
| 0:16 | If you're new here, my name's Jill and I help women step into their | 如果你是新来的,我叫吉尔 我帮助女人走进他们的 |
| 0:19 | power, tap into their divine feminine and become their best self, live their best life. | 权力,挖掘她们的神圣女性 并成为她们最好的自我, 生活他们最好的生活。 |
| 0:23 | So if that's | 所以,如果这是 |
| 0:24 | something you want to do, you should subscribe and stick around. | 你想做的事情, 你应该订阅 并停留在身边。 |
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| 1 | As I get older, the more and more I realize that being hot is a mindset. | 随着我变老,我越来越意识到 热是种心态。 |
| 2 | And I know how ridiculous | 我知道有多荒谬 |
| 3 | that might sound, but you have way more control over how attractive you are and how attractive | 不过你更能控制自己有多有魅力 |
| 4 | people see you than you think. | 人们看到你比你想象的。 |
| 5 | Reality is a mirror and I'm going to tell you exactly what I mean. | 现实是一面镜子 我要告诉你我到底是什么意思 |
| 6 | Hey friend, welcome back. | 嘿,朋友,欢迎回来 |
| 7 | If you're new here, my name's Jill and I help women step into their | 如果你是新来的,我叫吉尔 我帮助女人走进他们的 |
| 8 | power, tap into their divine feminine and become their best self, live their best life. | 权力,挖掘她们的神圣女性 并成为她们最好的自我, 生活他们最好的生活。 |
| 9 | So if that's | 所以,如果这是 |
| 10 | something you want to do, you should subscribe and stick around. | 你想做的事情, 你应该订阅 并停留在身边。 |
| 11 | So beauty standards are a very real | 所以美容标准很真实 |
| 12 | thing and I'm not debating that, but here's what I want you to notice. | 事情,我不辩论, 但我希望你注意到这一点。 |
| 13 | Beauty standards are different | 美容标准不同 |
| 14 | from culture to culture and beauty standards change throughout different decades and different | 从文化到文化和美貌标准在不同几十年和不同时期发生变化 |
| 15 | generations. | 几代人,他们都死了 |
| 16 | So what does that really mean about beauty? | 那对美意味着什么? |
| 17 | It means that the way we view beauty is | 意思是我们看美的方式 |
| 18 | not set in stone. | 不设于石. |
| 19 | And if it's not set in stone, that means that you have the power to influence | 如果不是石板上的 那表示你有权影响 |
| 20 | that. | 那个 |
| 21 | There's this whole aspect of being hot that has nothing to do with your appearance, | 和你的外貌毫无关系 |
| 22 | but everything to do with your self-perception. | 但与你的自我认知有关 |
| 23 | So there's this movie with Amy Schumer, it's called | 因此,有一部电影与艾米・舒默, 它叫 |
| 24 | I Feel Pretty and it's a great little happy feel good movie. | 感觉很美丽 感觉很好 |
| 25 | And there's going to be some spoilers | 还会有一些破坏者 |
| 26 | in here, but this is important to the lesson. | 在这里,但这对教训很重要。 |
| 27 | So in the beginning of the movie, Amy Schumer's character | 所以在电影开头 艾米·舒默的角色 |
| 28 | has very low self-esteem. | 自尊心非常低下 |
| 29 | She's very insecure. | 她非常不安全。 |
| 30 | She does not like the way that she looks. | 她不喜欢她的样子。 |
| 31 | She lacks all | 她缺乏一切 |
| 32 | confidence and you can see this in the way that she goes about her life. | 自信,你可以看到这一点 的方式,她去她的生活。 |
| 33 | You can tell by the way | 顺便说一句 |
| 34 | that she's walking through New York City. | 她走过纽约市 |
| 35 | You can tell by the way she talks to people and how she | 你可以从她跟人说话的方式 以及她是如何 |
| 36 | shows up. | 出现。 |
| 37 | Her body language is all hunched and meek. | 她的身体语言都是直觉和柔和的。 |
| 38 | And honestly, she just acts super insecure. | 老实说,她只是表现 超级不安全。 |
| 39 | I don't even see a point in applying. | 我甚至觉得申请没有意义 |
| 40 | I have no shot. | 我没有机会。 |
| 41 | But then one day she falls, she hits her | 但有一天,她摔倒了,她打了她 |
| 42 | head really hard. | 头好硬 |
| 43 | And when she gets up and she looks in the mirror, she believes that she has | 当她站起来,看着镜子, 她相信她已经 |
| 44 | become the most beautiful woman on the planet. | 成为世界上最美丽的女人 |
| 45 | Do I look super tall to you? | 你觉得我看起来超高吗? |
| 46 | Uh, I don't know how to | 呃,我不知道怎样 |
| 47 | answer that. | 回答这个问题。 |
| 48 | Now, of course, nothing has changed. | 现在,当然,没有什么变化。 |
| 49 | She looks exactly the same, but she thinks she's | 她看起来完全一样,但她认为她 |
| 50 | gorgeous. | 华丽。 |
| 51 | She thinks she has a beautiful face. | 她觉得自己长得漂亮 |
| 52 | She thinks she has a beautiful body. | 她觉得她的身体很漂亮 |
| 53 | And what happens | 还有会发生什么 |
| 54 | after that is that her life completely changes. | 之后她的生活彻底改变 |
| 55 | Her career skyrockets. | 她的事业飞涨 |
| 56 | She's not afraid to apply | 她不怕申请 |
| 57 | for the jobs that she was once afraid of. | 她曾经害怕的工作 |
| 58 | She's not afraid to speak up in meetings. | 她不怕在会议上大声说话 |
| 59 | She's not afraid | 她没有害怕 |
| 60 | to put herself out there. | 让自己在那里。 |
| 61 | She's not afraid to act like she belongs. | 她不怕表现得像属于她一样 |
| 62 | She goes from working in a | 她从一个工作 |
| 63 | basement to speaking on a huge stage for this big launch. | 准备在大舞台上演讲 参加这次大型发布会 |
| 64 | But besides that, she's suddenly the life | 但是除了这个之外 她突然变成了生活 |
| 65 | of the party. | 该党。 |
| 66 | Suddenly everyone loves her. | 突然大家都爱她 |
| 67 | She makes friends easily. | 她很容易结交朋友 |
| 68 | She gets invited to things. | 她被邀请参加一些事情。 |
| 69 | She stands out in a way that she didn't before. | 她表现得像以前一样 |
| 70 | She gets a boyfriend who really loves and cares | 她有一个真正爱和关心的男朋友 |
| 71 | about her. | 关于她的。 |
| 72 | And the stereotypical hot guy in the movie starts to become attracted to her and wants | 电影里那个刻板的性感男人 开始被她吸引 |
| 73 | to get with her. | 来和她相处 |
| 74 | Her life does a complete 180, not because she actually looks different, but because | 她的生活是180年的 不是因为她看起来不同 而是因为 |
| 75 | she feels different. | 她感觉不一样 |
| 76 | She truly thinks she's hot. | 她真的觉得她很性感 |
| 77 | And so she shows up that way. | 所以她就那样出现了 |
| 78 | Hey, great dress. | 嘿,伟大的衣服。 |
| 79 | Aren't girls like us so lucky that we can shop like anywhere and still look fly as hell. | 像我们这样的女孩不是那么幸运吗? 这样我们就可以在任何地方购物... ...并且仍然看起来苍蝇像地狱。 |
| 80 | And it's such an interesting movie because you can see the little body language shifts that happen | 这部电影很有趣,因为你可以看到 身体语言的改变 |
| 81 | as she has this little transformation. | 因为她有这个小转变。 |
| 82 | And as she bumps her head and sees herself differently, | 当她撞到她的头 和不同的视线, |
| 83 | all of a sudden she starts walking differently. | 突然间,她开始走的不一样 |
| 84 | Her shoulders are back. | 她的肩膀回来了 |
| 85 | She's not afraid to talk | 她不怕说话 |
| 86 | to people. | 对人们。 |
| 87 | When people look at her, she assumes it's because she's pretty or people want to be | 当人们看着她时 她假设是因为她漂亮或者人们想成为 |
| 88 | her friend, not because they think she's ugly. | 她的朋友,不是因为他们认为她丑陋。 |
| 89 | Her entire self-perception changed, which changed | 她的自我认知改变了 改变了 |
| 90 | her entire life and the way people saw her. | 她的一生和人们看她的方式 |
| 91 | It's honestly the perfect movie. | 这是一部完美的电影 |
| 92 | If you want just like | 如果你想像那样 |
| 93 | lazy chill day or you're having a sick day, it's a good watch. | 懒惰的寒冷日或有病日,这是很好的表. |
| 94 | When I was younger, like way younger, | 当我年轻的时候 就像年轻一样 |
| 95 | I used to feel like everyone was prettier than me, better than me. | 我以前觉得每个人都比我漂亮 比我好 |
| 96 | I felt like all those girls | 我感觉就像那些女孩 |
| 97 | were over here and I was over here. | 我在这里,我在这里。 |
| 98 | It wasn't even insecurity. | 这甚至不是不安全。 |
| 99 | It was just, I felt like I was so | 只是,我觉得我是如此 |
| 100 | separate from them. | 与他们分开。 |
| 101 | And because of that, I showed up differently. | 因此,我出现了不同的情况。 |
| 102 | I unconsciously believed that these | 我无意识地相信这些 |
| 103 | girls deserved more attention and deserved more than what I did. | 女孩们比我更值得关注 更值得关注 |
| 104 | And that started getting better | 事情开始好转 |
| 105 | as I got older, but I'm going to be honest, one of the main things that shifted things for me | 我长大了,但我会说实话, 改变事物的主要事物之一对我来说 |
| 106 | was meeting my husband. | 约了我丈夫 |
| 107 | I met him when I was quite young. | 我年轻时见过他 |
| 108 | We started dating when I was 17 and the way | 我们开始约会 当我17岁和的方式 |
| 109 | that he spoke to me and the way that he saw me and the way that he truly believed that I was beautiful | 他对我说话的方式 他看我的方式 他真正相信 我美丽 |
| 110 | started opening up my mind to a different self-perception. | 开始打开我的思想 不同的自我认识。 |
| 111 | Because he talked me up and | 因为他劝了我 |
| 112 | he was being truthful, eventually my identity started shifting and because my identity started | 他是诚实的,最终 我的身份开始改变, 因为我的身份开始 |
| 113 | shifting, my reality started shifting to reflect that. | 转变,我的现实开始改变 以反映这一点。 |
| 114 | When you embody an identity, others start | 当你体现一个身份,其他人开始 |
| 115 | to reflect it back to you. | 把它反射给你 |
| 116 | It's sort of the nature of the universe. | 这是宇宙的本质 |
| 117 | The universe reflects back to you | 宇宙反射给你 |
| 118 | what you believe. | 你所相信的东西 |
| 119 | One thing that I was always insecure about when I was younger is my jawline | 我年轻时一直很不安全的一件事 就是我的下巴 |
| 120 | because it's a little bit wider and more, I guess you would say stereotypically masculine. | 因为它有点宽 更多的, 我想你会说 陈规定型男性。 |
| 121 | And I just | 我刚刚 |
| 122 | never really liked it, but this is just genetics. | 但这只是遗传学 |
| 123 | Just everyone on my dad's side of the family, we | 我爸身边的每个人 我们 |
| 124 | all have this face. | 所有人都有这张脸。 |
| 125 | I was always self-conscious about it a little bit, but I decided to change | 我总是有点自觉 但我决定改变 |
| 126 | my perception, my self-perception of my own beauty in the way that I looked. | 我对自己的美貌的自我认识 |
| 127 | So instead of seeing my | 所以,没有看到我 |
| 128 | jawline as a flaw or something that I didn't like about myself, I decided that my jawline would be | 下巴作为缺陷 或东西 我不喜欢自己, 我决定 我的下巴将是 |
| 129 | a unique defining characteristic. | 一个独特的定义特征。 |
| 130 | This is what makes me unique and stand out and not in a cheesy | 这让我变得独特和突出 而不是在俗气中 |
| 131 | way, but truly this is what makes me unique. | 但这是让我独一无二的原因 |
| 132 | Whatever you think is your flaw, you can reframe | 不管你认为什么是你的缺陷, 你可以重新塑造 |
| 133 | that as your feature. | 那是你的特点 |
| 134 | You do not have to be pretty by societal standards to be pretty. | 按社会标准,你不必漂亮 |
| 135 | You do not have | 你没有 |
| 136 | to fit the societal standards of hot right now to be hot. | 符合现在的热度社会标准 成为热度 |
| 137 | Like I want you to think about what is that | 就像我要你想想那是什么一样 |
| 138 | thing that maybe you've always been a little self-conscious of because it doesn't fit society's | 可能你一直有点自觉 因为它不符合社会 |
| 139 | beauty standards right now. | 美容标准现在。 |
| 140 | And what if you flipped it on its head? | 如果你把它翻到它的头上呢? |
| 141 | What if that thing is no longer a | 如果那东西不再是 |
| 142 | feature? | 特性 ? |
| 143 | Maybe you have a gap tooth. | 也许你有颗缺口牙 |
| 144 | Maybe you have a lot of freckles on your face. | 也许你脸上有很多雀斑 |
| 145 | Maybe you have a | 也许你有一个 |
| 146 | bold Roman nose. | 大胆的罗马鼻子。 |
| 147 | Okay, I want you to think about something. | 好,我想你想想办法 |
| 148 | Having a gap between your two front | 你两边之间有间隙 |
| 149 | teeth did not fit the beauty standard many years ago, but then what happened? | 牙齿不符合美容标准 很多年前, 但后来发生了什么? |
| 150 | Then all of a sudden, | 然后突然间, |
| 151 | a bunch of models started popping up with these gaps within their front teeth and all of a sudden | 一群模特儿在前牙里 突然冒出这些缺口 |
| 152 | it stopped being ugly and it became a defining feature. | 它不再丑陋 并成为一个决定性的特征。 |
| 153 | It became something that made them stand | 它变成了一个让他们站立起来的东西 |
| 154 | out. | 出来。 |
| 155 | Freckles weren't initially the typical beauty standard, but now there are people who are drawing | 雀斑最初不是典型的美容标准,但现在有人在画画 |
| 156 | freckles on their face with makeup. | 脸上涂着妆的雀斑. |
| 157 | Even less and less people are getting rhinoplasties now because | 越来越少的人 得到犀角膏了,因为 |
| 158 | beauty standards evolve and they change. | 美容标准不断演化,它们也会改变. |
| 159 | Or for example, if you have a mole on your face, | 比如说 如果你脸上有内鬼 |
| 160 | what was once seen as a blemish and not something that, you know, ideally fit the beauty standard, | 曾经被视为污点的东西 而不是最符合美容标准的东西 |
| 161 | Marilyn Monroe、Cindy Crawford和Madonna的脸上都有内鬼 但后来成为了 | |
| 162 | their signature sex appeal. | 他们的签名性吸引力。 |
| 163 | What was once seen as a blemish and something that they wouldn't want on | 曾经被看成是污点 和他们不希望的东西 |
| 164 | their face became a trademark. | 他们的脸变成了商标。 |
| 165 | Do you see what I mean? | 明白我的意思了吗? |
| 166 | The rules are being made up as we go. | 规则正在我们去的时候被修改。 |
| 167 | In the nineties, it was all about super thin plucked eyebrows and then Cara Delevingne comes | 在90年代,一切都是 超薄的眉毛,然后卡拉・德莱文涅来了 |
| 168 | on the scene with her big bushy eyebrows and all of a sudden that's what everybody wants. | 突然间大家都想这样 |
| 169 | In the 1950s, having thin lips was the epitome of elegance and chic and thicker lips, more plump | 在20世纪50年代, 薄唇是优雅的缩影, 和气质和浓厚的唇, 更浓密的 |
| 170 | lips were seen as unfeminine. | 嘴唇被视为不女性。 |
| 171 | And now we are pumping ourselves with filler and overlining our | 而现在我们正用填充器 俯冲我们 |
| 172 | supermodel. | 超级模特 |
| 173 | She had crooked teeth and a very, very thin frame, which actually didn't align | 她有弯曲的牙齿 和非常,非常薄的框, 实际上没有对齐 |
| 174 | with the beauty standards at the time. | 和当时的美容标准。 |
| 175 | It was first seen as unconventional, but instead of | 它最初被认为是非常规的, 但代替 |
| 176 | deeming it as ugly, it became her feature, a trademark. | 被认为是丑陋的, 它成为她的特征,一个商标。 |
| 177 | Even body types changed throughout | 连身体都变了 |
| 178 | the years. | 这些年 |
| 179 | There was the Kardashian era where everyone wanted to be really curvy and then | 那时卡戴珊时代 每个人都想变弯曲 然后 |
| 180 | it goes back and forth. | 时复时复. |
| 181 | The pendulum always swings. | 笔鼓常摇. |
| 182 | Barbara Streisand in her nose, she refused to get | 芭芭拉・史翠珊在鼻子里拒绝 |
| 183 | a nose job and it became a part of her signature look. | 一个鼻子工作, 它成为她签字外观的一部分。 |
| 184 | So if there is something about you that | 所以,如果有你的东西 |
| 185 | doesn't fit the typical beauty standard, what if it's not a flaw? | 不符合典型的美容标准,如果这不是瑕疵呢? |
| 186 | What if it's something that | 如果它的东西 |
| 187 | makes you unique? | 让你变得独一无二? |
| 188 | What if it's something that makes you stand out? | 如果这是让你突出的东西呢? |
| 189 | You can either label something as | 要么标注为 |
| 190 | wrong or you can decide this is the thing that makes me irresistible. | 错误或者你可以决定 这件事让我无法抗拒 |
| 191 | This is the thing that | 这是一件事 |
| 192 | makes me unique. | 让我变得独一无二 |
| 193 | This is the thing that makes me interesting. | 这让我有意思 |
| 194 | And that decision alone shifts | 光是决定就变了 |
| 195 | your entire energy. | 你的整个能量。 |
| 196 | So step one, identify the one feature that you've always been self-conscious | 所以第一步 找出你一直自觉的特征 |
| 197 | about. | 有关。 |
| 198 | And two, ask what if this is the thing that actually makes me unique, memorable and magnetic? | 第二,问一下,如果这是 使我变得独特,令人难忘和磁性的东西呢? |
| 199 | Beauty standards are moving targets and what was once ugly can become a defining feature of an era. | 美貌标准正在移动目标 曾经丑陋的东西可以成为时代的决定性特征 |
| 200 | So your job is to decide ahead of time that your flaw is not a flaw, it's a feature and that feature | 所以,你的工作是提前决定 你的缺陷不是一个缺陷, 这是一个特征和特征 |
| 201 | is an asset. | 是一种资产。 |
| 202 | And if you carry it like it's your signature, society will catch up. | 如果你拿着它就像你的签名, 社会会赶上。 |
| 203 | People will | 人们会的 |
| 204 | start to reflect that back to you. | 开始反射回来给你。 |
| 205 | So let's talk about the science behind this. | 所以,让我们谈谈背后的科学。 |
| 206 | So we have something | 所以,我们有东西 |
| 207 | our brains called mirror neurons. | 我们的大脑叫镜像神经元 |
| 208 | So mirror neurons are cells in our brain that fire off when | 因此,镜像神经元是细胞 在我们的大脑中,当 |
| 209 | we do something or when we see someone else do something. | 我们做一些事情 或者当我们看到别人做一些事情。 |
| 210 | That's why when you see someone yawn, | 这就是为什么当你看到某人打哈欠, |
| 211 | it makes you want to yawn. | 它让你想打哈欠。 |
| 212 | Or when you see someone trip and fall, it makes you cringe. | 或者当你看到有人 绊倒, 它让你哭。 |
| 213 | Or if someone | 或者,如果有人 |
| 214 | is visibly anxious, it makes your mirror neurons fire in a way that makes you feel uneasy. | 它让你的镜像神经元发火 让你感觉不舒服 |
| 215 | And if | 如果 |
| 216 | you flip that and someone is so joyful and positive, it makes you feel better. | 你翻转它,有人是如此快乐和积极, 它让你感觉更好。 |
| 217 | It makes | 这样可以 |
| 218 | your brain will mirror that state and almost start to feel like the way that they're feeling. | 你的大脑会反射那种状态 并几乎开始感觉到他们的感觉。 |
| 219 | Basically, humans are wired to unconsciously copy and catch each other's emotional states. | 基本上,人类被连接到无意识地复制并捕捉对方的情感状态. |
| 220 | So when | 所以什么时候 |
| 221 | you carry yourself with a lot of insecurity, when you're avoiding eye contact, when you're shrinking | 你背负着很多不安全, 当你避免眼睛接触, 当你缩小 |
| 222 | yourself, when you're making all these nervous gestures, people start to feel a little bit uneasy | 自己,当你做出这些紧张的姿态, 人们开始觉得有点不安 |
| 223 | around you. | 环绕着你 |
| 224 | People's neurons pick up on that unease and feel uncomfortable, even if they don't | 人们的神经元开始不安 觉得不舒服,即使他们不 |
| 225 | know why. | 知道为什么吗? |
| 226 | But when you embody confidence, when you have open body language, when you have warmth on | 但当你表现自信, 当你有开放的身体语言, 当你有温暖 |
| 227 | your face, when you're relaxed and comfortable, others feel that too. | 你的脸,当你放松和舒适, 其他人也觉得。 |
| 228 | Others feel that calm | 其他人觉得很平静 |
| 229 | confidence and that magnetism from you. | 信心和磁力来自你。 |
| 230 | And they mirror it back to you. | 他们把它反射给你 |
| 231 | They treat you as if you | 他们把你当成你 |
| 232 | are magnetic. | 磁性很强 |
| 233 | Imagine two different women walk into a room. | 想象两个不同的女人走进一个房间 |
| 234 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 235 | Women A thinks, I hope nobody | 妇女 一个想法,我希望没有人 |
| 236 | notices me. | 注意我,我需要你帮忙。 |
| 237 | I look bad today. | 我今天看起来很糟糕。 |
| 238 | She hunches, she keeps her eyes down. | 她直觉, 她保持她的眼睛。 |
| 239 | She kind of like moves to the | 她喜欢移动到 |
| 240 | corner of the room. | 房间的角落。 |
| 241 | People glance at her and because of mirror neurons sense that she's | 人们看着她,因为镜子的神经元觉得她 |
| 242 | So they don't engage. | 所以他们不参与。 |
| 243 | And what happens? | 然后会发生什么? |
| 244 | This further reinforces her belief. | 这进一步强化了她的信念。 |
| 245 | Nobody notices me. | 没有人注意到我。 |
| 246 | I'm not pretty. | 我一点都不漂亮 |
| 247 | Nobody likes me. | 没人喜欢我 |
| 248 | But women B walks into the room and thinks, | 但是,女人B走进房间,想, |
| 249 | I'm magnetic. | 我是磁学的 |
| 250 | I'm attractive. | 我很吸引人,你喜欢吗? |
| 251 | She walks slower. | 她走得比较慢 |
| 252 | Her shoulders are pulled back. | 她的肩膀被拉回来。 |
| 253 | She makes eye contact | 她的眼睛接触 |
| 254 | with people. | 与人们。 |
| 255 | She smiles. | 她会笑 |
| 256 | People's mirror neurons reflect her ease. | 人镜神经元反映了她的轻松. |
| 257 | So they smile back. | 所以他们笑回来。 |
| 258 | They approach | 他们来了 |
| 259 | | |
| 260 | They treat her as if she's attractive. | 他们把她当成有魅力的人 |
| 261 | So here's the loop. | 因此,这是循环。 |
| 262 | How you feel shapes how you show | 如何感觉形状 如何表现 |
| 263 | up and how you behave. | 起来,你的行为。 |
| 264 | And then that gets mirrored and reflects how the other person acts. | 然后,这被镜像 并反映 他人如何行动。 |
| 265 | And then that reinforces either the positive self image you have of yourself or the negative | 这样一来,就强化了自己正面的自我形象 或负面的自我形象 |
| 266 | self image you have of yourself. | 自我形象 你拥有自己。 |
| 267 | There's also something in our brain called the reticular | 大脑里还有一种叫静脉 |
| 268 | activating system or RAS for short. | 激活系统或简易RAS。 |
| 269 | And this is huge for manifesting. | 这对展示来说是巨大的。 |
| 270 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 271 | So your RAS is a bundle | 所以,你的RAS是一个捆 |
| 272 | of nerves in your brain that kind of acts like a filter to the world. | 大脑中的神经 那种行为就像过滤器 到世界。 |
| 273 | There are millions of stimuli | 有数百万的刺激 |
| 274 | going on around you at the moment and you can't possibly take all of that in. | 在你身边,你不可能 把这些都带走。 |
| 275 | So your RAS decides | 所以你的RAS决定 |
| 276 | what to filter in, into your consciousness, into your awareness and what to filter out, | 什么样的过滤 进入你的意识, 进入你的意识, 什么过滤出, |
| 277 | what to ignore. | 还有什么可以忽略的? |
| 278 | It's why when you start thinking about buying a white BMW, you start seeing white | 这就是为什么当你开始想买一辆白色宝马, 你开始看到白色 |
| 279 | BMWs everywhere. | 到处都是宝马 |
| 280 | Not because all of a sudden they took over the streets. | 并不是因为他们突然占领了街道。 |
| 281 | They were always there, | 他们总是在那里, |
| 282 | but your RAS is now tuned into them because where attention goes, energy flows. | 但是,你的RAS 现在被调用到它们, 因为哪里的注意力去,能量流动。 |
| 283 | Your attention | 请注意 |
| 284 | literally changes your perception of reality. | 字面上改变了你对现实的看法。 |
| 285 | So if you believe I'm ugly, your RAS filters | 所以,如果你相信我丑, 你的RAS过滤器 |
| 286 | for every situation that supports that. | 对每一个支持这一点的情况。 |
| 287 | You remember the one guy who didn't text you back, | 你记得那个没给你回短信的人吗? |
| 288 | the awkward glance with that one person, the person who didn't compliment you. | 和那个不恭维你的人的尴尬眼神 |
| 289 | And all of that | 这一切 |
| 290 | becomes proof. | 成为证据。 |
| 291 | But if you believe I'm hot, your RAS filters differently. | 但如果你相信我很性感 你的RAS过滤器就不一样了 |
| 292 | It highlights different | 它突出了不同的 |
| 293 | evidence. | 证据。 |
| 294 | You notice the barista smiling longer at you, the friend telling you, you look great | 你注意到女律师对你笑得更久 朋友告诉你,你看起来很棒 |
| 295 | today. | 今时. |
| 296 | Or the way people lean in when you talk to them. | 或者你和他们说话时人们靠拢的方式 |
| 297 | Your brain starts to string all these | 你的大脑开始连接这些 |
| 298 | moments together to reinforce your self image. | 一起来强化你的自我形象 |
| 299 | So let's go through another example. | 故再举一例. |
| 300 | Two women who | 两个女人 |
| 301 | look exactly identical. | 看起来完全一样 |
| 302 | Woman A thinks her freckles make her really unattractive. | 妇人 一种认为她的雀斑使她真的没有吸引力. |
| 303 | Her RAS filters for | 她的RAS过滤器用于 |
| 304 | times when people don't flirt with her and ignores compliments. | 当人们不调情 与她和忽略恭维。 |
| 305 | She sees herself as not hot, further | 她觉得自己不性感,更进一步 |
| 306 | reinforcing that belief. | 强化这种信念。 |
| 307 | But woman B, she thinks her freckles make her unique, make her attractive. | 但是,女人B,她认为她的雀斑使她独一无二,使她吸引人. |
| 308 | Her freckles are her signature look, she decided. | 她的雀斑是她的签名表情,她决定。 |
| 309 | So her RAS filters for all the times people told | 所以她的RAS过滤器 人们告诉所有的时间 |
| 310 | her she looked beautiful and that she was cute and that she's unique. | 她看起来很漂亮,她很可爱 她很独特 |
| 311 | Over time she builds an | 随着时间的推移,她建立了一个 |
| 312 | identity around being striking. | 身份被攻击 |
| 313 | Hot isn't about flawlessness, it's about self perception. | 热不在于无瑕,在于自觉. |
| 314 | And once | 还有一次 |
| 315 | you realize how much of your reality is shaped by what you believe, you realize how much influence | 你意识到你所相信的事实 塑造了多少现实 |
| 316 | and power you have over your life. | 和力量,你拥有你的生活。 |
| 317 | So here's the thing, beauty standards are always going to exist, | 美容标准永远存在 |
| 318 | I'm not denying that. | 我不会否认的 |
| 319 | But if you make your definition of being hot about hitting whatever | 但如果你给自己下定义 说要打什么 |
| 320 | the current standard is, whether it's a little nose or big lips, or having a certain body type, | 目前的标准是,无论是鼻子还是大嘴唇, 或者有某种身体类型, |
| 321 | you are setting yourself up for failure. | 你在为自己失败做准备 |
| 322 | And you are setting yourself up to feel like you are not | 而你却在装作自己不是 |
| 323 | enough. | 够了。 |
| 324 | And when you feel like a failure, and when you feel like you're not enough, you will start | 当你觉得自己是个失败者 当你觉得自己还不够的时候 你会开始 |
| 325 | showing up that way. | 那样出现 |
| 326 | And when you start showing up that way, people will start treating you that way. | 当你开始这样出现, 人们就会那样对待你。 |
| 327 | What happens if your genetics don't line up with that standard? | 如果你的遗传学不符合这个标准怎么办? |
| 328 | Or maybe they do right now, but in | 也许他们现在会,但是... |
| 329 | years it completely changes. | 几年来它彻底改变了。 |
| 330 | You'll always be chasing something that keeps moving. | 你总是在追着一个不停移动的东西 |
| 331 | Maybe there's | 也许有 |
| 332 | something about you that doesn't fit the beauty standard. | 关于你的东西不符合美容标准。 |
| 333 | But that thing, not fitting the beauty | 但那个东西 不适合美 |
| 334 | standard, that means it's ugly? | 标准,这意味着它丑陋? |
| 335 | That's a belief. | 这是信念。 |
| 336 | That's a choice. | 这是一个选择。 |
| 337 | That's a decision that you made. | 这是你的决定 |
| 338 | But here's the truth, when you stop trying to fit yourself into this narrow box, you actually make | 但事实是,当你不再试图 把自己装进这个狭小的盒子里, 你实际上制造 |
| 339 | space to see what makes you unique. | 空间来观察是什么让你独一无二。 |
| 340 | And that's the funny thing, what you think makes you different, | 有趣的是,你认为你与众不同 |
| 341 | or ugly, is actually probably the very thing that makes you unforgettable. | 或丑陋, 可能正是 让你难忘的事情。 |
| 342 | Think about it, | 考虑一下 |
| 343 | if you look like everyone else, you blend in. | 如果你长得像其他人,你就混进去 |
| 344 | That doesn't make you hot and unforgettable, | 这并不让你热和难忘, |
| 345 | it makes you average. | 它让你平均。 |
| 346 | It makes you like everyone else. | 它让你喜欢其他人。 |
| 347 | What if you stop trying to be like everyone | 如果你停止尝试 像每个人 |
| 348 | else and started owning the things that make you different? | 然后开始拥有让你不同的东西? |
| 349 | Why not? | 为什么不呢? |
| 350 | What do you have to lose? | 你有什么损失? |
| 351 | Wouldn't you rather go about life feeling hot? | 你不想去 生活感觉热吗? |
| 352 | And once you do this, you will see reality will | 当你这样做, 你会看到现实会 |
| 353 | start to shift. | 开始移动。 |
| 354 | Being hot is 90% energy, 10% face. | 热是90%的能量,10%的面孔。 |
| 355 | But the problem is, is that most of you | 但问题是,你们大多数人 |
| 356 | spend 100% of your time stressing about the 10%. | 花费你100%的时间 压力在10%。 |
| 357 | Why could Marilyn Monroe be seen out in public | 为什么玛丽莲梦露会在公众场合被看到 |
| 358 | and nobody noticed her? | 没人注意到她? |
| 359 | And then all of a sudden she'd turn on her energy and everyone would come | 然后突然她打开她的能量 每个人都会来 |
| 360 | flocking to her. | 欢呼着她 |
| 361 | Everyone would see her as this most beautiful creature. | 每个人都会把她看成是最美丽的生物 |
| 362 | It's because | 因为 |
| 363 | hotness is 90% energy and people will mirror back to you. | 热度是90% 能量,人们会反射给你。 |
| 364 | The universe will mirror back to you, | 宇宙会反射给你 |
| 365 | whatever you put out. | 随你怎么说 |
| 366 | So I hope this is the wake up call you needed. | 所以我希望这是你需要的唤醒电话 |
| 367 | You're not ugly, | 你不丑吗? |
| 368 | you just decided you are. | 你刚刚决定你是。 |
| 369 | And that decision can change. | 这一决定可以改变。 |
| 370 | I hope you enjoyed this video. | 我希望你喜欢这个视频。 |
| 371 | I | 一、导 言 |
| 372 | hope you got value from this video and I will see you next time in the next one. | 希望你能从这段录像中获得价值 下次见 |
| 373 | Bye. | 再见。 |
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