【沟通边界】别随叫随到：沉默才是超能力

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发布于 2026-09-02 · 时长 31:39

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时间	英文	中文
0:00	Have you ever noticed how some people control every room without saying anything, and other	你有没有注意到 一些人如何控制 每一个房间 不说任何事情,
0:04	people have to be loud and seen to be heard, but the powerful ones just withdraw, they're	人必须大声而有声, 但强者只是退出,他们是
0:10	silent, and then you watch as people chase after them?	沉默,然后你看着人们追逐他们?
0:13	That is the point.	这就是重点。
0:14	How do you become the chased as opposed to the chaser?	你怎么成为追逐者而不是追逐者?
0:17	When you stop becoming available, the world reacts.	当你不再可用时,世界就会作出反应。
0:21	It wants to latch and grab on and pull you in, and that is when you attract.	它想要紧紧抓住并拉你进来, 当你吸引。
0:25	It's when you realize that you're inherently more powerful than you think, and you do not	当你意识到你天生的力量 比你想象的还要强大,你却没有
0:28	need everyone around you in order to get attention.	需要你身边的所有人来引起注意
0:32	In fact, you realize something really powerful, that we're going to break in from the greatest	事实上,你意识到一些非常强大的东西, 我们要突破最伟大的。

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序号	英文	中文
1	Have you ever noticed how some people control every room without saying anything, and other	你有没有注意到 一些人如何控制 每一个房间 不说任何事情,
2	people have to be loud and seen to be heard, but the powerful ones just withdraw, they're	人必须大声而有声, 但强者只是退出,他们是
3	silent, and then you watch as people chase after them?	沉默,然后你看着人们追逐他们?
4	That is the point.	这就是重点。
5	How do you become the chased as opposed to the chaser?	你怎么成为追逐者而不是追逐者?
6	When you stop becoming available, the world reacts.	当你不再可用时,世界就会作出反应。
7	It wants to latch and grab on and pull you in, and that is when you attract.	它想要紧紧抓住并拉你进来, 当你吸引。
8	It's when you realize that you're inherently more powerful than you think, and you do not	当你意识到你天生的力量 比你想象的还要强大,你却没有
9	need everyone around you in order to get attention.	需要你身边的所有人来引起注意
10	In fact, you realize something really powerful, that we're going to break in from the greatest	事实上,你意识到一些非常强大的东西, 我们要突破最伟大的。
11	philosophers of all time, and learn in order to control the room and not be controlled	永远的哲学家,为了控制房间而学习,而不是被控制
12	around it.	围绕它。
13	There are a couple things that are going to be hard to hear here, but I think that is	有几件事情是很难听的 但我觉得
14	the entire point, and the first one is, you are not alone enough with your thoughts and	整个问题,第一点是, 你不够孤独与你的想法和
15	creations to build the life you say you want.	创造来建立你想要的生活
16	You'll realize eventually, you do not have enough solitude in your life, and your work	你最终会意识到 你的生活和工作 都不够孤独
17	is struggling for it.	正在为此而奋斗。
18	You need to sit alone in the darkness and watch as the world comes to you.	你得独自坐在黑暗中 看着世界降临你
19	I go back to that clip of Bane from Batman.	我回到蝙蝠侠的班恩的片段
20	Oh, you think darkness is your ally?	你以为黑暗是你的盟友吗?
21	You merely adopted the dark.	你只是收养了黑暗。
22	I was born in it, molded by it.	我出生在其中,由它塑造。
23	Literally all of history's greatest minds embraced solitude.	从字面上讲,所有历史最伟大的思想 都拥抱孤独。
24	Long walks, isolated studios, late nights, early mornings, strict routines.	长途跋涉,与世隔绝的工作室,深夜,清晨,严格例行公事.
25	You have to deliberately strip away the noise of the external world to examine the internal	你必须故意剥去外界的噪音 来检查内部
26	one.	一个
27	This is famous all the way from Nietzsche to Bukowski.	从尼采到布科斯基,这都是著名的.
28	You create space to process the chaos.	你创造了处理混乱的空间。
29	So we're going to talk about something we've never talked about on this podcast before,	所以我们要谈一些我们以前从未谈过的事
30	but I consider the cornerstone of my success, and the greatest builders of all time success,	但我认为我成功的基石 和有史以来最伟大的建设者,
31	learning to master being alone.	学会独自一人
32	I mean, the great philosophers and psychologists of our time have realized this, like Carl	我的意思是,我们时代的伟大哲学家和心理学家 已经意识到这一点,像卡尔
33	Young, who talks about what happens when you withdraw from others.	年轻,谁谈论会发生什么 当你退出他人。
34	You then see who is irritated, who comes after you, who doesn't allow it.	然后看谁烦恼,谁追你,谁不允许.
35	Priceless information.	无价资讯.
36	This isn't about turning your back on the world.	这与你背弃世界无关
37	It's not about turning away from your loved ones.	这不是要抛弃你的亲人
38	This is about choosing yourself.	这是关于选择自己。
39	2026's first lesson is this is not the year of explanation.	2026年的第一个教训是,这不是解释的年份.
40	It is the year of execution.	这是处决的年份。
41	Less talking, less chasing, more building.	少说话,少追,多建楼.
42	Let others wonder what you are doing.	让别人知道你在做什么
43	Let silence be your announcement.	让你安静点
44	Young would call this individuation, which is the movement from living as a role, so	年轻人会称它为"异化",即从生活中扮演的角色的运动,所以
45	what society, family, culture expects you, to living as self, what is authentically you.	社会、家庭、文化都希望你 以自我为生 真正意义上的你
46	It's not self-improvement nonsense.	这不是自我改进的废话。
47	It's self-integration.	谓自性融.
48	So Young would say the privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.	所以杨会说一生的特权 就是成为真正的你
49	Ah, that's so good.	啊,这是很好的。
50	Because you can't manipulate someone who likes being alone.	因为你不能操纵一个喜欢一个人的人
51	The psyche, according to Young, works like this.	据杨所说,心理医生是这样工作的
52	Quick map.	快图.
53	Ego.	爱果.
54	Your conscious identity.	你的意识身份。
55	What you say when asked who are you.	问汝何人时如何.
56	Persona.	个人
57	The mask you wear to function socially.	你戴的面具能发挥社交功能
58	Think titles, reputations, identities.	思考标题,名声,身份.
59	Shadow.	阴影
60	The parts you disown or repress.	你脱离或压制的部分。
61	Anger, ambition, vulnerability when we shove it down deep inside.	愤怒 野心 脆弱 当我们把它推向深处
62	Anima, which is the inner opposite.	阿尼玛,这是内在相反。
63	So feminine and men, masculine and women.	女人和男人 男人和女人都一样
64	Young's original framing.	杨的原始设定。
65	Symbolizing traits you haven't integrated.	象征你还没有融入的特质
66	And then self, the totality of the psyche, which is conscious plus unconscious.	然后是自我, 整个心理, 意识和无意识。
67	The true center.	真实中心.
68	So individuation is the ego's gradual alignment to self, to becoming you.	因此,自我分裂是自我逐渐适应自我,成为你。
69	Young would argue that what we deny in ourselves doesn't disappear.	杨会辩称我们自己所否认的不会消失.
70	It ruins us from the dark.	它从黑暗中毁了我们。
71	This is that like suppressed ambition, suppressed aggression.	这就像被压制的野心,被压制的侵略。
72	What do those turn into?	这些变成什么了?
73	Passive resentment, burnout.	被动怨恨,烧焦.
74	Suppressed vulnerability is emotional numbness.	被压制的脆弱性是情绪麻木.
75	Like until you make the unconscious conscious,	就像直到你使无意识的,
76	it will direct your life and you will call it fate.	它会引导你的生活 你会称之为命运
77	These days a lot of psychologists call this shadow work.	最近很多心理学家都称这为影子工作.
78	And it isn't about indulging in darkness.	这不是在黑暗中沉浸在其中
79	It's about owning it so it stops owning you.	是为了拥有它 所以它不再拥有你
80	The thing is, you only have so much energy in your lives and in every day.	问题是,你只有这么多的精力 在你的生活和每一天。
81	And in each interaction that you have, you're allowing others to take it from you.	在你的每次互动中, 你都允许别人从你身上夺走它。
82	Which is why you end up at the end of the day feeling tired, frustrated, lonely.	所以你最后才觉得累了 沮丧 孤独
83	You've allowed yourself to become a shell reacting to other people's emotions.	你让自己变成了对别人的情绪作出反应的贝壳.
84	You know, have you ever been around someone who by the end of the conversation,	你知道,你曾经身边的人 谁在谈话结束时,
85	you felt like you have been sucked dry?	你觉得你被吸干了吗?
86	Like you had run a marathon but got no benefit from it?	就像你跑过马拉松但没好处一样?
87	That is what happens when you are too available.	这就是当你太有空的时候会发生什么。
88	And so Young noticed that people undergoing this process of individuation,	所以Young注意到了 正在经历这种分离过程的人
89	they often produce mandalas.	他们经常生产曼达拉斯。
90	What he would call circular symbols of wholeness and dreams or art.	他称之为圆形象征 完整和梦想或艺术。
91	And he believed that that's the unconscious.	他相信那是无意识的
92	So a part of our brain that speaks in symbols, not logic.	所以我们大脑的一部分是用符号而不是逻辑表达的。
93	And so he actually worked a lot on dreams and myth.	所以他实际上在梦和神话上做了很多工作.
94	And why individuation is hard and rare is, do you think about it like this?	何以难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难得难的难得难得难得难得难得难得难的难得难得难见的难得难得难得的难得.
95	Society rewards you doing what other people want you to do.	社会奖励你做别人想要你做的事
96	You know, personas or titles, etc.	你知道,人物或头衔等等。
97	That's how we get all the applause.	这就是我们如何得到所有的掌声。
98	You know, that's why you see people on here going,	你知道,这就是为什么你看到 这里的人去,
99	I'm worth a billion dollars, right?	我值十亿,对吧?
100	That gets attention.	这引起了注意。
101	And individuation often requires letting go of that old part of you that has to die.	而分裂往往需要 放弃你那个要死的人
102	Disappointing people, standing alone in a crowd.	使人失望,独立于众.
103	And I'm obsessed with this lately because in a world of AI,	我最近沉迷于这个 因为在一个AI的世界里
104	where we can make our little phone our constant companion,	在那里我们可以让我们的小手机 作为常年的同伴,
105	the winners will be those who learn to be by themselves.	胜者将自行学习
106	And so Jung would say individuation does not just shut out one from the world,	所以郑会说 分化并不只是 关闭一个与世界,
107	but gathers the world to oneself.	但把世界聚集到自己身边
108	Which, you know, often begins for most of us in midlife,	你知道,我们中年时经常开始
109	like during crisis or burnout, when the persona story no longer works.	比如在危机或崩溃时 人物的故事不再起作用
110	And I've certainly had this.	我当然有这个
111	I was a journalist back in the day.	当时我是个记者
112	And I thought that was my mission.	我认为这是我的使命。
113	I mean, I really wanted to give you bad news from a teleprompter	我的意思是,我真的想给你 坏消息从一个远程提示器
114	every single day in a tight sheath dress.	每天穿着紧身衣
115	And when I look back on that and think that that was the highest level,	当我回过头来 觉得那是最高水平时
116	because I thought that meant that I was getting a ton of attention,	因为我认为这意味着 我得到了很多关注,
117	I realized that that was a persona I never wanted.	我意识到那是我从未想要的人
118	And so individuation, choosing yourself and necessary isolation,	选择自己和必要的孤立
119	well, that is the highest and most decisive experience.	这是最高和最决定性的经验。
120	So if you were doing analysis of Jung's work, you would note that because	所以,如果你在分析郑的工作, 你会注意到,因为
121	only when we are alone can we discover inner supports	只有独自一人才能发现内在的支撑
122	and the indestructible foundation of our being.	以及我们生命的坚不可摧的基础
123	I remember one time talking to Eckhart Tolle about this.	我记得有一次和埃克哈特·托尔谈过这件事
124	And he talked in circles around me.	他绕着我兜圈子
125	I could barely understand the man, actually.	其实我几乎听不懂这个人
126	And I got so discombobulated talking to him because he would use words	我和他说话时很不爽 因为他会说话
127	like our indestructible foundation.	就像我们的坚不可摧的基础
128	What the fuck does that mean?	这他妈是什么意思?
129	But actually, all he was really saying is that in order to figure out who you are,	但实际上,他真正想说的是 为了了解你是谁,
130	you have to be self-sufficient.	你必须自给自足。
131	And you have to stand apart from the crowd and go your own way.	亦得远离众生自在行.
132	And the more you mess yourself with your wife, your husband, your partner,	你越惹上你的妻子 你的丈夫 你的伴侣
133	that best friend, the more we go by ourselves, the more we serve the greater purpose.	那最好的朋友,我们越走自己, 我们越服务更大的目标。
134	And that is, I think, something that most people don't realize.	这是,我想,这是大多数人没有意识到的。
135	They think about loneliness as a bad word these days.	他们现在认为孤独是坏话
136	Loneliness versus being unable to be by yourself.	孤独与无法独自生活
137	There's a sharp line between solitude and alienation.	孤独和异化之间有着尖锐的界限.
138	Loneliness does not come from having no people.	孤独不是来自没有人民。
139	About yourself is what Young would say.	关于你自己,杨会说。
140	But from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself	但因为无法沟通 似乎很重要的事情
141	or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible.	或持有他人认为不可接受的某些意见。
142	So for him, basically, choosing yourself means you choose loneliness.	所以对他来说,基本上,选择你自己意味着你选择孤独。
143	And you're OK when your old friends don't want to hear what you have to say.	当你的老朋友不想听你说的话时 你就没事了
144	That's not a bug.	这不是虫子。
145	This is what the cost of authenticity is.	这就是真实性的代价。
146	And so I think choosing yourself means I am what I choose to become.	所以我认为选择自己意味着我选择成为自己。
147	I am not what happened to me, a set of circumstances, but a choice.	我不是发生在我身上的, 一系列的情况,而是一个选择。
148	And so I've been obsessing about this because I think your past is like raw material.	所以我一直沉迷于这件事 因为我觉得你的过去就像原料
149	But the self is what you actively become.	但是,自我是 你积极成为。
150	And this dovetails with the modern, you know, Youngian theme that	这与现代,你知道的, 年轻的主题,
151	when you finally choose yourself, your entire life changes.	当你最终选择了自己, 你的整个生活会改变。
152	And I've felt this before.	我以前也有这种感觉
153	Like, I'm sure you felt it too.	喜欢,我相信 你也感觉到了。
154	A moment where you stopped living for external validation	当你停止生活 外部验证
155	and start acting from an inner center.	并开始从一个内部中心行动。
156	And I don't think he's studied enough.	我觉得他学习不够
157	These days, it's like we follow whoever has the most followers online and listen to them.	这些天,就像我们跟随谁 谁有最大的追随者在线 并倾听他们。
158	But I like to go back to the greats because he would emphasize that when you turn inward	但我喜欢回到伟大,因为他会强调 当你向内转
159	and you dialogue with your inner parts, then you actually activate	然后与内部对齐 然后启动
160	{\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}遇见这个内在人物
161	That your inner work is only possible with real alone time.	你的内在工作只能靠时间
162	And so, like, individuation is not self-help.	所以,像, 分化不是自助。
163	It's, you know, modern culture often makes mistakes,	现代文化经常犯错误
164	like thinking that you have to have status, productivity, optimization.	就像认为你必须拥有地位,生产力,优化。
165	And Young would say, if you're only stacking achievements	杨会说,如果你只是堆积成就
166	without integrating your inner contradictions, the part of you you hate,	不融合你的内心矛盾, 你的部分讨厌,
167	you actually are just inflating the ego.	你其实只是夸大了自我
168	And a simple way to recognize this is,	一个简单的方法来认识这一点是,
169	you stop needing approval for decisions that matter.	你不再需要批准决定了
170	You can hold paradox.	你可以持有悖论。
171	So, I can be strong and I can be kind.	所以,我可以坚强和善良。
172	I can have a ton of ambition and I could pull back and have restraint.	我可以有一吨的野心, 我可以拉回和克制。
173	There's a quote I love that's,	有一句我喜欢的话
174	you cannot be peaceful unless you're capable of great violence.	你不可能是和平的 除非你有能力 巨大的暴力。
175	That's because it is restraint.	那是因为它是克制。
176	You have the capability.	你有这种能力
177	Imagine if every time you had a big decision,	想象一下,如果你每次有 一个大的决定,
178	you could call an emergency board meeting,	你可以召集紧急董事会会议
179	but the board was entirely in your own head.	但董事会完全在你自己的脑子里
180	Not psychosis.	不是精神错乱
181	We're not crazy people talking like psychopaths.	我们不是疯子 说话像精神病人。
182	But Young, he thought when you look inward, honestly,	但是,年轻,他想 当你向内看,说实话,
183	you don't have like one self.	你没有像一个自我。
184	You have a cast of characters.	你有一大堆角色
185	They have different drives and different fears.	他们有不同的驱动器 和不同的恐惧。
186	And I know you guys know what I'm talking about.	我知道你们知道我在说什么
187	And when you talk with them, it's part of becoming who you really are.	当你和他们谈话时,这是成为真正的你的一部分。
188	And that's why silence is so important	这就是为什么沉默如此重要
189	and why you have to learn to speak to yourself	和为什么你必须学会 自己说话
190	if you want to be truly heard.	如果你想被真正听到的话
191	So, most people make decisions by listening	所以,大多数人通过听
192	to whichever voice is the loudest that day.	在那日,无论哪一种声音是响亮的,
193	Usually fear.	通常恐惧。
194	But here's a better way.	但有一个更好的办法。
195	And how to run a board meeting with your own mind.	如何用你自己的思想来管理董事会会议.
196	Young style.	年轻的风格。
197	So, step one, you name the voices.	第一步,你给声音取名
198	So, when you're stuck on a decision,	所以,当你坚持一个决定,
199	relationship, move, business, or whatever,	关系,移动,业务,或什么的,
200	you grab a notebook and you write down three inner voices	你拿一个笔记本 写下三个内在的声音
201	you can actually feel arguing.	你实际上可以感觉到争论。
202	For instance, you might have the visionary,	比如说,你也许有远见
203	which is like obsessed with upside,	好像迷恋颠倒一样,
204	adventure, impact, maybe arrogance.	冒险,撞击,也许傲慢。
205	The operator cares about risk, logistics, downside.	运营商关心风险,物流,下行.
206	The protector worried about your reputation, safety.	保护者担心你的声誉和安全
207	Don't embarrass me.	别让我难堪
208	Then I don't want you to overthink it.	那就别太想了
209	Just name the three that are clearly present for you.	说出这三人的明显身份
210	And then step two, let each one speak uncensored.	然后第二步,让每个 说未经审查。
211	So, give each voice its own page, I always think.	所以,我总是认为,给每个声音自己的页面。
212	At the top of the page, I like to write,	在第一页,我喜欢写,
213	when I'm making a big decision and I'm really scared, the visionary.	当我做一个大的决定, 我真的很害怕, 有远见的人。
214	Then I let it talk.	然后我让它说。
215	What does it want?	它想怎样?
216	What is excited by?	兴奋什么?
217	Why this decision is a once in a lifetime opportunity for it.	为什么这个决定是一生中一次的机会.
218	Second page, the operator, I list all the constraints,	第二页 接线员 我列出所有的限制
219	everything that could break, everything that would have to be true.	一切能破一切如来必得真实.
220	Then the third, the protector.	然后是第三,保护者。
221	Let it confess exactly what it's afraid of	让它坦白自己害怕什么
222	and language a bit like a scared parent.	和语言有点像一个害怕的父母。
223	The only rules, no judgment.	唯一的规则,没有判断力。
224	Don't try to sound clever, you're just letting the cast speak.	别装聪明,你只是让铸币局说话
225	And then step three, become the chair of the board.	然后第三步,成为董事会主席.
226	Now you switch roles.	现在换个角色
227	You're no longer any one of these selves inside of you.	你不再是你内心的任何人了
228	You're not the visionary, you're not the operator,	你不是有远见的人,你不是操作员,
229	you're not the protector, you're the self, the chair of the board.	你不是保护者 你是自我 董事会主席
230	Young was pointing out when he talked about an individuation	杨在说要分身的时候就指出
231	that the part of you that can hold all of these perspectives	你们中可以持有所有这些观点的部分
232	without collapsing, that's the whole of you.	没有崩溃,这就是你的全部。
233	And read the three pages.	而读三篇.
234	Write a little synthesis that starts with,	写一个小合成开始,
235	here's what we're actually going to do and why.	这就是我们真正要做的事和原因。
236	And like, I always find I need parts of all those little parts of me,	喜欢,我总是发现 我需要我所有的小部分,
237	the scary little girl inside, the big bad boss, you know, the wife.	里面那个可怕的小女孩 那个大坏老板 那个妻子
238	And so you might honor the visionary's upside.	这样你就可以尊重 远见卓识的颠倒。
239	You might honor the operator's constraints	你可能会遵守操作员的限制
240	and give the protector a contingency plan.	并给予保护者一个应急计划。
241	Or you might realize the protector's running the show	或者你可能意识到保护者在主持这个节目
242	and consciously decide not to let fear make the call.	并且有意识地决定不要让恐惧发出呼吁。
243	So what you've just done is stop one inner voice from hijacking your life.	所以你刚刚做的就是阻止一个内在的声音 劫持你的生命。
244	And so, you know, whichever mood is the loudest	所以,你知道,无论哪一种情绪是最响亮的
245	is typically the one that drives what you do.	通常是驱动你的工作。
246	And with this little five minute exercise, you've changed your life.	有了这5分钟的锻炼 你改变了你的生活
247	这不仅仅是Instagram的引文。
248	So next time you're paralyzed on a decision	所以,下一次你瘫痪 在决定
249	and you're not sure if you're going to be heard,	你不确定你是否会被听到,
250	I often wonder if it's actually that I am not going to listen to myself on this.	我常常在想,我是否真的不想听自己的话。
251	So do me a favor.	帮我个忙
252	Don't send another panicked text to five friends.	别再给五个朋友发一个惊慌的短信
253	Call a board meeting.	召集董事会会议.
254	Be quiet.	安静
255	Let them speak.	让他们说话。
256	And this isn't just Jung, by the way, who realized the power of dark solitude.	顺便说一句,这不仅仅是郑, 他意识到黑暗孤独的力量。
257	One of my favorite philosophers of all time, Nietzsche,	我最喜欢的哲学家之一 尼采
258	talked about solitude as power not lack.	说孤独是力量而不是缺乏。
259	And so he says on the long lines of,	所以他在长话短说
260	my solitude doesn't depend on the presence or absence of people.	我的孤独并不取决于是否有人存在
261	On the contrary, I hate who steals my solitude.	相反,我讨厌谁偷我的孤独。
262	Without it, an exchange offering me true company,	没有它,一个交换给我真正的公司,
263	which basically means if I am going to spend time with you,	基本上意味着如果我要跟你在一起
264	you better be better than spending time with myself.	你最好好过和我在一起
265	And he talks about a thing I'm sure you feel in your life,	他谈到一件事 我敢肯定你在你的生活中的感觉,
266	which is are you bored because you're trying to entertain yourself?	你无聊是因为你想娱乐自己吗?
267	Or can you also guard yourself against the most refreshing drought	或者你也可以保护自己 防止最新鲜的干旱
268	from your own innermost fountain, he would say,	从你内心深处的喷泉里, 他会说,
269	meaning like, what if you spent time alone and that actually felt like the elixir?	意思是,如果你花时间 独自一人, 而实际上感觉像灵药?
270	He has this book where he has one of the main characters say this line that I love.	他有一本书 其中他有一个主角 说这行我喜欢。
271	He's like, flee my friend into your solitude.	他像,逃离我的朋友 进入你的孤独。
272	I see you dazed by the noise of great men and stung by the stings of the little.	吾见大士之噪而昏,小人之刺而昏.
273	It's so good.	妙绝.
274	And why I love this is because how often are we all that?	我为什么喜欢这 是因为我们有多频繁?
275	How often do we put something in our ear just to entertain us,	我们经常把东西放进耳朵里 来娱乐我们
276	not to listen to our own voice?	不听我们自己的声音?
277	And there is a solitude inside of great men he talks about	他所谈论的伟人内心很孤独
278	that is inaccessible to praise or blame.	这是无法称赞或指责的。
279	You know, when I had to start over and change my career entirely,	当我不得不重新开始 彻底改变我的事业时
280	the world was really loud.	这个世界真的很响亮。
281	Everybody was telling me, how could you leave this job?	大家都在告诉我 你怎么能离开这个工作?
282	How could you go do a new thing?	你怎么能去做新的事情吗?
283	You work at the highest levels of finance.	你在最高财政级别工作。
284	And I had to find a part of me that like inner part inside of yourself that listens to no one.	我不得不找到我的一部分 就像你内心的内在 倾听任何人。
285	And I guess I want to ask you kind of a tough question,	我想问你一个棘手的问题
286	which is when was the last time you did that?	这是什么时候 你最后一次这样做?
287	When did you sit truly alone, as the kids say these days, raw dog in life,	孩子们说,你什么时候一个人坐着的?
288	without any entertainment?	没有娱乐?
289	Because the danger and test of being alone he often talks about	因为孤独的危险和考验 他经常谈论
290	is that everything that you carry within you grows,	你所携带的一切,都是生长的,
291	including that inner beast inside of you.	包括你内心的野兽
292	So I know solitude isn't automatically good	所以,我知道孤独是不 自动好
293	because it magnifies whatever the fuck is in there, you know?	因为它放大了他妈的 里面的东西,你知道吗?
294	And so oftentimes we think about loneliness poorly	我们常常觉得孤独
295	because we haven't actually integrated who we are.	因为我们还没有真正整合我们是谁。
296	No founder exemplifies the path of solitude like Sarah Blakely.	没有创始人能像莎拉·布莱克利那样说明孤独之路.
297	You know, shapewear brand Spanx, billionaire, huge business.	你知道,造型品牌Spanx, 亿万富翁,巨大的生意。
298	But her path was lonely.	但她的路很孤独
299	Investors told her Spanx was dumb.	投资者告诉她Spanx是愚蠢的。
300	The fashion insiders were completely dismissive	时尚界的内线完全不屑一顾
301	and manufacturers couldn't meet her small early quotas.	制造商无法满足她的早期小配额。
302	She literally got told no continuously throughout her entire career.	她整个职业生涯都从未被告知
303	But she didn't workshop the idea.	但她没有想出这个主意
304	She didn't pull friends.	她没有拉朋友。
305	She didn't go listen to people on the internet	她没在网络上听别人说话
306	or any of the people that told her no.	或任何人 谁告诉她不。
307	Instead, she literally cut the feet out of pantyhose in her apartment alone	相反,她从她的公寓里 把裤子的脚割了出来
308	and scaled it into a unicorn company.	缩放成独角兽公司
309	And like it's a perfect example of this solitude inaccessible to praise or blame.	这就像一个完美的例子 表明这种孤独无法被称赞或指责。
310	The ability to think and build without constantly responding to other people's reactions.	思考和建设的能力而不不断地回应别人的反应.
311	That kind of solitude is rare now.	这种孤独是罕见的了。
312	Most creators are exposed to feedback constantly.	大多数创作者不断受到反馈.
313	The result is work shaped by reaction rather than conviction.	结果是由反应而不是信念决定的工作。
314	And this is why newsletters still matter.	这就是为什么通讯仍然很重要。
315	A newsletter lets you develop ideas over time in your own voice without immediate judgment.	一份通讯允许你用自己的声音来发展想法,而无需立即作出判断。
316	And Beehive has built around the principles	蜂巢围绕原则建立了
317	that your voice deserves direct distribution, audience ownership, monetization.	你的声音应该直接传播 观众所有权 货币化
318	I've been using Beehive for years.	我用Beehive已经很多年了
319	And Beehive has taught me one thing.	贝希夫教我一件事
320	As a great creator, I want complete control.	作为一个伟大的创造者,我想要完全的控制。
321	A place to build deliberately, grow steadily,	一个有意建设,稳步增长的地方,
322	and eventually turn this into my own billion dollar business.	最终把这件事变成我自己的十亿美元生意
323	Whether you are looking for the million dollar business that you have,	无论你是否在寻找那百万美金的生意
324	or you just want your voice to be heard to the mini	或者你只想听到你的声音
325	and to stand out from this world where other people allow you to speak or not.	并站在这个世界上 其他人允许你说话或不说话。
326	That is why I'm obsessed with Beehive and why I invested in this company.	这就是为什么我迷恋 Beehive 和为什么我投资在这个公司。
327	So if you don't already have a newsletter, go to beehive.com and start one.	所以,如果你还没有通讯, 去蜂窝.com并开始一个。
328	If you do already have a newsletter, you should probably switch to beehive.com	如果你已经有通讯,你也许应该切换到蜂窝.com
329	and use the code cody30 for 30% off for three months.	并使用代码cody30 30%的关闭三个月。
330	I can safely say to you that this business is one of my favorite in the world.	我可以肯定地告诉你,这行是我在世界上最喜欢的一行。
331	If I could own more of it, I would.	如果我能拥有更多的,我会的。
332	It's also spelled funny because, you know, we're weird here.	拼写也很有趣,因为,你知道, 我们在这里很奇怪。
333	这是B -E
334	So beehive, two I's, no E at the end, dot com.	所以蜂巢,两个我, 没有E在结尾,点com。
335	Because the truth is, being alone and writing	因为事实上,一个人写作
336	is probably one of the most powerful things you can do.	这可能是你所能做的最强大的事情之一。
337	And so Nietzsche talks about this at length.	所以尼采长篇大论
338	For him, being constantly immersed in the crowd	对他来说,经常被人群浸泡
339	means you're not actually thinking.	意思是你没有在思考
340	You're running shared scripts.	你正在运行共享脚本。
341	Solitude is how you reclaim original thought.	孤独是恢复原创思想的方式
342	And as he would say, drink from your own cistern,	他会说,喝你自己的水池,
343	which is basically a mechanism for holding water or a drink.	它基本上是一种机制 持有水或饮料。
344	But I think about this a lot because right now I bet you can imagine.	但我想了很多 因为现在我打赌你能想象
345	I know, for instance, I love my mom dearly.	我知道,比如说,我非常爱我妈妈。
346	If she's listening, I'm sorry, mom.	如果她在听 对不起 妈妈
347	But she doesn't understand why I want to be alone so much.	但她不明白我为什么那么想独处
348	In fact, like the other weekend, they're like,	事实上,像另一个周末,他们喜欢,
349	we want to come with you next when we go to our beach house.	当我们去海滩的房子时,我们想跟你一起走
350	And I'm so busy right now that the thought of another human	我现在忙得想着另一个人类
351	talking to me during the weekend when I am on my own time	在周末跟我说话 当我在自己的时间
352	is actually physically painful to me.	其实是身体痛苦的我。
353	Have you ever been in that moment where you're like,	你曾经在那一刻 你喜欢,
354	I just need to be alone more?	我只是需要一个人吗?
355	And so I've gotten used to this.	所以我习惯了这个
356	And it is going to piss off people around you.	它会惹怒你周围的人。
357	It pisses off my family often.	它经常惹恼我的家人。
358	They're like, you have time.	他们喜欢,你有时间。
359	We can come.	我们可以去。
360	I'm like, I know.	我很喜欢,我知道。
361	The problem is that I really love to be myself.	问题是我真的很喜欢做我自己
362	Because as he would say, in loneliness,	因为他会说,在孤独中,
363	the lonely one eats himself.	孤独的一个人吃自己。
364	In a crowd, the many eat him.	在人群中,许多人吃掉了他.
365	Now choose.	现在选择。
366	So either you face yourself or you're consumed by the herd.	所以,要么你面对自己 要么你被群。
367	There is no neutral.	没有中立。
368	And most writers or Jungian followers or philosophers	而大多数作家或正派追随者或哲学家
369	phrase it this way.	用这种方式表达
370	What isolates us is not literal distance from others,	孤立我们的东西 与他人的距离并不明显
371	but distance from expressing who we really are.	但距离表达我们的真实身份
372	So when you close that gap by choosing yourself	所以当你通过选择自己来缩小差距时
373	and speaking from the self, you naturally become less reactive	从自我来说,你自然会变得不那么被动
374	to surface lights.	到表面灯光。
375	You're just harder to mess with.	你只是更难惹。
376	This is how you become that unreactive leader	这就是你如何成为那个不反应的领袖
377	we've talked about in other videos.	我们在其他视频里谈过了
378	You do what Yang, one of my favorite mentors,	你做什么,杨,我最喜欢的导师之一
379	taught me, which is pulling yourself on the balcony.	教我,这是拉你自己在阳台上。
380	That is a Jungian thought, which is how do I,	这是一个正宗的想法, 这就是我如何,
381	in the midst of chaos, if I am on a battlefield right now,	在混乱中 如果我现在在战场上
382	imagine any time my emotions crazy,	想象一下,每当我的情绪疯狂,
383	I'm fighting with people, I don't like what's happening,	我和别人打架 我不喜欢发生什么
384	I imagine a battlefield around me,	我想象周围是战场
385	and I imagine myself going and standing up on a balcony	我想象自己站在阳台上
386	and looking within it.	看着里面
387	This is how you pull yourself out.	这就是你如何退出。
388	And the only way you can do this,	只有这样你才能做到这一点,
389	not become a reactive human who has no ability	没有能力成为被动的人类
390	to control your emotions, who acts unreasonably,	控制你的情绪, 谁不合理的行为,
391	who gets triggered and fired up, is to go into solitude.	被触发并被激怒的人 会陷入孤独之中
392	That's where you access that which is incomparable in you.	在那里,你访问 与你无比。
393	And I think it is hard because it's dangerous	我认为这是很难的,因为它的危险
394	and it intensifies whatever is inside you.	它能强化你体内的一切。
395	But if we know that this is the most important thing	但如果我们知道这是最重要的事情
396	that we can do, then it's really just what Jung says.	我们能做的, 那么它真的只是郑说。
397	I am what I choose to become.	我是我选择成为的
398	And I become that when I am by myself.	当我一个人的时候,我就会变成这样。
399	Nietzsche also talks about the higher type goes alone.	尼采也讲到更高型号独自去.
400	And so this person is indifferent to praise or blame	所以这个人对赞美或责怪漠不关心
401	because he answers to his own measure, not the herd.	因为他是按自己的标准,而不是按群的。
402	This is even Robert Greene talks about non-reactivity	罗伯特·格林甚至说到不反应
403	and resentment and how resentment is physiologically ruinous.	和怨恨, 和怨恨是如何在生理上毁灭。
404	The really strong see resentment as beneath them.	真正的强者将怨恨看成是在他们下面
405	The weak are consumed by it.	弱者为之消耗.
406	And so you'll find weak-minded individuals,	这样你就会发现弱智的人
407	they hold resentment.	他们有怨恨。
408	And you can change if you're weak-minded now,	如果你现在心智虚弱 你可以改变
409	you can change that.	你可以改变这一点。
410	But strategic non-reaction,	但战略上的不反应,
411	which I kind of think of like a bear hibernating,	我觉得这就像一只熊在冬眠,
412	like I might be having some feels	就像我可能有些感觉
413	while you're talking to me for a second.	当你跟我说话的时候
414	I might really have some emotion,	我也许真的有些情绪,
415	but I kind of think about it like I'm gonna talk	但我有种想起来 就像我要说话
416	to that bear in a second,	熊一秒钟,
417	but I'm gonna be here unemotionally in the meantime.	但我会在这里不热情地 同时。
418	And it's sort of funny because like the team the other day,	这有点好笑 因为和前几天的球队一样
419	I was doing a photo shoot	我当时正在拍照
420	and there were snakes crawling all over me	有蛇爬满了我
421	and tarantulas and scorpions and hissing cockroaches,	狼、蝎子、蟑螂,
422	my least favorite for the record.	我最不喜欢的纪录。
423	And I don't like snakes and I don't like tarantulas	我不喜欢蛇 不喜欢狼蛛
424	and I don't like scorpions and I don't like cockroaches.	我不喜欢蝎子 我不喜欢蟑螂
425	I don't like any of these.	我不喜欢这些
426	And I especially don't like them at the one point	我特别不喜欢他们
427	where the woman goes, sorry, the snakes are smelly	女人去的地方,对不起,蛇的味道
428	because they peed all over themselves in the box	因为他们尿在盒子里
429	while we put these huge pythons on top of you.	我们把这些巨大的蟒蛇放在你身上
430	I was not thrilled nor was I thrilled	我不兴奋,也不兴奋
431	when one of the pythons literally slithered up	当其中一只蟒从字面上割开
432	and hit my face with its face.	用它的脸打我的脸
433	That's not thrilling for me.	这对我来说并不令人兴奋。
434	But I was like, the team was like, you're so calm.	但我觉得,球队 喜欢,你是如此平静。
435	It didn't even bother you.	它甚至没有打扰你。
436	I go, no, I mean, I have all the feelings about it.	我走了,不,我的意思是,我有所有的感觉。
437	I just let it hibernate	我只是让它冬眠
438	because I know I can come back and deal with that.	因为我知道我能回来处理这件事
439	And so I think you can just,	所以我认为你可以...
440	you become more of who you want to be,	你更成为你想成为的人,
441	that strong leader in a sea of waves of emotion	在一波波的情感中 坚强的领袖
442	when you go to isolation	当你去隔离
443	because that comes with consciousness	因为这与意识有关
444	instead of lashing out at the world for not mirroring you.	而不是因为你没有照镜子而大喊大叫
445	I think loneliness actually comes	我觉得孤独真的来了
446	from not being able to express what matters.	从不能表达什么重要。
447	Okay, so I want to talk about something	好,我想谈谈
448	that maybe I'm getting close to.	或许我快接近了
449	I guess I'm midlife now.	我想我现在是中年了。
450	But during midlife, the psyche asks a brutal question,	但是在中年 心理医生问了一个残酷的问题
451	which is, is this all you are?	这就是你的全部吗?
452	When the answer is no, the persona begins to crack,	当答案是否定时 人开始崩溃
453	meaning when you know that you're capable of more.	意思是当你知道你有能力更多。
454	And the crack shows up as you're unhappy.	和裂缝出现,当你不高兴。
455	You're unhappy at life.	你对生活很不高兴
456	You're impulsive.	你是冲动。
457	You're longing for meaning, not status.	你渴望的是意义 不是地位
458	And this is why midlife crises often look irrational.	这就是为什么中年危机往往看起来不合理。
459	They aren't about logic, at least according to Jung.	至少据郑说,它们不是关于逻辑的
460	They're about identity starvation.	他们是关于身份饥饿。
461	So the crisis happens	所以危机就发生了
462	because the old identity worked super well.	因为旧身份运作得很好
463	And now all of a sudden there's some fissure that's happened	现在突然发生了一些裂缝
464	and it's obsolete.	已经过时了
465	So what I try to think about is	所以,我试图思考的是
466	what if this is your opportunity, not your disaster?	如果这是你的机会,而不是你的灾难呢?
467	If somewhere right now you're struggling	如果你现在在某处挣扎
468	in some aspect of your life,	在你生活的某些方面,
469	you're having a midlife crisis.	中年危机
470	I had a quarter life crisis in my career.	我职业生涯中经历了四分之一的生活危机.
471	I'm sure I'll have another midlife crisis.	我肯定还会有另一个中年危机
472	I'll have to change something out.	我得换件东西出去
473	And every single time I've had one of those,	每次我吃这种东西时
474	it's the opportunity of a lifetime.	这是一生的机会。
475	What if it's yours?	如果是你的怎么办?
476	I want to talk about burnout,	我想谈谈烧焦的事
477	which he would describe as chronic shadow suppression,	他说那是长期的阴影抑制,
478	which basically means burnout is not you're overworked.	也就是说你没有过度劳累
479	Plenty of people work hard without burning out.	很多人努力工作而不烧掉
480	So what's the difference?	那有什么区别?
481	Why can this person work forever	为什么这个人能永远工作
482	and that person hates their life at the same job?	那个人讨厌他们在同一份工作上的生活?
483	Well, it happens when you live too long against your nature.	好吧,它发生 当你活得太久 与你的自然。
484	You suppress parts of yourself to maintain this identity	你压抑自己的一部分来保持这个身份
485	and your shadow does all the labor	和你的影子 做所有的劳动
486	while the persona takes the credit.	人则取功德.
487	So like common shadow suppressions that lead to burnout,	所以,像常见的阴影抑制 导致燃烧,
488	suppressed anger, you're exhausted.	压抑的愤怒,你累坏了。
489	Suppressed ambition, you're resentful.	抑制野心,你讨厌。
490	Suppressive vulnerability, you feel nothing inside.	难以抑制的弱点,你内心没有感觉
491	Suppressed creativity, depression disguised as fatigue.	被压制的创造力,抑郁伪装成疲劳.
492	Young warned that ignored parts of the psyche,	年轻的警告,忽略了部分精神,
493	they don't disappear, they turn into symptoms.	它们不会消失,会变成症状
494	So burnout is actually your psyche saying,	所以,燃烧其实是你的精神 说,
495	I cannot keep carrying what you refuse to acknowledge.	我不能一直带着你拒绝承认的东西
496	An identity collapse is like your ego losing control.	身份崩溃就像你的自我失去控制
497	And so I think that feels terrifying for all of us	所以我觉得这对我们所有人来说都是可怕的
498	because it removes the story used to explain yourself.	因为它删除了用来解释自己的故事.
499	A lot of times in like the literature I've seen on Jung,	很多时候,像文献 我见过关于郑,
500	people describe it as, I don't know who I am anymore.	人们形容它, 我不知道我是谁了。
501	Nothing I built feels real.	我所创造的一切都不是真实的
502	And this happens when we've really confused our ego	当我们把自尊心弄糊涂的时候 就会这样
503	with the persona and your unconscious is saying,	与人格 和你无意识的说,
504	these two things cannot live inside me at the same time.	这两种东西不能同时生活在我体内
505	如油 water水.
506	You just cannot make them come together.	你只是不能让他们在一起。
507	And so this old meaning kind of dissolves	所以,这个旧的意思 那种溶解
508	and this isn't madness.	这不是疯狂。
509	It's sort of disorientation maybe before reorientation.	也许在调整方向之前 有点迷茫
510	And I think not enough people today	我觉得今天的人还不够多
511	because we can be so distracted,	因为我们能分心
512	like you might not even realize the phase that you're in.	就像你可能甚至没有意识到 你所处的阶段。
513	And I'm not a psychologist.	我不是心理学家
514	I'm not saying you're not depressed if you're depressed	我不是说你不抑郁 如果你沮丧
515	and you should go and talk to doctors	你应该去找医生谈谈
516	and I'm not giving medical advice.	我不给医疗建议。
517	All I'm saying is what I think some of the best philosophers	我只是说,我认为一些最好的哲学家
518	of our time and the best psychologists of our time	和我们时代最好的心理学家
519	have thought about this.	考虑过了
520	And how we can reorganize around the self instead of the ego.	我们如何重组 围绕自我而不是自我。
521	And that's been one of, I think, the main crises	我想,这是主要危机之一
522	that often hit high performers.	经常打击高成绩者。
523	If you are a high performer, like I consider myself to be,	如果你是一个高水平的表演者, 像我认为自己是,
524	you actually have a higher likelihood	其实你的可能性更大
525	of this happening to you	这一切发生在你身上
526	because society overrewards competence.	因为社会过度奖励能力。
527	So we're really good at ignoring internal signs.	所以我们很擅长忽略内部迹象。
528	Your persona is highly reinforced,	你的个性很强壮
529	aka I am this because I got money and praise and authority	我之所以如此,是因为我有钱,有赞美和权威
530	and likes on the internet.	喜欢上网
531	But the unconscious doesn't give a fuck.	但无意识者无所施舍.
532	And so Young observed the more one-sided a personality becomes.	所以Young观察到一个性格越是片面
533	如果我太喜欢YouTube
534	or talking to people on a podcast	或者和播客交谈
535	and I stop listening to the other person	我不再听别人的话
536	and I make it all about myself,	我让这一切关于我自己,
537	well then the more violent the correction is going to be.	那么纠正会越激烈
538	And that explains why I've seen executives burn out	这解释了为什么我看到高管烧焦了
539	after making it.	之后,它做了它。
540	In fact, I just saw one flame out live.	事实上,我刚刚看到一个火焰熄灭。
541	And I remember watching and thinking this is an adult.	我记得我看着 觉得这是成年人。
542	This is a grown man flaming out.	这是一个成年人燃烧。
543	And I could tell why.	我能分辨出为什么
544	Because a lot of times if you mess with your persona,	因为很多时候如果你惹上你的人
545	they didn't fail.	他们没有失败。
546	They just, he outgrew the identity that got him there.	他们只是,他超越了 身份使他在那里。
547	An individuation doesn't ask you to destroy your life.	入涅盘不求毁命.
548	It asks you to stop living only as a role.	它要求你停止仅仅作为一个角色生活。
549	And if you won't do it,	如果你不这样做,
550	the universe will kick you in the ass another way.	宇宙会踢你的屁股 另一种方式。
551	That's what I found.	这就是我找到的。
552	So it basically is up to you or the universe.	所以基本上由你或宇宙决定。
553	Because if you don't build a life	因为如果你不建立生活
554	that reflects your internal truth,	反映了你的内心真相
555	and I don't mean that in a touchy feely sort of way,	我不是说那种敏感的感觉
556	I mean like you know.	我的意思是,像你知道的一样。
557	And if you don't do it,	如果你不这样做,
558	then you're not going to have external rewards anymore.	那你就不会再有外部奖励了
559	They will take it away.	他们会拿走的
560	And so at some point,	所以,在某些时候,
561	you are going to have to be the one to say no to the applause	你必须是那个拒绝掌声的人
562	to disappoint people to let old versions of your life die.	让人们失望 让旧版的你的生活死去。
563	Then Jung was explicit.	后来郑氏明言.
564	This is so good.	这太棒了
565	He says there is no coming to consciousness without pain.	他说没有痛苦就没有意识
566	Buddha might say there's no life without suffering.	佛或说无生无苦.
567	So what can we do to become one with the darkness as Bane says.	那么,我们可以做什么 成为一个与黑暗一样 正如班恩说。
568	So I stole some ideas from Jungian philosophers.	所以我偷了一些来自郑家哲学家的想法.
569	And there's a couple things that I do.	还有几件事我做。
570	You'll see it on my calendar.	你会在我的日历上看到它。
571	I have a weekly solitude block.	我有一个每周孤独的街区。
572	So schedule one to two hour block per week	所以,计划每周1至2小时的路程
573	with no phone, no meetings, no input.	没有电话,没有会议,没有输入。
574	You can journal.	你可以日记。
575	You can walk.	你可以走动。
576	You can read original sources, not on your phone.	你可以阅读原始来源,而不是在你的手机上。
577	You can think about one hard problem.	你可以考虑一个难题
578	Like what am I pretending not to know right now?	就像我现在假装不知道一样?
579	If I were not afraid of others opinions,	如果我不怕别人的意见
580	what would I do differently?	我该怎么办?
581	What's the one decision I'm avoiding	我所避免的决定是什么
582	because it will isolate me?	因为它会孤立我吗?
583	And your goal is to train what Nietzsche talks about	你的目标是训练尼采所说的
584	with your ability to drink out of your own cistern	以你的能力 喝出自己的蓄水池
585	instead of drinking from everybody else's.	而不是喝别人的酒
586	The principle is basically as Jung would say,	原则基本上如郑所言:
587	I am not what happened to me.	我和现在不一样了
588	I am what I chose to become.	我是我选择成为的。
589	And so this is going to demand your segment from the crowd.	所以,这需要你的一部分 从人群。
590	And how you do this is something called the self-contract.	你是如何做到的,这是所谓的自营合同。
591	So once per year, I like to do it in the new year.	所以,每年一次,我喜欢在新年这样做。
592	You could do it right now.	你现在可以做到这一点。
593	This is a good time of year.	这是一年中一个好时机。
594	I write a one page contract.	我写了一份一页的合同。
595	And you'll see it on my phone.	你会在我的手机上看到它。
596	I keep it in my notes.	我记在笔记里
597	And the contract typically for me goes something like this.	对我来说,合同一般是这样的
598	I choose to become the kind of person who,	我选择成为那种...
599	and I list three to five identity statements, not goals.	我列出3到5个身份声明 而不是目标
600	No, no, no, no.	释曰.
601	These are non-negotiables I will hold up	这些是没有商量余地的,我会提的
602	even if it costs me status, approval, or belonging.	即使它花费我的地位, 批准,或归属。
603	So that might be like, you know,	所以,这可能是像, 你知道,
604	I am the type of person that gets up every day	我是那种每天起床的人
605	at six in the morning.	早上六点
606	I am the type of person that always puts my husband first.	我是那种总是把我丈夫放在首位的人
607	I am the type of person that does the things I say I will do.	我是那种会做我说过的事的人
608	And when you sign it and date it and review it consistently,	当你签署它,约会它, 并反复地审查它的时候,
609	it'll help you shift from reactive identity	它能帮助你改变被动身份
610	to a chosen identity.	给一个选择的身份。
611	You are choosing to be this type of person.	你选择做这种人
612	And this is based on decades and decades	这基于几十年和几十年
613	and decades of theory and study.	和几十年的理论和研究。
614	Then you go to your inner advisory board.	然后你去你的内部顾问委员会。
615	And any time you're struggling,	每当你挣扎的时候
616	you talk to that inner cast of characters and voices,	你和那些内在的角色和声音说话
617	dialoguing with them.	和他们对话
618	That's that part of becoming whole again.	这就是重新变得完整的一部分。
619	And if you do this, then your whole life will change.	如果你这样做, 你的整个生活就会改变。
620	And so I think about it like,	所以我想着...
621	I have something called the chair exercise.	我有些东西叫椅子运动
622	So when I'm stuck on a decision,	所以当我被困在一个决定,
623	I write down my three inner voices.	我写下我三个内心的声音
624	You know, I call mine the visionary,	你知道,我称我的远见卓识,
625	the operator, and the protector.	操作者和保护者。
626	And I give each a page like we talked about.	我给每一页,就像我们谈论的。
627	I let it write uncentered.	我任由它写不以心为本.
628	And then that short synthesis comes up	然后,短综合出现
629	about what I'll actually do as the head	关于我会做什么 作为头
630	of the board of directors.	董事会。
631	And I execute on it.	我执行它。
632	That's it.	就这样
633	It's what you'll actually do and why.	这是你真正要做的,也是为什么。
634	And the goal, instead of being unconsciously driven	以及目标 而不是无意识的驱动
635	by one voice, is that you listen to all of them	由一个声音,是 你听所有他们
636	after you really say what type of person you want to become.	说出你想成为什么样的人
637	Because the sad part is nobody cares about your potential.	因为可悲的是没人在乎你的潜力
638	Potential is worthless.	潜力是没用的。
639	Everyone has potential.	每个人都有潜力。
640	And what separates the greats from the wannabes is reality.	将伟大和幻想分开的是现实。
641	Finished work, shipped products, written pages,	完成工作,运出的产品, 书面页面,
642	solved problems.	解决问题。
643	Stop talking about what you could do	别再说你能做什么了
644	and go create proof of what you did.	你应当为自己的行为而创造证据。
645	Even if all you do is just spend time alone with yourself,	即使你做的只是 单独与自己相处,
646	you might actually end up liking the person that you find.	你可能最终会喜欢你找到的人
647	Thank you guys for letting me yell at you today.	谢谢你今天让我骂你们
648	I have been reading a lot of these philosophers.	我读了很多这些哲学家。
649	And I keep coming back to this idea	我不断回到这个想法
650	that all the great philosophies have been written.	所有伟大的哲理都写好了
651	All the truths have been said before.	一切真言如前说.
652	And we go to this world where everything is just milk toast	我们到这个世界,一切都只是牛奶吐司
653	and oatmeal type advice.	和燕麦类建议。
654	And when you go back to somebody like Nietzsche or Young,	当你回到尼采或杨的身边
655	like their words hit you in the gut	就像他们的言语击中你的肠道
656	because they were from a non-PC era	因为他们来自非PC时代
657	where it didn't matter how you felt.	在那里,它没有关系 你的感觉。
658	You just had to listen.	你只需要听话
659	And there weren't that many voices that were loud.	也没有那么多声音响亮。
660	There weren't that many voices that were loud	没有那么多声音响亮
661	because there weren't that many platforms.	因为没有那么多平台
662	And so only a few got to really stand out.	所以只有少数人能真正出名。
663	And those few tended to be incredible and deep	而那些少数人 倾向于不可思议和深
664	and sophisticated.	和复杂的。
665	And so you'll have to tell me if you like this episode.	所以你得告诉我 如果你喜欢这集。
666	Because if you do, I'll do more like this.	因为如果你这样做,我会做更多的这样的。
667	We'll call them Cody yells at you.	我们会叫他们科迪骂你
668	Cody bullies you.	科迪欺负你。
669	Cody rants at you.	科迪骂你。
670	I don't know.	师曰.
671	Put it in the comments what you guys want.	把你们想要的东西放进评论里
672	But my hope for this podcast is you not only build	但我对播客的希望是 你不仅建造
673	a better business, a better bank account,	一个更好的业务, 一个更好的银行账户,
674	a better community, but a better brain and a better life.	一个更好的社区, 但更好的大脑和更好的生活。
675	Because what's the point of it all if we don't have that?	因为我们没有这些东西有什么意义?
676	We are sitting on a generational wealth creation event.	我们正坐在一个世代创造财富的活动上。
677	If you're here, this means you're a builder.	如果你在这里,这意味着你是一个建筑师。
678	As we're going through these next three days,	接下来的三天里
679	I want you to know that the American Dream starts with you	我要你知道美国梦是从你开始的
680	guys by our little Main Street revolution.	我们的小主街革命。
681	And then I just want to give you guys permission	然后,我只是想 给予你们许可
682	to take a leap of faith.	以获得一个信仰的飞跃。
683	If I knew then what I know now, I would probably do bigger deals.	如果我知道现在我所知道的, 我可能会做更大的交易。
684	It's given us an extra layer of security	它给了我们一层额外的安全
685	that we never would have had.	我们永远不会有。
686	I am so excited to introduce you to some ordinary people	我很高兴能给你介绍一些普通人
687	doing extraordinary things.	做不同寻常的事
688	We have to really take the time to make a meaningful connection.	我们确实需要时间来建立有意义的联系。
689	It's the fact that there is a lack of connection	是因为没有联系
690	and the person just wants to be seen, heard, and understood.	那个人只想被人看见、听到和理解
691	Thanks for taking the question.	谢谢你接问
692	Are there extra things that need to be done	还有别的事要做吗?
693	when trying to pay off bad debt?	当试图偿还坏账时?
694	Great question.	问得好
695	Ibuy business is so simple.	我买生意很简单
696	Even your grandmother understands them.	连你奶奶也懂
697	That's the game.	这就是游戏。
698	It's you and me versus the problem.	这是你和我对问题。
699	We're going to try to solve this together.	共求解脱.
700	I know how to build trust in a very advanced way.	我知道如何以非常先进的方式建立信任。
701	How does buying a business fit into the vision for your life?	买家生意怎么适合你的生活?
702	Today my goal is to teach you some fundamental skills	今天我的目标是教你一些基本技能
703	that you can use to accelerate your business.	可以用来加速你的生意。
704	If you make a promise in the mirror,	如果你在镜子里许下诺言
705	know that your word is freaking iron to you.	知道你的话对你来说是铁的
706	These people on Wall Street,	这些人在华尔街,
707	they want to keep the normal people out of the game.	他们想不让普通人参与游戏
708	Main Street millionaires are all around this world	主街百万富翁 遍布全世界
709	and it starts with each and every one of you.	从你们每个人开始
710	What are you waiting for?	你还在等什么?
711	Your path to ownership starts now.	你的拥有权之路现在开始
712	Get your ticket to join us on Main Street.	得到你的票 加入我们的主街。
713	Join us today!	今天加入我们!

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时间	英文	中文
0:00	Have you ever noticed how some people control every room without saying anything, and other	你有没有注意到 一些人如何控制 每一个房间 不说任何事情,
0:04	people have to be loud and seen to be heard, but the powerful ones just withdraw, they're	人必须大声而有声, 但强者只是退出,他们是
0:10	silent, and then you watch as people chase after them?	沉默,然后你看着人们追逐他们?
0:13	That is the point.	这就是重点。
0:14	How do you become the chased as opposed to the chaser?	你怎么成为追逐者而不是追逐者?
0:17	When you stop becoming available, the world reacts.	当你不再可用时,世界就会作出反应。
0:21	It wants to latch and grab on and pull you in, and that is when you attract.	它想要紧紧抓住并拉你进来, 当你吸引。
0:25	It's when you realize that you're inherently more powerful than you think, and you do not	当你意识到你天生的力量 比你想象的还要强大,你却没有
0:28	need everyone around you in order to get attention.	需要你身边的所有人来引起注意
0:32	In fact, you realize something really powerful, that we're going to break in from the greatest	事实上,你意识到一些非常强大的东西, 我们要突破最伟大的。

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1	Have you ever noticed how some people control every room without saying anything, and other	你有没有注意到 一些人如何控制 每一个房间 不说任何事情,
2	people have to be loud and seen to be heard, but the powerful ones just withdraw, they're	人必须大声而有声, 但强者只是退出,他们是
3	silent, and then you watch as people chase after them?	沉默,然后你看着人们追逐他们?
4	That is the point.	这就是重点。
5	How do you become the chased as opposed to the chaser?	你怎么成为追逐者而不是追逐者?
6	When you stop becoming available, the world reacts.	当你不再可用时,世界就会作出反应。
7	It wants to latch and grab on and pull you in, and that is when you attract.	它想要紧紧抓住并拉你进来, 当你吸引。
8	It's when you realize that you're inherently more powerful than you think, and you do not	当你意识到你天生的力量 比你想象的还要强大,你却没有
9	need everyone around you in order to get attention.	需要你身边的所有人来引起注意
10	In fact, you realize something really powerful, that we're going to break in from the greatest	事实上,你意识到一些非常强大的东西, 我们要突破最伟大的。
11	philosophers of all time, and learn in order to control the room and not be controlled	永远的哲学家,为了控制房间而学习,而不是被控制
12	around it.	围绕它。
13	There are a couple things that are going to be hard to hear here, but I think that is	有几件事情是很难听的 但我觉得
14	the entire point, and the first one is, you are not alone enough with your thoughts and	整个问题,第一点是, 你不够孤独与你的想法和
15	creations to build the life you say you want.	创造来建立你想要的生活
16	You'll realize eventually, you do not have enough solitude in your life, and your work	你最终会意识到 你的生活和工作 都不够孤独
17	is struggling for it.	正在为此而奋斗。
18	You need to sit alone in the darkness and watch as the world comes to you.	你得独自坐在黑暗中 看着世界降临你
19	I go back to that clip of Bane from Batman.	我回到蝙蝠侠的班恩的片段
20	Oh, you think darkness is your ally?	你以为黑暗是你的盟友吗?
21	You merely adopted the dark.	你只是收养了黑暗。
22	I was born in it, molded by it.	我出生在其中,由它塑造。
23	Literally all of history's greatest minds embraced solitude.	从字面上讲,所有历史最伟大的思想 都拥抱孤独。
24	Long walks, isolated studios, late nights, early mornings, strict routines.	长途跋涉,与世隔绝的工作室,深夜,清晨,严格例行公事.
25	You have to deliberately strip away the noise of the external world to examine the internal	你必须故意剥去外界的噪音 来检查内部
26	one.	一个
27	This is famous all the way from Nietzsche to Bukowski.	从尼采到布科斯基,这都是著名的.
28	You create space to process the chaos.	你创造了处理混乱的空间。
29	So we're going to talk about something we've never talked about on this podcast before,	所以我们要谈一些我们以前从未谈过的事
30	but I consider the cornerstone of my success, and the greatest builders of all time success,	但我认为我成功的基石 和有史以来最伟大的建设者,
31	learning to master being alone.	学会独自一人
32	I mean, the great philosophers and psychologists of our time have realized this, like Carl	我的意思是,我们时代的伟大哲学家和心理学家 已经意识到这一点,像卡尔
33	Young, who talks about what happens when you withdraw from others.	年轻,谁谈论会发生什么 当你退出他人。
34	You then see who is irritated, who comes after you, who doesn't allow it.	然后看谁烦恼,谁追你,谁不允许.
35	Priceless information.	无价资讯.
36	This isn't about turning your back on the world.	这与你背弃世界无关
37	It's not about turning away from your loved ones.	这不是要抛弃你的亲人
38	This is about choosing yourself.	这是关于选择自己。
39	2026's first lesson is this is not the year of explanation.	2026年的第一个教训是,这不是解释的年份.
40	It is the year of execution.	这是处决的年份。
41	Less talking, less chasing, more building.	少说话,少追,多建楼.
42	Let others wonder what you are doing.	让别人知道你在做什么
43	Let silence be your announcement.	让你安静点
44	Young would call this individuation, which is the movement from living as a role, so	年轻人会称它为"异化",即从生活中扮演的角色的运动,所以
45	what society, family, culture expects you, to living as self, what is authentically you.	社会、家庭、文化都希望你 以自我为生 真正意义上的你
46	It's not self-improvement nonsense.	这不是自我改进的废话。
47	It's self-integration.	谓自性融.
48	So Young would say the privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.	所以杨会说一生的特权 就是成为真正的你
49	That's so good.	赞曰.
50	Because you can't manipulate someone who likes being alone.	因为你不能操纵一个喜欢一个人的人
51	The psyche, according to Young, works like this.	据杨所说,心理医生是这样工作的
52	Quick map.	快图.
53	Ego.	爱果.
54	Your conscious identity.	你的意识身份。
55	What you say when asked who are you.	问汝何人时如何.
56	Persona.	个人
57	The mask you wear to function socially.	你戴的面具能发挥社交功能
58	Think titles, reputations, identities.	思考标题,名声,身份.
59	Shadow.	阴影
60	The parts you disown or repress.	你脱离或压制的部分。
61	Anger, ambition, vulnerability when we shove it down deep inside.	愤怒 野心 脆弱 当我们把它推向深处
62	Anima, which is the inner opposite.	阿尼玛,这是内在相反。
63	So feminine and men, masculine and women.	女人和男人 男人和女人都一样
64	Young's original framing.	杨的原始设定。
65	Symbolizing traits you haven't integrated.	象征你还没有融入的特质
66	And then self, the totality of the psyche, which is conscious plus unconscious.	然后是自我, 整个心理, 意识和无意识。
67	The true center.	真实中心.
68	So individuation is the ego's gradual alignment to self, to becoming you.	因此,自我分裂是自我逐渐适应自我,成为你。
69	Young would argue that what we deny in ourselves doesn't disappear.	杨会辩称我们自己所否认的不会消失.
70	It ruins us from the dark.	它从黑暗中毁了我们。
71	This is that suppressed ambition.	这就是抑制野心。
72	Suppressed aggression.	镇压侵略.
73	What do those turn into?	这些变成什么了?
74	Passive resentment.	被动怨恨.
75	Burnout.	烧尽.
76	Suppressed vulnerability is emotional numbness.	被压制的脆弱性是情绪麻木.
77	Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call	直到你让无意识的人意识到, 它会引导你的生活,你会打电话
78	it fate.	命运
79	These days a lot of psychologists call this shadow work.	最近很多心理学家都称这为影子工作.
80	And it isn't about indulging in darkness.	这不是在黑暗中沉浸在其中
81	It's about owning it so it stops owning you.	是为了拥有它 所以它不再拥有你
82	The thing is, you only have so much energy in your lives and in every day.	问题是,你只有这么多的精力 在你的生活和每一天。
83	And in each interaction that you have, you're allowing others to take it from you, which	在你的每次互动中 你都允许别人从你身上夺走
84	is why you end up at the end of the day feeling tired, frustrated, lonely.	这就是为什么你终究会感到疲倦,沮丧,孤独。
85	You've allowed yourself to become a shell reacting to other people's emotions.	你让自己变成了对别人的情绪作出反应的贝壳.
86	You know, have you ever been around someone who by the end of the conversation you felt	你知道,你曾经身边的人 在谈话结束时,你觉得
87	dry, like you had run a marathon but got no benefit from it?	干,就像你跑过马拉松,但没有好处?
88	That is what happens when you are too available.	这就是当你太有空的时候会发生什么。
89	And so Young noticed that people undergoing this process of individuation, they often	所以,Young注意到,人们正在经历这个 分离的过程,他们常常
90	produce mandalas, what he would call circular symbols of wholeness and dreams or art.	生产曼达拉斯 他称之为圆形的象征 完整和梦想或艺术
91	And he believed that that's the unconscious, so a part of our brain that speaks in symbols,	他相信这是无意识的, 所以一部分我们的大脑 用符号说话,
92	not logic.	不是逻辑
93	And so he actually worked a lot on dreams and myth.	所以他实际上在梦和神话上做了很多工作.
94	And why individuation is hard and rare is, do you think about it like this, society rewards	为何分化是难的和罕见的 是,你这样想,社会奖励
95	you doing what other people want you to do.	你做别人想要你做的事
96	You know, personas or titles, et cetera.	你知道,人或头衔,等等。
97	That's how we get all the applause.	这就是我们如何得到所有的掌声。
98	You know, that's why you see people on here going, I'm worth a billion dollars, right?	你知道,这就是为什么你看到 这里的人去, 我值10亿美元,对不对?
99	That gets attention.	这引起了注意。
100	And individuation often requires letting go of that old part of you that has to die, disappointing	分化往往需要你放弃那些 不得不死去的老地方 令人失望
101	people standing alone in a crowd.	人们独自站在人群中。
102	And I'm obsessed with this lately because in a world of AI where we can make our little	我最近沉迷于这个... 因为在一个AI的世界里... 我们可以让自己的小...
103	phone our constant companion, the winners will be those who learn to be by themselves.	打给我们的常客 获胜者将是学会自己
104	And so Young would say individuation does not just shut out one from the world but gathers	年轻人会说 离世不离世 不离世而聚
105	the world to oneself, which, you know, often begins for most of us in midlife, like during	这个世界对自己来说,你知道, 经常从我们大多数人开始 在中年,就像在
106	crisis or burnout, when the persona story no longer works.	危机或燃烧, 当人物的故事不再工作。
107	And I've certainly had this.	我当然有这个
108	I was a journalist back in the day and I thought that was my mission.	我以前是记者 我以为那是我的任务
109	I mean, I really wanted to give you bad news from a teleprompter every single day in a	我的意思是,我真的想给你 坏消息从一个电视提示器 每一天在一个
110	tight chief dress.	长裙很紧
111	And when I look back on that and think that that was the highest level, because I thought	当我回过头来 认为那是最高的级别 因为我想
112	that meant that I was getting a ton of attention, I realized that that was a persona I never	这意味着我得到了一吨的注意力, 我意识到,这是一个人 我从来没有
113	wanted.	被通缉了
114	And so individuation, choosing yourself and necessary isolation, well, that is the highest	如此的分化,选择自己 和必要的隔离, 这是最高的
115	and most decisive experience.	和最决定性的经验。
116	So if you were doing an analysis of Young's work, you would note that because only when	所以如果你正在分析 Young的工作 你会注意到这一点 因为只有当
117	we are alone, can we discover our inner supports and the indestructible foundation of our being.	我们能发现我们的内在支持 和我们生命的坚不可摧的基础
118	I remember one time talking to Eckhart Tolle about this and he talked in circles around	我记得有一次跟埃克哈特·托尔谈这个 他绕圈子聊天
119	me.	来啊
120	I can fairly understand the man, actually, and I got so discombobulated talking to him	我完全能理解他,其实, 我得到了如此的盘旋 跟他说话
121	because he would use words like our indestructible foundation.	因为他会用我们坚不可摧的词
122	What the fuck does that mean?	这他妈是什么意思?
123	But actually, all he was really saying is that in order to figure out who you are, you	但实际上,他真正说的是, 为了找出你是谁,你
124	have to be self-sufficient and you have to stand apart from the crowd and go your own	一定要自给自足 和人群分开 自己走
125	way.	就是这样
126	And the more you like, mess yourself with your wife, your husband, your partner, that	你越喜欢 和你的妻子,你的丈夫,你的伙伴,
127	best friend, the more we go by ourselves, the more we serve the greater purpose.	最好的朋友,我们越走自己, 我们越服务更大的目标。
128	And that is, I think, something that most people don't realize.	这是,我想,这是大多数人没有意识到的。
129	They think about loneliness as a bad word these days.	他们现在认为孤独是坏话
130	Loneliness versus being unable to be by yourself.	孤独与无法独自生活
131	There's a sharp line between solitude and alienation.	孤独和异化之间有着尖锐的界限.
132	Loneliness does not come from having no people about yourself, is what Young would say, but	孤独不是因为没有别人关心自己 杨会这么说
133	from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself or from holding	无法沟通自己或持有的重要事物
134	certain views which others find inadmissible.	某些观点,其他人认为不可受理。
135	So for him, basically, choosing yourself means you choose loneliness and you're okay when	所以,对于他来说,基本上,选择自己 意味着你选择孤独 你没事,当
136	your old friends don't want to hear what you have to say.	你的老朋友不想听你说什么
137	That's not a bug.	这不是虫子。
138	This is what the cost of authenticity is.	这就是真实性的代价。
139	And so I think choosing yourself means I am what I choose to become.	所以我认为选择自己意味着我选择成为自己。
140	I am not what happened to me, a set of circumstances, but a choice.	我不是发生在我身上的, 一系列的情况,而是一个选择。
141	And so I've been obsessing about this because I think your past is like raw material, but	所以我一直沉迷于这件事 因为我觉得你的过去就像原料 但是
142	the self is what you actively become.	自我就是你们积极变成的
143	And this dovetails with the modern, you know, Jungian theme that when you finally choose	这跟现代的,你知道的, 静安主题有关 当你最终选择
144	yourself, your entire life changes.	自己,你的整个生活会改变。
145	And I've felt this before.	我以前也有这种感觉
146	Like I'm sure you felt it too, a moment where you stopped living for external validation	我敢肯定,你也感觉到了, 那一刻你停止生活 外部验证
147	and start acting from an inner center.	并开始从一个内部中心行动。
148	And I don't think he studied enough.	我觉得他学习不够
149	You know, these days it's like we follow whoever has the most followers online and listen to	你知道,这些天我们好像跟随谁 谁有最大的追随者在线 听
150	them.	他们。
151	But I like to go back to the greats because he would emphasize that when you turn inward	但我喜欢回到伟大,因为他会强调 当你向内转
152	and you dialogue with your inner parts, then you actually activate and meet this cast of	你和你的内部对话, 然后,你实际上激活 并满足这个铸件
153	inner characters, that your inner work is only possible with real alone time.	内在人物,你的内在作品 只有真实的单独时间才有可能。
154	And so like individuation is not self-help.	故如离性非自性.
155	It's, you know, modern culture often makes mistakes, like thinking that you have to have	现代文化经常犯错误 就像认为你必须拥有
156	status, productivity, optimization.	状态,生产力,优化.
157	And Jung would say, if you're only stacking achievements without integrating your inner	郑会说,如果你只是 堆积成就而不整合你的内心
158	contradictions, the part of you you hate, you actually are just inflating the ego.	矛盾,你讨厌的部分, 你实际上只是夸大自我。
159	And a simple way to recognize this is you stop needing approval for decisions that matter.	一个简单的承认方法 就是你不再需要 批准决定了
160	You can hold paradox.	你可以持有悖论。
161	So I can be strong and I can be kind.	故能坚固善心.
162	I can have a ton of ambition and I could pull back and have restraint.	我可以有一吨的野心, 我可以拉回和克制。
163	There's a quote I love that's you cannot be peaceful unless you're capable of great violence.	有一句我爱的话是,除非你有能力进行巨大的暴力,否则你不可能和平.
164	That's because it is restraint.	那是因为它是克制。
165	You have the capability.	你有这种能力
166	Imagine if every time you had a big decision, you could call an emergency board meeting,	想象一下,如果你每次有重大的决定, 你可以召集紧急董事会会议,
167	but the board was entirely in your own head.	但董事会完全在你自己的脑子里
168	Not psychosis.	不是精神错乱
169	We're not crazy people talking like psychopaths.	我们不是疯子 说话像精神病人。
170	But Jung, he thought when you look inward, honestly, you don't have like one self.	但是郑,他想当你向内看的时候, 老实说,你没有像自己一样。
171	You have a cast of characters.	你有一大堆角色
172	They have different drives and different fears.	他们有不同的驱动器 和不同的恐惧。
173	And I know you guys know what I'm talking about.	我知道你们知道我在说什么
174	And when you talk with them, it's part of becoming who you really are.	当你和他们谈话时,这是成为真正的你的一部分。
175	And that's why silence is so important and why you have to learn to speak to yourself	这就是为什么沉默如此重要 为什么要学着对自己说话
176	if you want to be truly heard.	如果你想被真正听到的话
177	So most people make decisions by listening to whichever voice is the loudest that day.	所以大多数人在做决定时都听从当天最响亮的声音。
178	Usually fear.	通常恐惧。
179	But here's a better way.	但有一个更好的办法。
180	And how to run a board meeting with your own mind, Jung style.	以及如何用自己的思想,郑式来主持董事会会议.
181	So step one, you name the voices.	所以,第一步, 你命名的声音。
182	So when you're stuck on a decision, relationship, move, business or whatever, you grab a notebook	所以当你陷入一个决定, 关系,移动,业务或什么的, 你拿一个笔记本
183	and you write down three inner voices you can actually feel arguing.	你写下三个内在的声音 你实际上可以感觉到争论。
184	For instance, you might have the visionary, which is like obsessed with upside, adventure,	比如说,你可能有远见, 就像迷恋颠倒,冒险,
185	impact, maybe arrogance.	影响,也许傲慢。
186	The operator cares about risk, logistics, downside.	运营商关心风险,物流,下行.
187	The protector worried about your reputation, safety.	保护者担心你的声誉和安全
188	Don't embarrass me.	别让我难堪
189	Then I don't want you to overthink it.	那就别太想了
190	Just name the three that are clearly present for you.	说出这三人的明显身份
191	And then step two, let each one speak uncensored.	然后第二步,让每个 说未经审查。
192	So give each voice its own page, I always think.	所以,我一直认为,给每个声音自己的页面。
193	At the top of the page, I like to write when I'm making a big decision, I'm really scared.	在最上面,我喜欢写 当我做出一个大的决定, 我真的害怕。
194	The visionary.	有远见的人
195	Then I let it talk.	然后我让它说。
196	What does it want?	它想怎样?
197	What is it excited by?	它为什么兴奋?
198	Why this decision is a once in a lifetime opportunity for it?	为什么这个决定是一生中一次的机会?
199	Second page, the operator.	第二页 接线员
200	I list all the constraints, everything that could break, everything that would have to	我列出所有的限制,所有可能打破的,所有需要
201	be true.	说实话
202	Then the third, the protector.	然后是第三,保护者。
203	Let it confess exactly what it's afraid of and language a bit like a scared parent.	让它坦白它害怕什么 和语言有点像一个害怕的父母。
204	The only rules, no judgment.	唯一的规则,没有判断力。
205	Don't try to sound clever.	别装聪明
206	You're just letting the cast speak.	你只是让铸件说话。
207	And then step three, become the chair of the board.	然后第三步,成为董事会主席.
208	Now you switch roles.	现在换个角色
209	You're no longer any one of these selves inside of you.	你不再是你内心的任何人了
210	You're not the visionary.	你不是有远见的人。
211	You're not the operator.	你不是接线员
212	You're not the protector.	你不是保护者。
213	You're the self, the chair of the board.	你是自我,董事会主席。
214	Young was pointing out when he talked about an individuation that the part of you that	杨正指出 当他谈到一个分裂 你的一部分
215	can hold all of these perspectives without collapsing, that's the whole of you.	可以保持所有这些观点而不崩溃, 这就是你的全部。
216	And read the three pages.	而读三篇.
217	Write a little synthesis that starts with here's what we're actually going to do and	写一个小合成,从这里开始 我们实际上要做的是
218	why.	为什么?
219	And like, I always find I need parts of all those little parts of me, the scary little	喜欢,我总是发现我需要 我所有的小部分, 可怕的小
220	girl inside, the big bad boss, you know, the wife.	里面的女孩,大坏老板, 你知道,妻子。
221	And so you might honor the visionary's upside.	这样你就可以尊重 远见卓识的颠倒。
222	You might honor the operator's constraints and give the protect and give the protector	你可能会遵守操作员的制约 给予保护 给予保护
223	a contingency plan.	应急计划。
224	Or you might realize the protector's running the show and consciously decide not to let	或者你可能意识到保护者在主持这个节目 并且有意识地决定不让
225	fear make the call.	恐惧的呼唤。
226	So what you've just done is stop one inner voice from hijacking your life.	所以你刚刚做的就是阻止一个内在的声音 劫持你的生命。
227	And so, you know, whichever mood is the loudest is typically the one that drives what you	所以,你知道,无论哪种情绪是最大的 通常是一个驱动你的东西
228	do.	说吧
229	And with this little five minute exercise, you've changed your life.	有了这5分钟的锻炼 你改变了你的生活
230	这不仅仅是Instagram的引文。
231	So next time you're paralyzed on a decision and you're not sure if you're going to be	所以下次你因为一个决定而瘫痪了 你不确定你会不会
232	heard, I often wonder if it's actually that I am not going to listen to myself on this.	我经常在想 我是否真的不想听自己的话
233	So do me a favor.	帮我个忙
234	Don't send another panicked text to five friends.	别再给五个朋友发一个惊慌的短信
235	Call a board meeting.	召集董事会会议.
236	Be quiet.	安静
237	Let them speak.	让他们说话。
238	And this isn't just Jung, by the way, who realized the power of dark solitude.	顺便说一句,这不仅仅是郑, 他意识到黑暗孤独的力量。
239	One of my favorite philosophers of all time, Nietzsche, talked about solitude as power	我最喜欢的哲学家之一,尼采 谈到孤独作为力量
240	not lack.	不是缺乏。
241	And so he says on the long lines of my solitude doesn't depend on the presence or absence	所以他说,在我孤独的长线上 并不取决于是否存在
242	of people.	人类。
243	On the contrary, I hate who steals my solitude without it in exchange offering me true company,	相反,我讨厌谁偷我的孤独 没有它作为交换 提供我真正的公司,
244	which basically means if I am going to spend time with you, you better be better than spending	这基本上意味着,如果我要花时间 和你在一起, 你最好比花费更好
245	time with myself.	时间与我自己。
246	And he talks about a thing I'm sure you feel in your life, which is, are you bored?	他谈论一件事 我敢肯定,你感觉 在你的生活中,这就是,你无聊吗?
247	Because you're trying to entertain yourself?	因为你想娱乐自己?
248	Or can you also guard yourself against the most refreshing drought from your own innermost	或者,你也可以保护自己 防止最新鲜的干旱 从你自己的内心
249	fountain, he would say, meaning like, what if you spent time alone and that actually	喷泉,他会说,意思是, 如果你花时间 孤独,实际上
250	felt like the elixir?	感觉像灵药?
251	He has this book where he has one of the main characters say this line that I love, it's	他有本书,他有一个主角 说这行我喜欢,这是
252	like, flee my friend into your solitude.	像,逃离我的朋友 进入你的孤独。
253	I see you dazed by the noise of great men and stung by the stings of the little.	吾见大士之噪而昏,小人之刺而昏.
254	It's so good.	妙绝.
255	And why I love this is because how often are we all that?	我为什么喜欢这 是因为我们有多频繁?
256	How often do we put something in our ear just to entertain us, not to listen to our own	我们经常在耳边放东西 只是为了娱乐我们 而不是听自己的
257	voice?	声音?
258	And there is a solitude inside of great men he talks about that is inaccessible to praise	他所谈论的伟人之中 有一种孤独 无法表扬
259	or blame.	或责怪。
260	You know, when I had to start over and change my career entirely, the world was really	你知道,当我不得不重新开始 和改变我的职业生涯 完全,世界真的
261	loud.	大声点
262	Everybody was telling me, how could you leave this job?	大家都在告诉我 你怎么能离开这个工作?
263	How could you go do a new thing?	你怎么能去做新的事情吗?
264	You work at the highest levels of finance.	你在最高财政级别工作。
265	And I had to find a part of me, that like inner part inside of yourself that listens	我不得不找到我的一部分, 就像你内心的一部分 听
266	to no one.	不给任何人。
267	And I guess I want to ask you kind of a tough question, which is when was the last time	我想问你一个棘手的问题 这是最后一次
268	you did that?	是你干的吗?
269	When did you sit truly alone, as the kids say these days, raw dogging life, without	孩子们说,你什么时候一个人坐着的? 生生生生生,没有
270	any entertainment?	有什么娱乐吗?
271	Because the danger and test of being alone, he often talks about, is that everything that	因为孤独的危险和考验, 他经常谈论,是一切
272	you carry within you grows, including that inner beast inside of you.	包括你内心的野兽
273	So I know solitude isn't automatically good because it magnifies whatever the fuck is	所以,我知道孤独是不 自动好,因为它放大 不管他妈的是什么
274	in there.	在这里。
275	You know, and so oftentimes we think about loneliness poorly because we haven't actually	你知道,所以我们经常 考虑孤独 不好,因为我们还没有真正
276	integrated who we are.	整合我们是谁。
277	No founder exemplifies the path of solitude like Sarah Blakely, you know, shapewear brand	没有一位创始人能像莎拉·布莱克利那样 展示孤独之路
278	Spanx, billionaire, huge business.	斯潘克斯 亿万富翁 巨大的生意
279	But her path was lonely.	但她的路很孤独
280	Investors told her Spanx was dumb.	投资者告诉她Spanx是愚蠢的。
281	The fashion insiders were completely dismissive and manufacturers couldn't meet her small	时尚内幕人物完全不屑一顾 厂商无法满足她的小
282	early quotas.	早期配额。
283	She literally got told no continuously throughout her entire career, but she didn't workshop	她整个职业生涯都从未被告知过 但她没有工作
284	the idea.	这个想法。
285	She didn't pull friends.	她没有拉朋友。
286	She didn't go listen to people on the Internet or any of the people that told her no.	她没有去听人们 在互联网上 或任何人 谁告诉她不。
287	Instead, she literally cut the feet out of pantyhose in her apartment alone and scaled	相反,她从她的公寓里 将裤子的脚割了出来
288	it into a unicorn company.	变成独角兽公司
289	And like it's a perfect example of this solitude inaccessible to praise or blame.	这就像一个完美的例子 表明这种孤独无法被称赞或指责。
290	The ability to think and build without constantly responding to other people's reactions.	思考和建设的能力而不不断地回应别人的反应.
291	That kind of solitude is rare now.	这种孤独是罕见的了。
292	Most creators are exposed to feedback constantly.	大多数创作者不断受到反馈.
293	The result is work shaped by reaction rather than conviction.	结果是由反应而不是信念决定的工作。
294	And this is why newsletters still matter.	这就是为什么通讯仍然很重要。
295	A newsletter lets you develop ideas over time in your own voice without immediate judgment.	一份通讯允许你用自己的声音来发展想法,而无需立即作出判断。
296	And Beehive has built around the principles that your voice deserves direct distribution,	Beehive遵循了你的声音应该直接传播的原则,
297	audience ownership, monetization.	观众所有权,货币化。
298	我用Beehive多年,Beehive教我一件事。
299	As a great creator, I want complete control, a place to build deliberately, grow steadily	作为一个伟大的创造者,我想要完全的控制, 一个有意建造的地方,稳步成长
300	and eventually turn this into my own billion dollar business.	最终把这件事变成我自己的十亿美元生意
301	Whether you are looking for the million dollar business that you have or you just want your	无论你正在寻找 百万美元的业务,你拥有 还是你只是想你的
302	voice to be heard to the mini and to stand out from this world where other people allow	向迷你小队发出声音 并站在这个其他人允许的世界之外
303	you to speak or not.	你说话与否。
304	That is why I'm obsessed with Beehive and why I invested in this company.	这就是为什么我迷恋 Beehive 和为什么我投资在这个公司。
305	So if you don't already have a newsletter, go to Beehive.com and start one.	所以如果你还没有通讯, 去Beehive.com 开始一个。
306	If you do already have a newsletter, you should probably switch to Beehive.com and use the	如果你确实有通讯,你也许应该切换到 Beehive.com 并使用
307	code Cody30 for 30% off for three months.	代码Cody30 3个月中30%的折扣
308	I can safely say to you that this business is one of my favorite in the world.	我可以肯定地告诉你,这行是我在世界上最喜欢的一行。
309	If I could own more of it, I would.	如果我能拥有更多的,我会的。
310	It's also spelled funny because, you know, we're weird here, which is B-E-E-H-I-I-V.com.	拼写也很有趣,因为,你知道, 我们在这里很奇怪, 这是B -E -H -I
311	So Beehive, two I's, no E at the end, dot com, because the truth is being alone and	所以Beehive,两个我,没有E 在结尾,点com, 因为真相是孤独和
312	writing is probably one of the most powerful things you can do.	写作可能是你所能做的最强大的事情之一。
313	And so Nietzsche talks about this at length.	所以尼采长篇大论
314	For him, being constantly immersed in the crowd means you're not actually thinking.	对于他来说,不断沉浸在人群中意味着你实际上没有在思考.
315	You're running shared scripts.	你正在运行共享脚本。
316	Solitude is how you reclaim original thought and as he would say, drink from your own cistern,	孤独是怎样恢复原创思想 就像他说的 从自己的水池里喝水
317	which is basically a mechanism for holding water or a drink.	它基本上是一种机制 持有水或饮料。
318	But I think about this a lot because right now I bet you can imagine, like I know for	但我想了很多 因为现在我敢打赌,你可以想象,就像我知道的
319	instance I love my mom dearly if she's listening, I'm sorry mom, but she doesn't understand	我非常爱我妈妈 如果她在听 我很抱歉妈妈 但她不明白
320	why I want to be alone so much.	我为什么那么想一个人呆着
321	In fact, like the other weekend, you know, they're like, we want to come with you next	其实,像另一个周末, 你知道,他们喜欢, 我们想跟你下一个
322	when we go to our beach house and I'm so busy right now that the thought of another human	当我们去我们的海滨 房子,我是如此忙 现在,想到另一个人类
323	talking to me during the weekend when I am on my own time is actually physically painful	周末跟我说话,当我在自己的时间 其实是身体痛苦
324	to me.	对我来说。
325	Like have you ever been in that moment where you're like, I just need to be alone more.	就像你曾经在那一刻 你一样,我只是需要一个人多。
326	And so I've gotten used to this and it is going to piss off people around you.	所以我习惯了这个,它会惹怒你周围的人。
327	It pisses off my family often.	它经常惹恼我的家人。
328	They're like, you have time.	他们喜欢,你有时间。
329	We can come.	我们可以去。
330	I'm like, I know.	我很喜欢,我知道。
331	The problem is that I really love to be myself because as he would say, in loneliness, the	问题是我真的喜欢做我自己 因为他会说 在孤独中
332	lonely one eats himself.	孤独者自食.
333	In a crowd, the many eat him.	在人群中,许多人吃掉了他.
334	Now choose.	现在选择。
335	So either you face yourself or you're consumed by the herd.	所以,要么你面对自己 要么你被群。
336	There is no neutral.	没有中立。
337	And most writers or Jungian followers or philosophers phrase it this way.	而大多数作家或正派追随者或哲学家都这样说.
338	What isolates us is not literal distance from others, but distance from expressing who we	与我们隔绝的不是与其他人的字面距离,而是与表达我们是谁的距离
339	really are.	确实
340	So when you close that gap by choosing yourself and speaking from the self, you naturally	所以当你通过选择自己和自我说话来缩小差距时,你自然
341	become less reactive to surface lights.	对表面灯光的反应较少
342	You're just harder to mess with.	你只是更难惹。
343	You know, this is how you become that unreactive leader we've talked about in other videos.	你知道,这就是你如何成为 那个没有反应的领袖 我们在其他视频中谈到。
344	You do what Yang, one of my favorite mentors, taught me, which is pulling yourself on the	你做我最喜欢的导师之一的杨 教我,这是拉你自己在
345	balcony.	阳台。
346	That is a Jungian thought, which is how do I in the midst of chaos, if I am on a battlefield	这是一个正宗的想法,这就是我如何在混乱中, 如果我在战场上
347	right now, I imagine any time my emotions crazy, I'm fighting with people.	现在,我想随时我的情绪 疯狂,我与人战斗。
348	I don't like what's happening.	我不喜欢发生的一切。
349	I imagine a battlefield around me and I imagine myself going and standing up on a balcony	我想象周围的战场 我想象自己去站在阳台上
350	and looking within it.	看着里面
351	This is how you pull yourself out.	这就是你如何退出。
352	And the only way you can do this, not become a reactive human who has no ability to control	只有这样,你才能做到 而不是变成一个无能力控制的人
353	your emotions, who acts unreasonably, who gets triggered and fired up is to go into	你的情绪,不合理的行为, 被触发和激起的,是进入
354	solitude.	孤独
355	That's where you access that which is incomparable in you.	在那里,你访问 与你无比。
356	And I think it is hard because it's dangerous and it intensifies whatever is inside you.	我认为这是很难的,因为它是危险的, 它强化了你体内的一切。
357	But if we know that this is the most important thing that we can do, then it's really just	但是如果我们知道这是最重要的事情 我们可以做, 那么它真的只是
358	what Jung says.	郑所言.
359	I am what I choose to become and I become that when I am by myself.	我是我选择成为的 当我独自一人时 我就变成这样
360	You know, Nietzsche also talks about the higher type goes alone.	你知道,尼采也谈论 更高类型独自去。
361	And so this person is indifferent to praise or blame because he answers to his own measure,	所以这个人对赞美或责怪无动于衷 因为他自己负责
362	not the herd.	不是畜群。
363	This is even Robert Greene talks about non-reactivity and resentment and how resentment is physiologically	罗伯特·格林甚至说到不反应和怨恨 和怨恨是如何生理上的
364	ruinous.	疯狂的。
365	The really strong see resentment as beneath them.	真正的强者将怨恨看成是在他们下面
366	The weak are consumed by it, right?	弱者被它消耗,对不对?
367	And so you'll find weak-minded individuals, they hold resentment and you can change if	这样你就会发现弱智的个人, 他们持有怨恨,你可以改变,如果
368	you're weak-minded now, you can change that.	你现在心智虚弱 你可以改变这一切
369	But strategic non-reaction, which I kind of think of like a bear hibernating, like I might	但战略上的不反应, 我认为这就像熊冬眠, 像我可能
370	be having some feels while you're talking to me for a second.	在你跟我说话的时候 有点感觉
371	I might really have some emotion, but I kind of think about it like I'm going to talk to	我可能真的有些情绪 但我有种想起来 就像我要跟
372	that bear in a second, but I'm going to be here unemotionally in the meantime.	熊在一秒钟内, 但我会在这里 无情地在此期间。
373	And it's sort of funny because like the team the other day, I was doing a photo shoot and	这很有趣 因为和前几天的团队一样 我在拍照片
374	there were snakes crawling all over me and tarantulas and scorpions and hissing cockroaches,	有蛇爬满我身上 狼蛛 蝎子 蟑螂
375	my least favorite for the record.	我最不喜欢的纪录。
376	And I don't like snakes and I don't like tarantulas and I don't like scorpions and I don't like	我不喜欢蛇,我不喜欢狼,我不喜欢蝎子
377	cockroaches.	蟑螂。
378	I don't like any of these.	我不喜欢这些
379	And I especially don't like them at the one point where the woman goes, sorry, the snakes	我特别不喜欢她们 女人去的地方,对不起,蛇
380	are smelly because they peed all over themselves in the box while we put these huge pythons	闻起来很臭 因为他们把大蟒蛇放进盒子里
381	on top of you.	在你们上面。
382	I was not thrilled nor was I thrilled when one of the pythons literally slithered up	我并不激动,我也不激动 当一个蟒蛇 字面上切开
383	and hit my face with its face.	用它的脸打我的脸
384	That's not thrilling for me.	这对我来说并不令人兴奋。
385	But I was like, the team was like, you're so calm.	但我觉得,球队 喜欢,你是如此平静。
386	It didn't even bother you.	它甚至没有打扰你。
387	I go, no, I mean, I have all the feelings about it.	我走了,不,我的意思是,我有所有的感觉。
388	I just let it hibernate because I know I can come back and deal with that.	我只是让它冬眠 因为我知道我可以回来处理这件事
389	And so I think you can just, you become more of who you want to be that strong leader in	所以,我认为你可以只是, 你成为更多的 谁是你想成为
390	a sea of waves of emotion when you go to isolation because that comes with consciousness instead	当你陷入孤立时, 情绪的波浪会涌现出来, 因为只有意识才能产生
391	of lashing out at the world for not mirroring you.	为了不照你,在世间流泪
392	I think loneliness actually comes from not being able to express what matters.	我觉得孤独其实是因为无法表达什么才是重要的
393	Okay, so I want to talk about something that, you know, maybe I'm getting close to, I guess	好吧,所以我想谈的东西, 你知道,也许我 接近,我想
394	I'm midlife now, but during midlife, the psyche asks a brutal question, which is, is this	我现在是中年了 但是中年的时候 心理医生问了一个很残酷的问题 就是
395	all you are?	你们都是?
396	When the answer is no, the persona begins to crack, meaning when you know that you're	当答案是"不"时,人开始裂开,意思是当你知道你是
397	capable of more and the crack shows up as you're unhappy.	更有能力 裂缝出现,当你不高兴。
398	You're unhappy at life, you're impulsive, you're longing for meaning, not status.	你对生活感到不快,你冲动,你渴望的是意义,而不是地位.
399	And this is why midlife crises often look irrational.	这就是为什么中年危机往往看起来不合理。
400	They aren't about logic, at least according to Jung.	至少据郑说,它们不是关于逻辑的
401	They're about identity starvation.	他们是关于身份饥饿。
402	So the crisis happens because the old identity worked super well.	所以,危机之所以发生,是因为旧身份的操作非常有效。
403	And now all of a sudden there's some fissure that's happened and it's obsolete.	现在突然出现了一些裂缝,已经过时了.
404	So what I try to think about is what if this is your opportunity, not your disaster?	所以我想的就是 如果这是你的机会 而不是你的灾难呢?
405	If somewhere right now you're struggling in some aspect of your life, you're having a	如果你正在某处挣扎 在你生活的某些方面, 你有一个
406	midlife crisis.	中年危机。
407	I had a quarter life crisis in my career.	我职业生涯中经历了四分之一的生活危机.
408	I'm sure I'll have another midlife crisis.	我肯定还会有另一个中年危机
409	I'll have to change something out.	我得换件东西出去
410	And every single time I've had one of those, it's the opportunity of a lifetime.	每当我吃过这种东西的时候 都会有一生的机会
411	What if it's yours?	如果是你的怎么办?
412	I want to talk about burnout, which he would describe as chronic shadow suppression, which	我想谈谈燃烧症, 他会描述为慢性的阴影抑制,
413	basically means burnout is not you're overworked.	基本上意味着烧焦不是你过度劳累。
414	Plenty of people work hard without burning out.	很多人努力工作而不烧掉
415	So what's the difference?	那有什么区别?
416	Why can this person work forever and that person hates their life at the same job?	为什么这个人能永远工作 而那个人讨厌他们在同一份工作的生活?
417	Well, it happens when you live too long against your nature.	好吧,它发生 当你活得太久 与你的自然。
418	You suppress parts of yourself to maintain this identity and your shadow does all the	你压制自己的一部分来保持这个身份 而你的影子做所有
419	labor while the persona takes the credit.	劳动,而人得到的功劳。
420	So like common shadow suppressions that lead to burnout, suppressed anger, you're exhausted.	所以,像常见的阴影抑制 导致燃烧,抑制愤怒, 你累坏了。
421	Suppressed ambition, you're resentful.	抑制野心,你讨厌。
422	Suppressive vulnerability, you feel nothing inside.	难以抑制的弱点,你内心没有感觉
423	Suppressed creativity, depression disguised as fatigue.	被压制的创造力,抑郁伪装成疲劳.
424	Young warned that ignored parts of the psyche, they don't disappear.	年轻的警告,忽视了精神的部分, 他们不会消失。
425	They turn into symptoms.	他们变成了症状。
426	So burnout is actually your psyche saying, I cannot keep carrying what you refuse to	所以,燃烧其实是你的精神 说,我不能继续携带 你拒绝的东西
427	acknowledge.	承认。
428	An identity collapse is like your ego losing control.	身份崩溃就像你的自我失去控制
429	And so I think that feels terrifying for all of us because it removes the story used to	所以我觉得这对我们所有人来说都太可怕了 因为这可以消除过去的故事
430	explain yourself.	解释一下
431	A lot of times in like the literature I've seen on Jung, people describe it as, I don't	很多时候,就像我见过的关于郑的文学, 人们形容它,我不
432	know who I am anymore.	知道我是谁了。
433	Nothing I built feels real.	我所创造的一切都不是真实的
434	And this happens when we've really confused our ego with the persona.	当我们把自我和人格混为一谈时, 就会发生这种情况。
435	And your unconscious is saying, these two things cannot live inside me at the same time.	而你的无意识是说, 这两个东西不能同时生活在我体内。
436	如油 water水.
437	You just cannot make them come together.	你只是不能让他们在一起。
438	And so this old meaning kind of dissolves.	所以这个老意思是 一种溶解。
439	And this isn't madness.	这不是疯狂。
440	It's sort of disorientation maybe before reorientation.	也许在调整方向之前 有点迷茫
441	And I think not enough people today, because we can be so distracted, like you might not	我认为今天的人不够,因为我们可以 如此分心,像你可能不
442	even realize the phase that you're in.	甚至意识到你所处的阶段。
443	And I'm not a psychologist.	我不是心理学家
444	I'm not saying you're not depressed if you're depressed and you should go and talk to doctors.	我不是说你没有抑郁 如果你抑郁 你应该去和医生谈谈。
445	And I'm not giving medical advice.	我不给医疗建议。
446	All I'm saying is what I think some of the best philosophers of our time, the best psychologists	我想说的是,我认为我们时代最好的哲学家,最好的心理学家
447	of our time have thought about this and how we can reorganize around the self instead	我们的时代已经考虑过 如何重新组织自己
448	of the ego.	自我主义。
449	And that's been one of, I think, the main crises that often hit high performers.	我认为,这是 经常打击高表现者的主要危机之一。
450	Like if you are a high performer, like I consider myself to be, you actually have a higher likelihood	就像你是一个高水平的表演者, 像我认为自己是, 实际上你有一个更大的可能性
451	of this happening to you because society overrewards competence.	发生在你身上 是因为社会过度评价能力
452	So we're really good at ignoring internal signs.	所以我们很擅长忽略内部迹象。
453	Your persona is highly reinforced, aka I am this because I got money and praise and authority	你的人格很强壮,我就是因为我有钱,有赞美和权威
454	and likes on the internet.	喜欢上网
455	But the unconscious doesn't give a fuck.	但无意识者无所施舍.
456	And so, you know, Young observed the more one-sided a personality becomes.	所以,你知道,Young观察到一个性格变得越是片面。
457	So if I just get too into YouTube likes or talking to people on a podcast and I stop	如果我太喜欢YouTube 或跟播客聊天 我就停止
458	listening to the other person and I make it all about myself, well then the more violent	听别人的话,我把事情都讲我自己,那么越暴力
459	the correction is going to be.	校正将会是。
460	And that explains why I've seen executives burn out after making it.	这解释了为什么我看到高管们在做之后 都烧焦了
461	In fact, I just saw one flame out live.	事实上,我刚刚看到一个火焰熄灭。
462	And I remember watching and thinking, this is an adult.	我记得在看和思考, 这是一个成年人。
463	This is a grown man flaming out.	这是一个成年人燃烧。
464	And I could tell why.	我能分辨出为什么
465	Because a lot of times if you mess with your persona, they didn't fail.	因为很多时候 如果你惹上你的人, 他们并没有失败。
466	They just, he outgrew the identity that got him there.	他们只是,他超越了 身份使他在那里。
467	An individuation doesn't ask you to destroy your life.	入涅盘不求毁命.
468	It asks you to stop living only as a role.	它要求你停止仅仅作为一个角色生活。
469	And if you won't do it, the universe will kick you in the ass another way.	如果你不这样做,宇宙会踢你的屁股 另一种方式。
470	That's what I found.	这就是我找到的。
471	So it basically is up to you or the universe.	所以基本上由你或宇宙决定。
472	Because if you don't build a life that reflects your internal truth, and I don't mean that	因为如果你不构建一个反映你内心真相的生活 我不是那个意思
473	in a touchy feely sort of way, I mean like you know.	感觉有点敏感 就像你知道的
474	And if you don't do it, then you're not going to have external rewards anymore.	如果你不这样做,那你就不会再有外部奖励了.
475	They will take it away.	他们会拿走的
476	And so at some point, you are going to have to be the one to say no to the applause, to	所以,在某些时候,你必须 是一个说不 掌声,
477	disappoint people, to let old versions of your life die.	让别人失望 让旧版的人生死去
478	And Jung was explicit.	和郑是明确的。
479	This is so good.	这太棒了
480	He says, there is no coming to consciousness without pain.	他说,没有痛苦就无法进入意识。
481	Buddha might say there's no life without suffering.	佛或说无生无苦.
482	So what can we do to become one with the darkness, as Bane says.	那么,我们怎样才能像班恩所说, 成为黑暗中的一员。
483	So I stole some ideas from Jungian philosophers.	所以我偷了一些来自郑家哲学家的想法.
484	And there's a couple things that I do.	还有几件事我做。
485	You'll see it on my calendar.	你会在我的日历上看到它。
486	I have a weekly solitude block.	我有一个每周孤独的街区。
487	So schedule one to two hour block per week with no phone, no meetings, no input.	所以每周安排1到2小时的车站,没有电话,没有会议,没有输入.
488	You can journal.	你可以日记。
489	You can walk.	你可以走动。
490	You can read original sources, not on your phone.	你可以阅读原始来源,而不是在你的手机上。
491	You can think about one hard problem.	你可以考虑一个难题
492	Like what am I pretending not to know right now?	就像我现在假装不知道一样?
493	If I were not afraid of others' opinions, what would I do differently?	如果我不怕别人的意见,我该怎么办呢?
494	What's the one decision I'm avoiding because it will isolate me?	我所避免的决定是什么 因为它会孤立我?
495	And your goal is to train what Nietzsche talks about with your ability to drink out of your	你的目标是训练尼采所说的 用你的能力 喝出你的
496	own cistern instead of drinking from everybody else's.	而不是喝别人的酒
497	The principle is basically, as Jung would say, I am not what happened to me.	原则基本上是,正如郑会说,我不是发生在我身上的。
498	I am what I chose to become.	我是我选择成为的。
499	And so this is going to demand your segment from the crowd.	所以,这需要你的一部分 从人群。
500	And how you do this is something called the self-contract.	你是如何做到的,这是所谓的自营合同。
501	So once per year, I like to do it in the new year.	所以,每年一次,我喜欢在新年这样做。
502	You could do it right now.	你现在可以做到这一点。
503	This is a good time of year.	这是一年中一个好时机。
504	I write a one-page contract.	我写了一份一页的合同。
505	And you'll see it on my phone.	你会在我的手机上看到它。
506	I keep it in my notes.	我记在笔记里
507	The contract typically for me goes something like this.	对我来说合同一般是这样的
508	I choose to become the kind of person who, and I list three to five identity statements,	我选择成为那种人 我列出三到五个身份陈述
509	not goals.	不是目标。
510	No, no, no, no.	释曰.
511	These are non-negotiables I will hold up even if it costs me status, approval, or belonging.	这些是不可谈判的,即使这需要我的地位、批准或归属。
512	So that might be like, I am the type of person that gets up every day at six in the morning.	所以,我可能是那种每天早上六点起床的人。
513	I am the type of person that always puts my husband first.	我是那种总是把我丈夫放在首位的人
514	I am the type of person that does the things I say I will do.	我是那种会做我说过的事的人
515	And when you sign it and date it and review it consistently, it'll help you shift from	当你签署和约会 并一致地审查它, 它会帮助你从
516	reactive identity to a chosen identity.	被选中的身份的反应性身份。
517	You are choosing to be this type of person.	你选择做这种人
518	And this is based on decades and decades and decades of theory and study.	这基于数十年的理论和研究。
519	Then you go to your inner advisory board, and any time you're struggling, you talk to	然后你去你的内部顾问委员会 每当你挣扎的时候,你说话
520	that inner cast of characters and voices, dialogue in with them.	和他们对话
521	That's that part of becoming whole again.	这就是重新变得完整的一部分。
522	And if you do this, then your whole life will change.	如果你这样做, 你的整个生活就会改变。
523	And so I think about it like I have something called the chair exercise.	所以,我想起它 就像我有一个叫做椅子运动。
524	So when I'm stuck on a decision, I write down my three inner voices, I call mine the visionary,	所以,当我坚持一个决定, 我写我的三个内在的声音, 我称我的远见,
525	the operator, and the protector.	操作者和保护者。
526	And I give each a page, like we talked about, I let it write uncentered.	我给每一页,就像我们讨论过的, 我让每一页都写不着重点。
527	And then that short synthesis comes up about what I'll actually do as the head of the board	然后那简短的合成 出现了我作为董事长 会做什么
528	of directors, and I execute on it.	导演,我执行它。
529	That's it.	就这样
530	It's what you'll actually do and why.	这是你真正要做的,也是为什么。
531	And the goal, instead of being unconsciously driven by one voice, is that you listen to	目标不是被一个声音无意识地驱动 而是你听
532	all of them after you really say what type of person you want to become.	在你真正说出你想成为什么样的人之后
533	Because the sad part is, nobody cares about your potential.	因为可悲的是 没人在乎你的潜力
534	Potential is worthless.	潜力是没用的。
535	Everyone has potential.	每个人都有潜力。
536	And what separates the greats from the wannabes is reality.	将伟大和幻想分开的是现实。
537	Finished work, shipped products, written pages, solved problems.	完成工作,运出产品,写页,解决问题.
538	Stop talking about what you could do and go create proof of what you did, even if all	别再谈你能做什么了 去创造你所作所为的证据
539	you do is just spend time alone with yourself.	你只是一个人待着而已
540	You might actually end up liking the person that you find.	你可能最终会喜欢你找到的人
541	Thank you guys for letting me yell at you today.	谢谢你今天让我骂你们
542	I have been reading a lot of these philosophers.	我读了很多这些哲学家。
543	And I keep coming back to this idea that all the great philosophies have been written.	我不停地回到这个想法,所有伟大的哲学已经写出来.
544	All the truths have been said before.	一切真言如前说.
545	And we go to this world where everything is just milk toast and oatmeal type advice.	我们到这个世界去, 世界上一切都只是牛奶吐司和燕麦类建议。
546	And when you go back to somebody like Nietzsche or Young, their words hit you in the gut because	当你回到像尼采或杨的人, 他们的言语打击了你的直觉,因为
547	they were from a non-PC era where it didn't matter how you felt.	他们来自一个非PC时代 你的感觉并不重要
548	You just had to listen.	你只需要听话
549	And there weren't that many voices that were loud because there weren't that many platforms.	因为没有那么多的平台,所以没有那么多声音响亮。
550	And so only a few got to really stand out.	所以只有少数人能真正出名。
551	And those few tended to be incredible and deep and sophisticated.	而那些少数 倾向于令人难以置信和 深刻和精密。
552	And so you'll have to tell me if you like this episode because if you do, I'll do more	所以你得告诉我 如果你喜欢这个剧集 因为如果你喜欢,我会做更多
553	like this.	像这样
554	We'll call them Cody yells at you, Cody bullies you, Cody rants at you.	我们会叫他们科迪骂你 科迪欺负你 科迪骂你
555	I don't know.	师曰.
556	Put it in the comments what you guys want.	把你们想要的东西放进评论里
557	But my hope for this podcast is you not only build a better business, a better bank account,	但我对播客的希望是 你不仅能建立更好的企业 更好的银行账户
558	a better community, but a better brain and a better life because what's the point of	更好的社区,但更好的大脑和更好的生活 因为什么是重点
559	it all if we don't have that?	如果我们没有这些呢?
560	We are sitting on a generational wealth creation event.	我们正坐在一个世代创造财富的活动上。
561	If you're here, this means you're a builder going through these next three days.	如果你在这里,这意味着你是一个建筑师 经过接下来的三天。
562	I want you to know that the American dream starts with you guys by our little Main Street	我想让你们知道,美国梦是从你们开始 在我们的小主街
563	revolution.	革命。 革命。
564	And then I just want to give you guys permission to take a leap of faith.	然后,我只是想给你们一个许可 采取一个信仰的飞跃。
565	If I knew then what I know now, I would probably do bigger deals.	如果我知道现在我所知道的, 我可能会做更大的交易。
566	It's given us an extra layer of security that we never would have had.	它给了我们一层额外的安全 我们永远不会有。
567	I am so excited to introduce you to some ordinary people doing extraordinary things.	我很高兴能把你们介绍给一些普通人 做不同寻常的事
568	We have to really take the time to make a meaningful connection.	我们确实需要时间来建立有意义的联系。
569	It's the fact that there is a lack of connection and the person just wants to be seen, heard	事实就是 缺乏联系 人只是想被看到,听到
570	and understood.	并理解这一点。
571	Thanks for taking the question.	谢谢你接问
572	Are there extra things that need to be done when trying to pay off bad debt?	在试图偿还坏账时,是否还有其他事情需要做?
573	Great question.	问得好
574	I buy businesses so simple, even your grandmother understands them.	我买生意太简单了 连你奶奶也懂
575	That's the game.	这就是游戏。
576	It's you and me versus the problem.	这是你和我对问题。
577	We're going to try to solve this together.	共求解脱.
578	I know how to build trust in a very advanced way.	我知道如何以非常先进的方式建立信任。
579	How does buying a business fit into the vision for your life?	买家生意怎么适合你的生活?
580	Today my goal is to teach you some fundamental skills that you can use to accelerate your	今天我的目标是教你一些基本技能 用来加速你
581	business.	业务。
582	If you make a promise in the mirror, know that your word is freaking iron to you.	如果你在镜子里许下诺言, 知道你的话对你来说是铁的。
583	These people on Wall Street, they want to keep the normal people out of the game.	华尔街的这些人,想不让普通人参与游戏.
584	Main Street millionaires are all around this world and it starts with each and every one	主街的百万富翁 遍布全世界 从每个人开始
585	of you.	你们的
586	What are you waiting for?	你还在等什么?
587	Your path to ownership starts now.	你的拥有权之路现在开始
588	Get your ticket to join us on Main Street.	得到你的票 加入我们的主街。
589	Join us today.	今天加入我们

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