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他,剑桥本科,被牛津硕士拒了

他,剑桥本科,被牛津硕士拒了

他,剑桥本科,被牛津硕士拒了

发布于 2022-02-07 · 时长 10:42

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0:00It's that time of year, firstly where most people have already given up on their news resolutions今年的这个时候 大多数人已经放弃了新闻报道
0:04but it's also where students across the country find out whether they've gotten into Oxford or但也正是全国的学生们发现 他们是否进入了牛津大学
0:09Cambridge.剑桥.
0:10For a lot of us it's bad news that we've been rejected.对很多人来说,我们被拒绝是一个坏消息.
0:13Now if you've watched me现在如果你看着我
0:14{\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}在你开始思考之前 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}你对被牛津大学开除有什么了解?
0:18Your channel is您的频道是
0:18literally 90% about the fact that you went to Cambridge but I'm going to tell you a secret so百分之九十关于你去剑桥的事实 但我要告诉你一个秘密
0:24listening closely I got rejected from Oxford for a masters and it was a dark day.仔细听好,我被牛津大学拒绝当大师, 今天很黑暗。
0:29So let's talk所以,让我们谈谈
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1It's that time of year, firstly where most people have already given up on their news resolutions今年的这个时候 大多数人已经放弃了新闻报道
2but it's also where students across the country find out whether they've gotten into Oxford or但也正是全国的学生们发现 他们是否进入了牛津大学
3Cambridge.剑桥.
4For a lot of us it's bad news that we've been rejected.对很多人来说,我们被拒绝是一个坏消息.
5Now if you've watched me现在如果你看着我
6{\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}在你开始思考之前 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}你对被牛津大学开除有什么了解?
7Your channel is您的频道是
8literally 90% about the fact that you went to Cambridge but I'm going to tell you a secret so百分之九十关于你去剑桥的事实 但我要告诉你一个秘密
9listening closely I got rejected from Oxford for a masters and it was a dark day.仔细听好,我被牛津大学拒绝当大师, 今天很黑暗。
10So let's talk所以,让我们谈谈
11about getting rejected from Oxbridge.关于被奥克斯布里奇拒绝的事
12Firstly it's okay to be upset, people saying like stop crying首先,不高兴是好的, 人们说像停止哭泣
13get over it, you're going to go to a good uni, it's going to be fine.克服它, 你会去一个好的uni, 它会好起来的。
14On some level it feels从某种程度上来说,感觉
15invalidating to hear this because you've worked so hard to make this application.由于你为制作这个申请做了如此的辛勤工作,所以宣布不听.
16At undergrad在大学
17you've sent off your UCAS early, you've sat the special admissions test for your course你早点把UCAS送走, 参加特殊录取考试
18and if you got an interview you've prepared for the interview, you've put your studies on hold如果你接受采访,你准备接受采访, 你把你的学习被搁置
19just so you can prepare for this interview and if you're like me you'll have watched a bunch of这样你就可以为这次采访做准备 如果你像我一样 你会看到一堆
20videos on YouTube of people sharing their lives at Oxbridge, going to formal dinners, walking down在YouTube上的视频,人们分享他们在Oxbridge的生活, 去正式的晚餐,走下来
21the cobbled streets and having a grand old time and you just know if you were there life would be你只要知道 如果你在那里生活
22amazing.厉害
23So to find out all of that work didn't come to fruition sucks and it almost sucks more所以,找出所有的工作 没有取得结果的烂, 它几乎更烂
24if you had an interview because you felt like you were on the cusp.如果你接受采访是因为你觉得自己在胸罩上
25So being upset is entirely所以,不高兴是完全的
26valid.无效。
27At the same time be mindful of number two, what exactly are you thinking when you're upset?同时要注意二号,你难过的时候到底在想什么?
28One aspect of cognitive behavioral therapy or CBT is about identifying unhelpful thinking styles.认知行为疗法或CBT的一个方面是识别无益思维风格.
29You don't need to be someone who goes to therapy or someone who needs therapy to benefit from this.你不需要一个人去治疗 或者需要治疗的人从中获益。
30We all use these kinds of thinking styles to an extent, maybe we'll go into overgeneralizing,我们都在某种程度上使用这种思维方式 也许我们会过度概括
31everything's always rubbish, like nothing good ever happens to me, basically seeing a pattern总是一团糟,就像我从没有发生过什么好事一样 基本上看到一个模式
32based on this single event that you didn't get into Oxbridge.根据你没进过牛桥的单项事件
33Catastrophizing like I haven't像我没有一样的灾难
34gotten into Oxbridge therefore I won't be a success, I won't make money, I won't be happy.所以我不会成功,也不会赚钱,也不会高兴
35We might assign a label to ourselves like I'm stupid, I'm useless, I'm such an idiot.我们可能会给自己分配一个标签 就像我傻,我没用,我真是个白痴。
36We might我们可以
37use critical words like should, must or ought.使用诸如应该、必须或应该使用的关键词。
38I should have gotten into Oxbridge but I didn't.我本该去奥克斯布里奇 但我没有
39All this does is serve to make us feel guilty and basically that feeds into the other thought you所有这一切都是为了让我们感到内疚 并且基本上 滋养另一个想法你
40might have that you're a failure or you're useless.或许你是个失败者 或者你没用
41Mental filter, only paying attention to certain心理过滤器,只注意某些
42types of evidence, really noticing our failures but failing to see our successes and I'm sure if证据种类,真的注意到我们的失败,但未能看到我们的成功,我相信如果
43you've applied to Oxbridge that your life hasn't just been a string of failures, it's likely that你向Oxbridge申请过 你的生活不仅仅是一连串的失败
44you've had a lot of successes, now it's kind of culminated in this one application where it feels你取得了很多成功, 现在它有点达到高潮 在这个应用程序,它的感觉
45like all of that has been suddenly invalidated when it's not true.就像所有这一切 突然失效 当它不是真的。
46These are positive events from这些是来自
47your past that are still successes now even if Oxbridge didn't give you an offer.即使奥克斯布里奇没给你出价 你的过去现在还是成功的
48Emotional情感
49I feel ashamed, therefore I must be a failure.我感到羞愧,所以我一定是失败了。
50I might feel embarrassed that I've not gotten into我可能觉得尴尬 我没有进入
51Oxbridge so therefore I must be an idiot.所以,我一定是个白痴。
52And personalisation, I didn't get into Oxbridge和个性化,我没有进入奥克斯布里奇
53and it's all my fault.都是我的错
54It's not necessarily true.亦未必实.
55There's so many things in the Oxbridge牛桥有很多东西
56application process that are out of our control.无法控制的程序。
57You've had to trust that your teachers have written你必须相信你的老师写的
58you a good reference, you might have just had a bad day in the admissions test, your interviewer你是一个很好的参考, 你可能刚刚有一个糟糕的一天 在录取测试,你的采访者
59might not have asked the sort of questions to let you shine the most, so maybe it's not all your可能没有问什么问题让你闪耀最多, 所以也许不是所有的你
60haven't gotten into Oxbridge.还没进过牛桥
61Maybe you're not a giant failure, you're not stupid, you're not也许你不是个大失败者,你不是傻瓜,你不是
62embarrassing.难堪。
63There's no shame in having these unhelpful thinking styles sometimes.有时拥有这些无益的思维风格并不羞耻.
64I do all of我做这一切
65these to be honest.这些是诚实的。
66I do all of these at some point even now that I know about them but the fact you我做了所有这些 即使现在我知道 他们,但事实上你
67now know about them as well can hopefully allow you to catch them when you're doing them and the现在知道他们了,希望你可以 抓住他们 当你做他们和
68very act of catching them is the first step into reducing them.捕捉它们是减少它们的第一步
69Number three, it's important to第三,这很重要
70remember that you're not alone if you got rejected from Oxbridge.记住,如果你被Oxbridge拒绝,你并不孤单。
71You're very much in the majority.你非常在多数。
72Across the board, one in six people who apply to Oxbridge get in.在董事会中,六分之一的人申请进入奥克斯布里奇。
73So that is over 80% of people也就是说,超过80%的人
74you apply to Oxbridge don't get in and in certain courses it can be a much lower chance of getting你申请进入Oxbridge 在某些课程中, 获得的机会会少得多
75in.进去
76For example, the one I applied to Oxford, that's what I tell myself.比如说,我申请牛津大学的那份,这就是我对自己说的话。
77Even when it comes to即便说到
78interview, most people you interview don't get in.面试,你面试的大多数人 都无法进入。
79So if you're interviewed there, firstly that is所以,如果你在那里接受采访, 首先,这就是
80still a big achievement.仍然是一个巨大的成就。
81Secondly, the fact you have interviewed and not gotten in isn't a sign第二,你已经面试了,没有进去,这不是一个征兆
82that you're some kind of odd one out or embarrassment to Oxbridge.你是某种奇怪的人 出或尴尬的奥克斯布里奇。
83All these thoughts are really easy to所有这些想法都很容易
84have but they aren't true.有,但他们不是真的。
85Maybe you're in a friendship circle where friends have gotten into也许你是在一个友谊圈 朋友已经进入
86Oxbridge and you haven't and that hurts a lot if you've like built some kind of dream togetherOxbridge,你没有,如果你喜欢一起做梦 那会很痛
87with your friends about going to Oxbridge.和你的朋友去奥克斯布里奇
88Just remember regardless of the people in your immediate只要记住,无论你眼前的人
89circle you really aren't alone in getting rejected from Oxbridge.绕圈子,你真的不孤单 从奥克斯布里奇被拒绝。
90So many people get rejected.这么多人被拒
91и
92hope making this video is even if you've got rejected and everyone in your friendship circle希望这段视频是即使你被拒绝 和所有在你的友谊圈
93or everyone in your school has gotten in somehow, you will have a place here.或者你学校里的每个人都进来了 你会有地方待在这里的
94Hopefully with the way希望有办法
95the algorithm works we can have multiple of us here who have been rejected from Oxbridge show算法能奏效 我们这里有很多人 被Oxbridge节目拒绝
96some solidarity to one another but also that life is not simply over by the fact we haven't gotten互相声援 但生活不是因为我们还没结束
97into Oxbridge.进入奥克斯布里奇。
98Life finds a way of working itself out is what I believe.生活找到一种工作方式 我认为。
99I think rejection not just我认为拒绝不仅仅是
100Oxbridge but life generally is great.Oxbridge... ...但是生活总的来说是伟大的。
101I know from my experience that it can give you a fire in your我从我的经验中知道,它可以给你的火
102belly to prove people wrong.腹来证明人错.
103You'll get rejected for a lot of things in life whether that's in你会因为很多事情而被拒绝的
104sports, in jobs, in friendships, dating, housing, bank accounts, whatever it may be.体育、工作、友情、约会、住房、银行账户等等
105Basically it基本上是这样
106ties back to that pretty cheesy quote that's been rehashed a bunch of times because the internet连结到那个 漂亮的俗语引言 已经被重覆了很多次 因为互联网
107literally attributes the same quote to hundreds of different people.字面上把同样的引文 赋予了数百个不同的人
108I'd like to pick the philosopher我想选一个哲学家
109Batman.蝙蝠侠
110Specifically Alfred in Batman Begins who says why do we fall so we can learn to pick特别是蝙蝠侠的Alfred Begins 说我们为什么要摔倒 这样我们才能学会选择
111ourselves up.自己起来。
112Rejection is just part and parcel of life and it means that when successes do拒绝只是生命的一部分 意味着当成功时
113eventually come around they just feel that little bit sweeter.最终他们转过身来 只觉得有点甜
114Fifth Oxbridge is not what defines第五支牛桥不是定义
115being smart and successful.聪明又成功
116Take Oxbridge down from the pedestal.把奥克斯布里奇从踏板上拿下来.
117I met a lot of smart people我见过很多聪明人
118at Cambridge but people of my masters at UCL are probably some of the smartest people I've met在剑桥,但我的主人 在UCL的人 可能是我见过的最聪明的人
119and none of them went to Oxbridge.他们都没有去奥克斯布里奇
120In terms of career success at this age 22 people from my从这个年龄的事业成就来看 我22个人
121school who have been the most successful probably haven't gone to Oxbridge on the whole.最成功的学校 可能还没有去 奥克斯布里奇整体。
122I think我觉得
123the truth about being smart or successful is actually really boring.聪明或成功的真相其实很无聊
124There aren't just a不只是一个
125select few of us walking the earth who are the gifted ones and those are the ones who get into我们中,少数人行走于大地,他们是有才华的,那些是进取的。
126Oxbridge and are special.牛桥和特殊的。
127I think smartness and being a success is actually the product of hard我认为聪明和成功是硬的产物
128work in the long run.长期工作。
129The cringy quote that hard work beats talent when talent doesn't work hard令人信服的引言是,当人才不努力时 艰苦的工作胜过人才
130I think it's probably true.我认为这很可能是真的。
131Growing up you might have been labeled a gifted child and the thing is长大后 你可能会被贴上天赋孩子的标签 问题是
132Oxbridge would just fit this label perfectly.Oxbridge会完全符合这个标签
133Be the special kid who's been the top of every class成为每个班的顶尖人物
134in school and now has been selected from a huge pool to attend an institution with such beautiful在学校里,现在从一个巨大的游泳池里 被选入一个如此美丽的学校
135architecture and amazing history but now you haven't got in so are you special?建筑和惊人的历史,但现在你还没有进入 所以,你特别吗?
136Are you gifted你有天赋吗?
137anymore?现在?
138I think the sooner you let go of these labels the better.我想你越早放弃这些标签越好
139They obviously came from a他们显然来自
140loving place and were based on evidence of you being a huge achiever in school.以证明你在学校里是个伟大的成就者
141In the long run从长远来看
142I think it's probably made me complacent.我觉得这让我很自满
143I think it feeds into why I procrastinate so much because我觉得这能说明我为什么如此拖延是因为
144if I fail an assignment or do really badly and I procrastinated it means I can attribute the worst如果我失败了或者做了非常糟糕的事 我拖延了意味着我可以把最糟糕的事情归罪于我
145mark to the fact I procrastinated and that allows me to cling on to the label of being smart or我推后了,这让我可以 紧紧地贴在 聪明或
146gifted or whatever and the label gives you a pressure to appear like you aren't confused by天赋或什么的,标签 让你压力 出现像你没有混淆
147anything when so many topics you can ask me and I'll be like no idea mate.只要有这么多话题,你可以问我, 我就会像一个没有想法的伙伴。
148Getting rejected from被拒绝从
149Oxbridge you have a perfect chance to embrace letting go of these labels so basically you don'tOxbridge 你有一个绝佳的机会去拥抱这些标签 所以基本上你不会
150need to go to Oxbridge to be smart and successful and also consider do you need to label yourself需要去Oxbridge 聪明和成功, 也考虑你是否需要给自己贴标签
151smart or gifted?聪明还是有天赋?
152Could those labels be holding you back in some way?这些标签能用某种方式阻止你吗?
153Finally consider did you want to最后考虑你是否想
154apply to Oxbridge?申请奥克斯布里奇?
155You'll likely have achieved a lot of things already.你可能已经取得了很多成就
156You might be top of your你可能会成为你的顶级
157class in some subjects or really good at something extracurricular and these are big achievements but某些科目的课 或真正擅长一些课外活动 这些是巨大的成就,但
158parents can put a lot of pressure, continuous pressure on us to achieve high.父母可以给我们带来很多压力, 不断给我们带来压力 以达到高水平。
159What better thing还有什么更好的
160to brag about to the whatsapp mums than my child has gotten into Oxbridge?吹嘘什么 app mumes 比我的孩子得到的牛桥?
161It's an unbelievable难以置信
162{\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}但是如果你没进到Oxbridge {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}你不仅觉得自己很失望 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}但如果你没进到Oxbridge
163but your parents too and this can feel like such a heavy burden to carry.但你的父母也一样, 这会感觉像一个沉重的负担。
164I'm going to try and我会试着
165word this using my inner family therapist.用我的家庭治疗师来形容
166How conditional is your parents love on what you've你父母有多喜欢你拥有的东西
167achieved in life?在生活中实现?
168So when you think of why your parents love you or when you felt the most love当你想到你父母为什么爱你 或者当你感受到最爱的时候
169from them is that connected to when you've achieved the greatest things?和他们有什么关系 当你完成了最伟大的事情?
170Would you be worthy of love你会值得爱吗?
171if all your achievements in life got stripped away?如果你的人生成就都被夺走了?
172Do you feel like you have intrinsic value你觉得你有内在价值
173as a person independent of all these external achievements?作为一个独立于所有这些外部成就的人?
174Sometimes if our parents have treated有时候,如果我们的父母已经治疗
175us in this achievement orientated way we can internalize that and that becomes how we treat我们以这一成就为导向, 我们可以内化这一点, 并成为如何对待
176ourselves.我们自己
177I only have value if I am achieving big things.我只有成就大事才有价值
178Consider what going to Oxbridge meant to想想去奥克斯布里奇有什么意义
179you.你们
180Did it mean more than just I'm going to get into the best academic institutions in the country不只是说我要进入全国最好的学术机构
181or have the best education?还是有最好的教育?
182Did it mean something to do with wanting your parents' approval?这是否意味着需要你父母的批准?
183You can你当然可以
184not go to Oxbridge and still have intrinsic value as a person.而不是去Oxbridge 并且仍然有内在的价值作为一个人。
185Think about how you treat yourself想想你如何对待自己
186when you don't achieve exactly what you want to.当你没有完全实现你想要的。
187How can you be kind to yourself about not你怎能对自己好一点
188getting into Oxbridge?进入奥克斯布里奇?
189Does that make you less of a human?这让你更不像人类吗?
190No.没有
191Does that make you less worthy这让你更没有价值
192of love from people?爱的人?
193No.没有
194We won't achieve everything we set out to and that's okay.我们不会实现一切 我们出发,这没关系。
195And on that therapeutic note we're at the end of today's video.在治疗方面,今天的录像结束。
196If you disagreed with everything I如果你不同意我的一切的话
197{\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}今天得说 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}记住 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}你可以再申请大学学位
198or for postgrad after doing your undergrad somewhere else.或者在完成你的毕业后 在别的地方。
199The Oxbridge dreams don't牛桥的梦想不会
200have to die yet but what lessons can you take from this rejection today about how you think但今天的拒绝让你如何看待
201when you're upset, about your relationship to rejection and your idea of what smart and当你心烦意乱时 你和拒绝的关系 以及你对什么聪明的想法
202successful looks like as well as how kind are you to yourself, how much of your self-worth is tied成功看起来就像你对自己有多好 自我价值多少是绑定的
203up in what you achieve.在你的成就。
204Some more basic and more therapeutic lessons to be learned there.在那里可以吸取一些更基本和更具治疗性的教训。
205Finally,终于
206if you found this channel through my Cambridge content know that you can stick around even if如果你通过我的剑桥内容找到这个频道... ...你知道你可以留下来,即使
207interested in Cambridge or Oxford as I find my identity independent of the fact I went to对剑桥或牛津感兴趣 因为我发现我的身份 独立于我去过的事实
208Cambridge by making videos to do with psychology.剑桥通过制作与心理学相关的视频.
209I think there's some psychology to be seen in a我认为有些心理学在
210lot of areas of life including getting rejected from Oxbridge but also in, I don't know,很多生活领域,包括从Oxbridge 被拒绝,但也在,我不知道,
211literally the fact that I'm making this YouTube video at 3am procrastinating over it and why事实上,我正在制作这个YouTube视频 在凌晨3点 等待它,为什么
212am I doing this?我这样做吗?
213I need to go to bed.我要睡觉了
214Gonna leave it there.把它留在这。
215Thank you very much for watching非常感谢你的观看
216and I'll see you soon with another video.我很快会用另一段视频看到你
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